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What comes first big girl bed or potty training? New sibling on the way!

Anonymous

I’m pregnant with our second child who is due to be born in 12 weeks. Our first (girl) just turned 2 last month. She is not potty trained and still sleeps in a crib. My 2 year old will be moving to a new room with a new bed so the baby will be able to move into the “nursery” at a few months old. What should happen first? Move her into her new bed in her new room or try to tackle potty training? Should I try to do it all before the new sibling arrives on scene, or wait until after the newness of the baby wears off? She sleeps like a champ in her crib right now so I just hate to mess up a good thing. Or am I going to have a huge mess trying to care for an infant and make all these big changes with a toddler too? I’m not sure if she’s even ready to potty train. She shows an interest in sitting on the potty, but sits there for about 1 second and then stands up to check to see if there’s anything in there. Lol. Some people are talking about potty training at like 18 months, our pediatrician said it’s usually closer to 3 when kids are ready. I’d love to hear about how people navigated this with kids so close in age and the positives and negatives of your experiences. Sorry if this is a rambling mess. It’s 4:00am and I can’t sleep. Lol.

  • Brigitte
    Apr 23

    With a new baby on the way so soon I personally would wait to potty train. She would likely regress once the baby came anyway and that would be even more stressful. Switching to a big girl bed is already a pretty big change. With a new sibling coming you don’t want to change too much for her and honestly that’s a lot of changes for you to navigate as well. Personally I’d hold off on the bed too if you could help it; however, if you need the crib then I would make the transition now.

  • Anonymous
    Apr 23

    I potty trained my son at 26 months and my second was born just short of him turning 2.5. we used the "Oh Crap Potty Training" book and method. Because I was 7 months pregnant, and I wanted us to be on the same page, I made my husband be home to help for the first few days. It was by no means quick and easy, but I don't regret it. My Mom was convinced he was going to go back to diapers once his brother came, but I wasnt going back to diapers! The book also talks about how to deal with regression, but it's not like they forget what to do, they just rebel against what you want them to do. If they do just ignore the accidents and give them extra attention for the good things they do. I can't help you with the bed transition, but I had a friend who did both transitions after her baby came and didn't have any problems.

  • Liza M.
    Apr 23

    In the exact same boat over here-plus we are moving too! Wanting to potty train and switch to a toddler bed, and confident my LO can handle change and challenges but don't want to overload her....all this advice is much appreciated!!

  • Ivy
    Apr 23

    So I was in the same boat. My son potty trained a month after he turned 2 and then we switched his crib out of our room to the toddler bed option. He did well with both. 2 weeks after baby sis was born though, he started crying in the night or getting up and coming back into our room. He has also regressed at going to the toilet. It has become so much more work now, I just want to throw in the towel...! I couldn’t have known he would regress. My 1st didn’t have regression when his brother was born. And they’re much closer in age to one another. My advice is to start now, as soon as possible. I think we started too late. We did both just 4 weeks before baby was born. There was so much sickness during that season and family visits as well.

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Apr 23

    So when my second was coming, we didn’t either (my first was 17 months old when the baby was born). We then made the bold move of potty training him at 20 months, and the. Transitioned him to his own bed (we coslept) when he turned 2. We learned and potty trained my second before our third arrived (20 months apart), and moved him into his bed days after his sister was born (but he was getting a new car bed with his brother in the same room). Fast forward to expecting our 4th, and we have 4 months to go. My third is currently being transitioned to a floor bed in her brothers room and in two months will begin potty training. I say all this, to say there is no right way to do it. I personally wouldn’t do both at this point, that’s too much change. If I had to pick I’d prob pick potty training, because even if she regresses a little it’s a lot better then trying to train with a newborn, 3 month old, or a crawling baby who might discover an accident. Plus, if she sleeps good in her crib, I wouldn’t rock the boat because well...newborns don’t allow much sleep as it is. I hope this helps.

  • Anonymous
    Apr 25

    Thanks everyone for your input!! I really appreciate it!