Anonymous

What do you miss most about not have kids?

So if you could go back in time before you had kid(s) what would you tell yourself not to take for granted. My top 3 1. Enjoy going to sleep whenever you want to. Even if its 8pm. 2. Running in the store for one thing ( in less than 5min) 3. Going to my car, getting in and leaving. So what's yours?

  • CheerioMama
    Oct 08

    Being able to keep my little apartment clean for more than 5 minutes.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 08

    1. Sleeping (she will be two in a week and has never slept through the night, we just got past an 8 month bout of her not going to bed until after 11pm. She wakes up anywhere from 3-10+ times a night)

  • Y
    Oct 08

    So many things. Going to the movies. Reading a book quietly cuddled up on my sofa. Getting dressed up and going for a nice dinner without holding anyone. Sleeping and sleeping in.

  • Liza M.
    Oct 08

    I find it hard to be present in that I'm always thinking about what is next-like what time nap.or lunch or snack is and how to plan every day around that and what time everyone needs to do everything. And in between that doing all the laundry and whatever other chores...I miss having spare time to just be able to be able to step back and relax and not know that in 15 minutes someone will need to eat, sleep or have pooped. That being said...I wouldn't trade it and I wouldn't go back. ❤️

  • anonymous mom
    Oct 09

    Sleep. I would sleep. That’s all, besides that everything else is so amazing I miss none of it. Well okay maybe I miss pooping and changing my tampon alone. And I wouldn’t mind not taking 30 minutes just to leave the house (and that’s AFTER she’s dressed). And it would be so cool to just say to myself, “hmm, I think I’ll go get a Brazilian and a pedicure and let husband know I’ll pickup takeout for dinner on my way home after.” But I don’t really miss it too much. Except sleep. Oh, sleep. I miss you. ❤️

  • Cathy
    Oct 09

    Sleep. But also - The ease of just going or doing when I want.

  • Sara
    Oct 10

    For me it was the free time to be creative. There were some weekends before kids I just got excited about a project for work or for my personal life and I’d crank on it all weekend and not worry about anything else. Now my work time and creative time all has to be scheduled and usually completed during real work hours.

  • Nancy
    Oct 10

    Having space for myself. Time to do things I want to do, taking a vacation instead of a 'trip with the kids', being able to go out at night without the hefty babysitter fees. Having extra money in the bank lol

  • Dubs
    Oct 10

    1. Putting on my heels and going dancing! 2. Weeknight activities, even work events with coworkers I have to turn down simply because gotta pick up the kids! 3. Going away on weekends on a whim 4. Connecting with my girlfriends, I miss girl time! 5. Being able to paint my nails at home and get them to dry without smudging Lol I could go on, you guys know it!

  • Brian
    Oct 10

    Being able to unwind after work and on weekends. I’m always wound up and exhausted.

  • Audrey
    Oct 10

    I miss having extra money. I miss not having panic attacks. I miss my alone time. I miss having time with my fiance. I miss our impulsive dates where we would drive an hour away from home just to go have fun then go to a bar and get a meal and drinks. I miss a lot of stuff but I wouldn't trade my twins for anything else in the world. They are 19 months and running like wild but I always remember to enjoy the little moments.

  • Jennifer
    Oct 10

    1. Going to restroom alone or sometimes even showering alone. Seriously without my kids barging in our screaming "mommy" 2. Going in & out of store to get something quick that'll only take 10 mins. 3. Going clothes shopping alone. This is next to impossible, as my kids would be running around screaming. There is no way I can try on a clothes to see how it fits. Now I can only order online that has free return and shipping label. That way if they are not what they seem, just mail back. 4. Sleeping in. After kids there is none. Even when they get older, they still wake up at 7am in the morning on the weekends because they are use to school time. And my daughter usually will jump on me to wake me up. So it's like getting a punch in the stomach every weekend morning.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 10

    Mine is 2 and my bestie for sure but...Definitely, sleeping in! Travel, both international and domestic (just hopping on a plane). Having a clean house/floor/sofa. Random dates with my husband, no worries, no time restrictions. Having any alone time in my home...to name a few

  • Linda
    Oct 10

    I miss 1) the freedom of finishing work and making spontaneous plans, 2) being able to meet my partner for a date, during the week, by ourselves, without our toddler and mothers, and 3) not feeling guilty and anxious when I do something for myself instead of spending time with my baby. These are just the things that I miss sometimes, but when I get 1 & 2 I feel so grateful and appreciative, and make it count! #3 probably will never go away.

  • Masha
    Oct 10

    Peace and quiet!

  • Katrina
    Oct 10

    I miss the time I don’t have to think about this question

  • Vonda
    Oct 10

    Sleeping whenever I want when I’m sick. Being able to suddenly plan things. And ability to start a project immediately and continue to work on it all day instead of having to wait till my son is asleep. Lol. Oh. And being able to fly with just a carry-on. Lol.

  • Natalya
    Friday

    Everything!!! I think my freedom and ability to do things and going places on a wimp, being spontaneous, not being responsible for anyone else

  • A
    Sunday

    When a vacation was just a vacation. I miss it so much. My kid is an amazing traveler and I guess we are lucky to even be able to travel and enjoy places with him but MAN the planning and packing is stressful.