What will the name be...

I’m getting induced on Thursday and my husband and I have not yet agreed on a name. He said we do a coin toss but I honestly hate the name he has picked out. And he hates the name I have. Why would we flip a coin if one of us will be upset with the name..? Having a baby is a happy moment. I’ve given at least 4 other options he’s once considered, I’d even be okay with doing a coin toss but on a names we both like. What do I do? This is seriously making me angry, especially since he hasn’t looked up any other names besides the one he likes and I’ve spent a lot of time looking up names and coming up with more then one. I just feel like he’s being so close minded and I don’t want to name my son something I hate.

  • Anonymous
    May 01

    Boy names are so hard! We picked one 3 days before our first was born. The 2nd I wouldn't agree on until the birth cert. Had to be filled out. Honestly if he wasn't willing to compromise I probably would have pulled the "I did all the work, and he gets your last name so I'm choosing" card. But can you use one for first name and one for middle name? If none of these work I would make him go through names with you because this will be the first of MANY parenting decisions!

  • Ivy
    May 01

    We’ve always waited til the baby was born to see what fit better. By the next day, we always figured it out, but to be honest, there’s actually a longer time wait than the hospital. I know our culture pushes for a name right away, but I believe you actually have like 60 days after birth. To me, it’s best not to rush a name. For our last child (born in March) we had a few names to chose from and a family middle name (we chose family names for the first two). But my husband and I could not agree on a name. We also didn’t hate the other person’s choice, but just liked our name choice more. We ended up compromising and using both our choices, and threw out the family middle name. Anyway, going back to the time limit for a name, that may work for you guys. The bonding time with a newborn could really help with a name choice.

  • Julie
    May 01

    Nooo. Don’t do a coin toss, pick the name out of a hat. But distract him with holding the baby and remove all his names first 😃. Just joking but not really. You will definitely arrive at a name you both like....just try not to focus on this right now because it’ll make you crazy!!

  • K
    May 01

    We have 3, a son and twin girls. We ended up with all of my picks😁. My son was named the day after he was born and we did not officially name the girls until we left the hospital. ( On both occasions I had picked the names well in advance but my husband has to come around) Don’t stress it, wait until he sees what you are going to go through and he sees his son. No matter what you choose, you will love it because it belongs to him. My husband loves our babies names, Reese, Avery & Blake💜. It will all work out...congratulations!!

  • Lily
    May 01

    You could always wait until after you meet him .....my husband and I had names picked out as options...but waited to name her. My mom waited a couple weeks to name me. We are planning on doing the same thing with our second coming in a couple months. Good luck!

  • Anonymous
    May 01

    The names we both absolutely did not like we threw out and didn’t even consider. We didn’t even talk about them again after the other (genuinely) said no. I don’t think either of you should settle on your child’s name.

  • Rebecca
    May 01

    I hated the name we gave our daughter when we first picked it out but I knew the name meant a lot to him and he was so picky about the name he only liked one. Then when it came to the middle name he hated the name I picked out but we compromised he got the first name he wanted and I got the middle name.. I couldn’t imagine naming my daughter anything else.. I’d just let him know the names you absolutely hate. An pick the ones you can agree upon..

  • John
    May 01

    My wife is induced Thursday! We haven't decided a name. We are not stressing over this a name will come that fits perfectly. You have time to name your child.

  • AdamAnt
    May 02

    You could try taking turns on explaining why each other’s names are not the best for you. In this way, you’ll be understanding more about each other, and it might open up the dialogue to even just “possible” other names.

  • Amy
    May 02

    Going further into elaboration of the names may help resolve some issues. My husband did that when we were discussing names for our baby (didn't know gender at time). I tend to be more out there so I liked the name "Kirin" but it sounded too close to his cousins name who... isn't the greatest. I loved "Kiara" from Lion King 2 but he felt more inclined for that to be the name of a cat later. I simply wouldn't accept "I just hate it" as an answer because then it's just preference. Side note, my parents had no clue what to name me even after I was born. It was different family members looking at me at different times that literally suggested the same name that I got it. The one my mother was considering but felt like it wasn't quite right became my middle. Things have a funny way of working out.

  • Karla
    May 02

    My husband had horrible names picked out and he hated my list too. One day I heard the name Nolan and that was the day I chose that would be his name. When I told my husband he actually agreed on it. If he hadn't I would've still given my son that name because I did all the hard work here hahaha. It's just how I am

  • Diana
    May 02

    I hated the name my baby’s father wanted to name her.... I second the idea to ask him what he likes about it. Based off of his answers, we picked a name both phonetically similar and that had special family meaning.... but we cheated: we did it by picking a longer name that could be shortened to a long list of nicknames, so it’s next to impossible for someone not to find some variation of her name that they like (and gives her lots of opportunities to have a name that fits just right no matter what her personality is when she’s older!). Is there a longer name where whatever your name choices are could work as nicknames?

  • Amy
    May 03

    We did the same as mentioned already. If we hated a name it got thrown out and we found a name we both liked, maybe not as much, but it's all about compromise. And I love the name so much more knowing we both have no objections to it and neither had to settle or concede. And the names really do grow on you so you do love them

  • Wend
    May 08

    I got to pick the first name and he got to pick the middle name. We happened to agree on the first name but it was very carefully selected with his heritage and one of my interests in mind. I don’t like the middle name but it’s ok...when does one ever use it? His name is Leonidas (Greek and he’s a Leo Sun sign).

  • Stacey
    May 09

    Wait until you see the baby. Most times someone or both of you will change your mind.