What’s the best way to help prepare your toddler for the arrival of baby No. 2?

We have a 20 month old toddler and we are due with baby No. 2 in December. My toddler seems really interested in baby and will tell us she wants to go for walks with her, and asks to see my belly all the time to give it hugs and kisses. She even tries to share her food with my belly... 😂 I’m wondering if you can recommend any books or tips that helped prepare your toddlers for being an older sibling and having to share Mom and Dad’s attention with a new baby! Thanks so much!

  • Jenn
    Oct 02

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  • Liza M.
    Oct 02

    Just went through this in August (toddler was 21mos at the time). Not to sound redundant but Daniel Tiger has a few great episodes about a new sibling coming to the family and what feelings might go along with that. Other lovable characters also have books (like Franklin the Turtle, Arthur, Frances...) I found that referring to these stories over and over was really helpful in just giving the whole situation some context. I also found that, as maybe compared to an older child getting a.sibling, there wasn't a lot of jealousy or animosoty involved-more just impatience and increased whining because she was used to getting her needs met instantly (or close to it).

  • Jade
    Oct 02

    That’s helpful Liza, thank you! 🙂

  • Nicole
    Oct 03

    I checked out a bunch of books at the library. There was one that was a flap book that showed the growth of baby each month. Sorry I don't remember the name. I would suggest making a box or little bags of special treats, toys and activities for toddler to enjoy when you need a few minutes to get baby down for a nap, or such. Also, you can include them in picking out baby's outfit each day, or feeding (if you use bottles), singing to baby, bathtime help, ect. When my second was born, big sis was excited, but then started getting upset because she got less time with me, so some of this helped to smooth things out.

  • Shaina
    Oct 03

    We’re expecting our second in February and I got my almost 2yo a few big sister books on Amazon. She loves all of them, and it’s helped her understand about being a big sister! The New Baby (a Little Critter book) by Mercer Mayer, Baby is Coming! by Ann M. Pearson, I am a Big Sister by Caroline Jane Church, and Sisters are the Best by Fran Manushkin.

  • Yanis
    Oct 03

    Im due next month, I have talked to my daughter a billion times about baby, and checked out every kids book the arrival of a new baby. My daughter is 2.5 and sometimes she seems interested, but other times she doesn’t seem to care. At this point I think we just have to wait until baby comes, and make sure our oldest is included as much as possible.

  • Yanis
    Oct 03

    I’ve taken her to every ultrasound appointment, and when she sees the baby she gets excited and one time even started thanking me for the baby lol, but other times she doesn’t really care.

  • Johanna
    Oct 03

    I kind of rolled my eyes when a friend first showed me this, but my son loved it. His little sister just arrived—he’s 26 months. It is super cheesy, but I think it really helped. My son especially loved to see the baby at the end. https://youtu.be/6xxp5dQe5sU

  • Myrtle
    Oct 06

    We also brought our older one to doctors appointments and give her books about being a big sister. No matter how much you prepare her there will be a period of adjustment for everyone in the house. One thing I did not expect/prepare for was how much I missed Time with my older one once the second one came along. I was exclusively nursing so I had to spend more time with the baby feeding and we chose to cosleep so the baby was sleeping with me while my older one was in the other room. Enjoy your one on one time with her now and try to find little moments in the day when baby is napping to spend with your older one so she knows that you still love her and value time with her. It’s hard at the beginning but mine are two and four now and they play together and have a very sweet relationship so it does get easier!