Posted in Milestones & Development, Toddlers

When do toddler days end?

Anonymous

I have been struggling so much with the toddler years. My son originally had flat head syndrome so we were going every other week to the doctor. Now we have gotten past that but he has a speech delay so we are going three times a week to the speech therapist. So I am exhausted with all of it already. What age do you have a talking on his own, eating on his own, sleeping on his own child?

  • Vicki
    Apr 30

    It depends what you mean by “on his own”... My oldest is 5 and although she’s independent in a lot of ways, she doesn’t go to sleep on her own, we have to do a whole routine with her too. Kids are just exhausting, I figure it’ll always be something... and then we’ll miss it when they’re grown and gone.

  • Anonymous
    Apr 30

    Sleeping on his own may take awhile since I know a lot of kids develop the habit of coming into their parents room at night. So I will gladly accept just the other two he feeds himself without me intervening and he is able to talk complete sentences. That is the dream!

  • Anonymous
    Apr 30

    Talk to your insurance company. My friend has speech therapy that comes to their house/daycare

  • Anonymous
    Apr 30

    My insurance right now doesn’t cover that but I’m switching to a better insurance in January and then I can see if I can get something in his school.

  • Lauren
    Apr 30

    My 1 year old feeds himself, picks put his own snack (I just open the cabinet), snuggles to sleep (we curl up and watch TV under a blanket), and is starting to tell me if he needs a diaper (potty training on the way). He wakes up 0630 to 0800 and goes to bed 1900 to 2000. He takes one nap around 1300 which we snuggle to relax and then go to his toddler bed for. He also occupies himself in the morning for play after we do some learning, reading, and fine motor skills for the day. He doesn't talk much (just 10 word but not constant) but can communicate effectively in his own way.

  • Julie
    Apr 30

    You’re going to get so many answers on here about this because every child is so different. But one thing I wanted to ask is what age is he now?? One way that I really started noticing my daughter changing was when I started to employ her as my little helper. Simple tasks that your LO can help with can really make a big difference and help him start to want to do more things for himself and you. Things like helping you empty the dishwasher (maybe rearrange so there’s not as many breakables on the bottom rack), throwing his own diapers away, helping pick up toys...all at the same time praising him when he does it. Also with the feeding himself, do you just put the food in front of him and let him try?? It’s so messy but my daughter is doing this really well now and the messes are less and less. If he doesn’t want to feed you, help him practice by play feeding his dolls or stuffed animals. Or even have him try to feed you. Sometimes they just need the connection that they can do it, too. Also, even though these years are sooo hard, just remember that this is only going to be like this once. They will grow up and have a whole host of other achievements and “problems” to celebrate and struggle with. I have a cousin on my husbands side whose kids are in high school and JR high. Her youngest is struggling now with anxiety and depression. She was just crying to me last weekend and said she wanted so badly for the young years to end because she felt like she spent her days correcting pronunciations, picking up toys, and cleaning food off the floors. Now she said she longs for the simplicity of those issues. I realize that won’t be everyone’s truth but it definitely hit home for me and made me realize kids are always hard. Even when they’re easy, they’re really not. Good luck, mama!!!

  • Anonymous
    Apr 30

    He is 21 months now. He can eat by himself with his spoon most of the time. He still likes us to feed him sometimes though. He is a great sleeper. If we put him in his crib he will sleep through the night and he is able to sleep in his crib for nap time too. I was just thinking farther into the future. When we would be able to have conversations and I can just hand him his dinner and he would eat it without fussing. I think each season of life definitely has its challenges but this one has been especially difficult.

  • Lily
    Apr 30

    Same question as Julie, how old is he? They can be very capable if you give them jobs to do. My little girl has been feeding herself since 9 months, you just gotta deal with the mess. Start giving him things to do and have him help you with everything you do.

  • Anonymous
    Apr 30

    I think most state's early intervention programs offer speech therapy in home until 3.

  • Anonymous
    Apr 30

    Ours doesn’t. They said not enough people signed up to offer in home therapy so they only offer it in the clinic. They do have a developmental therapist go to his daycare and that has been extremely helpful so he is in therapy four times a week if you include the developmental therapy

  • K
    Apr 30

    Try to have him evaluated in your states Early Intervention program. That way there is no need for insurance and they will come to your home fir sessions until he us in a pre-K program and you could switch to in school sessions. As for “by himself”, you need to teach independence.

  • Anonymous
    Apr 30

    He is in early steps now but they were not able to provide him with in home therapy. I tried! It is free but we have to take him to the clinic

  • K
    Apr 30

    I’m sorry to hear that!

  • Anonymous
    Apr 30

    I think you are doing great getting your child all the help that he needs, this will make your lives easier when he is older. Every child is different though, so just because someone else is having it easy with their 1 year old doesn't mean they're kid is going to be just as easy at 3 . We have never talked baby talk with my 3 year old, I had normal conversations with him weather he could respond or not, and he can say all the words. (Careful what you wish for, they will use this against you!) But seriously I don't know when it stops, my 3 year old has great days where he does things for him self, and talks and eats and listens, then other days he's a wreck, won't eat, won't listen, won't even put his shoes on.