Why consistent discipline doesn't always matter

I found this thought-provoking and reassuring. I'm definitely the "soft" parent and I worry sometimes that I'm not "consistent" enough with rules, etc. But, as this points out, behavior issues aren't always straight-forward, and it's okay to take a gentle approach and address things on a situation-by-situation basis. "What if a child has good reason for breaking the rules? What if applying consequences doesn’t actually teach children to behave differently, but instead to not get caught next time? What if the consequence isn’t understood by the child? And, what if a child doesn’t accept the consequence? Children are smaller, younger, and less experienced than us, but they’re not stupid, and they have reasons for behaving in the ways they do — even if we don’t understand or agree with those reasons."