Posted in Sleep, Toddlers

Won’t sleep early!

My 21 month old toddler won’t sleep early, she goes to sleep around 2-3 am!! She wakes up around 12 pm. I’ve tried the whole waking her up early and keeping her up, and she will go to sleep around to 10 but still manages to wake up and go back to sleep around 3 am 😭 I try to get her really tired or give her bath at night but nothing works she has too much energy and I’m just so exhausted! Any tips?

  • Anonymous
    Aug 23

    Have you tried a gradual approach? It’s going to take a while but maybe do 15 min increments until she adjusts to each wake/sleep schedule then adjust again another 15 min. Or maybe even do 30 min increments. Also, when does she take her nap and when does she wake up from her nap? My son goes to bed around 8 pm. Some times when he’s really tired he will take a really long nap but I wake him up at 4 pm the absolute latest to ensure that he can still be asleep by 8.

  • K
    Aug 23

    10 is waaaaaayyyyy too late. What’s happening is the result of her being overtired. It’s a natural instinct. You should read “Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child”. You need to reset her inner clock. My girls are 21 mths, Their usually day is wake around 6:30-7, put down for nap by 12 or 12:30 for 2-2.5 hrs depending on wake time, and bed by 7. If they miss their day sleep for any reason I push bedtime up to 5:30. Sleep begets sleep. Sometimes fresh air before a nap or bed really helps. It’s going to be a drastic change for her, but you NEED time for yourself, push through it’s worth it! 😴 The Baby Sleep Site is also a great resource .

  • Anonymous
    Aug 24

    10 isn't necessarily too late. If your child has been going to bed at 2/3 routinely, you're going to have a hard time every getting them to an 8pm bed time and it likely wont last. My daughter has had sleep issues from day 1. I was lucky if we were to bed by 12am/1am. I followed aaaallll of the tips people gave. "Follow a strict routine, slowly move nap time and bed time earlier, wear her out more during the day etc" and nothing worked. I spent her first year trying to get a solid sleep schedule. I tried my best to make her an 8pm bed time child. Shes just not. Even when I could get her to bed by 8 she would wake up in the middle of the night, and more recently, every time she had gone to bed at 8, she would wake around 9:30 with a sleep terror. Typically she goes to bed at 10 PM, sleeps until 9am, and naps from 1-2:30.

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Aug 24

    I think a gradual adjustment works, but she’s also prob just a natural night owl. I was the same as a toddler and my mom tried everything but that was just not me. You’ll prob get her to bump to 10 or so over time and eventually not wake in that inbetween time, but that’s prob the best you’ll do. I found my oldest who fell asleep around 9-10 most nights didn’t start going to bed around 8 until he dropped his nap at age 3. Now he’s getting older and if he falls asleep at 8 he’s up too early (for the rest of the household) so we are readjusting his bed time slowly so he stays up a bit later.

  • Anonymous
    Aug 24

    Mine also goes to bed after 10, and when we put him to bed at 8, he would wake up at 2 am and that's all we got. I was the same way as a toddler and if I napped AT ALL I would be up all night. Hopefully you can gradually move it forward!