Work at Home Dad (to be)

I work at home (Data Analyst) which is great because I can easily drop the child off or pick up from daycare, doctor appointments, emergencies, etc. This is our first child (expecting mid/late June) and I know there’s a ton I don’t know. Working at home I’ve become accustomed to doing the laundry, cleaning, cooking, and errands during my workday. Just little things in between meetings and what not. I plan to make the babies food during the day and will totally be on laundry duty. I am just curious what other things I could/should be doing for the baby during the day to give us the most family time possible when my wife comes home from school (she’s a kindergarten teacher) and in the weekends?

  • Anonymous
    Apr 21

    Hey there! I’m a stay at home mom and I think it’s great that you’re putting in so much time and effort into keeping your home clean and whatnot. Some things that would definitely help you out would be to try and keep up on the housework when the baby is napping, even little things such as tossing a load of laundry into the washer or doing a load of dishes helps. Another thing would be to make sure you’re getting enough rest! Parenthood is definitely tiring in more ways than one. Try taking a nap when the baby naps in the morning or mid afternoon. Also, having premade bottles is always a plus. Whether it’s breast or bottle milk, if you know when your baby is going to wake up, having the bottles handy beforehand is always a life saver. You won’t have to scramble around trying to make a bottle while the baby’s crying. For us, our daughter is bottle fed so we always fill up the bottles in the morning with however many ounces of water and we have a small formula dispenser we always keep full. Saves more time than you realize. Also don’t be afraid to go out! Our baby was born in December so we didn’t have much of a choice as it was flu season. But even just going on a walk helps so much, gets you and baby out of the house. Hope this helps and congratulations!!

  • Tom
    Apr 21

    SAHD here. At the beginning it’s mainly going to be naps and bottle feeds. Also depending on if your wife is nursing at night or not. If not then I assume she would expect you to do the late night bottle feeds so I have to agree with the previous commenter about finding the time to nap. What may occupy your mind is if the baby’s sleep schedule seems erratic. It’s important to have some consistency and I’d highly recommend checking out Solve Your Child’s Sleep Problems by Ferber which has been very helpful for our kids when they were younger. You’re a Data Analyst so even having a weekly log to chart them was helpful for me. so You can look back and possibly find a pattern or correlation to why they may have slept longer or shorter and also knowing if they’re getting the total recommended daily sleep. You’ll need a good baby carrier to wear them. This will give you the best option for when the baby is fussy but you still need to get stuff done. Find a decent stroller for walks too. Try to enjoy the baby as much as you can. The days will seem long but the years fly by so quickly.

  • B
    Apr 21

    Sounds like baby will be at childcare and you’ll be working at home? That’s what I do. Couldn’t get anything done if I was also caring for baby. I do the following and it really increases family time: Laundry Grocery shopping Wash all bottles and pump parts Prep dinner (or cook it) Clean the house It means weekends and evenings are just family time which is awesome.

  • Andre
    Apr 22

    Thank you for all the replies. Super helpful!

  • antigrav_kids
    Apr 26

    I'd suggest finding a local drycleaner and ask about laundry by the pound. If you go with cloth diapers, it was so worth it to me back then just to pick up the laundry clean & folded. Sorry, I'm not sure if you're going to be hanging out with the kid during the day, but if so, I'd also suggest picking up a wrap rather than a stroller. Once you have the wrap take the kid with you everywhere. It's been a blast for me, and taking the kids half the time has made all the difference for my partner and I. It's not so much a chore you can do during the day, but take the time to talk to you're partner a lot about how you both see things going. We did. We still didn't touch on anything, but having all the practice on talking about parenting before the kids got here made it way easier afterwards, plus we both knew a lot about the others parenting opinions by then. Oh! (Sorry, the youngest kid here is four now, so this is coming back to me in fits and starts).) Self-Led-Weaning was a God-send for me. I didn't know that's what it was called, but the kids have always eaten our food. We've never made or purchased baby food. Go ahead and pickup a breast pump and nipple shields since now. Start looking at when you can fit catnaps into your work schedule so you can take over some of the nighttime sleepless shifts if it comes up. Make sure there's room in the freezer for frozen breast milk. Pick up twice as many bottles and nipples as you think you'll need. Buy 5 bottle brushes, it's a pain in the butt when they give out. Start practicing cooking easy meals. It's crazy what you can do quickly with a sweet potato. Also, none of it's as hard as anyone makes it sound, so have lots of fun!