Working part time while having a big family

My fiancé and I want 6 kids when we get married. Right now he works part time and I am currently looking for a part time job. I graduated from school over a year ago, but I’m having trouble finding work. I’m wondering if it’s even possible to be a working parent while having a big family?

  • Anonymous
    Sep 16

    Of course it’s possible, people do it everyday. I honestly wouldn’t worry about being able to make a family of eight work yet. Take it one kid at a time.

  • Katie
    Sep 18

    Definitely possible, and unless you are already wealthy or are willing to live on a very small budget, possibly neccessary to support a large family (especially if your spouse is also part time). As a parent, I've found myself making compromises based on what is right for my family at that time, and it changes - unfortunately it is very difficult to "have it all," all at the same time. I think the prior commenter's advice is really good - people do it every day, but you really are better off taking it one kid at a time and seeing how things play out. Just plan to be flexible.

  • Katie
    Sep 18

    Oh also, I highly recommend trying to hit financial goals while your family is less complicated - eliminating debt and saving as much as you can will help you no matter what happens in the future.

  • Morgan
    Sep 19

    Thanks everyone

  • Tiffany
    Sep 19

    Anything is possible! However would one of you be able to work an full time jobs unless both part time pay pretty well? Raising kids is expensive lol. Plus the raising cost of food, gas, housing costs, utility cost etc. Definitely like someone said before start saving now if not already doing so.

  • Caitlin
    Sep 19

    To be honest, I wanted three but will probably stop at 2. If you have then close together, you can pay so much in daycare costs that it doesn’t make sense to work. If you spaced them like five years apart it would help but that’s like 30 years of having kids lol. Just trying to be honest! You can expect anywhere from 250-400 a week per kid depending on age.

  • Sally
    Sep 19

    Most big families have one parent who is able to stay home and care for the children during the day. Daycare costs are absolutely crazy and when you have two or more in daycare, it usually ends up costing more money than just having one parent stay home. That being said, a lot of parents of big families do end up going back to work at least part-time when the children are all in school.

  • Cm
    Sep 19

    I think it would be reallly hard, personally. I have 2 and while we were both full time I was starting to feel overwhelmed with how much there is to do between shopping for groceries and clothes, dishes, laundry (which only gets to be more with each kid you add) and to have time to yourself. I felt like I was coming home, doing chores, cooking dinner and didn’t really get to spend any time with them. Then weekend are taken up by grocery shopping, maybe some more chores, visiting grandparents, etc. it’s just a lot. So I dropped to part time and it helps me feel like we have a little quality time most days. But there’s no way we could do it if my husband didn’t stay full time. And we are lucky enough to have my mom who watches them during the days we both work. I can’t imagine paying for daycare for 2 kids, let alone more.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 19

    We just had our 4th kid, and I’ve been at home since my second came along. I think it is possible but you either need reliable family care, or to make a ton of money for daycare (or have them far apart). The best things my husband and I did was pay off cars, pick a smaller house than we could afford, and knock out a ton of student loans before having kids. Even so, we found that even with 2 engineering full time salaries, it made financial sense for one of us to stay home.

  • Nirmal
    Sep 19

    Definitely possible... have them early while your are young and energetic ...pay off debt... reevaluate your situation after 2 kids...

  • Siobhan
    Sep 19

    Either one of you needs a high paying job or you’ll both need to work. Don’t underestimate how expensive children are. Unless you’re on government assistance, you’re already a few thousand out before you even leave the hospital lol. 6 kids sounds beautiful but also a huge undertaking and as parents you have a responsibility to give those kids a decent quality of life. Take it one at a time but also truly ask yourselves the purpose of that many children & if you can be there emotionally for that many little humans while also working.

  • Matan
    Sep 19

    If you’re in LA where rents are very high, especially for 3-4 bedroom units, you would need to consider low rent neighborhoods but the trade off would be low scoring schools. Some people move to the far suburbs for lower housing costs and decent schools. Question is who will work and where. Can you run a local business? Find a good paying local job? Or would one parent commute over two hours each day to go to the city? You could even put a down payment on a larger house now in a cheap neighborhood and wait for it to gentrify and improve until your kids come along. Play the long game with real estate as housing will be your biggest cost.

  • Donna
    Sep 19

    I’m a full time working mom of 3 under 6 and I’m making it work. But I’ll admit that oftentimes, it is hard to strike a balance. Either work or family or finances takes a backseat, and they take turns. It was also really tough financially having 3 in daycare at once. For that reason, I’d say to try to space them out to have no more than 2 in full time daycare at a time.