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would you be offended?

Maybe I’m being extra sensitive about this, but we just went to a wedding. My husband and the groom know each other through a mutual friend. And we all tend to get together every few months, 4 couples all together. My husband and the mutual friend are close friends/work together. And we kind of entered this “group of friends” within the last couple of years. Soooo what I’m saying is that we were likely invited out of niceties. We are very aware of this fact and did not expect to be invited, and would not care if werent. I promise you, this isn’t a “I feel left out” kind of drama 😂. We were invited. We went, it was fun.. my husband is a little tipsy and extra gregarious so as we leave, and out of respect for letting them share their special day with us, he gets the bride to come off the dance floor and says we would like to take a photo with them before we leave. We walk halfway to the outdoor area where the groom is, realize he’s taking other group photos, and it’s hectic, and the bride pretends to look for the groom and is telling her bridesmaid something and it’s obvious she’s talking about us. The bridesmaid whisks her away and even an elderly family member tries to deflect the situation and ask us “are you looking for someone?.... you guys are a handsome couple”. The latter part is to show you how she was trying hard to distract us from the fact that the bride literAlly left us hanging. I know my husband probably shouldn’t have asked for a photo at that time as the festivities were clearly getting fun (we had to get home before baby’s bedtime), and they have a huge family, but I’m thinking, not even 1 photo? Am I being extra sensitive? I’ve been in situations like this before, I think I’ve even on the receiving end of her actions but NEVER acted like that at my own wedding (or any social setting where I’m the focus lol)! Am I just but hurt from being on the receiving end or am I having legitimate feelings like “WTF”? Granted, this couple is a little weird about some things, as I’ve heard... the group went on a camping trip together one time (we were not present) and the couple slept in until 1pm (and did not tell anyone) and then was UPSET that the others went to the lake without them, as they had planned.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 01

    I think you’re being too sensitive. It’s her wedding she was having fun and didn’t want to come off the dance floor. Or had to pee. Or thought your husband was being rude.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 01

    Based on what you said... I wouldn’t be offended. If you’re not that close and the couple is weird.. then whatever. What they did was rude though, getting someone to distract you, to talk about you guys and be “whisked” away... but I would just take note of that for later occasions that they’re not the best of friends to you guys and to be wary. But again, it doesn’t sound like you’re close so don’t take it personally!!

  • Aye
    Sep 01

    Honestly it wouldn’t have hurt them to take a picture, but maybe since he husband was taking too long long with other group pictures and she didn’t wanna wait around especially if you guys aren’t close, she asked someone to distract you guys. Maybe she didn’t wanna offend you by saying it directly, some people can be like that if they don’t like to confront. Personally if someone made time to come to my wedding it’s the least I can do but maybe she felt awkward.

  • cocomac
    Sep 02

    Thanks all!!!

  • Anonymous
    Sep 04

    I wouldn't be offended. You were invited through the groom. Did she even know who you guys were? If she didnt recognize you it was probably more awkward for her being whisked away by people she didnt know