Self Care

Take care of your child by taking care of yourself. Every parent needs a reminder to put their own needs first sometimes.

Share tips and get advice on taking care of your physical, mental, and emotional health and looking and feeling your best as a parent.

Anonymous posted in Family Life Yesterday

Sudden sense of being overwhelmed ? Mood swings maybe just venting

I’m 6 weeks pregnant with our second baby, and over the last two days I’ve had MASSIVE mood swings. Like happy one second and snapping at my husband who did not do anything wrong the next. From laughing with my son, to being totally ticked off because he threw his crayon to the floor... I know they say each pregnancy is different, but I NEVER had this with my son when I was pregnant with him. I... More

  • Kieli
    Yesterday

    Hi, I have a 20 month old girl and currently 29 weeks pregnant with my second girl. I am a SAHM, and I worked retail my first pregnancy. I somehow was able to pull in carts (in the pouring rain), smell all kinds of weird foods, and stand on my feet all day during that pregnancy and this time around I would DIE even just having to get up everyday to go to work. I am super emotional too. I was no... More

Hair bows and clips

Hi everyone, just wanted some opinions on how I can keep hairbows and ponytails on my LO. She lets me put them on her but she’s always taking them off. Any suggestions?

  • Raji
    Today

    Hehehe I guess lots of kiddos don’t like em. My daughter wore a helmet for flat head for a while and now she won’t let me put on a bow or clip in her hair 😩 sometimes I put a hat on her and she forgets about the accessory. Otherwise, off it comes as soon as it’s on. Hopefully, I can hear some suggestions too

  • AdamAnt
    7h ago

    Our littles were more likely to keep in ponytails, pigtails, and hair clips when we made them part of the process. They picked out the clips, scrunches, ties, ribbons, etc. when it was time to style the hair (read as: tame), we had them use the very loose toothed comb first, then we would “adjust it” a little - at which time we would do their hair. It didn’t work all the time, but it helped.

Anonymous posted in Parent's Health Thursday

Multi-day headache postpartum?

I just had my LO three weeks ago, and for the last 3 days I’ve had some pain and sensitivity on my left ear and left side of the head. I read headaches are common postpartum, but I don’t know if this is normal. I’d hate to deal with arranging a doc appt and taking my baby to the doc where other people may be sick to only be told it’s just a common postpartum issue and to take Tylenol. Any one e... More

  • Sarah
    Thursday

    It might be due to the after effects of your epidural (if you had one). I’d call the nurse line and ask. You never know! I had shallow breathing right after and wasn’t sure if that was serious but called just in case and I ended up needing a blood transfusion that saved my life.

Dealing with PPD

Been having a tough time lately...my doctor keeps suggesting starting me on Zoloft but I’m hesitant to take it for numerous reasons. I am breastfeeding my son and even though the doctor says it’s okay for him I just don’t feel comfortable with it. I feel more anxious than depressed even but I do get frustrated to the point of crying a lot. Just feeling really overwhelmed with a toddler and a ba... More

  • Jenn
    Thursday

    I'm sorry you're feeling this way :(. I had the same recommendation from my doctor and chose not to take the prescription. My educational background is in the mental health field (have my MA, no license yet) so I was more keen on going to therapy. Turns out I didn't need much therapy, just a decent sleep schedule lol. Once I had the conversation with my husband about prioritizing my... More

  • Kellyn
    Thursday

    Carissa do you have any help with the kids? If not can you hire someone?! Or have a relative visit? A few days a week, even if you are also home. Having a toddler and a baby is overwhelming especially if you are doing it yourself. I know this doesn’t address your concern about ppd and the meds, its just an alternative that can offer a lot of relief. I’m sorry for your struggle.

Trevor posted in Behavior Monday

My 5 year old is angry...

My 5.5 year old boy is growing increasingly angry. There haven’t been any major life or environmental changes, my wife and Have a strong relationship, and we don’t see where it comes from. The anger shows up randomly and often without warning, and sometimes fades just as quickly, but at times not and it lingers. We’ve tried many things to calm him (calming methods, breathing, drawing, talking,... More

  • John
    Tuesday

    He may be losing interest in his normal routine. This leads to boredom as he cannot find something that satisfies his time. My boy has this sometimes. It's normal for kids to feel emotions and they come and go randomly and suddenly. New emotions can be hard to cope with. With my 4 year old we use distraction and praise methods. If he gets upset we have him talk it out and explain what he ca... More

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Monday

Caring for a newborn and toddler

Please shine some light for me. I seem to be losing it wondering how I’ll be able to take care of a toddler and a newborn. I’m exhausted. Does it get better, and when? I’ve seen other moms do this effortlessly. And I am amazed, and baffled. Tell me how to make this work.

  • antigrav_kids
    Thursday

    This isn't easy for anyone I know. I mean, yeah, sometimes the kids have spot on days and everything looks effortless, but I think having kids is lots of work 4 everybody. Things that help me are to level set my expectations, everything doesn't have to be perfect; and to have a partner that does half the work. We're both exhausted though 😊 Things get better, but it's a game of i... More

  • Lkffy
    Thursday

    It DOES get easier, and FAST! I struggled for the first year after #2 was born (Also had a 1.5 yr old). But then things got so much easier after the first birthday! Not only did the nighttime sleeping get a lot better around that time, but now they are old enough to play together, they can eat the same things, and generally are less demanding (currently 3 & almost 2). Hang in there. I start... More

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Sunday

Food poisoning

How long would you wait to nurse again if you’ve had food poisoning?

  • Sara
    Monday

    You can still nurse. Just make sure you stay hydrated!

  • Olimpia
    1h ago

    You can definitely still nurse. I would just keep watch on anything different in baby. I still nursed with food poisoning but from what I observed, my babe was definitely affected. Her poop turned green and she herself was more irritable. But it passed.

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Saturday

Am I the only one who doesn’t enjoy BF?

LO is 6 mo. I’ve been BF since birth, she ended up hating bottles after 3mo. Of course I love that my baby is getting the benefits of my milk and it’s free. Win. I have great supply. Double win. Buuuut I hate... well hate is a strong word but I just don’t like that I have someone at my boob everyday multiple times a day. We’ve introduced solids but she’s ehhh about it. I try but don’t force her... More

  • Kieli
    Monday

    I bf my daughter for 13 months and was so ready to have my body back when I was done. But the older she got, the more solids she ate, which at 6 months was not a lot at all, the less she needed/wanted the breast. When I was ending my bf journey I pumped once a day and only had her on me about 2 times a day. So I know it’s hard, and painful as they get teeth but if it’s a journey you want to fin... More

  • Olimpia
    1h ago

    I hate it too - except love the benefits like you mentioned. But hoping to do it for a year. Just gonna stick it out haha 🤷🏽‍♀️

Swimming

So my mom thinks it’s a good idea to take my son to a swimming class. But I have fear of drowning and I can’t handle it. Do I still take him so he can learn to swim,? Or do I hold him back because of my own fears.? I know this sounds stupid, but I’m just asking for advise.

  • Aida
    Tuesday

    If you can take him, please do so. I almost drowned as a child and will never forget that feeling. So I have been taking my son since he was 4 months old. The pool where they teach them is usually around 4 ft, so instructor can stand comfortably. If it’s too much for you, they usually have a waiting area for parents separate from the pool too.

  • Ashley
    Wednesday

    Thank you guys. I don’t have a problem swimming myself I love pools and water. But it scars me really badly when it aimed to my son. I don’t have it in me to let him in the water. It terrifies me. I think I’ll wait until summer when the pools do it. I can have my husband take him. It would be better hours for both of them and I wouldn’t be there to watch it.

Braiding hair.

Anybody know any good videos on how to braid hair. I have a 2 yr old girl. She has hair but not super long. But just enough to start. And I’ve looked but never nothing that works.

  • Kieli
    Monday

    I’ve found lots of cool videos from Pinterest

  • Alan
    Monday

    Never tried Pinterest but let me check that one out.

Anonymous posted in Fitness Feb 15

Walk through pain?

This might be a stupid question but my due date is tomorrow with my second child. I’ve been dealing with pelvic pain this entire pregnancy but it’s obvi gotten worse as I’ve gotten bigger. My question is, I’ve been trying to walk and after doing so I am in soo much pain. Dr told me to keep walking but I didn’t really explain the severity when I was there last. Opinions? Push through or cool it?... More

  • Kieli
    Monday

    I wouldn’t push myself if I were you. If you want some advice from the dr on how to push things along I would call the dr office and ask how else to do so

Just need a break....

It’s been a crazy few weeks....we’ve had an ear infection, air travel, sinus infections for the whole family, a death in the family, a leak in the kitchen, now our sitter is sick today and the backup care service hasn’t been able to find anyone to help so I had to stay home from work...again....and bonus, the water heater is broke. I love our baby boy more than anything....I just need a break.

  • Cathy
    Feb 16

    Katie - I am so sorry. Have you checked out a MOMS Club in your area? It’s a wonderful support system and I promise you that you will meet people. Our group even has a babysitting coop. Pour yourself a glass of wine and hang in there. It’s just a season not forever.

Quitting the boob

I apologize for the long and a bit personal text ahead but, Does anyone have any tips to help stop breastfeeding? I have a 16month old daughter who is attached to the boob and I need to quit breastfeeding altogether. Before I get any backlash for the age, I have to quit breastfeeding for my own health. I have a sickness(can’t be passed to baby by breastfeeding) and i need to cure the disease b... More

  • molly
    Feb 16

    That’s great Rileigh! Stay strong for u and her!

  • Copeley
    Sunday

    Go on a trip! You really only need to be gone 4 or 5 nights and she’ll forget she needs it! My first was 22 months and still nursing...I went on a trip for 5 days came home and she no longer wanted it. I just wish someone had told me months and months prior that all I needed to do was take a trip!

Anonymous posted in Behavior Feb 14

Anxious 3 Yr Old

My 3 yr old daughter is afraid of everything lately. She’s always been kind of clingy and scared of certain things -but lately it seems to have gotten worse. She has meltdowns if another kid even approaches her at the playground. A lot of the play areas we used to go to and she used to love she is now afraid of and just clings to me and asks to go home. She also bites her nails constantly - whi... More

  • Myrtle
    Feb 15

    I heard about this website on the podcast I listened to. Haven’t tried it out but sounds great! Specifically for kids with anxiety https://gozen.com/

  • Dad
    Sunday

    Try CBD..

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Feb 13

I've had enough

I've been waiting for my boyfriend to propose...he said when I lost weight when we move into a bigger home and when he gets a better job...each time we achieve he comes up with another excuse...I poured my heart out countless times and I put so much love and attention into my family. Today I really laid it all on the table. I'm disgusted with myself for giving my all before we were even... More

  • T
    Feb 14

    Weight should not of been a requirement. Men KNOW who they want to marry... know your worth & NEVER SETTLE. A few months of instability could bring a lifetime of happiness. You never know how strong you are until it’s your only option.

  • Karla
    Feb 14

    Those sound like excuses and it also sound like you know wha t to do next. Someone once said to me " fear of the unknown " and I keep that in mind every single time I'm feeling that certain way. Is there any family maybe that can help while you get back on your feet?

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Feb 12

SAHM of 3 under 3, introvert, needs a break

I’m a SAHM with 5 month old twins and an almost 3 year old. I’m an introvert and need time alone to rejuvenate. I haven’t had time alone for so long yet I feel so alone in life. I used to have a career I worked really hard for, including 2 graduate degrees, and had an office where I worked on paperwork alone much of the day. I remember I used to feel lonely but now I miss that so much. I don’t ... More

  • T
    Feb 12

    2 under 2. They are 4 and 2.3 years now and I’m also a SAHM. There’s a couple of things you can do that might help. Join a gym that has childcare, so you can workout, shower, sleep in your car. lol Indoor playspaces where the kid/s can play and you can have tons of coffee and something to eat. Kid oriented cafes that have play area with childcare. Hire someone to watch the kids while y... More

  • Anonymous
    Feb 12

    Could you hire a sitter to take the kids somewhere out of the house so you could just blah around the house alone? Or have the sitter stay home and you go to a movie? I used to check my toddler into church kids bible club just so I could sit in a pew and not even listen to the pastor! I just wanted to be alone and zone out lol I’m not even pious... Sending strength and support your way... this ... More

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Feb 11

Lonely SAHM 😢

So, I’ve been trying to connect with other moms in my area but it is harder than I thought 😥 normally I’m not one for a sappy day or tears but it’s been so hard having my husband states away and being home feeling like all I get to see are our kids and the walls of our home 😥. I am at a breaking point most of the time and I don’t think it’s fair to my babies that mommy wants to lay in bed most... More

  • Dana
    Today

    I'm sort of in the same situation, moved to Sarasota last July and I'm just not very good with that initial process of making connections. Try searching for MOMS club and see if they have a chapter in your area. I was a member before I moved so I joined down here, and they are very active, events scheduled most days and some evenings for family or Mom's night out get togethers.

  • Anonymous
    Today

    Thank you guys all sooo much for the support 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 it’s good to know that I’m not alone with how I feel..... I will look into alll suggestions and for all of you I share this PEANUT; a app that allows moms like us to connect with other moms in our area

Anonymous posted in Child's Health Feb 07

Constantly stressed about newborn catching something

A friend of mines newborn caught the RSV virus. And it has been awful for the little one. Now I have a newborn and I am constantly stressed of her catching it from visitors. First of all, I don’t allow visitors. But immediate family do insist. I make sure they wash there hands, sanitize, etc. Although, they get really offended about my approach. Also, with a toddler that attends daycare- I mak... More

  • Cris
    Feb 15

    Nope! It is pretty scary, while they are so little and fragile. But don’t worry you will all be fine!

  • Tiana
    Tuesday

    I was super stressed about this during pregnancy, but once baby came I needed to get out. I was vigilant about hand washing and others holding the baby, but I wore him which made it easier to fend off random fingers and touchy hands. I was unapologetic in my approach of, “nope, he’s ok here. No, you may not hold him”

How often do you have sex

Hi mommas, very personal question but how often do you all have sex? My husband has a high sex drive and wants it ALL the time. We have it at least 3-4 times a week and that’s not enough for him. I work full time nannying 3 kids( ages 3, 2 & 9 months) and I bring my own 2( ages 2 and 9 months) with me so total I have 5 kids under age 4 that I watch. I’m sooo tired during the week so it’s ha... More

  • Gina
    Feb 14

    Why are so many of you having sex even though you don't want to?!?!?!?! If you are being forced or pressured--directly or indirectly--to have sex out of fear of an unhappy partner, please know that this is not okay.

  • Caitlin
    Sunday

    It used to be like... once or twice a year? Which sucked on my end, but my spouse didn’t want to have sex, so we didn’t. No pressure. I have a very high sex drive, they have a very low one, but I’d never pressure them to have sex or make them feel like they have to. Lately we’ve been having sex 2-4 times a week, I think? Which has been great! But I make sure my partner knows they don’t have to,... More

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Feb 07

I hate breastfeeding

Planning baby number two and I can’t get over the pressure of breast feeding. My first didn’t have a problem with breast feeding but it just wasn’t for me honestly. The day I gave him formula my mood changed, his mood changed, it felt like such a huge relief. I feel so guilty for not wanting to with my second.... the first question people ask is “are you breastfeeding?” I’d feel like such a fai... More

  • Elle
    Feb 13

    Why would you feel guilty? If his disposition suddenly changed for the better once on formula, I'd say you did the very best for him by giving him formula, rather than let him go undernourished in some way. The faster you can let go of other people's opinions, the more you can focus purely on doing what's right for you and your family without distraction and without doubts.

  • Carissa
    Tuesday

    I completely understand how you feel...I didn’t enjoy breastfeeding my first and had that same feeling of relief when I was done...I’m currently breastfeeding my second and even though it’s going really well I still can’t wait to be done and think a lot of my frustrations are because of nursing...just having no real independence sucks. Even if I’m away from him I have to pump all the time to ke... More

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