Any step-moms/ soon to be step-moms that can share their story and how their relationship is with the kids and bio mom? Especially when you come into their life when they are under 2 years old? Also, any biological Moms that have a step-mom in their kids life and how they feel about it? Do they call you Mom?
My wife and I will be adopting from my cousin. Since we’ll see her fairly often, it will be an open adoption. We’re trying to figure out how to deal with introductions. For example, will my mother be our baby’s grandmother or aunt? Curious how others have handled this.
Parents who adopted or went through a surrogate: 1) What were the costs; 2) How did you save up (financially) ; 3) For how long did you save up? Anonymous posts welcome if the Q&A is a bit personal. Thank you!
So i am currently fostering my 4 year old neice (actually shes my boyfriends sisters little girl) i am having such a hard time with it. I love her so much but i also have a bio son and i feel how the connection is different. Her mom has severe paranoid schizophrenia and substance abuse problems cause her to loose this beautiful girl. She has been living with us for 8 months and with out her mom... More
Hello! I am new to Winnie, and it seems like a great place to create community and dialogue! Does anyone have any good literature/ information or personal experience about the intersections of adoption, race, diversity,and ethics ? Or just adoption in general? Adoption locally? Adoption from abroad? Adopting a baby, adopting an older child? My partner and I are considering adoption, very much... More
My husband and I have been married now for 5 years! I have a 6 year old son and together we have a 18mo old son. About a year ago I decided to terminate the parental rights with my 6 year old’s birth father. My husband is all my son knows and the only male figure in his life that he has addressed as dad. My husband and I have decided to go through the adoption process to make things official on... More
Anyone have ways to help a child dealing with anger? We adopted our three babies 1,2,3 yo they are all siblings. All of them had the same behaviors that were obviously learned from birth parents. My middle child now turning 6 is what I believe to be the brightest and yet he seems to remember more of his past and is still very angry! Response to everything is anger. The other two children have... More
I have a question about Children and Youth, as of last week I got a call from them saying that they needed me to be my 9 year old nephew's primary caregiver since my mother, who has guardianship of him, had a stroke. (mom's not in the picture that's not in the picture) So I said yes. Now they called me earlier this week saying that they wanted to come over for a home inspection. Now... More
Where are all the adoptive parents!? Would love to hear your adoption stories! My husband and I adopted our son when he was 7 months old and he just turned two this last December! We went thru an amazing local agency and that's how we discovered the beauty of open adoption! ♡
I recently took in my (almost) 3 year old nephew due to crappy family issues. For almost 3 years he has had almost no rules or boundaries. Now that he is at my house, when I say no he either just stares at me like he doesn’t understand what I am saying, or has a meltdown, or starts hitting and kicking other people. My kids have had rules from the beginning so I am at a loss over how to handle... More
So my husband and I have been lucky to conceive our daughter after three years of fertility treatments and a surgery. We can no longer have anymore because I need a hysterectomy. Am I selfish for wanting more children? My family tells me “but you have Lily, relax” but it still hurts. I know our daughter is a true blessing but would love to have another child but we cannot afford adoption. Anyo... More
“For the Holley-Miers family, the whole adoption process took months and cost about $3,500. A judge granted Meredith the adoption of her daughter Janey in July 2009.” I can’t imagine having to legally adopt my own child! I hope they can find a way to update the parental rights system to account for same-sex marriages. http://www.npr.org/2017/09/22/XXX-XXXX31/same-sex-spouses-turn-to-adoption-to... More