Child & Pregnancy Loss

Support for coping with child and pregnancy loss including miscarriage, stillbirth, infant loss, and the death of a child.

Has anyone experienced anything similar?

I thought I was about 9 weeks pregnant because I was counting from the first day of my last period. I went for my first ultrasound and was told I was measuring just under 6 weeks. The doctor told me the yolk sac is abnormally large and the heart rate is low. She thinks it’s possible this might not be a viable pregnancy. She said she wasn’t as concerned about the heart rate as the yolk sac becau... More

  • Ivy
    Sep 14

    I’m sorry to hear what you’re going through. All I can offer is understanding of what you’re experiencing to let you know you’re not alone. The emotions stay raw for a long time, as repeated miscarriages reopen scars that haven’t fully healed to begin with. Each pregnancy after multiple miscarriages, brought such a roller coaster of emotions and I didn’t want to hope that the baby would be via... More

  • Anonymous
    Sep 15

    I don’t remember my exact numbers but with my oldest son we had the same thing. I had a large yolk sack and baby was measuring small. Once the yolk sack went away and just had the placenta everything was normal. I now I have a healthy three and a half year old. Don’t stress yourself out too much just try to be positive. Good luck!

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Aug 06

No Period Following Early MC

I posted on here a little over a month ago that I had an early miscarriage at about 7-weeks. I miscarried naturally (didn't need to get a D&C) and my doctor confirmed my pregnancy test was negative 2-3 days after the miscarriage started. It's been almost 7-weeks since the miscarriage and I haven't had a period or any signs that it's on the way. I haven't taken a pregnanc... More

  • Katrina
    Sep 25

    I think it’s normal. I had a similar situation. Early MC. Natural miscarriage. Felt like forever till I got my period again. It’s common

  • Anonymous
    Sep 25

    Thanks for the comments, everyone. I know this post is a bit old... but, I ended up taking a test after I posted and am now 11 weeks pregnant. I wish everyone well.

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Jul 15

How much should someone wait before it starts bleeding after miscarriage?

Unfortunately, I felt really sad knowing that we had a miscarriage. The doctor confirmed it before 7 days. I feel tired and exhausted in the evening time. But there are no signs of bleeding. The question is how much time usually someone waits and expect bleeding to happen naturally? I am scared of D&C procedure and medical treatment.

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Jun 23

I just had an early miscarriage.

My husband and I recently found out we were pregnant with baby #2 via home pregnancy test. I told several friends and family. I was scheduled to have my confirmation appointment on Tuesday... but, I went to the ER last night for some spotting and was sent home with a diagnosis of a threatened miscarriage. According to my LMP, I would be 7 weeks tomorrow... but, my HCG levels were extremely low ... More

  • B
    Jun 24

    People never talk about this, but something like 50% of women have miscarriages that early. It’s super common and nothing you did.

  • Lily
    Jun 25

    I had a miscarriage with my second pregnancy. It was something I just didn't think would happen. But don't give up on having another baby. I just had my second and I am so glad I didn't give up.

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Jun 21

8 weeks but no baby growth after 6 and half week per doc

I am in my 8th weeks. When we showed to doc (informing there was one-time brown discharge not red, nausea but no vomiting), she said they can see the heartbeats on ultrasound but couldn't provide the heartbeat info. Per them, it seems like baby is not grown in the last one and a half week. I have been asked to come back after 2 more weeks and call immediately if I see red discharge. Should... More

  • Lily
    Jun 21

    What do you mean by can't provide the information? You could always go to another office and see what they say. Because two weeks is a long time to wait. I would say see someone else and see what they say

Possible blighted ovum

Today I went in for my first US at what I swear to be 7 weeks and 6 days. I was regular with my period, tracking my ovulation, and know the first day of my last period. I have a 5 year old and prior to pregnancy with him I had a blighted ovum and had to have a D & C. Today I was so anxious and sure enough they do the US and we see a gestational sac and yolk sac but no fetal pole. I was ... More

  • Michelle
    Jun 03

    Stay strong, according to my app I'm 7 wks and 6 days but yesterday in the Er they only saw the yolk sac and no fetus and my hcg level are low. They told me it could be I'm early. The waiting is hard, I go see the Dr. Wed. Stay positive, is all we can do at this point.

Miscarriage blues

I had a miscarriage of my 3rd baby a couple years ago. I felt like something was off because I had hyper emesis and couldn't even hold water down. I was in the hospital probably twice a week. In one of those visits we found that the baby died at 10 weeks. I had to carry it until 16 weeks to get a DnC. I was devistated but time heals all wounds, however lately ive been thinking of it a lo... More

  • Carrie
    Feb 27

    Time does help heal wounds, but does not erase them. I had 2 miscarriages before having my son and every so often I get sad thinking about those babies and who they'd be today. I even get really emotional with my son, especially cuddling before bed, and shed a couple tears for all that we went through to get him. I will forever remember the love I had for the babies I lost and refuse to le... More

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Jan 16

Pregnancy after miscarriage

I miscarried this week. I was 7 weeks pregnant. How soon after an early miscarriage did you conceive? My husband and I would like to try again ASAP.

  • Lily
    Jan 17

    Lost my last pregnancy at 10 weeks. We started trying again as soon as my period came back which was about a month. We got pregnant three months after that, and it is going well so far. Good luck

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Jan 16

Baby loss

Me & my fiancé accidentally ended up conceiving(I think). I never took a test I was going to wait until my period was late by a week that was going to be Sunday. I’ve been nauseous & have been having the same symptoms as my first son. However, I started bleeding this morning & while I was showering something fell out of me. I didn’t notice it until I was about to get out& when I... More

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Jan 12

Miscarriage

I had a miscarriage on New year's. My husband and I are distraught. The bleeding has stopped but I'm curious as to how long it will take to conceive. My doc didn't set any restrictions or time line so we are just curious how fast it could happen. Thanks all!

  • Jade
    Jan 14

    I’m so so sorry for your loss. I had a missed miscarriage 2 years ago and it was one of the most difficult experiences of my life! You’re not alone 💛 I had to have some medical assistance since my body was holding on to the pregnancy. So the whole process took longer than normal. But, once it was over, I think it took about 2-3 cycles before we conceived my daughter. Thinking of you and ho... More

  • Jade
    Jan 14

    Also- I found grief counseling incredibly helpful for my healing! It’s not always necessary, but for me personally it was needed. If you find you are feeling “stuck” in your pain, please reach out! All the best 💛

Can anyone help me with this?

My mom just lost her baby girl, 6 DAYS before she was going to give birth. My mom had a nuchal cord is when the umbilical cord becomes wrapped around the fetus's neck. Symptoms present in the baby shortly after birth from a prior nuchal cord may include duskiness of face, facial petechia, and bleeding in the whites of the eye. Complications can include meconium, respiratory distress, anemia... More

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Jan 04

    I have no advice but I want express my sincerest condolences for your loss. It is so thoughtful for you to be seeking advice from those who have similar experiences. Maybe you can help her find a group near you. I had a miscarriage early in pregnancy (definitely not trying to compare the experience) but it helped me a lot to speak with people who had similar experiences. Helping your mom find ... More

  • Eileen
    Jan 27

    I’m so sorry for what you and your family are going thru. My baby girl passed away on November she was 6 months. Losing someone that you were so eager to see grow and love is not easy. Be there for one another, never blame yourself. Know she will always be with you. Have a support system family, beliefs, therapy or hobbies.

Who has had several miscarriages?

I’ve had 3 miscarriages I have a daughter who will be 2 I’m trying to connect with women who have had pregnancy loss and I am now trying to cope with waiting to try again while I see everyone else have it so easy

  • Ally
    Dec 03, 2018

    I had a miscarriage January 2017 and did not quit trying, I chose to see what would happen and let things be. I ended up pregnant with my second son in May 2017 and immediately talked to my Dr about doing progesterone treatments weekly. My son was born strong and healthy December 22, 2017 exactly one week and 2 days after my last treatment, he was 3 weeks early.

  • Michelle
    Dec 05, 2018

    My first positive was on April 2015 and when I was about 6 weeks 4 days, I went to the hospital with horrible bleeding and they told me it was twins. I’m like 99% I lost baby B that day because of all the bleeding (I never heard her heartbeat - I’m convinced it was a girl lol idk why. Then I lost my second twin (Baby A) at 11 weeks (had miscarriage symptoms the night before and had a D&C th... More

Miscarriage pcos bleeding

I miscarried a few months back. I have pcos. I got my first period after last month it was pretty average. I was surprised to get one since I have pcos I had to take medicine to make me ovulate to get pregnant to begin with. I went a year without getting my period before I took the clomid. Well a month passed and now I got my period again. I ovulated and all. I was super excited but here I am n... More

  • Lulu
    Nov 17, 2018

    After my miscarriage I started bleeding during ovulating. Could this be what it is? I am so sorry for your loss. My heart is with you.

  • Lily
    Nov 24, 2018

    I am so sorry for your loss, I had a miscarriage earlier this year. My period was always the same even after I had my first kid. But after my miscarriage it has been very different. If you are worried, you can also go to your OBGYN. Just to make sure Everything is good:)

Infant loss

I lost my daughter while still pregnant. She was stillborn. How did you decide if you wanted another baby after a stillborn? How was your pregnancy and how did you get through it?

  • Jesse
    Oct 22, 2018

    I’m really sorry for your loss. I hope you have a supportive partner and family to help get you through this time in your life. I can’t speak to your specific experience, but regarding loss, I can tell you that time and supportive family are an important component of coping. There’s no timeline on the grieving process So don’t allow anyone to impose one on you. Everyone is different. I don’... More

Miscarriage support

One of my close friends just suffered a miscarriage that was very traumatic not only emotionally, but physically as well. I am currently 31 weeks pregnant, and am seeking advice on how to support her during this time without seeming like I'm flaunting my own pregnancy. For anyone who has had a miscarriage and is willing to share, what would have been helpful to you?

  • Audrey
    Oct 23, 2018

    http://shop.drjessicazucker.com I wish someone had sent me a ‘real’ card like this after I miscarried.

  • Tracy
    Oct 26, 2018

    I had a miscarriage and it took a toll on me. My sister was pregnant st the same time and our due days were literally days apart. I found it very hard to be around her while she was pregnant and when she had my nephew it was very emotional for me. I would suggest just calling her and see how she’s feeling or see if there is anything you can do for her. Everyone is different so maybe see if she ... More

Rainbow baby

Is a rainbow baby only after a stillborn or miscarriage?

  • Priscy
    Oct 03, 2018

    Nicole, rainbow baby is what we call the baby born after a miscarriage, stillbirth, or death. In your case your son is a rainbow baby since he was born after your miscarriage, kind of the rainbow at the end of the storm/grief 🙂

  • Nicole
    Oct 03, 2018

    Thank you Priscy

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Sep 26, 2018

Should I wait?

My best friend miscarried nine months ago and has not been able to get pregnant again. I am pregnant with my third baby and I don’t know how to tell her. I know she will be crushed.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 27, 2018

    Honestly from someone who’s been thru 5 miscarriages. At the time i think id had 2 or 3 and all i ever wanted was to be a mum, my brothers wife got pregnant i was upset to begin with as they didnt tell me my whole family knew! I was jealous but happy for them, each person grieves in their own way but if it was my best friend id want to know so i could be happy for her even though i was struggli... More

  • Anonymous
    Sep 27, 2018

    Id also make sure its just you two (maybe have her partner there) and know she will probably burst into tears but hopefully as your best friend will understand life doesn’t stop. It was hard to begin with for me but time heals and helps. Allow her to have her feelings even if you dont like some of what shes feeling or saying. Give her space if she needs it. Good luck

1st Pregnancy

I found out I was pregnant w/ Dial-Dial twins at 4 weeks and lost one at 5 weeks. They gave me a shot at about 6 or 7 weeks due to a negative blood type and said my cells may have fought off one of the babies. Has anyone experienced this? First pregnancy and rough. I've had ovary surgery during this pregnancy and I'm a year in today as a Bariatric patient. Any guidance on feeling bette... More

  • Wright
    Aug 21, 2018

    Thank you Cathy

  • Zaya
    Aug 25, 2018

    I would consult a naturopathic dr and accupuncturist as well. Search FB for pregnancy/twin/complications groups for support and reference

How do you cope with a loss of an infant or stillborn?

It’s been 4 months since my stillborn however the pain still feels as raw as ever.

  • Jennifer
    Aug 28, 2018

    First off, I’m so sorry. I lost my baby at almost 7 months pregnant over 4 years ago and there are still days that it feels as raw as ever. I have three kids, two born since loosing by daughter, and I feel like I have 4 children. I will probably always feel this way. Be kind to yourself. Take as long as you need and know that it will never go way fully but it will get easier. Talk about your ba... More

  • Angela
    Sep 17, 2018

    I'm so sorry for your loss. My sister-in-law lost her baby at 38 weeks 2.5 years ago and our entire family is still mourning. When I had my baby 5 months later and got taken in for an emergency C-section, my mother-in-law apparently cried out in anguish "not again!" My brother-in-law still has panic attacks due to the stress. My sister-in-law and her husband said that two books th... More

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Jun 23, 2018

I need perspective dealing with infertile friend.

*touchy subject* *edited to shorten* Advice needed. Biblical perspective would help the best, but I’m open to whatever you’ve got. :) I have a friend that I’ve been friends with for about 8 years. We were roommates and best friends when we we were both single, and both started dating around the same time, got engaged around the same time, and married around the same time. My husband and her’s ... More

  • Anonymous
    Jul 04, 2018

    Alexis, thank you. So far I’ve been allowing the distance because I thought it may be best, but she says she wants to still be close friends but her actions just don’t match up. Around the time we each got married, we became distant also, and I allowed it to happen thinking that time in our life was just over and she came to talk to me and told me she was upset that I allowed the distance and w... More

  • Karen
    Nov 06, 2018

    I can talk about it from your friend’s perspective since I was not able to have children of my own (I’m raising my 4 year old niece who we hope to adopt soon). When my friends started having babies I tried so hard to be happy for them and attend all baby related activities. But the pain just got worse and worse through every failed attempt. I was so, so jealous I just couldn’t stand it. I was c... More

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