Child & Pregnancy Loss

Support for coping with child and pregnancy loss including miscarriage, stillbirth, infant loss, and the death of a child.

Miscarriage blues

I had a miscarriage of my 3rd baby a couple years ago. I felt like something was off because I had hyper emesis and couldn't even hold water down. I was in the hospital probably twice a week. In one of those visits we found that the baby died at 10 weeks. I had to carry it until 16 weeks to get a DnC. I was devistated but time heals all wounds, however lately ive been thinking of it a lo... More

  • Carrie
    Feb 27

    Time does help heal wounds, but does not erase them. I had 2 miscarriages before having my son and every so often I get sad thinking about those babies and who they'd be today. I even get really emotional with my son, especially cuddling before bed, and shed a couple tears for all that we went through to get him. I will forever remember the love I had for the babies I lost and refuse to le... More

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Jan 16

Pregnancy after miscarriage

I miscarried this week. I was 7 weeks pregnant. How soon after an early miscarriage did you conceive? My husband and I would like to try again ASAP.

  • Lily
    Jan 17

    Lost my last pregnancy at 10 weeks. We started trying again as soon as my period came back which was about a month. We got pregnant three months after that, and it is going well so far. Good luck

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Jan 16

Baby loss

Me & my fiancé accidentally ended up conceiving(I think). I never took a test I was going to wait until my period was late by a week that was going to be Sunday. I’ve been nauseous & have been having the same symptoms as my first son. However, I started bleeding this morning & while I was showering something fell out of me. I didn’t notice it until I was about to get out& when I... More

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Jan 12

Miscarriage

I had a miscarriage on New year's. My husband and I are distraught. The bleeding has stopped but I'm curious as to how long it will take to conceive. My doc didn't set any restrictions or time line so we are just curious how fast it could happen. Thanks all!

  • Jade
    Jan 14

    I’m so so sorry for your loss. I had a missed miscarriage 2 years ago and it was one of the most difficult experiences of my life! You’re not alone 💛 I had to have some medical assistance since my body was holding on to the pregnancy. So the whole process took longer than normal. But, once it was over, I think it took about 2-3 cycles before we conceived my daughter. Thinking of you and ho... More

  • Jade
    Jan 14

    Also- I found grief counseling incredibly helpful for my healing! It’s not always necessary, but for me personally it was needed. If you find you are feeling “stuck” in your pain, please reach out! All the best 💛

Can anyone help me with this?

My mom just lost her baby girl, 6 DAYS before she was going to give birth. My mom had a nuchal cord is when the umbilical cord becomes wrapped around the fetus's neck. Symptoms present in the baby shortly after birth from a prior nuchal cord may include duskiness of face, facial petechia, and bleeding in the whites of the eye. Complications can include meconium, respiratory distress, anemia... More

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Jan 04

    I have no advice but I want express my sincerest condolences for your loss. It is so thoughtful for you to be seeking advice from those who have similar experiences. Maybe you can help her find a group near you. I had a miscarriage early in pregnancy (definitely not trying to compare the experience) but it helped me a lot to speak with people who had similar experiences. Helping your mom find ... More

  • Eileen
    Jan 27

    I’m so sorry for what you and your family are going thru. My baby girl passed away on November she was 6 months. Losing someone that you were so eager to see grow and love is not easy. Be there for one another, never blame yourself. Know she will always be with you. Have a support system family, beliefs, therapy or hobbies.

Who has had several miscarriages?

I’ve had 3 miscarriages I have a daughter who will be 2 I’m trying to connect with women who have had pregnancy loss and I am now trying to cope with waiting to try again while I see everyone else have it so easy

  • Ally
    Dec 03, 2018

    I had a miscarriage January 2017 and did not quit trying, I chose to see what would happen and let things be. I ended up pregnant with my second son in May 2017 and immediately talked to my Dr about doing progesterone treatments weekly. My son was born strong and healthy December 22, 2017 exactly one week and 2 days after my last treatment, he was 3 weeks early.

  • Michelle
    Dec 05, 2018

    My first positive was on April 2015 and when I was about 6 weeks 4 days, I went to the hospital with horrible bleeding and they told me it was twins. I’m like 99% I lost baby B that day because of all the bleeding (I never heard her heartbeat - I’m convinced it was a girl lol idk why. Then I lost my second twin (Baby A) at 11 weeks (had miscarriage symptoms the night before and had a D&C th... More

Miscarriage pcos bleeding

I miscarried a few months back. I have pcos. I got my first period after last month it was pretty average. I was surprised to get one since I have pcos I had to take medicine to make me ovulate to get pregnant to begin with. I went a year without getting my period before I took the clomid. Well a month passed and now I got my period again. I ovulated and all. I was super excited but here I am n... More

  • Lulu
    Nov 17, 2018

    After my miscarriage I started bleeding during ovulating. Could this be what it is? I am so sorry for your loss. My heart is with you.

  • Lily
    Nov 24, 2018

    I am so sorry for your loss, I had a miscarriage earlier this year. My period was always the same even after I had my first kid. But after my miscarriage it has been very different. If you are worried, you can also go to your OBGYN. Just to make sure Everything is good:)

Infant loss

I lost my daughter while still pregnant. She was stillborn. How did you decide if you wanted another baby after a stillborn? How was your pregnancy and how did you get through it?

  • Jesse
    Oct 22, 2018

    I’m really sorry for your loss. I hope you have a supportive partner and family to help get you through this time in your life. I can’t speak to your specific experience, but regarding loss, I can tell you that time and supportive family are an important component of coping. There’s no timeline on the grieving process So don’t allow anyone to impose one on you. Everyone is different. I don’... More

Miscarriage support

One of my close friends just suffered a miscarriage that was very traumatic not only emotionally, but physically as well. I am currently 31 weeks pregnant, and am seeking advice on how to support her during this time without seeming like I'm flaunting my own pregnancy. For anyone who has had a miscarriage and is willing to share, what would have been helpful to you?

  • Audrey
    Oct 23, 2018

    http://shop.drjessicazucker.com I wish someone had sent me a ‘real’ card like this after I miscarried.

  • Tracy
    Oct 26, 2018

    I had a miscarriage and it took a toll on me. My sister was pregnant st the same time and our due days were literally days apart. I found it very hard to be around her while she was pregnant and when she had my nephew it was very emotional for me. I would suggest just calling her and see how she’s feeling or see if there is anything you can do for her. Everyone is different so maybe see if she ... More

Rainbow baby

Is a rainbow baby only after a stillborn or miscarriage?

  • Priscy
    Oct 03, 2018

    Nicole, rainbow baby is what we call the baby born after a miscarriage, stillbirth, or death. In your case your son is a rainbow baby since he was born after your miscarriage, kind of the rainbow at the end of the storm/grief 🙂

  • Nicole
    Oct 03, 2018

    Thank you Priscy

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Sep 26, 2018

Should I wait?

My best friend miscarried nine months ago and has not been able to get pregnant again. I am pregnant with my third baby and I don’t know how to tell her. I know she will be crushed.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 27, 2018

    Honestly from someone who’s been thru 5 miscarriages. At the time i think id had 2 or 3 and all i ever wanted was to be a mum, my brothers wife got pregnant i was upset to begin with as they didnt tell me my whole family knew! I was jealous but happy for them, each person grieves in their own way but if it was my best friend id want to know so i could be happy for her even though i was struggli... More

  • Anonymous
    Sep 27, 2018

    Id also make sure its just you two (maybe have her partner there) and know she will probably burst into tears but hopefully as your best friend will understand life doesn’t stop. It was hard to begin with for me but time heals and helps. Allow her to have her feelings even if you dont like some of what shes feeling or saying. Give her space if she needs it. Good luck

1st Pregnancy

I found out I was pregnant w/ Dial-Dial twins at 4 weeks and lost one at 5 weeks. They gave me a shot at about 6 or 7 weeks due to a negative blood type and said my cells may have fought off one of the babies. Has anyone experienced this? First pregnancy and rough. I've had ovary surgery during this pregnancy and I'm a year in today as a Bariatric patient. Any guidance on feeling bette... More

  • Wright
    Aug 21, 2018

    Thank you Cathy

  • Zaya
    Aug 25, 2018

    I would consult a naturopathic dr and accupuncturist as well. Search FB for pregnancy/twin/complications groups for support and reference

How do you cope with a loss of an infant or stillborn?

It’s been 4 months since my stillborn however the pain still feels as raw as ever.

  • Jennifer
    Aug 28, 2018

    First off, I’m so sorry. I lost my baby at almost 7 months pregnant over 4 years ago and there are still days that it feels as raw as ever. I have three kids, two born since loosing by daughter, and I feel like I have 4 children. I will probably always feel this way. Be kind to yourself. Take as long as you need and know that it will never go way fully but it will get easier. Talk about your ba... More

  • Angela
    Sep 17, 2018

    I'm so sorry for your loss. My sister-in-law lost her baby at 38 weeks 2.5 years ago and our entire family is still mourning. When I had my baby 5 months later and got taken in for an emergency C-section, my mother-in-law apparently cried out in anguish "not again!" My brother-in-law still has panic attacks due to the stress. My sister-in-law and her husband said that two books th... More

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Jun 23, 2018

I need perspective dealing with infertile friend.

*touchy subject* *edited to shorten* Advice needed. Biblical perspective would help the best, but I’m open to whatever you’ve got. :) I have a friend that I’ve been friends with for about 8 years. We were roommates and best friends when we we were both single, and both started dating around the same time, got engaged around the same time, and married around the same time. My husband and her’s ... More

  • Anonymous
    Jul 04, 2018

    Alexis, thank you. So far I’ve been allowing the distance because I thought it may be best, but she says she wants to still be close friends but her actions just don’t match up. Around the time we each got married, we became distant also, and I allowed it to happen thinking that time in our life was just over and she came to talk to me and told me she was upset that I allowed the distance and w... More

  • Karen
    Nov 06, 2018

    I can talk about it from your friend’s perspective since I was not able to have children of my own (I’m raising my 4 year old niece who we hope to adopt soon). When my friends started having babies I tried so hard to be happy for them and attend all baby related activities. But the pain just got worse and worse through every failed attempt. I was so, so jealous I just couldn’t stand it. I was c... More

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Jun 03, 2018

Miscarriage Blues

I miscarried our surprise baby last Friday and I feel like I’m mourning in waves. I am afraid I’m headed down the path of depression. Anyone with a similar experience? What helped you?

  • Anonymous
    Jun 04, 2018

    Thanks Lauren. And hugs to you 💛

  • Kerry
    Aug 08, 2018

    Im sorry you are going through this, Its one of the toughest things about pregnancy that isnt talked about enough. I agree with Lauren talking helps. I have had 5 miscarriages, I used to talk alot about them when I was going thru it. I also ended up on antidepressants (I had SAD so wasnt new to depression) after the 4th i got a gorgeous tattoo to remember them, I will always have them with me. ... More

Need some advice....

My friend went full term, but her baby boy was born still born a couple days ago. What are some things that she may need or that may help her through this incrediblely painful time? Both of their families live here so I know a lot of the normal stuff like meals and help around the house and whatnot will be taken care of.

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Apr 18, 2018

HELP PLEASE! For the past month and two weeks I've had suspicion that I was pregnant with my second. I was having the same pregnant systoms I did with my first so I didn't take a pregnancy test. Instead i made an appointment and it's this Friday, April 20th. But just three days ago today, every morning my panties are wet like I peed or something. My mood swings are going crazy, and ... More

  • Katrina
    Apr 18, 2018

    I'm sorry this is happening to you. You need to call your care provider. You may be miscarrying or something else may be going on, but your care provider can help you figure out what's happening, what's normal and not, and how to take care of yourself as this pregnancy progresses or ends. Hugs, other mama - you're going through something hard, and while I don't have answers ... More

  • Ina Curtis
    May 10, 2018

    First thing you need to do is get an appointment with your dr asap cuz to me it sounds just like a miscarriage. Ive been threw it before. Always get in with your dr asap if you dont know whats going on with your body... I hope its not... Hugs for you!!! Please update asap... 💝

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Feb 06, 2018

Anyone experience multiple miscarriages after one child? I hear it happens before then finally one sticks. But I already have one and now we can't seem to have another.. I have miscarried twice and the ob says they won't look into it until I have a third but I just don't understand how they could be okay with making me go through that heartache another time before trying to help me?

  • Teddy
    Feb 07, 2018

    Unfortunately it was the same with our OBGYN too; they don't do testing or intervene until after the 3rd miscarriage. I did heart-breakingly have 3 miscarriages before we finally had one "that stuck". Then they considered the pregnancy high risk because of my history. It was a horrifying 9-months of holding our breaths before we finally met our perfectly healthy rainbow baby. We h... More

  • Kelly
    Dec 03, 2018

    Seek a reproductive endocrinologist don’t wait till 3 I was told same it’s horrible seek help be your own advocate

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Nov 21, 2017

Deciding to have a baby after 2nd trimester loss? It’s been a year and a half since we lost our second son. We want to try again but I’m just so scared. My partner said he’s fine with just our firstborn but I’m really apprehensive and I don’t think I can emotionally handle another loss. However, our son is getting older and I really want him to experience growing up with a sibling - does anyon... More

  • Melanie
    Nov 22, 2017

    First, love to you because this is SO hard! I lost my first son at 20 weeks and it changes everything. My husband was ready immediately. I waited until after my son's due date to start trying again. It took a few months but happened readily. The entire pregnancy, although filled with joy and hope, was also filled with huge anxiety and fear and a disbelief that a baby would really be the re... More

  • Caitlin
    Nov 27, 2017

    I lost my first daughter at 20 weeks (after 8 years of infertility), and couldn’t face anything until after her due date. We started IVF shortly after, and I didn’t really tell anyone or feel comfortable until I passed that 20 week mark. And then I got pregnant, unexpectedly and completely naturally on her first birthday. I highly recommend doing Maya abdominal therapy if you can find someo... More

Has anyone lost a child to sids? I lost my baby at four months old.

  • Rubee
    Nov 15, 2017

    My daughter was 7 1/2 months old... obviously unexpected, even after the 6mo check up and I was reassured that sids wasn’t something to worry about as much... Anyway, after grieving relentlessly for a time I soon found comfort (unfortunately) in finding so many strangers- the lady taking my cell phone payment- the nurse at the dr office- so many more! I was not alone.... And you are not alo... More

  • C.&.Y.
    Nov 18, 2017

    I’m so so sorry for your loss. I will be praying for you Karla.

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