Faith & Religion

A place for moms and dads of all creeds to discuss matters of faith and religious education in the family setting.

Anonymous posted in Faith & Religion Aug 10, 2019

Baptizing baby dilemma

I was raised Catholic. My husband Methodist. We don’t go to church often except for holidays, events etc and when we do it’s generally Methodist but only because my mil has coerced us into going. My husband wants to baptize her in a Methodist church and I the Catholic Church. Here’s the thing even though neither of us is super religious there are certain things that I grew up with that I lear... More

  • Cindy
    Aug 27, 2019

    Why not wait until she is old enough to decide which religion she wants to be?

  • Michelle
    Sep 09, 2019

    I’m not honestly sure of the answer but you could probably get guidance from a catholic priest on your end for clarification. My MIL is a heavy catholic as well and my husband and I actually both work sundays so we only go to church on holidays, we made a deal with her to baptize our daughter as well. Otherwise in my non religious opinion, it’s not that big of a deal.

Anonymous posted in Child Care Mar 18, 2019

Faith-based preschool question

Has anyone sent their children to a christian faith-based preschool but was agnostic, atheist, or simply of a non-christian denomination/religion? What was your experience?

  • Tiana
    Mar 18, 2019

    My brothers went to a Lutheran preschool school and as they got older, began to verbalize the way they’d felt pressured to bring the rest of the family to church. They couldn’t verbalize their discomfort at the time they were 3-5 but felt awkward. Nothing serious, just a very discernible difference in values at home and school.

  • Joanna
    Mar 18, 2019

    I took my sons to a Catholic, a Methodist and a Presbyterian preschool. None were overly religious. All had some themed toys like a Noah's Ark and manger scene. There's Grace before snack but it was a thankful phrase, not to Jesus or the Lord. They discuss holidays in an age appropriate way. We are mixed faith and found that very few of the parents actually are members of the church. Th... More

Anonymous posted in Faith & Religion Feb 20, 2019

My son's grandmother imposing her religion on him

How the hell do you deal with religious fanatics in the family who force and coerce your child to become a member of their religion? My mother has found her dedication to the Christian faith in her later years. "You do you" is my stance, so hooray for her, but for my baby I'm letting him choose what religion, if any, he'll follow. That means I am not having him baptized in an... More

  • A
    Feb 22, 2019

    Just my two cents and hopefully it will give you the child's perspective. I grew up in a culture where being religious is not even questioned (I didn't even know the word atheist till I went to high school or college, don't remember). We did all things religious in our family and all the families I knew were like that. However, I did start questioning the beliefs and superstitions a... More

  • Shannyn
    Feb 03

    YES!!! There IS a solution to your problem. My grandmother did the same thing to me. From birth!! My sweet, darling grandmother pushed her christian views on me my whole life, despite my many pleas with her to stop. But it's just like u said: when confronted, she seemed understanding & agreed to respect my choice. The problem appeared to be solved But soon after she'd always slow... More

Is Santa Claus real?

I believe in Santa. But I have to know, is he real?

  • Tara
    Jan 06, 2019

    Of course he’s real

Anonymous posted in Faith & Religion Dec 20, 2018

Dilemma between spouse and parent (holiday)

Back story: I’m pretty much an agnostic but converted to my DH’s faith and we raise our LO in the faith. Now with Christmas coming up my mom has been asking us what we wanted. DH never replied to it and now recently said he can’t take x mas presents and they shouldn’t get LO presents either. But my mom has already bought us stuff so he said to give it as end of the year gifts or New Years gif... More

  • Anonymous
    Dec 23, 2018

    Is your DH jehovah witnesses? I have family who is and I know they don’t celebrate Christmas or Easter. They usually take their kids to buy a new toy or two after Christmas. It’s not from Santa it’s just from the store. I think your mom is over stepping with the whole Santa thing since your DH and you have both decided to raise your kids in his faith she needs to respect that. End of the year g... More

  • Robin
    Jan 12, 2019

    Can I just remind everyone that Santa and the Easter Bunny are not “religious” so use them the way that’s best for your family. Also if they are in school and can’t actually celebrate whatever holiday party the kids are having- let them be the “photographer” so they’re not participating but they’re not ostracized either. Last - there’s always “fall fest”, “Holyween” or some other semantic phr... More

Explaining Santa (real or not) to the kids.

I grew up with Santa but have chosen not to do Santa with my daughter. I still understand the need to explain Santa. A coworker of mine said that her sister was trying to explain to her kids who are just now discovering that Santa is not real. Now they feel like their parents have lied to them for years. I came across a cartoon that explains Santa and all the different gift givers from all over... More

Santa: Real or fake?

I've been conflicted with the idea of telling my 4 y.o. that Santa isn't real. It's been a big struggle for me. My husband and I want our son to understand that "Jesus is the reason for the season". It feels like with today’s society kids expect SO many presents and gifts are becoming obnoxiously expensive. We're not wealthy, but were not poor either. We want to better... More

  • Amanda
    Dec 21

    When my mother told me about Santa, she read the story of “Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus.” She talked to me about how “Santa” is the love & community & generosity & compassion you see and experience around Christmas. It was a really beautiful way to tell me and I have kept the message with me ever since. To note, she did tell me at age 6, which was earlier than she had plann... More

Calling all Catholics!

Anyone have any experience with taking a 1 year old to Mass? It is such a struggle for me! How do you approach it?

  • Bobbie
    Nov 02, 2018

    I personally don't have experience but my sister in law takes my daughter and hers to mass all the time. She makes sure to bring books and soft quiet toys like dolls, coloring books. The girls love the singing mostly 😊 one is 2 years old and the other is 3 years old.

  • Anne
    Nov 02, 2018

    I think 1 is still too young to be expected to sit quietly through Mass, though I'm sure some can do it. Mine can't even sit through it at 4 and 5. They are just wiggly and get bored. I have seen people bring coloring books and quiet toys and I think that's ok.

Baptism question

I am planning on baptizing my son this month (November). The church designates certain days of the month they will baptize. With the holidays fast approaching, I was going to book his Baptism party in January. Do you think that is ok to have Baptism in November and the celebration party in January? We are having a large party with about 100 ppl. Also, what date should I put on the favors at t... More

  • JJ
    Oct 29, 2018

    I also think it’s too long of a wait, but baptisms aren’t a thing we do either. Could you just rent a hall/banquet facility or something before the holidays kick in?

  • Erin
    Oct 30, 2018

    We have over 100+ family members. But I went to church rectory yesterday and now they won’t baptize until December because we have to attend a class and they only offer it at end of November. Thank you for your advice

No religion!

Looking for new retorts to have on standby for when I visit my uber Catholic martyr grandmother for the holidays. Usually just blow her off and say no, no, no... but it doesn’t seem to sink in. I’m sure she’ll never stop, but I would like some respectful ways to shut her off if that makes sense at all.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 25, 2018

    Lol you could tell her that you and your children have decided to be devil worshipers 🤷🏼‍♀️ she might go into cardiac arrest but she’d probably stop asking

  • Ali Rogers
    Oct 27, 2018

    You could always use my hubby's smart arse response for not going to Mass "I gave it up for Lent" LOL

Anonymous posted in Faith & Religion Oct 25, 2018

How to deal with interfaith in-laws?

My partner is an atheist, but we’ve agreed to raise our kids in my faith. I wasn’t as religious before but having kids changed that, I want them to grow up without doubt in our faith etc . Now with Halloween coming up my in-laws are asking if I’m taking our baby trick or treating, being that it has paganism behind it I don’t want to, but they bought them a costume and asked to at least just com... More

  • Cryzana
    Oct 31, 2018

    CHRISTIAN vs CHRISTIAN I raised my first three children with NO santa claus AND we always participated in Halloween. WHY?? Halloween: The Bible is pretty clear that evil is a reality. Bad things really DO happen! Halloween is in remembrance of that less we forget. A TeddyBear in real life is not cute and snuggly-we teach our children to respect or "fear". SantaClaus (Ever noticed... More

  • Anonymous
    Nov 01, 2018

    Satan claws? Hahahaha Thank you for the chuckle. Halloween is not about celebrating/recognizing evil!

Anonymous posted in Faith & Religion Oct 22, 2018

Explaining life after death, heaven and God to a preschooler

Our 5 year old son usually goes to Sunday School at church, but last Easter he sat with us. Since then, he's had questions about death, heaven, God and Jesus, why's and why nots, when will he die, when will we die, he doesn't want to die, he doesn't want to be without us when we die, where is heaven, where is God, etc. These are things hard enough to understand as an adult. Do... More

  • Susan
    Oct 23, 2018

    My 18 month daughter just lost her daddy a month ago. I’ve been struggling with the same question. Right now she just misses him and wonders why he doesn’t come home. I know eventually when she gets older she will want to know why. Interested in hearing the best ways to explain death.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 23, 2018

    @Susan So so very sorry to hear of your/your daughters loss! Praying for comfort for family and your daughter now and as she gets older!

How to talk about religion with kids that are growing up in a secular family

My daughter (and future children) will be raised in a non-religious family. Both my husband and I are atheist. How would you address religion when a child asks about it? I'm certain these questions will come up as her cousins are growing up in a strongly Catholic family and even at age 2 are being taught to pray before bedtime, etc. I'm just really unsure how to even explain what religi... More

  • Anne
    Sep 18, 2018

    We aren't faithful and we do a lot of religious education in our house! We just talk a lot about different holidays that people celebrate, what they mean and what different people believe. We encourage them to ask questions and we've taken them to a couple of different kinds of churches. Our goal is to teach them that there are many faiths with long, rich histories, and that they have t... More

  • Breanna
    Sep 25, 2018

    Thank you! Those are both great suggestions! I'd like her to learn about other religions just so it's not confusing for her growing up. Books will be a great start!

How to get my kids to listen in church??

Any suggestions???. My boy 2 yr old, and boy 4 yr old will not sit still. They have been in church since new born and still cannot sit still. I have tried everything. We get new quiet things to do to keep them busy, we have snacks, we take them out. Any suggestions??!! Thank you!

  • Andy
    Aug 09, 2018

    We used to take our oldest out when it was clear he needed a break but one day I noticed our son was intentionally being bad to get taken out. After going on a long plane ride to Orlando we realized that our kid is very capable of sitting for long periods of time without having to run around. So now we treat church kinda like an airplane ride. You are stuck in this spot for the next hour or so ... More

  • Becky
    Aug 09, 2018

    Thank you soo much for your feedback!!! And yes we do try to rotate. And not really let the kids play with the “church toys” outside of church just so they don’t get bored!! We will definitely try this!! Thank you!!

Anonymous posted in Faith & Religion Jul 19, 2018

Mother and grandmother forcing to baptize!

Hey! So my family is super Roman Catholic. We even have an uncle as a bishop! I believe in Jesus but not so much organized religion. My kids are the only two in my family who haven’t been baptized (3 month old and 19 month old). I want my kids to be able to understand what’s happening and get baptized when they are older. I want to teach them about many different religions first and have them C... More

  • Jenn
    Jul 20, 2018

    They're your children. You make every decision that involves them. Do what you feel is right and let your grandmother know that her great grandkids will only know her through stories and photos unless she changes her mind. I understand faith/religion is valuable to some but excluding family for a silly reason doesn't seem very Jesus-like. It's a shame you can't pick your family 😋

  • Monica
    Aug 08, 2018

    It's your choice. If your grandmother doesnt want to meet your new baby because he isn't baptized it's a ridiculous reason and it's her loss. I am actually baptizing both my kids this sunday. ( 6 months and 10 yrs old) my family is catholic but I'm not religious. My husband and his family are and wants our daughter to be baptized. My son is from a different marriage and I le... More

How do you explain religion to a 3 year old?

My child asked me what angels are, I'm not Christian. However I do believe in angels. I am a pagan so I have 2 deities and I'm not really sure how to explain on her level what it all means.

  • Becca
    May 30, 2018

    I would honestly just tell her that it’s your own personal opinion or belief of how we are here today. We all need something to believe in.

Anonymous posted in Faith & Religion Apr 05, 2018

I hope this question doesn’t offend anyone... Did any parents on here choose to baptize your child/ren into your faith without really practicing your faith? If so, what were your reasons for doing so? I’m feeling conflicted about this issue. I don’t really practice the religion in which I was raised and neither does my husband. We sort of feel the need and want to do the same since that’s ... More

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