Family Planning

Learn about and discuss different methods of male and female contraception including condoms, birth control pills, IUDs, surgical options, natural methods, and more.

Birth Control.

So i got my IUD in September of 2016 and I just took it out on the 5th of this month because my husband and I are going to start trying again..my question is how long should I be bleeding? I’m going on day 5 and I am starting to get super irritated. It’s heavy and nasty, I know that the IUD regulates my period to every other month and it was only 3 days long and now it is gone so should I expec... More

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Apr 02

How did you know you’re ready for another baby?

I’m turning 34 this year & my LO is about 15 mos (& we didn’t planned him). He’s an active (& a handful) toddler boy. But it doesn’t stop me & my hubby for wanting to have another one, plus our family & friends keep begging us for another?! We initially decided when our LO is more independent & can able to do more on his own, probably closer to 2 yrs old. But everywhere ... More

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Apr 03

    You sound ready! My husband and I knew when our oldest was pretty young and ended up having babies 17 months apart, and loved that so much, were three babies in and expecting a fourth this summer. I think if you both are ready to try and know you want a second, I would do it. My three barely three years apart from first to third and their bond is incredible, plus I’m overlapping sleepless night... More

not (yet) expecting

What do you say to (the second or third) someone who asks when the due date is for a child you're not even starting to try to conceive? I recently got married, and now there seems to be a rumour going around that I'm pregnant. Does this happen to everyone, or just me?

  • PK
    Mar 25

    Happens to me when I go through a phase of eating healthy.

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Mar 23

Two kids under two?

Hello Mamas and Papas! My daughter is 7.5m now and I almost mentally prepared to start trying for #2. Those of you who have two kids under two years old...What was/is the experience like? Taking care of older sibling and being 1-3-6-9 months pregnant? Older sibling adjusting? Feeding both kids? Changing both of their diapers? Etc. Any of your advice, information, pros/cons would be helpful!

  • Hilary
    Mar 26

    My kids were 20 months apart and it worked out really well for us. Yes it was a bit tough in the beginning but I find nursing and the sleep deprivation hard regardless if there’s another child around. My kids are now 3 1/2 and 22 months old and they play with each other all the time. They have a blast. If you can get more help with the kids, you’ll hopefully find that things don’t seem so tough!

  • Lily
    Mar 28

    Will have two under two in July. So excited to have them so close! If you are ready go for it! For me being pregnant and having a toddler isn't too bad! Sometimes it is hard because I don't get to be lazy like I was with the first one! Good luck!

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Mar 19

Don’t need advice

I’m just a loner with no friends and I wanna say that thinking about having a second has consumed me the last week. I want my son to have a sibling- and he’s 16 months so I don’t want them much further a part. We planned to try this summer so as summer approaches I have big time anxiety. Pregnancy is not for me and honestly infant days weren’t. But I want the family. But I’ll have a wild todd... More

  • Megan
    Mar 20

    No I do t think you’re alone. Pregnancy was super hard on me. I always wanted kids. When I was 5 I said that I wanted to be a mom when I grew up. That’s all I ever wanted. But I had 3 miscarriages then for the 2 I have now I had to take shots twice a day til 12 weeks along, and with my second I had gestational diabetes. Which was bitter sweet cause I couldn’t eat anything I craved, not even a b... More

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Mar 13

How did you plan for Baby #2?

My spouse wants to have our second child so that our LOs are about 2-3 years apart. With the cost of living in our area so high, I’m struggling with the fact that I may need to be a SAHM. We can afford for me to do so (luckily), but even with our current baby I knew I was ready to get back to work when my maternity leave was over. How do/did you juggle the costs of a second child? What help... More

  • Amanda
    Mar 15

    This is going to sound terrible but I had no ides how I was going to manage a 2yr old and a new born when my daughter was born. Then I did because I ran out of planning time and she was born. I had no plan and still don't. I am much more dependant on baby wearing this time around. I also taught my son how to help me since he loves to help be involved. Ex. He can give her pacifier back in he... More

  • Alyce
    Mar 15

    Don’t stress over it. Best thing is to try to keep the oldest in their routine as usual. That will help to minimize some chaos. If need be baby wear so you’re hands are free and you can be totally hands on with number 1. No expectations is important. You will learn what works best for everyone and fall into a routine accordingly. And money wise things somehow always seem to work themselves out.... More

Depo-Vera Shot

Hi, Has anyone been on the depo shot? How did it affect you? How long before you wanted to get pregnant did you get off of it? Thank you!

  • Lindsey
    Mar 10

    It’s different for everyone. I have been on depo on and off for 15 years. It has always worked great for me. I have a 3 year old daughter and we are now currently trying for baby number 2. I got my last shot back in July, so by October it had worn off and I got my first period. I get regular periods every month and my body went right back to normal. It does take most women about 10 months to a ... More

  • Erica
    Mar 15

    I was on depo for 5 years after I had my daughter and I loved it. I never had any major problems except random bleeding the first year. I gained a little weight over that time but nothing extreme. I was always told to stop a year in advance if I wanted to become pregnant bc it could take some time. I stopped my depo in Mar to prepare for another baby and became pregnant a few months later in J... More

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Mar 01

Second kid

My boyfriend and I recently had our first kid together (he has one with his ex-wife) and we have talked about having our coming kids close in age so we want to start trying once our son turns 1. Well I’ve done some thinking and I know I should have thought about this before having my first, but I would like to wait til we’re married before we have any more. I want the family last name, I want t... More

  • Anonymous
    Mar 01

    Sounds like you have a lot to talk about. What does he think about marriage? More kids? I’m a firm believer that proposals only should happen after all parties have discussed marriage and all that it means. No one should be surprised during a proposal. But also, once you are on the same page, I see no harm in you proposing. Maybe he wants you to because he wants it to be different than his ... More

  • Sabrina
    Mar 04

    I think he needs to know your honest expectations about the future of your relationship. Don’t tell him he can just be your husband by law if you are wanting something more intimate. Write down everything you expect and stand by it. It’s a way for you to communicate what you want.

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Feb 28

Mirena

Hello! Okay so i had my LO on September 13 2017. Shortly after i had the mirena inserted. I am wanting to try to conceive another child in mid June 2019. Looking to be informed on ppls personal experiences or advice. How far in advance did you have it removed before trying? Did you have complications with trying after being on it? Any info would be great! I was informed that i could try right ... More

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Feb 25

Took Plan B..

My husband and I had a slip up, so we decided I should take the morning after pill. I spotted little bit of light pink for 1-2 days a few days after taking it but never got my period after. I took it on Jan 20th and was supposed to get my period Feb 10th but it hasn’t arrived. Also took 4 pregnancy tests (4 days ago) which all came back negative.. Anyone have experience with Plan B?

  • Anonymous
    Feb 25

    I took it several years ago and all I remember about it was that it messed me up for several months. I used to be super regular with mild cramps but then I was irregular and had severe cramps for several months.

  • Amanda
    Feb 25

    It can throw off your cycle for a bit. I skipped a month when I took one but was back on track the next month. Everyone will handle it a bit different but as long as you took it in the right time frame and the tests are negative it sounds like you are in the clear.

Birth Control

Depo or iud? Which one and opinion.

  • Cheryl
    Feb 23

    IUD all the way. Just got my second one in. No having to worry about getting pregnant. Plus, when they’re putting it in, you can get a papsmear at the same time.

  • Kee
    Feb 27

    Nuvaring

Anonymous posted in Babies Feb 21

Am I ready?

My husband wants a big family - he makes jokes about wanting 10 kids. Sometimes I don’t think he’s kidding. We have a 6 month old and I know he wants to get going with baby #2. We’ve been fortunate that our first is pretty easy going. However, she’s pretty dependent on sleeping with us - which we are actually okay with right now. I’ve heard that the first always tricks the parents into having m... More

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Feb 21

    So you do not need to rush this. You need to figure what works for your family. I cosleep with my husband and three kids, who are 17 months and 20 months apart. My first baby was by far my most difficult, but we knew together that we wanted another one after him. I would only take it one month and one baby at a time. I love cosleeping and find I get more sleep. If you don’t, you should do what ... More

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Feb 21

    But I want to say if your just nervous but deep down want another, that’s okay too. Having kids close together means they pretty much don’t know what it’s like to not have a sibling and as long as you continue to give them love and attention (which is hard not to do, they’re your baby too!), the older siblings love being big sisters and brothers. Cosleeping works for us with a king size bed, t... More

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Feb 20

Pros and cons of having kids birthdays be close together?

My son is already going on 26 months... my husband has just finally made his mind up that he really does want a baby #2. I want to start trying soon so he and baby #2 won’t be too far apart in age. But my husband wants to wait another 4 months minimum. His only reasoning is because if we are successful in the first try (like last time) the kids would have birthdays within weeks of each other. H... More

  • Trac
    Feb 28

    Just have separate birthday party! One this weekend, one next weekend end. When they are old one huge party for all or one fun trip together to celebrate. In the long run it will be easier!

  • Anonymous
    Mar 20

    Apparently I'm only fertile one month out of the year...I will soon have three boys all born in April. The cool part is their "Golden B-day" will land in the same year. One will be 21; the other 18. We just have to wait and see if the next one is born on the 14th too! Regardless I promised them it would be the party of a lifetime!! HeeHee

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Feb 13

Changed his mind???!!!!!

My very soon to be fiancé and father to our 10mo son told me last night that he doesn’t want more kids. For years he has been trying to convince me to have five kids, when I only want two or three. Two months ago he told me he wanted to start trying after we get married. And then out of the blue last night, he says he doesn’t want anymore kids. I have no idea what to do. I know for a fact that ... More

  • Triny
    Feb 15

    When we married, we were both on the same page of not wanting kids, he already had two, and i didnt think i wanted one... eventually we changed our minds together and now we have this beautiful daughter that we love so much, like they were saying, you married ur spouse regardless of what comes after. Things never goes like planned. 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • Elle
    Mar 26

    1. Have an honest conversation. Listen, really listen to what his feelings, concerns, and worries are. Ask non judgemental, supportive follow up questions. Then let it all sink in, and try to put yourself in his shoes. 2. Figure out if there is anything you can do to address any of the concerns he has. 3. Figure out what is really important to you. Is it a certain number of kids? A certain s... More

Baby #3

Im not pregnant. But we are thinking about baby number three. I do want more kids but now that my youngest is 4 and going to start school this year, it has me thinking do i want to start over after both boys are in school and i will finally get a break or will i regret not having another. What is everyone else's thoughts and opinions?

  • Toni
    Feb 04

    Five kids total, 23, 10, 8, 4,3 sometimes there are things that the kids can’t do together because of the age gap. We want to go to Disney & I wonder “do we take the 23y old?” Then when the oldest goes paint balling with dad, I’m with the small kids at home because they can’t go paint balling... or the preteens want to go to Six Flags and I have to find a sitter for the toddlers... Might a... More

  • Joanna
    Feb 05

    Just go for it. You can always find ways to “survive”. 😀

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Feb 01

Only child regrets?

We currently only have one son (3.5 years old). My husband and I are also both only children, but I REALLY want a second kid before it's too late (we are both 36). My husband doesn't feel that need and said he was perfectly fine as an only child, whereas I remember desperately wanting a sibling. But then I wonder if it's worth a shot because of our age, and increase risk of having a... More

  • Lily
    Feb 06

    I loved having a sister growing up, I always wanted my mom to have three but she only wanted two. My husband and I want a bunch of kids, we are having number two in july. I say have another one! Your kid will love the friend, and you will have having a little time to yourself while they are happy playing

  • Anonymous
    Feb 14

    The age gap between the kids will mean they have little in common. I don’t think that the summer camp worry is unrealistic. You’ll be working like a dog to pay for $4000 summer care for 2 kids. If you want to go on vacation that’s 4 airline tickets. The financial side of another kid is nothing to ignore. Also, if you’re older and god forbid you have a child with special-needs, that’s potentiall... More

I've been on nexplanon since November 2016.. I've literally been bleeding ever since.

It'll stop for a few days, and then start right back up for a month.. Is this normal whatsoever? Has anyone else experienced it this bad? I am terrified it's going to reduce my chance of having more kids.. Which is why I chose this method was to reduce the possibility of other birth controls making it harder for me to have more. Help please 😔

  • Lisa
    Jan 31

    I had the same issue. Got it in August 2016 and removed May 2018. I hated it!!! Periods were completely unpredictable, constantly spotting, always clotting, it was a nightmare! If you choose to, removal is easy and shouldn’t be an issue since you’ve had it so long. I went back to pills and all is peachy.

  • MCowen
    Jan 31

    I have also experienced issues with nexplanon, had it put in August 2018 and have bleeding non stop since then. In October went back to my OBGYN to discuss my issues and she stated this is very normal and continued to tout the benefits...I told her the bleeding has to stop as I had been feeling awful from the continuous bleeding. She recommended we start using the Nuvaring along side Nexplanon ... More

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Jan 24

Number of kids

I am one of two kids and so is my husband. We have had conversations in the past and agreed that we both want 2 kids. The problem is that we have 2 boys that I totally adore BUT I can’t stop wondering if we should “try for a girl”. I love kids, I love watching my boys’ relationship grow. I know that my husband does not ever consider having another one. He has mentioned that he doesn’t know if ... More

  • Cryzana
    Feb 11

    Why not adopt?

  • Suzanne
    Mar 26

    My husband is one of three and I’m an only child. Before pregnancy, we had agreed on wanting one child. We now have a beautiful 2 years old son and I would like to have another child. He’s 41 and I’m 36. My husband is sticking to having one. Now it’s a matter of respecting the wishes of my partner and acknowledging what we had previously agreed on. I know in my relationship, I would be forcing ... More

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Jan 24

Depo side effects

Is anyone on the Depo shot or have been? My son was just born in June and I wanted a bc that I didn’t have to worry about taking everyday and I didn’t want anything implanted in me so I gave the depo a try. My doc said that I should do pretty well with the depo (because I was always on the mini pill beforehand and I never had a problem with it) because the depo and mini pill have same hormones.... More

  • Clare
    Jan 31

    i hated it. i was so moody, irritable, rage filled, and i had zero libido.

  • Cryzana
    Feb 11

    I usually waited about a year after having my baby before going back to DepoShot. However, I had similar symptoms with my 3rd baby when I started Depo earlier. I think if was because my hormones took longer to adjust because I was breastfeeding.

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Jan 12

Ovulation?

“Trying” for our second! It took over 2 years being off birth control for us to get pregnant with our first.. my cycles were very long (41 days) and I had no signs of ovulations so when we found out we were pregnant, we were surprised and excited!! Now, this time around, my cycle is around 32 days. I am now getting discharge during “ovulation” at different times every month (give or take 4-5... More

  • molly
    Jan 17

    speak to ur ob. she’ll give u the best advice. get those ovulation tests that tell u the window and also get an app like Clue that will tell you the fertile window for you. Basically tmi but sperm can stay alive post sex for a few days so ur best chance is to have sex before u ovulate with a sperm waiting for the egg. the egg stays viable only for 24 hrs so u can aim to try say 2 days before ov... More

  • Megan
    Jan 19

    For me the ClearBlue ovulation tests never worked. We tried to wait for the ovulation test to say it was time and it never did. We caved once in 5 weeks and had sex. The same day my ovulation test said I wasn’t ovulating, and I got pregnant. However, if you have ever heard or Daysy, I swear by this! It’s a basel body thermometer. My husband and I used this for birth control and we used nothing ... More

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