Family Planning

Learn about and discuss different methods of male and female contraception including condoms, birth control pills, IUDs, surgical options, natural methods, and more.

Increased hunger on Depo

Ever since my second dose of the Depo shot, I have been hungry pretty much all the time. I try to not eat right away when I'm hungry if I have just eaten a meal, but sometimes I can't help it and feel like I need to eat something. Even after I've had a big meal, I seem to be hungry within about an hour after eating. Anyone else experience this?? This is my second time being on the s... More

  • Corra

    I had the same hunger issues when I was on it. I gained 50-60 pounds on it after my son. I was always hungry, struggling with my weight and hormones were all messed up. So I got off it after a yr of being on it. I’ve been on a different BC for 2yrs and I have finally lost all the steroid weight. And I’m in love with the BC I’m on.

  • Amelia
    4h ago

    I’m on the pill and experiencing the same symptoms. If I wasn’t so terrified of getting pregnant again, I wouldn’t be taking any BC at all. It really has done a number on my body.

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Wednesday

How to approach the subject with your partner about having another baby?

Hello. My husband & I have a 4 year old son. Initially, I wanted to have 2 kids close in age. No more than 3 years apart. Well, our son is now 4 years old and I’d really would like to start trying to have another baby at the beginning of next year. My husband, however, would like to wait until we start building our house which would be in another 3 years (we’re working on our land in some... More

  • Valerie

    If you’re both working on building your home, you being out of commission for the duration of a pregnancy will put a lot of pressure on him. Also with a newborn to care for, you will be unable to help him and he will be unable to help you with the baby if he’s busy on the house. Resentment in both directions is a possible outcome. My husband built a tiny house to use as an office during my preg... More

  • Hope Brown

    Have your FSH tested if you're concerned with lowered fertility. My siblings and I are far apart in age and we have a close relationship. I don't think that has anything to do with age spacing but how much you're willing to work on the relationship. If you're trying to help build a house it's not a great idea to be pregnant and postpartum. FYI the rate of developmental compl... More

What age is a good age to bring another baby in the picture?

My son just turned 2 in November, & my husband and I are wanting to try to get pregnant after the first of the year, but every time we bring our son around our friends with babies, he gets too jealous and sometimes angry because we’re holding another baby. So is it a good time to bring another baby in the picture?

  • Lindsay

    My son will turn 3 in February and my daughter will be born in April/May. I am also worried about this because we have such a fantastic relationship. We try to include him in my pregnancy as much as possible. He picked out a cute Christmas outfit for her, he helped choose what books we should keep for her, we put her clothes in her dresser, etc. I think it’s helping! I also put him in preschool... More

  • Candace

    I have a 2 year old and 1 month old. I can say it can be really challenging dealing with two little ones that needs your attention ( let alone dealing with postpartum depression). But introducing my son to his little brother was easy because every time me and my 2 year old bonded we would talk to my belly and let him know a baby is on the way. I kept on reminding him everyday until my second so... More

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Dec 03

Best time to start trying for a baby?

In your experience, what is the best age to start? My husband and I are 24 and thinking about trying soon. But of course, we’re scared! Feel free to add details about your experience!

  • Polli
    Dec 04

    The only thing I can add to the advice you’ve already gotten, is make sure your mental health is taken care of before trying and think about how many you want. Every couple knows their right time, I’m 28 and my boy is turning 4 months this week. We only wanted one child and last year turned out to be the right time for us to try and I wasn’t afraid of being too old for my child down the line. ... More

  • Carissa
    Dec 04

    Everyone is right when they say there is no right time. You will never be stable enough or have enough money or be completely ready for a baby BUT you can at least have a plan. Do you have insurance? Because medical bills will be expensive! What about daycare? Will one of you be staying home or do you have family near by? Daycare is crazy expensive so you’ll need to make sure you can afford it.... More

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Dec 02

Only Child?

For parents who have opted to be "one and done" - what influenced your decision not to pursue conceiving another child?

  • Cherish
    Dec 04

    I was an only child so honestly I have a difficult time with the squabbling/blaming/lying siblings engage in. I did have a second child but my son was born 22 years after my daughter so it like I have two only children.

Already wanting another???

I know it's a little soon... My son is 9 months old... But I've already been thinking about wanting another baby. I don't think I would go through with actually trying for another one right now or anytime soon, but I was just wondering when all of you decided to have another? Like what is the age gap between? If you had children less than a year apart, how did you handle it? What ar... More

  • Dai
    Nov 28

    I wanted another baby soon after giving birth but since I was exclusively breastfeeding it was hard. I’m now 2 months pregnant and my little one is 3 weeks away from being 11 months. I wanted this way because i can’t imagine myself starting over with the teething and the no sleeping so it might be a lot a work now but they will both be a year and a few months apart so they will most likely do e... More

  • Tina
    Nov 28

    Mama’s with a toddler and a baby one the way look out! Let the craziness begin! 😂 I have a 16 month old and a 5 month old.

Anonymous posted in Family Life Nov 24

Looking for a Mantra...

We have a 7 mo old baby. We both have fulltime demanding careers and fully enjoy every minute with baby. We enjoy parenting and doing all of the research on child development, showing her how to learn and grow. She's doing so so well, she's the happiest baby alive, and super interactive. We've gone lots of places with her. I know it will get harder later on when the real parenting (... More

  • Anonymous
    Nov 25

    Thank you. In our case, baby is super communicative. It's always been immediately clear what she wants/needs. Aggg I want another one :)

  • Anonymous
    12m ago

    Interting post. I don't have an answer, but I do know ppl who have been in similar situations. Bump!

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Nov 24

Advice from Mamas of two close in age...

Alright, so my little one is 15 months and I just found out that I’m expecting baby number 2. I’m excited but dealing with morning sickness and a little anxiety is making it less fun. However, I want to enjoy this pregnancy as much as the first and am looking for advice from mamas who have two little ones approximately this close together? How did you manage and any tips on saving money and san... More

  • Mira
    Nov 24

    My kids are 11 months apart I got pregnant after my 40 days trust me it will be great they will become true friends specially when the first one is that young my advice to u stay calm find time for yourself and workout ❤️

  • Elisabeth
    Nov 24

    My kiddos are 25 months apart. We had potty trained Olivia right before Levi was born and that is still such a relief to me! So that would be my advice, if you haven’t already started potty training. You might wait until baby #1 is about 18 mo but that helps so much with money, too! I wouldn’t worry about having them so close together! I think that actually works to your advantage! Maybe your f... More

I got the nexplanon back in September of this year. Since October nonstop bleeding. Will it stop?

  • Kaitlyn
    Nov 21

    Mine usually lasts a month or two and then goes away for a couple months

  • Michelle
    Nov 23

    So I'm guessing it just depends on how your body is reacting to the pin?

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Nov 20

Parents of 3 or more, talk to me about the “caboose” baby

I have two children less than a year apart who are extremely bonded and seem to be joined at the hip most of the time. It’s a special relationship that has been really good for both of them. Now we’re considering #3 but the age gap from the two older kids would be at least 5 years. 😱 Are we going to regret having one so much younger than the other two? I’m worried it would create a third wheel... More

  • Dada G
    Nov 23

    I have a different angle to add. My sister was born several years after the rest. I remember us all playing a lot together until I hit puberty etc. However here is what I wanted to add. Today my sister is super successful with two daughters of her own. She is an amazing mom to them and all of that was possible because she is here. So I wouldn’t worry too much about the gap assuming everythi... More

  • Lauren
    Nov 23

    I don’t have 3 kids but my husband’s older brothers are only 18 months apart and he’s 11 years younger than the oldest one. Now that they’re all adults he’s closest with the oldest one, so I believe that in the long run the age difference doesn’t really matter.

Anonymous posted in Family Life Nov 18

One child

Those of you that decided to have only one child— what made you come to that decision? Was there anything that made you more comfortable with it? It is mine and my husbands thought to have just one, but are receiving harsh family criticism.

  • Christy
    Nov 18

    Our is based on a combination of things... 1) My husband and I are older, so the risk factors are too high for us to want to go through again. 2) The sleep deprivation is killing us now, I can't imagine how tired we would be with two kids. 3) We like the idea of giving our daughter undivided attention and resources. 4) We feel like our family is complete as is, nothing is missing.

  • Emily
    Nov 18

    Getting pregnant again was hard and I miscarried when we I did. So we decided to just not have anymore. We will probably adopt or foster way in the future. I accepted it for that reason. I may not now they may not be biological but I can help other kids in the future. And I will love them. My family has come down hard on wanting me to keep trying but it kinda just made me feel better knowing th... More

Miscarriage pcos bleeding

I miscarried a few months back. I have pcos. I got my first period after last month it was pretty average. I was surprised to get one since I have pcos I had to take medicine to make me ovulate to get pregnant to begin with. I went a year without getting my period before I took the clomid. Well a month passed and now I got my period again. I ovulated and all. I was super excited but here I am n... More

  • Lulu
    Nov 17

    After my miscarriage I started bleeding during ovulating. Could this be what it is? I am so sorry for your loss. My heart is with you.

  • Lily
    Nov 24

    I am so sorry for your loss, I had a miscarriage earlier this year. My period was always the same even after I had my first kid. But after my miscarriage it has been very different. If you are worried, you can also go to your OBGYN. Just to make sure Everything is good:)

Nexplanon side effects??? Long periods? I can’t take it🤬

  • Erika
    Nov 13

    Ahhh this makes me nervous getting my implant again. The first time I had no problems so it makes me more nervous that maybe I got lucky the first time.

  • Rosa
    Nov 16

    Worst birth control ever !!! I have gained so much weight and on top of everything I’m constantly on my period 😢

Copper IUD questions

To the ladies who’ve had a copper IUD or currently do. I just recently got 1 after my second child. It’s been 2 1/2 almost 3 months since I got it done. Before kids I had a 7 day very heavy painful period. After having my first the throwing up was gone and pain wasn’t as bad and not as heavy. I knew getting an IUD meant I would have heavier, longer, painful periods and I didn’t mind because I f... More

  • Brittany
    Nov 15

    The longest before ParaGard was 3-4 days and with it, my periods last between 7-10 days now. My cycles are also longer... 40+ days between periods. But, when they arrive, it's with a vengeance haha

  • Ally
    Dec 03

    I have had paraguard since June and also decided on progesterone hormone treatments. My period is 5 days and only 2 days heavy with cramping. Other than that it’s been perfect.

Started my period today...... no baby once again.

I got off of the depo shot back in August and started prenatal to increase our chances of baby number two but month after month I keep getting my period. How do I even know if I’m ovulating? I want to be so angry and cry at the same time... ugh :(

  • Lily
    Nov 15

    Get the tests for your ovulation like a week before you think it will happen. We were trying for number two after a miscarriage and my ovulation was like 3 days earlier than before. We had been trying with no luck because of that. The month I Tested a week early we got pregnant. It’s all about timing! I have learned it is way harder to get pregnant when you are trying!

  • Lily
    Nov 15

    Also some birth controls help you get pregnant right after you got off. Depending on the kind

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Nov 09

Birth control

What is your input on birth control specifically on the patch ? I recently got mine and I’m a little nervous to try it any advise would be great 👍 also how did it affect on your period, did it get better?

Mirena reviews?

I’m thinking about getting the Mirena. I just had my 2nd child 4 months ago and I’m currently on the mini pill, sometimes I forget to take the pill so I’m trying to get on something I don’t need to remember and something that is more long term it was between the Mirena or the shot. Thinking more of getting the Mirena..has anyone tried it or is currently on the Mirena? What are the side effects ... More

  • Abby
    Nov 16

    I had two rounds of 5 years with the Mirena IUD after 2 successful pregnancies. No periods after the second month. No cramping. Just ready for more kiddos after 10 years. Took about 4 months to get pregnant after my OB removed it but, I wasn’t tracking anything so it may have happened sooner. After this baby is born (4th) I will be going back on IUD until my husband is ready to get snipped. ;)

  • Cheryl
    Dec 04

    I had mirena for about a year before we decided to get pregnant. It only took me about 3 months after having it removed to get pregnant. I plan on getting it again. It was wonderful not having to think about it! I also had very light periods while on it, which was a definite bonus.

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Nov 05

Debating having a 3rd kid

I am really struggling with this concept and am hoping to have an " ah ha" moment. I have 2 beautiful kids , ages 4 and 20mo. I have always wanted 2-3 but have realized more recent that I've always aired more towards 3. My husband has always aired toward 2, and still does but will be on board if I strongly think I'd regret not having a third. I'd say my biggest argume... More

  • Amanda
    Nov 06

    We’re in the same spot your are right now. 4 year old son, 18 month daughter. My husband and I feel like we want a third (and last baby), but we are aware of all the changes and sacrifices that will bring. But, I’ve just gone off birth control and we’ll see what happens. I am 34, so maybe it won’t happen? But if it does, we’ll all be happy.

  • Lily
    Nov 09

    Have three! None of the things will matter once you meet your baby:) and You don’t want to wait too long, because then the 3rd will be too young with the others

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Nov 04

Birth control

I have the skyla IUD and as we plan for another baby I’m thinking about when I should take it out.... my ob says as soon as it’s out I can become pregnant. But I’m just looking for personal experiences. Did it take you longer to conceive? Should I get it out a few months before trying?

  • Liv
    Nov 05

    I don't know about the IUD, but I got my implant removed and became pregnant 2 weeks later. Never had my first period! We expected it to take a few months at least. But it CAN happen fast. I'm not sure if your IUD contains hormones or not. That may play a role in it. But be prepared if you take it out, anything can happen :)

  • Anonymous
    Nov 05

    Zendy- yikes that freaks me out :( Liv- yes!!! I’m such a planner I have the time frame all picked out.... hope it happens fast for us too!!

Anonymous posted in Family Life Nov 02


How can I tell my mom about baby 3??!

  • Lily
    Nov 08

    It’s your life, just tell her. She should be happy to have another grand baby! No one in my family has been happy about any of my babies! It is hard, because you want them to be happy too! And yeah, if you aren’t not trying you are trying! Hah

  • Cryzana
    Dec 03

    I waited to tell my mom until her B-day and sent her a pillow with the UltraSound pic. I have health issues that make having a child risky BUT my fiance and I just want one child the is between us to tie our families together. My mom is still against me getting pregnant but the baby is already on the way!

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