Advice and support for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer parents and children.

Elissa posted in Big Kids Mar 20

How to help autistic gender exploring tween?

So 8 months ago my 10 year old high functioning Aspergers kid, female by birth, confessed to me that they hate being a girl, dread puberty and want medical intervention to prevent it, and identify as neither male nor female. I am having a hard time understanding them, respecting their non binary wish to be called they and child. They cut their hair boy short, dress like a boy and have expressed... More

  • Maxine
    Apr 14

    I’d be asking where this came from. It’s a trajectory that’s hard to come back from. I have a friend that said he thought he could be gay when he was a kid because of the way another man treated him. He said that he thought maybe the guy saw something “gay” in him that made him doubt his sexuality. I believe the first step is to try and find out if this is the result of something specific. Al... More

Happy Pride! 🏳️‍🌈

Anyone else celebrating Pride Month with their kids? Do you have any activity or book ideas to share? Mine love the parades (obviously) but we've also been reading books and playing games all month around the themes of love, freedom, family & identity. It's been a lot of fun and also so fascinating to explore how they think about these pretty heady concepts! My favorite moment was... More

  • Hannah
    Jun 14, 2018

    John Oliver’s Marlon Bundo!

  • Kelsie
    Jun 14, 2018

    We love Marlon Bundo! Adorable photo 🌈

Myself and my husband are both LGBTQI. He's trans, I am genderfluid AFAB — I carry the children. We're also polyamorous, hence our son. We've been talking about having another baby for a while... but for obvious reasons, given my boyfriend doesn't want another one, we're in a bit of a pickle. Has anyone else ever been in this situation? How did you deal with it, if you did m... More

  • Anonymous
    Apr 16, 2018

    Honestly sperm banks aren’t crazy expensive. I mean compared to the cost of having kids! (But maybe it just feels that way to me bc we ended up eventually doing IVF, where the sperm was the least expensive part.) Not poly but similar trans family here. Good luck!!

  • Anonymous
    Feb 15

    I am a known donor for three different families. We all met through the Known Donor Registry site. Although all of us had mixed experiences there, the key part was to keep looking & talking to people (online, then in real life) until you meet that donor with which you just “click.” It has been the most emotionally rewarding experience in my life. ♥️

Anonymous posted in Blended Families Apr 05, 2018

Teen daughter came out and told me she was a lesbian. I took it okay but her dad not so much and now she feels like her dad doesn't love her. Him and I have gotten into a really bad argument about this and haven't spoken to each other in days. What should I do to make them come together and talk about this issue?

  • Lisa
    May 06, 2018

    When my sister came out,she called and said she needed to talk to me. She came over and since a roommate was home, she wanted privacy we took a walk. This was soon after Mom had died of cancer and our other sister had been murdered, so I was really worried. But when she said she was gay, all I could think was what was the big news? She laughed and said that everyone else pretty much had the sam... More

  • Chantal
    Oct 07, 2018

    You honestly can’t force anyone to accept someone else lifestyle...but have the convo with him nd tell him that his daughter is hurting because she believes he doesn’t love her

"There’s a space on the hospital’s template form to write down your “cultural traditions.” Okay. Our cultural traditions include nude gay beaches, a lot of glitter, and rejecting the gender binary. Is that the place to explain that my partner doesn’t identify as a woman? Should we give them our VHS tape of Gender Trouble and ask them to watch it in advance?" More

  • Caitlin
    Dec 15, 2017

    I love this post! At our birth ed classes, they used the term “birther” rather than “mother”. I know this doesn’t really matter to 90% of the population, but for me it made a huge difference in feeling welcome as a queer parent.

  • Naomi
    May 06

    I work in a government office (not a hospital) and although I am traditional in my own values, I treat anyone who comes in for services the same. Doctors and nurses should be professional enough to do the same. But I don’t know if they are. I also chose home birth with a midwife for my own reasons.

“For the Holley-Miers family, the whole adoption process took months and cost about $3,500. A judge granted Meredith the adoption of her daughter Janey in July 2009.” I can’t imagine having to legally adopt my own child! I hope they can find a way to update the parental rights system to account for same-sex marriages. More

Anne posted in LGBTQ Aug 25, 2017

Okay, I just discovered this gay dad dating sim on Steam and am absolutely delighted that it exists. That artwork though! 😍 "[Dream Daddy] is a genuinely competent dating sim geared to welcome a queer audience. The writers chose to gently lampoon dad culture, instead of making the existence of gay dads the butt of the jok... More

  • Michael
    Aug 25, 2017

    OMG I love Dream Daddy! I can't believe you found it. It's pure fun.

  • Anne
    Aug 25, 2017

    I'm a fan of the Game Grumps but somehow hadn't heard they did this! It's so lovely. I'm gorging myself on a Tumblr full of the concept art right now.

Kudos to Target! I end up buying my daughter some of her clothing in the boys section because I want her to be exposed to trucks, planets, dinosaurs, and all the other cool stuff the boys clothes has on it. There's no reason that stuff should only be for boys!

  • Samantha
    Aug 03, 2017

    I bought a dinosaur shirt from the toddles girls section! I love it. I was so excited to see that.

  • Kristin
    Aug 03, 2017

    I like thier "kind" line, I get my kids stuff from both sections...

"The sad thing, being in a progressive state doesn’t necessarily always mean easy riding either. For instance, the article mentions Alice Eisenberg and Anna Wolk, who live in Brooklyn, had a daughter together. They married before their daughter was born (Eisenberg carried the child), and yet, they’re in the midst of in a second-parent adoption, in order to get Wolk seen as the other parent... More

my kid came out as gay today, what do i do?

  • Debra
    Jan 14

    Pray for your family, LOVE YOUR CHILD!!!!!!

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