Making Friends

Advice and stories on making mom friends and dad friends, maintaining relationships with kids in the picture, helping your children develop social skills, and more.

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Nov 04

Friends

I’ve never been big on friends, have a few ppl I’m really close to but generally I’m content on my own w/my family. Fundamentally, I understand the importance of social/peer interactions but for the most part, my oldest has been indifferent. Just now, however, she had a sad moment (after watching a moving episode of Tumble Leaf) about missing hers friends and wanting more friends (we’ve all bee... More

  • Kaleidoscope Children's Center S.
    check_circleChild Care Provider Nov 04

    Children really need to learn social skills with their peers. Most children are spending time in preschool and are all generally "learning" how to socialize and are well socialized by Kindergarten. My son did not attend preschool and was not well socialized. He was overtaken by a lot of emotions during his first years of school and became nervous and intoverted as a result. In the lon... More

  • Sally
    Nov 07

    I’ve worried about the same thing with my daughter. I think the pressure to “socialize” is a little exaggerated though. I think as long as we’re giving them human interaction (even if it’s mainly with their family) there’s no rule that says they HAVE to interact with peers 8 hours a day. They might not learn to play the same games or make fun of the same things as their peers, but they’ll get a... More

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Oct 26

Feeling down

Sometimes I get so down about myself. I work at home and work a schedule which is opposite my husband’s. I am either alone working or alone with my kids on nights and weekends. I live near family and we get along but aren’t super close. I feel down about not having any friends. I am not much closer to having a friend than I was when we moved 6 years ago. I go weeks without anyone checki... More

  • Mandy
    Oct 28

    I feel the same way sometimes. I also work from home and my husband has a swing shift position. It's hard, beacuse sometimes it feels like you are doing things all by yourself. I have found getting out of the house, even if it's a short walk around our neighbor helps. My young ones loves it too. Hang in there. You've got this

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Oct 23

The topic of loneliness

I’ve been a stay at home mom on & off since my little guy was born ( he’s 3 now ) due to some surgeries. I’m only 23 & lately I’ve been feeling lonely. What I mean is that literally I have no friends since everyone just kinda walked away when I told them I was expecting. I don’t hold grudges , but I can’t seem to find mom friends or anyone I can talk to about even mom topics. Yes I ha... More

  • JEaton
    Oct 24

    It's hard making regular friends, let alone mom friends - be it differences in parenting styles, the kids are on different nap schedules, etc.. I'm a sahm to my 2.5 year old and have been since he was born. It's just my husband and I and the only friends I had were the ones I worked with, but it's hard to keep up when they're still working full time. I made the few mommy... More

Anonymous posted in Grade Schoolers Oct 03

Best age for 1st Sleepover

What age did your child attend/host 1st sleepover? Daughter is turning 8 years old and she would really like one. I'm wracking my brain and nerves trying to plan/prepare/make definitive decision on yes or no. I don't feel our house is big enough. Her room is upstairs. Mine is downstairs...do I sleep upstairs???? Go up and down15 times checking on girls? Does my hubby and 2 year old st... More

  • Cathy
    Oct 05

    Yes. I would rather have the sleepover at my own house then send my kid to someone else’s. There’s so many things to worry about and you never know if people have guns, drugs, etc.

  • Serrina F.
    Oct 09

    I have a 9 year old son and he has had several sleepovers and gone to a couple. We haven't had more than 3 boys at a time though but they were fine in his room, if we past 3 I would make them set up in the livingroom. All they did was snack, play video games and be on the laptop. I had to force them to watch a movie and eat dinner. They were up pretty late playing them dang video games but... More

Barty posted in Behavior Sep 23

3 year old daughter crying hard when a new friend joined classroom.

She is a shy kid in general, but she has never had any issues with kids at her day care for the past year. But a few days ago a new boy joined her class, and her teacher tells me that she gets upset and breaks down crying when the new friend says Hi, or comes anywhere near her. Today while dropping her off at daycare I saw that happen myself. Please help! How do I deal with this situation? My ... More

  • Anonymous
    Sep 24

    Maybe find the kids mom and do a play date so she can really meet him and have fun with him?

New here...looking for mom friends

Hey moms!! I’m fairly new to this app and to mommy hood...my daughter will be 1yr on November 1st! I’m just looking for some mom friends tbh. I don’t really have any friends at this point in my life and am looking for some friends that share the parenthood lifestyle!!

  • Jamie
    Sep 29

    Hi Destin. I’m new to the app too.

  • Destin
    Oct 06

    Hi Jamie! Nice to meet ya! Thanks for your reply! How old is your little one?

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Sep 07

Relocating to Austin, TX from FL

We’re evaluating a move from South Florida (suburbs of Fort Lauderdale) to Austin/job opportunity for my husband. Looking for any and all advice from families who have made a similar move. Nervous working momma of a 2 & 4 year old trying to work through all of the emotions of leaving home/family etc. Appreciate any tips & advice!

  • Sam
    Nov 10

    How did the move go?

  • Anonymous
    Nov 10

    We move officially in January, but just got back from a house/school hunting trip. Hoping we’re able to find the right fit between now & then!

FTM Needs advice on making Mommy Friends

Hi everyone! First time mom to my son born in November. I'm also a stay at home mom. I love the fact that I get the chance to stay home and watch my son reach all his milestones, but I feel like I'm slowly going crazy from lack of adult interaction! I've tried some mommy groups on Facebook and while I think I click with some moms, the feeling doesn't seem to be mutual. How do ... More

  • Courtney
    Sep 24

    Yojana. Girl PREACH!! I live in WV and as if the extreme poverty, homelessness, drug addiction / overdoses etc weren’t bad enough. Our state is so ass backwards it’s like dog years but double or more. 1 year hear is like 14+ years somewhere else. Unless you are an addict / in recovery, a foster child or parent, or an incarcerated felon - there are no initiatives or programs or community events... More

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Jul 29

No social life

Is it just me or is motherhood really lonely? I literally go weeks where I have no contact with anyone other than my husband, my sisters, or my mom. I work from home so I have no work friends. We moved when we had kids and I have one friend here and lots of acquaintances. I know other moms are busy but it feels like no one even tries to get to know me. Like, no one even asks me questio... More

  • Tiffany
    Sep 19

    Are you in any local mom groups? You’ll find other moms like yourself that you can relate and possibly be able to get & interact with them and their children.

  • Lauren
    Sep 19

    Look up Moms groups on Facebook. Or join a gym with childcare. People are very busy and I’ve noticed even at parks other moms are usually there in groups, so they are not interested in talking to strangers. Or get your mom or sister to babysit and join a art class, dance class, ANYTHING where people are away from phones. You will for sure meet some people that way!

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Jul 18

Making mom friends

Hey everyone I am feeling a bit isolated after having my baby. Any tips on making some Mom friends? Also going back to work so advice for a working mom would be great too.

  • Suz
    Aug 10

    Our daycare provides a class list with parent emails. I emailed and invited the other moms to a dinner out to get to know each other and every single one was interested - I think we were all in the same boat! It was lovely and easy to keep in touch because our kids are together in daycare and we have something in common. Not everyone was able to come to the event/subsequent events but some have... More

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Jul 11

I am not sure if I am overreacting and I wanted to get feedback.

Last week I had a play date with a friend that has a daughter that is 2.5 y/o. My son is 3.5. They were playing in a splash pad. There were two older girls playing there as well, they were about 9 and 10. My son was sitting by me eating some goldfish and my friends daughter was playing with the older girls. She was touching their face. I said to my friend "Your daughter is really friendly.... More

  • Anonymous
    Jul 18

    Thank you all for your response. My son is actually pretty friendly, when she made the comment he was sitting next to me eating a lollipop. I have taken him to the park and plays well with others. I am not a friendly person because I feel like other moms are very judgmental. I have my way of raising my kids and there's other parenting styles and I just don't want to butt heads. I gues... More

  • Kieli
    Jul 18

    I feel the same way, that I’m always being judged. Especially because I’m a young mom, I had my first daughter when I was 19. Now I’m 21 with 2. So yeah I feel like people judge a lot. And that’s not right, it’s not a competition, when my daughter is around other kids I’m simply happy she’s getting the interaction! I’m sorry you’ve been dealing with this.

Relocating

My family and I currently live upstate NY and we’re moving to the jersey shore, we bought a beautiful house, I have a 11 10 and 3 year old- my husband is a disabled Iraqi veteran and he is really weird about making friends. I will need to get a job and I know I’ll meet people there but I haven’t worked since my baby was 6 months - I couldn’t handle it. I want to start fresh and befriend some pe... More

Anonymous posted in Making Friends May 02

Need encouragement

Not sure why but I've been feeling very lonely. A lot of my friends are single and not a mom, so it feels like I'm unrelatable and hard to connect now. I don't have anyone to talk to. I've tried reaching out but no one really responds or can talk for very long. I just wish I had mama friends. Please send some encouragement here. I just feel so alone.

  • Ev
    May 05

    Your park district or local library may have “Mom and me” activities or story times, that are great places to meet Moms. Local churches sometimes have “Mom’s Day Out” activities, where you could volunteer to provide breaks for other Moms and have a chance to meet and connect with other Moms at the same time. Good luck! You’ve been very intuitive about sensing a real need in yourself. Visualize ... More

  • Jennifer
    May 21

    I feel the same but was able to make 2 good mommy friends from my daughters preschool recently. If you are located near the San Gabriel, CA area please message me so we can be friends.

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Mar 25

Making friends

We've moved 3 times in the last 2 yrs and about to move again in a couple months. I lost most of my friends when my son was born and this last move was from TX to FL so I have no friends anymore. I want to make new mom friends but it's hard when we keep moving.

  • Lulu
    Mar 26

    Where do you live in FL?

  • Anonymous
    Mar 26

    Orlando

How do you meet mom friends?

...How do you meet mom friends when you’re relatively new to a city, now stay at home and have a 1 year old!? tried play ground, some play groups... just so hard...!

  • Alexandra
    May 04

    Thanks for responding I forgot I posted that! It’s just so hard.

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Feb 24

Anyone not love the town they live in?

Have been living in the PA burbs for 2 years, moved from another state and really miss my hometown and small town life. The township I live in has great schools for my kids and my spouse is only a few mins to his office, but this just doesn’t feel like home and we can’t really walk anywhere, its more like developments. I keep complaining that I want to move back, but the commute would be 70-90 ... More

  • Danielle
    Aug 24

    I have the same issue and also in pa, are you in bucks ?

  • Anonymous
    Aug 24

    @amber in Lower Merion!

Mom Friend Problems

How do new moms make friends. Stay at home mom and i’m having difficulty meeting people

“It’s getting hard to be someone but it all works out.”

Hi all! So I realize my daughter is only 15 months old and I have time to work on this but it’s been on my mind so here goes. How do parents of older children do it!?! I think about my years in junior high and high school and I don’t want that for my daughter. The angst of not being in the popular group. The angst of not being a perfect size 2. The crushing feeling of being turned down the ... More

  • anonymous mom
    Dec 05, 2018

    Michaela, thank you for responding! My mom and dad were both very nurturing and kind and always talked to me and wanted me to talk to them and I mostly did until I reached JR high and high school. I think something happened to shake my confidence in myself and for whatever reason I stopped wanting to talk to them and confide in them....I’m so worried something similar will happen with my own d... More

  • Lily
    Dec 05, 2018

    All that stuff is part becoming your own person, and the teenager years suck! But I think a really important thing is that your kid feel like they talk to you about things. My parents were pretty good until I got a boyfriend at 17 that they didn’t like. Whole long story.....but they kicked me out at 18. And I haven’t talked to them since. I tried to reconnect when I got pregnant, but they wante... More

Stranger danger

My daughter won’t let anyone hold except me, my boyfriend and my mother. How do I gently get her like other people then us. I have so many people who will watch her whenever we need a break but she cries if she doesn’t see us. How did you handle this situation?

  • Destinee
    Dec 02, 2018

    Totally normal. My daughter is just getting over this now and will let most people hold her. I just didn’t force it. She started going to others on her own time. She used to burst into tears anytime her grandpa even looked at her, but yesterday she spent the whole afternoon wanting to be held by him. It will get better

  • Christa
    Dec 02, 2018

    At 7 months they start picking favorites and start developing separation anxiety. This will change, just assure her that she’s fine, and that you’re still around close by! Sometimes just let them hold her as long as she’s completely comfortable and as soon as she starts showing lack of comfort, take her back. Give her something that smells like you while they hold her. We never really had tha... More

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