Making Friends

Advice and stories on making mom friends and dad friends, maintaining relationships with kids in the picture, helping your children develop social skills, and more.

“It’s getting hard to be someone but it all works out.”

Hi all! So I realize my daughter is only 15 months old and I have time to work on this but it’s been on my mind so here goes. How do parents of older children do it!?! I think about my years in junior high and high school and I don’t want that for my daughter. The angst of not being in the popular group. The angst of not being a perfect size 2. The crushing feeling of being turned down the ... More

  • Julie
    Dec 05

    Michaela, thank you for responding! My mom and dad were both very nurturing and kind and always talked to me and wanted me to talk to them and I mostly did until I reached JR high and high school. I think something happened to shake my confidence in myself and for whatever reason I stopped wanting to talk to them and confide in them....I’m so worried something similar will happen with my own d... More

  • Lily
    Dec 05

    All that stuff is part becoming your own person, and the teenager years suck! But I think a really important thing is that your kid feel like they talk to you about things. My parents were pretty good until I got a boyfriend at 17 that they didn’t like. Whole long story.....but they kicked me out at 18. And I haven’t talked to them since. I tried to reconnect when I got pregnant, but they wante... More

Wenonah posted in Behavior Dec 02

Stranger danger

My daughter won’t let anyone hold except me, my boyfriend and my mother. How do I gently get her like other people then us. I have so many people who will watch her whenever we need a break but she cries if she doesn’t see us. How did you handle this situation?

  • Destinee
    Dec 02

    Totally normal. My daughter is just getting over this now and will let most people hold her. I just didn’t force it. She started going to others on her own time. She used to burst into tears anytime her grandpa even looked at her, but yesterday she spent the whole afternoon wanting to be held by him. It will get better

  • Christa
    Dec 02

    At 7 months they start picking favorites and start developing separation anxiety. This will change, just assure her that she’s fine, and that you’re still around close by! Sometimes just let them hold her as long as she’s completely comfortable and as soon as she starts showing lack of comfort, take her back. Give her something that smells like you while they hold her. We never really had tha... More

Meeting mommy friends?

I've always been someone with a plenty of friends & people to hang out with & as soon as I became pregnant all my friends disappeared. I always knew moms who talked about losing friends when they became a mom but I didn't realize I was gonna have to meet all new friends. & Meeting mommy friends is a lot harder than I thought. Did any other mommys struggle with making new m... More

  • Misty
    Dec 04

    I’m struggling too! I’m new to area and everyone I know is 5.5t hours away! It’s tough!

  • Ruth
    Yesterday

    I’ve had a hard time making mom friends too. I’ve tried an app called peanut which like a tinder for moms to meet other moms. A lot of moms on there are a little unresponsive but I made one good mom friend in my area through the app so I think it was worth it!

I’m trying to make mommy friends

I’m just trying to make some new mommy friends 😊 it’ll be nice since I’m a new mom

Anonymous posted in Family Life Nov 28

Venting

I am the mother of a six and a half month old daughter. I just visited my home in Texas where my best friend told me that I am losing myself and that I am not just my daughters Mom. Also, that my only conversation topic is my child... I mean is that bad?!? I get what she is saying, but what is wrong with just being a Mom? I started working from home a month before giving birth, so I don’t inter... More

  • Erin
    Dec 01

    I have to disagree with your friend, there is nothing wrong with losing yourself in your kids a bit, especially when they are so little, because as you said, it does go by very fast. That's actually kind of a dumb thing to say anyway. You "lose yourself?" Where do you go? You are always still you!! I am 33 with two kids and despite my best efforts all my friends without kids have ... More

  • Raji
    Yesterday

    I would just ignore the comment. As long as you feel happy and content that’s all that matters. I have moved twice, husband was in army and now for his new job. We also have an almost year old kiddo. I am content with my husband and daughter. You don’t need many friends in your life to be happy. A few good ppl around is all I need. Just enjoy your daughter as much as you can as they grow quick. :)

Stranger Danger

My 3 year old step-kid is getting to the point where “stranger danger” is VERY important. They’re very shy and refuse to play with other kids...just the parents or other random adults. They will strike up a conversation with any passing adult and even try to open the door when people come knocking. This is TERRIFYING for my spouse and I. How do you handle stranger danger with a kid that young ... More

  • Anne
    Nov 26

    This is good advice. ^ It helps to focus the conversation on boundaries rather than fear/danger. When I'm at the playground I expect my children to ask me if it's okay to go play with another kid or talk to someone new. Same thing if someone offers them food, gives them a toy, knocks on the door, etc. Even if it's someone we know! If we're out somewhere and they do something wi... More

  • Sabrina
    Nov 26

    My niece just turned 3 and is the same way. & she loves to “adventure.” I am her primary care taker and I struggled with a way to explain stranger danger to her and I finally figured out the perfect way; here’s how. I LOVED Monsters Inc. as a child but was always cautious of “monsters” after I watched it. So, I asked Myleah (my niece) if she wanted to watch my favorite childhood movie for ... More

Anonymous posted in Behavior Nov 09

Stranger terror in 2 year old

My 2 year old has severe stranger anxiety. She cries until she throws up, screams and gets very upset even in familiar settings like our home, if strangers come by. She was doing great between 18-24 months of age, before that she had the regular stranger anxiety, but nowhere this intense. This has now been going on for two months. She is doing great in every other way. She is at home. I want t... More

  • Maddy
    Dec 07

    I think Judi has a great idea! I remember that movie and it's worth a try. I have the opposite issue with my son ..he has ZERO fear with anyone or anything. Granted fear is a learned behavior but despite my efforts to explain strangers, it does nothing. My question is that when she's with the nanny at home,is that every day? And how well do you know her? Does she do well with her? I'... More

  • Maddy
    Dec 07

    PS my kid is at home with me and not in daycare yet and like I said, he has zero fear. Your daughter is probably around more ppl then my kid but as we know all kids are different. So I'm not sure if daycare and more ppl around her are the answer if she always had interactions prior to the 2mnths ago, might be traumatic further. Idk, But that's my thoughts..Hopefully things get better❤

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Nov 08

Advice for making friends as an adult?

Over the years I’ve lost contact with essentially all friends, as has my husband. I’d love to make some friends, but it’s really hard because it seems everyone already has a social circle. We have done a couple play dates but when I’ve suggested just the parents go to dinner they’re never available. Any tips on how to make friends as an adult? My husband doesn’t drink so bar scenes are out, and... More

  • Amy
    Tuesday

    It's so hard! I've finally started making some friends after we moved - there are lots of better options for moms trying to meet up, and schedule play dates, than for singles and young married people that don't involve the bar scene! There's probably a MOPS group near you - moms of babies and preschoolers - that's goal is socializing/fun (crafts, discussions, etc) for moms w... More

  • Amy
    Tuesday

    Mops.org lets you search your area for a nearby group!

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Oct 29

Introvert..

So I’m a bit of an introvert. I don’t like talking to people lol. Besides my husband. I prefer to always be doing something or working than talking to friends/coworkers. Like I’ll never sit and get coffee with a friend. I’ll only do that if it’s a friend I rarely ever see. My best friend came over to my house on Saturday and I found it awkward. Normally we are in a group setting, outside of the... More

  • Cara
    Oct 30

    Whew! I am exactly this way, and pretty much happy to be this way. Unfortunately my bf and I are having problems right now, and he feels I do need to see a therapist because of my "anti-social" behavior, but I don't agree. I have the capability to be social, if I want, but I'm generally quiet and observe people. It's hard for me to come up with things to talk about.

  • Amanda
    Oct 30

    Hhahahah. I'm definitely the same! 🤣 I'm no good with small talk. I don't like to argue and I feel like so many things nowadays are so controversial I don't even know what to talk about. I try to take my baby to story time at the library as often as I can so he can see other kids and socialize without it being awkward for me.

Where is the time?

Hi parents! For those of us who work 40+ hours a week and only have Sat-Sun available, how do you make time for yourself? How do you make new friends? Huge thing on my mind. I’m finding I have no friends now that I work so much.

  • Anne
    Oct 29

    My “me” time is 8-10pm after the kids go to bed. That’s when I relax, read, do my hobbies, hang with hubby, etc. I protect this time by not scheduling myself to do chores, pay bills, etc. 8-10pm is rest time and when I make this time for myself the rest of my life goes so much smoother. I also use this time to call friends & family, chat online, or visit the ones who live close. I try to s... More

  • Alex
    Oct 29

    Thank you for the awesome insight!

Anonymous posted in Food & Cooking Oct 27

What else can I do?

I’m not sure what to do, my son is almost three and I feel like I’ve done everything wrong. He’s barely talking, hardly wants anything to eat aside from grilled cheese and pizza, isn’t super social, doesn’t want to potty train. I feel like I’ve ruined him, I don’t know what to do and it breaks my heart.

  • Anonymous Mom
    Oct 28

    Absolutely. Call early intervention they are GREAT! My son had speech therapy and now talks up a storm. He also had little social skills and after attending EI he is a HUGE people person. Now I’m trying to teach him stranger danger. Yes he used to not socialize barely at all and now he runs to anyone telling his name etc. EI is wonderful!

  • Sasha
    Oct 28

    Yes try early intervention they helped alot with my boys sometimes it takes someone else to be in control for them to do something they don't want . You'll learn alot for them

What’s a good age to start play dates?

I’m a SAHD with a 2mo old. I’m asking not just for my LO but also I think I could use some grown up interaction.

  • Tyson
    Oct 27

    There's no set age. I've taken a few as young as three months old. You can let them crawl around & play with toys, when they were tired I would let them sleep in their car carrier. When they are hungry give them a bottle or if old enough they get eat lunch usually provided by the host. You'll have a variety of ages usually from infants to 5ish age old (up to when they start scho... More

  • Megan
    Oct 28

    The sooner the better

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Oct 17

Are there any reasons that make it okay to drop out as a bridesmaid a week before the wedding?

  • Emily
    Oct 17

    Depends on why. If you just aren’t feeling it anymore than no that’s not okay. But as said above if there’s major issues then yeah of course. I was a bridesmaid for food poisoning I stayed for the ceremony and pictures and went home apologized up and down but I stayed for the important things

  • JJ
    Oct 17

    There’s lots of reasons to drop out. Could be a family emergency, heath issues, work related problems, travel concerns, or the engaged couple did something unforgivable or made unreasonable expectations.

My Daughter Wants More Friends

So my daughter told me she wants more friends but I don't know how to go about this? She's 2 as well so not many of my mom friends have kids her age. What do I do? Plus all I do is work so its hard to get out sometimes.

Play dates

How do I ask someone to go on a play date ?

  • Rachel
    Oct 19

    is your child in preschool? if so, see who they hang out with or talk about the most and try to meet the parents at drop off or pick up and set a play date at the park.. use Winnie and in a post let people know what city and state you’re from and post something like: interested in a play date for my child. i put my daughter in preschool at the end of last year at 3 years old (recommended by... More

  • Solmary
    Oct 30

    I’m in the same boat would love for my little one to make friends we have been living in CA for three years but unfortunately him not I have made that connection.. :)

Anonymous posted in Behavior Oct 11

Doesn't like to play with others..

My 20 month old daughter is my only child. And although we have a great bond she doesn't really seem to want to play with me or other toddlers her age. She loves my company when we're in her room but I'll pick up a toy and try to play with her and she will just come over and grab it and walk away. No matter what I try to do to be interactive she just wants to be on her own. Ive trie... More

  • Mallory
    Oct 12

    My son is also 20 months old and he mostly parallel plays with children his age as well. I was worried at first but was informed it’s normal.

  • Heather
    Oct 12

    I have 5 children my 3 oldest played with kids since under age 1 my 4th is 4 has never played with other kids his reason is because he’s autistic

Socializing preschooler

I need some ideas on how to socialize my 3 1/2 year old daughter who is a only child? We attend a gym class once a week but it is not enough interaction with other kids. We also go to the park when weather permits it, but that is not the most reliable way to make lasting friends or nice ones. I’m a stay at home mom and not in need of a preschool, I have looked into them just for the socializing... More

  • Megan
    Oct 12

    Are there any co op preschools around? Typically I’ve found them to be less expensive since parents stick around and participate. Gymboree Play and Music also has a sort of mini preschool program where you drop off for a couple hours once a week...they also do drop off art and music usually, depending on the site. It’s kind of a nice way to get them used to socializing without you around and ch... More

  • Janinne
    Oct 18

    Take her to your local library!!! They have programs for her age group that will socialize her. I have a 4 year old and 10 month old and they LOVE the library.

Advice for myself.

So I’m basically gonna be brutally honest here. I don’t have friends at all and I spend all my time with my babygirl unless I am working. I was thinking should I go out there and make friends or should I just stay the way I am?????????? I mean I am very selfish when it comes to my daughter and I don’t ask for ppl to take care of her when is not needed. I literally take her everywhere with me li... More

  • Ricardo
    Oct 14

    Girl! Go out, I give mommy, mommy breaks when she's a stay at home mom and takes care of my gmomey daughter. It's good to take breaks, enjoy yourself and well. Live your life too! ❤

  • Twinki
    Oct 15

    I feel like any time I spend outside of out of work, school or my kids... my husband makes up crazy stories of why I’m not at home. I never gave him reason not to believe me. It’s his past that he is so untrustworthy. I have a zero social life. Not even social media social life. Ikr?! I tried a girls night at our last duty station but that was a fail. I work full time, go to school full time ... More

6 month old socializing

Hi mommas. I have a 6 month old boy and have been wondering how to go about getting him more socialized. He’s currently being looked after at home by his grandma while I’m at work. I guess I’m wondering with that kind of arrangement, I’ve noticed that he’s more at home because she doesn’t go out with him except for a walk around the neighbourhood. Weekends tend to be busy with errands and such.... More

  • Sally
    Oct 11

    Thank you guys! This is super helpful!!

  • Jessica
    Oct 13

    Library infant story time for sure! I go with my 4 month old and he likes it. I've seen some grandmas there.

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