Making Friends

Advice and stories on making mom friends and dad friends, maintaining relationships with kids in the picture, helping your children develop social skills, and more.

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Mar 25

Making friends

We've moved 3 times in the last 2 yrs and about to move again in a couple months. I lost most of my friends when my son was born and this last move was from TX to FL so I have no friends anymore. I want to make new mom friends but it's hard when we keep moving.

  • Lulu
    Mar 26

    Where do you live in FL?

  • Anonymous
    Mar 26

    Orlando

How do you meet mom friends?

...How do you meet mom friends when you’re relatively new to a city, now stay at home and have a 1 year old!? tried play ground, some play groups... just so hard...!

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Feb 24

Anyone not love the town they live in?

Have been living in the PA burbs for 2 years, moved from another state and really miss my hometown and small town life. The township I live in has great schools for my kids and my spouse is only a few mins to his office, but this just doesn’t feel like home and we can’t really walk anywhere, its more like developments. I keep complaining that I want to move back, but the commute would be 70-90 ... More

  • Anonymous
    Feb 25

    Thanks! Our issue is we are in PA and family/friends are in NJ, and technically we could meet in Philadelphia which would be halfway for both, but my family acts like that is a huge ordeal bc it’s the city. And the surrounding areas aren’t the safest areas to meet up. I feel bad because so many of my friends live thousands of miles from family, so I should feel lucky that they are within an hou... More

  • Elle
    Feb 25

    What is it about the hometown that you miss? - is it the walking around? Suggest buying in a slightly different area nearby with more easily accessible acctivities in walking distance. - is it that you havent really made close friends yet? Try reaching out to different groups, cast your net wider! 70-90 min commute is no way to live.

Mom Friend Problems

How do new moms make friends. Stay at home mom and i’m having difficulty meeting people

  • Dakota
    Feb 05

    It’s so difficult, especially in the cold

“It’s getting hard to be someone but it all works out.”

Hi all! So I realize my daughter is only 15 months old and I have time to work on this but it’s been on my mind so here goes. How do parents of older children do it!?! I think about my years in junior high and high school and I don’t want that for my daughter. The angst of not being in the popular group. The angst of not being a perfect size 2. The crushing feeling of being turned down the ... More

  • Julie
    Dec 05, 2018

    Michaela, thank you for responding! My mom and dad were both very nurturing and kind and always talked to me and wanted me to talk to them and I mostly did until I reached JR high and high school. I think something happened to shake my confidence in myself and for whatever reason I stopped wanting to talk to them and confide in them....I’m so worried something similar will happen with my own d... More

  • Lily
    Dec 05, 2018

    All that stuff is part becoming your own person, and the teenager years suck! But I think a really important thing is that your kid feel like they talk to you about things. My parents were pretty good until I got a boyfriend at 17 that they didn’t like. Whole long story.....but they kicked me out at 18. And I haven’t talked to them since. I tried to reconnect when I got pregnant, but they wante... More

Stranger danger

My daughter won’t let anyone hold except me, my boyfriend and my mother. How do I gently get her like other people then us. I have so many people who will watch her whenever we need a break but she cries if she doesn’t see us. How did you handle this situation?

  • Destinee
    Dec 02, 2018

    Totally normal. My daughter is just getting over this now and will let most people hold her. I just didn’t force it. She started going to others on her own time. She used to burst into tears anytime her grandpa even looked at her, but yesterday she spent the whole afternoon wanting to be held by him. It will get better

  • Christa
    Dec 02, 2018

    At 7 months they start picking favorites and start developing separation anxiety. This will change, just assure her that she’s fine, and that you’re still around close by! Sometimes just let them hold her as long as she’s completely comfortable and as soon as she starts showing lack of comfort, take her back. Give her something that smells like you while they hold her. We never really had tha... More

Meeting mommy friends?

I've always been someone with a plenty of friends & people to hang out with & as soon as I became pregnant all my friends disappeared. I always knew moms who talked about losing friends when they became a mom but I didn't realize I was gonna have to meet all new friends. & Meeting mommy friends is a lot harder than I thought. Did any other mommys struggle with making new m... More

  • Misty
    Dec 04, 2018

    I’m struggling too! I’m new to area and everyone I know is 5.5t hours away! It’s tough!

I’m trying to make mommy friends

I’m just trying to make some new mommy friends 😊 it’ll be nice since I’m a new mom

Anonymous posted in Family Life Nov 28, 2018

Venting

I am the mother of a six and a half month old daughter. I just visited my home in Texas where my best friend told me that I am losing myself and that I am not just my daughters Mom. Also, that my only conversation topic is my child... I mean is that bad?!? I get what she is saying, but what is wrong with just being a Mom? I started working from home a month before giving birth, so I don’t inter... More

  • Raji
    Dec 14, 2018

    I would just ignore the comment. As long as you feel happy and content that’s all that matters. I have moved twice, husband was in army and now for his new job. We also have an almost year old kiddo. I am content with my husband and daughter. You don’t need many friends in your life to be happy. A few good ppl around is all I need. Just enjoy your daughter as much as you can as they grow quick. :)

  • Emily
    Jan 01

    I came to realization that a lot of my friends before baby were due to habits and a lifestyle that I’m not a part of anymore. The friendships weren’t deep enough to continue on either end because I wasn’t drinking or going out. Ever since my daughter was born I haven’t missed any of it though. I don’t have a lot of friends with kids so I became secluded, but not unhappy. I got to read more and ... More

Stranger Danger

My 3 year old step-kid is getting to the point where “stranger danger” is VERY important. They’re very shy and refuse to play with other kids...just the parents or other random adults. They will strike up a conversation with any passing adult and even try to open the door when people come knocking. This is TERRIFYING for my spouse and I. How do you handle stranger danger with a kid that young ... More

  • Anne
    Nov 26, 2018

    This is good advice. ^ It helps to focus the conversation on boundaries rather than fear/danger. When I'm at the playground I expect my children to ask me if it's okay to go play with another kid or talk to someone new. Same thing if someone offers them food, gives them a toy, knocks on the door, etc. Even if it's someone we know! If we're out somewhere and they do something wi... More

  • Sabrina
    Nov 26, 2018

    My niece just turned 3 and is the same way. & she loves to “adventure.” I am her primary care taker and I struggled with a way to explain stranger danger to her and I finally figured out the perfect way; here’s how. I LOVED Monsters Inc. as a child but was always cautious of “monsters” after I watched it. So, I asked Myleah (my niece) if she wanted to watch my favorite childhood movie for ... More

Anonymous posted in Behavior Nov 09, 2018

Stranger terror in 2 year old

My 2 year old has severe stranger anxiety. She cries until she throws up, screams and gets very upset even in familiar settings like our home, if strangers come by. She was doing great between 18-24 months of age, before that she had the regular stranger anxiety, but nowhere this intense. This has now been going on for two months. She is doing great in every other way. She is at home. I want t... More

  • Maddy
    Dec 07, 2018

    I think Judi has a great idea! I remember that movie and it's worth a try. I have the opposite issue with my son ..he has ZERO fear with anyone or anything. Granted fear is a learned behavior but despite my efforts to explain strangers, it does nothing. My question is that when she's with the nanny at home,is that every day? And how well do you know her? Does she do well with her? I'... More

  • Maddy
    Dec 07, 2018

    PS my kid is at home with me and not in daycare yet and like I said, he has zero fear. Your daughter is probably around more ppl then my kid but as we know all kids are different. So I'm not sure if daycare and more ppl around her are the answer if she always had interactions prior to the 2mnths ago, might be traumatic further. Idk, But that's my thoughts..Hopefully things get better❤

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Nov 08, 2018

Advice for making friends as an adult?

Over the years I’ve lost contact with essentially all friends, as has my husband. I’d love to make some friends, but it’s really hard because it seems everyone already has a social circle. We have done a couple play dates but when I’ve suggested just the parents go to dinner they’re never available. Any tips on how to make friends as an adult? My husband doesn’t drink so bar scenes are out, and... More

  • Amy
    Dec 11, 2018

    Mops.org lets you search your area for a nearby group!

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Oct 29, 2018

Introvert..

So I’m a bit of an introvert. I don’t like talking to people lol. Besides my husband. I prefer to always be doing something or working than talking to friends/coworkers. Like I’ll never sit and get coffee with a friend. I’ll only do that if it’s a friend I rarely ever see. My best friend came over to my house on Saturday and I found it awkward. Normally we are in a group setting, outside of the... More

  • Cara
    Oct 30, 2018

    Whew! I am exactly this way, and pretty much happy to be this way. Unfortunately my bf and I are having problems right now, and he feels I do need to see a therapist because of my "anti-social" behavior, but I don't agree. I have the capability to be social, if I want, but I'm generally quiet and observe people. It's hard for me to come up with things to talk about.

  • Amanda
    Oct 30, 2018

    Hhahahah. I'm definitely the same! 🤣 I'm no good with small talk. I don't like to argue and I feel like so many things nowadays are so controversial I don't even know what to talk about. I try to take my baby to story time at the library as often as I can so he can see other kids and socialize without it being awkward for me.

Where is the time?

Hi parents! For those of us who work 40+ hours a week and only have Sat-Sun available, how do you make time for yourself? How do you make new friends? Huge thing on my mind. I’m finding I have no friends now that I work so much.

  • Anne
    Oct 29, 2018

    My “me” time is 8-10pm after the kids go to bed. That’s when I relax, read, do my hobbies, hang with hubby, etc. I protect this time by not scheduling myself to do chores, pay bills, etc. 8-10pm is rest time and when I make this time for myself the rest of my life goes so much smoother. I also use this time to call friends & family, chat online, or visit the ones who live close. I try to s... More

  • Alex
    Oct 29, 2018

    Thank you for the awesome insight!

Anonymous posted in Food & Cooking Oct 27, 2018

What else can I do?

I’m not sure what to do, my son is almost three and I feel like I’ve done everything wrong. He’s barely talking, hardly wants anything to eat aside from grilled cheese and pizza, isn’t super social, doesn’t want to potty train. I feel like I’ve ruined him, I don’t know what to do and it breaks my heart.

  • Anonymous Mom
    Oct 28, 2018

    Absolutely. Call early intervention they are GREAT! My son had speech therapy and now talks up a storm. He also had little social skills and after attending EI he is a HUGE people person. Now I’m trying to teach him stranger danger. Yes he used to not socialize barely at all and now he runs to anyone telling his name etc. EI is wonderful!

  • Sasha
    Oct 28, 2018

    Yes try early intervention they helped alot with my boys sometimes it takes someone else to be in control for them to do something they don't want . You'll learn alot for them

What’s a good age to start play dates?

I’m a SAHD with a 2mo old. I’m asking not just for my LO but also I think I could use some grown up interaction.

  • Megan
    Oct 28, 2018

    The sooner the better

  • Jennifer
    Dec 27, 2018

    Check your local community centers a lot of them have an open gym for kids 5yrs-younger usually just a gym full of toys. We really enjoy these. Library story times is also great, a lot of libraries will also have a kids corner with a theme for kids to play in.

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Oct 17, 2018

Are there any reasons that make it okay to drop out as a bridesmaid a week before the wedding?

  • Emily
    Oct 17, 2018

    Depends on why. If you just aren’t feeling it anymore than no that’s not okay. But as said above if there’s major issues then yeah of course. I was a bridesmaid for food poisoning I stayed for the ceremony and pictures and went home apologized up and down but I stayed for the important things

  • JJ
    Oct 17, 2018

    There’s lots of reasons to drop out. Could be a family emergency, heath issues, work related problems, travel concerns, or the engaged couple did something unforgivable or made unreasonable expectations.

My Daughter Wants More Friends

So my daughter told me she wants more friends but I don't know how to go about this? She's 2 as well so not many of my mom friends have kids her age. What do I do? Plus all I do is work so its hard to get out sometimes.

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