Making Friends

Advice and stories on making mom friends and dad friends, maintaining relationships with kids in the picture, helping your children develop social skills, and more.

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Sep 07

Relocating to Austin, TX from FL

We’re evaluating a move from South Florida (suburbs of Fort Lauderdale) to Austin/job opportunity for my husband. Looking for any and all advice from families who have made a similar move. Nervous working momma of a 2 & 4 year old trying to work through all of the emotions of leaving home/family etc. Appreciate any tips & advice!

FTM Needs advice on making Mommy Friends

Hi everyone! First time mom to my son born in November. I'm also a stay at home mom. I love the fact that I get the chance to stay home and watch my son reach all his milestones, but I feel like I'm slowly going crazy from lack of adult interaction! I've tried some mommy groups on Facebook and while I think I click with some moms, the feeling doesn't seem to be mutual. How do ... More

  • Cathy
    Aug 29

    Moms Club! www.momsclub.org

  • Jennifer
    Aug 29

    I was able to make moms friends through my daughter preschool. The babysitter was changing location and ended her home daycare in May. The school had 12 students. (State required) Since the kids grew up together and have known each other since they were 2-3yrs old, and now they are 5 going to kindergarten soon. Some are going to the same upcoming kindergarten, but some are not. We were sad. So ... More

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Jul 29

No social life

Is it just me or is motherhood really lonely? I literally go weeks where I have no contact with anyone other than my husband, my sisters, or my mom. I work from home so I have no work friends. We moved when we had kids and I have one friend here and lots of acquaintances. I know other moms are busy but it feels like no one even tries to get to know me. Like, no one even asks me questio... More

  • Tiffany
    Thursday

    Are you in any local mom groups? You’ll find other moms like yourself that you can relate and possibly be able to get & interact with them and their children.

  • Lauren
    Thursday

    Look up Moms groups on Facebook. Or join a gym with childcare. People are very busy and I’ve noticed even at parks other moms are usually there in groups, so they are not interested in talking to strangers. Or get your mom or sister to babysit and join a art class, dance class, ANYTHING where people are away from phones. You will for sure meet some people that way!

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Jul 18

Making mom friends

Hey everyone I am feeling a bit isolated after having my baby. Any tips on making some Mom friends? Also going back to work so advice for a working mom would be great too.

  • Suz
    Aug 10

    Our daycare provides a class list with parent emails. I emailed and invited the other moms to a dinner out to get to know each other and every single one was interested - I think we were all in the same boat! It was lovely and easy to keep in touch because our kids are together in daycare and we have something in common. Not everyone was able to come to the event/subsequent events but some have... More

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Jul 11

I am not sure if I am overreacting and I wanted to get feedback.

Last week I had a play date with a friend that has a daughter that is 2.5 y/o. My son is 3.5. They were playing in a splash pad. There were two older girls playing there as well, they were about 9 and 10. My son was sitting by me eating some goldfish and my friends daughter was playing with the older girls. She was touching their face. I said to my friend "Your daughter is really friendly.... More

  • Anonymous
    Jul 18

    Thank you all for your response. My son is actually pretty friendly, when she made the comment he was sitting next to me eating a lollipop. I have taken him to the park and plays well with others. I am not a friendly person because I feel like other moms are very judgmental. I have my way of raising my kids and there's other parenting styles and I just don't want to butt heads. I gues... More

  • Kieli
    Jul 18

    I feel the same way, that I’m always being judged. Especially because I’m a young mom, I had my first daughter when I was 19. Now I’m 21 with 2. So yeah I feel like people judge a lot. And that’s not right, it’s not a competition, when my daughter is around other kids I’m simply happy she’s getting the interaction! I’m sorry you’ve been dealing with this.

Relocating

My family and I currently live upstate NY and we’re moving to the jersey shore, we bought a beautiful house, I have a 11 10 and 3 year old- my husband is a disabled Iraqi veteran and he is really weird about making friends. I will need to get a job and I know I’ll meet people there but I haven’t worked since my baby was 6 months - I couldn’t handle it. I want to start fresh and befriend some pe... More

Anonymous posted in Making Friends May 02

Need encouragement

Not sure why but I've been feeling very lonely. A lot of my friends are single and not a mom, so it feels like I'm unrelatable and hard to connect now. I don't have anyone to talk to. I've tried reaching out but no one really responds or can talk for very long. I just wish I had mama friends. Please send some encouragement here. I just feel so alone.

  • Ev
    May 05

    Your park district or local library may have “Mom and me” activities or story times, that are great places to meet Moms. Local churches sometimes have “Mom’s Day Out” activities, where you could volunteer to provide breaks for other Moms and have a chance to meet and connect with other Moms at the same time. Good luck! You’ve been very intuitive about sensing a real need in yourself. Visualize ... More

  • Jennifer
    May 21

    I feel the same but was able to make 2 good mommy friends from my daughters preschool recently. If you are located near the San Gabriel, CA area please message me so we can be friends.

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Mar 25

Making friends

We've moved 3 times in the last 2 yrs and about to move again in a couple months. I lost most of my friends when my son was born and this last move was from TX to FL so I have no friends anymore. I want to make new mom friends but it's hard when we keep moving.

  • Lulu
    Mar 26

    Where do you live in FL?

  • Anonymous
    Mar 26

    Orlando

How do you meet mom friends?

...How do you meet mom friends when you’re relatively new to a city, now stay at home and have a 1 year old!? tried play ground, some play groups... just so hard...!

  • Alexandra
    May 04

    Thanks for responding I forgot I posted that! It’s just so hard.

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Feb 24

Anyone not love the town they live in?

Have been living in the PA burbs for 2 years, moved from another state and really miss my hometown and small town life. The township I live in has great schools for my kids and my spouse is only a few mins to his office, but this just doesn’t feel like home and we can’t really walk anywhere, its more like developments. I keep complaining that I want to move back, but the commute would be 70-90 ... More

  • Danielle
    Aug 24

    I have the same issue and also in pa, are you in bucks ?

  • Anonymous
    Aug 24

    @amber in Lower Merion!

Mom Friend Problems

How do new moms make friends. Stay at home mom and i’m having difficulty meeting people

“It’s getting hard to be someone but it all works out.”

Hi all! So I realize my daughter is only 15 months old and I have time to work on this but it’s been on my mind so here goes. How do parents of older children do it!?! I think about my years in junior high and high school and I don’t want that for my daughter. The angst of not being in the popular group. The angst of not being a perfect size 2. The crushing feeling of being turned down the ... More

  • anonymous mom
    Dec 05, 2018

    Michaela, thank you for responding! My mom and dad were both very nurturing and kind and always talked to me and wanted me to talk to them and I mostly did until I reached JR high and high school. I think something happened to shake my confidence in myself and for whatever reason I stopped wanting to talk to them and confide in them....I’m so worried something similar will happen with my own d... More

  • Lily
    Dec 05, 2018

    All that stuff is part becoming your own person, and the teenager years suck! But I think a really important thing is that your kid feel like they talk to you about things. My parents were pretty good until I got a boyfriend at 17 that they didn’t like. Whole long story.....but they kicked me out at 18. And I haven’t talked to them since. I tried to reconnect when I got pregnant, but they wante... More

Stranger danger

My daughter won’t let anyone hold except me, my boyfriend and my mother. How do I gently get her like other people then us. I have so many people who will watch her whenever we need a break but she cries if she doesn’t see us. How did you handle this situation?

  • Destinee
    Dec 02, 2018

    Totally normal. My daughter is just getting over this now and will let most people hold her. I just didn’t force it. She started going to others on her own time. She used to burst into tears anytime her grandpa even looked at her, but yesterday she spent the whole afternoon wanting to be held by him. It will get better

  • Christa
    Dec 02, 2018

    At 7 months they start picking favorites and start developing separation anxiety. This will change, just assure her that she’s fine, and that you’re still around close by! Sometimes just let them hold her as long as she’s completely comfortable and as soon as she starts showing lack of comfort, take her back. Give her something that smells like you while they hold her. We never really had tha... More

Meeting mommy friends?

I've always been someone with a plenty of friends & people to hang out with & as soon as I became pregnant all my friends disappeared. I always knew moms who talked about losing friends when they became a mom but I didn't realize I was gonna have to meet all new friends. & Meeting mommy friends is a lot harder than I thought. Did any other mommys struggle with making new m... More

I’m trying to make mommy friends

I’m just trying to make some new mommy friends 😊 it’ll be nice since I’m a new mom

Anonymous posted in Family Life Nov 28, 2018

Venting

I am the mother of a six and a half month old daughter. I just visited my home in Texas where my best friend told me that I am losing myself and that I am not just my daughters Mom. Also, that my only conversation topic is my child... I mean is that bad?!? I get what she is saying, but what is wrong with just being a Mom? I started working from home a month before giving birth, so I don’t inter... More

  • Raji
    Dec 14, 2018

    I would just ignore the comment. As long as you feel happy and content that’s all that matters. I have moved twice, husband was in army and now for his new job. We also have an almost year old kiddo. I am content with my husband and daughter. You don’t need many friends in your life to be happy. A few good ppl around is all I need. Just enjoy your daughter as much as you can as they grow quick. :)

  • Emily
    Jan 01

    I came to realization that a lot of my friends before baby were due to habits and a lifestyle that I’m not a part of anymore. The friendships weren’t deep enough to continue on either end because I wasn’t drinking or going out. Ever since my daughter was born I haven’t missed any of it though. I don’t have a lot of friends with kids so I became secluded, but not unhappy. I got to read more and ... More

Stranger Danger

My 3 year old step-kid is getting to the point where “stranger danger” is VERY important. They’re very shy and refuse to play with other kids...just the parents or other random adults. They will strike up a conversation with any passing adult and even try to open the door when people come knocking. This is TERRIFYING for my spouse and I. How do you handle stranger danger with a kid that young ... More

  • Anne
    Nov 26, 2018

    This is good advice. ^ It helps to focus the conversation on boundaries rather than fear/danger. When I'm at the playground I expect my children to ask me if it's okay to go play with another kid or talk to someone new. Same thing if someone offers them food, gives them a toy, knocks on the door, etc. Even if it's someone we know! If we're out somewhere and they do something wi... More

  • Sabrina
    Nov 26, 2018

    My niece just turned 3 and is the same way. & she loves to “adventure.” I am her primary care taker and I struggled with a way to explain stranger danger to her and I finally figured out the perfect way; here’s how. I LOVED Monsters Inc. as a child but was always cautious of “monsters” after I watched it. So, I asked Myleah (my niece) if she wanted to watch my favorite childhood movie for ... More

Anonymous posted in Behavior Nov 09, 2018

Stranger terror in 2 year old

My 2 year old has severe stranger anxiety. She cries until she throws up, screams and gets very upset even in familiar settings like our home, if strangers come by. She was doing great between 18-24 months of age, before that she had the regular stranger anxiety, but nowhere this intense. This has now been going on for two months. She is doing great in every other way. She is at home. I want t... More

  • Zoija
    Sep 05

    So its been almost a year since you posted and im curious to know how things have been. My daughter is 22 months and exhibits this exact same behaviour. The only difference is, it's mainly at home or my mothers house ( her safe places). When people come to visit, even her 4 yr old cousin and aunt, she absolutely loses it. Its like a full blown panic attack. Strangers are worse. Nothing i s... More

  • Richa
    Sep 14

    My 22 month is exactly the same. She has speech delay too and she is okay in any setting as long as people don’t look directly at her and don’t talk to her. She is very jolly with her parents and makes great eye contact with us but not with others. We don’t socialise much because of this. I gave her sufficient outside time since beginning but she has never been exposed to lot of people. Going t... More

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Nov 08, 2018

Advice for making friends as an adult?

Over the years I’ve lost contact with essentially all friends, as has my husband. I’d love to make some friends, but it’s really hard because it seems everyone already has a social circle. We have done a couple play dates but when I’ve suggested just the parents go to dinner they’re never available. Any tips on how to make friends as an adult? My husband doesn’t drink so bar scenes are out, and... More

  • Amy
    Dec 11, 2018

    Mops.org lets you search your area for a nearby group!

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