Mental Health

Support, advice, and self-care techniques for coping with a wide range of mental health issues including depression, anxiety, stress, and fatigue.

Anonymous posted in Labor & Delivery 6h ago

PTSD from c section?

I had a really traumatic birth with my first and had to have an emergency c section. Everything that could of went wrong did and I’m terrified it will happen again. I’m pregnant again and have a c section scheduled for may 13th. Its giving me so much anxiety and keeping me up at night. I’m terrified! Was your second c section any better? Does that fear go away? I’ve talked to my doctor about it... More

  • B
    1h ago

    I had a planned caection, and it was much less traumatic than what I’m sure an emergency one was. Although I went into labor early, so had it early. You are awake the whole time, and can see and touch baby right away. Ask your doctor now to talk you through exactly what will happen. It helped me a lot. I also asked the nurse during to tell me what was happening.

  • Anonymous
    1h ago

    Thank you so much ladies I don’t know how I posted it anonymously but definitely needed some encouragement. We’ve talked about Vbac but I’m even more scared of the risks with that just because I have some health issues. My dreams have just been so bad lately and almost every dream I die while giving birth so it’s just a huge anxiety thing for me. I really appreciate all of your stories/encourag... More

Juggling work and the real work (motherhood)

Anyone else having a hard time juggling work and motherhood?!?! I feel guilty when I’m not with my son and before he was born I know I’d give my all at work, and although I still do my job as I should, I feel guilty I don’t put in the same effort and attention I used to. I called out of work today because I had an ER scare with my son last night and even though nothing comes before him and I k... More

  • Lyndsie
    57m ago

    I work 3 (12-hr) workdays a week, which often gives me a huge gap of days off. It gives me a unique perspective in that I am able to see that I am a more attentive and less touched out mother when I am at home after working a few days. After a long stretch of days off I become less patient and less focused. It has helped me realize that getting a break through working actually makes me a better... More

  • Elle
    39m ago

    PPA is a real thing. If you find yourself more tired and anxious than before, maybe defer this decision and talk to a few doctors for their opinions first.

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Tuesday

Maybe postpartum depression?

So I’ve had terrible back pain for the past 3 month. It’s very hard to move even just sitting down or standing up is a struggle. It makes me want to be very lazy and it doesn’t really work because my son will be a year nov. 5 and has been walking and getting into everything. I try my hardest but it’s so hard to get out of bed every morning. Could this be ppd? Or depression from my back pain? Wh... More

  • Tammy
    Yesterday

    I think they are most definitely affiliated. Self awareness is the first step to getting help. Everyone’s ppd is different but mine is fueled from not feeling like my full potential. My girls don’t suffer from lack of love or attention but I struggle with the inadequacy to find the energy and pain free (back/hips/knees) life I once had. I once told a friend I wasn’t productive and they said ‘th... More

  • Hannah
    Yesterday

    Did you get an epidural? My back is messed up from mine.

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Monday

Not excited about #2

I’m trying to get excited about baby #2 but I’m having a hard time. It wasn’t a planned thing and it was so hard to get pregnant with our first (lots of fertility issues) so every moment was so special. I just still can’t wrap my head around another baby and how hard 2 will be. I feel bad but I just can’t seem to get excited even through everyone around me is. I feel bad I don’t feel way that w... More

  • Janinne
    Monday

    I planned each of my children and let me tell you- what you're feeling is normal. It's ok. You're not a terrible person. Whether or not you plan your first, second or third baby, being worried and nervous is completely normal. And ok!!! Just enjoy these last moments with your first baby.

  • Jen
    Today

    I felt the same way with my second he is 2 months now. The love and bonding is growing day by day. It’s hard and you keep feeling guilty every now but it’s all just more love in your family now.

How do you make it through your toughest days? Where you feel like you just can’t go on?

How do you make it through your toughest days? Where you are physically and emotionally drained and you can barely go on and operate? 😔 having one of those days.

  • Anonymous
    Monday

    If my husband has the day off, I honestly have some wine😂🤦‍♀️ Take the kids out (my older kids are no stress no problem, it’s my toddler....😫) get the little one tired out & call it a day earlier than usual to have some me/us time. If I’m alone (because my husband works long shifts) I take all them out & ask ny older ones to play with their little brother so he can get tired out & ... More

  • Jessica
    Monday

    I text my sis or call my mom or dad. They’re over 800 miles away, so having a babe with no family near has been tough. I’ve had many of those days! Reaching out for support and hearing encouraging words helps. Also, deep breathing. Hang in there!

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Sunday

How to say “I’m Not Okay”

Hi everyone. I’ve recently been struggling severely with my mental health again. I hadn’t self harmed in 11 months and one night I fell off the wagon. I’ve started eating unhealthily again and reverting back to my “old self” in some ways. I have no idea how to approach my family and boyfriend about it. They’ve been with me through hospitalizations and what lead up to them. I know they’ll be ... More

  • Lulu
    Monday

    Hey I just wanted to tell you about the Wysa app, I have it and I love it. It helps me get through soooo much. Good luck. I'm praying for you

  • Jordan
    Monday

    You should never be ashamed to seek help for your own well being mama! Depression and anxiety came back full force for me within the past few months. I have learned that if you can communicate to your loved ones they are typically more than willing to help in any way. I saw my doc, changed my meds, explained my current state to close family and friends and have been feeling better and better. Y... More

How to survive pregnancy while caring for a baby?

Currently 27 weeks pregnant with a 7 month old.. hubby wasted no time 🙃 (he and his brother are a year apart, so he has this idea it’ll be easy and they can keep each other company since they’ll be close in age etc, so against my better judgement I agreed with him 🤦🏾‍♀️) it’s been over a month since I quit working but it seems like I’m more tired now than when I worked 😩 but I dare not vent to ... More

  • Delaney
    Friday

    I always find going on walks gives me energy. Definitely somewhere with a bit more of nature. Plus it’ll keep your little one busy and entertained.

  • MG
    Tuesday

    I don’t have much advice but just support! Just know that I find caring for a baby is much harder and tiring then being at work! And that’s not even being pregnant. I can only imagine! I work very busy 10-12hrs days on my feet without a break and I find it to be much easier then taking care of my babes. So whoever is mommy shamming you, shame on them for not being understanding and supportive! ... More

JJ posted in Funny Thursday

What are you up to?

Anyone else hastily eating Oreos in a locked bathroom right now while you play the running water soothing sounds on your phone to convince your family you’re taking a quick shower before bed so you can have 7 minutes to yourself? No... just me? I figured. Ok.

  • Jennifer
    Tuesday

    Sometimes I sit in the bathroom pretending I'm taking a dump but I'm just sitting there for 5 min to get some peace before my little one starts banging on the door. 😄

  • Lulu
    Tuesday

    ^Did I write that? Lol

Bio Mom issues.

I have an 11 yr old step daughter. Been apart of her life for two years. Recently she’s discovering her mom is not really interested in her personally, just in having occasional updates on her life and pictures to post to Facebook so she can pretend to be involved and a good mother. 11yr old for the most part feels pretty uninterested in her mom, and whines a lot about how ironic it is that eve... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 11

    I’d ask her about her feelings about it in an open ended way. Not “does this make you feel bad?” because I wouldn’t want to project any emotions on to her. But as someone whose father wasn’t around, she DOES have feelings about it. I never brought it up with my mom because I didn’t want to make her feel bad and she decided to wait for me to bring it up. So I basically sat with all those issues ... More

  • Jenny
    Sunday

    The only behavior you can control is your own. Love her and be the mom she needs and deserves and the rest will fall into place. As she grows and becomes more mature, she will work out her relationship with her biological mother on her own. She is just lucky to have you.

Advice for myself.

So I’m basically gonna be brutally honest here. I don’t have friends at all and I spend all my time with my babygirl unless I am working. I was thinking should I go out there and make friends or should I just stay the way I am?????????? I mean I am very selfish when it comes to my daughter and I don’t ask for ppl to take care of her when is not needed. I literally take her everywhere with me li... More

  • Ricardo
    Sunday

    Girl! Go out, I give mommy, mommy breaks when she's a stay at home mom and takes care of my gmomey daughter. It's good to take breaks, enjoy yourself and well. Live your life too! ❤

  • Twinki
    Monday

    I feel like any time I spend outside of out of work, school or my kids... my husband makes up crazy stories of why I’m not at home. I never gave him reason not to believe me. It’s his past that he is so untrustworthy. I have a zero social life. Not even social media social life. Ikr?! I tried a girls night at our last duty station but that was a fail. I work full time, go to school full time ... More

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Oct 10

Why is taking care of myself considered being selfish?

So I have a wonderful boyfriend of whom I have a beautiful daughter with. I work full time and take care of business at home. I decided after utter chaos at work that I needed a mental/mommy alone time day. My coworker said I shouldn’t use my vacation time for selfish needs and should use that time to bond with my child. In her eyes I’m an awful mother because I choose to work. She stopped work... More

  • GSD82
    Friday

    You go girl! I do the same thing. Never feel bad. If you’re taking care of yourself and giving yourself sometime you taking care of your kiddo in the long run. I work full time, my husband had a crazy work schedule and our son goes to full time day care. We are paying for childcare I will take advantage of every penny. Somedays I’m able to cut out of work early and I will go shopping, mani/ped... More

  • Anonymous
    Monday

    Well today was glorious, and coworker can kick rocks! Thanks everyone!

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Oct 08

alternative therapy/counseling

Any favorite online or mobile counseling websites or apps that people use (that aren't too pricey)? I don't have the ability to have in person sessions but I'm feeling desperately in need.

  • Tristan
    Oct 09

    I don’t have an answer for you right now. But to see someone needing help and not even getting an answer? I know how much that can hurt. So, I’m here to say that at the very least, we are here for you. I know it’s not what you asked, but I hope it’s enough for now.

  • Sam
    Oct 10

    Following, I am interested in finding something like that also. Or maybe a forum or private group or page where moms/women connect and chat/vent privately with some one....any one who is just willing to listen every now and then. I’ve searched all over the web with no luck on anything legit. It should not be so hard to find a safe and affordable place online to access basic counseling or suppo... More

Relax?

What are some of the things you do to relax? Like for example after your kid fights you for an hour about taking a nap (like mine just did)? Or is being challenging with behavior? I am trying to stop stress eating. But I know I need to CHILL.

  • Celeste
    Oct 09

    I take a bath and smoke a blunt . (:

  • Jessica
    Oct 11

    To ease daily stress I get outside with my little guy. The fresh air makes him happy and watching him running around playing with other kids makes me feel good. Even better invite a mom friend.

Anonymous posted in Marriage & Partnership Oct 08

Depressed

I went through a lot of ppd, and thought it was over until about a week ago. I had a dream about the c section I had with my son and I feel like all of the emotions came flooding back in. On top of that, I found out that my ‘friends’ for the last two years were extremely fake and pretended to like me. So now I’m depressed and have no friends, and my fiancé doesn’t understand what I’m going thro... More

  • Anonymous
    Friday

    I’m scheduling an appointment with a therapist soon. Thank you everyone! My whole like I’ve battled anxiety and depression but was never medicated and I’m considering it now actually. I’m hoping some combination helps.

  • Jennifer
    Friday

    Keep us posted on how it goes. Best of luck! Do be aware that some medications do have side effect. For me, I was prescribed Prozac when I was depress before but for some reason that medication made it worst for me as it caused me to be even more suicidal. I've also notice when I take the medication when I start to feel depress, my head would hurt. It's as if my head is telling me ... More

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Oct 07

Mental Health 10 months PP

Did anyone else hit a major... slump at 10 mo PP? For the last month I've felt... numb. Not happy, not sad, just flat. Then all of a sudden this week I'm starting to feel... I have no words for it; not sad, not flat/emotionless, but... bad. Unmotivated. Really tired, even though baby is and has been sleeping through the night. Anyone willing to share their story would really help. I'... More

  • Lulu
    Oct 08

    Try vitamins. Whenever I don't take mine I really notice a difference and it looks like what you're going through. I use Perfect Postnatal by New Chapter, found on vitacost.com for the best price. Also try the Wysa app. It has helped me through many a funk and it's free. If that fails definitely see your doctor.

  • Erin
    Oct 11

    With PPD/PPA it all stems from this horrible notion that our isolationist type of culture perpetuates which is we as mothers need to be able to do it all without any help (social media, I blame you!). Sadly, when we compare ourselves to others we think we need to be everything to our child. This is simply untrue and totally toxic to raising a healthy human. Mothers should not be the sole source... More

Bipolar?

Every time my husband and I get in an argument, he always is telling me that I’m bipolar and I need to get checked out. And it hurts when he tells me this, because he always is saying bad things about my mom who we think may be bipolar. I’ve expressed to him that I don’t like when he says it, and my dad doesn’t think I am. We live with his sister, and I’m pregnant so yeah I get upset about thin... More

  • Cherish
    Oct 08

    I am actually bipolar. People often use it as an adjective to describe strong fluctuations in mood. This is not okay. What you’re describing is normal pregnancy hormones. Your mood is going to be erratic! That’s okay! My suggestion would be to talk to him (when you’re both calm) and ask him to stop using this term as an adjective. It can be painful to be labeled something you’re not- esp... More

  • Kieli
    Oct 08

    Thank you guys! That’s what I thought too. I need to talk to him about it. I don’t think he means it, because after our arguments he always acts like everything is okay. So I’m not sure if he’s saying it out of anger, (He says everyone asks him what’s up my butt when I’m like that) or because he wants me to stop being upset

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Oct 06

Paternal Postpartum Depression?

Does anyone have experience with their spouse being depressed after baby was born? My husband has been uncharacteristically frustrated with our second baby. With the first, he bonded very quickly. Last night, the baby started to cry and he insisted on trying to calm her down even though he seemed frustrated. I offered to do it and for him to take our toddler instead, but he wouldn’t let me take... More

  • Josh
    Oct 06

    New dad here to a wonderful week old girl. Has your partner stated he has PPD. I was actually talking to my wife today that sometimes it is frustrating. Not in a negative way towards the baby as in I don’t love her or have a connection. More in a I want to be more active during night hours so she can get more sleep and rest in between feeds. Maybe his frustration is resulting from the same? Tr... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 07

    Thanks New Dad, it seems my husband and you are on the same page about medications, lol. I don’t think he wants to be more active/involved as we already take shifts, but I do think he is such a good dad to the first that he wants to be able to be the same kind of father to the second. I think that he doesn’t remember how hard it was with the first because he kind of took the lead for me-he had ... More

Loneliness

Lately I’ve been feeling a loss of self identity. I have no idea who I am anymore. I’m so consumed with cleaning, cooking, and nurturing that I do not do anything for myself. I am going to college but I’m so overwhelmed with balancing school work and housework and now college isn’t even fun and it feels like a chore. I thought that going back to school would make me feel like I’m doing my own t... More

  • Alexis
    Oct 06

    I would try to connect with your friends and just hangout. Going back to school can be a headache it is more work. Or just going to the store by yourself is just a relief sometimes. ☘️🍀

  • Randi
    Oct 07

    I can relate to this more than I’d like to admit! I have three kiddos and I’m in my senior year of nursing school working on my bachelors. School is hard, parenting is hard, making sure the home our children live in is clean and nurturing is hard! I worked on finding girlfriends to hang out with (which unfortunately is also hard). I have just two, but there amazing for my mental health! I also ... More

Stay at home mom

Being a stay at home mom is so hard. My boyfriend works 7 days a week from when it’s dark in the morning till dark at night. I hate complaining about being lonely even tho he provides for us and I’m at home all day with our child. There is a beauty to it. You get to experience all their first. From giggles,rolling over and tantrums, but it can also be exhausting.. Even if you have a amazing chi... More

  • Julia
    Oct 05

    You are not alone. I've been a SAHM for a year now as well and my man works overnights...so we never get to even sleep together anymore and when he us home, he's sleeping. It's very lonely even though you have a little one running around and no one seems to get that unless you're in our position. Very frustrating. You are not alone though but unfortunately the only thing that ke... More

  • Jen
    Oct 08

    Our pediatrician recommended waiting until 3. She said a child understands actions and consequences a bit better at that age. With our oldest, he got a rash from playing in sand with a dirty diaper. We then told him that if he started using the potty he wouldn’t have to worry about getting a rash. Also at an older age they might get more excited about going to the store and picking out underwea... More

Ty posted in Mental Health Oct 03

Separation anxiety

So I’m a new mom and my son just turned 3 months old . Does anyone have any tips on feeling less tense when I leave my son to work,run errands or date night with my husband

  • Ashley
    Oct 05

    My son is seven years old and I still hate to leave him with anyone . I even feel a little sad still when I drop him off at school in the morning .

  • Tammy
    Oct 08

    Your Not alone my son is one and I have yet to leave him for more than 15 minutes only a handful of times I dont ever leave his side even if we are out together and my mom or anybody really is pushing his stroller or holding him they know not to go out of my sight with him.... I get very anxious still

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