Mental Health

Support, advice, and self-care techniques for coping with a wide range of mental health issues including depression, anxiety, stress, and fatigue.

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Saturday

Am I the only one who doesn’t enjoy BF?

LO is 6 mo. I’ve been BF since birth, she ended up hating bottles after 3mo. Of course I love that my baby is getting the benefits of my milk and it’s free. Win. I have great supply. Double win. Buuuut I hate... well hate is a strong word but I just don’t like that I have someone at my boob everyday multiple times a day. We’ve introduced solids but she’s ehhh about it. I try but don’t force her... More

  • Tara
    Yesterday

    I feel your pain. I just successfully weaned my 14 month old off the boob- wooohooo!!! And honestly, I am very happy to have my body back, even this new saggy version! Some friends kept telling me that I should BF up until baby decides he’s had enough, but frankly, I had enough and gradually weaned the little man (his 8 teeth!) off me... hang in there. You’ll feel very proud and glad when you w... More

  • Kieli
    7h ago

    I bf my daughter for 13 months and was so ready to have my body back when I was done. But the older she got, the more solids she ate, which at 6 months was not a lot at all, the less she needed/wanted the breast. When I was ending my bf journey I pumped once a day and only had her on me about 2 times a day. So I know it’s hard, and painful as they get teeth but if it’s a journey you want to fin... More

Swimming

So my mom thinks it’s a good idea to take my son to a swimming class. But I have fear of drowning and I can’t handle it. Do I still take him so he can learn to swim,? Or do I hold him back because of my own fears.? I know this sounds stupid, but I’m just asking for advise.

Just need a break....

It’s been a crazy few weeks....we’ve had an ear infection, air travel, sinus infections for the whole family, a death in the family, a leak in the kitchen, now our sitter is sick today and the backup care service hasn’t been able to find anyone to help so I had to stay home from work...again....and bonus, the water heater is broke. I love our baby boy more than anything....I just need a break.

  • Cathy
    Saturday

    Katie - I am so sorry. Have you checked out a MOMS Club in your area? It’s a wonderful support system and I promise you that you will meet people. Our group even has a babysitting coop. Pour yourself a glass of wine and hang in there. It’s just a season not forever.

Anonymous posted in Behavior Thursday

Anxious 3 Yr Old

My 3 yr old daughter is afraid of everything lately. She’s always been kind of clingy and scared of certain things -but lately it seems to have gotten worse. She has meltdowns if another kid even approaches her at the playground. A lot of the play areas we used to go to and she used to love she is now afraid of and just clings to me and asks to go home. She also bites her nails constantly - whi... More

  • Myrtle
    Friday

    I heard about this website on the podcast I listened to. Haven’t tried it out but sounds great! Specifically for kids with anxiety https://gozen.com/

  • Dad
    Sunday

    Try CBD..

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Wednesday

I've had enough

I've been waiting for my boyfriend to propose...he said when I lost weight when we move into a bigger home and when he gets a better job...each time we achieve he comes up with another excuse...I poured my heart out countless times and I put so much love and attention into my family. Today I really laid it all on the table. I'm disgusted with myself for giving my all before we were even... More

  • T
    Thursday

    Weight should not of been a requirement. Men KNOW who they want to marry... know your worth & NEVER SETTLE. A few months of instability could bring a lifetime of happiness. You never know how strong you are until it’s your only option.

  • Karla
    Thursday

    Those sound like excuses and it also sound like you know wha t to do next. Someone once said to me " fear of the unknown " and I keep that in mind every single time I'm feeling that certain way. Is there any family maybe that can help while you get back on your feet?

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Tuesday

SAHM of 3 under 3, introvert, needs a break

I’m a SAHM with 5 month old twins and an almost 3 year old. I’m an introvert and need time alone to rejuvenate. I haven’t had time alone for so long yet I feel so alone in life. I used to have a career I worked really hard for, including 2 graduate degrees, and had an office where I worked on paperwork alone much of the day. I remember I used to feel lonely but now I miss that so much. I don’t ... More

  • T
    Tuesday

    2 under 2. They are 4 and 2.3 years now and I’m also a SAHM. There’s a couple of things you can do that might help. Join a gym that has childcare, so you can workout, shower, sleep in your car. lol Indoor playspaces where the kid/s can play and you can have tons of coffee and something to eat. Kid oriented cafes that have play area with childcare. Hire someone to watch the kids while y... More

  • Anonymous
    Tuesday

    Could you hire a sitter to take the kids somewhere out of the house so you could just blah around the house alone? Or have the sitter stay home and you go to a movie? I used to check my toddler into church kids bible club just so I could sit in a pew and not even listen to the pastor! I just wanted to be alone and zone out lol I’m not even pious... Sending strength and support your way... this ... More

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Feb 11

Lonely SAHM 😢

So, I’ve been trying to connect with other moms in my area but it is harder than I thought 😥 normally I’m not one for a sappy day or tears but it’s been so hard having my husband states away and being home feeling like all I get to see are our kids and the walls of our home 😥. I am at a breaking point most of the time and I don’t think it’s fair to my babies that mommy wants to lay in bed most... More

  • Bailey
    Feb 12

    Same momma! I’m in Jax though.

  • Jordan
    Feb 12

    Hey girl I’m in Tampa 🙋🏻‍♀️and work in Apollo Beah

Anonymous posted in Child's Health Feb 07

Constantly stressed about newborn catching something

A friend of mines newborn caught the RSV virus. And it has been awful for the little one. Now I have a newborn and I am constantly stressed of her catching it from visitors. First of all, I don’t allow visitors. But immediate family do insist. I make sure they wash there hands, sanitize, etc. Although, they get really offended about my approach. Also, with a toddler that attends daycare- I mak... More

  • Anonymous
    Wednesday

    Cris- so did the newborn get sick the first month? I’m more so worried about that first month being that they are so fragile.

  • Cris
    Friday

    Nope! It is pretty scary, while they are so little and fragile. But don’t worry you will all be fine!

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Feb 07

I hate breastfeeding

Planning baby number two and I can’t get over the pressure of breast feeding. My first didn’t have a problem with breast feeding but it just wasn’t for me honestly. The day I gave him formula my mood changed, his mood changed, it felt like such a huge relief. I feel so guilty for not wanting to with my second.... the first question people ask is “are you breastfeeding?” I’d feel like such a fai... More

  • Stephnie
    Feb 10

    Breastfeeding is THE reason I won’t have a second. No shame!

  • Elle
    Wednesday

    Why would you feel guilty? If his disposition suddenly changed for the better once on formula, I'd say you did the very best for him by giving him formula, rather than let him go undernourished in some way. The faster you can let go of other people's opinions, the more you can focus purely on doing what's right for you and your family without distraction and without doubts.

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Feb 02

No alone time.

I feel like I should enjoy it more, but I find myself just feeling burnt out all the time and feeling like I want to run away. I do all the housework and I take care of my son and I never get any time to myself. My son has been very attached since he was born, he doesn’t even let me use the bathroom by myself. I don’t blame my son at all but my husband annoys me the most. He never watches my so... More

  • Anonymously
    Feb 03

    I know how you feel. My SO was the same when my son was first born and he thought it was “okay” to go do what he wanted to do...which WASNT the main priority. I told him “Our son is our FIRST priority and If you’re not on the same road as me then we can co-parent. I’m pretty much doing this on my own when WE made this baby together. “ And he chose his family and he also helps out a lot more. An... More

  • Anonymously
    Feb 03

    He needs to appreciate what you do, and that is taking of the most precious gift you both made he should be thankful that he has someone like you to take care of your child and raising them

Anonymous posted in Marriage & Partnership Feb 02

Potty training

  • Anonymous
    Feb 02

    It's not his fault he has depression and is not being selfish. Finding a good therapist is hard and actually took me years to find anyone that was worth it. You can start suggesting lifestyle changes that may impact his health whether it be nutritional or environmental. Little things like that show you are willing to support him and if they make a positive impact, can give him hope that the... More

  • Kate
    Feb 03

    I’m sorry you’re both going through this. As someone who lives with depression and anxiety, I know just how miserable it can be to be around me when I’m going through one of these phases. 🙂 A couple of suggestions based on what’s worked for me (so take this with a grain of salt, of course): - Have an honest, calm and compassionate chat with him. Tell him you’re noticing it’s different this ... More

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Jan 25

How to balance life

Between both parents working full time opposite shifts, having too many pets (4 of them, took them in from the streets and don’t know what to do with them now) (not trying to take them to a shelter either) a toddler. How to not go crazy taking care of pets when I should just be focused on my kid. Sounds terrible but these pets drive me crazy. Love animals, hate having pets. And keeping the hous... More

  • Christa
    Jan 25

    I can’t entirely sympathize with the two parents working parts. But I can help I hope maybe ease your mind on the other issues. I am a full time stay at home mom- and we live on one income- but I do understand the stress of not feeling like you’re doing everything right, and that you feel like it’s all on you. I get that, and I think most moms do, at least at some point. So for the dogs- we h... More

  • Elle
    Jan 26

    Pay people to do the tasks you hate most or are most time consuming. Paying $100 for cleaners to come every other week will go a long way in making the to-do list seem less insurmountable. Do NOT give up on your pets. Get a dog walker! Before you know it, baby will be able to walk and feed them. What IS good to get rid of is clutter. It affects us more than we realize and helps make for an an... More

Papa posted in Family Life Jan 14

Anger and depression.

Hello everyone, there's a lot to unpack here but I'm having rather difficult time managing my emotions. We're a family of recently 4, my son was born 2 weeks ago. And my oldest is 2yrs and a few months. And I find myself become very quick to anger and verbally aggressive when my 2yr old doesnt listen it acts out or just straight up whines and cry for no reason and without effective... More

  • Aleksa B.
    Jan 14

    Hi there! Cast all ur anxieties, frustrations and worries onto our Lord Jesus. I personally can speak from my experience of prayer and how much peace I have on the inside of me now as i am slowly letting go of things that used to cause me headaches that shouldn’t have. Pray for patience and understanding. Also make sure you hit pause and relax. If ur parents or in-laws (or whoever u might trust... More

  • Debra
    Jan 14

    Patience is the key. Don’t let the 2 year old get board. Kids are a hand full with to much free time on their hands. Lots of work for you but your day will go by fast. Then you can have free time when you put them down for bed. Early of course, cause their tired from all the thinking, doing, playing. Website have lots of free ideas that can help.

Struggles of an older dad

Hey all, I’m a 50 year old father of 4 year old twin girls and I feel a little alone in my position. I’m very self conscious about the fact that I’m an older dad. We just moved to New Jersey (from Brooklyn) and we are in a community with tons of families. I find myself constantly looking at other dads and being jealous of their youth. My mind is always calculating how old I will be for all the ... More

  • Lulu
    Jan 21

    Hi had my son at 44 i'm now 51 and his dad is 61, 10 yrs my senior. Our son is 6 in first grade. Only regret is we didn't have a number 2. Your girls will be fine they'll have each other. Don't listen to what comes your way only make those memories thats all that really matters.

  • Dada
    Feb 06

    Enjoy the moment. Age is a number

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Jan 08

Tips on relaxation/handling stress?

Any tips or advice on how you all handle stress? I’m beyond stressed recently. I’m a stay at home mom and we are in a combined family household. We have two kids that fight over every little thing (they’re 9 and 5) we also have six dogs and 3 cats. Everyone else in the house works so I’m the only one at home to deal with all the cooking, cleaning, errands, appointments, and caring for the pets.... More

  • Jennifer
    Jan 10

    I hate when people say if you stay home with kids you don’t work!! I spent 8 years at home with my kids, I work PRN now so maybe 2 days a week outside of the home. And I can tell you some days I feel like I work more at home. Especially when your the only one doing the cleaning, cooking, caring for kids, laundry, appointments. I make my kids go to bed at 8:30 on school nights then I usually go ... More

  • Valerie
    Jan 12

    Instead of asking for time to yourself, (emphasis on asking), start announcing that you’re taking time for yourself. Give a little warning. “ After dinner, I’d like you to clean up, please. I’m taking a couple of hours to myself.” Start small. An hour or so to start, to get everyone used to the idea that you’re not Cinderella cooking and cleaning all day long.

Anonymous posted in Bottle Feeding Jan 07

Dreading breastfeeding/pumping

Any other mommas who dislike this part of motherhood? I am due with baby 2 soon and am completely dreading breastfeeding and pumping. I know it’s best for my baby but I had a bad experience the first time and felt like I was chained to the pump trying to get my supply up 12 hours a day. Eventually we were forced to supplement which did wonders for my emotional/mental health as well as finally a... More

  • Elle
    Jan 19

    Formula is a GREAT option. Being miserable or unhealthy or otherwise unable to fully enjoy your baby is NOT a good option. Potentially not producing enough for baby and risking hospital visits/stays for malnourishement or dehydration is NOT a good option. If you ENJOY breastfeeding, and it makes you feel happy and enjoy parenthood, that is a GOOD option. If you wouldn't enjoy breastfeed... More

  • Be
    Jan 24

    Not alone at all. You do what's right for you. My supply was better with the second baby so hopefully yours maybe too. Good luck!

Goals or New Years resolutions?!

Hello everyone! I’ve been talking to a few people about whether they believe in New Years resolutions. Do you guys see a point in making them?

  • Adrianna
    Jan 03

    I’m google some as well for my kids

  • Christa
    Jan 03

    I started with free ones- I totally don’t do the whole “go to the gym more” “eat healthier” because I kinda already just do that. If I don’t like something about how things are going I just change it!! So far as teaching kids about them, my son is only 11 months old, but I implement little things that we do together every day (read a book together- a chapter book- and we read 2 -3 chapters a ... More

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Jan 03

Pregnancy Rage..

Hi! I'm 10 wks pregnant with our second baby.. and unlike my first time, I'm filled with rage at the very scent of anything upsetting. It's not weird for me to be irritated by stupid things.. but I find the level of irrational rage kind of alarming. Any of you moms out there go through this? I'm now spending much of my energy trying to keep things cool, does it stop? Is there a ... More

  • Ciara Grey
    Jan 06

    I was irritable and mean with my second pregnancy (my daughter) nothing like my first I was calm with my son. I think maybe juggling being pregnant with a child you already have to take care of makes it more challenging then the first pregnancy where all you have to manage is the pregnancy if that makes sense.

  • Ciara Grey
    Jan 06

    It will pass mama! Just hold on <3

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Dec 25

Post Partum blues back at the 1 year mark

My son’s 1st birthday is coming up In February, and we started him in his own crib in his own room- just across the hall. And the closer his birthday gets and the more independent he wants to be, the sadder I’m getting. Is anyone else dealing with this?! My husband says I’m becoming someone else- and he’s right. I don’t want to admit to him it’s breaking my heart watching my son get older becau... More

Postpartum Blues?

Hello! I’m a first time father to a 5 month old baby girl. I’m new to Winnie but I wanted to express my feelings about being a dad. About 2 months after she was born, I started to experience increased anxiety and even some physical symptoms, like sweating/loss of appetite etc. I’ve always been susceptible to anxiety and have seen a psychiatrist for many years and for the most part I’ve been... More

  • Tim
    Jan 08

    Such a good point Molly. We as parents need to stay happy or else the baby will suffer. I feel like I do a good job right now, and I hope you are right as the months move along things get somewhat back to a normal routine. Thank you for your input! Much appreciated!

  • SWAGGERDAD
    Jan 09

    Hey Tim, I didn't go through postpartum but I was scare. Having to care for another person is life changing for everybody. So is understandable what you going through.I salute you for even asking for help. My wife had it I know it can be tough and it was tough on us but what worked for her. She meditated daily and always told herself "I Can Do This" to be a parent. After a coupl... More

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