Milestones & Development

Learn about developmental milestones for every month and year including when your child should be talking, walking, reading and more.

C posted in Behavior Saturday

Advice on teaching kids to show affection?

When my son was 6 months old, he tried to give me a kiss. Unfortunately, I didn’t know. He was coming in open mouthed and laughing, and being a little jokester I thought he was going to try to lick my face to make me laugh, like when the dog does it. I turned my face away. He never tried to give me a kiss again. He’s almost two today. I want to fix this. I want him to know it’s okay and fun to... More

C posted in Behavior Mar 15

No kisses from your baby or toddler?

I’m wondering if this is normal. My baby - now a toddler - has never given a kiss in his entire life. He has been known to initiate hugs and cuddles - and I also give him plenty of hugs and kisses - but when it comes to kisses I’ve been the one to give but not receive. He’s had lots of examples from me, but he’s never even tried, not with me or anyone. I’m not worried so much as I am intrigued... More

  • Amanda
    Mar 16

    Yes, children mimic their parents’ behavior, but it could just be that your child receives less oral gratification than most children do. Kissing as a form of affection is actually a learned behavior, not an inherent one, so it will be several years before your child is able to cognitively understand the expressive nature of kisses. For now, it just seems like your little one isn’t hyper-focuse... More

  • JEaton
    Mar 16

    My son is about to turn 3 and he isn't big on giving hugs or kisses 🤷‍♀️. He receives them very frequently, he just isn't big on initiating. He'll give you a hug or kiss if asked. I've never thought about it as being abnormal. Everyone has their own boundaries.

Anonymous posted in Babies Feb 29

Stressing about milestones

Hi all- First time mom here. My LO is 18 weeks old, healthy, happy, and growing big. I find myself obsessing over her milestones. She has been working on rolling over for what seems like 2 months now but still hasn’t. My husband keeps saying “she will when she’s ready” but I just can’t help but to worry. Anyone experiencing this stress?

  • HR
    Mar 05

    I’d lean on what your child’s pediatrician thinks; definitely express your concerns to them! They would know the “best” timeline for your child, when to worry, & what to do next if need be.

  • Vee
    Mar 07

    I know it's easier said than done, but don't overthink it mama! It's awesome you want to make sure your baby hits milestones but every child is different. For instance, my son didn't walk until 14 months and at first I stressed a lot but then other parents would tell me when their kids hit milestones and I felt a bit better because they were each at different ages! Each baby is ... More

Anonymous posted in Behavior Feb 06

Social skills and confidence building in a 5 year old

My 5-year-old appears to be socially awkward even in a known environment. She shows very low self-esteem and is not open about her feelings to us so hard to help. She starts kindergarten soon so I want to be able to help her build confidence. Tried zillion play dates, exposures to activities and people, talking with her but nothing seems to help. Any suggestions?

  • Lexi
    Feb 13

    Does she seem nervous/anxious or just more reserved than other children? Lots of nonjudgmental positive reinforcement and trust building can be helpful. Point out small accomplishments; for example: "you zipped your coat up!" "That was hard for you and you did it!" Observational statements instead of "good job" go a lot farther when building a child's confidenc... More

  • Anonymous
    Feb 13

    Thanks!!

Speech therapist

Just a PSA to always push for a special needs assessment if you think something might be up with your kid. Our three year old doesn't say the beginning sounds for lots of words. I emailed her doctor's office and the doc who responded wasn't concerned. At our three year appointment I brought it up and again the doc wasn't concerned, but offered us a referral to a speech therapist... More

  • Laura
    Feb 04

    This all makes me wonder if it's standard practice (I'm sure it's not) for the pediatrician who wasn't concerned to be informed that actually there was something to be concerned about and next time you see a kid like this, go ahead and make the referral from the start. All of our care is within Kaiser, so it's theoretically possible for there to be that kind of automatic fee... More

  • Vee
    Feb 06

    Glad you got an assessment after all! My two year old wasn't saying much at age 1, which I get can be normal in some kids but I insisted to his pediatrician she refer us to early intervention. He started 5 months ago and has made so much progress!

LO not walking.

My LO is 17m and not walking. He cant stand on his own except he holds on to something, though he can walk about holding on to something. Any cause for alarm?

  • Jill M.
    check_circleChild Care Provider Feb 05

    I watch a little one who did the same thing he all of a sudden just let go of the furniture one day and started walking on his own. Some just take a little longer than others. But asking your pediatrician doesn't hurt.

  • Burcu
    Mar 18

    My son didn't walk until he was 18 months. I thought it was never going to happen. Its hard but be patient. And of course see your pediatrician.

When did your baby start sleep talking?

  • anonymous mom
    Feb 02

    My 2.5 year old has been doing this for about 6 months. She mostly talks about cookies in her sleep 😍😬😄

  • Jan
    Feb 08

    I’ve heard my LO mumble words as soon she turned 2. She’s now 2.5 and last night was the first time we heard her say “No, it’s mine” pretty loud and clear. We double checked the camera to make sure she wasn’t up, then she was there KO.

Speech Therapy for 2 1/2 yr old

My daughter will be 2 1/2 at the end of February. She has been in speech therapy for about 2 months now, her therapist has said she has been making progress but I personally haven't seen a dramatic change. She also suggested she get evaluated to possibly start Occupational therapy on top of her speech. (I know things can take time) My question is to whomever can set my mind at ease. When sh... More

  • Tracy
    Jan 29

    I implement what i see her ST do at home down to buying everything she uses to use at home. My issue usually is the fact my daughter wont look at me long enough to mimic the word or sound to even try sometimes. ( which is why the OT referral)

  • Vee
    Feb 06

    My son has been in Speech Therapy for about 5 months and I saw him make progress within a couple weeks of him starting out. Every child is different. He's also on the shy side so I know he understands a lot of the words or things we say to him so dad and I try to get him to look at our mouths. Our ST told us to hold the item up to our lips so he can look at our mouth as we pronounce it. If... More

Annie posted in Behavior Jan 24

Every emotion=screaming

My daughter is 20 months and still doesn’t really talk much so she expresses every emotion with a loud shriek or scream of some sort. She gets scared she screams. She gets upset she screams. She gets excited she screams. She gets happy she screams. She even laughs with a scream. I want to help her express her emotions in a way that is more appropriate but I don’t want to make her feel as if I’m... More

  • Melissa
    Feb 02

    I am struggling with same thing, hoping she'll grow out if once talking well

  • Brown
    Mar 09

    My daughter does the same thing it has got me at the edge of why??? No one can say NO in my house and it doesn’t matter if it at her, the dog or someone else she gets all emotional and screams and cry’s!! Let me just say one thing she is the only child home her brothers are 24 yrs.and 21 yrs. so the only person she is around is me 24/7 I try to work with her in letting her know it’s okay to be ... More

Hello Everyone. Very stressed parent here of a 2 1/2 year old girl who doesnt speak at all.

This post is going to be long so i apologize... She will say dada,momma,uh oh, wow. Yeah. Thats about it for the most part. She does however (when she wants to) mimic the sounds of words. She will say bye bye but not actually say it. She will say "all done" as it sounds but not actually say all done. She is in speech therapy twice a week. Sometimes it goes well and she participates a... More

  • Anonymous
    Jan 20

    What does the pediatrician and/or ST say about why she won’t try? They’re also great resources to ask for strategies and things that you could do to help her. Kids also learn great through play. Narrate everything that you are doing as well as what she is doing. My son doesn’t always sit still when I’m trying to teach him something either. Also, music!!! Listen, dance and sing along to music ... More

  • Tracy
    Jan 20

    They say that she understands everything i ask her to do. I can ask her to get such and such and she will usually about 80-90% of the time get it or show me it. That she doesnt know how to form the shapes her mouth needs to in order to create that sound needed for speech. If she somehow does know how to like ba ba she still doesnt understand that ba can also turn into ball or so on.. maybe i j... More

Sara posted in Education Jan 19

What milestones did your child hit right before entering kindergarten?

My daughter turns 5 over the summer so she’s eligible to start kindergarten in the fall. I’m now curious whether she might benefit from another year of preschool instead. What could your child do right before they entered K? Read and write? Just recognize letters and write only a few words? Would be helpful to also hear from other summer birthday parents.

  • Anne
    Jan 22

    Our kids go to a private school with very small classes, so YMMV, but I've felt like the kindergarten experience has been appropriate for my 5yo. In terms of readiness, it was mostly basics like: can use the bathroom independently, can sit for 10-15 minutes and listen to a story, can relate the story back to you (listening comprehension) and can write their own name. There is no expectati... More

  • Anonymous
    Jan 22

    If you are in Instagram look up @busytoddler, she used to be a kindergarten teacher, is based on the west coast and is posting right now about her decision to delay kindergarten for her oldest, the benefits, what is and expected in a lot of public school kindergartens, and even some evidence based articles about when to start a child in school.

My Son is 2 and not talking

My son will be two in December and he still isn’t speaking . He makes eye contact he loves playing with other kids . Grabs my hand and point to what he wants something but he only says mama . Should I be worried ? Do I take him in or should I wait.

  • Anonymous
    Dec 05, 2019

    You should get him evaluated by a speech therapist. Pediatrician can give a recommendation. Might be nothing but sounds like it’s time to see if some help

  • Stacey
    Dec 06, 2019

    My son is 26 months. He says a few words but not many. He also does not point to what he wants but whines and we have to guess if he is hungry or whatever. Or he will just try to get food from the pantry himself and ask us to open it for him. We talked to the doctor and they referred us to a program run by the schools called Child Find. It’s free for parents and they do an evaluation and figure... More

Really worried about my Toddler’s development. Advice ?

My daughter is 2, she turned two in September. She says dada, sometimes mamma, she says yay, claps, bye bye, hi .. and listens to commands like “no, come here, stop, high five, good job” and she reacts to those things the appropriate way you’d except from a toddler. (Also waves) But she Doesn’t talk like I guess she should? Everyone online says she should be talking more and that if she’s not t... More

  • Anonymous
    Dec 02, 2019

    If it were fetal alcohol syndrome there would be so many other signs. I wouldn’t be worried and consider speech therapy and if you see no improvement consider other factors

  • Bethany
    Dec 02, 2019

    My daughter is going to be two next month and she’s farther behind developmentally than ur little one. They all develop at their own pace. I moved my daughter up to the twos class early and I have seen improvement already just in a couple months. Your daughter will want to be like the other kids in her class and copy them. I’m sure you will see improvement soon

Not pulling up to stand

My son is 11 and half months (he will be one in December) and he is still not pulling himself up to stand. I’m so worried. I did take him to his Doctor and she told me not to worry about it, but I’m still concerned. It really bothers me so much! It’s very hard to see that he’s still not standing.

  • Anonymous
    Nov 26, 2019

    What are you trying with him to encourage him to stand? Will he hold your hands for support while he stands on his feet? I wouldn’t worry if your pediatrician isn’t worried (easier said than done I know). Just still work with him to encourage the action. Get him toys and set them on top of a coffee table or couch so he is motivated to pull himself up to check it out.

Potty training for less verbal kids.

We are wondering if our son is ready for potty training or not. He just turned 2, 2 months ago. His diaper is staying dry for a pretty long time and often does not need to be changed after a nap. But he does not talk much (he is getting a speech therapist soon) so I’m worried he won’t tell us when he needs to go. He also has never given any cues he is going to the bathroom and never let us know... More

  • Amanda
    Nov 28, 2019

    Do you feel that he is aware of when he is wetting or soiling his diaper or do you think he is unaware of when it happens. If he is aware maybe you can try an object (pull up or a picture of a potty) he can retrieve to let you know he needs to go. Whenever you change his diaper or put him on the potty reinforce your action with the object of your choice to help him start associating the card or... More

Receptive language delay

I have a 2 year old who doesn't seem to be able to follow simple commands. It's like he doesn't understand what I'm saying to him. He's very smart in other areas. Anyone else have this problem?

  • Anonymous
    Nov 12, 2019

    Thank you all! @Cathy that's the normal issue I think, that they can understand and follow through with commands but talking is not there yet. Mines the trickier one. @anonymous and HR: part of me thinks it's a selective hearing kind of thing bc if I say "go out" he will run to the back door. Or "get shoes" and he will get his shoes. He will stop immediately what h... More

  • Cathy
    Nov 13, 2019

    Repetition is key for children. With words, routines, anything. If the speech therapists aren’t worried about the repeating than I wouldn’t either. Children repeat sounds and actions to understand and to master what they are learning. I wouldn’t sweat it!

Standing

My son is almost 11 months old and not standing yet. Should I be worried?

  • Newmommy
    Nov 02, 2019

    Mine started walking at 11 months

  • Anonymous
    Nov 15, 2019

    My son would only stand if he was holding on to something or someone around the time. Shortly after his first birthday he finally had enough confidence to let go and took off walking. Every child is going to learn at a different rate which is okay.

Any tips on keeping the baby safe at crawling

Hi parents, my 8 months old son is crawling 😂, and my daughter never crawled, she went straight to walking, so I don't have any experience with crawling. Whenever I look at him doing it, I'm freaking out that he will hit an edge of a wall or a corner of any sort and hurt his head. Any ideas how long this phase will last? My heart can't take it lol. And any tips on what I could do to... More

  • Mandy
    Oct 28, 2019

    Our son crawled for about 4 months prior to walking. If corners of walls really scare you, you could get this foam protector. Once our son got the hang of it, he took wide turns around corners, so we didn't worry about corners. Just kept all the things I didnt want him to get off the floor. Roving Cove | Baby Proofing Edge & Corner Guards | Safe Edge & Corner Cushion | Child... More

  • Nousa
    Oct 28, 2019

    Thank you so much, I hope mine doesn't take that long lol.

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Oct 23, 2019

How to stop breastfeeding

My son will be one in a couple of weeks and I am looking forward to start the transition to no longer breastfeed him. Right now he nurses about four or five times a day for about five minutes. He is great at eating solid foods and does not nurse to sleep. I am not sure how to transition him to cows milk (has never really taken a bottle) and stop breastfeeding him. Any help is appreciated. Thanks!

  • Kieli
    Oct 24, 2019

    Oh I see. You could try that, I tried my daughter with just cows milk and she didn’t like it too much. But every kid is different

Anonymous posted in Behavior Oct 10, 2019

Hitting problem

Hello parents!!! I'm having trouble with my two year old son with hitting and kicking. I try to say no hitting, or grab his hand. He doesn’t talk yet because he has a speech delay. Any techniques I could try with a non verbal child?

  • Vicki
    Oct 11, 2019

    Diana, I love giving the choice of a hug or a minute to themselves!!

  • Alexis
    Oct 13, 2019

    I have a 4 year old girl with autism and she has huge temper tantrums, they get very bad and what my husband and I do is we make sure we are speaking in a calm voice and look at her in her eyes and tell her that we want to help her and that we love her very much. We notice she calms down greatly and very quickly as well! She tends to hit and does it a lot less now. She’s quick to get upset abou... More

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