Milestones & Development

Learn about developmental milestones for every month and year including when your child should be talking, walking, reading and more.

Hello Everyone. Very stressed parent here of a 2 1/2 year old girl who doesnt speak at all.

This post is going to be long so i apologize... She will say dada,momma,uh oh, wow. Yeah. Thats about it for the most part. She does however (when she wants to) mimic the sounds of words. She will say bye bye but not actually say it. She will say "all done" as it sounds but not actually say all done. She is in speech therapy twice a week. Sometimes it goes well and she participates a... More

  • Anonymous
    4h ago

    What does the pediatrician and/or ST say about why she won’t try? They’re also great resources to ask for strategies and things that you could do to help her. Kids also learn great through play. Narrate everything that you are doing as well as what she is doing. My son doesn’t always sit still when I’m trying to teach him something either. Also, music!!! Listen, dance and sing along to music ... More

  • Tracy
    3h ago

    They say that she understands everything i ask her to do. I can ask her to get such and such and she will usually about 80-90% of the time get it or show me it. That she doesnt know how to form the shapes her mouth needs to in order to create that sound needed for speech. If she somehow does know how to like ba ba she still doesnt understand that ba can also turn into ball or so on.. maybe i j... More

Sara posted in Education Sunday

What milestones did your child hit right before entering kindergarten?

My daughter turns 5 over the summer so she’s eligible to start kindergarten in the fall. I’m now curious whether she might benefit from another year of preschool instead. What could your child do right before they entered K? Read and write? Just recognize letters and write only a few words? Would be helpful to also hear from other summer birthday parents.

  • Tiana
    Sunday

    If you can, keep her away from school another year. Kindergarten, in California, is not age appropriate and way too structured. Our kids only play for 20 or so minutes a day. It’s heartbreaking.

  • Amanda
    Sunday

    Both my sister and I have mid-summer birthdays and were presented with the choice to enter kindergarten or delay a year. I delayed a year and was consequently the oldest in my class throughout school, which also gave me the advantage of being at a slightly higher development than my peers. My sister was put into kindergarten without delaying a year and was consequently the youngest in her class... More

Anonymous posted in Milestones & Development Dec 04

My Son is 2 and not talking

My son will be two in December and he still isn’t speaking . He makes eye contact he loves playing with other kids . Grabs my hand and point to what he wants something but he only says mama . Should I be worried ? Do I take him in or should I wait.

  • Anonymous
    Dec 05

    You should get him evaluated by a speech therapist. Pediatrician can give a recommendation. Might be nothing but sounds like it’s time to see if some help

  • Stacey
    Dec 06

    My son is 26 months. He says a few words but not many. He also does not point to what he wants but whines and we have to guess if he is hungry or whatever. Or he will just try to get food from the pantry himself and ask us to open it for him. We talked to the doctor and they referred us to a program run by the schools called Child Find. It’s free for parents and they do an evaluation and figure... More

Really worried about my Toddler’s development. Advice ?

My daughter is 2, she turned two in September. She says dada, sometimes mamma, she says yay, claps, bye bye, hi .. and listens to commands like “no, come here, stop, high five, good job” and she reacts to those things the appropriate way you’d except from a toddler. (Also waves) But she Doesn’t talk like I guess she should? Everyone online says she should be talking more and that if she’s not t... More

  • Anonymous
    Dec 02

    If it were fetal alcohol syndrome there would be so many other signs. I wouldn’t be worried and consider speech therapy and if you see no improvement consider other factors

  • Bethany
    Dec 02

    My daughter is going to be two next month and she’s farther behind developmentally than ur little one. They all develop at their own pace. I moved my daughter up to the twos class early and I have seen improvement already just in a couple months. Your daughter will want to be like the other kids in her class and copy them. I’m sure you will see improvement soon

Not pulling up to stand

My son is 11 and half months (he will be one in December) and he is still not pulling himself up to stand. I’m so worried. I did take him to his Doctor and she told me not to worry about it, but I’m still concerned. It really bothers me so much! It’s very hard to see that he’s still not standing.

  • Anonymous
    Nov 26

    What are you trying with him to encourage him to stand? Will he hold your hands for support while he stands on his feet? I wouldn’t worry if your pediatrician isn’t worried (easier said than done I know). Just still work with him to encourage the action. Get him toys and set them on top of a coffee table or couch so he is motivated to pull himself up to check it out.

Potty training for less verbal kids.

We are wondering if our son is ready for potty training or not. He just turned 2, 2 months ago. His diaper is staying dry for a pretty long time and often does not need to be changed after a nap. But he does not talk much (he is getting a speech therapist soon) so I’m worried he won’t tell us when he needs to go. He also has never given any cues he is going to the bathroom and never let us know... More

  • Amanda
    Nov 28

    Do you feel that he is aware of when he is wetting or soiling his diaper or do you think he is unaware of when it happens. If he is aware maybe you can try an object (pull up or a picture of a potty) he can retrieve to let you know he needs to go. Whenever you change his diaper or put him on the potty reinforce your action with the object of your choice to help him start associating the card or... More

Anonymous posted in Milestones & Development Nov 10

Receptive language delay

I have a 2 year old who doesn't seem to be able to follow simple commands. It's like he doesn't understand what I'm saying to him. He's very smart in other areas. Anyone else have this problem?

  • Anonymous
    Nov 12

    Thank you all! @Cathy that's the normal issue I think, that they can understand and follow through with commands but talking is not there yet. Mines the trickier one. @anonymous and HR: part of me thinks it's a selective hearing kind of thing bc if I say "go out" he will run to the back door. Or "get shoes" and he will get his shoes. He will stop immediately what h... More

  • Cathy
    Nov 13

    Repetition is key for children. With words, routines, anything. If the speech therapists aren’t worried about the repeating than I wouldn’t either. Children repeat sounds and actions to understand and to master what they are learning. I wouldn’t sweat it!

Standing

My son is almost 11 months old and not standing yet. Should I be worried?

  • Newmommy
    Nov 02

    Mine started walking at 11 months

  • Anonymous
    Nov 15

    My son would only stand if he was holding on to something or someone around the time. Shortly after his first birthday he finally had enough confidence to let go and took off walking. Every child is going to learn at a different rate which is okay.

Any tips on keeping the baby safe at crawling

Hi parents, my 8 months old son is crawling 😂, and my daughter never crawled, she went straight to walking, so I don't have any experience with crawling. Whenever I look at him doing it, I'm freaking out that he will hit an edge of a wall or a corner of any sort and hurt his head. Any ideas how long this phase will last? My heart can't take it lol. And any tips on what I could do to... More

  • Mandy
    Oct 28

    Our son crawled for about 4 months prior to walking. If corners of walls really scare you, you could get this foam protector. Once our son got the hang of it, he took wide turns around corners, so we didn't worry about corners. Just kept all the things I didnt want him to get off the floor. Roving Cove | Baby Proofing Edge & Corner Guards | Safe Edge & Corner Cushion | Child... More

  • Nousa
    Oct 28

    Thank you so much, I hope mine doesn't take that long lol.

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Oct 23

How to stop breastfeeding

My son will be one in a couple of weeks and I am looking forward to start the transition to no longer breastfeed him. Right now he nurses about four or five times a day for about five minutes. He is great at eating solid foods and does not nurse to sleep. I am not sure how to transition him to cows milk (has never really taken a bottle) and stop breastfeeding him. Any help is appreciated. Thanks!

  • Kieli
    Oct 24

    Oh I see. You could try that, I tried my daughter with just cows milk and she didn’t like it too much. But every kid is different

Anonymous posted in Behavior Oct 10, 2019

Hitting problem

Hello parents!!! I'm having trouble with my two year old son with hitting and kicking. I try to say no hitting, or grab his hand. He doesn’t talk yet because he has a speech delay. Any techniques I could try with a non verbal child?

  • Vicki
    Oct 11, 2019

    Diana, I love giving the choice of a hug or a minute to themselves!!

  • Alexis
    Oct 13, 2019

    I have a 4 year old girl with autism and she has huge temper tantrums, they get very bad and what my husband and I do is we make sure we are speaking in a calm voice and look at her in her eyes and tell her that we want to help her and that we love her very much. We notice she calms down greatly and very quickly as well! She tends to hit and does it a lot less now. She’s quick to get upset abou... More

Help! My 1 year old still isn’t sitting!

My daughter turned 1 last month and still isn’t even sitting. She’s in physical therapy but they don’t think she needs it often so they only work with her once a month. I’m worried and wondering if anyone else has a baby that wasn’t sitting at 1 and what they did? She can sit for minutes by herself but then she screams the entire time and then just gives up. TIA!

  • Cathy
    Oct 02, 2019

    I’m sorry - but I would be pissed. Your child is 13 months, won’t sit and they think PT she doesn’t need it often? Who is they? The physical therapist or your pediatrician? You should definitely put a call into your pediatrician or find someone else to evaluate her. Check with your State programs because she might be eligible for services at a lower cost or more often. Is the PT giving you exer... More

  • Beth
    Oct 03, 2019

    Yeah seriously, get her spine checked, I'd look into better physio, get another opinion, check out chiropractors (that have kid/baby experience) the screaming sounds like pain!

When to switch to toddler bed

Our baby is 16 months and has a convertible crib. Just wondering when to transition her to the “toddler” stage. She sleeps through the night with only cry-outs when she can’t find her pacifier (separate problem) and sleeps with a blanket but no pillow. Our second is due Feb 1st and I was just wondering if it would be better to try the transition now rather than after the new baby comes.

  • Jenn
    Oct 01, 2019

    My LO is 16 months and I have another one on the way, due in May. I am going to wait til after the baby is born and she has adjusted before switching her to the toddler bed. She has to switch rooms and with all the other changes, I want her to have some consistency. My LO is a great sleeper and doesn't try to climb out.

  • Lindsey
    Oct 16, 2019

    Ask yourself 'why?' why transition and why not... Make a pro/con list. For my 22m old, she's still in a crib because a) it's what we have b) it allows us to know she's safe and not swallowing that one small thing on the ground we didn't vacuum up and c) she's comfortable in it. So, why transition now?

Help! How do you deal with dropped naps?!?

My son is turning 2.5 this weekend. Yesterday, he finally learned he can get out of his crib and cut out napping entirely all in one day. Day 2 and we're down the same path. I'm a sahm and really need that time to myself to recharge. How do you deal with naps being dropped entirely and transitioning to a toddler bed all in one shot? The way our door handles, are my only real option w... More

  • Anonymous
    Sep 26, 2019

    That’s what most blogs I’ve read about transitioning to toddler bed says to do. Put them in their room (very child proofed) and lock the door. They say to put them in there 20/30 min before “nap time” so they have time to play and what ever and will (should) eventually fall asleep, even if it’s on the floor. I’ve read it helps a lot to have those green light clocks that turn green when you can ... More

  • Beth
    Sep 26, 2019

    We've made it into quiet time. My 3 yo has recently dropped the nap but we still have the same time shes always napped 1-3pm blocked off as sacred. I live for quiet time. She plays in her room with a few books and toys and I tell her if she feels like she wants to go to sleep she can. But it's quiet time. It took a few times of really making sure she knows that she needs to stay in her ... More

18 mo talking

Hello! I’m concerned my little one may have a language delay. He says like 6-8 words clearly. But still a lot of babbling. Thoughts? IMPORTANT NOTE: I’ve been a stay at home mom, So it’s been just him and I for a long time, and not a lot of interaction with other kids

  • Vonda
    Sep 29, 2019

    My son didn’t start saying more words till a month or two before he turned two. You have plenty of time. I just read and talk to him a lot. Even just describing simple things you are doing help create that vocabulary. I’m also a sahm.

  • Lisha
    Oct 02, 2019

    I am going through this with my 19-month old little boy. I am a stay at home mom too but i put my son into daycare so that he can be around other kids. Plus i want to go back to school too. But he absoultely loves daycare. We are in our 2nd year there and he has formed some safe relationships with kids and adults that aren't family.. not that anything is wrong with family. He knows what... More

Anonymous posted in Behavior Sep 13, 2019

Extremely verbal 22mo

My LO is extremely verbal for her age. She is not yet 2 and can chatter on to me, herself or anyone about anything for hours on end. It is amazing! However I find myself forgetting that she is not even 2. Sometimes i think that my husband and I think that she understands more than she does and possibly expect too much her. I also think she knows what she is expected to say and does not understa... More

  • Anonymous
    Sep 14, 2019

    Children reach different milestones at different times. Dont limit her due to the expectations of others. My daughter will be two in October. She speaks in full sentences. When we go out in public people comment on it and are shocked by her age. I dont expect her to act like a 4 year old, but I do expect her to use her words and the abilities she has.

  • Imani
    Sep 15, 2019

    You definitely are already on the right track. My now 3 year old has always been very verbal. I understand you don't want to discipline her like a 4 year old or treat her like a 4 year old but it doesn't hurt to intrigue her mind. If she says something just out of habit and you think she doesn't fully understand what she is say ask her if she understands or just tell her. Ask probin... More

Advise on helping baby speak.

Baby is almost 18 months old and he only speaks mama and papa. How do I help him improve his vocabulary?

  • PK
    Sep 15, 2019

    The best books for toddlers are the books about stuff they are interested in. My son loves dinosaurs, animals, trucks, trains and Halloween. So we have a lot of books about or related to those topics. What is your toddler interested in? Another way to discover new books to love is to go to your public library, get a library card and make it a point to go at least twice a month to check out som... More

  • C
    Jan 07

    If it’s any consolation, my son’s nurses said boys tend to learn to speak later than girls, so maybe your boy is on track. Also, if he spends most of his time in multilingual environments, he’ll take longer as he’ll need to process the different sets of vocabulary. Some of my son’s friends didn’t speak until they were 18 months to 2 years old, and then one day they just started talking and wou... More

Test for speech delay? Test for autism?

My 20 month old son still isn’t talking. He’s only said “Mama”, “Apboo” (apple), “uh oh”, he babbles and makes noises. My pediatrician keeps telling me my son will talk soon and that there’s no need to get him tested but I’m just not sure. I guess I just feel alone and wanted to read other parents’ experiences ... good and bad ... with this.

  • Amanda
    Sep 08, 2019

    I would go for it if you're worried. Mother's intuition is always right. My doctor advised us against it too, but my son made it into the program after he got evaluated. The therapists are super nice and fun, and he's learned so much in only a few months. It's also free in my county.

  • Melissa
    Sep 09, 2019

    I needed to see this my son will be two next month and is babbling and saying minimal words...his peditrician suggested early intervention he didnt qualify for any services but i feel as though he does need a speech therapist i will be going through my insurance to find him one

Brushing teeth

My 1year old has 2 teeth and 4 more coming out. How do I start brushing his teeth?

  • Mary
    Sep 06, 2019

    We watch the Elmo toothbrushing video on YouTube while we brush. Keeps them distracted!

  • Holly Garnett-Pedreira
    Sep 10, 2019

    They have wipes for mouth and finger tooth brushes ❤

My LO is 11 months old.. till now only one little tooth has popped out .. should i worry??

Only one small part of tooth has come for my baby (in front below).. no more teeth at all .. her gums are very hard.. should i worry that no more teeth yet?? For so many kids at this age 3-4 teeth pops out..

  • Anonymous
    Aug 26, 2019

    Don’t worry my LO’s teeth also came out late.❤️

  • Monda
    Aug 26, 2019

    Don’t worry my best friend is daughter had no teeth until she was 16 month old and all the sudden they all started coming out she’s 18 month old with almost all her Messing teeth in

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