So, my oldest is turning 15 this year, she is having a quinceañera party which, in Latino culture, signifies her transitioning into a woman. Now, she is not a woman and will never be a woman in my eyes, still my baby girl. But I do understand she is getting older and the fact that she doesn’t live with me, due to a divorce from my first wife, makes things a bit more challenging. I want to have ... More
Back story: I’m pretty much an agnostic but converted to my DH’s faith and we raise our LO in the faith. Now with Christmas coming up my mom has been asking us what we wanted. DH never replied to it and now recently said he can’t take x mas presents and they shouldn’t get LO presents either. But my mom has already bought us stuff so he said to give it as end of the year gifts or New Years gif... More
So my wife is Korean and I am Chinese. I’m 5th / 6th generation Chinese American and my wife is 2nd generation Korean American. My sister in law is called Emo which mean aunty (from the mother side). A friend of ours posted a comment about how much the Emo’s love our daughter referring to both my sister in law and my sister. During dinner last night my sister in law said that our daughter on... More
I am worried he is verbally delayed and I am not sure how to balance it all. I want him to learn all 3- Polish, Spanish and English.
I am expecting my second baby. We have not yet found out the gender but I already started looking for names. We have a boy name but not a girl one. The only girl name we like is TOO common so I don’t really like it anymore. We’re both Hispanic and I just want a name that sounds both good in English and Spanish as our families only speak Spanish.
Has anyone successfully conceived a girl baby after following the so called “rules” to increase your chance of having one? For instance, I have read that if you don’t allow yourself to orgasm it can help your odds or that if you purposely only have sex a few days before ovulation and not on the day of ovulation, you have a better chance of conceiving a girl. Also, changing your diet has been re... More
My 2.5 year old started going to daycare two months ago and I’m really struggling to accept that he is losing his/ and my mother tongue. I worked very hard to speak solely in our native tongue, assuming he will pick English up easily enough, which has been the case. But he happily spoke to me and understood our mother tongue. For about three weeks, he’s refused to use anything other than Englis... More
I have a half African American and half Mexican daughter. Her hair is getting longer and I’ve been told I have to put stuff in her hair to protect the curls. She’s got the big Shirley temple curls. I have bought the “Miss Jessie’s Multicultural Curls” lotion and it doesn’t seem to be doing anything. I use the “glop and glam” shampoo and conditioner in her hair. I’m just not sure what to use for... More
My husband is from El Salvador and speaks fluent Spanish/English. I want our 20 month old daughter to learn Spanish as well. However, there are a few problems: 1. I am a stay at home mom, so she is around me 24/7; and I am only fluent in English. I cannot afford someone to babysit while I go take classes; nor do I have the family support. 2. My husband is almost never home due to his grave shif... More
I recently had to take our oldest to the hospital (she’s fine) and while we were registering in the ER, the admin person who was reviewing her patient file turned to me saying “Oh, well, she’s obviously not Hispanic.” Granted, my family are light-olive toned Hispanic and Spanish and my husband is all types of WHITE. So upon appearance, yes, you might not think Hispanic. Here are my two major ... More
So I am mostly African-American and caucasian and my husband is Mexican and we have a 3 month old boy. The main trouble that I have is really how close his family is. His family constantly calls him and they are ALL OVER my baby. His sister also has a baby (a 4 month old and yes, we were pregnant together lol), but they love love love my baby because he doesn’t get as fussy with people, while... More
My husband and his family grew up in a third-world country. His parents don't speak very much English. Their theory on raising kids is that if they could survive in their home country, this won't hurt em', which doesn't work for me. And since they've raised so many kids, they really don't take any advice on what works for my LO. In my husband's culture the kids don... More
How do you keep your kids in touch with their culture? I would consider moving back home (India) when we have kids because its what my parents did and it's given me perspective I wouldn't have had otherwise if I had spent both my childhood and adulthood in the same country. I don't want to project that the same would be true for future kid(s) though if we were to move - any advice/... More
I am currently pregnant with my boyfriend's and my first child..my boyfriend is mexican and i am white. I want to know when i do give birth and everything. I want to be prepared for the question if one of my little cousins or my neohew ask. My whole family on my moms side does not have any bi racial babies on that side neither does my dads side. I want to know what to say if someone asks me... More
For bilingual / multilingual families out there, how early did you incorporate or teach another language to your babies? I’m a SAHM & my husband works during the day. He strongly encouraged me to introduce another language to our baby. But I’m anxious if I’ll do it correctly & if it will benefit him. Also, I’m not sure how good I’ll be switching over two different languages. Any insight... More
Raising bilingual children using the the "One Parent / One Language (OPOL)" method Hello. I just wanted to share how well the OPOL method is working for my 5-year old son. I was born and raised in the United States and have been speaking only English to my son and my wife who was born in South Korea has been speaking only Korean to my son since he was born. We live in Seoul, South Ko... More