Newborns

Help and advice for parents of new babies 0 to 3 months old, including feeding, newborn sleep patterns, bathing and diapering.

Diaper Rash?!! I think my baby has it. I started using California baby diaper cream when I changed his diaper 5 minutes ago. Do I apply it every time we change his diaper? He goes through like 10 diapers a day. It's just so sad because he was crying today and he never cries. Of course tonight is my work holiday dinner so im leaving him (with pumped milk and my in-laws) for the first time tonight. He is 9 weeks old. Any advice would be helpful.

  • Kendra
    Tuesday

    My pediatrician said to put it on like you icing a cake. We used butt paste extra strength. We have a spatula that I got at babies r us that really gets it on.

  • Meghan
    Yesterday

    I’m not sure where you live, but we have a local product in Cali called All Good Goop. It’s amazing. My son is 14 months old and has never really had diaper rash because as soon as we see signs of it we put this in him and it goes away by the next diaper change.

I'm having my first child soon and I'm going to be babysitting at the same time.. would that be a good idea? Will I be too tired or stressed?

  • Patricia
    Tuesday

    I wouldn’t recommend it. My newborn was a lot of work

  • Rachel
    Tuesday

    You also have to think about the newborn getting sick from the other kids. It can be dangerous. Also if your a new mom, babies are HARD and your emotions will be crazy. I would give yourself time to get the hang of it and allow baby's immune system to strengthen before adding more kids.

Tongue-tie 8 day old newborn diagnosed with tongue tie- was missed at hospital!- and has since developed jaundice. We had a procedure yesterday- to cut the skin below baby’s tongue- and was meant to see results immediately or within 24hours but 30 hours later and still nothing new! Feeds are a nightmare as baby cannot latch, so I’ve cracked nipples and baby doesn’t stay awake long enough to drain breasts. I’ve been pumping and giving him 3oz feeds with mixed results. He gags a lot and often refuses bottle in favour of nursing, which I do with the help of paracetamol and ibuprofen as the pain is excruciating! Anyone with experience of tongue tie? Was it resolved? I was hoping to EBF for a year or more, but this is proving very, very difficult.

  • Jun
    Dec 07

    for nipple cracks/pain, i used lanolin every time after nursing. covering the breast with refrigerated cold cabbage leaf each time after nursing helped too (as an inner layer of bra). my obgyn gave me a prescription for APNO cream for the nipples, it worked wonders!

  • Tara
    Saturday

    Quick update: have had a couple of feeds where I’ve felt a good latch, more precisely, where I experienced minimal pain- nipples still healing so I think even with a good latch, I’ll have a degree of pain until they heal- I’ll keep at it! Thank you for everyone’s advice and sharing of experience. Love Winnie!

Any tricks to get my newborn to nap in her bassinet/ rock and play for more than 30 minutes? Her eyes pop open almost 30 mins on the dot just about every time! I try once or twice a day and then I have her in the carrier on me for her other naps bc I know she’ll sleep 1-2.5 hours on me. I dont want her to get overtired! Will she be able to fall back asleep on her own with age or is there something I should be doing?

  • Stacie
    Dec 05

    My girl started sleeping in her bassinet when I stopped swaddling and she found her thumb...it took a few days but she just suddenly found it and that was it - she was about the same age as ur daughter

  • Desiree Baird, Sleep Coach
    Dec 05

    Just enjoy her in these early days. After 4 months then they are smart enough to start bad habits. But not right now. She needs love and comfort. :)

Anonymous

Have you dealt with an overtired newborn? How did you overcome? My little is 4 weeks old and sleeps during the day but seems overtired at night she won’t sleep and is super alert and fussy. We can’t put her down without her crying. And recommended things to try? Schedules on how to sleep during the day for a better night?

  • Anonymous
    Dec 05

    @desiree if she wakes up a lot during the night what are your suggestions? She sometimes seems hungry and then denies the bottle.

  • Desiree Baird, Sleep Coach
    Dec 05

    I think you should try to limit her day time sleep to 6 hours max and see if that improves nighttime sleep. I have a newborn package or we can do a phone consult if you have further questions. I can’t give all my secrets away since this is my business too :) The benefits of working with a sleep coach are priceless. You don’t have to read books and get conflicting information and you can get support and ask questions as much as needed. You also get a personalized plan. However sleep training shouldn’t start any sooner than 4/5 months of age.

Favorite reusable swim diaper for a newborn?

  • Asia
    Dec 05

    A cloth diaper.

  • Lara
    Dec 06

    Target has some very adorable ones, I believe they are around $10.

Is there a way to politely decline visitors? My LO was born 2 weeks ago and ever since then family has been wanting to come over. They have been here a few times but they are trying to come like once a week and I’m not feeling comfortable with that. I like to spend a lot of time alone and some people I just don’t feel comfortable having around her. Also how do I keep people that I don’t want around her away? They are family but I just get extreme anxiety with them around her and don’t even want them to hold her. They pick at her face and nails even after I said not to multiple times. I didn’t ever get ahold of them before she was born but now that she’s here they keep asking to come over. Help!

  • Jessica
    Dec 04

    You definitely need to speak up. I know it's hard, but its your baby and your choice. You had her not long ago and they need to understand your feelings on this. My brother was a real jerk about this (and some other things), and now is not really a part of our lives. He had my oldest talked into banging his head on a door because he thought it was funny when he was only 2 years old! You choose who is a part of your baby's life, not someone else. Also, if you need space or someone is not respecting your wishes when it comes to your baby it's your right to call them on it.

  • Lara
    Dec 06

    When I first had my daughter my family would completely ignore me when I asked them not to feed her (I was trying to ebf) or put her against dirty things (apparently I was being a germ freak) and would even snatch her from me and disappear from my sight on purpose until I snapped, took her back and stood my ground on who got to hold her and for how long, under my complete supervision. I tried pleasing everyone back then, but no matter what you do they'll want more (whether out of love or entitlement) so if I could go back I'd tell myself to handle it sooner and make those boundaries known from the very beginning. In the end, only you get to decide where your daughter is or with whom until she's old enough to do so herself, she can't tell you when she feels uncomfortable now but she'll always be safe with you. So don't do things that make You feel unsafe, because if anything happens you'll blame yourself later. Don't worry :) they'll be cranky at first, but they'll get over it if they want to see your baby eventually.

First time posting! We just had a baby girl 2 days ago and thinking about taking her home I’m concerned about monitoring while she is sleeping and we are either not in the room or sleeping ourselves. I’m a worrier, admittedly, and we have considered the owlet, but with the price point and reviews I have read I am feeling that may not be enough. What have you found to be the best for monitoring your baby/making sure everything is okay while they are sleeping?

  • BJ
    Nov 28

    Thank you all for the suggestions, this has greatly helped both my worry and decision for what we will do going forward. I agree, the price of the owlet makes it hard to really justify using one along with the false reading possibilities and lack of features. She is a healthy happy baby and I think we will try co-sleeping (next to the bed) and see how this goes for a bit :)

  • Ashton
    Nov 28

    Graco has a "newborn napper" play yard that I put up against my side of the bed. It helped me but I still check on him multiple times a night but I'm able to reach my arm out and touch him to make sure he's breathing.

Anonymous

Hi moms- I have a 2 month old who's been sleeping fairly consistently at night but doesn't start til around 1 or 1:30am. My husband believes now is the time to start training him to get into an earlier and more reliable schedule but I think he's too young and we should be thankful he's been able to create his own schedule at all. Anyone have any tips or thoughts on this and what is he right age to start? Also we have been sharing a bed most nights and while I'd like to continue with that, he does not and we each feel strongly about that. Has anyone else had this disagreement and come up with some kind of compromise you could share that somehow meets everyone's needs? Thanks much!!

  • Bush Mama
    Dec 04

    It’s a little early to try to train or establish a schedule. Wait until he’s around 3.5 months before you start to try to implement a schedule. By then he’ll be staying awake for longer which makes it easier to get him on a schedule.

  • Desiree Baird, Sleep Coach
    Dec 05

    Way too young to sleep train. Although baby should go to bed more like 9pm. I don’t take clients until babies are 3 months old. I’m a pediatric sleep coach. www.pediatricsleepcoach.com

My newborn sleeps all day waking up only to feed should I be keeping her awake during the day so she can sleep better at night? She stays awake for 3-4 hours at night at a time.

  • Jodi
    Nov 24

    Let her adjust! They sleep so much in the beginning. Try and take walks outside during her awake stretches. It is good for you and the baby. I think it helps regulate their clock.

  • Caitlin
    Dec 01

    I was told “sleep begets sleep”- so no need to keep kiddos awake during the day- they’ll sleep better at night if the sleep during the day.

Why is my two week old always wide awake at night? I was told that she’s supposed to be sleeping most of the time. Though this is the case during the day, she wakes up for a feeding at around 9pm and stay up sometimes till 12am. That’s almost 3 hours! She’s not crying or anything just wide awake! Can anyone relate to this??? Is this normal???

  • Jodi
    Nov 24

    Totally normal these are averages. Sounds like you have a smart and alert baby 💗

  • Desiree Baird, Sleep Coach
    Dec 05

    This is what I do for a living. I help families all over the U.S. Check out my website or email me at xxxx@xxxxxxxx Also I have on my FB free sleep tips. Currently doing videos covering 12 sleep tips for the 12 days of Christmas :)

Any twin parents on here? I have boy/girl twins that are 19 days old today! Any tips, suggestions, fun facts? Everyone said get them on the same feeding schedule it will make life easier. But so far it seems harder. Especially at night. I don’t make dad stay up with us because they’re exclusively breast fed. No sense in us both being dead tired. I guess I was cocky when I was pregnant saying I wasn’t scared for the infant stage... I was scared for when they were toddlers and into everything. lol welllll boy was I wrong. This is a whole new level...

  • Keshana
    Nov 22

    Every once in a while let your husband feed then so your not too burnt out. I made the mistake of always doing the feedings and it was bad I got to the point of crying because I was so tired. He just took over at that point and made me stay in bed.

  • Vanessa
    Dec 06

    I have 11 month twins, and a recently turned 4 year old as well. I’ve been able to breastfed all of the kids, but was on a strict feeding schedule from my lactation consultant to build up a big supply. For the first 2 months I would pump every three hours around the clock, essentially tricking my body that I had three babies. I would bottle feed both while pumping by propping up bottles and babies with pillows in front of me on the couch, and then put them to sleep by nursing them after I’d pumped and they had finished their bottle. VERY little sleep, but you get used to it after awhile... we just sleep trained them too, which I’d suggest doing earlier like 6 months. This is also slightly staggered, just enough to get one fully asleep before putting the next one down. GOOD LUCK!!

Anonymous

I’m a first time mom.. my son is 2 months and he holds his head pretty well.. however his head is constantly hanging just to one side I don’t understand why if I switch the side he sleeps on all the time and he normally sleeps on his stomach and he turns his head on his own.. is the fact that when he does relax his head or only rest to one side a problem or is that normal?

  • Samantha
    Nov 22

    I would ask your doctor. I know there is a condition that some times makes them do that and it can cause problems with the way their head shapes.

  • Bonnie
    Nov 24

    Yeah, just call your doctor. They’re used to those sorts of calls. It will put your mind at ease.

Have any other parents been through SVT with their newborn? Just would like to hear how your version went. He is in the NICU but it kills me when I see that heartbeat over 250.

  • Julie
    Nov 20

    😓. I haven’t, but I wanted to tell you you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers!! Hugs!!

  • Kcorrinnexx
    Nov 20

    5 weeks 😥 my goodness. I’m glad he may grow out of it though. Thank you!

I have a 10 day old and we had to supplement her feeding with formula while breastfeeding because she was loosing weight. She has since gained some weight and showing very good signs in her feeding habits. With this context in mind, my question is do you really have to wake up a sleeping baby every 3 hours? Or can you let her sleep longer?

  • Abigail
    Nov 28

    It’s totally normal for breastfed babies to lose weight in the first week or 2...as long as they are having wet and dirty diapers, they are fine. Make sure you’re waking them to feed as often as possible. Cluster feeding (feeding as often as possible, even within an hour or less) will establish and keep your milk supply up. Otherwise - especially with supplementing formula - your supply will diminish. Hang in there, mama.

  • Desiree Baird, Sleep Coach
    Dec 05

    I recommend every 2 to 3 hours to my clients during the day to help with day/night contusion.

Is it wrong to introduce a pacifier at 10 days old? Will it hinder her breastfeeding time? My newborn wants to use me as her pacifier mainly at night and it’s very tiring.

  • Elizabeth
    Nov 18

    Mine has been using a pacifier since we brought her home. It shouldn’t hinder breastfeeding time. They will be able to show you if they are hungry or if they only want to pacify. I was having to wake her up every three hours to feed and after a while she started waking on her own to feed. If you can count about four or more seconds between gulps that means she is using you as a pacifier and you can just put the pacifier in her mouth instead!

  • Srey
    Nov 18

    My daughter had a good latch from day 1, so the lactation nurse at the hospital told us it was okay to give her a pacifier. She actually didn’t want it. It took us until she was about 7 weeks old for her to warm up to one. If she doesn’t fall asleep at the boob for her daytime nap, I now stick her pacifier in to get her to fall asleep. I EBF.

I will have a 2-week old infant on Thanksgiving. I certainly do not want to be playing "pass the baby" and if I go would baby-wear as much as possible I'm uneasy to go at all though because there will be four young children there and it's flu season. Of course, that's the in-law gathering on Wednesday, and I want to go to my family's gathering on Thursday because there won't be any kids, my sister will be in town, and my home is super close. Can I not justify this? What would you do? When do you feel comfortable taking your newborn to gatherings and when do you let other children visit? Thanks in advance!!!

  • Julie
    Nov 23

    We had every intention of taking our 3 month old to my family’s Thanksgiving dinner this year. My family is huge and there would have been 50 people for dinner alone. Unfortunately she got sick about 5 days before thanksgiving so we stayed in and didn’t take her anywhere. In hindsight if she hadn’t gotten sick before Thanksgiving, she surely would have after being around so many adults and children. What I’m trying to say is your baby is going to get sick eventually, but if mine had gotten as sick as she is now at just two weeks I would have freaked even more than I already have.

  • Jessica
    Nov 25

    My son was born last September pretty close to all holidays. And I was on the same boat since he didn't have all his vaccines yet. I avoided crowded places I basically was home all the time..but when I did take him to thanks giving he was 2 months old and i put little gloves on him incase people touched his hands . Since babies put there hands in mouth. Also I bought a organic hand sanitizer for him . Don't feel bad at the end of the day baby is yours. Your the mom and they should understand .

How soon can you take a newborn out of the house? Say a walk in the park? We’re feeling all cooped up inside the house.

  • Karla
    Nov 19

    I don't know if it's culture or not but I'm central American and we stay in for 40 days. It's sounds so old school but that's what I did. After that I went out just a couple of times. My baby was so colicky though so I decided to stay in and have him scream all day lol he loves going out now. I would say once baby is 2 months I would have made it a habit to go out for walks

  • jeneffer mbula
    Nov 20

    Am worried.my firstborn were twins and one passed last year at the age of 1yr and 4 mnths.This year i got a son and passed at the age of 6mnths.My blood group is B -ve and my hsbd is B+ve.Is there conection of rhesus disease?

Hello! I have a 3 week old and I tested GBS positive during pregnancy. Do other folks worry about passing GBS onto your kiddo after birth? I think it’s statistically way less likely... but I’m still feeling paranoid. First time mom (if that isn’t obvious).

  • Debbie
    Nov 16

    That’s why they give you the antibiotics during labor so it’s not passed to baby.

  • Anonymous
    Nov 16

    I was gbs positive as well. I had antibiotics during labor and everything was fine. I worried a lot too, but just trust in the drs and medicine.

Is it normal for a newborn to favor one breast over the other?

  • AMA
    Nov 16

    Yes It’s so normal but really I don't know why

  • Jeni
    Nov 17

    Yes absolutely! I just made sure to pump the least favorite breast more often. (and watch out for different size breasts!!) Lol my left was preferred over my right & now I have 2 different cup sizes!! 😅😣

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