Help and advice for parents of new babies 0 to 3 months old, including feeding, newborn sleep patterns, bathing and diapering.

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Monday

When does breastfeeding get easier?

I’m 5 days post c-section and seriously struggling. My baby is a great eater and my milk came in on day 2 so I should feel incredibly lucky, however, she has a very painful latch so I need to use a nipple shield, which is annoying, I struggle to find comfortable breastfeeding positions that don’t hurt my incision and I’m just. So. Tired. I am lucky enough to have help from my husband and family... More

  • Erika

    I was in your place too. 2 c sections. Breastfeeding was awful for me, as everyone above said you can continue to try. But if you don’t, that is okay too. Both of my boys were on formula by week 2 and they are healthy smart and happy. There is a huge amount of pressure to breastfeed. Do not forget about you during this time, take care of yourself as well. As long as your babe is fed, that’s wha... More

  • Anonymous
    5m ago

    Lactation Consultant - a lot of insurances will cover a couple sessions! I had the same exact issue with my little one and she helped so much. She discovered that my little one had a pretty bad tongue AND lip tie which is why his latch was so bad and my nipples were raw/bleeding. She also helped me find a comfortable position since I was also recovering from a c section and trying to maneuve... More

Anonymous posted in Babies Thursday

Inconsolable newborn: advice/support?

I had my first baby via c-section yesterday, and despite everyone saying babies tend to be sleepy in the first 24 hours she cries nonstop and my husband and I are going insane. The nurses and pediatrician tell us she is completely healthy and this is normal but I just can’t believe this will be our new normal. We try swaddling, shushing (all the 5 S’s really!), I feed her constantly, but she ju... More

  • Aditza

    My guess is that your baby is hungry or uncomfortable. Some babies are lactose intolerant, you may want to look into that.

  • Lily

    Put her on your chest skin to skin......that is the only way mine would sleep and stop being up set! Good luck!

New mom here! I have a 2 month old who recently quit napping for longer than 20 mins, any tips?

Her room is dark, I play sound machine, she sleeps through the night which is great but refuses to nap much during day.

  • A
    Apr 11

    I ended using a probiotic and massaged his tummy to help him poo. He would go up to 7-10 days without going sometimes. Massaging helped tummy time too I don’t like the idea of juice to early it has too much sugar....

  • Aryanna
    Apr 12

    Your baby might be going through a growth spurt possibly, so that may be causing the lack of napping. I went through the same thing when my son was two months old and then again either a month or two after that and it was because he was going through a grow spurt. So depending on how long he hasn’t been napping for I would give it about a week or so.

Baby is 7days old as of today, & during last night feeding she started making this weird noise.

It’s a whiny/squeaky noise almost like the beginning of a cry, but not really... Is this normal? First time Mom here! Thank you!

  • Ivy
    Apr 08

    All my babies made that noise. I always thought it was funny/cute. Like a piglet nursing

  • Christa
    Apr 08

    My little man does and did the same thing. It is totally normal!!!

My baby is 4 days old and I’m breastfeeding. How do I know when and if she is getting enough ?

  • Michaelene
    Apr 05

    Will they let me at her first pediatrician appointment with her ?

  • Christa
    Apr 05

    Yes they will. They are very concerned on how she is going to be doing. I agree with Jackie, it’s surprising they discharged you both when she wasn’t peeing enough- we were under strict watch until our son had done the output they were happy with, and even then they still were super on top of us. Take advantage of asking as many questions as you need too, and talk to them about a pre weight, an... More

Middle name suggestions?

Me and my husband are leaning toward the name Enzo for our baby boy due in a couple weeks. Any middle names that would sound good? Last name is Bahena and we are Hispanic. Thanks for all and any suggestions 💙

  • Mama
    Apr 10

    Enzo James Bahena Enzo Alexander Bahena Enzo Orlando Bahena

  • Mama
    Apr 10


Anonymous posted in Newborns Mar 28

Almost mom worried about not loving babies

I’m due with my first in a few weeks and starting to get worried about how I’ll survive the newborn/baby phase. My husband and I LOVE toddlers and always knew we wanted kids, but we’re just not “baby people”. I know some people are (my best friend is also due in a few weeks and melts every time she sees a baby - I wish I felt the same way). I’m especially worried because my husband only gets ... More

  • Anonymous
    Apr 04

    I didn’t bond with either of my kids until they were able to talk between 18-24 months old. I never got the “love at first sight” feelings that friends and acquaintances all said they felt when they had their kids.

  • Anonymous
    Apr 05

    Honestly same as above, I am more bonding now around 18mos. Even tho I didn’t have love at first sight I still cared and managed to get through. I wasn’t sure I really loved mine much til her first vaccination appointment. Her screaming from the pokes almost made me punch the nurse 😂 but honestly they are not very entertaining in the beginning however I would assume either a) love at first sig... More

Liza M. posted in Newborns Mar 28

Two under two coming soon-what are some of your best pieces of advice?

This summer we will have a newborn and an almost 2 year old. I am wondering what people found to be effective for them as far as making life eaiser. For example, did you potty train your older child? What-if any-different products did you use/buy? What are things that didn't work for you? As always, everyone is different-I'm just interested in what worked for you! TIA!

  • Katie
    Mar 30

    The thing that really kept everything smooth is talking up the baby before she got there in terms of how much our almost-2 year old was going to love her, and having the older child make decisions about the baby as often as she could (choosing outfits at the store, where things should go in the nursery, etc). No matter what little things you do beforehand, there is going to be an “all about the... More

  • Kate
    Mar 30

    We have a 9 week old and 22 month old, so we’re still trying to figure this all out. :) But some things that have helped so far: - Carriers. I use both a Lille structured carrier and a ring sling. It’s helped immensely to be able to wear the baby while I’m trying to cook dinner, play with the toddler or get our toddler down for a nap or bedtime. - Pacifier for the newborn. Sounds simple, bu... More

Anonymous posted in Newborns Mar 27

How can I change my newborns sleeping and eating schedule ?

I have a month old who doesn’t like sleeping in her bassinet , only in my arms and she doesn’t like to sleep at night ... she eats a little bit and then three hours later she eats a lot she changes how much she was to eat is that weird ?

  • Shawn
    Mar 28

    We had similar challenges. It’s not cheap but we are renting a SNOO and it has been a game changer for us. Routinely getting 3-5hr sleep shifts out of it.

  • Mimi
    Mar 28

    Oh I didn't realize you could rent a SNOO wow

Baby boy name suggestions!

My husband and I are fully Mexican but speak more English. Our families mostly speak Spanish so we need something that sounds good both in Spanish and English. I’m due first week of May 😊

Cluster feeding and up all night

My son is 2 weeks old and sleeps great during the day but at 12am it’s a whole new ball park! He wants to constantly nurse and falls asleep on me. Once he lays down he gets up again and we repeat the process. We try rocking and offering the pacifier but he doesn’t really like the pacifier either (probably because my two year old tries to shove it in his mouth). My family (hubby and daughter)is... More

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Mar 04

    So first of all, most babies are born with this opposite schedule. During the day mom was moving and more or less rocking baby to sleep all day, you lay down at night, and bam! Time to play! So a lot this is just transition from womb to real world. The best things you can do are creating routines for sleep time and keeping the room dark. Unfortunately the rest just takes time (and repetition) ... More

Anonymous posted in Child's Health Mar 04

Leaving the house with a newborn

Curious to hear at which point have you all ventured out of the house with a newborn. Would you suggest at 1 month or after the first shots at 2 months? And where would you go to get out of the house for a bit. It is scary with the measles and flu outbreak so I’m pretty much glued to the house right now.

  • Alexis
    Mar 08

    I left the house a few days after my daughter was born. We went to the mall. Its definitely nerve wrecking at first for me. Knowing there's tones of people and she was still a newborn. She slept the whole time we were there. I was surprised. The environment wasn't to different from being at home because she was still a calm and relaxed baby.

  • Lily
    Apr 02

    We moved from Seattle to Texas when our baby was 1 month old, drove the whole way. As long as you wash your hands and keep people away from the baby you should be fine. It is really good for you to get out of the house.

Anonymous posted in Newborns Feb 28

POLL- pregnancy with toddler or newborn and toddler

What do people feel is harder: Exhausted, bloated from pregnancy with a toddler OR Toddler and Newborn? Which is the less of 2 evils :-p

  • Anonymous
    Mar 21

    I'm a SAHM, still pregnant with a toddler, and that is going fine. I am fearful of when the baby's popped out. Then I'll be juggling a toddler AND infant! I should remind the hubby that HE'S in charge of grocery shopping from now on!

  • Lynn
    Mar 21

    When the baby first comes, your husband isn’t only in charge of groceries, he should be in charge of the toddler too. Everything because you’ll be busy eith the baby and recoverying.

Anonymous posted in Newborns Feb 20

Adjusting to 2 kids and TERRIFIED

I’m 26 weeks pregnant with #2 and already freaking out! The kiddos will be 21 months apart (I never planned to have kids this close in age). My daughter is such a pleasure I’m terrified about #2. I’m kinda freaking out about the adjustment of having 2 kids and could really use some ENCOURAGING words or advice in making the adjustment. Everything I read is horrifying 😫

  • antigrav_kids
    Feb 22

    The first two kids here are 20 months apart. The second and third are 27 months apart. They have a blast with each other! It's really nice that they always have someone to hangout with, and enjoy playing with each other. Each kid is more work, but they help with each other over time, and each one is different and lots of fun. My partner and I share in everything, so that helps a lot. I had ... More

  • Jessica
    Feb 22

    Our two girls are 27 months apart and some days are harder but the hard parts are mostly just taking longer to get things done or get out of the house. Our second is way easier than the first and I am so much more relaxed about it since I now kind of know what to expect (as opposed to everything being so new). Our youngest is now 3 months and watching the two begin to interact together has been... More

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Feb 18

Caring for a newborn and toddler

Please shine some light for me. I seem to be losing it wondering how I’ll be able to take care of a toddler and a newborn. I’m exhausted. Does it get better, and when? I’ve seen other moms do this effortlessly. And I am amazed, and baffled. Tell me how to make this work.

  • Lkffy
    Feb 21

    It DOES get easier, and FAST! I struggled for the first year after #2 was born (Also had a 1.5 yr old). But then things got so much easier after the first birthday! Not only did the nighttime sleeping get a lot better around that time, but now they are old enough to play together, they can eat the same things, and generally are less demanding (currently 3 & almost 2). Hang in there. I start... More

  • Erica
    Mar 15

    OMG I remember those days. It gets easier, just take naps when you can and remember you can’t do everything. I struggled with #2 and #1 was 1.5 yr old. Currently have a newborn with a 6 and 7 yr old and would be a complete zombie if it weren’t for my mom. Hang it there!!

Anonymous posted in Newborns Feb 11

Best friend chose the same baby name - what would you do?

I’m 7 months pregnant and my best friend just had her baby girl. i had been trying to get a hint from her about the name or even letter she was thinking about but she went to the hospital with three potential names and didn’t decide until her baby was born. We just found out she chose the same name as us and we’re heartbroken. The name we chose is in honor of both my grandmother and great gran... More

  • Angela
    Feb 21

    Make it the baby's middle name. If it's a popular name (my issue with Evelyn...darn it!) then she will prob go by her first name (or some derivative of it), but if it turns out it was just a coincidence, then you can always call her by her middle name.

  • Anonymous
    Mar 20

    I named my daughter Gracie, after my grandmother. All through school, she complained that NOBODY has a name like hers Now, she appreciates having a different name.

Anonymous posted in Child's Health Feb 07

Constantly stressed about newborn catching something

A friend of mines newborn caught the RSV virus. And it has been awful for the little one. Now I have a newborn and I am constantly stressed of her catching it from visitors. First of all, I don’t allow visitors. But immediate family do insist. I make sure they wash there hands, sanitize, etc. Although, they get really offended about my approach. Also, with a toddler that attends daycare- I mak... More

  • Cris
    Feb 15

    Nope! It is pretty scary, while they are so little and fragile. But don’t worry you will all be fine!

  • Tiana
    Feb 19

    I was super stressed about this during pregnancy, but once baby came I needed to get out. I was vigilant about hand washing and others holding the baby, but I wore him which made it easier to fend off random fingers and touchy hands. I was unapologetic in my approach of, “nope, he’s ok here. No, you may not hold him”

Ryan posted in Newborns Jan 27

Suggestions for getting baby to sleep in bassinet

Does anyone have any suggestions for getting two week old to sleep in her bassinet? For the past week, our little one has only slept for a short time in her bassinet before waking up and crying. In contrast, she relaxes comfortably in the mamaRoo swing. Any suggestions to make the bassinet more comfortable? We have tried a shusher device and different lighting, but so far these methods have ... More

  • LaVona
    Jan 27

    I use my boppy. It sort of nestled him in so he feels like he is still being held. It has worked for both of my sons.

  • Shawn
    Mar 28

    The SNOO has been a godsend. We are renting it monthly. Highly recommended.

Terah posted in Newborns Jan 13

Introducing 1 yr old to baby

My brother and sister-in-law are having a baby boy in July and my daughter will be 1 year old in June. How have you guys introduced newborns to cousins/siblings? How long did you wait before introducing?

  • Amanda
    Jan 13

    My husbands cousin just had their baby before new year and we introduced my son, 16 months at the time, once they arrived home. At first he didn’t even care. He just looked at him and walked away but once I held the baby it was a different story. He didn’t cry but kept wanting to me to pick him up and asking for me. Once we left he was fine just wanted a few extra cuddles.

  • Tara
    Jan 14

    My daughter was 1.2 years when she met her newborn baby brother, and **knock on wood** things have been great (so far). She initially wanted to poke and prod him, but I’d gently take her hand and show her how to stroke (on herself, on me and then baby), and say: gentle, gentle (or equivalent). She picked that up quickly. Then I also prepped her by talking to her, pretty much as soon as I knew I... More

Anonymous posted in Bottle Feeding Jan 12

Milk coming out of nose and spitting up via mouth

My newborn baby is a week old and whenever we feed her, burp her for 15 minutes and put her down she spits up milk through her mouth and nose. How can I resolve this issue? What are good remedies, or over the counter medicines for this? The doctor recommended burping the baby very well, using a cool mist, and do not put the heater on in the room. Thanks!

  • Kim
    Jan 13

    My little is the same way. I try to keep him upright for at least 20 mins after feeding. Their little tummies are very underdeveloped at this age and spitting up is normal. My doc had me go dairy free for a month and it didn’t help. Now gluten free diet and he is much better.

  • Anonymous
    Jan 13

    I remember my baby doing this, if it’s not bothering her I wouldn’t worry about it. She might be over eating

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