Help and advice for parents of new babies 0 to 3 months old, including feeding, newborn sleep patterns, bathing and diapering.

Is my breastmilk hurting baby?

We welcomed baby no.2 about a week and a half ago, I was looking forward to ebf since it’s what we did with our first, but things have been a little different this time around. First of all we had problem getting baby to latch at all. She would just scream (not cry, scream!) whenever I brought nipple close to her, it was really bad at first but it’s gotten better. Except that then she started... More

  • MamaNukesYopolo

    My first pooped after almost every feed early on, and then it shifted from there. If you do think it’s something you ate, it takes at least ten days for that something to be completely out of your system. So if baby’s behavior changes like a day or two after you stopped eating something’sprob jus baby, not what you ate.

  • Liza M.

    Don't ignore your mama instinct. This happened to me and my LO. It was so stressful for both of us and everyone kept offering heaps of advice and telling me it was normal. In the end it took about 3 months before she was diagnosed with a dairy allergy and we switched to formula exclusively. **Not suggesting this is your issue, just want to offer support in saying that it is OKAY to get a se... More

Bianca posted in Newborns Nov 02

Sleep training

Good hello everyone! Any sleep training methods/books you all would recommend? My LO is 7 weeks old. From birth, we have been working on sleep training and getting him to understand the difference between day and night and sleeping in his bassinet. We were making progress but at 6 weeks, he went through a sleep regression and no longer wants to sleep in his bassinet. If we give in and have him... More

  • Tiffany
    Nov 08

    I’m trying to sleep train my son. He’s 1. Def too early for your little one

  • Erin

    I second the Love to Dream sleep sack! Having their arms in that position seems to be more comfortable for babies than down in a swaddle and being in the sack prevents the startle reflex from waking them up. I would say I actively started trying to get my baby to nap independently around 6 weeks and it only took about 2 days. The extinction method (shush, pat, walk out) what was worked for me. ... More


My newborn keeps choking and milk comes out her nose, is it something I'm doing?

  • Chelsa
    Oct 31

    I’m sure it’s not something you’re doing, but there can be something to help you both. Are you expressing your foremilk before feeding baby? I know sometimes it can be a lot coming fast, and can be too much. I used this natural pump with my 2nd son that helped take “a little off the top” so he wouldn’t choke from the fast flow or get sprayed in the face haha. It helped in the days where your br... More

Anonymous posted in Newborns Oct 26


I have a 1 week newborn who sleeps all day and wants to to be up and fussy all night!!! Is that normal? I cannot remember if my first born did the same because it's been so long.

  • Karla
    Nov 02

    My 1 week old is also doing this. He isn't as fussy at night but still more awake at night than daytime. I'm just gonna let him be for now and hope he also gets on board with sleeping at night lol

  • Jenna
    Nov 08

    Newborns will have their night and days mixed up because they take so many naps. It’s very normal and over time baby will sleep less during the day and more at night

Anonymous posted in Newborns Oct 25

6 week peak fussiness

Hi all! My LO is 6 weeks old. He was beginning to develop a schedule and napping either in his swing or his bassinet for 3-4 hours, playing about 30-45 minutes. He hit 6 weeks and that has all fallen apart. He is constantly doing hunger cues and feeding every 1.5 hour. The pediatrician recommended feeding him 1 ounce per hour since his last feeding. We are feeding him appropriately but after t... More

  • Lilina
    Oct 26

    Cluster feeding! It does get better, hang in there. Just when you think you got a schedule it goes away, perfectly normal. You will get back into another schedule. When they are so little any schedule is a godsend but if it stops working it’s normal.

  • Jenna
    Nov 08

    Cluster feeding. He’s growing! Feed that baby!

Elmas posted in Diapering Oct 19

What is the best diaper for a newborn?

Ariel posted in Newborns Oct 14

Sharing room with newborn baby

Hello everyone. My husband and I live in a one bedroom apartment in Glendale. The rent is $1600. For now we cant move out of here for several reasons. Now I am 6 weeks pregnant and I am worried is it ok to share the bedroom with newborn baby?? Has anyone done that?

  • Kieli
    Oct 14

    Definitely do what is best for you and your family, only reason I had my daughter in my room for so long is because we were living with family and she had to be with us. As soon as my 5 month old is finished breast feeding I will be putting her in the room with my 2 year old.

  • Lindsey
    Nov 01

    Do what works for your family, it may take trying a few sleeping arrangements to find out what that is but, agree with the above comments - it's recommended babes be in the room with you. If you have a bassinet and you end up needing to put babe in the living room at night, that may work too.

Anonymous posted in Newborns Sep 27

Other people touching your baby

Is it just me that get super annoyed when other people want to touch my baby? Someone on the elevator in my apt building asked to touch my daughter and I said no. She looked so offended. I didn’t have time or patience to explain why. My mother in law who was with us said I overreacted. I don’t think I did.

  • antigrav_kids
    Oct 03

    I think you did great! No one is obligated to get to touch a baby, and I say that as a person who wishes I got to hold every baby I ever met. If you're gut, instinct, rational mind, whatever, tells you know, then the answer's no. You've got a good reason whatever it is, and even if you don't, it's your kid, not theirs.

  • Tash
    Oct 03

    I just dont know why anyone would ask! I would never expect to be able to "touch" a stranger's baby. If it's a friend or colleague and their body language suggests they are open to it, I might ask and even then I am prepared to hear something like "let's see if he wants to go to you" aka "maybe not".

Lilina posted in Newborns Aug 22

LO will only stop crying when held or on top of mom or dad

My LO is 7 weeks, turning 2 months on Saturday. It’s been a struggle getting things done around the house and having a second to myself as my LO is only comfortable being held or on top of mom or dad. We have tried the swing and longest he will stay without crying is a few minutes unless asleep. I have tried a bouncer chair which he cries as soon as he’s put in. We also have him play on his bab... More

  • Ivy
    Aug 22

    My first was very much like that. I had to baby wear him a lot. He grew out of that need very quickly, as soon as he began moving around on his own. It really was so hard getting anything done when all he wanted was to be held. Carrying him on my back in a wrap or carrier made it easier to do things

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Aug 22

    You cannot build a bad habit by holding a baby who wants to be held, especially that young. That is an old wives tale that older parenting generations tell us for some weird reason. You could wear baby (definitely a life saver for me), so you can get more done. You are coming up on the “period of purple crying” so it’s likely just part of his development. I have 4 under age 5, and I have worn a... More

Stacie posted in Babies Aug 21

Won’t sleep more than 50 minutes, refuses crib

My 11 week old won’t sleep more than 50 minutes unless she is lying next to me. I’ve tried everything, different swaddles, putting down awake, putting down drowsy, putting down asleep, rocking, feeding to sleep, giving a bottle, a pacifier, swaddling, not swaddling, spacing out feedings. using a shirt with my smell, bassinet, a warm heating pad- everything. She will not sleep in the crib at nig... More

  • Suzzie
    Aug 23

    Use a pillow hahaha I used to put a pillow between me and my son when I would snuggle him to sleep. Then I’d slowly push the pillow off me and on the bed with my son on it. Totally fooled him every time. But also keep in mind they need skin contact. They love you. Embrace the attention they seek, its going to improve you mother/son or mother/daughter relationship

  • Ivy
    Aug 23

    My first was very much like this and had reflux as well. Had colic for months too. For the day time, I wore him a lot. Like A LOT. Also, I reclined with pillows and held him to sleep on my chest at night times too, until he was about 4-5 months, then we started walking him to sleep in the stroller every night, and transitioned to a bedtime routine. By 6/7 months, he was putting himself to sleep... More

Anonymous posted in Newborns Aug 15

Can a toddler and NB share grooming kits?

Things like thermometer, nail clippers, the nasal aspirator? I feel like they should each have their own but my husband thinks otherwise?

  • Carissa
    Aug 21

    Yeah my kids share nail clippers, thermometers, combs, etc. they have separate ones but my daughter likes using ALL of her little brothers stuff. Even tries fitting into his clothes sometimes 😂 her things are hers and his things are also hers 😂

  • Molly
    Aug 22

    We share everything. Sterilize the nasal aspirator and thermometer after use but you should be doing that anyway!

Anonymous posted in Newborns Aug 06

Super clingy 3 year old just before new baby

My 3 year old has always been a mama’s boy, but these past couple months he’s been extra clingy, and now with less than a week before my due date with baby #2, he literally does not want to leave my side. He doesn’t want his dad, or anyone else, but mommy to do anything with him. He only wants mommy to change him, get him his food/drink, put him in his car seat, give him his bath, etc. Of cours... More

  • anonymous mom
    Aug 07

    Give it Time, he’s sensing the upcoming changes and he’s having a hard time understanding and processing. I only have one child but I used to nanny for big families. Those first few days, weeks, and months can be so hard but so rewarding. I found the older siblings who fared best in the transition had parents who were always there to acknowledge their child’s feelings and found ways to still gi... More

  • Ivy
    Aug 07

    My two and four year old love their baby sister dearly, since the first night. But I did notice my 2 year old regress a lot and has been acting out a lot more as I assume he desires more quality attention from me. What has helped, is having him be as involved as possible with his baby sister. When she cries, I tell him to check on her and when he makes her smile or stop crying, he gets lots of ... More

Constipation, continued - 1 mo old baby

Here is the situation. We've been struggling with a constipated baby, per the last few posts i've made. We've added probiotics, gas drops, gripe water from time to time. The pediatrician approved prune juice to test so we've been doing one ounce of juice added in two half portions throughout the day. It's been helping - but not without struggles! Poor girl cries and cries a... More

  • Anonymous
    Aug 07

    my daughter had the same issue, she’s 8mo now and we mostly just did the q-tip and vaseline method and it worked like a charm for her. eventually she got used to the formula and as of 4mo she poops regularly. we started her on formula when she was 1.5mo and had issues at first. the prune juice didn’t really help her as much, more so just doing the q-tip trick every other day if she wasn’t poopi... More

  • Anonymous
    Aug 07

    oh, we also did bicycle exercises with her legs to help get things moving, that helped a ton too.

Anonymous posted in Bottle Feeding Jul 25

Tummy troubles with formula?

My LO is 3 and half weeks old and we just transitioned him to full formula from being full breast milk since he was born. With breast milk, he pooped almost every single feeding but now with formula he poops maybe once a day. During feedings though he is constantly pushing which frustrates him because nothing comes out. Is this normal? When he does poop it’s not hard. Is this his tummy getting ... More

Anonymous posted in Bottle Feeding Jul 17

2 and a half week old eating every 1 and 1/2 to 2 hours, anything we can do stretch that out?

Newborn has just started to eat every 1 and 1/2 to 2 hours from the start of the feeding and is eating between 2 and 1/2 to 3oz of breast milk. Anything we can do to stretch this out? Is this temporary?

  • Kieli
    Jul 18

    Yes, baby’s will eat more when going throw a growth spurt. My 2 month old (EBF) cluster feeds, feeds about every 1-2 hours during the day and then sleeps longer stretches at night. Definitely not a bad thing

  • Samantha
    Jul 22

    This is completely normal. Nothing you can really do to stretch out the time between feedings. Baby’s stomach is so tiny right now.

Anonymous posted in Activities & Enrichment Jul 13

Swimming with a newborn

Just curious on when everyone took their baby swimming. I have a 5 week old and was curious when it was alright to put them in the pool?

  • Anonymous
    Jul 15

    I started both of mine at 3 months. No real reason just worked out that way. I would also ask your doctor about sunscreen, and how much you should or shouldn't use. There are a lot of terrible ingredients in them!! I've heard recommendations of none until 6 months to none until 2 years, but I live in the south and it feels like the surface of the sun right now so there are times that it... More

Constipated two week old, continued

I've written before about our struggle with poops. Our baby is 15 days old and has only pooped on her own twice since bringing her home. I cannot keep up with breastmilk demand so i supplement with formula (1oz breastmilk 1oz formula) and not every feed, maybe three feeds a day or i'd be glued to the breastpump which is unrealistic. So most of her feeds are 100% formula, shown below as ... More

  • anonymous mom
    Jul 26

    Hi Anna!! How are things going? I would say this is almost 100% an intolerance issue. If the pooping hasn’t become regular yet, consider trying an alternative type. I would avoid soy based formulas but maybe goat milk based can help. Or the partially or fully hydrolyzed types given to kids with cow milk intolerances (similac alimentum is what I ended up supplementing with). Another thing tha... More

Anonymous posted in Newborns Jun 21

Don’t feel as bonded to second baby

Anyone not feel as bonded to their second baby? I was obsessed and thought she was the cutest baby with my first daughter from the moment she was born (she’s 2 years old now). Since bringing home my second (she’s 2 weeks old) I just don’t feel that same emotion as I did with the first. I am definitely not depressed- I’m otherwise totally fine (a bit overwhelmed having 2 but that’s natural). I ... More

  • Megan
    Jul 01

    With my first I didn’t feel bonded for the longest time! I’ve always wanted to be a mom and thought it would come so much more natural than it did... but it took time. I think for me it was more just transitioning into being a mom and the entire mindset. But once I got it, I had it immediately for my second born. Immediately bonded in a way I didn’t with my first. Again may have just been now I... More

  • Anna
    Jul 04

    I didn’t feel as bonded with my first, but I also experienced a lot of trauma, PPD, and anxiety-but in my case, I don’t think I realized it until much later. How was your birth? Was it traumatic at all? I think sometimes that has something to do with it. As you probably remember, the newborn stage is very overwhelming. Also, was your first a good sleeper? My first was horrible at sleeping from ... More

Anonymous posted in Newborns Jun 20

I’m due with a baby boy in September and I need names that start with a Tr..

Most of the guys names on my fiancé’s side start with a Tr... most of them are unique.. I’m looking for either or ☺️

  • Samantha
    Jun 22

    Travin (trey-vin) or Trace

  • Elle
    Jun 23

    Travis Tracey Troy Tristan Tevor Trey

Anonymous posted in Newborns Jun 16

Help! Baby number two is coming in the next six weeks. Should we spell his name “Miles” or “Myles”

  • Emily
    Jun 17

    I like Miles.

  • Kieli
    Jun 18

    Depending if you want “unique” Or not. Does first baby have a “unique” name? When I was looking to name my second I wanted it to blend well with my first. My firsts name is Willow, so we sought all kinds of not so common names to go with it. We almost named our second Hazel, but didn’t like how Willow and Hazel sounded so, ultimately we named her Scarlett. We didn’t want to have one child with ... More

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