Newborns

Help and advice for parents of new babies 0 to 3 months old, including feeding, newborn sleep patterns, bathing and diapering.

Bowel Movement

Has anyones LO not poop for more than day and half almost two days or more? My LO is eating normal, he’s peeing normal, sleeping normal and stomach doesnt feel hard. Ive tried massage stomach, warm bath, switched formula and thermometer in rectum but still hasn’t had bowel movement. He does keep farting but no output... feeling worried. I am currently pumping but not much so he gets supplemente... More

  • Pad
    Mar 23

    Just checking in.. has he pooped since your post

  • Crystal
    Mar 23

    yes thank u

Anonymous posted in Newborns Mar 20

Are Moses basket safe for all night sleep?

I’m looking for a bassinet that I could also use to have by my bedside but don’t know how safe they are when it comes to overnight sleep. During the day I’d be up so baby could sleep there and I’d be aware but is it built to handle all night sleep?

  • Anonymous
    Mar 21

    Nope. Never use it for the night.

  • B
    Mar 23

    I like the arms reach cosleeper. It goes next to the bed

How much is daycare for a newborn?

Curious if anyone has experience putting a newborn in a daycare, and how much it costs? I am in the Bay Area in California would love to hear how much is daycare for a newborn in various areas. Thanks!

  • Pianpian
    Mar 12

    Thanks both! How was your experience and your babies' experience in the daycares? Did you feel comfortable putting a newborn there?

Anonymous posted in Marriage & Partnership Mar 07

Going back to work in 9 days from maternity leave and I’m exhausted and my husband doesn’t help

I go back to work in 9 days from my maternity leave and I am exhausted and my Job is pretty demanding on a mental and social level. My husband works from 9am-12pm only and my schedule will be full time from 8-530 sometimes 6-630. He hasn’t helped with the baby this entire leave because he said I’m home. I am starting to really hate him and not sure how I am supposed to juggle a newborn,work fu... More

  • Anonymous
    Mar 09

    for your own peace of mind you may want to consider part-time child care, maybe this will be a wake up call for him that he's so unreliable you need to seek alternative care. The drinking is not safe around your children and I wouldn't risk it with a newborn. Find a licensed provider who has experience with infant care there are a lot of great people out there.

Boy name

My husband and I are having a hard time deciding on which name looks and sounds better for our little boy due in a couple of weeks. Brannen Price Turner Or Brandt Price Turner

  • Chris
    Feb 01

    I like Brandt. I feel like Brannen will be commonly heard as “Brandon” leading to constant corrections.

  • Tiana
    Feb 01

    Brandt for sure

My nine months old baby has only slept once straight through the night since birth

Since I was pregnant my baby would be quiet, no movement til 10pm at nights which peaked at 2am or 3pm. After giving birth and trying everything the nurses and doctors taught me, at 7 months was the only time I can remember she went to bed at 10 and slept til 5am. She is always wide awake and when she is ready to sleep she gets cranky. While she is awake she will sit in the dark quiet or making... More

  • Anonymous
    Dec 20, 2019

    So first of all (coming from someone who birthed 4 babies in the last 5 years) society makes up the fact that it’s normal for babies to sleep consistently at these ages. I have 2 and 3 year old who need consoling at night a few times a week. This is a choice. And one that is deeply personal and should not be judged. Doing some weaning/crying it out/ or other graduated sleep methods will help... More

  • Amarah
    Dec 24, 2019

    Thank you all for the feedback. I am going the methods shared.

Screaming 2 month old.

Hello. So my 2 months old screams his head off like he is hurt or something even though he is fed, burped, and changed, bathed etc.. the only way he will stop is if my husband and I keep a bottle in his mouth. The second we move it when he is finally asleep he wakes up and cries. We are at our wits end please help me. Or give me some ideas as to why you think this is going on.

  • Bianca
    Dec 04, 2019

    My son did something similar. Before he started bottle feeding, he would use my breasts as pacifiers and would want to be latched all day long. If I moved him, he would scream bloody murder. Then, when we moved to bottles, he did the same thing. Sometimes I would just leave the bottle in his mouth just to have a few moments of peace before the screaming began. The only thing that worked for my ... More

  • Hope
    Dec 10, 2019

    My two year old is at this stage, too. We have no idea what’s causing it, but we’ve taken to giving her a teether and that seems to be working. She just kind of sucks it like a pacifier, but it helps her when we don’t want her sucking down air from an empty bottle

Silent reflux?

My one month old baby gags and coughs and usually has wet burps. I thought i was colic at-first because he kept us up at night but am giving him colic drops and it doesn’t seem to work. His stomach gurls a lot and he licks his lips like he’s thirsty he been gaining a lot of weight so i dont know if this is reflux. But when he cries he calms downs and then suddenly scream cries. What should i do... More

  • Liz
    Dec 01, 2019

    Sounds like gas. Hold baby upright while feeding. Hold upright and burp for 20 min after feeding. Ask doctor about reflux. We were on Zantac for the first 6 months. Offer tummy time and bicycle kicks to help with gas. Also look into gas drops

Bedtime Routine Ideas

Hello all! Currently all my children ages 5,3, and newborn are sharing a room with each other. My 5 yr old and 3 year old have rare sleeping issues that could be disturbing to the newborn (5 year old sleep walks/talks and 3 year old fights sleep due to fear of dark that flares up) Our nighttime routine is pretty solid. Dinner, clean up time, bath/ book time and then bed. I try to get them in... More

Daycare anxiety

Good hello everyone! My LO is currently 10 weeks old and will be starting daycare in 2 weeks. While I think my husband and I picked one of the best daycares in the area, I am having a lot of anxiety about him going. He just feels so little and knowing he won’t get 1:1 attention is hard for me to deal with. Any reassuring thoughts or suggestions for getting through this separation and making ... More

  • Lindsey
    Feb 05

    Deep breathing, looking at pictures while you're away from them, and solid communication/check ins with the staff after your babes day will help you through the anxiety 💜 the first few days are the hardest for both of you and once the new routine is set, it will be ok 🤗

Is my breastmilk hurting baby?

We welcomed baby no.2 about a week and a half ago, I was looking forward to ebf since it’s what we did with our first, but things have been a little different this time around. First of all we had problem getting baby to latch at all. She would just scream (not cry, scream!) whenever I brought nipple close to her, it was really bad at first but it’s gotten better. Except that then she started... More

  • Liza M.
    Nov 16, 2019

    Don't ignore your mama instinct. This happened to me and my LO. It was so stressful for both of us and everyone kept offering heaps of advice and telling me it was normal. In the end it took about 3 months before she was diagnosed with a dairy allergy and we switched to formula exclusively. **Not suggesting this is your issue, just want to offer support in saying that it is OKAY to get a se... More

  • Jamie
    Dec 20, 2019

    What color is the poop? I’ve heard if it’s green it is an imbalance of hind milk and foremilk, this can cause an upset tummy because the milk isn’t being digested fully. I had a similar issue where my 3 week old would scream after every feeding, my pediatrician took a stool sample from her diaper and looked to see if there was blood in it. She found traces of blood and said this is a food aller... More

Sleep training

Good hello everyone! Any sleep training methods/books you all would recommend? My LO is 7 weeks old. From birth, we have been working on sleep training and getting him to understand the difference between day and night and sleeping in his bassinet. We were making progress but at 6 weeks, he went through a sleep regression and no longer wants to sleep in his bassinet. If we give in and have him... More

  • Tiffany
    Nov 08, 2019

    I’m trying to sleep train my son. He’s 1. Def too early for your little one

  • Erin
    Nov 14, 2019

    I second the Love to Dream sleep sack! Having their arms in that position seems to be more comfortable for babies than down in a swaddle and being in the sack prevents the startle reflex from waking them up. I would say I actively started trying to get my baby to nap independently around 6 weeks and it only took about 2 days. The extinction method (shush, pat, walk out) what was worked for me. ... More

Help

My newborn keeps choking and milk comes out her nose, is it something I'm doing?

  • Chelsa
    Oct 31, 2019

    I’m sure it’s not something you’re doing, but there can be something to help you both. Are you expressing your foremilk before feeding baby? I know sometimes it can be a lot coming fast, and can be too much. I used this natural pump with my 2nd son that helped take “a little off the top” so he wouldn’t choke from the fast flow or get sprayed in the face haha. It helped in the days where your br... More

Anonymous posted in Newborns Oct 26, 2019

Help!!

I have a 1 week newborn who sleeps all day and wants to to be up and fussy all night!!! Is that normal? I cannot remember if my first born did the same because it's been so long.

  • Karla
    Nov 02, 2019

    My 1 week old is also doing this. He isn't as fussy at night but still more awake at night than daytime. I'm just gonna let him be for now and hope he also gets on board with sleeping at night lol

  • Jenna
    Nov 08, 2019

    Newborns will have their night and days mixed up because they take so many naps. It’s very normal and over time baby will sleep less during the day and more at night

Anonymous posted in Newborns Oct 25, 2019

6 week peak fussiness

Hi all! My LO is 6 weeks old. He was beginning to develop a schedule and napping either in his swing or his bassinet for 3-4 hours, playing about 30-45 minutes. He hit 6 weeks and that has all fallen apart. He is constantly doing hunger cues and feeding every 1.5 hour. The pediatrician recommended feeding him 1 ounce per hour since his last feeding. We are feeding him appropriately but after t... More

  • Lilina
    Oct 26, 2019

    Cluster feeding! It does get better, hang in there. Just when you think you got a schedule it goes away, perfectly normal. You will get back into another schedule. When they are so little any schedule is a godsend but if it stops working it’s normal.

  • Jenna
    Nov 08, 2019

    Cluster feeding. He’s growing! Feed that baby!

What is the best diaper for a newborn?

  • Trent
    Dec 02, 2019

    Anyone tried Dyper Bamboo subscription diaper service?

  • Diana
    Dec 17, 2019

    I use Kirkland from Costco. Works pretty well for me.

Sharing room with newborn baby

Hello everyone. My husband and I live in a one bedroom apartment in Glendale. The rent is $1600. For now we cant move out of here for several reasons. Now I am 6 weeks pregnant and I am worried is it ok to share the bedroom with newborn baby?? Has anyone done that?

  • Kieli
    Oct 14, 2019

    Definitely do what is best for you and your family, only reason I had my daughter in my room for so long is because we were living with family and she had to be with us. As soon as my 5 month old is finished breast feeding I will be putting her in the room with my 2 year old.

  • Lindsey
    Nov 01, 2019

    Do what works for your family, it may take trying a few sleeping arrangements to find out what that is but, agree with the above comments - it's recommended babes be in the room with you. If you have a bassinet and you end up needing to put babe in the living room at night, that may work too.

Anonymous posted in Newborns Sep 27, 2019

Other people touching your baby

Is it just me that get super annoyed when other people want to touch my baby? Someone on the elevator in my apt building asked to touch my daughter and I said no. She looked so offended. I didn’t have time or patience to explain why. My mother in law who was with us said I overreacted. I don’t think I did.

  • antigrav_kids
    Oct 03, 2019

    I think you did great! No one is obligated to get to touch a baby, and I say that as a person who wishes I got to hold every baby I ever met. If you're gut, instinct, rational mind, whatever, tells you know, then the answer's no. You've got a good reason whatever it is, and even if you don't, it's your kid, not theirs.

  • Tash
    Oct 03, 2019

    I just dont know why anyone would ask! I would never expect to be able to "touch" a stranger's baby. If it's a friend or colleague and their body language suggests they are open to it, I might ask and even then I am prepared to hear something like "let's see if he wants to go to you" aka "maybe not".

LO will only stop crying when held or on top of mom or dad

My LO is 7 weeks, turning 2 months on Saturday. It’s been a struggle getting things done around the house and having a second to myself as my LO is only comfortable being held or on top of mom or dad. We have tried the swing and longest he will stay without crying is a few minutes unless asleep. I have tried a bouncer chair which he cries as soon as he’s put in. We also have him play on his bab... More

  • Ivy
    Aug 22, 2019

    My first was very much like that. I had to baby wear him a lot. He grew out of that need very quickly, as soon as he began moving around on his own. It really was so hard getting anything done when all he wanted was to be held. Carrying him on my back in a wrap or carrier made it easier to do things

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Aug 22, 2019

    You cannot build a bad habit by holding a baby who wants to be held, especially that young. That is an old wives tale that older parenting generations tell us for some weird reason. You could wear baby (definitely a life saver for me), so you can get more done. You are coming up on the “period of purple crying” so it’s likely just part of his development. I have 4 under age 5, and I have worn a... More

Won’t sleep more than 50 minutes, refuses crib

My 11 week old won’t sleep more than 50 minutes unless she is lying next to me. I’ve tried everything, different swaddles, putting down awake, putting down drowsy, putting down asleep, rocking, feeding to sleep, giving a bottle, a pacifier, swaddling, not swaddling, spacing out feedings. using a shirt with my smell, bassinet, a warm heating pad- everything. She will not sleep in the crib at nig... More

  • Suzzie
    Aug 23, 2019

    Use a pillow hahaha I used to put a pillow between me and my son when I would snuggle him to sleep. Then I’d slowly push the pillow off me and on the bed with my son on it. Totally fooled him every time. But also keep in mind they need skin contact. They love you. Embrace the attention they seek, its going to improve you mother/son or mother/daughter relationship

  • Ivy
    Aug 23, 2019

    My first was very much like this and had reflux as well. Had colic for months too. For the day time, I wore him a lot. Like A LOT. Also, I reclined with pillows and held him to sleep on my chest at night times too, until he was about 4-5 months, then we started walking him to sleep in the stroller every night, and transitioned to a bedtime routine. By 6/7 months, he was putting himself to sleep... More

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