Nontraditional Parenting

Discussion and questions about the spectrum of parenting arrangements that go beyond just the birth mother & father.

Jade posted in Adoption May 31

Karli, a Sesame Street character in foster care

Did anyone hear about this? So great to see some representation of non-traditional home life on TV. Hopefully, this will open up some dialogue and help to remove some of the stigmas associated with kids in the foster care system. Yay Sesame Street! 🙌🏼 https://www-m.cnn.com/2019/05/20/entertainment/sesame-street-karli-foster-care/index.html?r=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.ca%2F

  • Mrs. HHH
    Jun 24

    This Is The Best! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 The most vulnerable children in society need a voice in the mainstream dialogue

  • anonymous mom
    Jul 26

    Beautiful.

Anonymous posted in Faith & Religion Feb 20

My son's grandmother imposing her religion on him

How the hell do you deal with religious fanatics in the family who force and coerce your child to become a member of their religion? My mother has found her dedication to the Christian faith in her later years. "You do you" is my stance, so hooray for her, but for my baby I'm letting him choose what religion, if any, he'll follow. That means I am not having him baptized in an... More

  • Lynn
    Feb 22

    My MIL keeps sending them books with religious undertones or straight up religious themed saying that these are well written and knows we won’t buy them. So she will. I just toss them into the trash can. My house. I say what stays and what goes. And if she’s not careful, I say who....

  • A
    Feb 22

    Just my two cents and hopefully it will give you the child's perspective. I grew up in a culture where being religious is not even questioned (I didn't even know the word atheist till I went to high school or college, don't remember). We did all things religious in our family and all the families I knew were like that. However, I did start questioning the beliefs and superstitions a... More

Co parenting with another parent who’s stubborn?

I’ve been having trouble trying to figure out a good way to share custody with my sons father, he’s very rude and stubborn as heck. Any time we talk it turns into an argument. How can I approach this differently, or to come to an agreement?

  • Destinee
    Jan 18

    It might be a good ideas to consider a mediator. Then you have a professional putting all expectations in writing and it’s clear to all parties. and if anyone goes against it you can go to court.

Kijuana posted in Adoption Jan 03

Hello I was wondering how some of you found a birth mother who was considering adoption?

  • Anonymous
    Jan 04

    An adoption agency is really the safest option. Everything is in writing, legally enforceable, and you know exactly what you’re getting into. As much as just “doing it yourself” has perks - better relationship with the birth mom, future contact, personal screening - the legal pitfalls are dangerous.

  • Jenny
    Jan 05

    I would agree. The legal pitfalls can be extremely dangerous and costly. The other route you could explore would be adoption consultants such as Adoption Information Services. This will help speed up the process as you will have the opportunity to be shown to birth moms all over the country via several agencies as well as adoption attorneys.

Separate parenting issues

This would be my first post on here. Really hoping to get some real insight and advice.. my daughter who just turned 10 yrs, recently started seeing her dad again. He hasn't seen her in over a yr. Anyway, my daughter tells me he has been bad mouthing me to her and saying things that aren't true. Things like me using her against him (which isn't true) . I was actually the parent tryi... More

  • Angie
    Dec 14, 2018

    Hmmm, thats a tough one cuz you need to stop this but dont want to lose her trust. Try explaining to her that secrets are not to be kept between adults and children. Honestly, do you know if your ex is a narcissist? This sounds like behavior of a narc. I just recently permanently stopped communication and visitation with my childs father for many unhealthy reasons due to being a malignant cover... More

  • SWAGGERDAD
    Dec 14, 2018

    Hey, I think you should have a talk with him and when I say "talk "not about bad mouthing you but Have a conversation, by the looks of it he's hurting inside, that why he's bad mouthing you to his daughter. As a Man and a Father I don't agree with he's action, he's wrong for doing that and using his daughter against her mom. He thinks he's hurting you by bad... More

Anyone involved in a kinship fostering situation?

  • Megan
    Aug 22

    Yes and now it’s leading to adoption. Stay strong and get as much support as you can.

Holiday arrangements with different families

I have a 4month old baby boy and we are experiencing some cold cold weather! My boy hates being in layers and he’s teething, which makes for very busy days for mama and daddy. My question is how do you guys handle splitting up days with your families during the holidays? We have 3 families that celebrate both Thanksgiving and Christmas so we’re going to my grandparents Thanksgiving or staying h... More

  • Brittny
    Nov 18, 2018

    Thank you lily! I’ll try to do my best your right!

  • Sabrina
    Mar 04

    Tell them you want to start your own traditions and y’all be a family and actually look forward to the holidays instead of stressing about it and spending it traveling. :)

Anonymous posted in Family Life Nov 15, 2018

Can I do it?

Do you ever feel unfit to be a parent? I do. 😭 I promise him that I will be better but I’m not there yet, and wondering if I will ever be the parent he deserves.

  • Joni
    Nov 19, 2018

    Absolutely. I’m a single mother of 3 and I feel this way most days. I work and go to school full time but I feel the constant need to keep improving for their sake. They deserve the absolute best and I fall short. You just have to keep trying everyday. Give yourself credit I know it’s easier said than done but the fact that you try and are aware means your doing better then most. Hang in there!

  • Lauren
    Nov 24, 2018

    I have never felt like this. You need to asked yourself why you feel like this. It may be something as simple as you are spread too thin.

How do you transition from a 2parent household to a 1parent household with a 1yr old?

  • Anonymous
    Oct 16, 2018

    Same question, but I have a 3 year old and 9 month old...

4 kids 3 different Moms

Me and my fiance just got his 3 kids back. Got the 7&9 year olds back in December when I was 4.5 months pregnant with my 1st and the 17 year old in May when the baby was 1.5 months old. Trying to transition all of the kids to work together at all different ages is so hard. Any suggestions to help me get them to see their family and work together rather then constantly fighting an telling on... More

  • Jessica
    Sep 28, 2018

    ☝🏻 agreed. I’m glad it got erased, try not to let “anonymous” comments get you down- or anyone’s for that matter!

  • Hippity
    Sep 28, 2018

    I had to go thru something similar and all I can say is : it takes time, and hard work but it’s all worth it, after years of fighting now my stepsons and I have a great relationship and they appreciate everything even the tough love, so hang in there

Should I teach my daughter to fight back?

My lovely, smart, polite, friendly and well-liked girl is eight and in NYC 4th grade public school. I always taught her to obey the rules and the law but in this age of #metoo and with certain politicians violating the rights of women, how do I tell her to punch when she needs to? I've explained to her that certain things are never right, that boys (and men) should never touch her when she ... More

  • Tiff
    Oct 02, 2018

    You should explain to her that nobody (not just men or boys., but other females too) has the right to touch her in any manner that she does not want to be touched. Teach her boundaries and respect of other people's bodies and tell her it's ok to fight against anyone who tries to persist in violating her boundaries afyer she has clearly said no. There should be no need to bring up Stor... More

  • Anonymous
    Feb 21

    I'm mother to a boy and I say a resounding yes, encourage her to learn self defense and to advocate for herself. I teach my son about consent and toxic masculinity, but daily I witness how ubiquitously society encourages boys to feel entitled to take what they want from girls without suffering consequences. I see it all around us - in the media, from people around us, even his little friend... More

Guardian

Who is your kids legal guardian if you/and spouse pass away? How did you ask them? Are both sides of the family aware of your choice? Did anyone say no when you asked? How did you decide?

  • Alondra
    Sep 25, 2018

    Following

  • Anonymous
    Sep 25, 2018

    This is so scary to think about. I don’t even know how to bring it up to my husband because we honestly don’t trust anyone with our son

Foster parents

Out of curiosity how many foster parents are here? Is this a space mostly for birth parents?

  • Patricia
    Jul 28, 2018

    Foster parents are no different. <3

  • Jackie
    Sep 15, 2018

    Foster parent here to three under three. 😊

On raising emotionally healthy boys

A thought-provoking read from The Atlantic on why boys need more freedom of expression and more encouragement to be who they are. "It’s a societal loss that so many men grow up believing that showing aggression and stifling emotion are the ways to signal manhood. And it’s a personal loss to countless little boys who, at best, develop mechanisms for compartmentalizing certain aspects of wh... More

  • Lauren
    Apr 30

    Read the "The War Against Boys" by Christina Hoff Summers and research more. This is one side of the argument. There are many things that can affect behavior and masculinity...even if a boy grows up without a strong Male presents.

any witchy mommas out there? 😊

just a for fun post 🖤 i am a witchy momma lol

Utah just passed legislation that may be the country's first free-range parenting law. https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2018/03/28/utahs-free-range-parenting-law-said-to-be-first-in-the-nation/?tid=ss_tw-bottom&utm_term=.4e65345b3d80

  • Angela
    Apr 26, 2018

    Awesome!!!! I grew up free range! In the summer I checked in a couple times a day if I needed food/drink/bathroom. Other than that, nobody even knew where I was! I could be at the creek all day. In the 80’s it was so much easier! [I don’t think the strangers are any different now, we just have access to media in our hands all day to hear about the bad all over the world. ] I have one kid I t... More

  • antigrav_kids
    Apr 27, 2018

    Same here! I grew up hiking all over the mountains of NM from 3rd grade one. There were 'illegal' migrant laborer camps, sprinkled through the forest, but no one ever even discussed that that might be safety issue, because it wasn't. My parents new vaguely which direction I'd gone. They trusted me to figure it all out.

All my 420 friendly parents out there... please no negativity if you don’t partake. When did you stop smoking in front of your kids? How old were they? And how did you eventually explain to them what you are doing? My son is almost a year old and he stares at us when we smoke and we’re starting to get sneaky about it.. how did you handle?

  • Anonymous
    Apr 21, 2018

    Switched to a vape pen. Vape is just easier and less things to keep out of reach, there is no where is my lighter moments and cleaner. Also easier to have one thing to grab if you get a free moment.

  • Angela
    Apr 26, 2018

    We both quit smoking cigarettes 4 years ago. My boys 9 and 13 hated it! I will vape my mmj for a quick pain/anxiety reducer (micro-dosing)! I never smoked mj around them. I wait until evening kick back alone and smoke and hot bath and bed! There are tons of edibles,sprays,oils, even suppositories and lube that are more discrete. My oldest doesn’t really get into much of my daily life, he li... More

Good Morning!! Is anyone on here plant-based // homeschooling?

  • Kerry
    Feb 03, 2018

    We aren't plant-based, but we are homeschooling - this is our first year, guess you could call us Charlotte Mason inspired?

  • Ale
    Mar 07, 2018

    We just started our plant base journey, but I need help understanding all the food we should be in taking everyday so we don't miss out on any vitamin we need. I've been experiencing headaches, and I'm afraid there are vitamins that were not taking in. I'm sorry more about my kids ages 2, 7, and 9. Any advice would help. We have been homeschooling since my oldest was in kinder.

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