Support, advice, and resources for parents of babies that were born prematurely.

Anonymous posted in Developmental Disorders Oct 06

Premature development

I have a 14month old who was born at 35weeks and development is delayed a month a a half. She is almost 15 months and either blatantly ignores me or does not understand commands like spit it out, give it to me, come here, or even responding to her name being called. If there’s something she wants or it benefits her then she’ll respond greatly which makes me think she understands, but other than... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 06

    Ask for a hearing test!

  • Anonymous
    Oct 06

    I will look into it, thank you guys!

I have a 23 month old preemie and I can’t seem to wean him from the breast. Any advice??

  • becky
    Oct 03

    My son is 28 months and still breastfeeding at naps. The rest of the feeding we started weaning from one at a time. Starting with the daytime when he was easier to occupy. At night we weaned the bedt im me one first by giving him a glass of milk instead. He eventually weaned himself of the rest of the night ones. Hang in there. Eventually they stop on their own:)

  • April
    Oct 03

    Legally speaking, jobs have to give you certain intervals of time to pump or breastfeed. If you’re having issues pumping, try upping your water intake. That helped me a lot. I went from half a gallon a day to sometimes up to 2 gals.

Bloody stool

M son he was born 2.5 months early. He is 3 months old now. He was on breast milk in the beginning with no issues and now he has bloody stool. The doctor tested him for milk and soy allergy and it came back negative. Also he does have a lip tie but dentist said it’s not bad and won’t operate on it. So my doctor has him on hypoallergenic formula but I want him back on breast milk. Any one els... More

  • Julie
    Sep 06

    Good luck to you!!! If it continues to be an issue or if you want a second opinion, you can ask to see a pediatric gastroenterologist. If her blood hadn’t cleared in 2 weeks, that was our next step.

  • Linz
    Sep 06

    How did he test him? My baby have had the same thing happen to him at that age, I asked if he can be tested, but both the pediatrician and the GI said there no test for babies this small, and blood testa will not be accurate. But they both agreed I should continue with breastmilk with trying to cut possible allergens, I started with all dairy, then I had to cut out eggs and soy too. They said i... More

Anonymous posted in Preemies Aug 24

Son is nearly 5 months old and still needs swaddled at night!

He was premature a month, but the timing still has me concerned. Am I late at getting him used to self soothing? What do I do?

  • Tiffany
    Sep 03

    Zipadee Zip was a life saver for me.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 03

    Thanks everyone!

How can I help my daughter to crawl. She hates being on the floor, cries until she’s picked up

11 months now and 8 months adjusted. She prefers to stand but has no balance when standing

  • Summer
    Aug 25

    I have the same problem with my 9 month old. He hates tummy time and doesn’t want to crawl so I’m not forcing it. Instead I got him a standing activity table and we’re working on standing. He love to pull himself up.

  • Luz Marie
    Sep 05

    Used to have that same problem with my daughter. She wouldn’t last 2 minutes before have a breakdown. We started doing lots of stuff on the floor with her that didn’t necessarily had to do with crawling or tummy time. For example I started to sit on the floor with her to read, gave her snacks, for singing (pat-a-cake etc); I would lay down next to her just like to reassure her that she was “saf... More

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Aug 13

Delivery at 29 weeks

My cousin had an emergency c-section at 29 weeks, any advice/tips on having such a little baby and an extended NICU stay?

  • Beth
    Aug 14

    Tell her to definitely take care of herself . My daughter was in NICU a week and even that short time I felt helpless and lost. I finally had to tell myself that to take care of her I needed to take cafe of myself. I was pumping and sending my milk to her but I made sure I got rest, food, water, and love and support from friends and family was pivotal. The NICU is full of amazing people and c... More

  • Katelyn
    Aug 15

    My baby was in the NICU for a month. Others have said this, but making sure your cousin has food at home for easy quick meals is a huge help for a NICU mom. You are constantly on the go between home and the hospital and also having to make time to pump. If she is pumping, I would suggest getting her some premier protein shakes. They were so easy for the mornings and you need a lot of protein wh... More

Anonymous posted in Bottle Feeding Jul 09

Am I overfeeding my baby?

My son is 3 months old and was born a month premature. I’ve been trying to keep up with his appetite, but it seems to keep increasing! He’s already up to 36oz/day. He sleeps for about 6 hours at night and takes multiple naps everyday. Is this normal for a preemie?

  • Elle
    Jul 10

    I can't speak at all to preemies (that's probably a more appropriate Q for a pediatrician), but 36oz/day is totally normal and healthy for that age range. Our 3 month old sleeps 11 hrs (undisturbed) and takes around 4 short naps (30-45min) during the day. She eats 5 times during the day, each 6-7oz. Our pediatrician's feed guidance chart actually suggests the "average baby&q... More

Ollie posted in Preemies May 30

Have you all heard about Mother’s Milk Bank? I recently came across this place and found out that they helps out babies that are in the NICU. Basically, they are looking for mothers who have extra milk and willing to donate for premature babies. Please check out their website and let other mothers know about this.

How early did you deliver and your baby not have to have a long stay in the NICU?

I'm 31 weeks with preeclampsia and the doctors have warned me that they might have to deliver at any time going forward. I was induced with my daughter at 37 weeks due to preeclampsia and she was 7lbs3oz and perfect. I'm so nervous that this time will be different.

  • Alisha
    Jun 01

    My baby boy was born at 25 weeks and spent 10 weeks in the NICU. We had 3 other kids at home. Some days it was very hard, but try to just live one day at a time, finding things to be thankful for, leaning on friends and family for support. It is something that you can’t imagine having the strength to do, but if you have to, it will become your “new normal” and you will be ok. Now, he’s been hom... More

  • Rebecca
    Jun 03

    Twins: 36 weeks, 4.3lbs, he didn’t have to go at all. 5.1lbs, he stayed for 12 hours because of “wet lungs”. Everyone went home together after 4 days..

Jordyn posted in Preemies May 12

Does anyone have a baby with a trach?

My son just turned one and was a micro preemie. I was just wondering if anyone else has a child with a tracheotomy? It’s really hard for him to even attempt to crawl cause of all the machines cause he can’t sprint. Anyone else going through this?

  • Jordyn
    Jun 12

    I try, but due to all the major surgeries he pukes if he’s doing to much. Our physical therapists are working with him every few weeks and teaching me stuff. Hopefully he can sit up soon and walk next year. He’s working hard and doing great. We just got the new trach (flex 10) I’m super excited!

  • Jordyn
    Jun 12

    Thank u!

Does anyone have twins and/or preemies and when did they start to sit on their own? My girls a 8.5m and they show no real desire to sit. My bigger girl is just over 17lbs and my little one is just over 15lbs. Is it just their size? I mean, we are super active with them.

  • Katelyn
    Apr 30

    My LO wasn't born too prematurely but had a difficult birth with some time in the NICU. She started sitting on her own around 6 months. If they aren't showing any motivation I would see if physical therapy could help. My LO has been going since birth and it really helps. Otherwise my only recommendation would be to encourage it by playing more in sitting positions and teaching them how... More

  • Ashley
    May 30

    I have twins born at 32 weeks. They started sitting for more than 1 min at a time around 7 months, 5 months adjusted. My daughter was better at it quicker than my son. They rarely go from laying to sitting on their own

Anonymous posted in Preemies Mar 29

Any advice on getting a 20 month old to go to sleep on his own? BACK STORY- He was a preemie. Born 3 months premature. Spent 2 months in Nicu. After coming home he slept mostly in a rocker or his swing (he had acid reflux and couldn’t sleep on his back) when he got much bigger we started co sleeping. He’s over that. Once he’s asleep he will sleep all night. We finally got him off the bottle... More

  • Rachel
    Apr 23

    I heard a few moms swear by the sound machines like at walmart. I have a cosleeper so I can only go on what ive heard others say.

Starr posted in Preemies Feb 25

New mom to a preemie. Any preemie moms here?

  • Corissa
    Apr 27

    25+6 twins here just got out of nicu after 155 days. Both born at 1lb 10oz.

  • Morgan
    Sep 14

    I am! Son born at 31 weeks

Has anyone tried either au pairs vs. nannies? I have a preemie baby and am not interested in taking him to daycare for at least the corrected age of 6 months. Any advice?

  • Mrs. HHH
    Jan 13

    Also I’d like to add to Caroline that I made enough money last year to pay for Xmas presents just by selling stuff around the house on FB marketplace, Let Go, Nextdoor, Craigslist and eBay

  • Caroline
    Jan 13

    Thank you so much Erin!

My baby is 2 months old she was a premature and she just hit her 40 weeks gestation age. I wanted to know when should I start adding cereal to her milk? Does it make a difference because she was premature?

Anonymous posted in Preemies Oct 29, 2017

For those with preemie babies- did you find your baby reached developmental milestones according to their adjusted age or their actual birthdate? My baby was born at 36weeks 4 days.

  • Tatiana
    Nov 02, 2017

    My baby was born at 32 weeks and I found that she was hitting her milestones based on her actual birth date but I also found she pushed herself a lot which made her exhausted at times. I started breastfeeding her at 33 weeks gestation age and she latched on real quick. Now that she is almost 40 weeks she is speeding up quicker. But I believe girls are quicker than boys.

  • Daisy
    Apr 30

    My baby was born at 31 weeks and I reaching many milestones based on birthdate. However, some of them are aligned with his due date. So far no delays, just being lazy at walking ha!

Does anyone have a stay at home job? My daughter is a preemie. I can't just put her in daycare. I can't have kids around her yet so I can't babysit. I need to find a job to help my husband anyone have ideas what I can do?

  • Mayerlin
    Oct 29, 2017

    Try rat race It lists all legitimate work at home jobs and resources. I’ve worked from home on and off since 2013 after my first was 6 months old. Some companies I’ve worked for are Asurion, Working Solutions, and Hyatt Hotels.

  • Adriana

    I sell Avon & do most of my business through Facebook & while running my everyday errands. I honestly love it. It takes a little while to build your business but you make what you put into it.

I recently have birth to twin girls, premature at 33 weeks. I'm having difficulty increasing milk supply. Any suggestions?

I have a 6 week old ( 1 day adjusted) he will not let me put him down at night. He always has to be held or right next to me in bed.. I DO NOT want to co sleep but this has been awful! Any advice?

  • Rachel
    Apr 05

    Get an inclined sleeper to put beside your bed. It worked wonders for my son!

  • Alyssa
    Sep 23

    My daughter was the same way. I suggest getting the fisher price rock and play sleeper. Worked amazing with her. Gave her that feeling of being held.

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