Siblings

Get advice on having multiple children, helping siblings bond, preparing older kids for a new baby, dealing with sibling rivalry, and more.

Anonymous posted in Behavior Sep 16

22 m/o in hitting phase

My wife and I have a 22 month old and a week old infant. Our 22 month old has been acting out and is in a hitting phase. She’s making me feel absolutely crazy, where I am starting to feel instant anger. I want to be the best parent I can be, but the overwhelming negative feelings are getting more intense every day. Thanks in advance.

  • Rebecca
    Wednesday

    My life. My older was fine until the newborn came. It’s a hard adjustment and takes time. Sorry.

  • Genesis
    Thursday

    My, now 5 & 6 year old, went through hitting phase when they were about 3 & 4. They would hit each other non-stop. It would drive me crazy because no matter how many times we explained that we have to keep our hands to ourselves, they wouldn't listen. It lasted a while but they finally got the idea when I would sit them down and I would play with them and show them how we communicat... More

Anonymous posted in Siblings Sep 08

Morning sickness and advice?

Hi mamas! (and dads)! I just found out I’m pregnant with baby #2! Which means I’ll officially have 2 under 2. Does anyone have any advice? Tips and tricks? I also have been having awful morning sickness and need any and all advice for it, I had a bit of nausea with my first but it was never this bad. Help a mama out😅 TIA!!

  • Kieli
    Sep 08

    Prepare baby #1! I think that has helped my older daughter. She is so helpful, and loving to her little sister. Get as much help as possible too. You will need to rest as much as you can and it seems nearly impossible to get them to nap at the same time. Meal prep foods too! You don’t have to do anything crazy, but maybe make breakfast burritos, homemade pancakes and freeze them, soups for lunc... More

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Sep 09

    I had my first two 17 months apart. I honestly don’t think there is much you can do to “prepare” baby 1, except to transition them ahead of time out of things like the pack n play or car seat so they don’t feel like baby stole it. I had some rough morning sickness as well, and I did a lot of laying around while reading books, laying on the floor playing blocks or just letting him climb on me an... More

Anonymous posted in Babies Aug 26

Mama’s w/ Two kids under Two:

Me & my husband are wanting to have another kid soon, but first I would like to get the pros/con, suggestions etc of what other moms have went through, struggled with, loved, disliked etc with having two kids under two. TIA!

  • Jennie
    Aug 29

    I had 2 under 2 (now I have 5 under 8) and I loved it. The first few months are tough but once you get into a good routine, it's great. Now they are 7 & 8 and it's awesome because they're basically at the same development levels and want to do things together. I wish my other kids were closer in age, to be honest.

  • Sierra
    Aug 30

    It’s been much harder than I imagined for me. My oldest was really jealous no matter how much I tried to do all the right things to help them bond. It did get better with time though, 80% of the time they both love playing together. What was the hardest for me was combining both their schedules and that they both needed and wanted my full attention at the same time and fought to have it. I had ... More

Lina posted in Siblings Aug 21

30 something, 9 yr old son, too late to have more?

My son just turned 9 and has been asking (begging) for a sibling for years. I did try and was not successful. 2 miscarriages. I want to try again but now I’m in my late 30’s and he is already 9! I struggle with this every single day. I’m 1 of 6 kids. I feel so much guilt not giving him a childhood with siblings. I would be devastated if I couldn’t give him any at all but is it too late?

  • Jenny
    Aug 29

    I had 4 kids from my first marriage 2 boys 15 & 14, and 2 girls 18 & 16. I had remarried. Both my new husband and I were 35 he’d raised step kids but never had any of his own so he wanted kids! We had a boy in oct 2014 my kids being the ages they were not thrilled at first lol but when the baby came it was completely different they all loved him and jumped right in to helping take care ... More

  • Nise
    Aug 30

    My sister is 40 with a 21 yr old a 9 year old and a 2 year old. Your not too old. Forgot about what society has taught you about what age you should be having babies and do what you want. P.S I’m 33 and have a 14 yr old, 5 year old and a newly turned 1 yr old.

Time To Bottle Wean

I have a 2 year old and a 1 year old and i’m ready to get rid of bottles. It was hard with my 2 year old because his brother came and he always wanted a bottle like the baby. I think now it time to remove it from both. Any tips? Suggestion? Best Cups?

  • Stacey
    Aug 13

    Our son has not used a bottle since we stopped formula at about a year. He is almost 2 now. He uses 360 cups and those are great. We are starting to use the Reflow smart cup at meal times. It's a normal cup but has an insert to control the flow of the drink. He likes to try to drink out of anything Mom and Dad are using so he's had practice with water bottles, big tumblers and straws.

  • Gemma
    Aug 15

    Transitional cups work great

Anonymous posted in Newborns Aug 06

Super clingy 3 year old just before new baby

My 3 year old has always been a mama’s boy, but these past couple months he’s been extra clingy, and now with less than a week before my due date with baby #2, he literally does not want to leave my side. He doesn’t want his dad, or anyone else, but mommy to do anything with him. He only wants mommy to change him, get him his food/drink, put him in his car seat, give him his bath, etc. Of cours... More

  • anonymous mom
    Aug 07

    Give it Time, he’s sensing the upcoming changes and he’s having a hard time understanding and processing. I only have one child but I used to nanny for big families. Those first few days, weeks, and months can be so hard but so rewarding. I found the older siblings who fared best in the transition had parents who were always there to acknowledge their child’s feelings and found ways to still gi... More

  • Ivy
    Aug 07

    My two and four year old love their baby sister dearly, since the first night. But I did notice my 2 year old regress a lot and has been acting out a lot more as I assume he desires more quality attention from me. What has helped, is having him be as involved as possible with his baby sister. When she cries, I tell him to check on her and when he makes her smile or stop crying, he gets lots of ... More

MOM posted in Siblings Aug 02

Age gap in siblings??

Is 5 year age gap too long in siblings?

  • Stephanie
    Aug 30

    My oldest is 14 then surprise I now have a 5 month old...

  • Jamie
    Sep 05

    My oldest will be 21 next month and surprise! I have a 3 month old. Also a 1 1/2 year old Grandson. Yes, I said grandson Lol. My daughter loves her brother and despite the two decade age difference there is still some jealousy over my attention. They already have a unique and strong bond. My son only laughs out loud for his sister and already cries when she puts him down to leave. They have alr... More

Anonymous posted in Behavior Jul 22

Behavior changes for first born after bringing second sibling home

My first born is suddenly very whiny and emotional about EVERYTHING and she’s typically such a good girl. This started about three days after my husband and I brought home her baby brother from the hospital. She’s extremely sweet to him and hugs and kisses him but I know it’s a tough transition for her because of her new behaviors. Bed time has suddenly been drawn out as well. She’s a month shy... More

  • Anne Boyle
    Aug 01

    Thanks for the post. We are going though the EXACT same thing with our daughter who was a week shy of 24 months when we brought her brother home. Meltdowns have been epic. She was also sick with a fever first few days and her molars are coming in, so that didn’t/doesn’t help. He’s three weeks old now, and she’s still whiny. He gets her presents. We have scheduled “special time” time with her an... More

Toi posted in Siblings Jul 11

My son and his lil sister

My son doesn’t want the new baby to touch him and occasionally he may look at her or may touch her rarely but he doesn’t really interact with her and he’s about to be 2 and she’s 6 months is this normal

  • Anonymous
    Jul 11

    Yes

Anonymous posted in Siblings Jul 07

Toddler & infant share a room?

Does/did anyone sleep their toddler and newborn/infant in the same room? We have a small, bungalow-style house (under 900 sq ft), and I’m getting a little nervous about when #2 arrives...how do you juggle sleep schedules and the toddler trying to “help”? More info: our first, bless her, was sleeping 5-6 hour stretches by about 6 weeks. I’m going to assume we won’t be that lucky again. But ... More

  • Jennifer
    Jul 08

    My boys share a room (2 years and 2 months). I put the toddler to bed first and bring the baby in after he’s asleep. When the baby wakes up to nurse during the night I put him back down in a pack and play in the living room but only to avoid getting them both up at the same time in the morning. My was a good sleeper too but they can both sleep through the other’s crying. We put a crib tent on t... More

  • Anne
    Jul 09

    We did this! We also staggered bedtime. Baby went down at 6:30PM and toddler went down at 7:30PM. I also used a white noise machine so they wouldn't be as likely to wake each other up at night. It worked out well! They are 5 and 6 now and still share a room.

Anonymous posted in Child Care Jul 01

Transitioning FROM daycare (SAHM)

We are planning for our second child and realized, even if both of us are working, daycare costs will be out of reach. I’m nervous on two fronts and would appreciate any advice or stories regarding two transitions: 1 - from being a full time worker to full time SAHM (I admittedly was VERY ready to return to work at the end of my first maternity leave) 2 - how to transition baby #1 OUT of day... More

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Jul 04

    When I had my first, I was ecstatic to return to work. Everyone told me I was going to be devastated and cry, and I loved it. I felt like I had it all. As my second child came close to being due (17 months apart), I asked to go part time to make life balance easier (I loved my job, and my husband and I honestly could afford to put both in daycare based on our pay and work from home flexibility)... More

Anonymous posted in Newborns Jun 21

Don’t feel as bonded to second baby

Anyone not feel as bonded to their second baby? I was obsessed and thought she was the cutest baby with my first daughter from the moment she was born (she’s 2 years old now). Since bringing home my second (she’s 2 weeks old) I just don’t feel that same emotion as I did with the first. I am definitely not depressed- I’m otherwise totally fine (a bit overwhelmed having 2 but that’s natural). I ... More

  • Megan
    Jul 01

    With my first I didn’t feel bonded for the longest time! I’ve always wanted to be a mom and thought it would come so much more natural than it did... but it took time. I think for me it was more just transitioning into being a mom and the entire mindset. But once I got it, I had it immediately for my second born. Immediately bonded in a way I didn’t with my first. Again may have just been now I... More

  • Anna
    Jul 04

    I didn’t feel as bonded with my first, but I also experienced a lot of trauma, PPD, and anxiety-but in my case, I don’t think I realized it until much later. How was your birth? Was it traumatic at all? I think sometimes that has something to do with it. As you probably remember, the newborn stage is very overwhelming. Also, was your first a good sleeper? My first was horrible at sleeping from ... More

Lindsay posted in Siblings Jun 18

Looking for tips on juggling a newborn and my toddler

My husband often works nights and I'm having to do bedtime on my own those nights. My one month old is always up during that time (crying if not held) & I'm trying to get my 2 yo bathed, pottied and feel like he gets some sort of special time. Any suggestions??

  • K
    Jun 19

    Have you tried using a carrier? Probably not the most comfortable. Hopefully the colicky phase will end soon. I had twin girls a few months before my son turned 3 and my husband gets home at 7, so I feel ya. My girls did well in the baby Bjorne chairs when I had to cook or give my son some time. I had them on a pretty scheduled day, so their “bedtime” was 6, even though they were still waking e... More

  • MTH Zale
    Jun 20

    I had a similar issue and decided to co-sleep. It made my nights happier and baby slept all night. Now I have a 5 year old I have to get into her own room each night. Possibly could have taken another path but it made our earlier days a lot happier.

Double Strollers

I have an almost 2 year old son and 6 month old son. Been doing research on which is the best double stroller. We need one that’s compact for the car trunk and prefer the single line style. Any suggestions?

  • Vonda
    May 09

    Uppababy Vista. It’s amazing. Expensive; but I wouldn’t buy any other double stroller. Folds down in seconds. Easy to maneuver vs a double wide stroller. And I know it’ll last my kid and all the cousins. Lol.

  • Holly
    May 11

    Lily is right. City Select is expensive but worth every dollar!!

Leslie posted in Siblings Apr 14

Silly question..

Do you find it easier with one child or two? I’ve gotten mixed reviews from people and am contemplating trying for baby #2. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed with how much of my undivided attention my son needs of me everyday. I almost feel like if he had a playmate he’d be more entertained and engaged. Thoughts from experience mommas?

  • Priscilla
    Apr 15

    I have never met a parent who thought having two was easier than one. Once in a blue moon when we’ve been able to drop one off with the grandparents and we only have one at home, it literally feels like we’re on vacation... like what are we gonna do with all this extra time and energy?! 😂 Think it’s just perspective though, obviously one feels hard (as opposed to having no kids) when it’s all y... More

  • Rick
    Apr 26

    2. 2. 2.

Anonymous posted in Products & Gear Apr 11

2nd child. I am having my second child (both boys), what will I need? Boys will be 21 months apart.

A double stroller? A high chair (or will my older son be out of his), a crib (or will my older son be out of his by the time the new baby moves out of our room at 6 months) etc.

  • K
    Apr 11

    I had twin girls when my son was 2.5. He was in a toddler bed since he was 15 mth bc he was climbing out of his crib. But, we knew we needed his crib, so we transitioned him before the girls came. He loved his new bed and the foam bumpers are amazing. Even with my huge belly I was able to lay with him and they went right back into shape. As for high chair, you have a few months. My son was out ... More

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Apr 15

    I had my first two 17 months apart, and my second and third 20 months apart. I got a double stroller, an extra cheap booster seat and that has worked well. Other purchases that happened sooner than normal were transitioning the older one to a toddler bed (or getting a new crib), getting a new car seat, and another baby monitor. I had one in my room for baby and one in the older ones room. I al... More

Anonymous posted in Multiple Children Apr 01

Nervous for #2 arrival

Anyone else terrified for #2? Being pregnant with a toddler has been rough and well be 8 weeks left and counting . All the advise people keep telling me is how hard it will be and how awful it is - it doesn’t make me look forward to adding #2- they’ll be 21 months apart!

  • Anne
    Apr 16

    My kids are 2 years apart, and I am home with both of them everyday, all day. It was exhausting for the first few months, but it got a lot easier once everyone was settled into our “new normal”. Make alone time with the oldest a priority when the baby sleeps. Also, having friends or family take one kid allows you time to bond with the other, rest, do whatever keeps you sane. Also, don’t blink!... More

  • Elayne
    Apr 30

    I felt the same way with my #2. To be honest, it’s not as hard as I thought. I was so scared, I didn’t know what to expect. But once he came, it all kind of fell into place. Not going to lie though, he’s now about to be 1 and we’re expecting #3, not sure how that’s going to go. I think something that’s really important is great support from your partner. Make sure you let him know when you need... More

Anonymous posted in Behavior Feb 26

Worried about 2nd child personality and temperament

Idk if this sounds dumb but I’m pregnant with my second and so worried about just everything but also what she’ll be like. My daughter was a really easy baby, very relaxed and has a really chill personality (as chill as a toddler can be). She obviously has her moments but overall she is really go with the flow. A lot of my friends describe their own kids as super difficult and stubborn and idk ... More

  • Kieli
    Feb 26

    My daughter is very strong willed ... and I want her to be that way. I want her to stand up for herself at school and just in life in general. Like every other parent said on here, my daughter has her sweet moments and her sour moments. I love her both ways, and I know that she is learning from me. I try to be the best parent/example for her that I can and she can take what she wants and grow w... More

  • Sara
    Feb 27

    Every child is different and has their unique challenges. That said, you'll be surprised how much easier the second baby can feel because you are more experienced and know what to expect. My second daughter had some skin problems when she was born but even with all the hassle of dealing with that and taking her back to the doctor frequently, it didn't feel nearly as hard as my first dau... More

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Feb 20

Pros and cons of having kids birthdays be close together?

My son is already going on 26 months... my husband has just finally made his mind up that he really does want a baby #2. I want to start trying soon so he and baby #2 won’t be too far apart in age. But my husband wants to wait another 4 months minimum. His only reasoning is because if we are successful in the first try (like last time) the kids would have birthdays within weeks of each other. H... More

  • Trac
    Feb 28

    Just have separate birthday party! One this weekend, one next weekend end. When they are old one huge party for all or one fun trip together to celebrate. In the long run it will be easier!

  • Anonymous
    Mar 20

    Apparently I'm only fertile one month out of the year...I will soon have three boys all born in April. The cool part is their "Golden B-day" will land in the same year. One will be 21; the other 18. We just have to wait and see if the next one is born on the 14th too! Regardless I promised them it would be the party of a lifetime!! HeeHee

Anonymous posted in Newborns Feb 20

Adjusting to 2 kids and TERRIFIED

I’m 26 weeks pregnant with #2 and already freaking out! The kiddos will be 21 months apart (I never planned to have kids this close in age). My daughter is such a pleasure I’m terrified about #2. I’m kinda freaking out about the adjustment of having 2 kids and could really use some ENCOURAGING words or advice in making the adjustment. Everything I read is horrifying 😫

  • antigrav_kids
    Feb 22

    The first two kids here are 20 months apart. The second and third are 27 months apart. They have a blast with each other! It's really nice that they always have someone to hangout with, and enjoy playing with each other. Each kid is more work, but they help with each other over time, and each one is different and lots of fun. My partner and I share in everything, so that helps a lot. I had ... More

  • Jessica
    Feb 22

    Our two girls are 27 months apart and some days are harder but the hard parts are mostly just taking longer to get things done or get out of the house. Our second is way easier than the first and I am so much more relaxed about it since I now kind of know what to expect (as opposed to everything being so new). Our youngest is now 3 months and watching the two begin to interact together has been... More

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