Time Management

Tips and advice on planning your day, increasing your productivity, work life balance, and taking time for yourself and your relationships.

Anonymous posted in Time Management Apr 02

Evening routine - I get nothing done...!

Since I went back to work, our evenings are kind of crazy. We usually get home from daycare at 6:30pm and she never goes to sleep before 9pm. By the time she is asleep, our dinner is not ready, I am exhausted and I feel super frustrated that the apt is all over the place. Is that normal?!!

  • Anonymous
    Apr 04

    I agree. A combo of tag teaming with husband and making faster or premade dinners is key. Especially as she gets older and you’ll want to eat with her.

  • Alexandra
    Apr 05

    How old is your LO? I have my 2 and a half years old make dinner with me. She stirs the mix for pancakes, soup I made, etc then she takes a small sample of what “she made.” Involving her helps her want to eat it. Also, I stick with simple foods for dinner, so quartered apples with quesadilla and beans are a good example. Nothing takes too much of your time that way. I even bought her a mini Min... More

Anonymous posted in Sleep Apr 02

Weekend plans versus naps

How often do you commit to plans with people on the weekend? Aka how often do you wake up baby and head out to meet someone and be ON TIME? I’m torn because I feel like some don’t stop their life on the weekend and are on time and have friends... but some stick strictly to babies schedule or are late to things or only say “I’ll try to get there”.. basically I feel guilt no matter what I do, bu... More

  • Emily
    Apr 03

    I’ve never had my daughter on a true schedule. She’s almost 8m and takes 2-3 naps for 2-3 hours total. They depend on when she wakes up in the morning, how hard she plays and of course, teething/growth spurts, etc. But it has made things so much easier that I can actually adjust her sleep/awake times if I need to and still have a bit of a life when I want. I also make sure I have extra time to ... More

  • Nikki
    Apr 11

    My LO is 2. I schedule outings on the weekend around her lunch nap routine. We do things either in the morning or after her nap. If the nap is running long and we have a specific time to be somewhere in the afternoon, I start dressing her and she is usually up by the time we need to leave. I try to keep her on routine because I find that she just functions better that way. When doing things wit... More

Anonymous posted in Marriage & Partnership Apr 01

Parenting book about work-life balance

My husband works all day then comes home and gets back online. He feels the pressure from the “always on” culture of his team, many of which are older men whose kids are grown, yet we have two young kids. Any suggestions of books that addresses this issue? (Note: I work too, but when we discuss it he takes it like a nag or that I don’t support his career.)

  • Anne
    Apr 06

    I don’t have book recs but maybe he would like the blog Fatherly? People I know in demanding jobs sometimes adopt a schedule where they block 6-8 for family time and then get back online after the kids go to bed. They even block that time on their calendar so everyone knows what they are doing. It’s really just about setting boundaries and expectations!

Potty training question

Lately my son has been showing signs of potty training readiness. He wakes up dry, hates being in dirty diapers and wet ones sometimes, loves sitting on his potty and can take his clothes off. He hasn't gone on the potty but we did put one in the bathroom for him to get used to. My problem is we have a lot going on so we are not home all day. We are home after we take my daughter to school ... More

  • Jess
    Apr 01

    Start now! If he’s ready he’s ready. So what if he has accidents bring extra clothes with you everywhere. I can tell you not having to buy so many diapers ( only 1 a day now) is such a joy!

  • Ellie
    Apr 01

    We take my son out and put underwear on and then a diaper on top of the underwear then his pants. We bring extra underwear in case he has an accident but whenever we go to the store or anywhere as soon as we get there I take him potty and before we leave I take him again. It’s a hassle but he’s doing very good so far and is almost fully potty trained.

Anonymous posted in Marriage & Partnership Mar 17

Husband always working and uses it as excuse

Husband works 9-7 5 days a week and most nights when he comes home he continues to work til midnight. We’ve talked and fought and now go in circles about how he never takes the kids or gives me a break. On weekends he sleeps in while I get up at 7-8 am to get the kids dressed and fed, then he will sit on his laptop and work all day and meanwhile I’m left alone again all day with the kids. I’m f... More

  • Anonymous
    Mar 18

    That’s exactly how I’ve felt, like I’m the single parent. And unfortunately his job requires him to work a lot, and he is able to make good money that way, but he seems to think he doesn’t need to take care of the kids ever. He does do dishes and food shops, but he doesn’t get up to get the baby or just take the kids on his own unless I ask several times. Some people I don’t think have that nur... More

  • Anonymous
    Mar 18

    Couple Counseling is a great step to take if sitting down and discussing between you two isn’t working out. Hopefully he will be open to that and it will work out. Good luck and keep doing your part with your kiddos.

Anonymous posted in Time Management Mar 11

How do you keep your toddler safe and occupied while getting ready for work in the morning?

I’ve been a SAHM to my 16-month old son for almost 10 months. I will be starting a new job in a week and I’m looking for tips/advice from other working parents on how they manage their time in the morning with a toddler. How do you get yourself ready for work in the morning (shower, get dressed, etc.) when you have a busy toddler around? ** I can give my son the iPad to keep him occupied but ... More

  • Shanon
    Mar 14

    Shower before bed, and wake up an hour before he does. Once you are dressed and ready, wake him up, get him ready, and head out the door!

  • Nikki
    Mar 18

    Everyone’s clothes are lined up at night. Lunch is in the fridge. When I wake in the morning I get dressed first. My older son takes all the bags (diaper bag, purse, laptop, book bag ) to the car while I get the baby dressed. And we are out the door. On days I do not work I let the baby sleep in her crib until I come back from dropping son of at school. My parents watch the baby while she sleep... More

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Jan 25

How to balance life

Between both parents working full time opposite shifts, having too many pets (4 of them, took them in from the streets and don’t know what to do with them now) (not trying to take them to a shelter either) a toddler. How to not go crazy taking care of pets when I should just be focused on my kid. Sounds terrible but these pets drive me crazy. Love animals, hate having pets. And keeping the hous... More

  • Christa
    Jan 25

    I can’t entirely sympathize with the two parents working parts. But I can help I hope maybe ease your mind on the other issues. I am a full time stay at home mom- and we live on one income- but I do understand the stress of not feeling like you’re doing everything right, and that you feel like it’s all on you. I get that, and I think most moms do, at least at some point. So for the dogs- we h... More

  • Elle
    Jan 26

    Pay people to do the tasks you hate most or are most time consuming. Paying $100 for cleaners to come every other week will go a long way in making the to-do list seem less insurmountable. Do NOT give up on your pets. Get a dog walker! Before you know it, baby will be able to walk and feed them. What IS good to get rid of is clutter. It affects us more than we realize and helps make for an an... More

Anonymous posted in Holidays Dec 20, 2018

Getting things done

Hi everyone!! I just need to vent real quick. I have a 9 year old and 16 month old. My 16 month old just started walking and it seems that now I can’t leave him alone with out him getting into anything. I’m a stay at home mom but between my son getting into things more, my daughters activities, my son not wanted to stay on his nap schedule, and me just getting over being sick I just can’t seem ... More

  • Anonymous
    Dec 20, 2018

    @Bailey That’s a good idea. I write I weekly list, that my family makes fun of, but I seem to never get everything done. Maybe a daily list would be better instead. Thanks!!

  • Jennifer
    Dec 20, 2018

    I agree with a schedule. Never do more than you can handle for that day. My daily schedule usually consists of basics; pick up, dishes, sweep (vacuum if you have carpet we don’t) and usually 1-2 loads of laundry. And I have one room a day I deep clean. So while the entire house gets cleaned I’m not stressing over if it doesn’t get deep cleaned every day. As to the kids kids getting into things ... More

Working from home with 14 month old

I just started a new job working online from home. I love that I get to still be a stay at home parent while also being able to provide for us (single parent). However, I’m finding it difficult to keep my 14 month old entertained while I’m working. She is very attached and likes playing with me or checking in with me very often (not complaining, I love this! But I need to find a balance in orde... More

How do I take care of my babies when I can’t take care of myself?

I had an awful day and night. Had 3 breakdowns where I just hysterically cried. I have a two year old, a one year old, and am 9 months pregnant and I was with the kids all day while my husband worked. It was fine for the most part except my one year old gets into EVERYTHING that it’s just too much to baby proof. And it blows my mind I can’t get a single thing done such as washing dishes for 10m... More

  • Traci
    Jan 27

    If you use the Nextdoor app maybe make a post so that all your neighbors and others close to your neighborhood would see it and state that you’d like to set up play dates with others who live relatively close to you and have children around the same ages as yours and that once you and your family have had several play dates with a family and everyone (children and adults) seems to get along goo... More

  • Traci
    Jan 27

    I hope that made sense. Lol

Any SAHM Entrepreneurs here?

Hello all! I’m a SAHM with a 2yo and a 5mo. I’m looking to start a small from home craft business and if you have pointers, tips, and/or tricks, please feel free to share!

  • Kayla
    Nov 29, 2018

    I recently posted a "elf for hire" flyer saying I would wrap presents for busy people that don't have time...just an idea, so far it's going decent, I'm sure it will pick up more closer to Christmas

Sleeping

I have 7 children. 6 of them are in school and the 7th one is 6months old. My school kids get up by 6:30 and I wake baby up around 6:50 to change her diaper if needed and then take kids to school by 7. We get home about 7:10 or so depending on traffic and then I feed the baby and she goes to sleep @7:30ish and sleeps for 2-3 hrs. I am just so tired I want to go back to sleep as well but I feel ... More

  • Kristin
    Nov 26, 2018

    What are their gender/ages? How many bedrooms? I have so many questions! Lol

  • Amanda
    Nov 26, 2018

    16-m, 15-f, 2-14-m, 13-m, 11-f, and then surprise baby 6month-girl. 2 to a room except baby has her own room. And then girls have upstairs bathroom and boys have downstairs bathroom. Our house is a 5 bedroom, 3 bath, 2-living room/ bonus room. Wish we had another bathroom but we make do. I only allow my kids to play outside on Friday, Saturday and Sunday so they usually start showers when the... More

How do I set a schedule for my kids?

I have a 6 month old and a 2 year old. How can I get them on a schedule? I am a SAHM. My son wakes up around 6am and takes his first nap around 9 or 10am (30 minutes to 1 hour) then wakes up takes another nap at around 1pm (30 minutes-1 hour). The another naps at 3 or 4 (3 hours to 4) and then goes to bed at 9 or 10pm and my daughter wakes up at anytime from 7 to 9 am and takes a nap with my so... More

  • B
    Nov 14, 2018

    I’d wake your daughter up when you want her up, and push her nap way earlier. Like 1pm. She’ll go to sleep earlier that way. And be closer to preschool schedule.

  • Genevieve
    Nov 14, 2018

    Only thing I can suggest is for you to wake them all up at 6am be as active as you can at least for a week or two straight. They’ll all take a nap around noon and be in bed about 7-8pm; that’s the schedule I have for my little one. By 8pm I finally get to relax kid free and it feels oh so good. 🙌🏼

Mommy SOS

I need to know how parents stay energized and motivated. I have a toddler, three dogs (one is a foster that I’m still trying to find a permanent home for without having to take to pound or something else) and a cat.. I work 3 whole days and two half days a week and I have no energy to do anything even clean up the house most of the time.. I have severe anxiety so I’m trying to stay away from co... More

  • Allison
    Nov 16, 2018

    I work full time and have a 2 year old and this may sound counter-intuitive, but working out helps me with energy levels so much. I work out on my lunch break at work and also do a stroller class 2x week after work. When its warm out we run with the stroller or I run on the treadmill in the basement. I had a couple bad weeks and had to stop working out and my energy levels plummeted. Also, ... More

  • JJ
    Nov 16, 2018

    Thanks everyone. Everyone’s comments have been helpful and insightful. Also thanks for the support.

Anonymous posted in Stay-at-Home Parents Nov 05, 2018

As a stay at home mom. I don’t have anything to do everyday

I live at my mother’s house with my husband and children. Both of us are stay at home parents. What can I do to fill up my days and be productive?

  • Christy
    Nov 05, 2018

    This link will direct you to a group of moms in your local area: mops.org Meet in a group, have coffee as a mom's day off, or have a play date! Best thing I have done for myself and my child in meeting new people and friends! You can go to the playgroud, museum, play with chalk on the driveway, watch a movie together, sing silly songs, hide and go seek, tickle monster (chasing them around... More

  • JJ
    Nov 06, 2018

    Could you look into getting a job? At least part time? It’ll get you out of the house and interacting with adults and bring in some income.

Good housekeeping

Let me preface this with it is okay if the answer is that there is no good answer. I have a three-year-old and 8 month old, and I work part time at a job that demands more brain power than I generally have. Though I enjoy cleaning, I’m rather messy by nature, but I keep the house pretty picked up, thanks to my very Type-A husband who never adds to the mess and complains when things are not to h... More

  • Claire
    Nov 06, 2018

    I must say you sound like an amazing person, wife and mother they are lucky to have such a thoughtful person in their lives! I also have a similar husband. They don’t know and they will never know what you do and how much. Accept him as he is, tell him who you are and what you need to be happy. We have different energies to start with but nothing is more tiring than caring for others needs espe... More

  • Jess
    Nov 09, 2018

    I agree w the daily cleaning tips mentioned! for deep cleaning and decluttering I like to have help... w my LO that is. 1 or 2 days of the week my LO hangs out w her Granny or her Daddy for a couple hours straight so that I can get some deep cleaning done without any interruptions. It’s great bonding time for them and stress free cleaning / meal prepping for me!

Anonymous posted in Blended Families Nov 02, 2018

My partner has three daughters all between 5 & 8 years old

They don’t have to do chores. How do I suggest that they start?

  • Lachyna
    Nov 03, 2018

    Pay them for their services and let them decide what they want to spend their money on. They can clean up, do services for friends like make them a drink instead of you making it. Get creative! My son is 6 and has been doing chores and getting paid for an entire year now. He spends his money on robux and Nintendo games.

  • Anna
    Nov 18, 2018

    Its a rough subject when not yours and if it makes him up set then maybe you need to find a way that isn't as invasive . Start small get them to help with what they want and like doing, if they ask to help cook or do dishes let them start helping. If they dont want to help and you dont want to start on bribes that involve money, offer to take them to a park or getting to watch what ever mov... More

Anonymous posted in Stay-at-Home Moms Nov 02, 2018

Taking the plunge to SAHM

Hi Parents!- Did anyone take the plunge from working to SAHM? My work doesn’t allow working part time and I have three kids under 5. The cost of a nanny or putting them in daycare is higher than what I make working full time. I do love my job and the temporary “respite” from parenting. I would love to hear of your experience. TIA!

  • Christa
    Nov 04, 2018

    I am a SAHM, and wouldn’t trade it for the world! I went from a full time job at 80 hours a week, to a full time stay at home mom!! I love every minute of being home with my baby. The only time I really had a rough time was my husband and I had to move after my baby was 2 months old. I DETESTED my husband- literally- I wanted to divorce him, I hated being home. I felt isolated and alone and how... More

  • Lily
    Nov 11, 2018

    The time when they are little is so wonderful! For me, being a stay at home mom is so worth it. Because even being with my baby everyday all day, she is still growing up too fast. I would stay at home until they are in school more, work is always something you can come back to. And being at work all, just to pay someone else to have all the moments with your kids, all while not making money bec... More

How do you keep up?

Hi, is it normal to feel like my house is disgusting? I sweep and clean a lot during the days but with my kids home I feel like I can’t keep up! I called a cleaning company but now I feel guilty because I can see that as a SAHM it should be my job and I could use the money elsewhere Idk....

  • Anna
    Nov 18, 2018

    Being a stay at home mom sucks and is very hard to keep clean but so is a stay at home day care. Ive done both and oh the times i got yelled at for a mess. It happens, if the kids are old enough get set times for everything, breakfest snack lunch dinner naps clean up times. Have them clean up before lunch and before dinner. Have or let them help with chores. Simple as if you want to fold laundr... More

  • Giselle
    Dec 02, 2018

    Look up Clean Mama. This mom created an entire daily routine that changed my life. I used to feel overwhelmed as a SAHM with all the house work too- but now I have a system that actually works and my house is ALWAYS clean. Best ever. Good luck! Xoxo

Anonymous posted in Child Care Oct 30, 2018

Part-time mom: learning to delegate

I’ve been a full-time mother, caring for my 2 year old and 11 month old, but am now trying to make my way into some part-time or/ and freelance work. However, I barely get any time to prepare for this scenario- polish up my CV, contact old peers, look for some refresher training etc, because of my current full-time ‘job’. We employed a ‘nanny- housekeeper’- though cleaner-babysitter is a more... More

  • Laura
    Oct 30, 2018

    Seems like there are multiple fronts where you can start chipping away at being the sole person responsible. Can your husband make the baby's food? At 11 months I'd think they're eating what you're eating. Does it all have to be from scratch? Also an 11 month old waking up that much seems like a lot. Have you considered sleep training? And are you considering weaning off of brea... More

  • Anonymous
    Nov 02, 2018

    Thanks Laura. My husband is a lovely father who is playful and protective in equal measures, but he does not see himself as contributing to any household duties. He made steaks and steamed veg for us last Sunday, which was a delight, but a first this year! I’m not sure how to not cook from scratch. I’m freezing more food for baby. We didn’t find a nanny we liked, after months of searching with ... More

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