Time Management

Tips and advice on planning your day, increasing your productivity, work life balance, and taking time for yourself and your relationships.

Anonymous posted in Activities & Enrichment Dec 05

Working from home with 14 month old

I just started a new job working online from home. I love that I get to still be a stay at home parent while also being able to provide for us (single parent). However, I’m finding it difficult to keep my 14 month old entertained while I’m working. She is very attached and likes playing with me or checking in with me very often (not complaining, I love this! But I need to find a balance in orde... More

  • Elle
    Sunday

    Let her mimick you! If youre at a laptop, make her an toy one out of cardboard boxes and have her decorate it. Maybe she can place tbe letter keys herself. At thia age, children love to feel included, useful, successful, and helpful. Any chores you need done? Make them a challenge - or a bet - that she can't do them in X number of minutes / without spilling / etc. Two birds one stone - ha... More

  • Marcy
    Sunday

    I work from home. When I need my son occupied I let him paint with water colors. I give him his hot wheels type cars or legos or whatever to paint that he wants. It’s keeps him occupied. He makes a mess but it’s so worth the time I need to work. We also have kinetic sand that he loves “digging” in. Play doh is a winner. Even pouring rice in a Tupperware and letting him bury his toys in it. I se... More

How do I take care of my babies when I can’t take care of myself?

I had an awful day and night. Had 3 breakdowns where I just hysterically cried. I have a two year old, a one year old, and am 9 months pregnant and I was with the kids all day while my husband worked. It was fine for the most part except my one year old gets into EVERYTHING that it’s just too much to baby proof. And it blows my mind I can’t get a single thing done such as washing dishes for 10m... More

  • Coley
    Dec 02

    A big part of what you are feeling, especially with the breakdowns, is due to hormones- talk to your OB. Remember, this too shall pass! Being a mom is super hard, and it sounds like you're both doing the best you can with your family. I don't know if you're on base or not but there are mom groups available and lots of other kinds of help available. You might be able to find a teenag... More

  • Rachael
    Dec 02

    Could you get any of the moms you know who have older kids, to come over with the lure of free coffee? Like “hey I’m having a rough time, could you come over for coffee sometime while your kids play with mine? I’d so appreciate it!” Idk it’s easier said than done but I wish I were closer and could just give you some relief! 💗

Breanna posted in DIY Nov 27

Any SAHM Entrepreneurs here?

Hello all! I’m a SAHM with a 2yo and a 5mo. I’m looking to start a small from home craft business and if you have pointers, tips, and/or tricks, please feel free to share!

  • Kayla
    Nov 29

    I recently posted a "elf for hire" flyer saying I would wrap presents for busy people that don't have time...just an idea, so far it's going decent, I'm sure it will pick up more closer to Christmas

Amanda posted in Sleep Nov 26

Sleeping

I have 7 children. 6 of them are in school and the 7th one is 6months old. My school kids get up by 6:30 and I wake baby up around 6:50 to change her diaper if needed and then take kids to school by 7. We get home about 7:10 or so depending on traffic and then I feed the baby and she goes to sleep @7:30ish and sleeps for 2-3 hrs. I am just so tired I want to go back to sleep as well but I feel ... More

  • Kristin
    Nov 26

    What are their gender/ages? How many bedrooms? I have so many questions! Lol

  • Amanda
    Nov 26

    16-m, 15-f, 2-14-m, 13-m, 11-f, and then surprise baby 6month-girl. 2 to a room except baby has her own room. And then girls have upstairs bathroom and boys have downstairs bathroom. Our house is a 5 bedroom, 3 bath, 2-living room/ bonus room. Wish we had another bathroom but we make do. I only allow my kids to play outside on Friday, Saturday and Sunday so they usually start showers when the... More

How do I set a schedule for my kids?

I have a 6 month old and a 2 year old. How can I get them on a schedule? I am a SAHM. My son wakes up around 6am and takes his first nap around 9 or 10am (30 minutes to 1 hour) then wakes up takes another nap at around 1pm (30 minutes-1 hour). The another naps at 3 or 4 (3 hours to 4) and then goes to bed at 9 or 10pm and my daughter wakes up at anytime from 7 to 9 am and takes a nap with my so... More

  • B
    Nov 14

    I’d wake your daughter up when you want her up, and push her nap way earlier. Like 1pm. She’ll go to sleep earlier that way. And be closer to preschool schedule.

  • Genevieve
    Nov 14

    Only thing I can suggest is for you to wake them all up at 6am be as active as you can at least for a week or two straight. They’ll all take a nap around noon and be in bed about 7-8pm; that’s the schedule I have for my little one. By 8pm I finally get to relax kid free and it feels oh so good. 🙌🏼

JJ posted in Mental Health Nov 14

Mommy SOS

I need to know how parents stay energized and motivated. I have a toddler, three dogs (one is a foster that I’m still trying to find a permanent home for without having to take to pound or something else) and a cat.. I work 3 whole days and two half days a week and I have no energy to do anything even clean up the house most of the time.. I have severe anxiety so I’m trying to stay away from co... More

  • Allison
    Nov 16

    I work full time and have a 2 year old and this may sound counter-intuitive, but working out helps me with energy levels so much. I work out on my lunch break at work and also do a stroller class 2x week after work. When its warm out we run with the stroller or I run on the treadmill in the basement. I had a couple bad weeks and had to stop working out and my energy levels plummeted. Also, ... More

  • JJ
    Nov 16

    Thanks everyone. Everyone’s comments have been helpful and insightful. Also thanks for the support.

Anonymous posted in Stay-at-Home Parents Nov 05

As a stay at home mom. I don’t have anything to do everyday

I live at my mother’s house with my husband and children. Both of us are stay at home parents. What can I do to fill up my days and be productive?

  • Christy
    Nov 05

    This link will direct you to a group of moms in your local area: mops.org Meet in a group, have coffee as a mom's day off, or have a play date! Best thing I have done for myself and my child in meeting new people and friends! You can go to the playgroud, museum, play with chalk on the driveway, watch a movie together, sing silly songs, hide and go seek, tickle monster (chasing them around... More

  • JJ
    Nov 06

    Could you look into getting a job? At least part time? It’ll get you out of the house and interacting with adults and bring in some income.

Good housekeeping

Let me preface this with it is okay if the answer is that there is no good answer. I have a three-year-old and 8 month old, and I work part time at a job that demands more brain power than I generally have. Though I enjoy cleaning, I’m rather messy by nature, but I keep the house pretty picked up, thanks to my very Type-A husband who never adds to the mess and complains when things are not to h... More

  • Claire
    Nov 06

    I must say you sound like an amazing person, wife and mother they are lucky to have such a thoughtful person in their lives! I also have a similar husband. They don’t know and they will never know what you do and how much. Accept him as he is, tell him who you are and what you need to be happy. We have different energies to start with but nothing is more tiring than caring for others needs espe... More

  • Jess
    Nov 09

    I agree w the daily cleaning tips mentioned! for deep cleaning and decluttering I like to have help... w my LO that is. 1 or 2 days of the week my LO hangs out w her Granny or her Daddy for a couple hours straight so that I can get some deep cleaning done without any interruptions. It’s great bonding time for them and stress free cleaning / meal prepping for me!

Anonymous posted in Blended Families Nov 02

My partner has three daughters all between 5 & 8 years old

They don’t have to do chores. How do I suggest that they start?

  • Lachyna
    Nov 03

    Pay them for their services and let them decide what they want to spend their money on. They can clean up, do services for friends like make them a drink instead of you making it. Get creative! My son is 6 and has been doing chores and getting paid for an entire year now. He spends his money on robux and Nintendo games.

  • Anna
    Nov 18

    Its a rough subject when not yours and if it makes him up set then maybe you need to find a way that isn't as invasive . Start small get them to help with what they want and like doing, if they ask to help cook or do dishes let them start helping. If they dont want to help and you dont want to start on bribes that involve money, offer to take them to a park or getting to watch what ever mov... More

Anonymous posted in Stay-at-Home Moms Nov 02

Taking the plunge to SAHM

Hi Parents!- Did anyone take the plunge from working to SAHM? My work doesn’t allow working part time and I have three kids under 5. The cost of a nanny or putting them in daycare is higher than what I make working full time. I do love my job and the temporary “respite” from parenting. I would love to hear of your experience. TIA!

  • Christa
    Nov 04

    I am a SAHM, and wouldn’t trade it for the world! I went from a full time job at 80 hours a week, to a full time stay at home mom!! I love every minute of being home with my baby. The only time I really had a rough time was my husband and I had to move after my baby was 2 months old. I DETESTED my husband- literally- I wanted to divorce him, I hated being home. I felt isolated and alone and how... More

  • Lily
    Nov 11

    The time when they are little is so wonderful! For me, being a stay at home mom is so worth it. Because even being with my baby everyday all day, she is still growing up too fast. I would stay at home until they are in school more, work is always something you can come back to. And being at work all, just to pay someone else to have all the moments with your kids, all while not making money bec... More

How do you keep up?

Hi, is it normal to feel like my house is disgusting? I sweep and clean a lot during the days but with my kids home I feel like I can’t keep up! I called a cleaning company but now I feel guilty because I can see that as a SAHM it should be my job and I could use the money elsewhere Idk....

  • Anna
    Nov 18

    Being a stay at home mom sucks and is very hard to keep clean but so is a stay at home day care. Ive done both and oh the times i got yelled at for a mess. It happens, if the kids are old enough get set times for everything, breakfest snack lunch dinner naps clean up times. Have them clean up before lunch and before dinner. Have or let them help with chores. Simple as if you want to fold laundr... More

  • Giselle
    Dec 02

    Look up Clean Mama. This mom created an entire daily routine that changed my life. I used to feel overwhelmed as a SAHM with all the house work too- but now I have a system that actually works and my house is ALWAYS clean. Best ever. Good luck! Xoxo

Anonymous posted in Child Care Oct 30

Part-time mom: learning to delegate

I’ve been a full-time mother, caring for my 2 year old and 11 month old, but am now trying to make my way into some part-time or/ and freelance work. However, I barely get any time to prepare for this scenario- polish up my CV, contact old peers, look for some refresher training etc, because of my current full-time ‘job’. We employed a ‘nanny- housekeeper’- though cleaner-babysitter is a more... More

  • Laura
    Oct 30

    Seems like there are multiple fronts where you can start chipping away at being the sole person responsible. Can your husband make the baby's food? At 11 months I'd think they're eating what you're eating. Does it all have to be from scratch? Also an 11 month old waking up that much seems like a lot. Have you considered sleep training? And are you considering weaning off of brea... More

  • Anonymous
    Nov 02

    Thanks Laura. My husband is a lovely father who is playful and protective in equal measures, but he does not see himself as contributing to any household duties. He made steaks and steamed veg for us last Sunday, which was a delight, but a first this year! I’m not sure how to not cook from scratch. I’m freezing more food for baby. We didn’t find a nanny we liked, after months of searching with ... More

Anonymous posted in Parenting Culture Oct 28

Dealing with the evening grind?

I have a newly 6 year old and a newly 2 year old and both myself and hubby work full time. I’m gone typically 11 hours a day for work throughout the week, he handles drop off, I do pick up, dinner, and much of the evening grind. Every evening is a similar battle: they are each super excited on pickup, big hugs, and as we get home, the grind starts. My older one is an extremely picky eater, and ... More

  • Jenni
    Oct 31

    I’m in the same exact sitch with a 3 and 6 year old and on weeks when my hubby travels, I barely make it through each day/night, between work and the 90 mins I have with them in the mornings and evenings. I try to meal prep as much as possible on the weekends and stick to a set evening and bedtime routine. Some days are serious battles while other days are relatively smooth. I think keeping r... More

  • Rando
    Nov 05

    Sounds as if the whole family needs more time together in a calmer environment. Yelling is a very bad thing, I know it is hard, when you find yourself in a moment to raise your voice at a child you need to stop and count. Whoever watches the children while you are away you need to keep the same boundaries and tone of voice. Be sure they eat the appropriate foods at all cost to avoid over stimul... More

Chore sharing

I need to know how everyone else divies up the chores. I am a stay at home mom and my husband works (but not full time). He is responsible for mowing the lawn...that's it. The rest is on me. We have a 2 year old and a 6 month old. He won't even put the 2 year old to bed and he has never given either of them a bath. So, at bed time, it's always so hectic because no matter who I try t... More

  • JJ
    Nov 01

    I would like to point out that he’s not “helping you”.... it’s called being a grown up and being responsible. He would be helping YOU if he was painting your toe nails or carrying your purse or something of that nature. You share children and a household. These are duties that any adult should be performing without having to be asked or rewarded.

  • Brittany
    Nov 10

    I am currently at a middle stage to this but it started exActly the same for me. I felt like I wrote this post myself. Right now I can say it is getting better. We are 7 years into our relationship with a 5yr old and a 2 yr old. He was off playing games watching tv whatever while I dealt with pregnancy alone including all appointments. It has taken many years and talks. The main thing I kept in... More

Anonymous posted in Stay-at-Home Moms Oct 28

Struggling as a SAHM

I live with my mother and grandmother, with my husband and children. Neither one of us work and if we didn’t have supportive parents we’d be living in the street. I want to start my own business but I have no idea how to start. What’s worse is that I’m supposed to have all this time on my hands but yet I don’t bother start on anything. I just play video games to get away from the stress but as ... More

  • Lulu
    Oct 28

    Yep... I agree. Real job is steady, a personal business is not. Focus on getting your own place.

  • B
    Oct 28

    Get a job at a business you’re interested in and learn everything you can about how it works.

Where is the time?

Hi parents! For those of us who work 40+ hours a week and only have Sat-Sun available, how do you make time for yourself? How do you make new friends? Huge thing on my mind. I’m finding I have no friends now that I work so much.

  • Anne
    Oct 29

    My “me” time is 8-10pm after the kids go to bed. That’s when I relax, read, do my hobbies, hang with hubby, etc. I protect this time by not scheduling myself to do chores, pay bills, etc. 8-10pm is rest time and when I make this time for myself the rest of my life goes so much smoother. I also use this time to call friends & family, chat online, or visit the ones who live close. I try to s... More

  • Alex
    Oct 29

    Thank you for the awesome insight!

Putting my phone down and getting some sleep...

How do I put this phone down and rest? I just follow around this ball of energy all day and when she goes down and it's quiet I'm like finally, some me time! And then I'm on my phone forever googling stupid stuff or on Pinterest or on this app and I lose a ton of sleep. How do I put this sucker down and get some rest?

  • Catharine
    Oct 27

    Do you have an iPhone? The newest update lets you set times when you can and can’t use social media apps. If not, I agree with putting your phone somewhere you can’t get it, or give it to your SO. I’ve had to do that so I would go to bed sometimes.

  • Diana
    Nov 06

    These sites are designed to suck you in so it’s best not to start. What I found a helpful tip is to be intentional about what you want to do instead. What is something that you enjoy, that maybe energizes you? Read a book, do a craft, even watch a movie or show you wanted to see. Then put that book or craft supplies or whatever in sight before you put your child to bed and if it helps leave the... More

Anonymous posted in Activities & Enrichment Oct 22

Feeling guilty

Baby is getting to age where he can play independently for short periods of time, but why do I feel guilty letting him do this? I can’t even get myself to get something to eat without feeling like I’m being a horrible mom. Does this feeling ever end?

  • Anonymous
    Oct 24

    How do you actually get them to do this?!? My 2 year old refuses to play by herself. She always wants me to play with her. I love playing with her but I feel that independent play is a good skill to have.

  • Lauren
    Nov 16

    After working in a daycare (SAHM now) and seeing what happens when children don’t play by themselves made me feel less guilty and I go out of my way to ensure my son plays on his own a bit. Since he’s just learning to crawl, I leave him in the next room while I do chores and just peak in once and a while. If you don’t make them play solo periodically and get them to learn this you will have a t... More

Time management struggle

I’m a full time mom to a rambunctious 20 month old, full time toddler teacher at a learning center, and I’m also taking two college courses at night. I’m so overwhelmed. I have so much for my classroom to do, schoolwork is piling up, and when I’m home I try to be available to spend as much time with my son as possible. How do other working parents juggle everything and still spend time with the... More

  • Sara
    Oct 22

    Anyone who says they have it all figured out is lying, but my advice would be to see if you can get yourself some help! If you have a partner they can help pitch in and give you some time to yourself and to handle other responsibilities. If you don't, see if you can ask family or friends. You might be surprised who will step up if you ask for specifically the help you need. Also, is it poss... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 23

    Ah. In the same boat! Things do get better tho, my son (5 yr old) is old enough to entertain himself. Can you ask your parents/parents in law to help you? Also know that your son will grow up as a guy who appreciate women working full time! I have a friend whose mother is a professor. He naturally thinks women can do anything men can do, and he said he never felt sad about his mom working, but ... More

Anonymous posted in Fitness Oct 20

How and where do you find the energy and motivation to get back to your “normal” self?

I’m having a hard time starting to lose weight and getting back to a healthy routine. By the time my son goes to sleep at night, the stress of work and the usual family life... I’m so exhausted and have no energy. I used to be active before I was pregnant, but now I’ve gained close to 80 pounds, most of it from night time emotional eating. I’m so ashamed and I can feel my overall health declini... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 25

    Thanks for the tips guys. Michelle, I’m in MN

  • Michelle
    Oct 25

    I am too. In Savage. Maybe we could be healthy buddies :)

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