Time Management

Tips and advice on planning your day, increasing your productivity, work life balance, and taking time for yourself and your relationships.

Anonymous posted in Behavior Dec 11

How do you get anything done?

I’m a believer and practicer of gentle parenting (I’m not perfect, but it’s the method I use most often and believe is the best). My son is almost 2 and I have gotten virtually nothing done since he was born outside of his naps or if I stay up really late. I’m wondering how any of you moms get anything done? It seems like every time he sees me doing something that doesn’t revolve around him, he... More

  • HR
    Dec 13

    It doesn’t work *every* time, but I’ve found some success with trying to include my 2-year-old when I’m doing things: asking him to “help” me pick up, giving him his own paper/pen when paying bills & asking him for “help” by writing on his own paper, giving him a piece of laundry to “fold,” giving him a pot & a spoon so he can “cook” at the kitchen table while I cook at the stove... I m... More

  • Ayla Sutton
    Dec 18

    I have a box of toys that I take out when I need my 2yr old entertained so I can get something done and it's the only time this box comes out. It makes them seem really special even though it's just a box of inexpensive dollar store stuff. Then when we are done, the box gets put away again.

Getting toddler out the door

My son is almost 2.5yo and is very interested in dictating what he does, doing everything himself, and throwing tantrums if one little thing goes wrong. I can normally deal with the outbursts, whining and tantrums, but when we have to leave the house to go somewhere it gets ridiculous. We have a pretty consistent morning routine and I’ve lately taken the “Positive Discipline” advice of talkin... More

  • Anonymous
    Nov 01

    Ive always been curious about the “give to options and let them pick” idea because when I try that my son yells NO to both options 🙄

  • Nancy
    Nov 03

    I have the same problem with my 2.5yo. My approach is to make a list together with him in the morning of the tasks that need to get done on paper and let him hold the paper list while we do each of the things. Because he helps to make the list, he is then very excited to do all the tasks.

Anonymous posted in Marriage & Partnership Oct 28, 2019

Attempting to be Patient with my Husband

I’m a full time working mom of twins, my husband works full time too. Life is busy life is stressful. My husband is a great Dad. But he is not good with helping around the house. He works a 9-5 type job, he usually goes to the gym and doesn’t get home until 7:30ish pm. I do shift work, so I work 7-7 three days a week. The kids are with Grandma when we are both at work. The issue with my schedul... More

  • B
    Oct 29, 2019

    My husband and I sat down and made a list of all the things. Literally all the things. Then we each picked big jobs that are done regularly and took them. No nagging. Just ours to do. He chose dishes and I chose grocery shopping, for example. Then we swap other jobs depending who has time. But no nagging anymore, since we are both clear on what’s divided. It was a marriage saver.

  • B
    Oct 29, 2019

    We did it after I read a few articles about mom mental load, and shared that idea with him

Anonymous posted in Marriage & Partnership Oct 22, 2019

Vacationing with a 3 year old

I am a stay at home mom and in need of a break as I am the primary caregiver for my child. When we last went on vacation over a year ago, I suggested to my husband that we share some tasks such as taking turns to feed dinner, going to the beach with our kid etc so that We both could get some Me time on vacation. My husband is super nice but clueless about taking the initiative to do baby-chores... More

  • Katie
    Oct 23, 2019

    So, just because you stay at home to be a caregiver to your child and do the majority of the domestic stuff, doesn't mean he gets to skip out on doing his fair share. Otherwise you will never, ever, ever get a break (and start to resent your family) because childcare never ends. Realistically, your "work at home job" obligation is equivalent to whatever hours he is working at his... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 25, 2019

    I’m on the same boat. But even when my husband tries to take care of my 2 yr old daughter, my daughter cries for me. So I accepted it already that I don’t get me time on vacations/ even at home (as much as the husband ). At the end of the day even if it’s late at night I try to have my me time when I finish my chores and when everybody’s asleep. We run out of patience sometimes it’s ok. It’s ... More

Anonymous posted in Single Parents Oct 01, 2019

How to time manage with little sleep?

I am a mom of two beautiful toddlers. I have a two and three year old. I work overnight so that I am with them in the morning. I am also a single mom. I don’t want to do daycare yet. I do nap in the morning for about two hours before they up. I nap another two to three hours during their nap time. I am always tired and I would like to do more with them. I don’t have much support. Any idea or ti... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 03, 2019

    Thank you so much. I appreciate the feed back. I was thinking that I do need help. Lol it’s so hard to realize sometimes because we try to do it all. It hitting me now .

  • Anonymous
    Oct 03, 2019

    yes! When you are at your best, your kids get the best of you too. it's a win win for everyone if you get a few hours of help in the day so you can get proper rest. night shift is already a strain on the body and your sleep is so important. don't feel bad about getting childcare for a couple hours. good luck!

Anonymous posted in Single Parents Sep 28, 2019

My life is all about my child

I’m a single mom of one two year old . I’m starting to let myself go and it’s all about my baby. Before I had a child I had my hair done etc... Now, I’m not myself . I feel bad if I spend money on myself and I don’t go out to enjoy myself . I mostly go out for my son only . This isn’t healthy because I’m starting to wish I didn’t have a child . It’s bad to say but true. What is the best way to ... More

  • Raji
    Sep 29, 2019

    I think it’s important for you to take care of yourself especially since you are single parent. You should not be feeling guilty. Start small, put some money aside for yourself from every paycheck and use it for yourself. Your child will appreciate a happier mom.

  • Gudi
    Jan 14

    Am a single mom too. I try my best to take care of both me and my son. I look at him as my best friend and plan fun things just for the two of us. If it’s going out, we go out to eat just the two of us, if it’s shopping, what I buy for myself is what I buy him so that way none of us is left out. Trust me , only you can love yourself. Your child has love from you and his father and if lucky from... More

How to organize myself ??

Good day all, I am a single mom of two boys 7/11 and I find myself all over the place with my hands into a lot of things but not really getting anything done. I wake up early to take the kids to school, go back home and get ready for work. Then I get out of work to pick them up and go straight home. Sometimes I have to wait a while for a parking. If I have the kids start homework first in the ... More

  • C D
    Oct 03, 2019

    You are not alone. I, and other moms I know who work outside of home, struggle, as well, so don’t feel bad. In addition to trying to trying to delegate age appropriate chores, I also try to do what I can ahead of time for meals. I try to double recipes so we can eat half now and then freeze the other half for a tough night later on. I also use a crock pot (to cook while we’re at work/school) an... More

  • Jennifer
    Oct 03, 2019

    Definitely meal prep ahead of time on the weekends so you have your whole week of meal planned out. Or use an instant pot. I typically throw all the food in the instant pot when I get home and put it to cook. Or make easy 15 minute meals like spagetthi or vegtable and beef stir fry. While I'm waiting for instant pot to be done, I have time to help my kids get homework done. I work ful... More

Hi All, just wondering what a “typical” day looks like for everyone here who has a toddler.

Time for dinner, bed, brushing teeth. How do you guys make time to be more efficient for you? Any parenting hacks/tips?

  • winter
    Sep 18, 2019

    Thank you! Wow, this helps!! 🙌🏼

  • Karen
    Oct 14, 2019

    We do dinner around 530, play outside until around 730, then clean up any toys around the house. Afterwards take a bath, brush teeth, use the potty, bedtime story, then lights out. No fighting, and they sleep good :)

Anonymous posted in Time Management Apr 02, 2019

Evening routine - I get nothing done...!

Since I went back to work, our evenings are kind of crazy. We usually get home from daycare at 6:30pm and she never goes to sleep before 9pm. By the time she is asleep, our dinner is not ready, I am exhausted and I feel super frustrated that the apt is all over the place. Is that normal?!!

  • Anonymous
    Apr 04, 2019

    I agree. A combo of tag teaming with husband and making faster or premade dinners is key. Especially as she gets older and you’ll want to eat with her.

  • Alexandra
    Apr 05, 2019

    How old is your LO? I have my 2 and a half years old make dinner with me. She stirs the mix for pancakes, soup I made, etc then she takes a small sample of what “she made.” Involving her helps her want to eat it. Also, I stick with simple foods for dinner, so quartered apples with quesadilla and beans are a good example. Nothing takes too much of your time that way. I even bought her a mini Min... More

Anonymous posted in Sleep Apr 02, 2019

Weekend plans versus naps

How often do you commit to plans with people on the weekend? Aka how often do you wake up baby and head out to meet someone and be ON TIME? I’m torn because I feel like some don’t stop their life on the weekend and are on time and have friends... but some stick strictly to babies schedule or are late to things or only say “I’ll try to get there”.. basically I feel guilt no matter what I do, bu... More

  • Emily
    Apr 03, 2019

    I’ve never had my daughter on a true schedule. She’s almost 8m and takes 2-3 naps for 2-3 hours total. They depend on when she wakes up in the morning, how hard she plays and of course, teething/growth spurts, etc. But it has made things so much easier that I can actually adjust her sleep/awake times if I need to and still have a bit of a life when I want. I also make sure I have extra time to ... More

  • Nikki
    Apr 11, 2019

    My LO is 2. I schedule outings on the weekend around her lunch nap routine. We do things either in the morning or after her nap. If the nap is running long and we have a specific time to be somewhere in the afternoon, I start dressing her and she is usually up by the time we need to leave. I try to keep her on routine because I find that she just functions better that way. When doing things wit... More

Anonymous posted in Marriage & Partnership Apr 01, 2019

Parenting book about work-life balance

My husband works all day then comes home and gets back online. He feels the pressure from the “always on” culture of his team, many of which are older men whose kids are grown, yet we have two young kids. Any suggestions of books that addresses this issue? (Note: I work too, but when we discuss it he takes it like a nag or that I don’t support his career.)

  • Anne
    Apr 06, 2019

    I don’t have book recs but maybe he would like the blog Fatherly? People I know in demanding jobs sometimes adopt a schedule where they block 6-8 for family time and then get back online after the kids go to bed. They even block that time on their calendar so everyone knows what they are doing. It’s really just about setting boundaries and expectations!

Potty training question

Lately my son has been showing signs of potty training readiness. He wakes up dry, hates being in dirty diapers and wet ones sometimes, loves sitting on his potty and can take his clothes off. He hasn't gone on the potty but we did put one in the bathroom for him to get used to. My problem is we have a lot going on so we are not home all day. We are home after we take my daughter to school ... More

  • Jess
    Apr 01, 2019

    Start now! If he’s ready he’s ready. So what if he has accidents bring extra clothes with you everywhere. I can tell you not having to buy so many diapers ( only 1 a day now) is such a joy!

  • Ellie
    Apr 01, 2019

    We take my son out and put underwear on and then a diaper on top of the underwear then his pants. We bring extra underwear in case he has an accident but whenever we go to the store or anywhere as soon as we get there I take him potty and before we leave I take him again. It’s a hassle but he’s doing very good so far and is almost fully potty trained.

Anonymous posted in Marriage & Partnership Mar 17, 2019

Husband always working and uses it as excuse

Husband works 9-7 5 days a week and most nights when he comes home he continues to work til midnight. We’ve talked and fought and now go in circles about how he never takes the kids or gives me a break. On weekends he sleeps in while I get up at 7-8 am to get the kids dressed and fed, then he will sit on his laptop and work all day and meanwhile I’m left alone again all day with the kids. I’m f... More

  • Anonymous
    Mar 18, 2019

    That’s exactly how I’ve felt, like I’m the single parent. And unfortunately his job requires him to work a lot, and he is able to make good money that way, but he seems to think he doesn’t need to take care of the kids ever. He does do dishes and food shops, but he doesn’t get up to get the baby or just take the kids on his own unless I ask several times. Some people I don’t think have that nur... More

  • Anonymous
    Mar 18, 2019

    Couple Counseling is a great step to take if sitting down and discussing between you two isn’t working out. Hopefully he will be open to that and it will work out. Good luck and keep doing your part with your kiddos.

Anonymous posted in Time Management Mar 11, 2019

How do you keep your toddler safe and occupied while getting ready for work in the morning?

I’ve been a SAHM to my 16-month old son for almost 10 months. I will be starting a new job in a week and I’m looking for tips/advice from other working parents on how they manage their time in the morning with a toddler. How do you get yourself ready for work in the morning (shower, get dressed, etc.) when you have a busy toddler around? ** I can give my son the iPad to keep him occupied but ... More

  • Shanon
    Mar 14, 2019

    Shower before bed, and wake up an hour before he does. Once you are dressed and ready, wake him up, get him ready, and head out the door!

  • Nikki
    Mar 18, 2019

    Everyone’s clothes are lined up at night. Lunch is in the fridge. When I wake in the morning I get dressed first. My older son takes all the bags (diaper bag, purse, laptop, book bag ) to the car while I get the baby dressed. And we are out the door. On days I do not work I let the baby sleep in her crib until I come back from dropping son of at school. My parents watch the baby while she sleep... More

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Jan 25, 2019

How to balance life

Between both parents working full time opposite shifts, having too many pets (4 of them, took them in from the streets and don’t know what to do with them now) (not trying to take them to a shelter either) a toddler. How to not go crazy taking care of pets when I should just be focused on my kid. Sounds terrible but these pets drive me crazy. Love animals, hate having pets. And keeping the hous... More

  • Christa
    Jan 25, 2019

    I can’t entirely sympathize with the two parents working parts. But I can help I hope maybe ease your mind on the other issues. I am a full time stay at home mom- and we live on one income- but I do understand the stress of not feeling like you’re doing everything right, and that you feel like it’s all on you. I get that, and I think most moms do, at least at some point. So for the dogs- we h... More

  • Elle
    Jan 26, 2019

    Pay people to do the tasks you hate most or are most time consuming. Paying $100 for cleaners to come every other week will go a long way in making the to-do list seem less insurmountable. Do NOT give up on your pets. Get a dog walker! Before you know it, baby will be able to walk and feed them. What IS good to get rid of is clutter. It affects us more than we realize and helps make for an an... More

Anonymous posted in Holidays Dec 20, 2018

Getting things done

Hi everyone!! I just need to vent real quick. I have a 9 year old and 16 month old. My 16 month old just started walking and it seems that now I can’t leave him alone with out him getting into anything. I’m a stay at home mom but between my son getting into things more, my daughters activities, my son not wanted to stay on his nap schedule, and me just getting over being sick I just can’t seem ... More

  • Anonymous
    Dec 20, 2018

    @Bailey That’s a good idea. I write I weekly list, that my family makes fun of, but I seem to never get everything done. Maybe a daily list would be better instead. Thanks!!

  • Jennifer
    Dec 20, 2018

    I agree with a schedule. Never do more than you can handle for that day. My daily schedule usually consists of basics; pick up, dishes, sweep (vacuum if you have carpet we don’t) and usually 1-2 loads of laundry. And I have one room a day I deep clean. So while the entire house gets cleaned I’m not stressing over if it doesn’t get deep cleaned every day. As to the kids kids getting into things ... More

Working from home with 14 month old

I just started a new job working online from home. I love that I get to still be a stay at home parent while also being able to provide for us (single parent). However, I’m finding it difficult to keep my 14 month old entertained while I’m working. She is very attached and likes playing with me or checking in with me very often (not complaining, I love this! But I need to find a balance in orde... More

How do I take care of my babies when I can’t take care of myself?

I had an awful day and night. Had 3 breakdowns where I just hysterically cried. I have a two year old, a one year old, and am 9 months pregnant and I was with the kids all day while my husband worked. It was fine for the most part except my one year old gets into EVERYTHING that it’s just too much to baby proof. And it blows my mind I can’t get a single thing done such as washing dishes for 10m... More

  • Traci
    Jan 27, 2019

    I hope that made sense. Lol

  • Sarah
    Sep 15, 2019

    I really felt this post. Thank you for sharing I really understood the glasses moment. It’s somehow encouraging and reassuring to read I’m not the only one. Sending you love and blessings and I hope number three has arrived and is well. I will pray for you.

Any SAHM Entrepreneurs here?

Hello all! I’m a SAHM with a 2yo and a 5mo. I’m looking to start a small from home craft business and if you have pointers, tips, and/or tricks, please feel free to share!

  • Kayla
    Nov 29, 2018

    I recently posted a "elf for hire" flyer saying I would wrap presents for busy people that don't have time...just an idea, so far it's going decent, I'm sure it will pick up more closer to Christmas

Sleeping

I have 7 children. 6 of them are in school and the 7th one is 6months old. My school kids get up by 6:30 and I wake baby up around 6:50 to change her diaper if needed and then take kids to school by 7. We get home about 7:10 or so depending on traffic and then I feed the baby and she goes to sleep @7:30ish and sleeps for 2-3 hrs. I am just so tired I want to go back to sleep as well but I feel ... More

  • Kristin
    Nov 26, 2018

    What are their gender/ages? How many bedrooms? I have so many questions! Lol

  • Amanda
    Nov 26, 2018

    16-m, 15-f, 2-14-m, 13-m, 11-f, and then surprise baby 6month-girl. 2 to a room except baby has her own room. And then girls have upstairs bathroom and boys have downstairs bathroom. Our house is a 5 bedroom, 3 bath, 2-living room/ bonus room. Wish we had another bathroom but we make do. I only allow my kids to play outside on Friday, Saturday and Sunday so they usually start showers when the... More

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