Recently, my own Dad has been facing some health issues. Very serious. I’ve been reflecting on loss, grief, “what-ifs,” and most importantly my own death. It fills me with such heartache at the thought of losing my own parents, but also should something happen to me or my husband. Is this normal? Does anyone else think about the loss of themselves and how it would impact their family? Every c... More
Our cat Miss Peaches has cancer and is nearing the end of her life. I'm looking for ways to start talking to my almost 3 year old about what's going to happen. He knows she's old and we've talked about her being sick, so at least we're there already. He's very gentle with her and loves her very much. Now she probably only has about 2 months left and we're planning on... More
I had a miscarriage of my 3rd baby a couple years ago. I felt like something was off because I had hyper emesis and couldn't even hold water down. I was in the hospital probably twice a week. In one of those visits we found that the baby died at 10 weeks. I had to carry it until 16 weeks to get a DnC. I was devistated but time heals all wounds, however lately ive been thinking of it a lo... More
My mom just lost her baby girl, 6 DAYS before she was going to give birth. My mom had a nuchal cord is when the umbilical cord becomes wrapped around the fetus's neck. Symptoms present in the baby shortly after birth from a prior nuchal cord may include duskiness of face, facial petechia, and bleeding in the whites of the eye. Complications can include meconium, respiratory distress, anemia... More
I have a 1 year old and am a news junkie... or at least was before the baby. Here’s my problem- almost daily some tragedy involving kids or babies makes the paper (including the migrant caravan seeking asylum, etc). I honestly didn’t give it much thought before having a kid. Now it’s devastating- I carry these stories around with me (for months), imagining what the parents are going through. ... More
If anyone is dealing with the loss of a family pet and wondering how to comfort their children during this process the book “Dog Heaven” is great to help them grieve and somewhat understand the loss of their pet. Also what helped us to communicate the death of our dog to our 3-year-old was to be honest and upfront, use the words “he died,” and say it’s ok to be sad or mad about it.
She has two young children as well. I would like to give something to them as well. Any suggestions would appreciated. Thanks
I’ve had a very abusive marriage for the time I’ve been married to my spouse. During my pregnancy it got physical and I left for a while. It always stops and continues later on. It reached a point after 2 years of this where I finally involved the police. It’s been mental, emotional, verbal, and physical and we currently are not allowed to have any contact towards each other. The night I called... More
Our 5 year old son usually goes to Sunday School at church, but last Easter he sat with us. Since then, he's had questions about death, heaven, God and Jesus, why's and why nots, when will he die, when will we die, he doesn't want to die, he doesn't want to be without us when we die, where is heaven, where is God, etc. These are things hard enough to understand as an adult. Do... More
One of my close friends just suffered a miscarriage that was very traumatic not only emotionally, but physically as well. I am currently 31 weeks pregnant, and am seeking advice on how to support her during this time without seeming like I'm flaunting my own pregnancy. For anyone who has had a miscarriage and is willing to share, what would have been helpful to you?
My sister is married to an alcoholic who refuses to go to a treatment facility. She is going to therapy with him and he is on anti abuse. He recently lost his job due to a pee test coming back positive for edibles and instead of forcing the treatment she is chalking it up to he wanted a new job anyway. They have two kids and as a new mom myself I just don’t understand her anymore. Has anyone de... More
How do you deal with grief with two young babies without stressing them out. My dad sexually physically and emotionally abused me my whole life so we have no relationship. My grandpa was all I had. In May he died of stage four lung and liver cancer. I was 34 weeks with my second, my first adored him. Today was his birthday (the first since he died) I’ve been an absolute mess. My two and a half ... More
Every woman deserves the opportunity to fully heal and recover from birth trauma. It is never too late to address a past trauma. Listen to episode 59 of Fourth Trimester Podcast to hear: How to recognize that you've experienced trauma or PTSD (untreated past traumas can act as triggers and show up at unexpected moments) How to begin addressing a potential trauma - the first steps to take... More
My friend went full term, but her baby boy was born still born a couple days ago. What are some things that she may need or that may help her through this incrediblely painful time? Both of their families live here so I know a lot of the normal stuff like meals and help around the house and whatnot will be taken care of.
So I have a hard question, please bare with me. I had a miscarriage going on two years ago in June, and my marriage doesn’t seem like it will ever be the same things were said that can’t be taken back things were done that can’t be taken back and I feel like it’s the end of it for me but I don’t really know what to do or how to go about doing it because I’ve never been stuck in this hard of a s... More