Trying to Conceive

The road to parenthood starts even before you conceive and a little support can go a long way.

Whether you're just starting to think about a baby or have been trying to get pregnant for awhile, this is a safe space to discuss and ask questions along your journey.

Anonymous posted in Infertility Sunday

Seeking advice from anyone who has struggled or knows someone who has struggled getting pregnant.

My friend has been trying to conceive for over a year now. Within that time she found out that she has PCOS. They’re trying another type of drug to help her ovulate, but it sounds like she’ll need to go through IVF. My heart just breaks for her, and I feel so helpless. I can’t even imagine how her and her husband feel. We recently found out that another one of our couple friends is pregnant ... More

  • T
    Tuesday

    No pat on the backs. No knowing and sad looks. Normal. Everyone just wants to be treated normally.

  • Theresa
    Yesterday

    I have PCOS and was trying to conceive for about 9 years. I was full of anxiety and stress, well obsessing about it. I had to change my mind cause I wanted to be happy if I wasn’t going to be a momma. Sure enough I did find happiness. I went on the Keto diet and lost 75 pounds and sure enough I ended up pregnant. Today I am the mother of a 10 month old and I’ve never felt so full.

First signs

I’m beginning to suspect I may be pregnant. I have several very early signs already. What were your first signs? And how soon did you notice them?

  • Raji
    Feb 09

    I felt very light headed at work for a week or two. It was my first pregnancy and had no clue that I was pregnant.

  • StephC238
    Feb 10

    For me.... at 5 weeks on the dot I start puking. 3-100 times a day & I don’t stop till after delivery.

Vitamins, cleanses & tricks

Alright, so me and the fiancé are trying for a baby, I just bought ovulation tests and I am going to start testing this month, we both already take b12 and *I occasionally take evening prim rose* i have 2 bottles of parentals for me to start taking and a bottle of 1 a day mens vitamins for conception for him. I am curious and wondering if i should start taking both prenatal and evening prim ro... More

  • Anon
    Feb 08

    What kind of ovulation tests did you get? I used to take the Clear Blue tests. And although they did say I was ovulating (when taken approx a week after period ends), I never got pregnant. I then saw on some forum that people were using the urine test strips (where you dip into the pee, in a cup) everyday and it said I ovulated earlier. Like, right after my period ended! And I got pregnant. T... More

  • Lily
    Thursday

    Take your ovulation tests a week before you think you will ovulate, because you could be early. Start taking your prenatal now, you need the folic acid that is in them. It is very important for your body to have that when pregnant. Good luck!!:)

When do you know your ready for another child ?

  • Lily
    Jan 28

    Are you talking like body or mind? My husband and I want lots of kids and want them close! So we are ready for another as soon as my body is ready and healthy again. It really different for everyone!

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Jan 16

Pregnancy after miscarriage

I miscarried this week. I was 7 weeks pregnant. How soon after an early miscarriage did you conceive? My husband and I would like to try again ASAP.

  • Lily
    Jan 17

    Lost my last pregnancy at 10 weeks. We started trying again as soon as my period came back which was about a month. We got pregnant three months after that, and it is going well so far. Good luck

Baby # 2

My Husband and I are ready to grow our family and have another baby. We got pregnant with our first right after getting off of birth control. We were expecting to get pregnant quick again but have been trying for 4 months with no success. Has anyone els had a hard time getting pregnant with baby # 2 any tips? I am starting to get very emotional about it and cry for days every time I take a nega... More

  • Lily
    Jan 17

    We got pregnant with our first really easy! Second pregnancy took awhile because I my husband had some stuff going on. The third my cycle was off by a couple days. So I was just taking ovulation tests like every day, get the big box off Amazon.

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Jan 12

Ovulation?

“Trying” for our second! It took over 2 years being off birth control for us to get pregnant with our first.. my cycles were very long (41 days) and I had no signs of ovulations so when we found out we were pregnant, we were surprised and excited!! Now, this time around, my cycle is around 32 days. I am now getting discharge during “ovulation” at different times every month (give or take 4-5... More

  • molly
    Jan 17

    speak to ur ob. she’ll give u the best advice. get those ovulation tests that tell u the window and also get an app like Clue that will tell you the fertile window for you. Basically tmi but sperm can stay alive post sex for a few days so ur best chance is to have sex before u ovulate with a sperm waiting for the egg. the egg stays viable only for 24 hrs so u can aim to try say 2 days before ov... More

  • Megan
    Jan 19

    For me the ClearBlue ovulation tests never worked. We tried to wait for the ovulation test to say it was time and it never did. We caved once in 5 weeks and had sex. The same day my ovulation test said I wasn’t ovulating, and I got pregnant. However, if you have ever heard or Daysy, I swear by this! It’s a basel body thermometer. My husband and I used this for birth control and we used nothing ... More

Breast feeding and pregnant

We are trying to get pregnant in a month or so and have a little one who is still breastfeeding does anyone have any experience with this, pros and cons?

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Dec 26

    So I’ve gotten pregnant bfing several times. The first two times, my period never came back, so I apparently ovulated and didn’t know it. The important thing here is to know your body. If your period isn’t back, it’s going to be very hard to Really “try” since you won’t know if or when your ovulating. If your period is back, then you should be able to time accordingly. Keep in mind that bein... More

  • Lily
    Jan 05

    I have gotten pregnant two times while breastfeeding no problems. I plan breastfeeding my little one I have even after the new one is born, it is so good for them. Also I like that I won't have to get that whole thing going again! Good luck getting pregnant!:)

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Dec 17

Does age difference matter?

Just curious what your thoughts are on age difference between siblings. I have two very different experiences personally. My brother is 18 months younger than me and my sister is 18 years younger than me so I have two dramatically different spectrums. My daughter is an only child and she’s about to turn 5 next month. My husband and I have debated about having another child but I’m curious if sh... More

  • Jamie
    Dec 18

    I have worried about this too. My son turned 4 a few months ago and I have finally been in a place mentally & emotionally where I am ready for another child. By the time we have another (God willing) he’ll be 5 close 6 even, I worry about the age gap but I have heard so many positive things about having an age gap that I’m not so worried about it anymore. I think when they’re younger, it mi... More

  • Lily
    Jan 05

    My husband and I want our kids close, our first two will be 22 months apart. My sister and I were 3 Years apart and we were pretty close growing up. I like close, within 5 years. But it is really up to different people!

Pregnant?

Period three days late trying to get pregnant but all test are still showing negative:( I’m confused

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Dec 05

How to approach the subject with your partner about having another baby?

Hello. My husband & I have a 4 year old son. Initially, I wanted to have 2 kids close in age. No more than 3 years apart. Well, our son is now 4 years old and I’d really would like to start trying to have another baby at the beginning of next year. My husband, however, would like to wait until we start building our house which would be in another 3 years (we’re working on our land in some... More

  • Valerie
    Dec 05

    If you’re both working on building your home, you being out of commission for the duration of a pregnancy will put a lot of pressure on him. Also with a newborn to care for, you will be unable to help him and he will be unable to help you with the baby if he’s busy on the house. Resentment in both directions is a possible outcome. My husband built a tiny house to use as an office during my preg... More

  • Hope Brown
    Dec 07

    Have your FSH tested if you're concerned with lowered fertility. My siblings and I are far apart in age and we have a close relationship. I don't think that has anything to do with age spacing but how much you're willing to work on the relationship. If you're trying to help build a house it's not a great idea to be pregnant and postpartum. FYI the rate of developmental compl... More

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Dec 03

Best time to start trying for a baby?

In your experience, what is the best age to start? My husband and I are 24 and thinking about trying soon. But of course, we’re scared! Feel free to add details about your experience!

  • Polli
    Dec 04

    The only thing I can add to the advice you’ve already gotten, is make sure your mental health is taken care of before trying and think about how many you want. Every couple knows their right time, I’m 28 and my boy is turning 4 months this week. We only wanted one child and last year turned out to be the right time for us to try and I wasn’t afraid of being too old for my child down the line. ... More

  • Carissa
    Dec 04

    Everyone is right when they say there is no right time. You will never be stable enough or have enough money or be completely ready for a baby BUT you can at least have a plan. Do you have insurance? Because medical bills will be expensive! What about daycare? Will one of you be staying home or do you have family near by? Daycare is crazy expensive so you’ll need to make sure you can afford it.... More

Who has had several miscarriages?

I’ve had 3 miscarriages I have a daughter who will be 2 I’m trying to connect with women who have had pregnancy loss and I am now trying to cope with waiting to try again while I see everyone else have it so easy

  • Ally
    Dec 03

    I had a miscarriage January 2017 and did not quit trying, I chose to see what would happen and let things be. I ended up pregnant with my second son in May 2017 and immediately talked to my Dr about doing progesterone treatments weekly. My son was born strong and healthy December 22, 2017 exactly one week and 2 days after my last treatment, he was 3 weeks early.

  • Michelle
    Dec 05

    My first positive was on April 2015 and when I was about 6 weeks 4 days, I went to the hospital with horrible bleeding and they told me it was twins. I’m like 99% I lost baby B that day because of all the bleeding (I never heard her heartbeat - I’m convinced it was a girl lol idk why. Then I lost my second twin (Baby A) at 11 weeks (had miscarriage symptoms the night before and had a D&C th... More

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Nov 29

Is it possible to get pregnant if you are breastfeeding?

I’ve been trying to have baby number 2, but I can’t get pregnant. My son is 14 months and I just now stopped breastfeeding him.

  • Jessica
    Nov 30

    Most definitely 👌 We have a 9 month old breastfeeding on demand and just found out I’m pregnant.

  • Emily
    Nov 30

    I wouldn’t get discouraged. Sometimes it does effect hormones and other things and can make it harder for some women. It’s not impossible. But again it depends on who. Just track your cycle as best as you can. And don’t stress.

Miscarriage pcos bleeding

I miscarried a few months back. I have pcos. I got my first period after last month it was pretty average. I was surprised to get one since I have pcos I had to take medicine to make me ovulate to get pregnant to begin with. I went a year without getting my period before I took the clomid. Well a month passed and now I got my period again. I ovulated and all. I was super excited but here I am n... More

  • Lulu
    Nov 17, 2018

    After my miscarriage I started bleeding during ovulating. Could this be what it is? I am so sorry for your loss. My heart is with you.

  • Lily
    Nov 24

    I am so sorry for your loss, I had a miscarriage earlier this year. My period was always the same even after I had my first kid. But after my miscarriage it has been very different. If you are worried, you can also go to your OBGYN. Just to make sure Everything is good:)

Started my period today...... no baby once again.

I got off of the depo shot back in August and started prenatal to increase our chances of baby number two but month after month I keep getting my period. How do I even know if I’m ovulating? I want to be so angry and cry at the same time... ugh :(

  • Lily
    Nov 15, 2018

    Get the tests for your ovulation like a week before you think it will happen. We were trying for number two after a miscarriage and my ovulation was like 3 days earlier than before. We had been trying with no luck because of that. The month I Tested a week early we got pregnant. It’s all about timing! I have learned it is way harder to get pregnant when you are trying!

  • Lily
    Nov 15, 2018

    Also some birth controls help you get pregnant right after you got off. Depending on the kind

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Nov 05, 2018

Debating having a 3rd kid

I am really struggling with this concept and am hoping to have an " ah ha" moment. I have 2 beautiful kids , ages 4 and 20mo. I have always wanted 2-3 but have realized more recent that I've always aired more towards 3. My husband has always aired toward 2, and still does but will be on board if I strongly think I'd regret not having a third. I'd say my biggest argume... More

  • Amanda
    Nov 06, 2018

    We’re in the same spot your are right now. 4 year old son, 18 month daughter. My husband and I feel like we want a third (and last baby), but we are aware of all the changes and sacrifices that will bring. But, I’ve just gone off birth control and we’ll see what happens. I am 34, so maybe it won’t happen? But if it does, we’ll all be happy.

  • Lily
    Nov 09, 2018

    Have three! None of the things will matter once you meet your baby:) and You don’t want to wait too long, because then the 3rd will be too young with the others

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Nov 04, 2018

Birth control

I have the skyla IUD and as we plan for another baby I’m thinking about when I should take it out.... my ob says as soon as it’s out I can become pregnant. But I’m just looking for personal experiences. Did it take you longer to conceive? Should I get it out a few months before trying?

  • Liv
    Nov 05, 2018

    I don't know about the IUD, but I got my implant removed and became pregnant 2 weeks later. Never had my first period! We expected it to take a few months at least. But it CAN happen fast. I'm not sure if your IUD contains hormones or not. That may play a role in it. But be prepared if you take it out, anything can happen :)

  • Anonymous
    Nov 05, 2018

    Zendy- yikes that freaks me out :( Liv- yes!!! I’m such a planner I have the time frame all picked out.... hope it happens fast for us too!!

PPD and baby 2

I had some pretty intense PPD with baby number one, and only really got back to myself when he was close to 8 months... what is your experience with ppd and baby 2? We’d like to start thinking about our next, but the ppd worries me 😔

  • Lauren
    Nov 07, 2018

    A good support system means the world with ppd. I was okay with my first son it stopped pretty soon but my second son I was a mess. My husband and friends and honestly my oldest son played a huge part in helping me get back to myself. A therapist could also be a huge help but I'm a very reserved and guarded person so I never tried. We have just decided to try for another and I am very conce... More

  • Kendall
    Nov 07, 2018

    Lauren- thank you for sharing your experience!!! I was just curious if it’s typical to happen again if it’s happened before?? I’m glad you were able to bounce back! My husband is in the military so being without friends and family is what played a giant roll in it I’m sure! I should really do some research to get a therapist on my side for next time:)

Anonymous posted in Infertility Nov 03, 2018

How to tell my friend I’m pregnant whose struggling with infertility

A good friend of mine has been struggling with infertility since the birth of my daughter 1.5 years ago. She’s since gone through 2 ivf cycles, multiple surgeries and tests and nothing is working. We’ve had our struggles because I have my daughter and it’s hard for her to see me sometimes but I’ve been a big source of support for her and am always there to listen. I went through my own fertili... More

  • Andrea
    Nov 04, 2018

    I’ve been on both sides of this situation. I hated that a friend had worried so much about how to tell me when I was struggling... and in turn, I hated telling a different friend my news (with baby #2) when she’s been struggling for so long. In both situations, everything turned out fine. Of course I was jealous when my friend told me (especially bc it was an accident), but I was way more exci... More

  • Michelle
    Dec 05

    I am the only person aside from my best friends sister that she’s been happy for. But I also had 2 miscarriages before my baby so she knows I’ve struggled too. I have no advice other than the fact that she’ll want to know before anyone else, I think. She’ll feel the pain no matter what but don’t make her feel like she’s not important by telling others first.

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