For Dads

Modern dads are a different breed — they take pride in being good fathers and are more likely to be the primary caregiver than ever before.

Men share and discuss what it means to be a dad and their unique role in the family, whether they are a stay-at-home dad or working outside the home.

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Tuesday

Considering a Vasectomy

Any guys on here who are considering a vasectomy or have already had the procedure. I am wanting to know: duration of procedure and recovery time, which method did you receive and were there any changes to sexual health. Ladies feel free to comment if your significant other has had this procedure done or is considering this option.

  • Anna
    Friday

    Lol I had heard that before, but do your own research-sometimes small studies get taken out of context. If the sample size wasn’t that big, I would look to other studies that are bigger! Good luck 🍀

  • Anonymous
    Yesterday

    So, mine took about 30 mins, was rougher than expected, lots of bruising which faded after about 2 weeks. Was "effective" in achieving the aim , but I now have constant pain on one side. Was told to just take ibuprofen before sex to minimize the pain afterward but that is not a great solution. Not a huge deal but not ideal. 3 years on and it's still a problem. Went to one of t... More

Anonymous posted in Postpartum Recovery Jul 13

Overlapping paternity and maternity leave

My wife and I are due to have our first child soon and both are lucky enough to work for companies that give us 4-5 months of maternity and paternity leave. We are trying to determine how much we should take together immediately after the baby is born and/or how much we should overlap our leaves. Would love to hear about others’ experiences with this?

  • Caitlin
    Jul 15

    We did ours together and traveled to France and Italy with a 9 week old and it was awesome.

  • Damon
    Jul 15

    One month together, then stagger the remaining time to maximize parent contact time in the first year. WHO recommends one year with at least one parent present has a strong correlation with reduced risk for anxiety related mental health issues. As Dad don't think that you should or can sit out of nursing time. My job was wake the baby or get the crying baby, sooth baby while momma got h... More

Amy posted in Holidays Jun 17

Happy Father's Day!

Happy father's day to every dad out there crushing parenting. Whether you stay at home, work 80 hours a week, or are doing it all by yourself - keep up the amazing work.

Dads today are more emotionally available and involved

Fascinating data from a recent BYU study indicating that most fathers today are actively involved in their kids' lives, perhaps due to shifting norms about masculinity. Great news! 🙌🏼 “Fathers continue to navigate changing social expectations,” said Lee Essig, another co-author of the study and BYU graduate student. “As current social trends are pushing for men’s increased familial involve... More

Equality for dads

I love my daughter and I love being a stay at home dad, but I have had enough of this country's lack of support for men as parents. I'm angry and frustrated because there seems to be no accommodations for fathers in America, whether it's with parental leave after birth, society's stigma for stay at home dads, or even something as basic as having a changing table in men's re... More

  • Kathie
    Jun 24

    Signed!

  • Hteees
    Jul 30

    I just go to women’s restrooms if there’s no changing station in the men’s, but I shouldn’t have to.

Superdad posted in Fitness May 29

Balancing being a SAHD, training, and raising Super Boy.

Where my dads at?! Share your stories...

  • Superdad
    May 31

    To clarify. 50 grams of carbs a day. It’s tough but worth it! Good job Dan! 👍🏻💪🏻

  • Dan The Dad
    May 31

    Thanks man. Yeah I knew what you meant. It’s tough being an active SAHD but I have to stay fit to keep up with the this little ball of energy. 😂

Anonymous posted in Holidays May 24

Father’s Day Gift Ideas?

Moms - what are you getting? Dads - what are you hoping to get?

  • Jennie
    May 30

    @erin My husband works from home and I homeschool so our family is literally together 24/7 and my husband still doesn't want a "day off" on Father's Day. I think your idea is great and my husband would like the same thing.

  • Nisha
    May 31

    Got him a leather key ring with daughters name etched from Etsy and socks with her face on it :8 Plan to go for lunch all together

Anonymous posted in Stay-at-Home Dads May 21

How long have you been a stay at home parent?

  • Shannon
    Jul 15

    I've been a SAHM for 7 years.

  • Lena
    Jul 17

    I was a SAHM for 3 years but decided to go back to work and now my boyfriend has taken up the role as SAHD for the past 3 1/2 years so I could work and he could take some time off to spend time with our kids.

The Ultimate Dad Mobile fully equipped with Bluetooth speaker and Pro cyclist father 👍🏻🚴🏼‍♂️

Talk amongst yourselves...

  • Tori
    May 24

    Hi! My husband has a canondale that looks just like yours and I’m thinking a seat for our toddler would be a great Father’s Day gift, what brand/model is the seat and where did you buy it if you don’t mind sharing?

  • Jenny
    May 26

    Ours is the yepp maxi. We had it for our first when she was 9 months old. It’s the rear seat, which has a much longer lifespan in my opinion. We used it til almost 4, when her brother was born. He started using it at 9 months also and we have a tag along, which she loves, and a double weehoo to take both out for longer rides. I’d recommend just going for it and getting anything that allows you ... More

Ivan posted in For Dads May 12

How to do hairstyles for daughter

Any easy way to do this task???? I just know the Shintaro (single pony tail) that’s it. Is there a machine that does this for routine morning task...to make my princess hair look stylish.

  • Krystal
    May 13

    Your best bet is probably to check out some YouTube videos. Pigtails are easy, just split a part down the middle and put up both sides in their own ponytails. Braids have a good difficulty range - normal braids are easy, French braids, Dutch braids, and fishtail braids are harder. All of the above can be done like pigtails with a part down the middle and a braid on either side. If you really wa... More

  • Krystal
    May 13

    The book is called Hair: a Book of Braiding and Styles by Anne Johnson and it’s only a few dollars on Amazon plus shipping

Jeff posted in Pre-Teens May 06

HELP!! My 10yr old daughter mentioned she likes a boy at school 😩. The “dad” part of me wants to be strict and shut it down right away, however I also don’t want to be too hard on her to where she doesn’t feel comfortable opening up to me about what’s going on in her life... Feeling a little stuck here, any advice?

  • Germán
    May 15

    I think all of the replies are great and I’m super happy to be part of this. I’d like to add that the role your wife plays or will play in all of this is primordial. If she is in pro of having a nice open relationship with your kids and daughter then your daughter is gonna be like “great, I can trust them both!” But if your wife is or was anything like my mom (I have an older and a younger si... More

  • STR8JKT
    May 18

    Honestly, communication is really all you need and never lie... be involved, make suggestions don’t give demand and give orders.. believe me my daughter is 22 now and recently thanked me for always being her dad first and best friend second and for never flipping out when she came to me with things that where awkward to even talk about.. lil does she know, inside I was going worse than flip... More

Any other Stay-at-Home dads here?

  • Dan The Dad
    Apr 30

    Yes, I’m here.

  • dadio
    May 03

    Thanks Superdad!! Needed to hear that. The little guy & I have some fun activities for sure. More and more as he gets older I’m sure.

Anonymous posted in Stay-at-Home Dads Apr 22

How do you deal with your husband being the stay at home parent while you work? What if you still are doing all the housework and the bills? He helps but isn’t consistent so it’s frustrating. What to do??? He is seeking permanent employment we have 1 child together and he has 2 from a previous relationship who live with us. I just want someone else to do the house work bc I’m tired boss!!

  • Dan The Dad
    Jun 03

    I agree with SuperDad. Same here. Well except cooking. I try but I stink. I am however a clean freak. 😀

  • Superdad
    Jun 03

    Where’re a Dying breed Dan.

John posted in For Dads Apr 07

I am new to Winnie and also a new father, always looking for useful resources

Anonymous posted in Marriage & Partnership Mar 30

So I am a new Dad and my son is almost a month old. I managed to take 6 weeks off to help take care of him with my fiancé. Lately we have been bitter towards each other because I never wake up to help at night by myself. I want to help and hate that I can’t wake up to his cries but if she didn’t hit me awake, an explosion right next to my head wouldn’t wake me. Now I am being yelled at when I g... More

  • dadio
    May 19

    A large part of this is just science. Men and women actually hear the sounds of crying differently. We also hear the sound of doors opening at night differently. Look it up, it’s fascinating.

  • Matthew
    May 20

    I had this same problem when my wife gave birth to our first son who is 2 & 1/2 now. I decided to sleep in a different room and took the baby monitor with me so my wife could get some much deserved sleep and I could train my self to be more aware of the cries. Before I laid down I turn the monitor up as loud as it could go. You will also be surprised how different you will sleep knowing tha... More

Tips for the dad to get/feel involved in the mom and baby breastfeeding relationship? My fiancé be feeling left out every once in awhile. Even though he doesn’t say it I can still tell. I talk to him all the time and we work together, but I just want him to get more involved because I don’t want him being miserable when I start back working and he has to watch her when he’s off work.

  • Kelz
    Mar 26

    Thank you Brandon that really helped! And thanks everyone else also too because being new parents is hard but we’re doing the best we can!

  • Damon
    Apr 03

    Kinda late comer to the question, but I was the one who brought the baby to mommy for feeding so she could get situated ahead of us, and then was the designated burper. They are important jobs in the process.

Any other new-ish dads ever feel guilty about “feeling guilty” as a dad? I guess I mean is there such a thing as mom’s guilt for dads? How can we be ok with NOT being “in the moment” every moment of the day? You know, I just don’t want to screw my daughter up...

  • Larry
    Apr 21

    The key is to have a plan for those days/moment you’ll be spending with your kids. I’ve learned that I get all day appreciation for just a few hours with my kids doing fun stuff with them. Arcades, trampoline parks, movies, etc are my go to activities. Recently took them to a book store and challenged them to find at least one book they like. There went two hours and they had a ball. Not su... More

  • Jay
    May 25

    Yes absolutely, my wife tells me that I don’t make her or my daughter a priority. I’m a very hands on father but when I have free time I like to work out, watch movies etc.. I always feel guilty.

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