For Dads

Modern dads are a different breed — they take pride in being good fathers and are more likely to be the primary caregiver than ever before.

Men share and discuss what it means to be a dad and their unique role in the family, whether they are a stay-at-home dad or working outside the home.

Struggles of an older dad

Hey all, I’m a 50 year old father of 4 year old twin girls and I feel a little alone in my position. I’m very self conscious about the fact that I’m an older dad. We just moved to New Jersey (from Brooklyn) and we are in a community with tons of families. I find myself constantly looking at other dads and being jealous of their youth. My mind is always calculating how old I will be for all the ... More

  • Lulu
    Jan 21

    Hi had my son at 44 i'm now 51 and his dad is 61, 10 yrs my senior. Our son is 6 in first grade. Only regret is we didn't have a number 2. Your girls will be fine they'll have each other. Don't listen to what comes your way only make those memories thats all that really matters.

  • Dada
    Feb 06

    Enjoy the moment. Age is a number

Postpartum Blues?

Hello! I’m a first time father to a 5 month old baby girl. I’m new to Winnie but I wanted to express my feelings about being a dad. About 2 months after she was born, I started to experience increased anxiety and even some physical symptoms, like sweating/loss of appetite etc. I’ve always been susceptible to anxiety and have seen a psychiatrist for many years and for the most part I’ve been... More

  • Tim
    Jan 08

    Such a good point Molly. We as parents need to stay happy or else the baby will suffer. I feel like I do a good job right now, and I hope you are right as the months move along things get somewhat back to a normal routine. Thank you for your input! Much appreciated!

  • SWAGGERDAD
    Jan 09

    Hey Tim, I didn't go through postpartum but I was scare. Having to care for another person is life changing for everybody. So is understandable what you going through.I salute you for even asking for help. My wife had it I know it can be tough and it was tough on us but what worked for her. She meditated daily and always told herself "I Can Do This" to be a parent. After a coupl... More

Kiarra posted in Money Nov 29

At home jobs!

I’m a stay at home mom and I miss working so I was wondering if anyone knew of any stay at home jobs hiring?! Please and thank you in advance

  • Shelby
    Nov 30

    You could be a homebased travel agent and make 80% of your sales

Anonymous posted in Money Nov 28

Stay at home jobs for introverts.

Hi All! Can anyone reccomend some stay at home jobs that doesn't involve sales or customer service? Thanks in advance.

  • Leah
    Nov 28

    Medical Coding. You need to go to school for it though.

  • Veronica
    Nov 29

    Fill out survey. Not sure about how effective or pay it is.

Do any stay at home moms make money from home ???

tips ?

  • Cynthia
    Nov 12, 2018

    Babysit & I will sell clothes I don’t use no more, don’t fit, or new with tags at posh mark!

Anonymous posted in Family Life Nov 01, 2018

To close for comfort?

Our daughter turned 1 recently and she is the only grandchild in both sets of our family. So yes, it’s a bit overwhelming with both grandparents and both sisters who aren’t married and are turning 47 this year. Our daughter is so loved by all but sometimes it feels like she is “the family baby”... this annoys me a bit since I feel this way mainly because of the way my wife’s family treated ou... More

  • Lulu
    Nov 02, 2018

    I hope you didn't misunderstand me..... too much family time CAN be a major issue, and you shouldn't GET OVER your issues. I find that when things are swept under the rug, they fester and become much larger issues. It also sounds like the boundaries are up to your wife to set... maybe stress the importance to her and let her know you can't really set these boundaries without her firm back up.

  • Anonymous
    Nov 02, 2018

    @lulu... thanks. No I didn’t miss understand you I just realized that my “problem” is actually not really that bad... while yes, boundaries are key which are sometimes difficult to set. While I’m glad my wife and I have begun discussing some of my concerns and interests in us taking the lead with schedules for visits I also know that since this is her family she likely has no issues with them w... More

What’s a good age to start play dates?

I’m a SAHD with a 2mo old. I’m asking not just for my LO but also I think I could use some grown up interaction.

  • Megan
    Oct 28, 2018

    The sooner the better

  • Jennifer
    Dec 27

    Check your local community centers a lot of them have an open gym for kids 5yrs-younger usually just a gym full of toys. We really enjoy these. Library story times is also great, a lot of libraries will also have a kids corner with a theme for kids to play in.

Son wants nothing to do with me (only mommy or others). Any tips?

  • Tino
    Nov 20

    Chandler and Rando have put it best. It’s more so a waiting game and practice of patience. Hang in there. Be present and attentive. That means being in the moment as your child is exploring and witnessing your child develop their own personality (dont miss it by being distracted by anything else). Furthermore, pay attention to the things that spark your child’s attention and curiously. ... More

  • Ash
    Nov 30

    My son goes through phases. Like Stacie says, be attentive of their likes but also share your hobbies with them too. Get them excited about what excites you.

Anonymous posted in Parenting Culture Oct 15, 2018

Helping a SAHD

When my daughter was born my mother helped me take care of her. I had about 5 months of maternity leave so I was at home for a good while, but once I returned to work, she took care of her alone while myself and my husband were working. Now our routine has changed and my mother returned to work. My husband is now a SAHD and while he does an amazing job I need to help him with getting her on a r... More

  • LaVona
    Oct 15, 2018

    We recently transitioned to the same set up. Before we started i created a scedule for them to get ideas on how to plan his days. He morphed this into his own schedule. I told him how important it is for a child to have a structured day with set times for naps, food and play. The different typed of play for developement and growth. The variety of foods that we needed to hit each week. He has ... More

  • Pad
    Nov 05, 2018

    Hmm tough one.. speaking from a male perspective I agree totally schedules and routines are important. I don’t think Dads lack of scheduling is a disregard for the need but rather another point to consider is just how difficult being a stay at home dad/mom can be. Sounds like you are placing unrealistic expectations on papa bear almost like he should measure up to your mom but men just are wir... More

Advice for myself.

So I’m basically gonna be brutally honest here. I don’t have friends at all and I spend all my time with my babygirl unless I am working. I was thinking should I go out there and make friends or should I just stay the way I am?????????? I mean I am very selfish when it comes to my daughter and I don’t ask for ppl to take care of her when is not needed. I literally take her everywhere with me li... More

  • Ricardo
    Oct 14, 2018

    Girl! Go out, I give mommy, mommy breaks when she's a stay at home mom and takes care of my gmomey daughter. It's good to take breaks, enjoy yourself and well. Live your life too! ❤

  • Twinki
    Oct 15, 2018

    I feel like any time I spend outside of out of work, school or my kids... my husband makes up crazy stories of why I’m not at home. I never gave him reason not to believe me. It’s his past that he is so untrustworthy. I have a zero social life. Not even social media social life. Ikr?! I tried a girls night at our last duty station but that was a fail. I work full time, go to school full time ... More

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Oct 06, 2018

Paternal Postpartum Depression?

Does anyone have experience with their spouse being depressed after baby was born? My husband has been uncharacteristically frustrated with our second baby. With the first, he bonded very quickly. Last night, the baby started to cry and he insisted on trying to calm her down even though he seemed frustrated. I offered to do it and for him to take our toddler instead, but he wouldn’t let me take... More

  • Josh
    Oct 06, 2018

    New dad here to a wonderful week old girl. Has your partner stated he has PPD. I was actually talking to my wife today that sometimes it is frustrating. Not in a negative way towards the baby as in I don’t love her or have a connection. More in a I want to be more active during night hours so she can get more sleep and rest in between feeds. Maybe his frustration is resulting from the same? Tr... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 07, 2018

    Thanks New Dad, it seems my husband and you are on the same page about medications, lol. I don’t think he wants to be more active/involved as we already take shifts, but I do think he is such a good dad to the first that he wants to be able to be the same kind of father to the second. I think that he doesn’t remember how hard it was with the first because he kind of took the lead for me-he had ... More

Dad App for advice & info

I downloaded this app & I like it. Wanted to share it with all of you dads out there! It’s called “Daddy Up”. Gives tips for you & even some relationship advice.

National At Home Dad Convention #homedadcon2018

Just got back from Orlando and I highly recommend this convention for any Stay At Home Dad out there. Luckily it is coming to Minneapolis next year!! The bonds of the brotherhood of fatherhood are so strong at these conventions and I come home every year more patient, more playful, and with new tools for listening, teaching, and caring. As more details come out I will put up new posts in h... More

Expecting Dad...

Is it bad or normal that I still don’t believe I’m having a baby...My wife (since she is the one pregnant) is very excited and tells me all about it & I don’t know what to say sometimes as it’s still not sinked in my head... I do get excited from time to time thinking about the idea of it. Experienced dads out there? What’s your story?

  • Chris aka Dad
    Feb 03

    Dude, Totally normal. As a father of a now three month old I can relate. I was excited about the idea of the baby, but not able to really feel it. Prior to birth = cool, we’re having a kid. Once born = ok, she’s here, autopilot on taking care of her but feels like a hassle and a disruption to life. Three/Four months old = I love my baby girl, she’s showing personality, I feel like we connect an... More

  • Christian
    Feb 03

    Thanks for the support everybody!

Any suggestions or tips I should be aware of?

Going to be a dad for first time. Due date April 2019! Nervous & excited at the same time...any suggestions or tips are welcomed! Dads out there!

  • Andrew
    Dec 04

    Sleep when they sleep, be patient-things will change significantly but go with it with an open mind. Find time with you and your spouse/significant other to reconnect. Embrace the suck, sometimes it wont seem as glorious as its supposes to. Just weather the storm, it gets better!

  • Christian
    Dec 04

    Thanks Andrew good advice!

Postpartum depression for dads.

Has anyone’s SO dealt with depression after the birth of a new baby? Looking for advice. I know men don’t have all the hormonal shifts that new moms have but it’s a lot of change and is overwhelming for the dads too but I don’t hear people usually talking about it.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 10, 2018

    Sometimes even the best support person isn’t enough to combat mental illness. Don’t be scared to seek real help.

  • Alexis
    Oct 06, 2018

    My husband swears his stomach hurts when I say my stomach hurts. Maybe he just sympathies. I’m just about 7 weeks

Anonymous posted in Single Parents Aug 30, 2018

Random thought.

Single dad here and my son is turning 4 in January and he is starting to look for his mom.

  • Felicia
    Aug 30, 2018

    Have you tried to explain to him why she’s not there ? In simplest terms at least.

  • Stephanie
    Aug 31, 2018

    I would be as honest as possible. Children are smarter and more intuitive than we think. I’d start off by giving him, her name and explain in the simplest way why mama isn’t around. I can’t imagine having to have that talk but in the end your son will thank you for your honesty. Good luck to you :)

Anonymous posted in Family Life Aug 28, 2018

What can I do to help my husband take on his role as father?

I'm just at a loss right now. I don't know if anyone else has gone through this with their partner, but I feel like hearing from some of you may help. Forgive me if this is long. My husband isn't spending as much time with our son as I'd like nor taking some of the responsibility. It's really at point that unless I ask him to do something or my son has been screaming for a l... More

  • Ricardo
    Oct 14, 2018

    Maybe he lacks parenting skills or he is afraid of being a responsible daddy. It isn't easy, with the lifestyle change, family change, etc. As a daddy myself, I fully understand what's hurting you, I also suggest in talking about it one on one first before seeking professional help. But talking (communication) is key to get your feelings heard. I hope this helps.

  • Charlotte
    Nov 18, 2018

    My husband does the same think and he is also in the military. We have 2 children and I almost have to beg to get him to do anything.

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