For Moms

The journey through motherhood is as diverse as it is long — every mom faces different trials but we are all united in our love for our children.

This is safe space for women to talk about the parts of parenthood that are uniquely female including pregnancy, breastfeeding and postpartum care.

Anonymous posted in Family Life Feb 13

SAHM, does your SO remind you how you’re not working/bring home a paycheck?

It seems like anytime we argue my SO brings it up. How I can’t spend money. Or paying the bills. Etc. it just hurts my pride so much, I used to work and did whatever I wanted with my money, Now with kids, we thought it’d be better for me to stay home and watch them so we won’t have to pay for daycare.

  • Ashleigh
    Today

    This is so hard! And I have so many thoughts on this! There is a website that calculates what a stay at home parent would earn if they were paid for all services provided - typically over $100K! What you are doing is so valuable, and exhausting! I don't know if this is possible in your situation, but maybe try going out of town on his time off. I'm guessing you might not actually get ... More

  • Anonymous
    3h ago

    He won’t let me put them in daycare either lol, he doesn’t trust strangers to watch our kids and I get that. And the kids behave so much better for him! 😩 they cling to me 24/7

Parenting with Pain/Injury/Chronic Illness

To preface, I don't have kids of my own yet. But I am at the stage of life (late 20's/early 30's) when I'm beginning to seriously consider starting a family. One thing that I have always been cautious about is a chronic injury that I have. As a teenager, I was a gymnast/diver and ruptured several discs in my lumbar spine that have left me with chronic pain. I have always been ne... More

  • Gen
    Jan 30

    I have degenerative joint disease and spinal stenosis in my neck and lumbar spine. I do PT once a week and strength training once a week. I have chronic pain, and two children. The first pregnancy wasn’t too bad, but there were definitely some issues after. I had dequirvain’s thumb for a while after, but PT helped that. But my back pain wasn’t any worse. The second pregnancy was harder, I had... More

  • Karen
    Jan 30

    I have an autoimmune disease with inflammation symptoms, as well as a hemangioma on my leg that makes walking or bending my legs hard sometimes. Having a kid is hard with chronic pain and low stamina, but it also pushes to me to be active when I might otherwise be sedentary. It’s a daily struggle, but in the long term for me, having a child is going to help me live a healthier, longer, fuller l... More

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Jan 26

Insomnia

Hello Any mamas took Melatonin while breastfeeding is it safe?

Anonymous posted in Parent's Health Jan 24

Postpartum depression

Are you susceptible to PPD if you’re already diagnosed with depression? I’m concerned about how I’m going to react after my first. Also would love to hear what has helped you through it! Thank you!

Anonymous posted in Postpartum Recovery Jan 20

Hair Loss

Any tips to treat or lessen postpartum hair loss ? I'm 3 months postpartum and everytime I wash my hair or brush I get a handful :/

  • Jennie
    Jan 21

    I've been taking collagen in my coffee every morning... it seems like it's helping. It's definitely helping my nails and dry cuticles though.

  • Destin
    Jan 21

    I had the same problem and I took keratin pills to help with regrowth. I don’t know that you will be able to stop it since it’s just part of whacked out hormones...but once your body evens out it will start to grow in normally again. For me, it was prob about 5 or 6 months. The pills did seem to help some though.

Body hurts

2 weeks postpartum muscles soreness and weakness still hitting me hard .. is this normal and when does it go away .?

  • Jennie
    Jan 21

    Yes girl you should not expect to be back to normal for 6-8 weeks... more if you had an epidural in my experience (I have 5 kiddos). Go slow.

  • Sara
    Jan 22

    Totally normal! It took 9 months to make the baby so a full recovery isn't going to happen in 2 weeks. With my second daughter I badly injured my tailbone giving birth and it took over a year for it to heal and be able to sit in a chair like a normal person. I'm not saying this to scare you but just to give you confidence that you will eventually heal it just takes time!

Tipping the Sitter

Hi All! I am scheduled to babysit for a family tonight, and one of the parents just let me know that they will pay my base rate plus a tip at the end of the night. I've had other families give a tip, but most of the families for whom I babysit don't offer tips in addition to my hourly rate. I'm curious to know if tipping the babysitter is a relatively common practice? I'm also c... More

How do you find time to read?

I’ve got a growing book stack of baby how-to’s, sleep training, and toddler manuals to get to, and the stack is as tall as my 16 month old. By the time I can find the time to read one, he’s already moved into another age and the book will no longer apply! How do you do it?

  • Anonymous
    Jan 08

    I don't! I read books I enjoy, I follow Instagram accounts, and listen to podcasts about the topics I need help with when it comes to my toddler and preschooler. I can listen to it while I'm working out or in the car, and who knows if my kids are listening too, maybe they will learn how to do it themselves 😂

  • S
    Jan 10

    @anonymous_mom you/your niece could charge the rest of us $x in order to access the notes to parenting books. I know i'd pay for notes on books i already wanted to read but didn't have time to!

Breast Engorgement! Help!!!

Day 3 after birth. We were discharged last night from the hospital. My breasts are so engorged as I have chosen to not breastfeed I am reaching out for HELPFUL suggestions to relieve pain other than ice/heat compresses and pain medicine as I have already been doing those.

No sex drive for over a year? Is This Normal or Happening To Anyone Else?

My beautiful daughter turned a year old in September and yet I have yet to get really intimate with my partner and it's been a whole year.A few times we had been intimate I felt great but later on I was disgusted by the thought of what I had done.I am very much attracted to my partner but I am disgusted 85% of the time when he try's to make sexual advances or even at the thought of doin... More

  • Anonymous
    Dec 01

    I went through something similar. It turned out, there were some underlying issues with our relationship that took me several months to figure out. But once we both acknowledged the issues, and tried to change, I felt more willing to be intimate. Maybe see if there is anything that could be bugging you underneath the sex?

  • meghan
    Dec 03

    Went through something similar and it ended up being the birth control I was on. Switched brands and had a much better reaction. Worth taking a look at if that’s your situation too.

Cervix pain after childbirth

I had my daughter over a year ago and since then nearly every time my husband and I have intercourse it hurts my cervix, it even hurts to use tampons. Anybody have this issue also or know what could be the cause of it?

  • Megan Fradley-Smith
    Nov 21, 2019

    Hi! Have you ever asked your doctor about prolapse? It sounds scary, but nearly all of us who’ve been pregnant/given birth vaginally have some degree of prolapse. See if you can get a pelvic exam and get a referral to a pelvic floor PT. I saw one after my third baby was born, and she was a lifesaver. Good luck!

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Nov 12, 2019

SAHM Issues

I’m at SAHM mom and I know I should be grateful but these last few days I’m mostly just annoyed and tired. My son is 10 months old and some nights he sleeps great others not so much. My spouse leaves home around 6am and is back around 5pm so it’s a long day. Some days I seem to have a hold on things but the days where I don’t omg it’s horrible. My son does well when we leave the house but after... More

  • Penelope
    Dec 02

    I work and take care of the baby all the time. I went from one cup of coffee a day to four. And I literally do everything from pick up to drop off to cleaning and shopping. I also worked graveyard and now I do swings. And my kid is still up till 3am sometime later. I usually don’t sleep more than two or three hours and sometimes not at all. And my baby daddy comes home maybe ever couple days an... More

  • Penelope
    Dec 02

    P.S. stay at homes moms that keep a clean house and do all the cooking etc, work the equivalency of two and a half full time jobs. Once again, women rock!

Anonymous posted in Style & Beauty Nov 06, 2019

Modest swimsuits

Does anyone have any recommendations for modest swim suits with the following: •Tall (I’m 5’10) •Average body (My bottom is a 14 and top is a 10) •Behind coverage •Most tummy coverage (still not comfortable showing it all after my second baby and maybe too many Oreos 😛) It’s so hard for me to find a swimsuit that fits because I’m so bottom heavy. A one piece would never work, but I like how it... More

  • Aye
    Nov 09, 2019

    High rise bottoms are everything!! Keeps my tummy hidden or one piece suits too. And target does really have cute ones. Also coverups too

  • Arielle
    Nov 15, 2019

    AlbionFit is awesome and really cute! They have long-torso swimsuits that you could try as well as high-waisted bottoms, modest tops, etc. Kourtni Jeane is another great one that you could look into! You can choose your tops and bottoms separately and mix and match different prints, too. I think Old Navy might have long torso swimsuits as well and I know they have high-waisted bottoms that you ... More

Low libido

Anyone know of what gummies/vitamins to take for low libido? I’m not talking about once a month low libido. I’m talking about straight up no interest low libido. I haven’t had sex since approx the baby was 6-8months old, and now he’s turning 2 in January. My husband doesn’t pressure me into having sex cause he knows my “situation” but I think it’s time I do something about it otherwise the rel... More

  • Casey
    Oct 29, 2019

    Are you still nursing? That can be the cause of low libido

  • Anon
    Oct 29, 2019

    Nope I am not nursing. Stopped when the baby was 7 months or so...

Anonymous posted in For Moms Oct 15, 2019

You are amazing

dear moms out there. Just want you to know that you are AMAZING! Wow, we are superwomen for all that we do.

Any stay at home moms returning to college online

I am a stay at home mom of four toddler boys (7,6,3,2) and I want to return to college as an online student for my early childhood education degree. Any advice? Thanks in advance

  • Sofi
    Oct 06, 2019

    When does your smallest turn 3? I found it very hard to return when my son was 2. I have 3 kids a boy that just turned 4 a boy that will turn 3 next month and a 1 year old daughter. I don't have alot of help from my husband I'm sure if I had more support I would have been able to but he works very long hours and is much older than me so I am waiting for.my daughter to turn 3 so she can ... More

  • Lil Ma
    Oct 07, 2019

    Thanks sofa for replying to my question. I appreciate it. And to answer your question my 2yr old turns 3 in February

Anonymous posted in For Dads Oct 03, 2019

Dad doesn’t understand how toddlers work

Husband does a lot around the house (minus kitchen), and I do most of the parenting and anything related to the kitchen. During an argument I realized he doesn’t understand how a 15mo old thinks. He says she only wants what she wants and he thinks it’s wrong/he can’t always Give her what she wants. She should want what dad wants. So, She is whining for me but I’m cleaning tub because we had s... More

  • Morgan
    Oct 04, 2019

    I second sarah

  • Anonymous
    Oct 04, 2019

    You all are amazing!!!!! Thank you!!! And you’re all so right. Men just know we will take care of it but that’s not how co-parenting works. It’s a struggle-bus over here, and don’t know when I get off this bus but I’m working toward it! ❤️❤️❤️

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Oct 02, 2019

Honestly, I’ve been feeling like crap

Is it possible to have postpartum depression over a year later? I just got a new job that is physically demanding and I haven't been sleeping well and thought maybe that was it but now I'm crying all of the time and just feel like a piece of crap and a terrible mother and wife. Sometimes I regret having my child and just look at her in annoyance and then I regret thinking that. I don... More

  • Tina
    Nov 21, 2019

    I think it’s just comes with being a mom and you may just be in a funk. Whatever you are thinking just remember it happens to every mother and you are doing amazing. You grew and birthed a human. You are a bad ass. I agree with getting a house keeper. I have someone come twice a month for deep cleaning and she comes one day a week on top of that to do laundry and the other tedious stuff. It’s a... More

  • Megan
    Dec 20

    Hi! I felt the same way. I breastfed for the babies first 6 months and didn’t feel like myself and wanted my body back. I also resented my husband because I was working so hard making milk and working full time. It obviously wasn’t his fault he can’t produce milk. My daughter is 18 months and feel like I’m back to my normal self. I think it’s a phase. Good luck

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Anonymous posted in Mental Health Sep 18, 2019

I desperately need a hobby!

I need something positive to do with my spare time. What are your hobbies? I need to find something where I can have time to myself and unwind doing something I enjoy. I feel like I lose my temper because me and my 2 yr old son spend 24/7 together. And his dad is always on his computer after work so I honestly feel like I’m in a shared relationship with his computer games. I told him I’m findin... More

  • Vonda
    Sep 29, 2019

    I am a stay at home mom and I started hand sewing and embroidery. It’s something my son has noticed and has started mimicking. So I bought him an embroidery board (my son is also two) and we sometimes embroider together. I like it because I can do it myself and if I am needed suddenly I can just set down and pick back up easily. I hope this helps. I’ve also thought about getting back into fenc... More

  • samantha
    Dec 14

    get one. you really need something creative to do

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