For Moms

The journey through motherhood is as diverse as it is long — every mom faces different trials but we are all united in our love for our children.

This is safe space for women to talk about the parts of parenthood that are uniquely female including pregnancy, breastfeeding and postpartum care.

Anonymous posted in Babies Thursday

Inconsolable newborn: advice/support?

I had my first baby via c-section yesterday, and despite everyone saying babies tend to be sleepy in the first 24 hours she cries nonstop and my husband and I are going insane. The nurses and pediatrician tell us she is completely healthy and this is normal but I just can’t believe this will be our new normal. We try swaddling, shushing (all the 5 S’s really!), I feed her constantly, but she ju... More

  • Emily
    Friday

    My daughter would not stop crying for the first 3 days. Once and awhile she would sleep for an hour or so. I honestly think it was because she was not getting enough milk from me right away - since I was breastfeeding, it seemed like she was eating and getting some but she wasn’t. And I didn’t realize. After my milk came in she was completely different - a milk monster and growing quickly. It’s... More

  • Jenn
    Yesterday

    I have an 8 month old and he was c section as well, he was born jaundiced so he was getting poked every single day he did cried a lot during the night found out my milk supply was super low as a matter of fact nothing was coming down and finally the nurses suggested to get a lactation consultant but for the time being i had to formula feed him, after that he was good. No complaints now he sleep... More

How often do you check your blood pressure?

Moms who have had issues with blood pressure or have a blood pressure cuff of their own how often do you check? I had issues at the end of my first pregnancy with my blood pressure and I’m currently having issues with swelling.

  • PK
    Wednesday

    During my pregnancy, I only got it checked when I went to the dr. Postpartum, my bp was really high so we bought a cuff and I think I checked it once a week. I was so swollen that I had trouble breathing. Ended up going to the ER. For some reason my body wasn’t getting rid of all the fluid I retained during my pregnancy/labor/delivery fast enough so it was starting to go into my lungs. My bp ha... More

Anonymous posted in For Moms Tuesday

Maternity photoshoot @ JCP

Helo moms, I am planning for a maternity photoshoot @ jcp. Would like to hear back from people who have been there! How was the experience? Is it worth the time and money? How is the quality of the pictures? TIA

  • T
    Thursday

    If you can afford it I’d hire a real professional. There’s more freedom. It’ll be worth it. Check on Groupon.

Anonymous posted in Parent's Health Tuesday

Is there a way to figure out where you are in your cycle after having a hysterectomy?

I don’t get a period anymore, but would like to know where I’m at in my cycle so that I can figure out my moods and see them coming better

  • Anonymous
    3h ago

    I don’t know if this helps, but the Kindara app is free (for tracking periods/ovulation). It also has different symbols for protected, unprotected, and withdrawal sex aside from a standard marker for your period. You could use that (or the different discharge options that also populate your fertile window) to track your moods...ex mark a period day anytime you have a particularly bad day and ... More

Any women who had a C section have sex before the 6weeks?

  • Michaela
    Apr 14

    I wish I had felt that way! I would be careful or gentle because it can get infected, or even try “other ways” lol. You could always call your nurse line.

  • Karen
    Apr 14

    I did after almost 4 weeks and didn't have any problems at all. We were just very careful.

Anonymous posted in Stay-at-Home Moms Apr 10

Considering staying at home with kids, but afraid of the what if’s

Hello! My husband and I have been talking about me staying home with our two boys. When we had our oldest, I envied the moms I saw out with their kids on weekdays and would have jumped at the opportunity. But now that we are in a situation where I can, I’m afraid of all of what could go wrong. What if I need to go back to work earlier than expected, and I’ve been out long enough that they con... More

  • Mama
    Apr 10

    Those are a lot of what ifs. I think about them as well being a SAHM. At the end of the day there will always be someone looking to hire. But I’m learning children grow way too quickly to miss these critical moments.

  • Devon
    Apr 11

    You can always start slow by working part time if you can. It will help you feel out staying at home and ease you into it. It will give you a chance to overcome some of those fears while allowing yourself too continue working. In the future, if you had to get a job again after being a stay at home mom, there are always other options. They may not be in your field, but there are things, even lik... More

Birth Control.

So i got my IUD in September of 2016 and I just took it out on the 5th of this month because my husband and I are going to start trying again..my question is how long should I be bleeding? I’m going on day 5 and I am starting to get super irritated. It’s heavy and nasty, I know that the IUD regulates my period to every other month and it was only 3 days long and now it is gone so should I expec... More

Anonymous posted in Postpartum Recovery Apr 07

Post partum periods

My son is almost 8 months old and I haven’t had any noticeable period or cycle. Occasionally I’ll have some spotting but nothing that ever warrants a pad. Is this normal? Should I contact my OB? And i might have just started one today but won’t know for sure until tomorrow if it continues.

  • Jenn
    Apr 08

    Are you breastfeeding? If so, it is not uncommon to not have periods or have sporadic periods during that time.

  • Anonymous
    Apr 08

    Yes I am breastfeeding! That makes me feel better. I was just curious on how normal it is.

Hello, New here

I’m new here. Just looking for new friends. ❤️

  • Bree
    Apr 07

    I’m new here too! Just arrive last month. How are you liking it? Any suggestions?

  • Brigetta
    Apr 09

    I'm new here you!! Just joined this morning!!

Anonymous posted in Parent's Health Apr 05

Deep regrets after breast surgery

Two months after breastfeeding my second for nearly two years, I rushed for breast enlargement surgery. My husband didn’t want it, the two friends I spoke with also disagreed, but I went and did it and now am full of shame and regret. I was trying to claw back a little of the body confidence I had before my body and breasts stretched and sagged. 3 days post-op, I look like I have one of those... More

  • Anonymous
    Apr 06

    Anon, I’ve been thinking about you today. It’s so heartbreaking to hear you talk about yourself this way. As mothers we put ourselves through hell to have children. You breastfed for TWO YEARS. That is a huge, huge personal and physical sacrifice to make for your family. Your desire to regain some of your former shape and confidence after that is SO SO understandable. I hear that you regret t... More

  • Anonymous
    Apr 08

    Thank you Anon. For your comforting and encouraging words. I am slowly stepping away from the extreme self-hate and blame. Have channelled some of my anger at the medical professionals who thought nothing of operating on someone in a somewhat vulnerable position; I calculated having only stopped breastfeeding 5 weeks before operation, plus two emergency c-sections in two years. I’d actually me... More

Anonymous posted in Parent's Health Apr 01

Probably TMI... postpartum question

Okay so this is probably TMI but I really don’t know what else to do and I’m too embarrassed to call my OB yet. I am 13 months postpartum so I’m obviously cleared for sex, tampons, etc., but I haven’t done any of those things yet (I’m a single mom). I had a vaginal delivery and a 2nd degree tear in both directions and was stitched up. At my six week check up my OB said I was good to resume norm... More

  • Anonymous
    Apr 02

    Thank you everyone! I started bleeding today (not my period) so I did put in a call to my OB and have an appointment for tomorrow. I am still breastfeeding; I had no idea that it could effect healing so I will be sure to mention that! Thanks again!

  • DinaCooney
    Friday

    A lot of people don’t know that you can see a physical therapist for pelvic floor issues like vaginal pain, painful intercourse, painful sitting, etc. maybe you should talk to your doctor about that - depending on where you live, your doctor may or may not be aware of it either. I am a pelvic floor PT and these are issues that I treat daily. You may be able to find a pelvic floor PT near you b... More

Anonymous posted in Marriage & Partnership Mar 26

BEING a SAHM causing problems for my relationship.

I am a STAY AT HOME MOM and I don’t drive due to serious anxiety problems so I’m literally stuck at home. I’ve thought of getting a job but I’d pretty much be working just to pay the baby sitter so that’s out of the question. I have no clue what to do at this point I’m starting to feel tired of my relationship and have started arguments for no reason because I feel like my husband is just free... More

  • Liz
    Apr 07

    Hi dear you need time for take care about yourself and your relationship put your baby 2 days a week in a daycare and take that time for you, exercise, nails, friends and so and so and maybe go to lunch or dinner with your husband . If you don’t feel good first nothing is going to work! Have a good luck !!

  • Devon
    Apr 11

    Find somewhere where you can get a professional to teach you how to drive. Find the local autocross, they can help. You do not want to be dependant on your husband, and you shouldn't have to be. I am extremely familiar with getting over debilitating anxieties and if you are struggling because you are stuck, it sounds like that is the first place to start. Your husband may feel helpless know... More

Anonymous posted in Family Life Mar 22

Family Drama

I'm 28 weeks pregnant and dealing with some drama tonight that I'm trying not to get stressed about. Does have any advice? So, back in the beginning of my pregnancy, my mom made a comment about wanting to stay with us for a week when the baby is born to help out. This is her first grandchild and she is extremely excited. She lives 12+ hours away. Initially I thought "yeah, ok, mak... More

  • Mary
    Mar 27

    It’s pretty clear your mom feels rejected by your statements about her staying over and is responding accordingly. When your babe is born, you’ll probably want all the help you can get (depending on how stressful she is as a guest.) The ideas about her coming the week after are good, but you know better about the boundaries you need to set. Either way, talk to her again calmly and lovingly and ... More

  • Lily
    Mar 27

    My mother in law came to stay when we had our first baby, it was okay until she started acting like a child and just up and left. My parents wanted nothing to do with anything with the baby. If your mom wants to act like a child and over react by acting like you said she isn't allowed to stay at your house ever, then I would just say you are about to have a baby and you can't have you... More

Anonymous posted in Fitness Mar 19

Postpartum exercise videos online?

Any know of good ones? I have diastasis recti and can’t motivate myself to go to physical therapy, so want to do some videos at home. Ideal if they’re quick! Busy mama of two :p

  • Aida
    Mar 20

    Check out mommastrong.com She has a great program to address this and get you started back to exercising.

  • Jessie
    Mar 20

    I’d suggest speaking with a professional first; however, I’ve enjoyed beachbodyondemand.com. They’re online and there’s one called, “Pre & Post Natal Fitness” Good luck!

Lulu posted in Fitness Mar 17

Baby body blues, ie spring fever

18 months pp and it seems like trying to get myself healthy and work on fitness is becoming even more difficult. What are your favorite tips for making healthiness a priority when your hands are full 24/7 and what are the easiest things I can do to make it happen?

  • Elle
    Mar 17

    @ Lulu, apologies, I thought the post was hinting at ppd. All the best!

  • Kieli
    Mar 17

    I wanted to lose weight when I stopped breastfeeding. I started the keto diet, low carb and low sugar. I started out the first week or two exercising almost everyday. I cheated some too, every Saturday I would cheat all I wanted not just one meal. And even during the week sometimes. I ended up losing 11 pounds the month I dieted. Then I found out I was pregnant again so I stopped dieting. Keto ... More

Anonymous posted in Postpartum Recovery Mar 13

What to bring to someone in hospital on bed rest/for a preemie baby?

A good friend has been hospitalized with severe pregnancy complications far ahead of her due date and will be there for weeks. She’ll likely be induced soon as well. I’ll be visiting her this weekend, and wondering (especially if anyone has been there) what I should bring for her to make her stay more comfortable (maybe comfy PJs/food?), and also for the baby (maybe preemie sized clothes)? An... More

Depo-Vera Shot

Hi, Has anyone been on the depo shot? How did it affect you? How long before you wanted to get pregnant did you get off of it? Thank you!

  • Lindsey
    Mar 10

    It’s different for everyone. I have been on depo on and off for 15 years. It has always worked great for me. I have a 3 year old daughter and we are now currently trying for baby number 2. I got my last shot back in July, so by October it had worn off and I got my first period. I get regular periods every month and my body went right back to normal. It does take most women about 10 months to a ... More

  • Erica
    Mar 15

    I was on depo for 5 years after I had my daughter and I loved it. I never had any major problems except random bleeding the first year. I gained a little weight over that time but nothing extreme. I was always told to stop a year in advance if I wanted to become pregnant bc it could take some time. I stopped my depo in Mar to prepare for another baby and became pregnant a few months later in J... More

How do you meet mom friends?

...How do you meet mom friends when you’re relatively new to a city, now stay at home and have a 1 year old!? tried play ground, some play groups... just so hard...!

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Mar 02

Not enjoying motherhood most of the time☹️

I am lucky that my son was always a very easy going child, but ever since my daughter was born 2 years ago, I really do not enjoy being a mom. She is an extremely challenging toddler to say the least, I reached out to child therapists and her pediatrician out of concern several times. She bangs her head violently on the floor probably 10 times a day because she snaps if she doesn’t immediately ... More

  • Sabrina
    Mar 04

    I’ve been there!

  • Sabrina
    Mar 04

    That is my 3 year old and 2 year old right now. My 5 year old was my easy child and when my 3 year old was 1 1/2 years old, he would bang his head on the floor out of pure frustration because he couldn’t communicate. Kids can pick up on your vibes and yelling only causes them to feel like they have to walk on eggshells around you or else if they mess up, you might yell. They are still figuri... More

Looking to work.

Hi! I've been a stay at home mom for 18months now and I really love it. However I really would like to make some income. If anyone knows of any legitimate work from home jobs i would really appreciate it. Thanks!

  • Lily
    Mar 28

    I work as a nanny, I go to thier house. But I get to take my little one with me and she loves playing with her friends!

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