For Moms

The journey through motherhood is as diverse as it is long — every mom faces different trials but we are all united in our love for our children.

This is safe space for women to talk about the parts of parenthood that are uniquely female including pregnancy, breastfeeding and postpartum care.

Breast Engorgement! Help!!!

Day 3 after birth. We were discharged last night from the hospital. My breasts are so engorged as I have chosen to not breastfeed I am reaching out for HELPFUL suggestions to relieve pain other than ice/heat compresses and pain medicine as I have already been doing those.

No sex drive for over a year? Is This Normal or Happening To Anyone Else?

My beautiful daughter turned a year old in September and yet I have yet to get really intimate with my partner and it's been a whole year.A few times we had been intimate I felt great but later on I was disgusted by the thought of what I had done.I am very much attracted to my partner but I am disgusted 85% of the time when he try's to make sexual advances or even at the thought of doin... More

  • Anonymous
    Sunday

    I went through something similar. It turned out, there were some underlying issues with our relationship that took me several months to figure out. But once we both acknowledged the issues, and tried to change, I felt more willing to be intimate. Maybe see if there is anything that could be bugging you underneath the sex?

  • meghan
    Tuesday

    Went through something similar and it ended up being the birth control I was on. Switched brands and had a much better reaction. Worth taking a look at if that’s your situation too.

Cervix pain after childbirth

I had my daughter over a year ago and since then nearly every time my husband and I have intercourse it hurts my cervix, it even hurts to use tampons. Anybody have this issue also or know what could be the cause of it?

  • Megan Fradley-Smith
    Nov 21

    Hi! Have you ever asked your doctor about prolapse? It sounds scary, but nearly all of us who’ve been pregnant/given birth vaginally have some degree of prolapse. See if you can get a pelvic exam and get a referral to a pelvic floor PT. I saw one after my third baby was born, and she was a lifesaver. Good luck!

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Nov 12

SAHM Issues

I’m at SAHM mom and I know I should be grateful but these last few days I’m mostly just annoyed and tired. My son is 10 months old and some nights he sleeps great others not so much. My spouse leaves home around 6am and is back around 5pm so it’s a long day. Some days I seem to have a hold on things but the days where I don’t omg it’s horrible. My son does well when we leave the house but after... More

  • Penelope
    Monday

    I work and take care of the baby all the time. I went from one cup of coffee a day to four. And I literally do everything from pick up to drop off to cleaning and shopping. I also worked graveyard and now I do swings. And my kid is still up till 3am sometime later. I usually don’t sleep more than two or three hours and sometimes not at all. And my baby daddy comes home maybe ever couple days an... More

  • Penelope
    Monday

    P.S. stay at homes moms that keep a clean house and do all the cooking etc, work the equivalency of two and a half full time jobs. Once again, women rock!

Anonymous posted in Style & Beauty Nov 06

Modest swimsuits

Does anyone have any recommendations for modest swim suits with the following: •Tall (I’m 5’10) •Average body (My bottom is a 14 and top is a 10) •Behind coverage •Most tummy coverage (still not comfortable showing it all after my second baby and maybe too many Oreos 😛) It’s so hard for me to find a swimsuit that fits because I’m so bottom heavy. A one piece would never work, but I like how it... More

  • Aye
    Nov 09

    High rise bottoms are everything!! Keeps my tummy hidden or one piece suits too. And target does really have cute ones. Also coverups too

  • Arielle
    Nov 15

    AlbionFit is awesome and really cute! They have long-torso swimsuits that you could try as well as high-waisted bottoms, modest tops, etc. Kourtni Jeane is another great one that you could look into! You can choose your tops and bottoms separately and mix and match different prints, too. I think Old Navy might have long torso swimsuits as well and I know they have high-waisted bottoms that you ... More

Low libido

Anyone know of what gummies/vitamins to take for low libido? I’m not talking about once a month low libido. I’m talking about straight up no interest low libido. I haven’t had sex since approx the baby was 6-8months old, and now he’s turning 2 in January. My husband doesn’t pressure me into having sex cause he knows my “situation” but I think it’s time I do something about it otherwise the rel... More

  • Anon
    Oct 29

    Nope I am not nursing. Stopped when the baby was 7 months or so...

  • NURBN
    Nov 17

    Dealing with the same thing in my household!

Anonymous posted in For Moms Oct 15

You are amazing

dear moms out there. Just want you to know that you are AMAZING! Wow, we are superwomen for all that we do.

Lil Ma posted in Education Oct 05

Any stay at home moms returning to college online

I am a stay at home mom of four toddler boys (7,6,3,2) and I want to return to college as an online student for my early childhood education degree. Any advice? Thanks in advance

  • Sofi
    Oct 06

    When does your smallest turn 3? I found it very hard to return when my son was 2. I have 3 kids a boy that just turned 4 a boy that will turn 3 next month and a 1 year old daughter. I don't have alot of help from my husband I'm sure if I had more support I would have been able to but he works very long hours and is much older than me so I am waiting for.my daughter to turn 3 so she can ... More

  • Lil Ma
    Oct 07

    Thanks sofa for replying to my question. I appreciate it. And to answer your question my 2yr old turns 3 in February

Anonymous posted in For Dads Oct 03

Dad doesn’t understand how toddlers work

Husband does a lot around the house (minus kitchen), and I do most of the parenting and anything related to the kitchen. During an argument I realized he doesn’t understand how a 15mo old thinks. He says she only wants what she wants and he thinks it’s wrong/he can’t always Give her what she wants. She should want what dad wants. So, She is whining for me but I’m cleaning tub because we had s... More

  • Morgan
    Oct 04

    I second sarah

  • Anonymous
    Oct 04

    You all are amazing!!!!! Thank you!!! And you’re all so right. Men just know we will take care of it but that’s not how co-parenting works. It’s a struggle-bus over here, and don’t know when I get off this bus but I’m working toward it! ❤️❤️❤️

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Oct 02

Honestly, I’ve been feeling like crap

Is it possible to have postpartum depression over a year later? I just got a new job that is physically demanding and I haven't been sleeping well and thought maybe that was it but now I'm crying all of the time and just feel like a piece of crap and a terrible mother and wife. Sometimes I regret having my child and just look at her in annoyance and then I regret thinking that. I don... More

  • Anonymous
    Nov 01

    Thank you all for your support and comments. I'm doing a bit better now. Pretty sure it was due to my mom being in a different state taking care of my grandma that has since passed. My mom and I are very close. I started getting better when my mom gave me a date of when she's coming back to Texas and that made me feel a bit better. I also got some good news at work today! Y'all are amazing❤

  • Tina
    Nov 21

    I think it’s just comes with being a mom and you may just be in a funk. Whatever you are thinking just remember it happens to every mother and you are doing amazing. You grew and birthed a human. You are a bad ass. I agree with getting a house keeper. I have someone come twice a month for deep cleaning and she comes one day a week on top of that to do laundry and the other tedious stuff. It’s a... More

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Anonymous posted in Mental Health Sep 18

I desperately need a hobby!

I need something positive to do with my spare time. What are your hobbies? I need to find something where I can have time to myself and unwind doing something I enjoy. I feel like I lose my temper because me and my 2 yr old son spend 24/7 together. And his dad is always on his computer after work so I honestly feel like I’m in a shared relationship with his computer games. I told him I’m findin... More

  • Aaron
    Sep 26

    I am a stay at home dad of a two-year-old boy and eight-month-old girl, sometimes when the opportunity doesn’t present itself I try to make sure I engage in my personal development while I’m taking care of my kids I even like listening to an audiobook on the TV while I play with them so I have something progressive going on in the background, naptime rolls around as tired as I might be I try to... More

  • Vonda
    Sep 29

    I am a stay at home mom and I started hand sewing and embroidery. It’s something my son has noticed and has started mimicking. So I bought him an embroidery board (my son is also two) and we sometimes embroider together. I like it because I can do it myself and if I am needed suddenly I can just set down and pick back up easily. I hope this helps. I’ve also thought about getting back into fenc... More

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Sep 17

Pros and cons of birth control shot

I really don’t know where else to post this (I looked at forum options and didn’t see anything related to this, so it’s out in the open, sorry, haha). Do any of you mamas use Depo Provera for birth control? I used it for 3 months right after I gave birth (over a year ago), and I had a rough time using it. I thought maybe it was because my hormones were still out of whack and my body was still... More

  • Anonymous
    Sep 20

    My best friend has the shot and experienced weight gain too. I have the Mirena IUD and honestly dont care for it. My last period lasted 17 days. Its constant, heavy bleeding. It also depends on what side effects your okay with.

  • Melissa
    Oct 17

    I used it many many years ago so it may have changed. I gained like 25-35 pounds. I had my regular cycle and light spotting every other day in between. I didn’t get pregnant on it and only had to take it every 3 months but i much rather take something different.

Two periods after weaning

Expected my third period since ending breastfeeding. I’m a few days late. At what point should I expect my periods to normalize? I had been very regular prior to having my son 6 months ago. I’m wondering if I should be expecting weirdness with my period, or if I should be buying a pregnancy test?

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Sep 10

Thrush?!?

I’m a first time mom, my baby just turned 2 months and I’ve had trouble BF from the start. He gets a good latch because I can hear him gulping and my breasts feel empty after feeding but my nipples are on fire. I started pumping and bottle feeding him to give myself relief. I can only nurse him once maybe twice a day. I’ve tried lanolin nipple cream, coconut oil, aloe Vera. Nothing eases the pa... More

  • AA
    Sep 16

    I had thrush and my doctor said most people have external symptoms like nipple itching. I think it’s worth getting checked. Whatever it is, breastfeeding isn’t supposed to hurt so much.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 24

    Turns out he has a lip tie! It’s preventing a proper latch which is causing the trouble/pain. It’s very common but typically not diagnosed unless you’re specifically looking for it. Also look for a tongue tie. Thank you everyone who replied!

FTM Needs advice on making Mommy Friends

Hi everyone! First time mom to my son born in November. I'm also a stay at home mom. I love the fact that I get the chance to stay home and watch my son reach all his milestones, but I feel like I'm slowly going crazy from lack of adult interaction! I've tried some mommy groups on Facebook and while I think I click with some moms, the feeling doesn't seem to be mutual. How do ... More

  • Courtney
    Sep 24

    Yojana. Girl PREACH!! I live in WV and as if the extreme poverty, homelessness, drug addiction / overdoses etc weren’t bad enough. Our state is so ass backwards it’s like dog years but double or more. 1 year hear is like 14+ years somewhere else. Unless you are an addict / in recovery, a foster child or parent, or an incarcerated felon - there are no initiatives or programs or community events... More

My wife isn't producing as much milk as she would like. Ideas for increasing production?

Background - My wife just gave birth a couple days ago. Our 4th child, she is 44, never had an issue with the others. Thanks

  • G
    Aug 19

    I had the same thing and was told it was normal in the beginning. My supply started to come in around 3 weeks but it was still low. I increased it dramatically by taking in more calories, pumping and breastfeeding, sleeping as much as possible and taking a lactation supplement. Many supplements on the market contain fenugreek which actually decreased my supply so I switched to fenugreek free su... More

  • Erica
    Sep 19

    I had similar issue, lots of water and BabaBella's organic lactation cookies helped a lot.

Anonymous posted in Postpartum Recovery Aug 13

Anybody have a home birth?

I am considering a home/water birth this time around as I'm pregnant with my second. Would love to hear other people's experiences.

  • Gretta
    Aug 15

    I did and it was amazing! Although I can't compare it to a hospital birth, as both my births were at home. But home birth midwives are great at letting you control just about every aspect of your birth, and it's a very low-stress way to do it. For our second, he was born at night and our 2 year old slept the whole time so we didn't even need a babysitter

  • Jennie
    Oct 29

    I've had 4 hospital births and 1 home birth. I'd absolutely choose home birth when it's in my power. My last 2 I had to transfer care at the least minute due to breech position and going past 42 weeks (both rule out home birth). But I totally love how comfortable home birth is, midwifery care (including postpartum) and the ease of not having to leave in labor.

Any moms feel stir crazy from the transition to becoming a stay at home mom?

Nobody warns you about how hard the transition from working all the time and having to change over to being home all day not having any adult interaction. A part of me feels bad about this because I love my son and want to be with him all the time yet crave to have that “importance again” Any advice ?

  • Sarah
    Sep 15

    I’m going through the exact same thing. It’s really tricky because this baby time is so short yet somehow so challenging. Even when you start new projects—It’s also so hard because as soon as you take an hour or half hour or let’s be real 10 minutes to work on a project e.g. fix the garden etc, baby cries! Then when you’re on your way over to tend baby,husband doesn’t understand and mentions yo... More

  • Y
    Sep 22

    Seriously, being a FTM is the hardest thing I’ve every had to do. I am incredibly grateful to be with my 3yr old and infant everyday versus a daycare. But I do wonder how other moms survive. I’m lucky to have 5 minutes to myself. And always plan to have some self care time when they go to sleep, but by then I’m exhausted. On top of it all, I’ve been trying to find a part time job to substitute ... More

Someone help me please

My period is 5 days late and all pregnancy tests are all negative, my last period was 24th june and normally 31 days. Ive been feeling sick, bloated, lower back ache and cramps. What else could it be

  • Bethany
    Jul 30

    I took pregnancy tests when I was 7 weeks pregnant and it didn’t read positive. I had missed my period for two months. I had to go to urgent care and get the blood draw test and it came back positive. I found out I was eight weeks along. You may need to wait longer to find out. Give it time

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