For Moms

The journey through motherhood is as diverse as it is long — every mom faces different trials but we are all united in our love for our children.

This is safe space for women to talk about the parts of parenthood that are uniquely female including pregnancy, breastfeeding and postpartum care.

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Thursday

Postpartum period help!

I’m 8 months postpartum and got my period back at 5 months and they have been regular ever since. This month I am now 7 days late and have taken pregnancy tests and all negative. Has anyone experienced just a missed period. I am still exclusively breastfeeding my daughter

  • Lily
    Thursday

    Mine came back about a month after I had my baby. I never missed a period, until I got pregnant at about 7 months postpartum. I never missed a period before being pregnant as well. If you are for sure 7 days late, you are probably not pregnant. You might just be really stressed or something like that. Also, I have been pregnant 2 times all while breastfeeding, so you can get pregnant while brea... More

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Tuesday

SAHM of 3 under 3, introvert, needs a break

I’m a SAHM with 5 month old twins and an almost 3 year old. I’m an introvert and need time alone to rejuvenate. I haven’t had time alone for so long yet I feel so alone in life. I used to have a career I worked really hard for, including 2 graduate degrees, and had an office where I worked on paperwork alone much of the day. I remember I used to feel lonely but now I miss that so much. I don’t ... More

  • T
    Tuesday

    2 under 2. They are 4 and 2.3 years now and I’m also a SAHM. There’s a couple of things you can do that might help. Join a gym that has childcare, so you can workout, shower, sleep in your car. lol Indoor playspaces where the kid/s can play and you can have tons of coffee and something to eat. Kid oriented cafes that have play area with childcare. Hire someone to watch the kids while y... More

  • Anonymous
    Tuesday

    Could you hire a sitter to take the kids somewhere out of the house so you could just blah around the house alone? Or have the sitter stay home and you go to a movie? I used to check my toddler into church kids bible club just so I could sit in a pew and not even listen to the pastor! I just wanted to be alone and zone out lol I’m not even pious... Sending strength and support your way... this ... More

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Monday

Lonely SAHM 😢

So, I’ve been trying to connect with other moms in my area but it is harder than I thought 😥 normally I’m not one for a sappy day or tears but it’s been so hard having my husband states away and being home feeling like all I get to see are our kids and the walls of our home 😥. I am at a breaking point most of the time and I don’t think it’s fair to my babies that mommy wants to lay in bed most... More

  • Bailey
    Tuesday

    Same momma! I’m in Jax though.

  • Jordan
    Tuesday

    Hey girl I’m in Tampa 🙋🏻‍♀️and work in Apollo Beah

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Feb 07

I hate breastfeeding

Planning baby number two and I can’t get over the pressure of breast feeding. My first didn’t have a problem with breast feeding but it just wasn’t for me honestly. The day I gave him formula my mood changed, his mood changed, it felt like such a huge relief. I feel so guilty for not wanting to with my second.... the first question people ask is “are you breastfeeding?” I’d feel like such a fai... More

  • Stephnie
    Feb 10

    Breastfeeding is THE reason I won’t have a second. No shame!

  • Elle
    Wednesday

    Why would you feel guilty? If his disposition suddenly changed for the better once on formula, I'd say you did the very best for him by giving him formula, rather than let him go undernourished in some way. The faster you can let go of other people's opinions, the more you can focus purely on doing what's right for you and your family without distraction and without doubts.

Nearing my due date; what goes on after baby is delivered?

Im 4 weeks away from my due date and just a little curious on what will go on after little one is delivered. will there be a million tests done on baby? I know they will do the heel test, hearing test and carseat test before releasing us but are there more im missing? Will i have to worry about blood/ urine testing while in labor? No one seems to post about what goes on after baby is delivered ... More

  • Kieli
    Feb 09

    So my daughter had her first bowl movement before she entered the world. So after she was born they had to cut the umbilical cord right away and clear her mouth and nose. Since they took her away already they weighed her, got her height and cleaned the rest of her up as well. Then they gave her to me, and told me to start breastfeeding if that’s what I wanted. So I did. And she was born at 9:44... More

  • Raji
    Feb 09

    For my daughter’s birth it was just husband and I... had no family near by. She came out crying and was cleaned up a bit and was put on my chest. We did delayed cord clamping; husband cut it. Then she was cleaned up( we opted for no bath for her as the white stuff on her skin is good for it) and she was measured and given her eye drop and couple of other exams. Then I tried to breastfeed her bu... More

Working Mothers

https://www.forbes.com/sites/kateashford/2015/06/30/working-mother/

  • Jade
    Feb 05

    Wow, Anne! What an amazing Mom! 🙌🏼

  • Anonymous
    Feb 08

    I’m very proud of my single working mom, and always glad she had more to occupy her than my settling down and having babies- most of my friends’ moms seemed to pressure their kids, and I felt it was because they were bored housewives- and I decided to put my career on the side, and take up odd freelance work, because I still felt the deep yearning to simply be with my mother. She was always so ... More

Hi ladies does anyone know or experienced kidney pain after vaginal birth?

What’s the cause? Did it go away fast? Thank you.

  • Jess
    Feb 01

    Definitely if I don’t drink a ton of water, I immediately feel kidney pain. I am also breastfeeding.

  • Elle
    Feb 03

    Dehydration. How much water are you drinking/day?

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Jan 31

Boob size because of breastfeeding?

So son is 17 months and we only breastfeed at night when we sleep and then again when he gets up in the morning. So it’s only about 2 times..... maybe 3 times a day. Anyways he really prefers my right breast. Not my left. My question is that, if I stop the feedings will my boob shrink? Like the size difference is very noticeable in sports bras or if I point it out. My right is like a C cup whi... More

  • Anonymous
    Feb 01

    The answer is yes, when you stop your other will shrink as well. If you really don’t like it, just encourage him to use the other side too. It’s pretty common though.

  • Anonymous
    Feb 01

    Depends on the person. My friend is now a c on one side and a d on the other because of brestfeeding

HELP!!! 😫😫

Mommas! I need to find a good product that will curl my hair. I have very straight hair and when I try to curl it, it won’t stay curled. I have tried hair spray -no luck! I have done over night rolls and they seem to work for two hours and curls fall after that. I have tried the wand and it burned my hair and the curl never stayed. I need help finding a good product! Open for advice on this! T... More

  • Jenn
    Feb 01

    Have you tried lots of hairspray after the curling wand? I have very fine hair that hates to keep a curl. I can get my hair to stay curly by washing, letting air dry (no product), then using a curling wand for about 20 seconds for each section I put in, then turning my head upside down and going crazy with hairspray. I'm not talking a few sprays I mean, like, 30% of the can is gone. I use c... More

I've been on nexplanon since November 2016.. I've literally been bleeding ever since.

It'll stop for a few days, and then start right back up for a month.. Is this normal whatsoever? Has anyone else experienced it this bad? I am terrified it's going to reduce my chance of having more kids.. Which is why I chose this method was to reduce the possibility of other birth controls making it harder for me to have more. Help please 😔

  • Lisa
    Jan 31

    I had the same issue. Got it in August 2016 and removed May 2018. I hated it!!! Periods were completely unpredictable, constantly spotting, always clotting, it was a nightmare! If you choose to, removal is easy and shouldn’t be an issue since you’ve had it so long. I went back to pills and all is peachy.

  • MCowen
    Jan 31

    I have also experienced issues with nexplanon, had it put in August 2018 and have bleeding non stop since then. In October went back to my OBGYN to discuss my issues and she stated this is very normal and continued to tout the benefits...I told her the bleeding has to stop as I had been feeling awful from the continuous bleeding. She recommended we start using the Nuvaring along side Nexplanon ... More

Anonymous posted in Postpartum Recovery Jan 29

Tampons uncomfortable now after giving birth

I had my first child 4 1/2 years ago and I noticed every period afterwards I could only use tampons the first and 2nd days of my period. I just had my 2nd child 7 months ago and now trying to use tampons during my period and I end up pulling it out minutes later. They are so uncomfortable that it hurts! I never used to have problems before I had my children. Has anyone else had that problem?

  • Alexis
    Feb 02

    Yeah I found them uncomfortable after having kids too. I just went back to pads. No big deal.

  • Liz
    Feb 10

    I had this issue too. I was thinking it was because I’m breastfeeding so I’m super dry down there. I was thinking of switching to the diva cup or something more natural

How long did it take for your period to return after delivering?

I gave birth to my son November 4th. I’ve had very light spotting for two days a few weeks ago but nothing since. I could only nurse my son for a month because of milk allergy.

  • Baian
    Jan 28

    I am still currently breastfeeding my 1 year old and my period returned 6 weeks after giving birth. (Lucky me) it really depends on your body, everyone is unique. Breastfeeding unfortunately did not delay my period :( lol

  • Lily
    Jan 28

    Breastfeed mine full time for 6months, and still going at 16 months. I got my period back about 6 weeks after she was born. And have been pregnant two times in the last 16 months. Everyone is different is what I have learned!

Jenny posted in For Moms Jan 26

Experience with Village Obstetrics or MFM Associates in nyc?

I’m 27 weeks pregnant and considering switching from my current obgyn. I’m high risk, and thus would need to switch to a high risk doctor. Does anyone have experience with either Village Obstetrics or MFM associates? Both were recommended to me but I don’t know much about either practice. This would also force me to switch from NY Presbyterian / Weill Cornell to Mt Sinai, so any experience with... More

  • Cynthia
    Jan 26

    Hi, I went to Mt Sinai West High Risk clinic in the city on 1000 10th Avenue. The doctors were extremely informative and knowledgeable. Other than that - nothing else that positive. The wait for the appointments are ridiculous. They only have high risk on Fridays. And when I delivered my daughter, I hated the fact I had to share a room with someone during my stay. I advise not to switch to Mt. ... More

  • Jenny
    Jan 27

    Thanks, Cynthia! It would be Mt Sinai East though, not West. I think their reputation is different/better (but don’t know much yet!)

Drying Up Breastmilk Concerns

I've started the process of drying up my milk. I was already nursing my 9 month old on a 4 hour feeding schedule (he sleeps through the night, so it was basically 4 feedings a day). Last week I nursed him morning and bedtime, gave him bottles for the middle two, and only pumped once during. Then for about three days I dropped the midday pump, and then dropped the morning feeding. I offical... More

  • Anonymous
    Jan 26

    My doctor told me to take Sudafed to dry up! It helped dry me up. In addition, I iced them when they were sore. If you are worried I’d say just try hand expressing a small amount in the shower. Obviously you wanna avoid mastitis, even if you delay a complete dry up for a few days to prevent it. For me, I never touched mine, I completely let them be and I was fine. But of course all boobs are d... More

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Jan 25

Uricalm Max while breastfeeding

Hey breastfeeding moms! Anyone know if you can take Uricalm Max while breastfeeding? It says to "ask a healthcare professional" on the back but I don't have a doc I can ask😅 would like to get rid of this UTI pronto🙏

  • Anonymous
    Jan 26

    I think that’s just a pain relief... I would personally get an antibiotic. UTIs are the fricken worst and you don’t want it to get any worse than it already is.

  • Anonymous
    Jan 26

    You can go to an urgent care if you don’t have a primary I think

Breastfeeding

I’m wondering, i breast fed my youngest for 2 weeks and then my supply disappeared, now i want to start breastfeeding again, he latched perfectly fine, just isn’t getting any milk, how do i boost my milk up?!

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Jan 24

Depo side effects

Is anyone on the Depo shot or have been? My son was just born in June and I wanted a bc that I didn’t have to worry about taking everyday and I didn’t want anything implanted in me so I gave the depo a try. My doc said that I should do pretty well with the depo (because I was always on the mini pill beforehand and I never had a problem with it) because the depo and mini pill have same hormones.... More

  • Clare
    Jan 31

    i hated it. i was so moody, irritable, rage filled, and i had zero libido.

  • Cryzana
    Feb 11

    I usually waited about a year after having my baby before going back to DepoShot. However, I had similar symptoms with my 3rd baby when I started Depo earlier. I think if was because my hormones took longer to adjust because I was breastfeeding.

Did you breastfeed beyond 1st birthday?

Hi, I know a lot of moms stop BF after first birthday. But me and my baby are not ready to give that up. Was wondering if there are moms out there who continue to BF beyond 1st bday. Was/is your baby eating a lot of solid food? Because my is not a big eater she still mostly relies on boobie.

  • jing
    Jan 31

    Mine is 19 months old and still ongoing. I'm planning to quit when she turns two. I would say breastfeeding is not a essential factor in terms of good eater. My little one didn't eat "a lot" when she was around one year old. Reflecting back, I guess it was mostly because of her teething pain instead of drinking too much milk. Now she shows great interest in food especially adu... More

  • Brianna
    Monday

    Just celebrated little man’s 3rd birthday and am breastfeeding as I type this. We are mostly down to nursing before and after sleep, and I am so very ready to be finished but he is not. I’ve been trying to stick to the “Don’t offer, don’t refuse,” method, but he’s showing no signs of stopping. Hang in there mama, you can do it👊🏽

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Jan 23

Question for tired breastfeeding moms. How do you stay awake after putting your baby to sleep?

Ladies please advice. I am a full time medical student and I still breastfeed my 10month old. When I put her down I need to start studying but I am so tired I fall asleep shortly after. Any tips for staying awake? I can’t drink too much coffee, because my baby still bf during night and I don’t want to keep her up.... how do you stay awake after putting your baby to sleep? 😭

  • Be
    Jan 24

    My heart just goes out to you. Being a mom and a student plus breastfeeding...you go girl!

  • Jo
    Jan 28

    It will be easier believe it or not to find a way to study while baby is awake and nap while baby naps. Otherwise the exhaustion will catch up and you won't get productive studying in. Also if you are not completely against using bottles you can have someone else feed your baby for 1 or 2 feeds while you go study or nap to increase your available time. My son was born in medical school so i... More

Tabitha posted in Clothes Jan 23

Maternity Pictures

When did everybody do there maternity pictures? What are some of the outfits you planned for in this winter weather? Where should I go shop for an outfit?

  • Monda
    Jan 23

    I did mine at 38 weeks!! My pictures was indoor I didn’t do anything fancy and I just wore a nice white dress I had. My husband and I Matched and it was really simple. To us it was more of just getting pictures for the memories rather then anything else

  • Victoria
    Jan 23

    I did mine at 35 weeks. I wanted to wait till the end so it showed the full belly experience but not too close to the end just in case you don’t make it ! I had my girl at 37 weeks so I’m glad I did it then.

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