For Moms

The journey through motherhood is as diverse as it is long — every mom faces different trials but we are all united in our love for our children.

This is safe space for women to talk about the parts of parenthood that are uniquely female including pregnancy, breastfeeding and postpartum care.

Anonymous posted in For Moms Oct 15

You are amazing

dear moms out there. Just want you to know that you are AMAZING! Wow, we are superwomen for all that we do.

Lil Ma posted in Education Oct 05

Any stay at home moms returning to college online

I am a stay at home mom of four toddler boys (7,6,3,2) and I want to return to college as an online student for my early childhood education degree. Any advice? Thanks in advance

  • Sofi
    Oct 06

    When does your smallest turn 3? I found it very hard to return when my son was 2. I have 3 kids a boy that just turned 4 a boy that will turn 3 next month and a 1 year old daughter. I don't have alot of help from my husband I'm sure if I had more support I would have been able to but he works very long hours and is much older than me so I am waiting for.my daughter to turn 3 so she can ... More

  • Lil Ma
    Oct 07

    Thanks sofa for replying to my question. I appreciate it. And to answer your question my 2yr old turns 3 in February

Anonymous posted in For Dads Oct 03

Dad doesn’t understand how toddlers work

Husband does a lot around the house (minus kitchen), and I do most of the parenting and anything related to the kitchen. During an argument I realized he doesn’t understand how a 15mo old thinks. He says she only wants what she wants and he thinks it’s wrong/he can’t always Give her what she wants. She should want what dad wants. So, She is whining for me but I’m cleaning tub because we had s... More

  • Morgan
    Oct 04

    I second sarah

  • Anonymous
    Oct 04

    You all are amazing!!!!! Thank you!!! And you’re all so right. Men just know we will take care of it but that’s not how co-parenting works. It’s a struggle-bus over here, and don’t know when I get off this bus but I’m working toward it! ❤️❤️❤️

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Oct 02

Honestly, I’ve been feeling like crap

Is it possible to have postpartum depression over a year later? I just got a new job that is physically demanding and I haven't been sleeping well and thought maybe that was it but now I'm crying all of the time and just feel like a piece of crap and a terrible mother and wife. Sometimes I regret having my child and just look at her in annoyance and then I regret thinking that. I don... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 10

    I thought I was just in a "funk" and tried from full time job. I finally went to my PCP and he diagnosed me with PPD when my daughter was 8 months old. I just kept thinking it would pass, and it didn't. I also have anxiety, even before a kid! So it really took a toll. I was put on Zoloft (helped so much!, only 25mg, and I'm now off of it. My daughter just turned 2. It h... More

  • Marie
    Oct 10

    Postpartum is anytime after having a child. Even if its years after, your body is still trying to recover from having a baby, physically and hormonally just to name a few. There is absolutely no shame in speaking up and standing up for yourself, your peace of mind and your mental health. I would definitely talk to your pcp dr or obgyn just so that someone in the medical field is aware of how yo... More

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Anonymous posted in Mental Health Sep 18

I desperately need a hobby!

I need something positive to do with my spare time. What are your hobbies? I need to find something where I can have time to myself and unwind doing something I enjoy. I feel like I lose my temper because me and my 2 yr old son spend 24/7 together. And his dad is always on his computer after work so I honestly feel like I’m in a shared relationship with his computer games. I told him I’m findin... More

  • Aaron
    Sep 26

    I am a stay at home dad of a two-year-old boy and eight-month-old girl, sometimes when the opportunity doesn’t present itself I try to make sure I engage in my personal development while I’m taking care of my kids I even like listening to an audiobook on the TV while I play with them so I have something progressive going on in the background, naptime rolls around as tired as I might be I try to... More

  • Vonda
    Sep 29

    I am a stay at home mom and I started hand sewing and embroidery. It’s something my son has noticed and has started mimicking. So I bought him an embroidery board (my son is also two) and we sometimes embroider together. I like it because I can do it myself and if I am needed suddenly I can just set down and pick back up easily. I hope this helps. I’ve also thought about getting back into fenc... More

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Sep 17

Pros and cons of birth control shot

I really don’t know where else to post this (I looked at forum options and didn’t see anything related to this, so it’s out in the open, sorry, haha). Do any of you mamas use Depo Provera for birth control? I used it for 3 months right after I gave birth (over a year ago), and I had a rough time using it. I thought maybe it was because my hormones were still out of whack and my body was still... More

  • Anonymous
    Sep 20

    My best friend has the shot and experienced weight gain too. I have the Mirena IUD and honestly dont care for it. My last period lasted 17 days. Its constant, heavy bleeding. It also depends on what side effects your okay with.

  • Melissa
    Thursday

    I used it many many years ago so it may have changed. I gained like 25-35 pounds. I had my regular cycle and light spotting every other day in between. I didn’t get pregnant on it and only had to take it every 3 months but i much rather take something different.

Two periods after weaning

Expected my third period since ending breastfeeding. I’m a few days late. At what point should I expect my periods to normalize? I had been very regular prior to having my son 6 months ago. I’m wondering if I should be expecting weirdness with my period, or if I should be buying a pregnancy test?

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Sep 10

Thrush?!?

I’m a first time mom, my baby just turned 2 months and I’ve had trouble BF from the start. He gets a good latch because I can hear him gulping and my breasts feel empty after feeding but my nipples are on fire. I started pumping and bottle feeding him to give myself relief. I can only nurse him once maybe twice a day. I’ve tried lanolin nipple cream, coconut oil, aloe Vera. Nothing eases the pa... More

  • AA
    Sep 16

    I had thrush and my doctor said most people have external symptoms like nipple itching. I think it’s worth getting checked. Whatever it is, breastfeeding isn’t supposed to hurt so much.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 24

    Turns out he has a lip tie! It’s preventing a proper latch which is causing the trouble/pain. It’s very common but typically not diagnosed unless you’re specifically looking for it. Also look for a tongue tie. Thank you everyone who replied!

FTM Needs advice on making Mommy Friends

Hi everyone! First time mom to my son born in November. I'm also a stay at home mom. I love the fact that I get the chance to stay home and watch my son reach all his milestones, but I feel like I'm slowly going crazy from lack of adult interaction! I've tried some mommy groups on Facebook and while I think I click with some moms, the feeling doesn't seem to be mutual. How do ... More

  • Courtney
    Sep 24

    Yojana. Girl PREACH!! I live in WV and as if the extreme poverty, homelessness, drug addiction / overdoses etc weren’t bad enough. Our state is so ass backwards it’s like dog years but double or more. 1 year hear is like 14+ years somewhere else. Unless you are an addict / in recovery, a foster child or parent, or an incarcerated felon - there are no initiatives or programs or community events... More

My wife isn't producing as much milk as she would like. Ideas for increasing production?

Background - My wife just gave birth a couple days ago. Our 4th child, she is 44, never had an issue with the others. Thanks

  • G
    Aug 19

    I had the same thing and was told it was normal in the beginning. My supply started to come in around 3 weeks but it was still low. I increased it dramatically by taking in more calories, pumping and breastfeeding, sleeping as much as possible and taking a lactation supplement. Many supplements on the market contain fenugreek which actually decreased my supply so I switched to fenugreek free su... More

  • Erica
    Sep 19

    I had similar issue, lots of water and BabaBella's organic lactation cookies helped a lot.

Anonymous posted in Postpartum Recovery Aug 13

Anybody have a home birth?

I am considering a home/water birth this time around as I'm pregnant with my second. Would love to hear other people's experiences.

  • Gretta
    Aug 15

    I did and it was amazing! Although I can't compare it to a hospital birth, as both my births were at home. But home birth midwives are great at letting you control just about every aspect of your birth, and it's a very low-stress way to do it. For our second, he was born at night and our 2 year old slept the whole time so we didn't even need a babysitter

Any moms feel stir crazy from the transition to becoming a stay at home mom?

Nobody warns you about how hard the transition from working all the time and having to change over to being home all day not having any adult interaction. A part of me feels bad about this because I love my son and want to be with him all the time yet crave to have that “importance again” Any advice ?

  • Sarah
    Sep 15

    I’m going through the exact same thing. It’s really tricky because this baby time is so short yet somehow so challenging. Even when you start new projects—It’s also so hard because as soon as you take an hour or half hour or let’s be real 10 minutes to work on a project e.g. fix the garden etc, baby cries! Then when you’re on your way over to tend baby,husband doesn’t understand and mentions yo... More

  • Y
    Sep 22

    Seriously, being a FTM is the hardest thing I’ve every had to do. I am incredibly grateful to be with my 3yr old and infant everyday versus a daycare. But I do wonder how other moms survive. I’m lucky to have 5 minutes to myself. And always plan to have some self care time when they go to sleep, but by then I’m exhausted. On top of it all, I’ve been trying to find a part time job to substitute ... More

Someone help me please

My period is 5 days late and all pregnancy tests are all negative, my last period was 24th june and normally 31 days. Ive been feeling sick, bloated, lower back ache and cramps. What else could it be

  • Anonymous
    Jul 30

    Stress. And then the more you stress about it being late, the more your period is going to be irregular.

  • Bethany
    Jul 30

    I took pregnancy tests when I was 7 weeks pregnant and it didn’t read positive. I had missed my period for two months. I had to go to urgent care and get the blood draw test and it came back positive. I found out I was eight weeks along. You may need to wait longer to find out. Give it time

Anonymous posted in Parent's Health Jul 22

Were you prescribed oxycodone?

I was prescribed oxycodone after my C-section. How did it make you feel?

  • Sherrie
    Sep 26

    They gave me oxycodone after my C-section with ibuprofen, but the nurse told me try not to take it if I can manage the pain, but I had to take it at the end for the first few days. I didn’t experience any side effect.

Anonymous posted in Parenting Culture Jul 17

BabyCenter forum users

Does anyone find BC forums to have cyber bullies? I mean yes, some people ask dumb questions, but sometimes it’s in times of desperation or emotion, and sometimes it’s a troll asking to be attacked... but there are some users in my birth group that are complete assholes and are relentless and pick you apart and then that person is like, wait do I need to literally type everything out in order f... More

  • Ivy
    Aug 02

    I think, a lot of opinionated or aggressive personalities tend to comment. They’re usually the ones who have something to say when more level-headed people don’t. They don’t think “if you have nothing nice (or constructive) to say, don’t say it at all”. A lot of these negative/ unnecessary comments defend themselves saying “it’s my opinion, I can say whatever I want”, but really... does that me... More

Chelsa posted in Education Jul 11

Courses and continued learning

What are some classes you have or would like to take that you feel would be useful as a stay-at-home parent? Ex: CPR

  • PK
    Jul 12

    I took a child development class, one where we were allowed to bring our kids with us to class so that they could play and socialize while parents/students discussed the topics. Part of the class requirements was to develop an activity and craft that was age appropriate.

  • Natasha
    Jul 15

    Child development classes, cpr, cooking, organization, home maintenance... anything that will benefit you and what occupies your day,

Anonymous posted in Postpartum Recovery Jul 11

What are some things to know about postpartum

My friend is having a baby and I was wondering what are some things everyone wished they would have known about after giving birth? I have already shared with her my experience just kind of curious what others thought on the subject as well.

  • Caroline
    Aug 08

    Coming in late here, but echoing the thing about formula! A fed, healthy baby is the goal. Give yourself and your body time and take care of you so you can then care for your baby. Tell people what you want and need; we have amazing friends who organized a food train—incredible!—but they all brought insanely carby comfort foods that lacked protein and fiber. By the end of week 3, I thought I wa... More

Anonymous posted in Stay-at-Home Dads Jul 10

“Do you still LIKE being AT HOME?”

I always get asked this question and wonder how others handle it. It completely annoys me because what I want to say back is “Do you still like going to work?” I know that staying at home (which I hate that term because we are always out) is not for everyone but I feel like people say it to me since they don’t always know what to say.

  • Anonymous
    Jul 11

    If it’s genuine for me to ask them if they like working but don’t you miss being with your children, then sure?

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