For Moms

The journey through motherhood is as diverse as it is long — every mom faces different trials but we are all united in our love for our children.

This is safe space for women to talk about the parts of parenthood that are uniquely female including pregnancy, breastfeeding and postpartum care.

Weaning LO off the boob. Help :(

Has anyone had a tough time with this?? I feel like I am ready to stop, but every time my son “asks” for it, I can’t bare to see him sad and I cave. I know it’s his biggest comfort and I feel really depressed every time I think about stopping.

  • Naomi
    Yesterday

    I had this same challenge but we did it gradually. We decreased feedings slowly then moved to just before naps and bed time then just bed time then none at all. It was tough to say no but I think the gradual transition helped. Another thing that really helped it I started mixing in whole milk in with breast milk in his sippy cup then slowly altered the percentage until it was just whole milk. H... More

New SAHM

I have recently decided to mostly stop working after Christmas and I am super nervous about it! I have been working almost 50 hours a week but I have realized that most of my money is going to childcare and fast food because I never have time to cook. What are routines that y’all stick to? How do you keep busy throughout the day? My daughter will be 3 next week. My son is in school during the day.

  • Kate
    Yesterday

    Christa, I think you’re my hero! Nice work with it all - I still have a ways to go. My reading for pleasure has plummeted, every button I sew seems to fall out, and I still love a good bowl of cereal for dinner. 🙂 I was in a similar situation as you ladies - worked long hours for a demanding career I wasn’t sure I wanted to put on hold. Took me a while to come around to the idea of staying at ... More

  • Christa
    Yesterday

    @Katlin, I seriously appreciate it, but we are all hero’s in our own way. Women are amazing creatures and can do a lot once we put our minds to it. My schedule revolves the way it does from marrying a military man- Coast Guard, and we have a 10 month old son (whose super independent - which I’ve taught him because we live that life style of military) So maybe my schedule isn’t the best to fo... More

When do you get your period back if you're still breastfeeding at 7 months?

  • Anonymous
    Yesterday

    I got mine at 8 months with both babies. It then took about 6 cycles for it to get back to typical.

  • Naomi
    Yesterday

    Mine came back while I was still breastfeeding and was on birth control. But it hasn’t been a full cycle yet, it’s been much shorter. I stopped nursing about 4 months ago... I would talk to your doctor if your unsure or concerned , it’s different for everyone.

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Sunday

Bittersweet moments

Any other mamas feel kind of sad when their EBF baby starts eating more solids? ☹️ I miss being his only food source.

  • Aubrey
    Sunday

    I felt that way for a little but then realized it was kind of nice getting that break. Now my son is almost 2 and I’m still breastfeeding! I was really hoping he would’ve self weaned already but he still wants to nurse before nap time & bed time and when he wakes in the night!

  • Kieli
    Sunday

    I love food, so I was so excited to start introducing food to my daughter so she could experience a whole new world 😂 I feel weird because I didn’t feel sad at all

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Sunday

Can I go back to breastfeeding after 3 months of weaning?

I thought I was sure that I wanted to wean my son at 12 months, and from 8 months, I weaned him off night feeds- giving him water instead- and reduced nursing to twice in 24 hours. I barely feel any let down, if at all in one breast, and my breasts have considerably reduced in size etc. Now I’m on the way out, I really wish I was could continue. Could I try again? I still nurse him twice a ... More

  • Anonymous
    Monday

    Yes! Aje said it perfectly. If you are still producing at all then I think you will be able to pick back up. It’s all about demand. If your baby is at the boob more and demanding more than I think that will really helps production

  • Anonymous
    Monday

    Thank you very much for your responses. My baby is just over 12 months, so I ‘met my goal’ and as he never took the bottle, he just has (goat) milk with in his cereal, with his dinner or cheese, yoghurt etc. So I’m not thinking so much of the nutritional need as emotional. I underestimated how much it meant to us both, and feel terrible when he wants to nurse and I’ve so little- not enough to s... More

Increased hunger on Depo

Ever since my second dose of the Depo shot, I have been hungry pretty much all the time. I try to not eat right away when I'm hungry if I have just eaten a meal, but sometimes I can't help it and feel like I need to eat something. Even after I've had a big meal, I seem to be hungry within about an hour after eating. Anyone else experience this?? This is my second time being on the s... More

  • Corra
    Sunday

    I had the same hunger issues when I was on it. I gained 50-60 pounds on it after my son. I was always hungry, struggling with my weight and hormones were all messed up. So I got off it after a yr of being on it. I’ve been on a different BC for 2yrs and I have finally lost all the steroid weight. And I’m in love with the BC I’m on.

  • Amelia
    1h ago

    I’m on the pill and experiencing the same symptoms. If I wasn’t so terrified of getting pregnant again, I wouldn’t be taking any BC at all. It really has done a number on my body.

Anonymous posted in Parent's Health Friday

Vaginal Discharge

Ever since I had my son my vagina is very off. Periods are off, the whole nine yards. One thing I have very large insecurities about is my discharge. If I smell the slightest bit of it I go change everything. I know the vagina is a natural cleaner but like I cannot deal with any smell. It’s different every day. I douche but nothing seems to help. I need advice 😩

Becca posted in Fitness Thursday

Does any one else have a lot of excess skin?

So I’m 7 months post and still have a lot of excess skin like to the point it looks like I could have just had her. I work out eat right and do ab tightening exercises but nothing works. My abs still feel separated and even though I’m losing fat the skin is refusing to go back to normal. Any one else have this issue and if so did you get a tummy tuck? I also have chronic back pain and have read... More

  • Becca
    Sunday

    The drs said I have to wait a year before they will consider it. They didn’t even check anything and the dr kept down playing saying “it’s not that bad just give it time have you tried lotion or maybe change ur diet and a wrap” if I change my diet any more the only things going in my body are coffee and water. I work out to the best of my ability since I work full time and mom full time. I’m ge... More

  • Elle
    Sunday

    Recommend second opinion with a dr in a different practice. Your weight should be stable for 6 mo - a year, but it sounds like this dr may have been dismissive of your concerns.

Anonymous posted in Labor & Delivery Thursday

Epidural

Has anyone experienced back pain after getting an epidural? I've heard this is a possible side effect but not sure if it's true.

  • Sammie
    Saturday

    I have had chronic back pain a good majority of my life. It started at about age 10/11. I got into a car accident 3 days before my senior year and that made it worse. And recently it has just been getting worse. Probably from constantly lifting my baby and other children at the daycare. I am now 20, so for about 10 years I have had back pains. Every time I see a doctor about it, all they do is ... More

  • Bhavana
    Monday

    Yes I had pain after I had the epidural. My doc recommended I go see chiropractor. Once he aligned my back I have no more pain

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Dec 04

Breastfeeding question

Apologies in advance if this is inappropriate. I’m due to have my first baby soon and would like to breastfeed, however I have very small breasts (barely an A Cup pre-pregnancy and now actually fit it) I’m worried my baby won’t be able to latch or we may have other difficulties. I was just wondering if anyone had the same experience or any advice on how to make breastfeeding achievable?

  • Amanda
    Dec 05

    Your breast are going to get larger. Mine did.

  • Elena
    Wednesday

    Breast size has nothing to do with latching I was an Acup with wiggle room I'm now a C cup. As long as your baby has no longe tie or any other issues it will latch the nurse with help you with that. My son had a sevier tong tie and lip so we had surgery 2 weeks after birth he was perfect but my milk stopped because I wasn't breast feeding straight away

C-section scar still tender and weird feeling?

It’s been 8 months and my scar and tummy still feels numb yet tender? I don’t like touching my scar because it just feels uncomfortable. I don’t know how to explain it. Anyone experience this?

  • Devon
    Thursday

    thank yall ladies! ok i guess i should’ve worded it differently, i wouldn’t say tender but i would say i can feel the area and not feel it at the same time. that’s why it’s uncomfortable lol. i see that i’m not alone though!

  • Ashley
    Thursday

    My first c section was 7 years ago and before i got pregnant with my 8 month old, my scar is still numb 7 years later! Its just a normal thing. Every women's body is different and every pregnancy is different. It is completely normal to be tender and numb for a very long time. But if anything else is going on i would definitely see your doctor!

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Dec 03

Want to breastfeed

My baby is about 4 and a half months and initially, I tried to breastfeed, but I just couldn't lactate. I even tried pumping and it seemed like I pumped for nothing. I feel I lost a bond with my baby because I didn't breastfeed and I was even shamed for it! I really want to know if anyone has tried to relactate and what worked. My baby has a cows milk allergy that is found in normal fo... More

  • Anonymous
    Dec 05

    Valerie- Thank you! I have seen 3 different lactation specialist so all the pump supplies are correctly sized. I will continue the skin to skin. I stopped pumping because I just wasnt getting anything more than a drop. But I want to start trying again maybe I could relactate

  • Brea
    Dec 05

    First of all. Don’t feel bad if you can’t breastfeed. My doctor said to me that his son is adopted and had been formula fed. He doesn’t have any bonding issue or development issue at all. I didn’t start lactating until 3 months. I just couldn’t bare the pain. And I didn’t know how to properly pump. Eventually after many trials, the milk started to come out. Little by little.

Breastmilk oversupply

So for the first couple months I pumped frequently and have a huge oversupply in my freezer. I stopped pumping and just directly feed and my baby is almost 4 months. What can I do with all this milk? I would cry if I had to toss it, but other than milk baths idk what to do.

  • Priscilla
    Dec 04

    I also had a crazy stash of frozen breast milk, and unfortunately my son started rejecting everything over a month old. I ended up donating to Mothers’ Milk Bank that provides breastmilk to babies in the NICU. It sucked not being able to feed my own baby with it but was comforting to know it was helping other little ones thrive. It was a bit of a tedious process, not gonna lie. Lots of paperwor... More

  • Christina
    Dec 04

    Thanks everyone I decided to donate, I found a family through a Facebook group that just adopted a two week old boy

Jobs for stay at home moms

Anyone know of any? I'm trying to get a job at daycares so my son has a place to go to, or an online job...

  • Dulce
    Dec 04

    I started working at a church nursery when my son was 9 months. He’s 4 now and still working there until he goes to school next year, I’m able to bring him with me every day I work there

  • Marina
    Dec 05

    Look at the momsproject website

How do I take care of my babies when I can’t take care of myself?

I had an awful day and night. Had 3 breakdowns where I just hysterically cried. I have a two year old, a one year old, and am 9 months pregnant and I was with the kids all day while my husband worked. It was fine for the most part except my one year old gets into EVERYTHING that it’s just too much to baby proof. And it blows my mind I can’t get a single thing done such as washing dishes for 10m... More

  • Coley
    Dec 02

    A big part of what you are feeling, especially with the breakdowns, is due to hormones- talk to your OB. Remember, this too shall pass! Being a mom is super hard, and it sounds like you're both doing the best you can with your family. I don't know if you're on base or not but there are mom groups available and lots of other kinds of help available. You might be able to find a teenag... More

  • Rachael
    Dec 02

    Could you get any of the moms you know who have older kids, to come over with the lure of free coffee? Like “hey I’m having a rough time, could you come over for coffee sometime while your kids play with mine? I’d so appreciate it!” Idk it’s easier said than done but I wish I were closer and could just give you some relief! 💗

Meeting mommy friends?

I've always been someone with a plenty of friends & people to hang out with & as soon as I became pregnant all my friends disappeared. I always knew moms who talked about losing friends when they became a mom but I didn't realize I was gonna have to meet all new friends. & Meeting mommy friends is a lot harder than I thought. Did any other mommys struggle with making new m... More

  • Danielle
    Dec 02

    Yeah I want to join something like that as well

  • Misty
    Dec 04

    I’m struggling too! I’m new to area and everyone I know is 5.5t hours away! It’s tough!

Kiarra posted in Money Nov 29

At home jobs!

I’m a stay at home mom and I miss working so I was wondering if anyone knew of any stay at home jobs hiring?! Please and thank you in advance

  • Kiarra
    Nov 30

    But thank you alllll for you suggestions I’ve been looking in to all of them!!

  • Shelby
    Nov 30

    You could be a homebased travel agent and make 80% of your sales

I have stopped the breastfeeding my breast are in pain any advice other than pumping that will help

  • M
    Dec 02

    I would not wear tight-fitting clothing as that could lead to clogged ducts and mastitis. Definitely avoid hot water hitting your breasts directly. I’m not here yet so I’m not speaking from experience for how to dry up but this general advice for how to avoid pain and illness that I think is pretty valuable for you.

  • AlfreyLinet
    Dec 02

    Thank you all for the advices Right now I am at 5 days 4 nights without any breastfeeding so I feel save to say its over It helped a lot the cold gel to relieve the pain also I have only got out the milk once a day the first 3 day it felt a little painful but now I am almost dry and its been less than a week Haven’t drink any pain reliever and everything is good Good luck to you all trying t... More

Anonymous posted in Money Nov 28

Stay at home jobs for introverts.

Hi All! Can anyone reccomend some stay at home jobs that doesn't involve sales or customer service? Thanks in advance.

  • Leah
    Nov 28

    Medical Coding. You need to go to school for it though.

  • Veronica
    Nov 29

    Fill out survey. Not sure about how effective or pay it is.

Kristina posted in Pumping Nov 27

3 month old

My 3 month old son usually sleeps from 9-10pm to 5-6am. Should I pump at night to maintain my milk supply? I used to set an alarm and wake up at 2am to pump, but I noticed that alarm and me moving around wakes the baby up. What other moms do in that kind of situation?

  • Yopolos
    Nov 27

    I would try dream feeding, but based on my experience they often only sleep through the night for a few days and then wake up to nurse again. I always worried about pumping but never did ( was too tired and lazy) and I always seemed to have milk when they needed it.

  • Brandi
    Nov 27

    No don't get up to pump, your milk will adjust to the needs of your baby.

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