For Moms

The journey through motherhood is as diverse as it is long — every mom faces different trials but we are all united in our love for our children.

This is safe space for women to talk about the parts of parenthood that are uniquely female including pregnancy, breastfeeding and postpartum care.

Anonymous posted in Stay-at-Home Moms Tuesday

Transitioning from the office to SAHM

Hello! I’m looking for your experiences regarding the transition from working in the office to being a SAHM, from the beginning: notice to the boss and how that was handled, first few months at home and getting settled, issues with the family and any others that came up at home or internally with yourself, etc. I’m excited for this change, but anxious about pulling the trigger. Any advice is al... More

  • Anonymous
    Yesterday

    I gave my boss 2 months notice. Requested a one on one meeting and gave them a formal letter. Sat down and talked about what they needed me to do to make the transition of my departure as easy as possible on them. The first few months for me was hard... I don’t know how old your LO is but it took me a while to get into the groove of things. And I felt that as soon as I got used to a routine, ... More

  • Cathy
    Yesterday

    I told my boss about a month after I had returned back to work. I didn’t think being a working mom was going to be so hard! She came back to me with the suggestion of working part time. Unfortunately, while I did part time, it didn’t work for my son’s schedule and I was STILL doing the job of a full time person in part time hours. It was hard. I went part time for 4 months and then had just had... More

Anonymous posted in Postpartum Recovery May 24

Body image issues after having my baby

I feel so embarrassed for even posting this (that’s why it’s anonymous) but do any of you mamas feel like fat ugly blobs after having their baby? I look in the mirror and practically cry at how I look. I lost all of my baby weight (and more) but I’m not as toned out and smooth looking as I used to be. Are there any easy work outs y’all recommend for toning out the fat? Any remedies to make stre... More

  • Vonda
    May 30

    I completely understand. I got back to pre-baby weight but my stomach has not toned up yet. Muscles we stretched a lot during pregnancy. (And don’t get me started on the boobs. Lol) Son is 20months. But I am now starting to work out. Finally feel ready. I recommend ‘fitness blender’ they have free videos on YouTube and a website if you want to pay. I was doing some of their workouts pre-pregnan... More

  • Maddie
    Jun 05

    Something that helped me was rethinking what clothes look good on my new body NOW (not hanging on to those tight low rise jeans and crop tops as “motivation” to one day fit back into them). This is hard, because we spend decades learning our own style and what flatters our figure. But investing the time and energy into figuring this out for my new body has helped a lot. Sometimes the size 8 loo... More

Anonymous posted in For Moms May 24

TMI, itchy anal area

So my anal area has been itchy for a while. I’ve had hemmoroids in the past but nothing right now. Anyways, it itches when it’s moist/after bowel movement/it’s dry dry. I say dry dry because sometimes the skin itches and then I itch it and then it creates dry skin/scabs... then I pick off the scabs. And then if I wear the right combination of underwear (never thongs) and high waisted jeans, ... More

  • Anonymous
    May 25

    Vaseline? I know it’s uncomfortable when moist but seems like there’s no middle ground and you’ll have to deal with some more discomfort so it can get better.

  • Anonymous
    May 25

    I haven’t dealt with this personally, but I’d reach out to my doctor and ask.

Start/Stop cycle

I am still BF and I started my period again. For the past few months I have had a period every other week. But now it’s been 2.5 months since having one. Has anyone else experienced this? I’m really worried about it!

  • Raji
    May 20

    Talk to your doc to put ur mind at ease. I still breastfeed and my period has lessened to 3 days from 6 days. When I first started getting my period it came one month and skipped two months. so it might change again. See your doc.

Anonymous posted in Mental Health May 17

Postpartum.

Have any of you mamas experienced PPD? Or any form of it? I was recently diagnosed with postpartum anxiety and depression and my doctors are planning on doing more tests for postpartum OCD as well. I’m not sure what to do or how to feel. I know it doesn’t make me a bad mother but i can’t help but feel lost and ashamed. Every little thing gets to me, a small mess on the counter, shoes not in the... More

  • Diana
    May 24

    Hi! Yes I am on the same boat with you! Everything literally bothered me. I got on medication and instead of one on one therapy I did group therapy with other moms. It worked better for myself. Honestly for me I just go out. I plan little trips everyday so that I can honestly distract myself. If I stayed home I cried and just felt really angry and my baby bothered me but now that I am doing t... More

  • Sara
    May 28

    I’m with you in the PPD boat. I was diagnosed around six months, and am now at eight months and things are starting to look up a bit. It’s totally brutal, right? I’m sending you so much love. Try to be patient and hang tight with your treatment - as I’m sure you know, it takes a really frustratingly long time for medication to start working enough for you to feel a difference. What really helpe... More

Side sleeper after cesarian

Looking for recommendations on the best bed side bassinet that has drop down sides or is a co sleeper. Not wanting it in our bed but rather right beside our bed that would make it easy to access the baby for feedings without having to move or sit up anymore than necessary to lift the baby over the edge as you would from a traditional bassinet

  • B
    May 13

    I liked the arms reach cosleeper bassinet

  • K
    May 13

    I had the Arms Reach for my twin girls, it was great. But, going to be honest, the first few days are pretty rough no matter what. Best thing you could do is wear a belly belt. Make sure you ask the hospital, they may give you one that works well for the first week or so. I also had a belly bandit, it really helped me feel put back together.

Hello... anyone else get palpitations after delivery .... i have 5 months baby girl...

  • Rachel
    May 21

    Yes I do, I read it could be related to nursing , I don’t know if you are nursing but with me I think it may be related

  • Anonymous
    May 21

    With anything regarding the chest cavity/heart to include palpitations, I would take that seriously and consult a medical professional immediately.

Anonymous posted in Holidays May 12

Mother’s Day is hard

To all my fellow moms out there struggling with postpartum depression and realizing that Mother's Day, and motherhood, isn't living up to what they were hoping and is really, really hard. Try to take some time today for yourself and do something you enjoy, even if it is without your kids for a bit. Much love.

Vicki posted in Holidays May 12

Happy Mother’s Day!

To all the moms out there, you are loved and you are doing a great job! 💐

  • PK
    May 12

    Happy Mother’s Day to you too!! ❤️❤️

I love how my mil

Says if she were a Sahm she would spend more time with my son whom is 3 with Autism etc and take him everywhere. Like whatever. Now I’m gone to NC waiting on my husband to come here next month (he has the other two kids) she ain’t doing nothing with him! Like what was that stupid? What was that? You’re gonna do what now? I’m sorry I know I’m not a perfect mom and what not but she doesn’t see ... More

Anonymous posted in Activities & Enrichment May 06

Recently became stahm looking for stuff to do with my son during the day

I recently became a stay at home mom and I feel like I’m failing I don’t know what to do with my 3yr old during the day. I know he needs to be doing hands on things and playing and not just on his tablet several times a day (only hr and half at a time). I feel like all we do is play on our electronics and then go out to the yard for a bit then he’s asking to come back in cause he’s bored so we... More

  • Natasha
    Jun 09

    Indoor activities can include : drawing with mess free markers or crayons, painting with washable paint, Pinterest or google toddler activities. Build with blocks, read a lot of books, play with puzzles etc..

  • Mrs. HHH
    Yesterday

    Play dates!

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding May 05

Extended breastfeeding

Hi all! Just wondering if any mamas have experienced anovulation (not ovulating at all or regularly) WITH menstrual bleeding while you continued to breastfeed beyond 18 months? My son is nearly 18 months and my cycles have still not returned to normal. I am seeing my doctor regarding this issue but wondered if anyone else has ever had this happen. Thanks!

  • Kelley
    May 06

    I’m nursing 3-4 times during the day, and then whenever she wakes up through the night (which is still A LOT) So anywhere from 4-8 times during the night. It is comfort for her as well, and for my sanity at the moment too.

  • Anonymous
    May 07

    Yes, my son wakes in the night a few times a week. Sometimes more often when teething/not feeling well. I think my body is confused!

Birth control pill

Anyone get back on the pill after having your baby? Could you still breastfeed while taking it?

  • Anonymous
    May 04

    Yep! If you talk to your OB they can give you pills without hormones in it called mini pills, it won’t hurt your milk supply at all! Or some people do use hormonal BC and they were fine breastfeeding. I was on the mini pills and they worked great for me! You can also get the implant, an IUD, or other forms. Just make sure to check with your OB about your best option.

Anonymous posted in Parent's Health May 03

Hysterectomy

Has anyone had one? How’s the recovery? I am leaving my ovaries but am wondering how the first few weeks are. I have struggled with fibroids for years and have tried everything else with no solutions. Totally done having babies so not upset about that aspect of it. Thanks!

  • Anonymous
    May 09

    Wow, what an experience you have had. I have had 2 removals of fibroids and they just keep coming back. My doctor said this is the next step and I am totally done having babies so I am fine with that aspect. That is great to hear. I hate relying on my husband and others for help. Thanks for all your responses I’m going on for surgery tomorrow 🤞🏻

  • Lily
    May 09

    I know someone who has been through this. And she said recovery was a lot like a C-section.

Postpartum thyroiditis

I was recently diagnosed with a postpartum thyroiditis. The dr said in most cases it’s treatable and should go away in 2-4month but I’m still worried. Anyone else was diagnosed with it? What was your experience?

Anonymous posted in Parent's Health May 01

Simple cysts

Any mamas here ever deal with simple ovarian cysts? Please share your experiences and insight! Thank you.

  • Jenn
    May 05

    There are risks associated with ruptures but that doesn't necessarily doom you. It's generally not a life or death situation... you'll get through it if it happens! It could be much worse.

  • kailee
    May 13

    Yes i actually ended up in ER once with one of my experiences. They thought it was appendicitis because of my symptoms but turned out to just be a ruptured ovarian cyst. My symptoms started out as feeling sick and nauseated and then turned into a bloated stomach and sharp unbearable pain (and i have a very high pain tolerance).

Anonymous posted in Divorce & Separation Apr 30

I feel stuck.

I’m a SAHM with a 23 month old, and currently pregnant. I’d really like to leave my husband; I feel like he finds joy in putting me down and finding fault in everything I do; but Before our daughter was born we’d decided I’d stay home to raise her. Now I have no job, and rely on my husband for financial support. I have no family or friends that I can turn to. Does anyone have any advice? PS:... More

  • Janette
    Jun 09

    Start by learning about the grey rock method and secretly stashing some cash. U will probably have to be very careful and definitely have a plan. Try calling the domestic abuse hotline and they will help u come up with a plan, always keep a “to-go” bag ready in case u have to leave with your child in a hurry. I always said it was in case our daughter had an accident or puked on me (that was why... More

  • Anonymous
    Jun 12

    Hi there I just wanted to check-in and see how you’re doing? Sounds like a really hard situation. I’m in an unhappy marriage with two kids under two years and struggle. I fantasise about leaving, but also have issues of dependence. I’m in awe of your (and some of the above posters’) courage. How are you doing now?

Has anyone had postpartum knee pain?

Has anyone else experienced postpartum knee pain or notice it gradually with baby wearing? My 5 week old is about 12 pounds and I wear him kangaroo style in a Moby wrap about 4-6 hours of the day. I also have been strength training for the past two weeks, with appropriate rest days, and cardio via incline walking and elliptical use everyday. (No running). Any thoughts before I make a trip to ... More

  • Janis
    Apr 30

    Well the one thing my husband said could do it is the leg press if I was straightening my legs all the way, and I think I was. More interestingly, all my late night feedings/research time also introduced to me the idea that it could also be the way I am sitting while breastfeeding. I tend to sit on the couch and keep one of my legs tucked underneath me for a long time. I usually switch them f... More

  • Sara
    May 28

    Yes! Postpartum is so brutal on your body! I did a lot of damage to my knees and feet in the first months after having my son by not being careful about my posture and form throughout the day. Bouncing and carrying them around are very physical activities (especially while relaxin is still in your body), but I didn’t treat them as such. Be sure you’re wearing supportive shoes and watching your ... More

Depression

My baby is nine months old and I’m starting to feel depressed I think I don’t want to do go out and do anything I don’t have an any interest in anything besides taking care of my kid and I was just wondering if postpartum depression could happen this late in the game

  • Anonymous
    Apr 30

    I’m not a doctor but I would say that post partum depression could happen anytime after giving birth. All of our bodies are different and react differently whether it’s physically emotionally, hormonally, etc. For myself, I’ve dealt with depression for most of my life with its ups and downs. Being pregnant I was worried about how I would be affected post partum but it actually has made me do so... More

  • Lacie
    May 11

    Thank you

Weight loss

Hi mommas! I just had a 4 month old and am struggling with the weight loss. Do any of you lady’s have any tips for me??

  • Hellion
    Apr 25

    Eliminating carbs will do it

  • Anonymous
    May 03

    I ate everything in moderation. And followed this workout every day even if just 5 min. I started with 5 min and slowly increased time to 15-20 min. I started seeing difference after 5 weeks. I also started feeling more energetic. I love these videos as it gives me flexibility to workout at home with baby around https://www.youtube.com/user/walkathomemedia

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