For Moms

The journey through motherhood is as diverse as it is long — every mom faces different trials but we are all united in our love for our children.

This is safe space for women to talk about the parts of parenthood that are uniquely female including pregnancy, breastfeeding and postpartum care.

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Yesterday

IUD check ups

I got an IUD about 10 months ago and I honestly don’t know how to self check it? I’m worried because my husband said a couple times that he can feel a poke which I’m guessing are the strings because he said it was soft. I’ve read about it and my obgyn said for me to check it every month to see if it’s still in place. But I’ve tried to myself and I can’t feel a thing. I’m under my husbands work ... More

  • Ashley
    15m ago

    A sitting or squatting position is probably the easiest way. A partner being able to feel the strings is pretty common. My doctor told me she could cut them a little bit shorter if that happened, but that's not always possible if they're already pretty short. If not being able to check the strings is causing you a lot of stress, it could be worth it to just make one appointment and ask ... More

Libido after IUD removal?

Okay so I’ve had my IUD out for a months or so now and I can’t help but to ask is it normal to want to hump everything?! I mean every time I fall asleep here comes the sex dreams...I can’t get it off my mind.

Anonymous posted in For Moms Saturday

Affection

Does anyone else feel like they got the short straw when it comes to affection from their kids. I wake up in the middle of the night with him, I play with him, feed him and ect. But when daddy gets home he scream in excitement and runs to him. When I get home, he looks at me and doesn't stop playing. Daddy ask for a kiss, he get one. I ask for one, he says no no no. Thanks son I feel the love. :(

  • Kcsvikes23
    Saturday

    Yes....my son is all about daddy! I am like chop liver as soon as daddy walks into the room or door! But I know deep down he still has a soft spot for mommy!!

  • Yosi
    Monday

    My son used to do that too. I stay home with him so he sees me all day and just misses daddy. Daddy spoils him and plays with him more, but i love the bond they have and I know he loves me too.

My husband doesn't understand me.

I'm a SAHM and he works full time. I ask him to do something simple (well not that simple for him) like give our 2 year old a bath and he says no, I didn't give him enough notice. When I ask him to please sweep the living room floor instead, while I do the bath (thinking this will save some time and we can both get to bed at the same time after my son goes to bed) he says he will sweep ... More

  • Mimi
    Yesterday

    I can't understand how anybody thinks being a stay at home mom is "not a real job", or that it's somehow an easy job. I work full time and when I was on maternity leave or anytime I had the chance to take a few days off to spend time alone with my son, it was so much more work than what I actually do at work. At work, I can take breaks, go to the bathroom by myself, rely on se... More

  • Tara
    5h ago

    Thank you for the support, and validation @mimi and Kirsty

Elle posted in Fitness Jun 13

Post C-section workouts and diet - What did you guys do to [safely] tighten up those lower abdominals? Planks? Running? High-protein, low-fat and low-carb diet? Swimming? Pilates?

  • Sara
    Jun 14

    I’m in the same boat! 5 months pp and have lost a good amount but want some advice on this!!! I’m still afraid to do crunches... haha!

  • Elle
    Jun 15

    @Sara, you CAN do crunches post csection. You just have to do them a little differently for a while.

Anonymous posted in Infertility Jun 13

PCOS

So I am starting to think I have pcos and I am so scared to ask a doctor. I have 2 stepchildren but I always wanted my own children and don't think I could hear that it may not ever be possible. Has anyone else dealt with this diagnosis?

  • Kate
    Jun 14

    Hi there, I was incorrectly diagnosed with PCOS, treated for it, then got a second opinion from a different fertility doctor who specializes in PCOS and later confirmed that I did not have it. PCOS does not necessarily mean you won’t be able to have your own children. I can tell you that there are definitely options out there to help women with PCOS conceive. And there are several factors tha... More

Anonymous posted in Postpartum Recovery Jun 11

First period after baby

How long did it last? Heavy or not?

  • Kyra
    Jun 12

    Mine was starting when i got my IUD implanted which can also cause prolonged bleeding. Im going on 3 and 1/2 weeks now and it sucks lol

  • Kendall
    Jun 12

    I also got mine because I got the IUD at 6 mo pp, so mine wasn’t a “natural” period I guess? But it was normal, how they used to be before baby.

Anonymous posted in Postpartum Recovery Jun 11

Hair Loss

I am now 4 months postpartum but at 3 months I've noticed a lot of hair loss while I shower. It's a bit scary because it's usually a ton of hair. Is this normal?

  • Julie
    Jun 11

    I’m 10 months pp and just started to notice a reduction in hair loss a few weeks ago. Breastfeeding has a lot to do with it, unless it was just coincidental that it slowed down around the time my baby started to love solids.

  • Brigitte
    Jun 11

    VERY normal. Mine got to the point where I had pretty serious bald spots around my temples. But at 6 months post partum the shedding has slowed down and baby hairs have already filled in the bald spots. I saw a video hack about finding an eyebrow filler that matches your hair color and blending it in around the sparse spots; seemed a little crazy but totally helped me feel a little less self co... More

First postpartum period

I had my son a little over a year ago and stopped breastfeeding recently and have just gotten first first period since I got pregnant. It seems worse then I remember pre pregnancy. Tips, advice ?

  • Amanda
    Jun 10

    I started mine 4 months after I had my daughter and it was much more painful then I remember also. What really helped me the Diva cup. The forest day I normally still use a tampon because ouf the flow but the next days I use the cup. My periods now only hurt on the first day and I only have my period Foote three to four days now

  • Elle
    Jun 10

    Agree with Marta. Exercise is a great pain reliever. Especially cardio. Also re that chocolate craving that @Marta mentioned, fun fact I learned -- that's just a simple Magnesium deficiency around period time. A small Mg vitamin takes care of that pesky craving.

Anonymous posted in Postpartum Recovery Jun 07

Postpartum incontinence? So strange. I didn’t have this problem until now 5 months postpartum. Every time I cough/sneeze. And it’s not small. I have to change underwear because I leak.

  • Katrina
    Jun 08

    Also note that it's technically considered normal to leak when coughing/sneezing/laughing for up to six months postpartum, but if it hasn't been a problem before and is starting out of the blue at 5 month pp, that would be a red flag for me. Your body is supposed to be healing, not regressing.

  • Tara
    Jun 08

    I’m with Katrina, I’d check it out with your doctor, if this has suddenly come up. Meanwhile, try incontinence pads or underwear. I wore these during pregnancy to avoid having to go pee in public every 15-20mins!

Paulina posted in Fitness Jun 06

Dropping mom belly

Which exercises do you recommend me to start doing to recover my body? I’m 6m pp and I tried to do some yoga but still my belly hurts I had a C-section. I lost all my pregnancy weight but still I have a belly 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • Lisa
    Jun 06

    Are you breastfeeding? I know my belly never goes away (norm a good bit of the weight) till I stop breastfeeding

  • Elle
    Jun 07

    Your belly definitely should *not* hurt 6mo PP. Physical Therapy. Have your OB write you a script. Those abdominal muscles have gone through a lot! There are some core abdominal workouts, near to medium term, that you should avoid doing as you used to bc it can damage the muscles thwt were cut through. The PT can show you variations on thise exercises that will tone without damaging.

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Jun 06

Is it time to seek help?

I had my son in April and I love being a mom but I constantly feel like I'm on edge. I'm stressed, angry, miserable, impatient, and full of anxiety. The only time I dont really feel that way is when I'm by myself with my little guy. Is this a normal thing and if so how long does it usually last?

  • Kaity
    Jun 06

    I have PPA not depression and that's EXACTLY how I felt. I went on Zoloft when my son was 3 months old. True game changer.

  • Giselle
    Jun 08

    I felt similar to you and I went on Wellbutrin for 2 months. I am back to my normal self now and I am so glad that I sought help. I would definitely talk to someone and get help bc you can’t control what all the crazy hormones will do to you.

Anonymous posted in Postpartum Recovery Jun 04

Irregular bleeding postpartum

Has anyone experienced irregular bleeding 3 plus months postpartum? I know that I have to make an appointment and that's what I plan to do tomorrow morning and immediately but in the meantime my anxiety just wants to know has anyone else experienced this and if you have what turned out to be the cause? p.s: what i mean by irregul... More

  • Lisa
    Jun 04

    If not breastfeeding I would say most likely your period is starting up again, if you are breastfeeding then it still could be the period starting up again and the changes in baby appetite could be to blame

  • Ashley
    Jun 05

    Talking to your doctor is a great idea. I'd be more inclined to think it was your period if there was a longer break in the bleeding. But since you said it's been almost nonstop, they should definitely check it out. I wouldn't stress too much - remember, so much of what goes on with our bodies ends up being fixable and benign - but it's good that you're going to make the tim... More

Normal or not?

Anyone experience frequent urination postpartum? I'm almost 3 months postpartum and I've been experiencing frequent urination. Going to the bathroom 5 times within 15 min! Is this normal? I had a c-section.

  • Julie
    Jun 04

    Did you Gestational Diabetes?

  • Elle
    Jun 04

    Not normal c-section recovery. Might be something like a UTI or kidney infection. Log all your food/water input and when youre going to the bathroom, and show your doctor.

Other moms

I’m looking for advice in regards to other mom-friends. It looks like it’s so hard to get other moms to hang out with me in a friend situation (let’s getaway coffee, conversation without cartoon references) but other moms have no problem asking me to watch their kids (for free). I wouldn’t mind if they asked in advance and we were friends but we haven’t really established a friendship. Advice?

  • Aggy
    Friday

    Marjorie, for your specific situation, I agree to say no to child care of you’re not friends. I’m not sure about the hanging out part. Trying doing an activity publicly that your kids love (swimming, hiking, soccer) and meet others that way?

  • Desiree
    Tuesday

    @Paulette, I feel like I was reading about myself in your post. I don’t know how (honestly) to make adult friends. Not ones that I casually run into anyway, like other moms at daycare. Even at work it seems like others already have friends that they stick to, and they aren’t really interested in having anyone new around. @Aggy, you gave some awesome suggestions!! I know that I will be using so... More

Anonymous posted in Postpartum Recovery Jun 02

Has anyone ever encapsulated their placenta. Was it worth it ? Can you tell me about your experience and if in Brooklyn area who you went through? I’m mainly afraid of the PP hair loss I went through w other pregnancies. Wondered if this would help?

  • Anonymous
    Jun 03

    In many cultures women actually eat their own placenta.... instinctively many mammals do as well. It’s suppose to help with PPD energy hormones and milk supply. It’s said to be a great source of iron and vitamins for a mother after going through something so traumatic. Encapsulating the placenta or turning into a powder to make into a smoothie drinks or even cooking with.. and creating a tinc... More

  • Superdad
    Jun 03

    Yeah, I know about the eating. Just wanted to know if there were any confirmed benefits. Thnx. I assume it helps as some sort of Super Food. Too bad you can’t absorb the Stem Cells. That has to be an intramuscular injection.

Anonymous posted in Parent's Health Jun 01

Best app to track ovulation

Looking for the best free ovulation/period tracking app? :) I used one before I had my son, but it was just the first free one I found and wasn’t very good.

  • Brittany
    Jun 03

    I used Clue and really loved it!!

  • Mikayla
    Jun 06

    Clue is by far the best that I've used, you can track whatever you want and it's so easy to use!

Anonymous posted in Stay-at-Home Moms May 30

Adjusting to SAHM life

While I’m incredibly grateful to have the opportunity to stay at home with my baby (for however long - still figuring things out) I am struggling. From feeling isolated (not just from society but my friends who don’t understand my life), to feeling guilty every time we can’t afford something to feeling like I should be doing more more more and never acing one thing (or feeling like I am). Anyon... More

  • Megan
    May 30

    Is there a PEPS group in your area? Sometimes it’s nice to be in a room with people all going through the same thing as you. It’s a really weird time—just remember that this is just a phase of your life...it’s different, but what you are doing is important and can be a pretty amazing chapter in your life if you can find a way to embrace it.

Ro posted in Pumping May 29

The last pump

On Sunday we celebrated our son's first birthday but I had also had my last pump session that morning. My husband commented on how excited and happy I should be. In a way I had been looking forward to the end of feeling like a human dairy cow (I was an overproducer of milk and suffered mastitis, as well as clogged ducts). However, I have this sadness about this that I don't understand... More

  • Ann
    May 29

    I think that there can always be a bit of sadness when you can see the “last” of babyhood. I quickly identified that my first baby wouldn’t be my last. But for me- I did an actual happy dance after My last pump! But we all have our own joys and own sadness.

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