Posted in Preemies, Sleep, Babies

I have a 6 week old ( 1 day adjusted) he will not let me put him down at night. He always has to be held or right next to me in bed.. I DO NOT want to co sleep but this has been awful! Any advice?

  • Jaimie
    Sep 20, 2017

    Thank y’all and yes he’s on medicine for acid reflux

  • Dani
    Sep 20, 2017

    The Fisher Price Rock & Play Sleeper saved us when my son, who also had some reflux, wouldn't sleep anywhere but on me.

  • Anna
    Sep 20, 2017

    I think newborn fussiness tends to peak around 6-8 weeks - so maybe he just needs a little bit of time? I know our baby got a lot less fussy, and easier to put down to go to sleep, after 8 weeks.

  • Kei
    Sep 20, 2017

    That's developmentally normal! Especially if his adjusted age is 1 day, the world is big and scary for newborns. Have you tried putting a bassinet (or crib) next to your bed? That could help. I know it's hard when they're tiny and refuse to sleep without you but these days pass and it gets easier! Hang in there, mama❤️

  • Jenna
    Sep 20, 2017

    The swaddle me and the snuggle nest which is a cheaper version of the dock a tot was what worked for our baby. When she was calm I'd swaddle her tightly in the swaddle me and put her snuggle nest in between us and she'd fuss a little but settle down. As soon as she settled and fell asleep we'd move the snuggle nest into her bassinet. She eventually got used to waking up and seeing she was on her bassinet even though it was the bassinet in the snuggle nest eventually we didn't need the snuggle nest anymore and she'd fall asleep in her bassinet alone. The key is to put them down gently when they're at that drowsy almost asleep point. That's what worked for us at least. It took a few weeks for her to get to that point but it got easier and easier. Be patient your little one will get there this period is the hardest and the fussiest for them. Mine was the whole 2-3 1/2 months marker that she was just inconsolable most of the day.

  • Tyson
    Sep 20, 2017

    We just swaddled, then rocked to sleep, then lay them down in the crib. You could also try playing some soft music or heart beat sounds, or sometimes filling a glove with rice or something then setting it on their back tricks them into believing your still there.

  • Olivia
    Sep 20, 2017

    I’ve heard the rock n play does wonders. My son was the same way and I coslept. He’s 5 months now and sleeping in his crib! I started putting him in there at around 4 months and now he’s okay with it. When they’re that young they just need mommy lol

  • Katelyn
    Sep 20, 2017

    Jaimie is he on formula? If so you can try enfamil AR. Its made for babies with acid reflux. Its a little bit thicker than normal formula and works wonders. My son had bad reflux and was the same way. When we switched his formula it was so much better within a week!

  • Lorrie Mae
    Sep 20, 2017

    I second the rock n play and swaddles. With the rock n play, my only suggestion is to keep an eye if your baby prefers to sleep with his head in one position, sometimes the rock n play's incline can promote the preferred position and help cause baby's head to get flat on one side, which happened with my babe. Lots of tummy time and/or repositioning your baby's head can alleviate. Other than that it worked wonders for us. And when he'd wake at night I'd just reach over the side of my bed and rock it and he'd fall back to sleep.

  • Lesley
    Sep 20, 2017

    This is normal

  • Anonymous
    Sep 20, 2017

    It is so hard to hear comments from people about how to get your baby to sleep better but a lot of people haven't had a kid that doesn't sleep well alone or they think they did but didn't have it nearly as bad as you. My son was an awful sleeper without me. It was such a difficult challenge to face and everyone would tell me it's normal, or to toughen up and sleep train, blah blah blah. He was just a bad sleeper and I know this because my baby now is an amazing sleeper so far. They're night and day compared to each other! For my son it came down to that he needed to be close to me for comfort and security. It's so hard to accept cosleeping but that is the only way any of us got any sleep. I would suggest an in bed cosleeper that can get him used to being close but in his own space. We didn't have one with our son but I wish we had. Also, we waited until my son was 1.5 years to get him out of our bed because he could understand us and what was going on. This helped tremendously and we did a gentle approach to CIO. He is now an amazing sleeper and falls asleep on his own and stays in his crib all night. It will get better for you. It might take a long time but it will. 💙 don't listen to the people who haven't been through something similar. They have no freaking clue what it's like!

  • Steve
    Sep 20, 2017

    My wife and I struggled with this for the first few nights. Can't say it will work for everyone but this thing saved us and I know many new parents who have had similar results: http://www.toysrus.ca/product/index.jsp?productId=XXX-XXXX6

  • Jaimie
    Sep 20, 2017

    Thanks y’all! We have used our rock n play and that never works. With the formula issue because he was a premie he actually has to be on neosure for a while so changing formula isn’t an option. We’ve also tried swaddling rocking everything. I appreciate all the comments though it means a lot!

  • Lauren
    Sep 21, 2017

    My husband and I didn’t want to co sleep and had trouble putting our daughter down once she was asleep because she would wake up. A friend bought a us a fisher price rock and play and it worked! She slept in it all night. I think because it made her feel like she was being held. She slept in that until about 3 months when we finally got her in the crib and had to use the nested swaddle

  • Joseph
    Sep 21, 2017

    Swaddle and putting him down in a rock n play to sleep helped us a lot.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 21, 2017

    I'm sorry that the rock n play doesn't work for you. It only worked for us when my son was sick and even then he wouldn't sleep that long in it. I really hope you guys find something that works! Sleep deprivation while trying to parent is very difficult.

  • Chrissy
    Sep 21, 2017

    This was my daughter- NOTHING worked and she would only sleep on me until she was 8 weeks old. She hated the rock and play and hated being swaddled. Eventually she started sleeping in her crib, and the only thing that gave us a bit of a break was allowing her to sleep on her stomach (hold the comments, we discussed with our ped and made an informed choice). We tried multiple methods of sleep training with no luck as well (mind you my son was an easy sleeper and took to all of these strategies). Fast forward to now- she's 2 1/2 years old and has just started sleeping through the night this month. So, I really have no advice for you other than to hang in there mama. I know how hard it is, especially when it seems like everyone else has found a way to make the sleep thing work. And also, we somehow survive. I made it 2 1/2 years and I'm still standing- you can do this 😘

  • Heidi
    Sep 27, 2017

    Swaddle, swaddle, swaddle

  • Rachel
    Apr 05, 2018

    Get an inclined sleeper to put beside your bed. It worked wonders for my son!

  • Alyssa
    Sep 23, 2018

    My daughter was the same way. I suggest getting the fisher price rock and play sleeper. Worked amazing with her. Gave her that feeling of being held.