Pregnancy & Childbirth

Whether you're glowing, nesting, energized or resting, these 9 months are a period of tremendous growth — literally.

This is a safe space to ask questions and share insights on everything from prenatal care and morning sickness to labor and delivery.

Period after tubal ligation

I am 9 weeks PP after a c section delivering breech twins. Decided to have tubes tied immediately following the delivery. I still haven’t had a period after giving birth and I am not breast feeding. What was your experience of a first period/ monthly cycle in general after a c section and /or getting tubes tied. TIA

  • Amanda
    Yesterday

    Well I had a tubal done to insure I had no more children. My baby is 4.5 months and still haven’t had a period. I did breastfeed but I’m done none because I have freezers full.

  • Abigail
    Yesterday

    I think its up to the womans body. I had my tubes tied and a csection. i had my period within that month and i exclusively breastfed. I would still visit the Dr just to get some knowledge.

Anonymous posted in Labor & Delivery Yesterday

PTSD from c section?

I had a really traumatic birth with my first and had to have an emergency c section. Everything that could of went wrong did and I’m terrified it will happen again. I’m pregnant again and have a c section scheduled for may 13th. Its giving me so much anxiety and keeping me up at night. I’m terrified! Was your second c section any better? Does that fear go away? I’ve talked to my doctor about it... More

  • Anonymous
    Yesterday

    Thank you so much ladies I don’t know how I posted it anonymously but definitely needed some encouragement. We’ve talked about Vbac but I’m even more scared of the risks with that just because I have some health issues. My dreams have just been so bad lately and almost every dream I die while giving birth so it’s just a huge anxiety thing for me. I really appreciate all of your stories/encourag... More

  • Nikki
    Yesterday

    For me I’m 6 months postpartum with my second baby. I tried vbac but my body and him were just not ready to do it and I felt rushed. Ultimately I was rushed away for emergency c section. I know that if I didn’t try to do vbac I might have felt more in control of the situation. I think that if you can talk to a therapist or your doctor about your fears that might be helpful.

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Tuesday

Maybe postpartum depression?

So I’ve had terrible back pain for the past 3 month. It’s very hard to move even just sitting down or standing up is a struggle. It makes me want to be very lazy and it doesn’t really work because my son will be a year nov. 5 and has been walking and getting into everything. I try my hardest but it’s so hard to get out of bed every morning. Could this be ppd? Or depression from my back pain? Wh... More

  • Tammy
    Tuesday

    I think they are most definitely affiliated. Self awareness is the first step to getting help. Everyone’s ppd is different but mine is fueled from not feeling like my full potential. My girls don’t suffer from lack of love or attention but I struggle with the inadequacy to find the energy and pain free (back/hips/knees) life I once had. I once told a friend I wasn’t productive and they said ‘th... More

  • Hannah
    Tuesday

    Did you get an epidural? My back is messed up from mine.

Christian posted in Cute Tuesday

It’s a boy!

We finally found what we’re having!

Anonymous posted in Marriage & Partnership Monday

How long did you HONESTLY wait to have sexual intercourse after having your baby?

My sister is 3 weeks postpartum and she wants to have sexual intercourse and doesn’t want to wait anymore. I told her she already waited this long and if she can wait a few more weeks it’ll be worth it because she NEEDS to heal. She won’t listen to me though and I’m pretty sure she’s going to do it anyways. So have any of you had sexual intercourse before the 6 week mark??

  • Courtney
    Yesterday

    A week 😬

  • Anonymous
    Yesterday

    @courtney how painful was that? I imagine it being a pretty painful time 😐😩

Postnatal Vitamins

Does anyone have a suggestion for a good postnatal vitamin for a breastfeeding mom? The one I’m taking now seems to be affecting my nails a lot.

  • Lulu
    Monday

    Yes! Perfect Postnatal by New Chapter. Found it on vitacost.com for the best price. I love it :)

  • Dana
    Monday

    I’ve been using Honest prenatals for almost 2 years and I really like them. You can get them at target, amazon and Honest website.

Karla posted in Clothes Monday

Maternity + nursing cozy warm PJs?

I don’t fit my PJs anymore. Any recommendations on a warm (winter baby), cozy pajamas that will fit 3rd trim bump and also not be in the way when nursing in the near future?

  • Karla
    Monday

    Jessica, so funny you mentioned it. I saw Halloween onesies on target yesterday and thought “silly, but it could work... 🤔”

  • Christa
    Monday

    I had my baby in February and we had a dang cold winter. I slept in my hubbies long john pants and a long sleeved shirt that I could get over my belly comfortably. And wool socks when I wasn’t sleeping. I also invested in a fleece bathrobe that I wore at night time when baby woke me to eat- I nursed for 6 weeks but my body wouldn’t keep up anymore- but anyhow, that’s what worked for me, and I j... More

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Monday

Not excited about #2

I’m trying to get excited about baby #2 but I’m having a hard time. It wasn’t a planned thing and it was so hard to get pregnant with our first (lots of fertility issues) so every moment was so special. I just still can’t wrap my head around another baby and how hard 2 will be. I feel bad but I just can’t seem to get excited even through everyone around me is. I feel bad I don’t feel way that w... More

  • Janinne
    Monday

    I planned each of my children and let me tell you- what you're feeling is normal. It's ok. You're not a terrible person. Whether or not you plan your first, second or third baby, being worried and nervous is completely normal. And ok!!! Just enjoy these last moments with your first baby.

  • Jen
    Wednesday

    I felt the same way with my second he is 2 months now. The love and bonding is growing day by day. It’s hard and you keep feeling guilty every now but it’s all just more love in your family now.

Anonymous posted in Parties Saturday

Baby shower

My husband and I have been trying for a baby for awhile. We have over time gathered a lot. Like most things. But I still want a baby shower when the time comes. This was brought up at a get together. I was chewed out by multiple people that it was dumb and unnecessary. That a baby shower is for people who need things. I wouldn’t like make a registry or anything or expect a gift. But I would lov... More

  • Lulu
    Monday

    I think the only thing you're doing wrong is sticking around those horrendous people and taking their actions to heart. Cut those ties and let it go! If you need to talk about it, get the Wysa app. It is like an interactive journal. I love it, it gets me through so much negativity I receive from others!

  • Anonymous
    Monday

    I’ll give that a shot! Thank you! And you are right I do just need to let it go and move on

Homebirth Stories

Anyone do a home birth? We did a birth center with our first, but seems like it might be an easier route to do our second birth at home since on call childcare is proving tricky. Good experiences? Bad?

  • Diana
    Sunday

    I wish I could have my second baby at home, especially already having a 2yo. But insurance doesn’t cover it, so birth center it is🤷‍♀️

  • Anonymous
    Sunday

    My unassisted homebirths were happy accidents. There were no homebirth midwives available to me, so I planned a hospital birth with a doula and a doctor; but the babies came so fast they were born at home. The doula arrived after the baby!!! But she helped us stay calm with stage 3, helped us clean up, fed us, and got us settled back in for the night.

How to survive pregnancy while caring for a baby?

Currently 27 weeks pregnant with a 7 month old.. hubby wasted no time 🙃 (he and his brother are a year apart, so he has this idea it’ll be easy and they can keep each other company since they’ll be close in age etc, so against my better judgement I agreed with him 🤦🏾‍♀️) it’s been over a month since I quit working but it seems like I’m more tired now than when I worked 😩 but I dare not vent to ... More

  • Delaney
    Friday

    I always find going on walks gives me energy. Definitely somewhere with a bit more of nature. Plus it’ll keep your little one busy and entertained.

  • MG
    Tuesday

    I don’t have much advice but just support! Just know that I find caring for a baby is much harder and tiring then being at work! And that’s not even being pregnant. I can only imagine! I work very busy 10-12hrs days on my feet without a break and I find it to be much easier then taking care of my babes. So whoever is mommy shamming you, shame on them for not being understanding and supportive! ... More

So this might be serious TMI....men stop reading, this post is about periods after pregnancy!

So my son is 8 months old, I had periods after I had him pretty regularly but then all the sudden about 3 or 4 months ago my periods stopped. Just nothing, and I’m not pregnant. I keep taking tests to see if i am and they all come up negative. I quit taking my birth control right before my periods stopped because my husband and I wanted to get pregnant again. Is this normal? Could this just be ... More

  • Katrina
    Oct 11

    There is a spectrum of normal, but a few thoughts. 1. If you're breastfeeding, that will often make returning periods less predictable and can result in a couple early cycles followed by cessation of periods for a time. 2. Cessation after regular periods is outside the realm of "common." If your earlier periods really seemed like regular periods to you, I'd definitely check... More

  • Elizabeth
    Oct 11

    Thank you both! I will definitely be contacting my health provider just to have some peace of mind!

Morning sickness + 16 month old

Any moms gone through this? We are pregnant with baby #2 and I have been feeling awful most days. I'm a SAHM with my 16 month old but I feel awful that I am useless when it comes to entertaining him lately. I have been prescribed zofran, I've tried teas, ginger everything, etc. But I still am nauseous most of the day (on most, not all, days). What got you through it? I feel so guilty bc... More

  • kacey d
    Oct 12

    I went through this, too. Honestly, I eventually realized that a few weeks of letting my daughter watch sesame Street while I laid down in your the couch weren't going to ruin her. There's a time when you need to prioritize yourself otherwise you won't be able to parent at all. Hopefully your nausea will be at bay soon!

  • Brittany
    Sunday

    I’m pregnant with my first, but unisom was a miracle for me in the first trimester. I had to take a full tablet before bed every night. Make sure it’s the tablets and not the gel caps.

Kieli posted in For Moms Oct 10

Brown discharge

Hey guys! Husband and I got home from dinner, I’m about 10 weeks pregnant and went to use the restroom and noticed quite a bit of brown discharge. Not sure if this is something I should be concerned about, I haven’t been to the dr yet as I’m trying to get the insurance in order. What are your guys’ thoughts?

  • Kaitlyn
    Oct 11

    That’s good!

  • Autum
    Oct 11

    Bright red blood and bleeding like a period is cause for concern! If no cramps I wouldn’t stress about it :)

Anonymous posted in Postpartum Recovery Oct 10

PPD/PPA & significant others

For anyone that has or had PPD/PPA, how detailed are you with your significant other about what's going on? Do you share every little thing? Share only the need to know? How do you go about starting the conversations?

  • Catharine
    Oct 10

    I was and still try to be as open as possible with my husband. It is scary to do. I feel super vulnerable telling him I had a bad day, because I have it in my head I should be able to handle things. But that’s why we’re partners, so I can lean on him when I go through a rough time. And I think if you would like your SO to help, let him/her know what you’re feeling so they can know how to help... More

  • Erin
    Oct 11

    With PPD/PPA it all stems from this horrible notion that our isolationist type of culture perpetuates which is we as mothers need to be able to do it all without any help (social media, I blame you!). Sadly, when we compare ourselves to others we think we need to be everything to our child. This is simply untrue and totally toxic to raising a healthy human. Mothers should not be the sole source... More

Anonymous posted in Multiple Children Oct 10

Groundhog Day

I work full time and care for me 2yr and and am expecting another child. Lately, I’ve been feeling like everyday is just the same ole same ole. Of course there’s the part of me that feels guilty because I know how blessed I am, that there’s no drama per se. But, I’m just curious how others spice up their routine.

  • Anne
    Oct 10

    It can be tough in winter but you definitely have to get out of the house and try doing different things. You can search on Winnie for places to go or just drive to a new store or a library in the next town or whatever and see what happens. My kids are in school now and I miss having all that free time to do whatever we wanted! I wish I had given myself more of a break from the routine before ... More

  • Jenni
    Oct 11

    Since you’re expecting a second, you could plan some special weekend outings with your two year old to change it up (zoo, aquarium, etc.) or without your little one - like a date night. I’m not going to lie, having two kids makes life even more routine, so to combat the hamster wheel feeling, I just had to make more effort to plan different activities for us.

Pregnancy and Hurricanes

So my first born was born during Hurricane Matthew back in 2016 and the doctors said that it’s common for the pressure changes to induce labor. I’ve got 6 weeks left before my due date but we’re just south of Hurricane Michaels path. Should I be worried?

  • JJ
    Oct 09

    No.

  • Caitie
    Oct 09

    Mine was born last year during hurricane Harvey (and I lived all the way in New Orleans).The L&D floor was packed and super busy with all of the deliveries. Mine was a week overdue, so weather it was the drop in pressure or not, I was happy to be getting on with it lol. You’ve got a while to go yet, so I wouldn’t worry too much. Baby’s going to come when they are ready!

When did you all go into labor with your first baby?!

Let’s hear some birth stories!!

  • Sam
    Saturday

    Went into labor on my due date: 38 hours later, a collapsed pelvic floor and hemorrhage later he was born. Pregnancy, delivery, and post partum were the worst experiences of my life. My son’s about to turn one and I love him to death but I will never “forget” like everyone says.

  • Jenn
    Saturday

    Induction was scheduled for 39 weeks due to concerns that baby wasn't properly nourished (she measured small for gestational age & apparently me being 4'11" and 118lbs at the time didn't ease their minds). I went into labor the day before the induction. I had bloody show the night before and some minor contractions. I spent the morning relaxing and trying to kick start labo... More

Anonymous posted in Labor & Delivery Oct 09

Second delivery

With my first baby I had an emergency C section after pushing for 3 hours. As we start thinking about our second baby I’m starting to think about my next delivery. Did anyone opt for another C section? Or How was your vaginal delivery after a C section? My doctor said it’s more or less a choice the second time around. With my C I was on pain meds of course the first few weeks which made everyt... More

  • Katrina
    Oct 09

    Something to consider is expected family size. Each c-section increases greatly in risk, so if yours planning two and done the risks are completely different than if you're hoping for four or five. Larger family goals would generally recommend a VBAC. The org ICAN has lots more info on this.

Is it normal to feel numbness in hands? I’m 30 weeks pregnant.

  • Anisca
    Oct 09

    Yes I’ve had that in a few fingers on one side and in my left thigh, it’s baby pinching something in your lower back probably. I would recommend mentioning it to your doctor and they’ll probably guide you to go to a chiropractor for pregnant mothers.

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