Pregnancy & Childbirth

Whether you're glowing, nesting, energized or resting, these 9 months are a period of tremendous growth — literally.

This is a safe space to ask questions and share insights on everything from prenatal care and morning sickness to labor and delivery.

Anonymous posted in Babies Thursday

Has anyone been through what I am going through Rn?

Month of October, I had spotting but no period. Two weeks after I took a pregnancy test & was positive. I went to my doc & they test my Urine & came negative then retest & came positive. Beta test came indeterminate a week later retest & came negative. I kept on w/ my life. November, I had unprotected sex a day before my period supposed had come. Never came (not even spottin... More

  • Anonymous

    Go back to your doctor and get a blood test and ask them

  • Anonymous

    Thank you. I have call but they won’t have anything available till after the holidays unfortunately. I am just really want to know what’s going on but I’ll have to wait I guess.

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Wednesday

Just found out I’m pregnant after a twin c section 5 months ago! Help!

I just got a positive today... my birth control implant failed! So I had a crazy c section for my 5 month old identical twins July 9th, 2019... and now I’m pregnant again! I’m happy but so scared... I’ve read about women miscarrying or their uterus rupturing and them dying and losing the baby... what should I do? Will we be alright? Please share your thoughts and experiences if you have any si... More

  • B

    This sounds like a great convo with your doctor. Not sure if the Twins aspect will complicate things, but I’d guess no

3days late!!

So last month I had 2 cyst but one ruptured I have an appointment this month to see if the other one dissolved on it’s on. Here’s the thing..I’m 3/4 days late for my period( I’m never late) I had light cramps last week and have been feeling like I’m going to catch a cold for the past week. Does anyone know if the ruptured cyst could cause my period to be late? I took a pregnancy test and it was... More

Worried that I am measuring 5 weeks and no fetal pole.

I had my lmp on 10/17/19. I tested positive by urine on 11/12/19 & 11/18/19 by blood test. I had a transvaginal ultrasound on 12/5/19 and Gestational sac and yolk is measuring 5 weeks with no fetal pole. I know I should be 7 weeks per lmp. Could there be a mistake?

Anonymous posted in Child Care Dec 03

Daycare pickup while pregnant again?

I feel a little silly asking this, but how did you handle daycare pickup during your third trimester & after birth of your [second, third, etc] child? I’m 32 weeks along and have an 18 month old who goes to daycare. Due to our work schedules I do drop off and pickup, but it’s harder every day to literally PICK UP the toddler to put them in/out of the car seat, let alone maneuvering their ... More

Anonymous posted in Multiple Children Dec 03

Transition Tips From 1 To 2 Kids

I'm 21 weeks pregnant with our second baby boy and our first-born is 2. I keep hearing the transition from 1 to 2 kids is a lot harder than going from 0 to 1 kid. Please share tips or experiences on how to make the transition easier and/or encouraging words. I'm a little nervous since I experienced PPD with my first.

  • Jennie
    Dec 04

    I had incredibly bad PPD with my first and he was 15 months old when his sister was born. I was scared but it was actually an easy transition for me. (My 3rd was really hard!) My tips are just to be ok with what you can do. Don't have unrealistic expectations for yourself and set boundaries. It's ok to prioritize naps, it's ok to stay in your pjs, it's ok to skip a family gath... More

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Dec 07

    So I have 4 kids, my first two kids were 17 months apart and then I have 20 and 21 Months age gaps between the others. My personal experience was that 0 to 1 kid was the hardest. There are challenges with having them close together but I always felt like I more calmly could find solutions for the crying baby that the first time around and knew how to navigate the lack of sleep better. I recom... More

Breast Engorgement! Help!!!

Day 3 after birth. We were discharged last night from the hospital. My breasts are so engorged as I have chosen to not breastfeed I am reaching out for HELPFUL suggestions to relieve pain other than ice/heat compresses and pain medicine as I have already been doing those.

No sex drive for over a year? Is This Normal or Happening To Anyone Else?

My beautiful daughter turned a year old in September and yet I have yet to get really intimate with my partner and it's been a whole year.A few times we had been intimate I felt great but later on I was disgusted by the thought of what I had done.I am very much attracted to my partner but I am disgusted 85% of the time when he try's to make sexual advances or even at the thought of doin... More

  • Anonymous
    Dec 01

    I went through something similar. It turned out, there were some underlying issues with our relationship that took me several months to figure out. But once we both acknowledged the issues, and tried to change, I felt more willing to be intimate. Maybe see if there is anything that could be bugging you underneath the sex?

  • meghan
    Dec 03

    Went through something similar and it ended up being the birth control I was on. Switched brands and had a much better reaction. Worth taking a look at if that’s your situation too.

Anonymous posted in Food & Cooking Nov 23

Need to gain weight & need help with food ideas!

I have been losing weight drastically and my OB let me know I need to put on some weight, she suggested Ensure and I was all for it until I tried it. It’s too sweet and I just couldn’t do it. Are there any quick recipes or other ways you gained weight the healthy way while being pregnant? TIA! Side note: With this pregnancy I have had no desire to eat, if I do it’s literally because I force my... More

  • Penelope
    Dec 02

    Chocolate milk or hot coco and bananas

  • Vonda
    Dec 05

    I ate oatmeal every night before bed to help gain weight. There are tons of recipes. I just do pear, dates and brown sugar.

Anonymous posted in Multiple Children Nov 21

Pregnant with second...more anxious than excited.

I’m 10 weeks pregnant with my second child. I’m so, so grateful to be pregnant - although I feel much more nervous than excited right now. Maybe because I know what to expect and it’s gonna be crazy? 😂 Looking for any reassuring experiences that you may have had when you were pregnant with your second?

  • Anna
    Nov 27

    Honestly, two has been great. My first had a hard transition when the second was born, but it’s really been fine on the whole. They get used to each other. The biggest challenge has been my older one pushing my younger one around. I’m now expecting #3, and terrified about that! But I think everything just ends up eventually falling into a rhythm. You got this!!

  • Melissa
    Dec 06

    Every baby is different so stay positive and embrace motherhood! Your little one is going to love having a sibling. It can be very sad when your child gets to an age and wants a sibling and you can no longer have children ! Congratulations on your blessing!!!!

Possibly pregnant

So, my last period was the beginning of October and i am now 12 days late today and still haven't gotten a glimpse of a period. about 2-3 week ago when my boyfriend and i had intercourse one day i peed afterwards per usual and when i wiped i had light pink blood; when i wiped again there was nothing nor in the toilet bowl. Well i've had minor cramps but still no period and I've had ... More

  • Bethany
    Nov 26

    They offer both at planned parenthood

  • Jessica
    Nov 26

    Thanks for the info! I’m 13 days late now and I’m actually wondering if my thyroid is doing it since I suffer from hypothyroidism. I’ve never ever been late, early but not late so it’s baffling. Still hoping I’m pregnant but don’t want to get my hopes up.

Cervix pain after childbirth

I had my daughter over a year ago and since then nearly every time my husband and I have intercourse it hurts my cervix, it even hurts to use tampons. Anybody have this issue also or know what could be the cause of it?

  • Megan Fradley-Smith
    Nov 21

    Hi! Have you ever asked your doctor about prolapse? It sounds scary, but nearly all of us who’ve been pregnant/given birth vaginally have some degree of prolapse. See if you can get a pelvic exam and get a referral to a pelvic floor PT. I saw one after my third baby was born, and she was a lifesaver. Good luck!

Blurred vision during pregnancy

Only like 5-6 weeks . Woke up with blurry vision eyes feel weak and sensitive they feel Unfocused it feels odd , is it a pregnancy symptom or do I need to get this checked out , I’m always on my phone maybe it could be that but .. looking for feedback

I need advice 😞

Hi. My menstrual period has never been more than 3 days late max it’s been 23 days and I am still late. Took a test 2 weeks ago and negative took one today negative 😞 Really hoping to conceive this month.

Anonymous posted in Parenting Culture Nov 09

Mom guilt

I’m 30 weeks pregnant with twins, needless to say I’m exhausted and in pain. I also have a 2 year old, and lately we’ve been watching WAY more movies than I ever wanted for a two year old. I feel like we’re just surviving, I feel guilty 😞

  • courtney
    Nov 12

    i’m 34 weeks pregnant with one baby. i can’t imagine being pregnant with twins AND taking care of a 2 year old. in my opinion, what matters at the end of the day, is that your kids are loved, healthy and alive. you’re tired and in pain.. there’s no need for you to stress yourself out more than you need to. you’re doing great ❤️

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Nov 12

    Do not feel guilty. I have 4 kids, 5 and under so I’ve been pregnant with toddlers a lot (no twins). I spent a lot of time feeling guilty about that. But I look back and it was fine. The alternative was often me yelling or them crying because I was exhausted and they were toddlers. Can’t be better than tv. Positive memories is best. Good luck!!

Anonymous posted in Pregnancy & Childbirth Oct 30

Cyst during pregnancy

I recently had my first ultrasound at 6 weeks. My doc found a 3 inch cyst on my ovary. While it’s larger than most, he has tried to reassure me that it will go down as my pregnancy progresses. In the meantime, I have constant cramping and lower back pain. Has anyone experienced this? I’m looking for stories of positivity that give me hope that it’s normal and will go away on its own.

Kelly posted in Siblings Oct 29

When to share pregnancy with LO

Hi we’re very early in our second pregnancy (8 weeks) and we obviously haven’t said anything to our 2 yr old yet. I wouldn’t consider it until we’re at least through the first trimester but was curious when is a good time to start talking about it, getting her excited & prepping for the addition of a sibling??I want to sufficiently prepare her but without too much time should something deva... More

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Oct 30

    So I miscarried with my first pregnancy, and have fortunately been blessed with 4 kids after. However, the miscarriage changed how I handle that first 12 weeks. I share with anyone before the first ultrasound that I would tell that I had a miscarriage (ie quality friends,family, co workers) . After the first sighting of a hb, I tell most people. With my kids, since I get sick early I always to... More

  • Jenn
    Nov 05

    We waited until after the first trimester but our oldest could absolutely care less. That being said, we altered our language and actions to include the baby and decisions as if she were already there (ie. when buying diapers, clothes, toys and practicing quiet time). Not 100% confident that it had any impact other than she has been a rock star older sister and we’ve never had problems w/the ad... More

What should be in my hospital bag (for baby, me, and baby daddy) ?

I’m a first time mom and I’m 35 weeks. I know I should start packing my hospital bag, but I’m not sure what to put in it.

  • Chris
    Nov 02

    Comfortable pj, big underwear, shampoo and conditioner and body wash, hair ties, comfortable slippers and your charger. I brought way more and only used those things.

  • Jenn
    Nov 05

    Normal toiletry travel bag, disposal underwear (like depends), slippers, charger and really good chap stick bc hospital air is dry AF. I didn’t event bring a change of clothes. Before we went to the hospital, I changed into the clothes I would go home w/bc you immediately change into a gown. For baby, we only brought two outfits, they both wore hospital provided tops the whole time (no bottom... More

Low libido

Anyone know of what gummies/vitamins to take for low libido? I’m not talking about once a month low libido. I’m talking about straight up no interest low libido. I haven’t had sex since approx the baby was 6-8months old, and now he’s turning 2 in January. My husband doesn’t pressure me into having sex cause he knows my “situation” but I think it’s time I do something about it otherwise the rel... More

  • Casey
    Oct 29

    Are you still nursing? That can be the cause of low libido

  • Anon
    Oct 29

    Nope I am not nursing. Stopped when the baby was 7 months or so...

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Oct 25

What’s your advice on increasing chances of getting pregnant?

  • annag
    Oct 31

    that depends on what you're already doing. Do you already keep track of when you ovulate? There are urine tests (LH, or LH and estrogen), and 3-significant-digit digital thermometers to use right when you wake up (assuming you wake up at a similar time each day), and some people also notice mid-month changes in their cervical/vaginal fluids. I've also heard both that it can be useful to... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 31

    Thank you!

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