Pregnancy & Childbirth

Whether you're glowing, nesting, energized or resting, these 9 months are a period of tremendous growth — literally.

This is a safe space to ask questions and share insights on everything from prenatal care and morning sickness to labor and delivery.

Anonymous posted in Multiple Children Thursday

Second child

I just found out I’m pregnant with our second. Completely freaking out. My son will be 3.5 when the baby comes. What do you wish you knew or someone told you about before your second came along? Thank you!

  • Rebecca
    Sunday

    That you will survive. That the first month it was like having two new children as the first child’s world was rocked big time and she sure showed it with her behavior but now after my second is 4 months old life Is getting back to normal. My kids are 3 years apart. Don’t mean to scare you but we survived.

  • Myrtle
    Sunday

    1.No one told me how much I would miss my first child when the second one came along. I exclusively breast-fed so I was spending much more time with the baby plus i was cosleeping with the baby. 2.If you are nursing the baby figure out a way to nurse her in a carrier makes it easier to keep up with your older one so you don’t have to be stationary during feedings. 3.Also getting a portable brea... More

Afraid of natural birth

Hello. I am 6 weeks pregnant. I have always been afraid of natural birth and really don’t want to do it. I saw a video of a natural birth many years ago. Can I ask my doctor to do a C-section? Will doctors accept it? I have insurance which will cover both.

  • Yanis
    Thursday

    I think a C-section will be way more painful during recovery. With my first daughter I had an epidural, and it was a breeze. I was walking right away, and after it wore off the pain was minimal just a little bruising. Get an epidural if you don’t want to do a natural birth.

  • Angie
    Thursday

    I had the same exact fear for 20+ years before i actually had my child. The fear of pain caused so much anxiety for many years. I begged for a c section and they said no, not unless a problem and need to. Turns out my baby was distressed (prob from my anxiety) and i did need an emergency c section!

7 bfn tests

Hi, I am a mom of 3 and I feel very pregnant. We were supposed to be done after my last (2 year old) but I feel very pregnant. Idk what to think, at this point I am kind if obsessing I think. My last period was 3 days early and lasted for 1 day, basically just spotting. I never even used a tampon. I am normally pretty regular and last anywhere from 3 to 5 days with a heavy day or two in the mid... More

Anonymous posted in Bottle Feeding Oct 05

Not breastfeeding

Weird question.... if I don’t plan to breastfeed, do I bring my own bottles to the hospital? And formula?

  • Christelle
    Oct 07

    The hospital will provide you with everything you need to feed your baby 😊

  • Jenieze
    Oct 10

    As a tip, most hospitals use Enfamil nipples that you can find on Amazon. I'd order and sanitize at least a pack of twelve to have at home so that your child doesn't have a hard time trying to take another bottle (though they may have no trouble at all!). They also work really well with travel nursette bottles. But yes the hospital will have everything and you can add that you don't... More

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Oct 02

Honestly, I’ve been feeling like crap

Is it possible to have postpartum depression over a year later? I just got a new job that is physically demanding and I haven't been sleeping well and thought maybe that was it but now I'm crying all of the time and just feel like a piece of crap and a terrible mother and wife. Sometimes I regret having my child and just look at her in annoyance and then I regret thinking that. I don... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 10

    I thought I was just in a "funk" and tried from full time job. I finally went to my PCP and he diagnosed me with PPD when my daughter was 8 months old. I just kept thinking it would pass, and it didn't. I also have anxiety, even before a kid! So it really took a toll. I was put on Zoloft (helped so much!, only 25mg, and I'm now off of it. My daughter just turned 2. It h... More

  • Marie
    Oct 10

    Postpartum is anytime after having a child. Even if its years after, your body is still trying to recover from having a baby, physically and hormonally just to name a few. There is absolutely no shame in speaking up and standing up for yourself, your peace of mind and your mental health. I would definitely talk to your pcp dr or obgyn just so that someone in the medical field is aware of how yo... More

3 days late, negative test?

Hello guys, I’m 3 days late for my cycle. I’ve taken 2 pregnancy tests (dollar store brand) and they both say negative. What should I do?

  • Anonymous
    Oct 01

    Give it some more time and test again. I think drs won’t see you until you’re 2 weeks late and still getting negative tests

  • Quay
    Oct 02

    Thanks so much. I’ll wait to test again Saturday. That’ll make a week late.

Anonymous posted in Family Life Sep 30

HELP!

My husband and I just found out we are pregnant with baby no. 2! BUT I’m in a dilemma. I want this pregnancy to be as peaceful as possible and with that I want limited people knowing for as long as I can. I know eventually family will come around and see my bump, but until then I don’t know how to not let people know. The thing is, we have parties and holidays coming up where alcohol will be ar... More

  • Christine
    Oct 03

    I would hold a glass of wine during parties and take the occasional teeny sip and have my husband drink it when no one was looking. I basically would hold the same drink all night and no one caught on. Also I’d do club soda and a lime which looked like a vodka soda.

  • Vonda
    Oct 03

    You can say you took cold medicine and don’t want to mix it with alcohol in your system. I drank root beer from a bottle and almost no one noticed the label. Or do the husband drinking trick. And fake sip. Or I’d just say I’m the one driving tonight. So no one questions it. I just wouldn’t bring it up much with your step-daughter. If she says something about your tummy etc. just say it’s your... More

Period Late, Negative Pregnancy Tests...

My fiancé and I have been ttc for 14 mo now, ovulated as normal this month.. I have had “normal” 28-29 day cycles for months now, never late.. very similar symptoms to period; pretty bad cramping in lower abdomen, some in back, but very heavy and sore breasts this time around.. I don’t feel pregnant, but hoping I am. Took three Clearblue pregnancy tests, all negative. Thankfully, I have a gyne ... More

  • Bethany
    Sep 30

    I was! I had very sore breasts which was super unusual for me. I took three tests but all came back negative took my fourth and came back positive. Went to the doctor and I was eight weeks in. Not sure why the tests I’ve taken before couldn’t pick it up. I wish you good luck and hope there is a little baby in there

Pregnant just missed period for this month

So I’m currently 25 days late for my period I don’t have any signs of a period coming on I took 3 tests they all came out negative I have the sore breast and everything I got my last period 8/6-8/11 had sex 8/17 and had what I thought was implantation bleeding because it lasted 3-5 days but it was only when I wiped I’m having faint cramps in my lower abdominal area but not much at this point I... More

  • Anonymous
    Sep 28

    You should see your OB.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 29

    Take another test now. If negative wait until you’ve missed a second period then see doctor

Anonymous posted in Child Care Sep 26

No one to watch 2yo

Im basically a single mom with no family around, I’ve never let anyone watch my toddler. If I go into labor will the hospital allow my toddler to stay in the delivery room or do hospitals have childcare centers? Will the hospital allow her to stay overnight with me?

  • Monica
    Oct 12

    What area do you live in?

  • Marie
    Thursday

    Yes what area do you live? I would love to help out if I can. And we have a beautiful group of SAHMs where I'm at that always pitch in to help. Please reach out to me

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Sep 26

6 days late for period and negative tests

Hi everyone! I’m 6 days late fore my period and still negative tests. Usually I have longer cycles around 39 days. I haven’t really had any major stressors that would prolong my period this month. Over the past week I’ve had sore breasts, lower back pain, fatigue, and mild cramps in my lower abdominal. Just made a doc appointment but it’s pretty far out on Oct 9th. Any advice on what to do?... More

  • Katrina
    Sep 26

    is your cycle usually pretty consistent? it could be pms symptoms and you are just late. I was consistent for years then suddenly just started changing so i think it's pretty normal to be off cycle as we age or go through body changes. I'd say for now try to take the health precautions until you confirm at the appointment.

I am now late with 3 days to my period, haven’t done the test yet but don’t feel like I am pregnant

  • Kieli
    Sep 25

    I agree with the post above. Take a test. I found out 2 days late with my second pregnancy and didn’t get morning sickness or anything for about 2-3 weeks after that.

  • Yanis
    Sep 26

    Lol 😂 I didn’t feel pregnant either; But I was. I am

Anonymous posted in Child Care Sep 24

Giving Birth and Childcare

Why do I feel 100x more emotional about having to leave my 2 year old for a few days to give birth than the actual process of giving birth?! 😭

  • Jennie
    Sep 26

    Girl I just had my 5th and still feel that way!! I hate leaving my kids. I send my husband home at night because I'd rather be alone than think about then waking up and being sad

  • Anonymous
    Sep 26

    Jennie! Yes that will totally be me!!! I’d rather be at the hospital alone than have my baby be put to bed without us :/

Opinions on when I should take a pregnancy test? Please help

I use an app to track my menstrual cycle along with my fertility window and ovulation. I am currently three days late for my period and I am not showing any signs of starting soon. Lately I've been feeling exhausted, I've had headaches every morning when I wake up, and my lower back has been in a lot of pain as well. Although I do not "feel" pregnant. What do you guys think?

  • Anonymous
    Sep 24

    If you’re late then you might as well take a test, it’d be accurate at this point. Everyone’s period/pregnancy symptoms are different and even the same for both! You can get a test for 99 cents to be sure

  • Ivy
    Sep 24

    I would do a test. I’ve always wanted to know right away. I have a stash of dollar tree tests (has worked for each of my pregnancies!)

Anonymous posted in Flying Sep 23

Flight Travel in 1st trimester

Hi, I just found that I am pregnant and we had planned a trip to kauai which will fall in the 10th week. Is it safe to fly in the 10th week ?

  • Anonymous
    Sep 27

    I flew during my 10th week and it was fine. Though if you google, you might get freaked out by all people that miscarried after flying. Just make sure you’re well hydrated, bring snacks, and compression socks.

  • Megan
    Oct 06

    Confirm with Dr. but usually no issues!

Im 7 weeks and 1day today and I'm really just trying to find an accurate window of when I conceived?

  • Kk
    Sep 24

    I mean mine is 28 days i have a period normally the first week of the month! I had a period in july (roughly 4th - 8th) didnt have a period in august but i am only 7 weeks and 4 days as of today.

  • Megan
    Oct 06

    Approx. 2 weeks after your last period if you’re cycle is 28 days. Peak ovulation would be 14 days after. So somewhere in that window would be the best guess? Since your due date is calculated based on your last period and not conception, it can be difficult to know. I think I’m further ahead in my pregnancy than the doctors say, because what they qualified for my last period was very short and... More

I tested positive on 6 first response tests, but negative on 2 clear blue ones. What is accurate?

  • Sea
    Sep 24

    I'd assume you are pregnant. It is more likely to get a false negative than a false positive so most likely those negative tests just couldn't pick up the amount of HCG in your urine where as the other ones could

  • Melissa
    Thursday

    I would go with the pink first response it’s never given me a false negative and if you are Still getting. Negative on the other you could be very early in your pregnancy or if not you should see a doc and get a blood test

Is this a faint positive? Or am I seeing things 😫

  • Kieli
    Sep 21

    Yes very faint ... try again in a couple of days.

  • Shannon
    Sep 22

    Looks like a positive to me!

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Anonymous posted in Family Planning Sep 16

First response test

I’m seeing a lot of mixed reviews for the first response tests, amazon has a lot of false negatives then target has a lot of false positives. Anyone get false positives?

  • Katrina
    Sep 18

    I dont think first response has false results, but more likely misleading or confusing because the 1 line or 2 lines is tricky. It's common you might see just 1 line which you would think means "not pregs" but it's actually the location of the line that really matters, see my photo of a positive test. there was only one line and so I thought it meant "not pregnant" ... More

  • Beth
    Sep 19

    Honestly the little tests from Dollar tree are perfectly fine as long as thier not expired and they usually aren't in my area!

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