Pregnancy & Childbirth

Whether you're glowing, nesting, energized or resting, these 9 months are a period of tremendous growth — literally.

This is a safe space to ask questions and share insights on everything from prenatal care and morning sickness to labor and delivery.

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Wednesday

Seeking advice...

I am a mommy of 2, 2 years and a nine month old. I have about 6hours of sleep a night, most times interrupted. I can’t put my babies to sleep or eat at a schedule because the older one need to have his dad around at night in order to sleep through the night. Dad has weird work schedule. What I am seeking for is to remind myself of who I am, it’s like I don’t know who I am anymore. I give 95% ... More

  • Emily Barlow
    Wednesday

    My biggest advice would be to set a schedule, it will be hard on your older one at first but in the long run it will help him and you! I need my alone time at night and some days I count down the minutes until bedtime so I can have a little time to myself to relax and breath before I go to bed. Being a mom is hard! Some days are good and some are really bad and everywhere in between so you need... More

Anonymous posted in Labor & Delivery Monday

Did anyone experience pulsating/throbbing back pain?

30 more days till due date! But lately I’ve been getting pulsating back pain, like all over my back lower/upper even radiates to neck but mainly in middle back and I get b.hicks sometimes with it too.

  • Mimi
    Monday

    When I had my son I had back labor what seemed like forever lol. It wasn’t that far ahead of due date though. Is this your first baby?

  • Anonymous
    Monday

    This is the second, first one came at 38 weeks and the pregnancies are close too

Breastfeeding problems

BIG BIG question my husband wants to try for another but my son is only 6 months and I breast feed and I might be pregnant again am I gonna lose my supply before he turns one ?

  • Rae
    Monday

    You shouldn’t as long as you keep from worrying and stay Uber hydrated. And try to pump in between feedings so you can prepare your body to make twice the supply. Your body will do what it needs to if you train it for two babies

  • Lindsay
    Monday

    I think this just is a case by case situation. A lot of women have done this with no problem. I didn’t even get my cycle back till 12mo PP and we were near weaning so, really just depends

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Sunday

Breastfeeding while pregnant and Milk drying up

I just wanted to know if there’s anything I can do to help boost my supply back up? I tried mother’s milk tea and loads of water already. Is there anything else I can do? I thought women (moms) can tandem feed? I also EBF so baby refuses a bottle of almost every kind and sippy cups too. Is there a formula that is going to taste like breast milk? I just don’t know what else to do. Thanks in ad... More

  • Anonymous
    Tuesday

    Milk banks? If there are any where you live, maybe you can sign up to receive donor milk. Or if you have close mom friends who produce a surplus, maybe ask for some from them if you're comfortable.

  • Caitie
    Wednesday

    Fenugreek isn’t safe during pregnancy, can cause uterine contractions. My milk supply dipped while I was pregnant too. I thought our nursing relationship was going to come to an end and even dry nursed for a while just for comfort. Once I stopped worrying about it, some milk came back like mid second trimester. My older baby was getting most calories from foods, so it was more an emotional prob... More

Becca posted in Fitness Dec 06

Does any one else have a lot of excess skin?

So I’m 7 months post and still have a lot of excess skin like to the point it looks like I could have just had her. I work out eat right and do ab tightening exercises but nothing works. My abs still feel separated and even though I’m losing fat the skin is refusing to go back to normal. Any one else have this issue and if so did you get a tummy tuck? I also have chronic back pain and have read... More

  • Becca
    Sunday

    The drs said I have to wait a year before they will consider it. They didn’t even check anything and the dr kept down playing saying “it’s not that bad just give it time have you tried lotion or maybe change ur diet and a wrap” if I change my diet any more the only things going in my body are coffee and water. I work out to the best of my ability since I work full time and mom full time. I’m ge... More

  • Elle
    Sunday

    Recommend second opinion with a dr in a different practice. Your weight should be stable for 6 mo - a year, but it sounds like this dr may have been dismissive of your concerns.

Kate posted in Siblings Dec 06

We are expecting baby #2. How do we welcome a new baby and keep the other child involved?

My son is 16 months and will be 2 when this one is born.

  • Kennedy
    Dec 07

    My daughter is 16 months and my son is 2 months. Not going to lie, there will be moments where you just want to run away. Lol. But with that being said, my daughter has such a great and wonderful bond with her brother. Let your son help out with tasks that you do with the new baby. Like changing and getting the little one dressed. I let my daughter pass me wipes and help pick out her brothers c... More

  • Bhavana
    Dec 07

    I agree with @kennedy. My daughter just turned 2 when my younger daughter was born. We kept telling her about the baby before the little one was born. Bought her a book that we would read to her called you are a big sister. Then when the baby came home we gave our older one a gift from the baby ( little book bag) that she can take to daycare. Also asked her to help changing diapers. Singing to... More

Anonymous posted in Labor & Delivery Dec 06

Epidural

Has anyone experienced back pain after getting an epidural? I've heard this is a possible side effect but not sure if it's true.

  • Tianna
    Tuesday

    Mine was amazing but make sure you don’t lay on one side because then you kind of gain feeling but all in all it was great

  • Britt
    Wednesday

    My back was sore for a couple weeks. I’ve had two epidurals and each was a godsend. I’ll get epidurals for future deliveries too.

C-section scar still tender and weird feeling?

It’s been 8 months and my scar and tummy still feels numb yet tender? I don’t like touching my scar because it just feels uncomfortable. I don’t know how to explain it. Anyone experience this?

  • Devon
    Dec 06

    thank yall ladies! ok i guess i should’ve worded it differently, i wouldn’t say tender but i would say i can feel the area and not feel it at the same time. that’s why it’s uncomfortable lol. i see that i’m not alone though!

  • Ashley
    Dec 06

    My first c section was 7 years ago and before i got pregnant with my 8 month old, my scar is still numb 7 years later! Its just a normal thing. Every women's body is different and every pregnancy is different. It is completely normal to be tender and numb for a very long time. But if anything else is going on i would definitely see your doctor!

Anonymous posted in Toys & Gifts Dec 03

Friend going to have 3 under 2 😳

A friend of mine is expecting her THIRD boy in the Spring. She already has two twin boys - and will have 3 under the age of 2 on her hands. A group of us are trying to find the best way to help her other than a meal train. We are trying to get creative. We all have children that are young so keep that in mind. Thank you!

  • Julie
    Dec 04

    Taking one or both of the older ones it will help. My neighbor had twins after having 2 older kids, every time I go to the park with my twins I swing by and offer to take the older ones. Sometimes even an hour of relief helps. Another thing can be to offer to get stuff when going to Costco or other stores for yourself. Most importantly, don't call just show up and help (as long as your frie... More

  • Bhavana
    Dec 07

    I was in the same boat last year I would have loved if someone took our older daughter on a play dates so we would get some sleep.

Labor: with and without epidural

I’ve been contemplating not using epidural for my second time delivery, I used it the for the first, but a lot of people have been telling me that they passed out and I don’t want to miss out on the first moments of my baby being brought in the world. Has anyone else done it and how was it? I remember how painful the contractions were but when they told me to stay still to get the epidural, I... More

  • Christa
    Dec 03

    I was in labor for 16 hours unmedicated for my first child and will definitely get an epidural for my second when that time comes. I was in so much pain but insisted that I wanted to do it as natural as I could. But by time I got the epidural, and had him, I was so exhausted from not sleeping and the pain of the contractions that I missed out on a lot of the fun of watching my husband change hi... More

  • Lily
    Dec 04

    I did no meds, and loved it! Plan on doing it the same way again. I wanted to be able to move around and get up after.

How do I take care of my babies when I can’t take care of myself?

I had an awful day and night. Had 3 breakdowns where I just hysterically cried. I have a two year old, a one year old, and am 9 months pregnant and I was with the kids all day while my husband worked. It was fine for the most part except my one year old gets into EVERYTHING that it’s just too much to baby proof. And it blows my mind I can’t get a single thing done such as washing dishes for 10m... More

  • Coley
    Dec 02

    A big part of what you are feeling, especially with the breakdowns, is due to hormones- talk to your OB. Remember, this too shall pass! Being a mom is super hard, and it sounds like you're both doing the best you can with your family. I don't know if you're on base or not but there are mom groups available and lots of other kinds of help available. You might be able to find a teenag... More

  • Rachael
    Dec 02

    Could you get any of the moms you know who have older kids, to come over with the lure of free coffee? Like “hey I’m having a rough time, could you come over for coffee sometime while your kids play with mine? I’d so appreciate it!” Idk it’s easier said than done but I wish I were closer and could just give you some relief! 💗

Anonymous posted in Labor & Delivery Dec 01

What did you pack for your hospital bag?

And when would be a good time to start packing?

  • Molly
    Dec 04

    I didn’t pack or need toiletries... they had everything there. I packed clothes for me and baby and my iPod (which I lost there, tragic. And I was to busy with baby to even notice it was gone) and my favorite pillow. I think I had a robe and slippers but I don’t think I used them.

  • Michelle
    Dec 04

    Toiletries, camera and chargers. To go bag a comfy outfit for mom, outfit for the baby( newborn and 0-3 months size), wipes, diapers, and nursing cover.

Inducing labor!

So I have a friend she’s way passed her due date and she went to get induced but instead they sent her home is there any way she can induce her labor at home? She’s tried everything and nothing is working..?

  • Tia
    Nov 30

    Tell her to stick with natural stuff. I worked with other preggies for about 2.5 years passing along techniques my midwives gave me because I regretted having intervention the second time. Walking (go window shopping), sex( I was not a fan), the dip and rock( I always had the best feedback from this one and it works post baby for any back discomfort too) and rocking while your legs are open, y... More

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Nov 29

Prenatal Depression?

Have any of you suffered from prenatal depression? I’ve dealt with anxiety and depression throughout the last few years, but this is different. Almost how it was before my doctor and I figured out the right meds/dosage way back. I’m almost through the first trimester with my second pregnancy so I know my body is changing and my hormones are crazy right now. I’ve talked to my doctor, and going t... More

  • Kieli
    Nov 29

    Just because I know my husband and I need our own place, whether that be our own apartment again, or with other family. Lol. It’s all okay, I know everything will be okay it’s just some days get me bad. And I understand, I am the exact same way. My emotions are everywhere too and they weren’t this bad in my first pregnancy. At least you have talked to your dr and are trying to get help. Sometim... More

  • Anonymous
    Nov 29

    My depression got really bad when I was pregnant. I remember one night crying and telling my husband that I wish there was a way that I could die without our baby dying. I just had to keep reminding myself that these feelings were temporary and they would pass, but I understand how it can be hell sometimes. Hang in there, you're not alone.

How far along did your second+ baby drop?

  • Tia
    Nov 30

    The 1st was 8.5 most. Literally, right at the end (overdue) then she flipped at the last minute....emergency c-section.

Breastfeeding & pregnant

Hi all. I have a 16 mo daughter and I’m 12 weeks going on 13 weeks pregnant. We’re super excited to grow our family and I’m adamant about continuing breastfeeding until my babies self wean. We also bed-share and I’ve been getting plenty of sleep since my 16 mo was born. Recently though I’ve been getting irritated with nursing at night all of a sudden and haven’t been able to sleep through it fo... More

  • Diana
    Nov 29

    Yes, it’ll pass, especially second trimester will be calm and not annoying again. Don’t worry? Are you planning on tandem nursing? 😍

  • Diana
    Nov 29

    My milk dried up at about 14 weeks, it didn’t bother my daughter even a little bit 😂 now I’m 24 and still nursing her at nap time and in the morning

Anonymous posted in Parties Nov 28

Baby shower for 2nd baby?

I just found out I am 10 weeks pregnant. For my first baby (who is currently 16 months), we had a huge baby shower with family and friends. But, for this baby, I don't think it’ll be right to have another baby shower. For one, we moved out of state & secondly, everyone always judges those who have baby showers back to back. I was thinking of only doing a registry if anyone wants to get ... More

  • Valerie
    Dec 01

    This is why for our first child we only requested gender neutral clothing. A: to be able to reuse or regift the little clothes that they literally wear ONE time sometimes. And B because I do find it a little tacky to have another baby shower for every subsequent kid. To each their own. I’d bring a small gift to a second or third baby shower, but would pitch in more for the first one.

  • Anonymous
    Dec 01

    Thank you ladies! As I said in my previous comment, we moved to a different state so we gave away a lot of our little ones clothing and etc. I feel like every baby should be celebrated, whether tacky or not. Hubbs and I decided on just 2 kids so its not like we will have a baby shower for every kid. I wanted to do a registry just in case family members or friends would like to get something.

Anonymous posted in Developmental Disorders Nov 27

Question regarding ultrasound pic posted within post

So I have 4 children (2 of each)and one on the way. My boys both have disabilities and they are very difficult to handle at times. My youngest son is 3.5 yrs old and has ADHD, sensory issues and has a violent temper. He’s very aggressive at times and he receives a lot of services and help (he’s doing better than prior to services). Anyways I saw my ob and he is about to retire he’s about 84 yea... More

  • Kieli
    Nov 27

    I can’t tell by looking, with my daughter they could have told me she was an alien and I would have believed them 😂 if you don’t want to wait, there are special ultrasound places that look for just the gender. I’m not sure where you are located, but one I am thinking about visiting is called the Baby Connection and for the basic gender package it costs $40. Just an option, and I wish you the be... More

  • Lily
    Nov 27

    You can get blood tests done at 9 weeks and up that tell you the gender, it also tests for other things as well. I would get another Obgyn.....there are so many new tests and things...

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Nov 26

Postpartum depression or anxiety...

Do any of the other mommies on here suffer from or did suffer from Postpartum depression or anxiety? My ppd was at its worst when my son was 6weeks old or so & has since gone almost completely away but sometimes I still feel it sneaking up when I’m away from my son for too long like at work or such things. Also, when he’s not with me I have major anxiety about if he’s okay, how he’s feelin... More

  • Anonymous
    Nov 28

    Thank you all so much! I really appreciate all the insight!

  • Heather
    Wednesday

    This happens to me still after 15 months since giving birth. The flashes of images in my head of terrible things happening has been horrifying. They have been less frequent as the months pass but it still happens and it’s very upsetting. I feel like this is PPA and the images are a manifestation of that. Unfortunately it has made me feel that I can’t be out of sight of my child and since she wa... More

Postpartum hormone problem?

So my son is just over 4 months now, but I’m still having a lot of postpartum issues. I’m having hot flashes constantly, my body temperature never stays the same for very long and my hair is falling out a lot. I get dizzy easily and my periods have gotten shorter and my menstrual cycles are way off and I’ve alway had regular cycles. I don’t sleep very well either even if my little one is sleepi... More

  • Lulu
    Nov 27

    I would look into a postnatal vitamin. It really has helped me. I take Perfect Postnatal by New Chapter found on vitacost.com for the best price.

  • Aje
    Nov 27

    My hair fell out in huge clumps for months after I gave birth to my son (about 6 if I remember correctly) I also had night sweats for a while. From what I understand it usually takes a few months for your menstrual cycle to regulate post baby. My son is almost 15 months and I just got my period back in October. It’s s been 6 weeks and I still haven’t had the second one.

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