Pregnancy & Childbirth

Whether you're glowing, nesting, energized or resting, these 9 months are a period of tremendous growth — literally.

This is a safe space to ask questions and share insights on everything from prenatal care and morning sickness to labor and delivery.

How did you come to terms with having a second baby? Feeling guilt for our son.

  • Lindsay
    Yesterday

    This post has helped me so much. This is what I needed. Thanks, everyone. I wish we could wait a little longer for #2 but we don't feel time is on our side. I think I'd struggle with this regardless of timing though. Mixed excitement and fear at this point!

  • Anonymous
    52m ago

    My son’s life is so much fuller and wonderful since his sister came into the world. He has adored her from the moment she was born (literally, he witnessed my accidental homebirth) and their connection is magical. One night, he thought she wasn’t breathing in her crib and it was like his world was ending. ❤️❤️❤️ They are best buddies. Oh and MY life is easier because they entertain each other w... More

Anonymous posted in Postpartum Recovery Wednesday

Uhh... My Cycle Is terrible now! 😭

Did anyone experience this postpartum? And how long did it last? I want my 4 day period back!!!

  • Anonymous
    Thursday

    No minera for me. Just my body hating me!!!

  • Haley
    Thursday

    I think it's just all the hormone changes. I had my period every other week for 3 months after having my daughter. It was the most miserable thing ever. But things finally returned to normal and I got my 3/4 day cycle back. Eat healthy, stay hydrated, and just give things time is what my gynecologist said.

Traveling while pregnant?

So we asked at our last appointment if it was safe for me to travel because of Zika virus (we were thinking Florida) and our doctor said it was okay to go anywhere! She said the Zika virus isn’t a huge concern anymore, just to use bug spray and stuff. So since this whole Red Tide craziness in Florida, we cancelled our trip and booked a trip to Riviera Maya. I was just looking at CDC website and... More

  • Christina C
    Yesterday

    I live in South Florida and am 8 mo pregnant. I agree with MrsTurner3 that there is good control in the U.S. There hasn't been any recent cases for the last couple years. https://www.cdc.gov/zika/intheus/florida-update.html

  • Dan
    Yesterday

    Zika is VERY much still a thing and the CDC is the definitive source for this, not your Doctor. Very concerned that your doc would say such a thing! By the way, the vast majority of FL is Zika free, just a few incidents reported around Miami.

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Wednesday

Period Post Pregnancy - how long until your's started?

Almost at 9 months and still haven't had my first period yet. I am on a birth control pill while breastfeeding- just started this month. I've taken a pregnancy test - negative. This was my first pregnancy. We had wanted to start trying for Baby#2 at a year. Should I be concerned? How long did you wait till you had a period after delivering?

  • Amber
    Yesterday

    My period came back at 6 months postpartum, and I’ve continued to breastfeed (my kiddo just turned 2).

  • Katrina
    Yesterday

    If breastfeeding, it can be anywhere from 6w to over 2 years. It's highly variable from one woman to the next. Mine came back at 6w1d, when I was still too dazed with a newborn to regret that it was already back. A friend didn't have any periods before getting pregnant while previous child was over 2yrs.

Anonymous posted in Bathing Tuesday

Tips for bathing baby while pregnant

It’s been straining my back already and I don’t want to cut her baths short because of it since she loves bath time.. little one is only 6 months and I’m 18 weeks. When I sit on the edge of the tub and twist around my mom freaks out saying I shouldn’t be doing that, but what else is a mama suppose to do

  • Anonymous
    Wednesday

    Hop in the bath and put her between your legs. Also, a stool next to the bath may be helpful.

  • Lisa
    Wednesday

    Till the kid gets too big, we always have done the kitchen or bathroom sinks, great for when they are little to save your back!

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Tuesday

Haha oops. 😬

So, I had a c-section 4.5 months ago, and I’ve been told it’s dangerous to get pregnant again until at least 6 months pp. We had a slip up, and I’m not on birth control. If I get pregnant is it risky? Anyone have similar situation? I’m freaking out! Help!!!

  • Mackenzie
    Tuesday

    There are definitely risks but then again there are plenty of risks with a normal pregnancy. Many people have had kids very close together successfully otherwise I doubt there would be a term for it (ie Irish twins). Try not to stress because that can be just as bad for a pregnancy. Good luck!

  • Elle
    Wednesday

    @Mackenzie - the decline in fetal growth is likely due to restricted/diverted blood flow.

Postpartum Hair Loss

I’m okay with the actual hair loss. No biggie for me. BUT....how do keep it out my baby’s hands? He always has wads even after I take it all out. It’s driving me crazy 🤯

  • Michelle
    Tuesday

    Haha! Everyday mom bun is exactly where I’m at right now 😅

  • Paige
    Tuesday

    Yep! Bun everyday! I only take it down when I go to sleep and put it back up first thing in the morning. Even then he somehow finds hairs.

Postpartum resources

For those who have gone through and are going through, postpartum depression and/or anxiety, did you have resources readily available to you? Or did you have to fend for yourself? Ie find a counselor by yourself, figure out what was covered by insurance..etc. I was fortunate to have worked at a mental health clinic and my ob-gyn, so I knew where I could go for help. But if I hadn’t, I would ha... More

  • Joanne
    Monday

    Baby blues look them up

  • Miranda
    Monday

    I feel like I got asked a lot about symptoms of PPD but that was really the extent even though I did have it. To be fair, I wasn’t interested in medication but otherwise no other resources were really made available.

Anonymous posted in Parent's Health Sunday

Nasty Csection scar

So im a plus size momma, and i have had 3 csections, my newest csection scar is 9 months old and my fat goes over this!! :( is there any hope for loosing this? I still dont have full feeling in my abdoman. How do i loose it?

  • Denise
    Monday

    I have always been petite and my son is five and I still have like the fat hanging over. It’s just a little pudge of fat.

Anonymous posted in Marriage & Partnership Sunday

Anyone else have loss of sex drive after having baby?

I am 7 months postpartum, and still have little to no drive. I am still breastfeeding, so I know that has something to do with it hormonally. This was the same with our first child. When I went to the doctor after first baby I talked with him about that and how I would get angry easily. He said it's probably just loss if sleep and that will change with more sleep. After our second child, I&... More

  • Amber
    Yesterday

    I must warn about any sexual disorder. While it could be hypoactive, it could also be that a person is asexual. Asexual means that you don't have any sexual attraction towards anyone and is perfectly normal. Now bf mom's of young ones it's most likely the hormones. And of course you can always talk to your doctor. But please don't ever think that there is something wrong with yo... More

  • Trinity
    4h ago

    I just want to encourage anyone reading this to remember that Sex is a way of giving love to your significant other even when you don’t feel like you have a sex drive. I’m 10 months postpartum and still breastfeeding so I have lost the desire but I enjoy being intimate with my husband anyway because I’m expressing my love for him and receiving affection. I encourage you to think about Sex diffe... More

Anonymous posted in Parent's Health Aug 10

Has anyone else experienced this during pregnancy

This never happened the first time I was pregnant, I had my baby earlier this year and now expecting again.. I don’t know if this is because the pregnancies are too close but I get moments where I feel dizzy and my vision almost gets dark and my head and neck feels sooo heavy and short breathed. Anytime I mention anything at the ob/gyn (it’s just nurse practitioners) they say it’s probably beca... More

  • Carissa
    Aug 11

    Yes this happened to me with both pregnancies it helps to stay super hydrated

  • Diana
    Monday

    How far along are you? If the first trimester, it’s common. Could be tired, dehydrated or not enough nutrients, especially protein on your diet

Postpartum

Hey guys, has anyone ever taken Zoloft for depression and anxiety? If so, what was your experience? I took one pill last night and feel miserable. Does it get any better??

  • Ro
    Aug 11

    It takes about a week to start showing effect cause it had to build up in your system. By the end of week 4 you should feel much better as it will be 100% in your system. I take mine in the morning cause I think I feel better overall than taking it at night but while I was breastfeeding I would take it at night. Out of curiosity, how much did the Dr start you with? I was started with 25 and... More

  • Anonymous
    Aug 11

    While I'm not allergic my doctor has it listed as a medication allergy to assure I will never be put on it again. It made my depression so much worse and lead to 2 suicide attempts.

Anonymous posted in Pregnancy & Childbirth Aug 09

Might be pregnant with number 2?

Hi, I'm just curious I'm 19 young mother I had my baby girl in 2015 she'll be two in December but, I think I might be Pregnant with number 2. I'm wondering is there any other mothers support with raising two? I'm kind of scared my husband and I make our household work quite nicely but, we only have a two bedroom I just want some advice for not being scared to have my second ... More

  • Coley
    Aug 10

    I feel like the second time around is easier. My first was 2yrs and 4m when my second was born. The end of my second pregnancy was very rough chasing a toddler around, but it gets easier every day.

  • Diana
    Monday

    My daughter is two and I’m pregnant with no2 as well. I have my worries too on how I’m gonna handle everything on my own. Everything will work out just fine and sure keep seeing your therapist

Anonymous posted in Labor & Delivery Aug 09

External Cephalic Version (ECV)

Has anybody had this procedure before? I’m scheduled for one next week because my baby is still breech, and I’m nervous about it! Also if anyone had a C-Section and would care to share anything about the experience, I would appreciate that, too. Thank you!

  • Anonymous
    Thursday

    Just FYI, had the procedure. It hurt really badly and it didn’t work, so we scheduled the c-section. I’m nervous but hopefully it will go okay!

  • B
    Thursday

    Good luck! My csection recovery almost hurt less than the ECV...stay ahead of the pain with meds for the first week

10 week ultrasound

So I’m 10 weeks along and during the ultrasound, my doctor said “that’s not a penis, that’s a tail. They don’t have their parts yet”. But I’ve read in multiple articles that the tail is supposed to be completely gone at 10 weeks. Does anyone know if this is true? I’m asking because I really want it to be a girl! Here’s the picture with the tail

  • Ashlee
    Aug 09

    That’s what I was thinking, but I wasn’t sure. Thank you!

  • Anonymous
    Aug 10

    Genitalia doesn’t grow for quite some time.

Anonymous posted in Just for Fun Aug 06

Positive pregnancy test - ideas on how let hubby know

Okay Parents, please share any fun ways you let your partner know another one is on the way! Got my blood work back this afternoon and husband is working late so I have time to make it a fun surprise! All ideas welcomed, would like to include my son on the fun too. Ahhh, so excited!!

  • Anonymous
    Aug 07

    Thank you everyone, some great ideas! I don’t know how some of you waited, it was so hard to hold it in for one day. Ended up finding a “Big Brother” shirt for my son and a card that said “Yay” and blank inside, so I added: We did it again, we’re pregnant! Was perfect as I had my son run in and give him the card, which hubby didn’t know why he was getting a card and I could see him trying to r... More

  • Miranda
    Aug 10

    One day after I told my SO I was pregnant we saw the cutest announcement in a tv show, “Baby Daddy” He kept asking me why I didn’t tell him this way! On the show, the girl got down on one knee and handed him a box. When he opened it there was a pacifier inside. Super cute!

Anonymous posted in For Moms Aug 05

Are your mom friends getting weird after you announce second pregnancy?

My husband and I are just starting to tell people we are pregnant. I am surprised by my mom friend responses. “Are you taking organic vitamins? I can’t believe you’re working out while pregnant...why are you telling people so soon...” the comments go on. What the heck? Is this normal?

  • Lulu
    Aug 05

    People suddenly know everything when you're pregnant, and they aren't afraid to tell you! It's the worst.

  • JJ
    Aug 06

    Not saying it’s right, but get used to a lot of unsolicited advice and judgment now that you’re going to be a mom. Learn to brush it off. You do what’s best for your family and you do not need to justify your decisions to anyone.

Anonymous posted in Labor & Delivery Aug 05

Losing your mucus plug?

I’m 37weeks pregnant with my 2nd and I’m pretty sure I lost my mucus plug Friday morning but the discharge has still kept coming. Is this normal, how long does it take to lose? Because I don’t remember it at all with my 1st

  • Anonymous
    Aug 05

    Thank you, but that’s good to hear, because I’ve been contracting pretty bad since Friday evening and it coming and going

  • Sara
    Aug 05

    Sounds like you are very close to having the baby! If the contractions start getting regular and close together go in. I went in at 15 mins apart and had the baby a few hours later. Second children come quick!

Anonymous posted in Parent's Health Aug 02

Is this the new me? Always angry

I’m noticing that I’m angry a lot. I usually (before baby) am a very happy person. Having a baby has been the greatest joy and blessing that’s ever occurred in my life, it’s also been one of the most difficult times in our relationship. Ummm does this ever get better? Will I stop being so angry or is this like how all new moms are.... angry. FYI baby is now 12 months, will I ever see my old sel... More

  • Jennifer
    Aug 06

    Hi Anonmymous, take it easy. I think it will go away in time. I too went through the same phase, as I didn't have any help with my kids from either side of the family. And when we do go visit my MIL that would nag or criticize the way I take care of my babies. They even let my daughter who was 2 at the time sip on their ice coffee they were drinking thinking it was ok for the kids to tr... More

  • Moxie LCSW Corp
    Aug 10

    Postpartum Support International and 2020Moms have great info on this. Anger is common and might be a symptom of PMAD. You are not alone. Do you have a supportive groups of mom friends in your community?

Anonymous posted in Pregnancy & Childbirth Aug 02

Is it safe to eat prosciutto while pregnant?

  • Lulu
    Aug 04

    Yeah I craved turkey sandwiches the whole time I was pregnant! Guess what I had in the hospital? I'd be having prosciutto waiting on me post delivery if I was you! 😉

  • Anna
    Aug 05

    I feel you too! I’m going to have sushi, beer, deli sandwiches, prosciutto, Eggs Benedict, medium rare steak...the list goes on!! 😜

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