Stay-at-Home Parents

Parenting full-time is one of the most demanding and rewarding jobs there is. You'll share every moment with your child and help them every step of the way.

Talk to other stay at home parents and get advice on everything from activities for kids to daily routines to taking time for yourself.

Anonymous posted in Family Life Feb 13

SAHM, does your SO remind you how you’re not working/bring home a paycheck?

It seems like anytime we argue my SO brings it up. How I can’t spend money. Or paying the bills. Etc. it just hurts my pride so much, I used to work and did whatever I wanted with my money, Now with kids, we thought it’d be better for me to stay home and watch them so we won’t have to pay for daycare.

  • Ashleigh
    Today

    This is so hard! And I have so many thoughts on this! There is a website that calculates what a stay at home parent would earn if they were paid for all services provided - typically over $100K! What you are doing is so valuable, and exhausting! I don't know if this is possible in your situation, but maybe try going out of town on his time off. I'm guessing you might not actually get ... More

  • Anonymous
    4h ago

    He won’t let me put them in daycare either lol, he doesn’t trust strangers to watch our kids and I get that. And the kids behave so much better for him! 😩 they cling to me 24/7

Anonymous posted in Family Life Dec 28

How much time does dad spend with his kids?

How much time does the father of your child(ren) spend with them? My partner and I are raising three kids together. The older two are his from a previous marriage, but we have them most of the time. The youngest is ours together. I’m a SAHM and my partner works from home a lot of the time. His work is often slow, so he is home doing nothing all day. He rarely helps me with anything and doesn’t ... More

  • anonymous mom
    Jan 17

    Your husband needs to grow up. I have only one child and my husband does have a grown stepdaughter from his first marriage who he still maintains close contact with (and who we call my daughters sister since she’s going to otherwise be an only child). Anyway me and my husband both work but we also both pick up all the slack at home. From cooking, cleaning, and outdoor stuff to child rearing. I ... More

  • Leelee
    Jan 30

    Was this something new he picked up after you moved in together or was he always a man child who played video games in the basement? Did he spend lots of time with the older two kids before you got pregnant? Or was he always like this and you just hoped he would change once y'all's baby showed up? While the article posted has some good points. It's mainly the overlooking of bad part... More

Anonymous posted in Babywearing Dec 12

How do I leave the house?!

I have a 2yo still naps religiously and a 4mo who we are just starting to get on a regular nap schedule. I am just wondering how other parents in this situation found success in leaving the house for errands, appointments, etc. I feel a bit trapped in the house (it's also winter in New England) and don't know how to go about doing this. Maybe I just need to give it some time? I'm no... More

  • Kieli
    Dec 13

    I just go ... mornings are usually busy, my baby wakes up early and my toddler sleeps in. So after my baby goes down for her morning nap, I get my toddler ready and fed. Then after the baby wakes I get her dressed and then leave immediately. I try not to be out of the house for more than an hour or two tops, my baby gets cranky when she’s in the car seat for too long. My toddler has not been wa... More

  • Jennie
    Dec 16

    I have 5 kids under 9 so trust me when I say I've been working around nap schedules for years. Lol At 4 months, the nap schedule isn't totally consistent yet so don't kill yourself over it but in the next couple months this is what I usually do... errands/park/library etc. are done in the morning. Baby naps in stroller or in carrier. We get home by lunch time, or plan to eat out/pa... More

SAHM migraines and a toddler

Question...what do you do when you have a bad migraine to where you almost cant function and you have a toddler at home? I am lucky I dont get as often but due to kidney issues I'm not suppose to take excedrin or ibuprofen. I will occasionally take the excedrin anyways but at that point it has been hours. What do you do with your toddler? Most of the time I lay in his bed while he plays but... More

  • PK
    Nov 15, 2019

    I put the tv on. Like you, I don’t get it often. I’m lucky that I can take medication for it though. But some times it doesn’t work and the tv is on until my husband gets home

Anxiety about walking toddler

So I'm a SAHM and my kid is 20 months and she gets into EVERYTHING. I think a daily schedule is needed but I have depression and anxiety so its hard for me to even have the energy to follow a kid and internally freaking out everytime she gets into something, does anyone know what I can do to improve?

  • Kieli
    Nov 15, 2019

    Definitely baby proof, if all the dangerous things are put up and the only things she can get into is toys, then let her play and dump them all out. I have a 2 yr old and a 6 month old and I don’t really have a set schedule, just kind of a routine I like to follow. Starts with breakfast for both, then nap for 6 month old and independent play for 2 year old. Usually by the time the baby wakes it... More

  • Angelica
    Nov 16, 2019

    There are lots of toddler schedules online that you can base yours off of. Designate a couple of rooms, like the child’s room and maybe a play room or living room where you and your child will spend most of your time. Put away problematic things in those rooms and baby proof them so that these rooms are safer. Baby gate the other rooms so your child can’t even get into those rooms. It doesn’t t... More

Anonymous posted in Money Nov 13, 2019

SAHM feeling unimportant

Before my 10 month old son, I was very financially independent and never relied on anybody for anything. Until I became a stay at home mom. My husband is always very supportive with my decision to stay at home but financially it’s getting difficult. Always having to ask him for money for my and the babies needs makes me feel so worthless. I feel like my decision to be a SAHM has put us in the h... More

  • Anonymous
    Nov 14, 2019

    Is this post more about finances and what to do or is there something else going on about feeling appreciated for what you do at home? Details seem to be about finances but the title of your post suggests otherwise. As far as the finances, I would sit down and budget out what can be spent on needs each month and find out where you can cut costs. My husband and I have our own personal checking... More

  • Anonymous
    Nov 14, 2019

    I was in the same boat for a long time. I had never known a time when I was unemployed and not working at least 60 hours a week...until I had a baby. The reality is that since I’m a SAHM, I work 24/7. My husband and I agreed that financially, it was more cost effective for me NOT to have a job. We don’t have a big surplus of cash lying around but we recognize where we can spend money - we love ... More

Anonymous posted in Family Life Nov 13, 2019

My mom criticizes me as a SAHM

It breaks my heart to admit & share that my mom does not make me feel proud of my current situation as a full time SAHM. Back story, she had me (unplanned & not yet married) at 19, then I think somewhere in between that, my parents decided to get married before I was born. But I know the full story because it’s like a bedtime story to me. At a young age, she kept reminding me of what th... More

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Nov 12, 2019

SAHM Issues

I’m at SAHM mom and I know I should be grateful but these last few days I’m mostly just annoyed and tired. My son is 10 months old and some nights he sleeps great others not so much. My spouse leaves home around 6am and is back around 5pm so it’s a long day. Some days I seem to have a hold on things but the days where I don’t omg it’s horrible. My son does well when we leave the house but after... More

  • Penelope
    Dec 02

    I work and take care of the baby all the time. I went from one cup of coffee a day to four. And I literally do everything from pick up to drop off to cleaning and shopping. I also worked graveyard and now I do swings. And my kid is still up till 3am sometime later. I usually don’t sleep more than two or three hours and sometimes not at all. And my baby daddy comes home maybe ever couple days an... More

  • Penelope
    Dec 02

    P.S. stay at homes moms that keep a clean house and do all the cooking etc, work the equivalency of two and a half full time jobs. Once again, women rock!

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Oct 23, 2019

The topic of loneliness

I’ve been a stay at home mom on & off since my little guy was born ( he’s 3 now ) due to some surgeries. I’m only 23 & lately I’ve been feeling lonely. What I mean is that literally I have no friends since everyone just kinda walked away when I told them I was expecting. I don’t hold grudges , but I can’t seem to find mom friends or anyone I can talk to about even mom topics. Yes I ha... More

  • JEaton
    Oct 24, 2019

    It's hard making regular friends, let alone mom friends - be it differences in parenting styles, the kids are on different nap schedules, etc.. I'm a sahm to my 2.5 year old and have been since he was born. It's just my husband and I and the only friends I had were the ones I worked with, but it's hard to keep up when they're still working full time. I made the few mommy... More

Any stay at home moms returning to college online

I am a stay at home mom of four toddler boys (7,6,3,2) and I want to return to college as an online student for my early childhood education degree. Any advice? Thanks in advance

  • Sofi
    Oct 06, 2019

    When does your smallest turn 3? I found it very hard to return when my son was 2. I have 3 kids a boy that just turned 4 a boy that will turn 3 next month and a 1 year old daughter. I don't have alot of help from my husband I'm sure if I had more support I would have been able to but he works very long hours and is much older than me so I am waiting for.my daughter to turn 3 so she can ... More

  • Lil Ma
    Oct 07, 2019

    Thanks sofa for replying to my question. I appreciate it. And to answer your question my 2yr old turns 3 in February

FTM Needs advice on making Mommy Friends

Hi everyone! First time mom to my son born in November. I'm also a stay at home mom. I love the fact that I get the chance to stay home and watch my son reach all his milestones, but I feel like I'm slowly going crazy from lack of adult interaction! I've tried some mommy groups on Facebook and while I think I click with some moms, the feeling doesn't seem to be mutual. How do ... More

  • Courtney
    Sep 24, 2019

    Yojana. Girl PREACH!! I live in WV and as if the extreme poverty, homelessness, drug addiction / overdoses etc weren’t bad enough. Our state is so ass backwards it’s like dog years but double or more. 1 year hear is like 14+ years somewhere else. Unless you are an addict / in recovery, a foster child or parent, or an incarcerated felon - there are no initiatives or programs or community events... More

Anonymous posted in Parent's Health Aug 05, 2019

Health insurance

I am a stay-at-home single mom (I know... sounds crazy). I have an 18 month old and am hoping to stay home with him until he starts kindergarten. I have the financial means to make this happen, but I am going to lose my current health insurance in about a year. My son is covered under his father, so I will just need it for myself. I have several preexisting conditions that require (expensive) m... More

  • B
    Aug 05, 2019

    Check the open market for your state

Any moms feel stir crazy from the transition to becoming a stay at home mom?

Nobody warns you about how hard the transition from working all the time and having to change over to being home all day not having any adult interaction. A part of me feels bad about this because I love my son and want to be with him all the time yet crave to have that “importance again” Any advice ?

  • Sarah
    Sep 15, 2019

    I’m going through the exact same thing. It’s really tricky because this baby time is so short yet somehow so challenging. Even when you start new projects—It’s also so hard because as soon as you take an hour or half hour or let’s be real 10 minutes to work on a project e.g. fix the garden etc, baby cries! Then when you’re on your way over to tend baby,husband doesn’t understand and mentions yo... More

  • Y
    Sep 22, 2019

    Seriously, being a FTM is the hardest thing I’ve every had to do. I am incredibly grateful to be with my 3yr old and infant everyday versus a daycare. But I do wonder how other moms survive. I’m lucky to have 5 minutes to myself. And always plan to have some self care time when they go to sleep, but by then I’m exhausted. On top of it all, I’ve been trying to find a part time job to substitute ... More

Courses and continued learning

What are some classes you have or would like to take that you feel would be useful as a stay-at-home parent? Ex: CPR

  • PK
    Jul 12, 2019

    I took a child development class, one where we were allowed to bring our kids with us to class so that they could play and socialize while parents/students discussed the topics. Part of the class requirements was to develop an activity and craft that was age appropriate.

  • Natasha
    Jul 15, 2019

    Child development classes, cpr, cooking, organization, home maintenance... anything that will benefit you and what occupies your day,

Anonymous posted in Stay-at-Home Dads Jul 10, 2019

“Do you still LIKE being AT HOME?”

I always get asked this question and wonder how others handle it. It completely annoys me because what I want to say back is “Do you still like going to work?” I know that staying at home (which I hate that term because we are always out) is not for everyone but I feel like people say it to me since they don’t always know what to say.

  • Anonymous
    Jul 11, 2019

    If it’s genuine for me to ask them if they like working but don’t you miss being with your children, then sure?

Anonymous posted in Parenting Culture Jul 07, 2019

What do you say when people ask what you do all day?

Hi! How do you respond to people when they ask you what you do all day? I'm a stay at home mom with a child who now attends preschool.

  • Suz
    Aug 10, 2019

    Not that it’s their business but some things I did when my kiddo was at preschool but before my 2nd baby arrived include managing the house and bills, researching schooling/ nutrition/ health concerns for the child(ren), self/care such as doctors appointments, dentist, physical therapy or anything needed like that, prepping for meals needed later in the day/week, making calls / being present f... More

Anonymous posted in Child Care Jul 01, 2019

Transitioning FROM daycare (SAHM)

We are planning for our second child and realized, even if both of us are working, daycare costs will be out of reach. I’m nervous on two fronts and would appreciate any advice or stories regarding two transitions: 1 - from being a full time worker to full time SAHM (I admittedly was VERY ready to return to work at the end of my first maternity leave) 2 - how to transition baby #1 OUT of day... More

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Jul 04, 2019

    When I had my first, I was ecstatic to return to work. Everyone told me I was going to be devastated and cry, and I loved it. I felt like I had it all. As my second child came close to being due (17 months apart), I asked to go part time to make life balance easier (I loved my job, and my husband and I honestly could afford to put both in daycare based on our pay and work from home flexibility)... More

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Jul 01, 2019

Lonely

Anyone else out there lonely? I’m a SAHM and have 3 young kids and a great husband but could really use a friend to chat with whether online or in person sometimes. Am I the only one feeling this way?

  • Ashlee Leal
    Jul 28, 2019

    Yup lonely here. Have a husband in the oilfield with 4 kids u see the age of 12

  • Genesis
    Oct 12, 2019

    SAHM with 3 young kids and a wonderful husband. If you need a friend. I'm here to talk.

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