Adult Children

Discussions and advice on parenting an adult child from sending your kid off to college to becoming a grandparent.

MIL doesn’t date, her son told her “not to”

My MIL is single/divorced (despite whatever weird relationship is going on with her ex-husband... I won’t go into details lol). During a tumultuous time in their life, my husband had to step up and become the adult early on in his life. He always said, “you don’t date or marry anyone, no one will treat you well” as a means of protecting/loving his single mom. They were very close for a while u... More

  • Anonymous
    Aug 31, 2019

    How long has she been single? Has she already been obsessing over your child? Is your husband the biological father? Asking all this because it based on what you said, it sounds like your MIL has been single for a while and I’m making the assumption that your husband is the biological father of your 1 year old (info provided next to your name). So wouldn’t you know if she would obsess over th... More

  • cocomac
    Sep 02, 2019

    Yes biological father and she has been single for a long time. She is hugely obsessive and lives for any and all attention. She works part time and has friends she sees so that’s good. I’m still wondering if she’s actually holding back dating due to what my husband said. Eventually her other son will move out.. and she could get lonely.. I guess it’s. A Lesson learned. If I was her. I would be... More

I am gramma to two girls 3 & 4 -must i follow their parents rules completely or not

  • Aya
    Jul 25, 2019

    hm. Gramma on dad's side or mom's side? depends on the relationship you have with your son/daughter. My mom doesn't follow all my rules - and I let her slip ;)

  • anonymous mom
    Jan 17

    Of course you should. Did you let your mom/mil stomp all over your boundaries? Even if you answer yes, that doesn’t mean your grandchild’s parents need to give you the same level of access.

Anonymous posted in Adult Children Jan 14, 2019

How do I get my Adult son to respect me? He has this chip like I owe him something.

  • T
    Jan 15, 2019

    Check him put him in his place or he will continue to do as you allow.

  • Jo
    Jan 18, 2019

    My middle son who is not quite an adult but at 17, close enough and old enough to know better was the same way. I finally pulled him aside and told him that he needed to stop treating me like crap, that nobody on this planet owes him ANYTHING. I told him I’m done being treated like that and from this point forward he needs to treat me exactly how he wants me to treat him because I. AM. DONE. He... More

Anonymous posted in Adult Children Dec 27, 2018

Help please

I’m on my period but it’s light My toddler keeps hugging kissing my stomach and always wants to be rubbing it . I’m concern because it’s in excessive. Is there a way it’s a sign I can be expecting I’m hella concern because I have the peragaurd birth control


My oldest child (who is 18) is leaving for college in less than four weeks. She’s moving to live on-campus about three hours north of here. I just had a baby too! (Past July). I have a 17 year old, an 8 year old, and a 1-month old at home. Am I supposed to feel too sad about this or am I overreacting since it’s just a few hours north (Santa Barbara)? Has anybody been through this?

Anonymous posted in Adult Children May 05, 2018

I'm afraid my child is doing drugs.

  • Crimson
    May 21, 2018

    Talk first. Don't accuse. Go to a program for you and husband like Al-anon and they can and will help you. Why do you think this? Your gut is probably right. If true, and even if not, reach out for help. Alateen is also good. My heart is w you.

  • lotuzgammi
    May 25, 2018

    You’re intuition is never wrong . My son was drinking NyQuil and I kept asking if he was taking drugs he kept saying no but I knew something was wrong so I put everything in my room a certain way to see if he’s touched my meds and found four bottles of NyQuil empty before I’d ever opened them 😔

New mom after 23 years

Hello everyone, my name is Angie and I recently gave birth to a beautiful baby boy after 23 years. I have a 23 year old daughter and after my husband and I were told by his doctor that he could no longer have children this baby was a true blessing for us. Even though I've raised one child I feel like this is all new to me. Anyone going the the same experience as I am? I must admit my anxiet... More

  • Lisa
    May 05, 2018

    My husband was the youngest of 6. All of his older brothers were already married when he was born. They treat him like a nephew and completely forget that our sons were their parents' youngest grandchildren. At each parents' funeral, both our sons and my husband were pretty much left out. Remind your older child (ren) to treat the new one as an equal. BTW, congrats!

  • Elle
    May 05, 2018

    Congrats! Also, I have [i think] a slightly different take on what one of the above posters mentioned. Definitely agree that both your kids need to understand that they are both your kids and that both should treat each other kindly and fairly. But I would suggest adjusting (loosening) expectations of them having a 'traditional' sibling relationship. They may, but they also may not ... More

My high functioning autistic son is refusing to chose a college. He got into NYU and nyit and Hofstra and Adelphi. Any advice?

  • Belinda
    Apr 23, 2018

    Some kids with choose not to go but encourage him to go by taking to the college's and ask if you and him can tour the campus plus maybe set up with someone to show him around with a few class and allow him to spend the night or weekend there.also let your son know he can live at home and he don't have to live on campus

  • Anonymous
    May 08, 2018

    My little brother who is on the spectrum is going through a similar struggle. My mom realized that he is having anxiety because of the change in routine and the uncertainty about the future. If you think that might be the case making possible schedules for the different schools could help him feel better and help with the decision.

My older daughter is not nice to her much younger sibling (14 years apart). I get angry because I expect more from her, then she shuts down. I don’t know what to do.

  • Joe
    Apr 23, 2018

    Is she the oldest? Was she the only child before the sibling came along? If that’s the case, I feel she resents the attention the younger sibling gets and sometimes they get jealous of them. But you may want to set aside special Mom and daughter day and go out together; just the two of you and spend some quality time to get to know her at he stage in age. Read more about teenage behavior becaus... More

  • Sara
    Apr 23, 2018

    When a second child comes along, the older child experiences displacement, both from their place in the family and in their identity (and identity is HUGE in the adolescent stage). Also, she may not know how to get what she wants from the youngster in positive ways. Making time for just her periodically is a must, so she knows she hasn’t been replaced. Also, think if there is another child her ... More

Anyone out there with college age kids with ASD? My 19 year old is struggling.

I hate that my children are now all grown, although they have given me 15 beautiful grandchildren to love and enjoy.

  • Lisa
    May 05, 2018

    I have PPMS and my greatest wish is a grandchild. I'm 55, my mom passed away at 47, 3 months before her first grandchild was born

Anonymous posted in Adult Children Jan 29, 2018

I have been in my step children’s lives for the better part of 10 years. They are now 18 and 22 and have been living with us full time for almost 3 years. Their mother is “in” their life but her involvement reminds me of a dolphin. She’ll come into their lives for a dinner here or a movie there but for the most part she has not contributed financially and leaves most of the heavy lifting to us... More

  • Anonymous
    Mar 14, 2018

    Your husband needs to compromise with you. When he says “be patient” you need to ask him what type of timeline he sees in his head. Patient for 6 more months, 1 year, 5 years (jk) but what does he mean? And if the 22 year old isn’t contributing financially you need to have a talk with that one. And the chronically unemployed kid needs to contribute in other ways (chores around the house and spe... More

  • Debra
    check_circleChild Care Provider Jan 14, 2019

    Step Parent with no voice! You have a voice you just have to get your sweet husband to listen. I also had no voice. With the help of counseling I got my voice. My husband listens and has learned to trust my voice. That I will do the right thing for everyone in our home. Good luck with finding your voice!

Yesterday my first born went off to college. I am terrified that I didn't teach him or I didn't tell him or I wasted so many opportunities to show him the right choices vs. the wrong because I am a single mother who is currently unemployed, without all the basic necccessities to provide a " normal" childhood.

  • Maria
    Aug 22, 2017

    Teenagers eventually makes their own decisions. They learn by example and I can already see that you are a wonderful caring parents. He knows you love him and having a job or not doesn't change that. Write him letters and send him lots of care packages.

  • Hm
    May 11, 2018


my kid came out as gay today, what do i do?

  • Debra
    check_circleChild Care Provider Jan 14, 2019

    Pray for your family, LOVE YOUR CHILD!!!!!!

I am a younger mom of a new adult son. We grew very close because his dad passed when he was a toddler. I re married and together we had two sons. Mine being the youngest is setting out to live his own life. We were very involved in sports and family. All throughout their lives in between practices and games I made sure we went to all family gathering, birthdays and holidays, his, mine, ... More

  • 37piecesOFflair
    Apr 13, 2017

    You are a superhero. But don't be too stressed with this at this point-he's trying to find his own path. Easier said then done I'm sure but don't take it personally-it's that age. Once he settles into his own life, mom will become main support role again. For now, just try to be supportive and keep like bed of communication open in case he needs you. Even when they enter adu... More

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