My son is 10 months old and his half sister is exactly 3 years older than him. She is at our house every other weekend on average and he has such a hard time. He wants to do everything she is doing and touch everything she is touching - which isnt always safe or practical. He just whines and whimpers if I keep him from going over to what shes doing and he wont eat or nurse if shes in sight. We ... More
How to determine if you should work through it or get divorced. I take my vows seriously so I don’t just want to up and leave when it get rough. My husband and I have been together for almost 13 yrs and married for almost 10yrs. We have 7 children, it is a his,mine, and ours. Which the kids don’t know that and we don’t use the word step. My husband has adopted mine I plan on to adopt his when ... More
I posted a few months ago and it made me feel so much less alone in my situation... so now I'm back for more. For over a year I've been dating a single dad. He's the best. He's raising 2 kids mostly on his own. The kids seem to like me and I've been getting to know them better. My boyfriend and their mom are in the process of getting divorced. It is complicated for many re... More
Any step-moms/ soon to be step-moms that can share their story and how their relationship is with the kids and bio mom? Especially when you come into their life when they are under 2 years old? Also, any biological Moms that have a step-mom in their kids life and how they feel about it? Do they call you Mom?
They don’t have to do chores. How do I suggest that they start?
Hello! While not here to completely decide my future, I do want to get some thoughts on a matter. I have a 3 yo step-kid with my spouse. That kid is the only kid in our family and the other side... as in my spouse and their ex-wife only had the one kid, the ex-wife hasn’t had another kid, and we haven’t had another kid. So it’s just the one. But both sides of the family are now talking about h... More
Anytime my boyfriend or I ask his youngest daughter, 5, to do anything she throws a fit saying she can’t do it, it’s too hard, or my favorite, “I’m just a little girl, I can’t do this.” We can’t figure out how to handle this appropriately without having a fight every time we ask her to clean her room or pick up her mess in the play room. We know her mother, who’s been in her life periodically a... More
I have an 11 yr old step daughter. Been apart of her life for two years. Recently she’s discovering her mom is not really interested in her personally, just in having occasional updates on her life and pictures to post to Facebook so she can pretend to be involved and a good mother. 11yr old for the most part feels pretty uninterested in her mom, and whines a lot about how ironic it is that eve... More
His attitude has been off the charts and we dont know what else to do. He has a set schedule that very rarely ever varies since he does not like changes in plans. His behavior and talking back has been getting worse and we have tried everything we can think of. Sitting and talking out what hes feeling, ignoring the tantrums, time outs, grounding him from privaledges. What else can help. I know ... More
So my stepdaughter is 7 and she wont quit pooping in her pants and does it multiple times a day. We make her go and sit when she does it and she just plays on the toilet and doesnt even try no matter how long she sits there. I can't seem to get past this disgusted feeling and incredible frustration when ever I even just look at her. There is no bond there because she just grosses me out and... More
“It was like a marriage, only better. We had a kind of invisible rota. We cooked proper dinners for each other every night. We had roles.” Incredible story of redefining family after the end of a marriage. Has anyone ever tried something like this?
Me and my fiance just got his 3 kids back. Got the 7&9 year olds back in December when I was 4.5 months pregnant with my 1st and the 17 year old in May when the baby was 1.5 months old. Trying to transition all of the kids to work together at all different ages is so hard. Any suggestions to help me get them to see their family and work together rather then constantly fighting an telling on... More
I have a daughter with my SO and 3 children of my own from a past relationship. Right now we’re having the hardest time of having them respect him. He provides for all of us with whatever he can. We have a home, food, and when he can he’ll buy them whatever they ask for. But when it comes to him telling them they have to do a chore they get the worst attitude. My middle child will yell and thro... More
So I have two kids and they live with my fiancé and me. His two kids live with their mom. We get them every other weekend, one week night and every other Holiday. Which seems standard. Anyway, this year his kids birthdays fell on days that they were at the mom's house. We were broke so we just got them small gifts at our place, he took them out to eat and I made a cake. We didn't have ... More
My boyfriend and I have been together for about 5 years now. We have a LO of our own but he has another child with a previous gf of course an we barely speak to each other. Today he wants us to arrange a meet up for the LO so that I can pick her up but again, I barely know her an vice versa. Has anyone else have to be in this kinda situation? I don’t even know how to approach it an part of me w... More
So i am currently fostering my 4 year old neice (actually shes my boyfriends sisters little girl) i am having such a hard time with it. I love her so much but i also have a bio son and i feel how the connection is different. Her mom has severe paranoid schizophrenia and substance abuse problems cause her to loose this beautiful girl. She has been living with us for 8 months and with out her mom... More
I've been married to my husband for 9 years. He has had full and sole custody of his daughter since 2005 when she was about 2.5. Her mom lived 3 states away. I met him in 2007 and we were married in 2009. As loving as she could be, she was also very defiant and had a lot of problems with anger, lying, etc. Actually all this talk of family separation makes me wonder if this transition from... More