After you argue with your significant other... do you say sorry to eachother? Go into separate rooms? Leave the house or act like it never happened? How long does it take for that to happen? Do you stay mad for long?
So tonight my husband went to his dads house to have dinner, i ended up staying home since i wasn’t feeling too great. I told him to take our daughter with him since I know my FIL loves to see her. So about an hour and a half they come back home and i ask him how dinner was. He says it was great! And that his grandma was there as well. He also mentioned that they gave our daughter those yogurt ... More
How often is it reasonable to go out and stay out? How do you compromise? I don’t mind the going out part, it’s just staying out all night that bothers me when we have two babies. Or is this normal? Are parents still clubbing and getting drunk on a weekly basis till 3-4 am? (Not judging other parents just the jerk who’s left me to look after our kids alone)
I’m sure a lot of you have read about the “mental load” of being a mom. I feel this everyday. My Husband and I both work full time and although he does help a lot with the kids and has certain chores he does. I still feel like it’s a fraction of what I do. He doesn’t see the messes - he doesn’t understand that the kids can’t live on chicken nuggets. He doesn’t buy the car seats. What’s worse if... More
My boyfriend and I have a daughter who is now 4 months old, I do not trust anyone alone with my baby except my mom/ family. I’m a first time mom & I breastfeed my daughter. My boyfriend’s mom keeps pushing for alone time with my daughter, Which i do go in and out of the room but to ana extent. We have gone to his house and I noticed this calendar in the kitchen and his mom will be charting ... More
My husband and I have been together for 8 years. After some health issues and now having our little girl, I feel as though our marriage has lost its spark. I love my husband and have tried to talk to him about this and inevitably, I always feel bad for bringing it up... He doesn’t really like to talk about his feelings and it seems as though he doesn’t often like to open up to me like he used t... More
Husbands first thing is turn on tv for the toddler. I keep telling him in a nice way and even angry way that he can't do that. That we need time limit and discipline. And then he always gets upset and storms out and says fine do it your way. Im so tired guys. Today i mentioned that maybe ill just never do screen time so whenever sons time with him is t.v. time and thatll be enough. And of ... More
I felt bad and inconsiderate but is it okay for me to be fed up when my husband is acting like a big baby when he is “sick?” He had a tooth infection and got 1 wisdom tooth pulled. He is still in pain, which I completely understand and feel bad for him, but what I can’t stand is him wining and making pouting faces. “In sickness and in health” so how can I better deal with this. Anyone else ”cod... More
Does anyone else deal with this? When we first met he seemed to be interested in holidays, bdays, bbqs, etc. Now he will use any excuse to avoid them and even on Christmas morning, Easter morning he just lays in bed. Feeling alone and I don’t want to be miserable and miss out on all of these sweet memories with my little ones, but I feel like he makes my holidays miserable since he doesn’t enjo... More
So my husband is in the military. He’s a nuke. So his job can be stressful. Sometimes he finds himself down in the dumps and not motivated and feeling bad about himself. I’m worried about him since he’s not here( out at sea) How can I help motivate him? What can I do to make sure he knows that he is great and everything when we can only talk via email. My heart just aches for him Bc it’s not ... More
What do I do if I’ve tried everything and my partner still complains about having to stay with baby!
Partner works full time I work 14-16 hrs a week. The days I work I have a babysitter who stays for a few hours until he gets home. He stays maybe 4 hrs alone with him if not less. He always complains about having to stay with baby because he is tired. Last week was the last time I lost my nerve. I put the baby to sleep and I went to the store for formula (mind you it was to get formula I was ... More
My husband gets In these moods every week or so where he gets irritated over anything and everything. Last night he took over dinner because I wasn’t making it right. If I did this to him he would be pissed at me. I let him take over and then he follows me around complaining and scolding me in front of the kids. Other nights I ask him to watch dinner so I can watch the kids and he gets n... More
Currently live in a town that we love with great schools, great walkable downtown, and our family is all within a few mins, but spouse is taking a job that is only 18 miles away, but the commute is about an hour because of awful traffic. He wants to move so we are within 5 mins of his office, and the schools are actually even better there, but it’s not the same feel. I love our town and it’s wh... More
Interested to know the dynamics of other households. My spouse works close to 70 hrs a week, and I stay at home but work part time. He helps w occasional household chores, but never helps with the kids and never wakes up before me to get the kids up and ready. Will read our daughter a book once or twice a week before bed, but has never really been very involved with the kids and typically has l... More
The past 2 Mother’s Days (my only 2 so far) my husband never acknowledged that I was a mother. Last year, my FIL took my MIL and me out for a Mother’s Day brunch even! Anyway, he says that I’m not his mother so he doesn’t need to do anything which makes sense to me... but also isn’t this a day to celebrate that I am a mother and that he is a father and that we appreciate each other? I know we s... More
My husband and I have been going to couples therapy very sporadically. I feel like it has not helped at all. There is no regularity and we are there for 30-60 minutes. By the time we start talking about anything the session is over. I have gotten very little out of it. I am so discouraged!! How has others therapy been structured when it has worked?
My son fractured his elbow by falling off the back of the couch and I feel horrible about it. My husband isn’t making me feel any better either. I know it was my fault but he’s making the situation and me feel worse than I already do. I know he has the right to be upset at me because it happened on my watch but to make me feel worse about it is wrong. Am I right?
How do you deal/handle your emotions when your spouse feels they have helped your family enough, and if anyone asks for anything, the answer is no? Or my spouse said the exact words “what have you sacrificed for my family”. I didn’t even ask if we could lend my father money to float his business, I only told him that my mom told me he wanted to borrow money but she told him not to ask the ... More
I’m getting induced on Thursday and my husband and I have not yet agreed on a name. He said we do a coin toss but I honestly hate the name he has picked out. And he hates the name I have. Why would we flip a coin if one of us will be upset with the name..? Having a baby is a happy moment. I’ve given at least 4 other options he’s once considered, I’d even be okay with doing a coin toss but on a ... More
Ok so we hit 5yrs next year. And I know everybody normally does a 10 yr celebration, but if my husband is up for it I want to do maybe like a big celebration (if it’s even possible as we live 24hrs away from all of our family) or maybe an informal vow renewal. In my mind the first 5 years are hard. That’s where you truly learn everything about each other and come to love it and become one. For ... More