Single Parents

Support and discussions about raising kids solo, including dating as a parent, being a single parent by choice, birth parents, and more.

Anonymous posted in Single Parents Mar 31

Single Mom -> new relationship

My son is a year and a half I recently started seeing someone and I grew into a relationship when do you think would be an appropriate time to introduce him to my son?

  • Kristi
    Apr 01

    At this age it’s a little easier because your son isn’t at the age to make long term attachments or ask questions if someone isn’t there but I would say you need to make sure he will be around for a while. I’ve been single my son’s whole life and he’s only met a few of the guys I’ve dated and he’s 7. You just want to be sure that he isn’t going to get attached to someone you aren’t that serious... More

Evening or night shift?

I will be a single parent in the beginning of April and i dont know what shift i should go for to be able to be with my two year old son? I will be full time and a CNA?.

Terribles twos

Tantrums, daughter getting sick & starting a new job 😩😩😩Im a single parent and I feel like I just want to cry. It’s so over whelming... 😔

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Mar 16

    Ps, you are working hard and doing a great job. It’s okay to cry and be overwhelmed. I’ve done that. I hope somehow you get some time to yourself and feel proud of all you are doing for you and her!!

  • Ashlie
    Apr 08

    My daughter is almost 2 and throws fits but I just let her throw them and she quits pretty fast bc she knows she. Isn’t going to get attention from momma doing that lol...you’re doing great

Anonymous posted in Behavior Mar 12

Power Struggles with 5yo

I get that they’re common, but I’m so very tired of them and I feel overwhelmed by what might be in store for us. As a single-parent family, would it be wise to invest in some family counseling? Or is this something I should ride out for a while?

  • Anonymous
    Mar 14

    Thanks for the suggestions. I’ll look into the podcast and books. And counseling as well probably.

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Feb 13

I've had enough

I've been waiting for my boyfriend to propose...he said when I lost weight when we move into a bigger home and when he gets a better job...each time we achieve he comes up with another excuse...I poured my heart out countless times and I put so much love and attention into my family. Today I really laid it all on the table. I'm disgusted with myself for giving my all before we were even... More

  • T
    Feb 14

    Weight should not of been a requirement. Men KNOW who they want to marry... know your worth & NEVER SETTLE. A few months of instability could bring a lifetime of happiness. You never know how strong you are until it’s your only option.

  • Karla
    Feb 14

    Those sound like excuses and it also sound like you know wha t to do next. Someone once said to me " fear of the unknown " and I keep that in mind every single time I'm feeling that certain way. Is there any family maybe that can help while you get back on your feet?

I'm a recently separated single mom

I'm just hoping to find other people I can chat with to help me from going insane! My boyfriend and father of my son just left yesterday and it is so hard especially being a stay at home mom. Any advice or anything would really be helpful

  • Shaley
    Feb 14

    Aww thank you! That really does help!

  • Melissa
    Mar 29

    Hey girl. I’m on the same boat. I was married for 13 years and with him for 15 yrs. We have two beautiful children, a 12 year old girl & 5 yr old boy. We’ve been separated since October & it doesn’t look like we will be fixing things anytime soon. It’s heartbreaking for so many reasons but mainly because we moved across country together leaving behind our family & friends & all ... More

Anonymous posted in Single Parents Jan 21

Double bedtime for single parent

My husband and I are newly separated. I’m struggling with putting both toddlers to bed (1.1 and 2.4 years). I usually do one whilst the other plays with dad, and then come for the second. We didn’t sleep train our second, so it can take me 10- 25 minutes to put him down. Our first was the good sleeper, but is fussing and delaying for up to an hour after bedtime. I’m struggling. Tears and runn... More

  • Be
    Jan 24

    I put my baby down when feeding my toddler. Then I can spend time getting him down. Then once he asleep I get the older one ready for bed then if needed I can throw him into his bed and get to the baby. It's all balance and your doing great! Trial and error

  • Brenda
    Jan 31

    I am going through a similar situation and now I’m living alone with my three children and it is very hard getting them all to bed at the same time so that I can rest, basically I put them all in at the same time in the same room until they fall asleep it took me a while to get them to do this but after tucking them in over and over in a week it just became a habit for my 2.6 yr old my 9mo old ... More

Anonymous posted in Divorce & Separation Jan 05

Separating after baby comes

Husband and I are pregnant with baby #2 and have a very volatile relationship. Neither of us are happy and have tried counseling, etc to try to make it work. Baby #2 was a surprise and we had previously agreed to separate before we found out I was pregnant. Long story short, after baby comes we will be splitting and co-parenting. We have decided this on good terms, no anger or hostility just sa... More

  • Anonymous
    Jan 07

    I have a friend who did exactly this. It has been much better for their kids to co-parent but not be together. They live really close to each other to make the logistics easy. It will be hard in the beginning but just know you're doing the best thing for yourself and your kids.

  • Sandra
    Feb 01

    Before I got pregnant my babies father and I were having issues, I was going to break up with him,then I found out I was pregnant and tried to make it work for about 3 months before realizing that I did not want to be with him.I knew that for your kids you have to be okay for them to be okay,it will be hard at first because you’re going to need help,and since you will be separated,it’s going to... More

Questions about safety

Recently I’ve been having anxious thoughts because one of my co workers unfortunately passed away of a heart attack. I am a single mom of a 2 year old toddler and for a quick second a question popped up in my mind. What if one day I suddenly passed out or have a medical emergency and it’s only me and my son in the house. How would I get help and how would he know to seek help for me? This thoug... More

  • Ciara Grey
    Jan 06

    Yes I have often worried about this!! Teach age appropriate independency. I find it helpful to have an Amazon Alexa in the living room I taught my son (now 3 yes old) how to say “call Nana” & it will dial my mom. She’s been prepped too. I also have a WiFi camera that my mom has access to. If you trust someone enough to share that info with and who wouldn’t invade your privacy I would. Also ... More

  • Tyler
    Jan 15

    No! Stop planning, I think for our own sanity we need to slow way down on the planning. Logically this scenario could happen, the likelihood is extremely slim. #dadofreason

My boyfriend's complicated + expensive divorce stresses me out. How do I live with this?

I posted a few months ago and it made me feel so much less alone in my situation... so now I'm back for more. For over a year I've been dating a single dad. He's the best. He's raising 2 kids mostly on his own. The kids seem to like me and I've been getting to know them better. My boyfriend and their mom are in the process of getting divorced. It is complicated for many re... More

  • Teena
    Dec 13, 2018

    You are on the right track!! I am in the same situation and I was so stressed out until someone said something that changed my whole outlook....His divorce is none of your business. I know it seems harsh, but truly it is not. His marriage was not your relationship and neither is his divorce. If he wants to come to you for support, then support him, but you cannot and should not be making any of... More

  • L
    Dec 13, 2018

    Yessss! Thank you Teena. I agree. It is none of my business.... Also I know this baggage isn't really going anywhere so a lot of it is about how I relate to the situation. He's started sharing less of the details with me and that has made it a little easier.

Anonymous posted in Child's Health Nov 15, 2018

ADHD.

I need desperately to get my son evaluated. For many reasons i can not explain. I am a single mommy of two with a part time job. And no where accepts our insurer of amerigroup for behavioral evaluations does any one have any recommendations, even if i have to come out of pocket. I can’t afford it but i know my baby needs it.

  • B
    Nov 15, 2018

    How old is your son? Is he in school? Should be free. Have you talked to the pediatrician?

  • Les
    Nov 16, 2018

    The county you live in should have some kind of community behavioral health center.

Depression and baby

Hello I'm a 27 year old single mom with an 18 month old toddler. I recently moved in with my brother and I'm still a stay at home mom. My depression is getting worse every month and I'm having anxiety and I guess if there is a term for grown up separation anxiety. Everything my brother would leave for work I just break down and cry. I feel like I just want to run away and I hate it ... More

  • Abby
    Nov 16, 2018

    The best “advice” I can give to you being a SAHM for 4 years now is get outside and take your baby with you. Enjoy beautiful brisk walks - find new spots to view gorgeous sunrise/sunset views. Go to your local library and meet other Mamas and Papas going through the same thing. Most people are there for the same reason as you. Take your baby everywhere and involve them in everything you do. Nat... More

  • Shannon
    Nov 16, 2018

    I've been a stay at home mom for four pregnancies. I dealt with some of the feelings you had with my first and second child who are now teens. I also have a 5 and 6 year old now. My best advice is what my mom told me (can apply to any difficulty really..) say to yourself "this too shall pass". The situation is temporary. As they get older your life that seems challenging at the ... More

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Oct 26, 2018

Can I still anything???

So, my baby is 20 months. Almost 2. I am a single mom and have zero support. My family is not around. My friends are in a different city. I mean zero. I used to be a bad ass. Before I was a mom. I am a good mom (I think) but that is all, now. Everything I've tried to commit to for myself as a normal human has resulted in a failure. Like health commitments - social- job- continuing educati... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 28, 2018

    Thanks. It feels a little lonely sometimes. But just dancing with my little girl to worship music or anything / every thing she does is fun. But when it comes to adulting I feel slow 🙃 it really helps to have someone just understand and validate your thoughts and feelings. She's going to day school tomorrow!

Anonymous posted in Parenting Culture Oct 21, 2018

Feeling guilty

I am single mom who has joint custody of my daughter between my parents. I don’t see her often which breaks my heart but when do I have her I’m always exhausted because it’s my only time off. I work two jobs and full time college. I feel so guilty because I sleep in late which I feel like I miss out on time with her. Then I also feel guilty since I’m so tired my patience is very little and I fe... More

  • Stacey
    Oct 23, 2018

    First off don’t be so hard on yourself she can see that. I also work full time and go to school full time and have the kiddos and their after school whatnots going on. It sucks. As stated above it’s a means to an end and if you take the time to explain that and genuinely show you are doing the best you can they see that. My 7 year old loves me time when we sit on the couch with face masks on an... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 30, 2018

    Thank you for all your kinda words. I did what y’all said. Had a much better time just had to remember to breathe be patient don’t stress about things we can’t control

Single moms????

Any single moms on here just went through a rough breakup.... technically have been alone since two months prego since my ex was stationed in maryland. Please let me know what you did during this difficult time.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 08, 2018

    Right here. Took off when I was a month along, has never met his daughter who will be a year old in a week. I was in a bad place before I got pregnant and quickly realized he was not what I wanted after finding out I was pregnant. He cut all contact and tried to deny paternity. It's hard being alone in all of it but I tried to get comfortable with just having myself. Instead of looking for... More

Anonymous posted in Divorce & Separation Oct 04, 2018

Looking for advice

Hi im new to this and not sure how this works. I was wondering if any other single parents could give me some advice? I have a very smart 2 year old and he has been asking about his dad, like were is he when can he see him, those type of things. His father lives in another state so i tell him his in fl but he wants more answers and im not sure how to explain to a 2 year old that his dad is off ... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 05, 2018

    Thank you Lulu this is my post and that was my comment

  • Ashley
    Oct 05, 2018

    I tell my son that families come in many different shapes and sizes some with one parent or two dads or two moms or even no mom or dad , what matters is that you are surrounded by people that love you very much and we are thankful that we have the family that we do. I never talk negatively about his biological father (although he is a real piece of work ) to him because that would be very hurt... More

Interesting read on single moms joining forces

“It was like a marriage, only better. We had a kind of invisible rota. We cooked proper dinners for each other every night. We had roles.” Incredible story of redefining family after the end of a marriage. Has anyone ever tried something like this?

  • Jade
    Oct 02, 2018

    Love this! Such a beautiful example of our need for community and connection. What supportive, resilient women!

Overwhelmed

I just gave birth to my 3rd child last Saturday and I already have a 3 year old who will be 4 in November and a 2 year old. I am a single mom and it has been hard having all 3 together. My 2 year old is currently still in the potty training phase and very jealous of his new little brother and my 3 year old thinks he’s her baby and tries to be his mom. I know eventually things will get easier , ... More

  • Amanda
    Oct 15, 2018

    @Brandy E thank you so much ! It’s gotten a little better minus the getting sleep lol

  • Amanda
    Oct 15, 2018

    @Cassi thanks for that Cassie, I’ve been a stickler about washing the dishes as I and the kids use them but last night that was impossible and my house has not been able to be tended to as much because it seems sometimes when I put the baby down he wakes right back up and starts to cry and I’m only one person lol it’s hardest when I have to give my oldest two a bath or cook and the baby is cryi... More

Anonymous posted in Parent's Health Sep 16, 2018

Newborn FTM

I’m a First Time Mom and a heavy sleeper so I don’t sleep when my newborn sleeps because I’m afraid I won’t wake up when they cry. I haven’t slept the last 24 hours. I have no one to help me. I’m in desperate need of a nap 😴 what do I do?

  • B
    Sep 16, 2018

    Do you have a monitor? Crank the volume way up if you’re in a different room, or nap near the baby. You have to sleep or you’re doing the baby more harm than letting them cry while you quickly nap.

  • Christa
    Sep 16, 2018

    I was a heavy sleeper prior to my baby being born, and I now wake up when he even breathes out of “normal” when I am in another room. But he slept in a big boppie pillow when he was really little, and his crib was next to our bed too for months. You have to get sleep- obviously!! Try and build your trust with her and yourself! It helped me when my husband was gone at work, I would put baby on... More

Anonymous posted in Single Parents Sep 12, 2018

Does being a single mom get easier?

Hi I am 19 and I am 15 weeks pregnant I was told growing up it would be very hard for me to have kids because of some conditions I have but somehow I managed... when the dad found out he left and it is hard walking around looking at couples with kids and hearing stories from older friends about the dad being the best for their kid.. And I am scared my baby will be mad they did not grow up with ... More

  • Anonymous
    Sep 12, 2018

    Hi! I am 19 with a 10mo. I work 30-40 hours a week and go to school full time. My daughter's father and I broke up right when we found out as I came to many realizations. He stopped communicating with me 1 month into the pregnancy. It was lonely. My parents were very supportive, my mom became a mother at 19 as well, but it was still very isolating. I moved states away, so this didn't he... More

  • Ashley
    Oct 06, 2018

    Don’t forget that stuff people post on Facebook isn’t always the whole story. Just because they look like the perfect happy family doesn’t mean they are. Yes being a mom is hard but it is also the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to me!

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