Working Parents

Working parents have two jobs — one at home with their children and one at their place of business. Learning to balance it all is a tough but rewarding process.

This is a place to for working moms and dads to share experiences and get advice, whether it's tips on work-life balance or help finding child care.

Hong Chinese Learning daycare

Hong Chinese Learning Daycare Facility number: XXX-XXXX34 Tel: XXX-XXXX Email: elisedican@gmail.com Address: 25 Wilms Ave, South San Francisco,CA94080 Monday-Friday: 8:00am-6:00pm Drop in, Full time-part time This is a spacious, bright, safe ,clean and lovely family day care. There are many toys, mainly teaching Chinese. This daycare is now enrolling for one or more spaces. Lunch and morn... More

I don’t trust my boyfriend’s family to help with my son when he’s born.

I am currently 18 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend told me that his family will watch and care for our son while I work. I always wanted to have my own money and take care of myself, but I’m ready to throw all of that away to protect my son. I do not trust his family. In short, they’ve shown me time and time again that they are incapable of taking care of themselves, I’ve been around while they... More

  • B
    Sunday

    Oh hell no. Usually I think people are being over protective. But not a chance I’d leave my kid unsupervised there. Ever.

Anonymous posted in Child Care Friday

Getting underpaid by your employer: How to go about a money conversation.

I’m a Nanny for a wonderful family. I usually never keep track of my hours because I have a lot on my plate and my Nanny family is usually keeping track. I recently started tracking my hours as to better budget myself before my paycheck arrives. Today I received my paycheck to find several hours worth of pay missing, I went back to my written hours and recounted them and the math was correct, s... More

  • Ashley
    Yesterday

    There’s An app for tracking your hours look it up and you should definitely bring it up... u should get paid for all the hours and if they’re not paying you for your time then they r taking advantage of you best luck to you!

  • carrie isaacson
    Yesterday

    Or lo-fi also works. Print out a few paper timesheets, start keeping a binder at their house. Fill it in *as you arrive* and *when you leave*, clock in / clock out style. Take a pic at least on Fridays for your records. The suggestion above to send texts also works. Do you have a contract with your employer? Strongly recommended so everyone is on the same page.

Ideas for Christmas present to babysitter/daycare worker ??

  • Kieli
    Friday

    I just started babysitting a family friends son a few weeks back. Something I would personally like, would be a nail salon gift card. Doesn’t have to be much, $10-$15 would mean so much to me

C posted in Behavior Nov 07

Sudden attachment/abandonment issues?

My son has been in daycare since he was 9 months old. He never needed to adjust to his daycare. In fact, he likes it at daycare so much that when I pick him up there, he’s so into whatever toy he’s playing with that he doesn’t notice me. The staff there love that he’s the mellowest, easiest baby to look after. Now he’s 14 months old, and for the past 2-3 weeks he cries when I drop him off at ... More

  • Anonymous
    Nov 08

    Normal! Just keep your routine and everything the exact same, like all things baby, this will pass

  • Miss Maple
    Wednesday

    Your son may be giving you evidence of a cognitive leap - he loves you and does not like to see you go... and now he can remember that when you leave it is for a while, not just a moment. He will learn to manage those feelings AND the awareness that you will be gone for a while soon. As he grows he is likely to have other leaps of awareness that make separation difficult or (this can be worse f... More

Mom Friendly Career Change

Anyone have any suggestions? I’m looking to make a career change where I can earn a stable income from home. My previous jobs had me out of town too much and/or my income was canceled out by daycare costs.

2hr/day care?

Does there exist some sort of daycare that's about 2hrs per day? I'm at home with our almost 13 month old daughter and looking for something where she can get more consistent interaction with other kids (and adults too). I already have a mommy and me group, but that's only once/twice a week. Most of the daycare options are for half/full days and I'm not looking to drop her off for that much time.

  • B
    Nov 02

    She’s def going to cry when dropped at any daycare until she bonds with the teacher, etc. If it were me, I would think about a daycare for half days like two days a week, or increase the classes you take (music, gymnastics, etc). But that can get expensive fast.

  • MartCela
    Nov 09

    Hi, what city are you in?

Jess posted in Child Care Oct 30

Daycare drop off tips

Hey guys! My 19 month old son is just starting day care this week. He is having a pretty tough time at drop offs as he is now figuring out that I am going to leave. It's his first time in a child care setting so I know it's really tough for him to adjust. Any tips for a smooth transition? TIA!

  • Stacey
    Nov 01

    It's hard. Sometimes he is fine and just walks away and might say bye bye. Other times I get water works and nobody and nothing helps but they say he stops right after I'm gone. Our routine is I drop his diaper bag off, give him a kiss and hug and say bye bye and leave no matter his mood.

  • Jess
    Nov 04

    I agree with quick drop off. We also handed off our girl to the same teacher every time in the beginning and that helped as they bonded faster. If I leave as soon as hand off, she does fine but if I stay even 30 seconds, there are tears. My daughter is 18 months and started at 12 months. Took probably 6 weeks until no tears. Some days in those were better than others.

Anonymous posted in Child Care Oct 23

With the upcoming holidays & school breaks, how are parents handling childcare coverage?

I'd like to keep my daughter active (not just hanging around the house with a sitter) - there's got to be a better way than a Google search for what's available when school's out? Ideas? Thanks!

  • Masha
    Oct 24

    We have field trips offered through our after school program

Marie posted in Child Care Oct 23

How much should you expect your nanny to play with your 6 mo old?

My nanny gives my son only about 30 min to 1 hr a day of real one on one play time, and 30 min to an hour of play but with a phone or tv on (very distracted). The rest of the time is solo play, feeding (with no interaction like singing, reading, or talking) typically with the tv on, changing diapers, going for a walk or he's sleeping. We don't ask her to do anything else throughout her... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 31

    The going rate for a nanny to sit all day is $30 an hour. If she has goid experience and education. $19 is really not much for that job. Honestly, if you want to get more outta her, you have to pay more. However there are people out there that will do more just because they love the work. When searching look for heart of the person. It doesn't hurt to have the tv going for infants/toddlers.... More

  • Mayra
    Nov 02

    30hr for a nanny wow 😯 I’m in the wrong profession. I am a license vocational nurse and I make less. $19 hr sounds like a lot for taking care of a child. There’s Christian schools that are cheaper and your child will get to interact with kids his or her age group.

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Oct 19

Daycare worries

So I’m currently pregnant with my rainbow baby (after losing two this will be my first). Since I have had a stillbirth I am extra nervous about this one. Both me and my fiancé will have to work ASAP but I know I will be terrified to leave the baby alone with even people I know. I have heard so many horror stories and it just freaks me out to think about losing another baby especially worrying t... More

  • Vicki
    Oct 21

    If you are having someone watching baby in your home, they can start coming over while you’re still home and you can watch them with the baby and get comfortable with them and letting them know how you prefer things done. You can have cameras set up as well so you can check in when you are feeling anxious. If it’s going to be care outside the home, do a lot of research, have several meetings... More

  • Momof2
    Oct 23

    I’m sorry you’ve had to go through all that!!!Not sure what state you live in but if you’re in California the disability laws are great. Even if you live somewhere that doesn’t allow for extended baby bonding time I would shop around for an OB/GYN who would be willing to work with you after your baby is born. I know a mom who had severe anxiety about leaving her baby for multiple reasons so her... More

Anonymous posted in Child Care Oct 18

Should I Stick With Daycare?

Hi Everyone. My daughter who is 7 months started daycare 1 week ago. Understandably, my husband and I are having a tough time adjusting. When we drop her off in the mornings, she seems fine but by the time we pick her up she looks like a deer in headlights-it's like she looks right through me! She is crawling and super alert/observant, so we are wondering if daycare at this age is too overs... More

  • Lizo
    Oct 17

    Go with your gut. I hated putting my daughter in daycare as an infant, but ultimately felt I needed to bear it in order to make ends meet. Our daughter was sick a lot her first year in daycare (so were we!) but the second year she didn’t catch every little thing.

  • Brittany
    Oct 18

    I just put my daughter in, she’s 18 months and last week was her first week alone, she is only part time 9AM-1PM 3 days a week but she’s extremely clingy. I don’t know how lenient/rules etc. of your daycare or your career but for the first 2 weeks the women who owns the daycare allowed me to bring her in for free, and also allowed me to stay, the entire time the first 2-3 days then each day aft... More

Anonymous posted in Fitness Oct 18

FT working mom -time for gym

I am a FT working mom of a 14month old. I get to spend a total of 90minutes with my daughter on the weekdays. plus I work every other Saturdays. I just can’t get myself to go to the gym because I cannot figure out a good time to go. My husband thinks I am just being lazy. I just wanna hear from other moms... am I just making lame excuses for myself?

  • Sarah
    Oct 19

    I go once a week in the morning before work (so I miss about 20 minutes of time with my son) and once a week in the evening - sometimes I see my son for about 30 minutes and sometimes I don’t see him at all that evening. Saturday mornings we do a mommy & me workout class together so best of both worlds. It’s a lot less gym time than I used to get before being a mom but it’s a balance I’m ha... More

  • Stacey
    Oct 21

    I have a small gym in my basement with treadmill, weights and resistance bands. I try to get down there after baby is in bed but I am so exhausted I don't always make it but knowing I only have to go downstairs helps.

Returning to work!

Hi everyone I have a 2.5 month old and I’m returning back to work the 28th of this month and I’m freaking out! How did you cope with leaving baby? I’m thinking he’s going to have to go part-time to a daycare which is scary for me and the other days, he’ll be with my sister. HELP!

  • Lindsey
    Oct 16

    Feeling scared is absolutely legit. We feel you mama 💜 It will be hard but deep breath! - save 10 minutes of each hour to just look at pictures of your babe. But limit yourself to just that time! - soak up the time you have at home with baby. Put your phone away, engage them in cooking dinner (put them in the kitchen with you), find ways to utilize that time. - let yourself cry when you miss ... More

Anonymous posted in In-Laws Oct 08

Can’t sleep. MIL pissed me off again!

My MIL watches my child 2x a week (my mom the other 3x). I was telling my best friend that the last week, I haven’t hated waking up to seeing my MIL in my house!!! I even made conversation, kind of. Applause all around!!! Then, she goes and pissed me off again. We are out for lunch with BIL/gf/MIL, and I have child next to me cornered on one side of the table. MIL is across from child. “Fin... More

  • Luis
    Oct 08

    Yes... maybe... does it matter? You have the right to your feelings, they are yours, it’s just a question of how you deal with it. When it comes to protecting your kid, go with your gut and always err on the side of precaution. If you feel it ain’t right, it ain’t right. Remember, when it comes to to our kids, you only owe explanations to the other parent, it’s no one else’s business.

  • Nikki
    Friday

    Literally MIL tried this when my LO was extremely young and I explained myself probably not in the best way possible but my son is my son and if he gets sick or something I’m the one stuck with a fussy baby not them. You and your SO are responsible for your child. Speak up and allow them to hear you. And if they don’t hear you make them HEAR YOU. In laws are truly something else... more so mot... More

Jenya posted in Behavior Oct 03

My son is 18 months and he is starting his terrible twos! Help!!!

I am stay at home parent but I try to work from home, it’s becoming impossible as my son is more and more active. His tantrums are more frequent and he wants to be entertained all day long. The only break I get is when he naps for two hours during the day (please god dont let this change) what are your experiences with toddlerhood? where do you get patience? how do you get the energy to handle... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 03

    Have you tried looking in to a YMCA? Where I live in NC they have a nursery that will watch your children for 2 hours a day! Every day! Every. Single. Day. Your son gets experience with other kids, expends MORE energy, and you get 2 or so hours to be by yourself. And lots of men and women who go to my Y bring their computers and work during those 2 hours instead of working out. And if cost is a... More

  • Stacey
    Nov 02

    My 2 year old only takes hour naps so you are lucky there. He has just started throwing tantrums himself. Usually it is when he gets hungry or we take something away from him for some reason.

Anonymous posted in Single Parents Oct 01

How to time manage with little sleep?

I am a mom of two beautiful toddlers. I have a two and three year old. I work overnight so that I am with them in the morning. I am also a single mom. I don’t want to do daycare yet. I do nap in the morning for about two hours before they up. I nap another two to three hours during their nap time. I am always tired and I would like to do more with them. I don’t have much support. Any idea or ti... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 03

    Thank you so much. I appreciate the feed back. I was thinking that I do need help. Lol it’s so hard to realize sometimes because we try to do it all. It hitting me now .

  • Anonymous
    Oct 03

    yes! When you are at your best, your kids get the best of you too. it's a win win for everyone if you get a few hours of help in the day so you can get proper rest. night shift is already a strain on the body and your sleep is so important. don't feel bad about getting childcare for a couple hours. good luck!

Anonymous posted in Child Care Sep 26

No one to watch 2yo

Im basically a single mom with no family around, I’ve never let anyone watch my toddler. If I go into labor will the hospital allow my toddler to stay in the delivery room or do hospitals have childcare centers? Will the hospital allow her to stay overnight with me?

  • Monica
    Oct 12

    What area do you live in?

  • Marie
    Oct 17

    Yes what area do you live? I would love to help out if I can. And we have a beautiful group of SAHMs where I'm at that always pitch in to help. Please reach out to me

How to organize myself ??

Good day all, I am a single mom of two boys 7/11 and I find myself all over the place with my hands into a lot of things but not really getting anything done. I wake up early to take the kids to school, go back home and get ready for work. Then I get out of work to pick them up and go straight home. Sometimes I have to wait a while for a parking. If I have the kids start homework first in the ... More

  • C D
    Oct 03

    You are not alone. I, and other moms I know who work outside of home, struggle, as well, so don’t feel bad. In addition to trying to trying to delegate age appropriate chores, I also try to do what I can ahead of time for meals. I try to double recipes so we can eat half now and then freeze the other half for a tough night later on. I also use a crock pot (to cook while we’re at work/school) an... More

  • Jennifer
    Oct 03

    Definitely meal prep ahead of time on the weekends so you have your whole week of meal planned out. Or use an instant pot. I typically throw all the food in the instant pot when I get home and put it to cook. Or make easy 15 minute meals like spagetthi or vegtable and beef stir fry. While I'm waiting for instant pot to be done, I have time to help my kids get homework done. I work ful... More

Babysitter

What do you charge as a Babysitter? What are babysitters charging these days?

  • Anonymous
    Sep 27

    Depends on experience and age of babysitter. If you have a ton of exp, then you can charge 20/hr or more. If you’re a college student, then some would do for $12 or even less.

  • Karla
    Oct 06

    We have a family friend that was watching my son. She asked for $500 per month. She would watch him maybe 3 or 4 times per week at most. We got lucky when she volunteered since she wasn't working. He also got home cooked food from her. But definitely heard $20/hr minimum

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