Working Parents

Working parents have two jobs — one at home with their children and one at their place of business. Learning to balance it all is a tough but rewarding process.

This is a place to for working moms and dads to share experiences and get advice, whether it's tips on work-life balance or help finding child care.

Anonymous posted in Babies Friday

Anxious and freaked out about childcare!

I’m a first time mom, both hubby and I work and when I returned to work my company was flexible and willing to work with my schedule. I would in the office half of the day then hubby would drop off baby with me and I would work from home rest of the day but now I have to be in the office full shift 3-4 times a week. We’re considering childcare, our baby is 7 months but I’m freaking out! I can’t... More

  • Anonymous
    Saturday

    Tough choice to make. But you do what’s best for you & your family. There’s no size fits all, every family is unique & you know yours best. Regardless of what you end up deciding, you’re giving what’s best for your child.

  • Mercedes
    Sunday

    I ended up staying home because my entire paycheck was going to daycare. I ended up finding a job to do from home so it was a win win. If you’re worried about your child not socializing there are free things you can be apart of to encourage socialization. Storytime at the library, the park...etc. My daughter is developmentally at the same level as my friends kids who are the same age in daycare... More

Anonymous posted in Child Care Jan 16

I'm a nanny in need of advice

I've been a nanny for the same family for about a year. I do everything from take out trash, do laundry for the child and towels, do dishes, empty dishwasher, load dishwasher, sweep kitchen and under kitchen table. I take care of dirty diapers bin, refill diapers and pull-ups station, refill dogs and cats water and food bowl everyday, prepare meals, bring in packages from the porch. I also ... More

  • Anonymous
    Jan 16

    In Florida, Tampa area and no. I have an I-9

  • Sara
    Friday

    That comes to $15 an hour which sounds on the low end to me. The national average for nanny pay is $19/hour. Do you get reimbursed for gas, mileage, or anything else? I'd say you should bring this up with the family and ask for a raise.

Anonymous posted in Child Care Jan 16

Sibling and different childcare

I have a 2 YO and stayed at home with her until now. I am about to start a new job and also thinking about a potential sibling in the next two years. This time I won’t be able to stay at home and will only have 3 months of leave. I feel like this is not fair and I feel bad about this potential situation. Any experience?

  • Anonymous
    Saturday

    For us, daycare was too expensive (2.5k/month) and had super long waiting lists. My 4m old is in a nanny share now and it's the best arrangement I can imagine. The other family has a 1 year old and surprisingly they are playing together. We interviewed the nanny and found someone who is truly incredible! Basically, for half the cost of daycare, I hired 1 person to be with 2 kids (and only o... More

  • Anonymous
    Saturday

    Very interesting to hear from your experiences. I am definitely thinking about the nanny share. It might just be challenging to find another family and the good nanny

How do you do it?

I just started a job. It’s my first ever 8hour job and I just feel so sad leaving my daughter. I also feel so much guilt leaving her. How do you mommies handle leaving your toddler with the sitter for so long ? I need advice. And my toddler is 2 by the way.

  • Karla
    Jan 15

    Same here mama! My son will be turning 2yrs in March and I was able to take 4 months of leave from work. I got a promotion and now work almost 10hr shifts 5 times per week. As much as I like making more money I also feel like I'm away from home for too long. This week I questioned whether this was the right move for me. I have always liked working and always said I would keep doing it after... More

Resume help

Hello.... I am in process of looking for a new job. Is there someone who can look at my resume and give me some feedback. Any suggestions would be great. Thanks

Anonymous posted in Child Care Jan 11

Transitioning from being a SAHM: toddlers at nursery

I’m nervous as my 2.3 year old will be staying at her daycare for 3 full days (9am- 6pm) as opposed to 5 mornings (9:30-12:30). Her sibling is due to join when he’s 1.3 years. She loves this daycare- started there 2 months ago- which is why I’m nervous about the change. Why the change? The change is simply because, after two years, I’m no longer able to hack being a SAHM. I really wanted to,... More

  • Elle
    Jan 11

    If I had the option to work for home, I would go insane. Without a challenging day at work, I'd feel unfulfilled and long for "more."

  • B
    Jan 11

    I’m home temporarily now while looking for work, and I hate it. I’m a better mom when I have something else in my life. And my daughter has grown leaps and bounds in daycare. They teach her so much more than I’d ever think to teach her.

Ras posted in Child Care Jan 10

Daycare Nightmare

Has anyone ran into the problem that daycare is calling you to pick up your lo because of 'illness'? My son is almost 4 months old and has been in daycare less than 2 months. I've been called to pick him up several times due to illnesses that he no longer has when he gets home. The first time they called, they said he had a temperature over 100. So I picked him up he didn't fee... More

  • Elle
    Jan 11

    If he's been in the daycare fewer than 2 months, they might still be getting used to what is normal for him. Reaffirm with the director the actual threshold for pickup. You can always tell the day care to call you back in an hour or two before you leave work to see if it's a real emergency / meets threshold for pickup. We had a few incidents like this within the first 2 months of dayc... More

  • B
    Jan 11

    My daycare did this at first too. I asked them to wait 20 min, and make sure she hadn’t just been crying, and take her temp a second time. When she’s agitated her temp rockets up briefly. Also know that kids get sick often at daycare, so while it should get better as they get to know him, I still pick her up annoyingly often for real things. But I guess either now or when she starts school

Anonymous posted in Working Parents Jan 09

Hating going back to work

I just stated back at work a few weeks ago and I absolutely hate it and am feeling so sad. Not sure what to do.

  • Bhavana
    Jan 14

    Hi I had the same situation when I first started after my leave. It gets better. Just take it one day at a time.

  • Anonymous
    Saturday

    Thank you!! It is getting a little better every day. But is sooooo hard

Anonymous posted in Child Care Jan 09

Teacher cutting 3 year old hair!!!

Last night after bath I put my 3 year old daughters hair up in pigtails, this morning i brushed and fixed them to look nice. Both times perfect straight part. So when she came home from preschool this afternoon I was livid to find her hair had been cut. This is not the first time her hair has been cut I always assumed it was one of my other kids doing it so we put all the scissors up to where o... More

  • Morgan
    Jan 14

    I would report her

  • Anonymous
    Jan 16

    @annoymous I really don’t know any of the parents in her class, one of the kids lives on the same street as us but I don’t know if he’d know anything. I also don’t feel comfortable bringing a complete stranger into this. Thankfully after I washed and brushed her hair more it became less noticeable unless you are looking or know it’s there it’s hidden under more hair. I’ve been keep a close eye ... More

Anonymous posted in Child Care Jan 07

Getting 4 Y/O ready to start Pre K

I wanted my son to attend daycare when he was younger so he can adjust to playing around kids but my family disagreed because they felt he wouldnt be taken care of properly & they also felt i couldnt afford it so i didnt. now he's going on 4 & my family feels he's having speech delay (& possibly autism) because I waited so long. Parents , any tips on what I can do to prepar... More

  • Elle
    Jan 07

    If you think your kid has a disorder or developmental delay, seek professional help as soon as possible. Your child depends on you to take the best care of him as possible. Your child also relies on you to make the best decisions in regards to his care and development, not to do whatever your family tells yoi to do. We have the internet at our fingertips! Parenting resources have never been T... More

  • Carolina
    Jan 08

    It’s so difficult to know what the right thing to do is, specially because we will never know, until afterwards. My almost 3yo also had speech delay, but is know up to what he should be, the problem now is his social/emotional skills. I have been reading a lot a lot about issues and stuff. One thing I can’t tell you! Autism would not be caused by the lack of school or interaction with other k... More

Lisa posted in Pumping Jan 07

Hands-free breast pump vs. cord mess?

I'm interested in the simplicity of a hands-free breast pump, like Willow, but I am curious to hear from real people who have used this product and compared it to the Medela Symphony or other stationary/corded pump?

  • Kay
    Jan 09

    Hi there, I’ve been using the Willow since November and have had nothing but issues. I have three kids so I was so excited to use a hand free pump! The first time I got mastitis I stopped using the Willow and used my standard Medela instead. The issue would get resolved by pumping with the Medela or being put on a prescription. I’ve had clogged ducts due to using the Willow pump as well. After... More

  • Kay
    Jan 09

    Congrats by the way!

Random Let-Down

Has anyone else experienced this?: My 8 month old is on a feeding schedule, so my let down occurs during those times even if I'm away from him and have to pump later than the feeding time. The past two days I have had two random let downs at times that are not his normal feeding time. This has never happened to me before, so I wanted to see if I wasn't alone. I should mention that I... More

  • Maranda
    Jan 06

    This is totally normal. I’ve been breastfeeding for over 2 years now, and I had random let downs for the first year.

  • Kristina
    Jan 06

    Maranda, thank you! It's never happened before, so I wasn't sure if something was wrong or maybe it was hormones from my period.

Growth spurt - pump at similar intervals??

If baby is having a growth spurt and it started during the week while I’m pumping at work at normal intervals, it would make sense that my milk doesn’t match to her needs right? So by the time the weekend is over, my supply should increase to meet her demands and I should pump at simile intervals (2 hours versus 3 hours?)

  • Anonymous
    Jan 04

    Correct. Although, growth spurts usually only last up to a week (well for us)

Anonymous posted in Working Parents Jan 04

Jealous of grandmas (caregivers)

I am jealous of my caregivers/grandmas for my baby during the daytime. I miss her so much and I really get jealous when I see them interact with her because I need to work and when I get home, I need to relax so sometimes I’m on my phone catching up on life and then I feel conflicted.. But in all honestly, their interactions that I see during the exchange of caregiver. It is not indicative of... More

  • Anonymous
    Jan 04

    Totally understand! I’m like this too... and what’s worse is that my son cries when I take him home because he doesn’t want to leave grandma’s. At first (and occasionally still) I was jealous of their time spent together and of his preference towards her... but then I think about how much I appreciate that he loves her so much and feels safe n connected with her.. how awesome is that! (But ye... More

  • Anonymous
    Jan 05

    I had a similar moment. What made it better for me was I realIzed that I wasn’t using the time I had with her well. I made a resolution and we are tv and phone free in the evenings. I relax and watch a show and play on my phone after she goes to bed. It’s made our time together so much stronger and taken away some of my guilt.

Anonymous posted in Breastfeeding Jan 03

Drop in supply

Baby is 6 months old, barely started BLW for maybe 2 meals over the holidays. My usual “fullness” (not engorgement, that was during my mat leave so I know it’s not enforcement), no longer happens when it’s about time to nurse/pump. Been back at work 2 days now and I’m barely making enough for baby’s bottles (today I had 10 oz.) whereas I use to make a little more, and would freeze maybe 1-2 bag... More

  • Anonymous
    Jan 03

    Thank you!! Forgot about power pumps

  • Kerry
    Jan 03

    Your welcome, I hope that helps. Mothers milk tea is also supposed to help. I only pumped for 6 weeks so cant say wether it works or not.

How would you feel?

My parents just moved across country to live near us. ( Kentucky to Houston). We honestly thought we would be in houston forever and we encouraged the move. Well... due to my husbands company buying another company, we are being relocated 3 hours away. My heart is broken for my parents and I just don’t want to move. ( my parents built a house here so they are here for a while) how would you h... More

  • Whitney
    Jan 03

    Thank you! We have told them, and they are disappointed but understand we have to do what’s best for us. I just feel like I have let them down and they are sad we are leaving them. They have only beeen in Houston 6 months, so they don’t have a support system yet! Thanks for the tips!

  • Lily
    Jan 03

    Don't feel guilty. My in-laws we're not happy when we had to move to Idaho from Texas. But it was what was best for our family. My family lives in California. it is hard being away. But you gotta do what is best for your family.

Need a reliable babysitter

I want to know..... How many kids do you have, how old are they, do you work away from home and if so who do you trust to care for them🤔

Marisa posted in Sleep Jan 01

Sleep training?

My little guy is just about 12 weeks old. He is a really content, happy baby. He pretty much only fusses when he’s hungry or tired. He naps great during the day (about an hour 3-5 times/day). He still gets up every 3 hours at night to eat, but goes right back to sleep. We usually do that cycle from about 10pm-8am then he’s ready for another nap by 10 or 11am. My issue is that he will NOT sleep ... More

  • Cheryl
    Jan 01

    He probably has gas that feels uncomfortable when he’s on his back. My baby did. What saved us was gripe water and bicycle exercises for 20 minutes about 3 times a day. He turned into a different baby at night when we did that.

  • Sabrina
    Jan 02

    I have 3 kids and 2 of the 3 have always slept on their stomach. My youngest is almost 6 months and will NOT sleep on his back. We cosleep and he will either sleep on his side curled up to me or he will sleep on his belly beside me. He also will sleep in his crib for naps but only on his belly. If it seems to bother you or make you anxious that your little one is only sleeping on her belly, may... More

Sarah posted in Child Care Jan 01

Daycare fees?

I’m going to be taking care of my best friends baby while she is at work for a few months, I’m not sure how much to charge her. I don’t want to ask too much from her, as she’s always volunteering to watch my kids for free but I can’t take care of her baby every day for free. Her and her husband are both in the navy so it will be about 8-10 hours a day 5 days a week and occasionally weekends or ... More

  • Emily
    Jan 01

    I forgot to add I watch them 65 hours a week.

  • Anonymous
    Jan 01

    Average child care fees will vary greatly depending on your location. I charge my brother in-law $25/day for infant care and that's usually only 2-3 days/week and 12 hour days.

When did you start school?

My kids are 2 and 10 months, so we havent started school yet (although we are touring a Montessori school in Feb for our 2 year old...I'm so excited!). But recently my sister had an experience where she was basically scolded by an authority figure because her 3 year old isn't in preschool. She did register her daughter but the school had no openings so she has to wait till next year. I ... More

  • Ivy
    Jan 11

    My mom put me in preschool with my older sister when I was 3 and she was 4. But when my younger siblings didn’t do that because schools became more strict about age for preschools and kindergarten. Now, formal schooling requires testing, otherwise it will be out of pocket and half days for many preschoolers. I wanted to enroll my son in preschool when he was 3, but our district only allows yo... More

  • Michael
    Monday

    Not sure how it works in other states but in South Georgia, which can be just as bumpkin as it sounds sometimes, our preschools are not technically a part of the school system. My daughter goes to pre-school but it’s taught at a day care and it is super lax. I mean come when you want and show up if you want. You still pay of course but it’s not a lot more than just normal day care would be anyw... More

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