Desperately seeking advice on what helps calm a 2 month old when it's time for bed at night. He will not allow us to swaddle him, he completely freaks out when his arms are restrained. We have tried nursing him to sleep, bottle feeding him to sleep, giving baths, essential oils, gripe water, rocking in every which direction, dark rooms, bright rooms, laying down with mom, laying in bassinet, different mattresses, blankets, sleeping on his back, on his side, on his tummy. We've tried humming and singing and talking. Having the TV on, having it off. Sound machines. Freaking toy hippos with lights, bumble bees that sing him to sleep. We've tried routines, we've tried starting them as early as 7 and as late as 11. We've tried expensive swings and cheap swings and bouncers and vibrations and music and nature sounds. Salt lamps and going for walks at night. Sleeping with less clothes, sleeping with more clothes. We've tried burping, and shushing, and different back patting. Every kind of pacifier which he will not take. NOTHING works. One thing will soothe him and he falls asleep for a few minutes than wakes up and we start all over. He fights everything to stay awake. It takes me, no joke, 4-6 hours to get him to sleep in the evening. And during that time, he spends about 3.5 hours completely mangling my nipples while nursing - which 90% of the time is the only way I can calm him down for a little bit. I go through this every night. He will not allow dad to put him to sleep at all. He can't rock him, he won't take a bottle from him, nothing. His pediatrician says he's fine and this is normal. This CANNOT be normal. He suggested I have him on a schedule for feedings during the day, which I do. Pediatrician dubbed him a snacker so he's not sleeping for longer than 45 minutes at a time during his afternoon/evening naps. I have tried to remedy that by supplementing with formula and bottle feeding, which he either refuses the bottle completely or eats until he pukes. Pediatrician says he's not colicky, this is just how babies are. This is crazy. I am at a complete loss and beyond frustrated. This is my desperate plea for resources/suggestions/advice. Please.