Anonymous

I desperately need a hobby!

I need something positive to do with my spare time. What are your hobbies? I need to find something where I can have time to myself and unwind doing something I enjoy. I feel like I lose my temper because me and my 2 yr old son spend 24/7 together. And his dad is always on his computer after work so I honestly feel like I’m in a shared relationship with his computer games. I told him I’m finding something to do to have some “me” time. I’m starting a fitness routine but I’d like something a little more “fun.”

  • Beth
    Sep 19

    One day a week, depending on his schedule he needs to get up with the kiddo and let you sleep in/have the day to yourself. Go to a hike (join hikeitbaby.com for some local kiddo friendly hikes together that you can also do yourself on these days) read a book at Starbucks, or just close your door and binge watch a show while he gets to take care of the kid and entertain them. You can still be in charge of dinner or he can, definitely work together on what hes up to doing. Maybe he does dinner once a week or every other night. He can do daddy kiddo time at the park. He's not a 12 year old that can play videogames all day, he can play when the kids asleep. Make him put the kid to bed some nights. It's ok to ask him to be a parent.

  • Katrina
    Sep 19

    If you are into fitness maybe you can try something more fun like a dance class or zumba? Or you can try something more creative, I always have fun when im making things. Take a visit to your local craft store and you'll find all kinds of fun things you can do by yourself or that are kid friendly too. good luck!

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Sep 19

    Martial arts is by far the best release for me personally. I spar one a week TaeKwonDo and do boxing class once a week and NOTHING (for me) releases my stress and helps me completely zone out and feel like independent me like this workout. It’s full body and mind for me. I love it. Not for everyone but I couldn’t help by throw it out there. Also, off topic, I also found that my husband happened to find a Xbox game he thought we’d both enjoy (sea of thieves) and it’s fun and easy for a beginner to pick up, I play on the computer using a x box controller, and it has both action and strategy for my husband but there is sailing down time that gives us some convo time. That’s my favorite part. And we have something to talk about besides kids/work.

  • Ivana
    Sep 21

    I’d try a Bookclub, I found mine on Meetup and I love it. Also I’ve taken classes at the local community college (black and white film photography) or you could start music lessons if you’ve always wanted to play some instrument. Have fun!

  • Katherine
    Sep 26

    Can you skate? Try roller derby! There are lots of teams out there, some more competitive than others but I did it for years and it’s a great stress reliever. Plus, the community is very inclusive and supportive.

  • Steve
    Sep 26

    Recently taken up puzzles as a hobby, like those really hard mind-numbing immersive puzzles. Great way to switch mental gears for 10-15 minutes at a time when you don’t have the physical energy for much else.

  • Jennie
    Sep 26

    I know this isn't exactly what you asked but what if instead of separating yourself from issue, you try to fix it. Sometimes getting into a rut makes everyone grumpy. Plan a family night this weekend... put your phones away and go play with your kids, like actually play. Go to an arcade or ice skating or even just a park. Play tag, frisbee, etc. Dad too. Maybe flirt a little... hold his hand. Tackle him during tag and roll in the grass. Laugh!! Remember what you enjoy about him and enjoy it with your kids. Try doing some family time every night, or at least a couple times a week... playing a fun board game, coloring, reading a book outloud. I'm not saying self-care is the wrong answer but to hear hubby is stuck on video games all night... it just sounds like you all need some connection. I know that when I'm feeling bored or overwhelmed by my kids, or unheard and unimportant by my husband I definitely lose my cool with my kids more and sick into my phone. Hope you find something that works for everyone!

  • Hillary
    Sep 26

    Zumba! It's both a fun hobby and a good way to stay/get in shape. I go twice a week while my husband watches our baby. It's a great stress reliever, way to connect with other people, and smile.

  • Aaron
    Sep 26

    I am a stay at home dad of a two-year-old boy and eight-month-old girl, sometimes when the opportunity doesn’t present itself I try to make sure I engage in my personal development while I’m taking care of my kids I even like listening to an audiobook on the TV while I play with them so I have something progressive going on in the background, naptime rolls around as tired as I might be I try to fit in a workout for at least 30 minutes. I commend you for engaging in a fitness routine, You will feel so much better and like you really did something for yourself after a quick solid workout. Please don’t forget that your child is two and there are ups and there are downs in this time. Like some of the others have said trying to pull your husband into more of your activities, when you do have the kids away for a moment if that is possible go on a walk, go see a movie, binge watch a show, Hell just sit down and talk for 30 minutes and catch up, I know it’s difficult when your partner is immersed in electronics but there is always a solution, try to get into the solution. I wish you the best

  • Vonda
    Sep 29

    I am a stay at home mom and I started hand sewing and embroidery. It’s something my son has noticed and has started mimicking. So I bought him an embroidery board (my son is also two) and we sometimes embroider together. I like it because I can do it myself and if I am needed suddenly I can just set down and pick back up easily. I hope this helps. I’ve also thought about getting back into fencing or martial arts. But since my off days are sometimes suddenly unavailable it’s hard to schedule things for me.