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Anonymous posted in Sleep Thursday

My son is 23 months and he refuses to go to sleep until 1 am

He now has a regular bed so when we lay him down he gets up and comes to our room. Idk what to do to get sleep

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Saturday

    You’ve got a few choices: 1) get the crib back in play (if he climbs out there are sleepers that make it so he can’t climb in them 2) spend several nights walking him back to his room over and over until he gets it 3) let him sleep in your bed. My daughter started sleeping on a floor mattress in her brothers’ room when she was 19 months old. She falls asleep with them and we let her come in ou... More

  • Pad
    Saturday

    Cut out the videos, YouTube etc 2 hrs before bedtime

Anonymous posted in Sleep Thursday

Waking too early

My 22 month old is waking up entirely too early. We finally got him sleeping through the night a few weeks ago using the cry it out method. He shares a room with his brother who has been camping out in our room on an air mattress while we tried to get him to sleep through the night. The issue has now changed to waking up too early. This morning it was 4:45 AM. I woke up to hear him talking and ... More

  • Anonymous
    Saturday

    Thanks PK! I thought about one of those but wasn’t sure if he would understand at 2 years old. I’ll definitely be trying that!

  • Amanda
    Saturday

    I’ve known several 2-yr-olds who have been successful with the “okay to wake” clocks. It’s definitely worth a try!

Tired mama

So for the past weeks my daughter (2) has been waking up at around 2am crying hysterically and will not stop or go back to bed, it takes us about an hour or so to calm her down and get her in bed.... any suggestions????

  • anonymous mom
    Wednesday

    Teething? Are her molars or canines coming in? They were the hardest for my daughter and it went on forever...children’s ibuprofen or acetaminophen would help most nights.

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Saturday

    Could it be night terrors? Can you catch it early and just cuddle with her until she goes back to sleep?

Danielle posted in Sleep Jan 08

16 month old hating naps

My daughter has been absolutely refusing naps for the past 4 days. She just turned 16 months today and she’s never really had an issue with naps before. She goes to sleep on her own, we just lay her in bed and within 15-20 minutes, she’s sleeping. Bedtime at night isn’t an issue but for some reason, naps aren’t happening. I’ll lay her in bed around normal nap time and she’ll just run laps aroun... More

  • Danielle
    Jan 09

    She’s been on one nap for about 6 months now

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Jan 12

    I’ve found that my kids have all gone through sleep issues where they would fight the nap and so I learned to just let them skip it and put them to bed normal time until they reset. Another trick I’ve noticed is that sometimes their ideal naptime changes. For example, my daughter was fighting naps so I bumped it later from 1130 ish to 1pm and she passes right now. Lately she’s been reverting b... More

New baby tech products announced at CES

A few cool new baby tech / parent tech products were just announced at the Consumer Electronics Show this week in Las Vegas -Mamaroo bassinet that looks to be a cheaper version of the famous Snoo bassinet https://www.engadget.com/2020/01/06/mamaroo-sleep-bassinet-debut-ces-2020/ -Willow generation 3 breast pump that claims 20% more milk than the 2.0 pump https://www.engadget.com/2020/01/05/will... More

C posted in Sleep Jan 07

At what age do children become afraid of the dark, and why?

My 16 month old son suddenly panicked and started to cry when I turned the lights off for sleep. First time he’s done that. He ended up sleeping with the lights on all night. I have no idea what brought on this fear of the dark, though I remember being afraid of the dark too when I was a kid much older than him. Are your kids afraid of the dark? At what age did that start? What do you think le... More

  • Amanda
    Jan 07

    I wonder if, given his age of 16 months, it’s less being afraid of the dark and more that turning off the lights means that mom/dad are leaving the room. It could be a resurgence of mild separation anxiety.

  • Cathy
    Jan 13

    Around 2. We bought a light from Amazon that plugs into the wall and it can change colors if you want. Or stay white. That helped my son.

Newly separated - how to do bedtime with 2 kids?

My husband and I just separated and so the kids (2 yo girl and 4 yo boy) will now be put down by one of us each night. What we used to do was, after the bath they would take together, each of us would take a kid (we would switch kids each night), read that kid 2 books, them sit with him/her until they fell asleep. We had aspirations of reading, kissing goodnight, and leaving the room to have th... More

  • Sara
    Jan 08

    I highly recommend separate bedtimes for different age kids which it sounds like you're doing. Our kids are 4.5 and 1.5 and we always put the 1.5 year old down first. My older one knows that she is special and gets to stay up later than her sister but that part of that privilege means making sure she does not disturb the parent who is putting her sister down. Often my husband has to do bedt... More

  • Ali
    Tuesday

    My husband does shift work so I am on my own at bedtime often. Mine are 3 and 5.5 and I put them to bed at the same time because I prefer a 30 min. Bedtime routine to a 60 min. Routine We read one or two books, then I tuck them each in and sit between their rooms where they can both see me. If this wasn’t an option maybe switch rooms each night or switch rooms every 5 min.? Maybe they could... More

Anonymous posted in Sleep Jan 05

Toddler bed transition

Two things: At what age did you move your child into a toddler bed? My daughter is almost 17m and has slept in our bed, next to me every night since she was born. We are 6m pregnant so we have been turning our oversized bedroom into a shared room for all of us and playroom for the kids (we live in a small in law apt). Today we moved a a lot of stuff out and converted her unused crib into a ... More

  • Destin
    Jan 06

    No advice but I’m def following this story as I am also contemplating transitioning my Little one into a toddler bed.

  • Liza M.
    Jan 06

    We transitioned our now 2yo into a toddler bed when she was about 18mos. It was a crib with a mattress that leveled onto the floor. We then (in prep for the new baby) were given an actual toddler size bed (low to the ground with rails-same size mattress as a crib) and "gave" it to her for her 2nd birthday. She slept in it that night and has ever since-no issue, no asking to go back to... More

C posted in Behavior Jan 02

How to train toddler with FOMO to look forward to sleep?

My 16 month old has an overdeveloped Fear of Missing Out and cries anytime you lie him down. He hates lying down, no matter where, even when he’s tired. Eventually he sobs himself to sleep but there must be another way. How do I get him to WANT to lie still and sleep?

  • Anonymous
    Jan 02

    Let me know when you find out lol my son is 2.5 and still cries to sleep..... I don’t think any kid just willingly goes to sleep. It does help him though when I say mom is going to nap and dad is going to nap and nana is going to nap and then we can all play when we wakeup. So he doesn’t think he’s the only one 🤷🏽‍♀️

  • Momof2
    Jan 04

    My daughter went through a phase where she always said she didn’t want to go to naptime because she wasn’t tired. I would tell her that I was really tired and I needed her to put me to sleep. It was so adorable she would sing me a little song and I would lay down next to her and half the time I would pass out but even if I didn’t she was usually asleep within 15 minutes and then I could leave

Anonymous posted in Sleep Dec 26

Sleep training a toddler

He just turned 2 and im fed up with people giving me/my husband a hard time for not doing it till now instead of giving any helpful tips so im asking you ladies. I understand it will be harder than training him younger. So far, he has been waking up every 2-3 hours. We pat/talk him gently back to sleep and walk away. Sometimes we give up and bring him back to bed. Bad idea? Is there a better wa... More

  • Jess
    Dec 27

    I would transition him to his own room. My son was still waking every few hrs when he was 15 months old until we moved and he had his own bedroom. We all sleep SO much better (he's 21 months now). Way easier transition than I ever thought, and for the first time he was, and still is, able to fall asleep on his own most nights. Hope you get some sleep soon! Good luck!

  • Anonymous
    Dec 27

    Why is he waking up? Are you still nursing? The problem you’re having is that he is not falling asleep by himself. We all wake up a few times during the night but since we’re able to fall asleep alone we don’t even remember it. I started by allowing my daughter to fall asleep next to me in bed. We would just lay there in silence until she fell asleep. (I didn’t want to sleep train either) when... More

Momof2 posted in Sleep Dec 26

Pacifier

A few weeks ago my two-year-old caught a cold and so sleeping with a pacifier made it difficult for her to breathe. We thought what a great opportunity to have her start weaning off the pacifier! It’s been about 2 weeks Of her being completely weaned but the problem is we are all sleeping a lot less as a result.Her naps are only 45 minutes to an hour now when they used to be two hours. And she... More

  • Momof2
    Dec 27

    She has lots of stuffed animals that we have tried to give her though she’s not attached to anyone in particular. We also gave her a new stuffed animal as a present from the pacifier fairy for giving up her pacifiers. She also has a special blanket she sleeps with

  • Rechelle Jackson
    Jan 02

    Don’t give it back! Just go with it i took my daughter pacifier way before she hit one and now not giving my newborn one at all just keep her distracted

Mia posted in Behavior Dec 22

2 year old walking around at night

My 2 year old has always been an amazing sleeper. She recently started to refuse to sleep in her crib anymore so we gave her a bed. She was great now suddenly she has started getting up between 3 & 6am and wandering around the house switching on lights and acting like it’s daytime. When I get up and tell her “No, it’s bedtime” she gets herself back into bed. Then I lay next to her until she... More

  • Anonymous
    Dec 23

    Maybe put a gate on her door? So she can be awake in her room and read books and play for a little while if she needs, but is also confined to that area only?

Jamie posted in Sleep Dec 16

I’m looking to revamp my 5 year old’s bedtime routine. Would love to hear what works best for you! 🙏🏼

  • Jamie
    Dec 17

    Thank you! I love the idea of having him read or talk to his stuffies. Is there anything else that helps him fall asleep by himself? Music? Audio books?

  • Anne
    Dec 17

    He has some wind-up music boxes next to his bed that he uses sometimes. Other than that, I think he mostly just fidgets/plays a little, gets bored and eventually sleeps. The less there is to entertain him the better. He does occasionally get up for a hug or want to talk to us... we just give a quick hug and steer him back to bed. After a couple of times he got the picture that there was nothin... More

Desperate!

My 16 month old won’t stop waking up in the middle of the night and deciding he’s just awake now. I don’t know what to do. It doesn’t seem to matter how tired he is. He didn’t take a nap at all today and he still woke up. I’m going crazy. It’s gotten to the point where I begin panicking if I hear him cry at night. I’ve tried everything. I’ve rocked with him, I’ve let him cry, I’ve put him in my... More

  • Kendall
    Dec 11

    I’d say over tired as well. One year olds NEED a nap to function, good day sleep is good night sleep. However, I never...... ever take my son out of his bed at night no matter what. So I’d personally leave him in bed and he can go back to bed when he’s ready

  • Lari
    Dec 12

    I say he’s overtired too. My daughter is 17 months is just now transitioning from 2 naps to 1. Do you have a schedule/routine? That helps to make sure baby is tired at the right times and can go just go to sleep easily.

C posted in Behavior Dec 01

Is it always a struggle to make kids sleep on time?

I tell people my now 15 month old has been refusing to sleep since he was a young baby. They say he’ll pass out once he’s too tired, and then I know they are underestimating my situation, because this has never happened in his post newborn life. He will literally blast past nap times, sleep time, grow dark circles under his eyes, rub his eyes till they're red, get slow and cranky, even melt... More

  • Anonymous
    Dec 05

    My fail safe is a car ride on a freeway, any long drive over 45 mph. I’m sorry though, if waking up is a problem as well I don’t have a tip for that. Is the diet good? Not a lot of sugar or fruit before bed? I wish you the best.

  • HR
    Dec 05

    Would it be worth it to try to get a referral to a sleep clinic? Maybe they’d be able to figure something out?

Lilibeth posted in Sleep Nov 30

My 2 month old will only sleep on my chest help!

  • Ayla Sutton
    Dec 20

    Can he/she pick up and move their head by themselves? If so, and people will probably hate this answer, let your baby go to sleep on his tummy. Both my boys were like this and after a couple months of holding them all night, I just let them sleep on their tummies like they wanted. They could push themselves up and pick up their heads very early so I didn't worry about them falling asleep on... More

  • Amanda
    Dec 26

    I also had this issue with my son. The first month didn't bother me I actually loved that he wanted to sleep on my chest. I began to break the habit once he was 8 weeks, it was a slow transition but this is how I did it... First I allowed him to sleep on his tummy because he will not still to this day sleep on his back and I know there are moms out there that will not like this as someone e... More

C posted in Behavior Nov 29

Toddler wakes up upset

It doesn’t seem to matter where he sleeps, when, or how long. He wakes up crying or whiny, often before his eyes are even open. He settles down after a minute or two of being fully awake, but still: Why and how to fix it?

  • anonymous mom
    Dec 03

    My daughter does this when she wakes up abruptly or when she wakes up in the dark. I try to catch her before she wakes up and open some window shades or turn on some music so she will have a gentler wakeup. It helps sometimes but sometimes she’s still a grump for a few minutes till she gets into the flow of things.

  • Vonda
    Dec 05

    It’s something he will get over. Just let him put himself back to sleep. Unless he wakes up fully and won’t go back to sleep after a few minutes; then go in. I usually just comfort him by hugging my son while he is sitting up in bed. Then when he’s ready he lays back down and goes to sleep.

Jenny posted in Newborns Nov 27

Bedtime Routine Ideas

Hello all! Currently all my children ages 5,3, and newborn are sharing a room with each other. My 5 yr old and 3 year old have rare sleeping issues that could be disturbing to the newborn (5 year old sleep walks/talks and 3 year old fights sleep due to fear of dark that flares up) Our nighttime routine is pretty solid. Dinner, clean up time, bath/ book time and then bed. I try to get them in... More

Anonymous posted in Behavior Nov 27

Feeling Depressed/Need A Plan

My family is military, and we have moved twice in the past year alone. It’s me and my two little kids and we are staying at my in-laws’ place for a little while. My in-laws are really great, and even help me with nighttime stuff with the kiddos, which I love. The problem is with my 3 year old. She’s a sensitive kid, but also VERY smart and manipulative. For the longest time when it was me and ... More

  • Eleanor
    Dec 02

    When I was scared at night my parents had a blanket or sleeping bag on their bedroom floor for me. I only used it when I really was scared! Floors aren’t too comfy. Before that I would say I was scared so I could snuggle them 😂

  • Anonymous
    Dec 04

    I just let them come in my bed. Once they fall back to sleep I put them in their bed....or don’t. It’s just a phase and 3 is still pretty little. Lots of change is hard on everyone but especially little ones.

Anonymous posted in Sleep Nov 24

Co-sleeping quits.

I’ve been co-sleeping with my son, now 18 months old, since birth. I am trying to transition him into his own bed because he is getting too big for my bed and “scoots” around all night now. I co-slept with my first son until he was 5. He is now in his own bed but it was still a hard transition. I CANNOT do the “cry-it-out” method. I’ve never been able to let any of my babies cry. Perhaps th... More

  • Destin
    Nov 30

    Following...going through the same thing! I absolutely can not sit there and just listen to my daughter scream and cry when all she wants is to be with me! I would also love to have a full night of straight sleep...too bad there isn’t a magical solution! ☹️

  • cabodegata
    Dec 10

    I think that sleep training should do the job, with the one by Susan Urban (parental-love.com/baby-sleep-training) there is no crying-out and it can be performed also with older toddlers, like yours :)

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