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Anybody else’s kids sleep like this?

  • Mariah
    Yesterday

    My son did that when he was a few months old. But it would wake him up so I just stuck his mattress on the floor 😂 it was so funny to see

  • Katie Pladl
    Yesterday

    When my 3 mo wakes up he doesn’t only cry but you can hear him stomping on the bars! It’s so cute to see his little feet grabbing onto the wood.

At what age did your child transition out of a morning nap, how did you do it or did they do it entirely on their own? (Not that I want to push a morning nap away but my son is now 1). 😂

  • Ashley
    Yesterday

    We transitioned my son out of a morning nap at 18 months once the am nap and pm nap were shorter.. ie an hour or so each. Then we gradually put him to bed a bit later each morning and now he naps at 12:30/1 or after lunch and naps two hours on average.

  • Tina
    1h ago

    I can't remember exactly how old our son way when we stopped morning naps. I just remember we stopped them when he wouldn't take his afternoon naps because he had taken a morning one. Then we couldn't go anywhere in the morning for a VERY long time because he would fall asleep in the car and that would be it for the day. Trying to get him to nap after that was a nightmare!

Anonymous

I co-sleep with my twins.... actually, one sleeps along side of me while the other is on top of me. I AM PARANOID ABOUT SIDS. And this might b contradictory but my issue is that what if they’re not next to me and something happens rather than when they are and a strong sense of mother’s intuition takes over.... And a large part is... they won’t sleep any other way. Opinions?

  • Sara
    Yesterday

    How old are they? As you know the safest way for them to sleep is in a crib on their own with no blankets, bumpers etc. However if we’re talking 1 years old or more than I wouldn’t worry about it anymore with cosleeping and I’d be more concerned about whether the mattress was on the floor so they don’t roll off the bed!

My baby girl 10 months old keeps waking up irregularly in the middle of the night crying even though she’s showered changed and fed. And I don’t really know what she wants... or what to do...Is this normal?

  • Krislin
    Tuesday

    How long has this been going on?

Anyone have problems their toddler sleeping at night? Any solutions? My son was doing great but then got to the point where he was waking up around 2a-4a. Then it got earlier to 11p. Now it’s about an hour after he goes down. Sometimes he wakes up just whining. Other times he’s screaming. I’ve tried putting him down earlier and later, got a fan for his room because he’s very temperature sensitive, tried giving him a full bottle and/ or a snack and nothing has worked so far. I’m running out of ideas and we’re exhausted. It’s been progressively getting worse over the last two weeks after he was sick.

Starting in September my little guy, who’s now 13 months, stopped sleeping through the night. He’ll wake up and be awake for 1.5–2hrs. I know he’s working on molars and going through a leap, but I was wondering if anyone else has ever had this happen and what you did? We have stretches of a few nights where he will STTN but then we’re right back to night wakes. I’ve adjusted his nap schedule, but no matter what I do, it doesn’t seem to be working. He isn’t rocked, nursed, etc. to sleep. No pacifier either. He puts himself to sleep fine at nap and at bedtime as well.

  • Jessica
    Yesterday

    My husband had to be the one to do the hard work since what my little girl really wanted was to be with mommy. When she woke up we let her cry for 10 min then my hubby would go in and comfort her for a short time. No lights no books no leaving the room. Then after 5 min he would put her back even if still crying. Then another 10 min. We did this until she went back to sleep. First night was HELL but it got better the next night and the third was a lot better. We were almost normal in less than a week. Then the introduction of the oil diffuser totally helped the whole problem. She now goes to bed around 8:30 and wakes between 7:30 and 8 (she used to have a 6-6:30 wake up time) and she is having better naps once we fixed night stuff. She takes one 2 hr nap at 1-1:30. I hope this helps. I know how awful this issue is and I keep hoping we are done with it for good now but probably not ;). We’ll sleep again one day.

  • Kristin
    56m ago

    Thank you thank you thank you! One more question, how many drops of the oil do you put in the diffuser?! I love EO ☺️

My LO is starting to learn how to roll over. How should I wean him off of swaddle dependency?

How do you deal with baby rolling in the crib and crawling? Our 7 months old was a great sleeper but started to wake up during the night and crawling in her bed. She sleeps on her side and probably rolls and wakes up... help!! Thanks

Anonymous

I’m in desperate need of some advice/support/ideas! I didn’t sleep at all last night😞 I have a 4 year old daughter and a seven month old son and every time their dad travels for work our nights are pure chaos. Normally I share room with the baby and my husband with our daughter (only because we can’t get her to stay in her own bed). But when I’m alone with them I’m at a loss. They are both really sensitive sleepers and keep waking each other up, all night. I’ve tried separate rooms, separate beds in the same room, shared bed etc. I just can’t keep my daughter in her own bed/room no matter how much we talk about it during the day and she understands and is okay with not disturbing the baby. And the baby is constantly teething or gassy or have something else going on so he will not slee... More

  • Adasha
    Sunday

    Watch Jo Frost about bedtime. Her methods work!

  • Britt
    Sunday

    I’m going to sound like a terrible person but it’s what we did bc we didn’t know what else to do. The boys room had a baby gate that wouldn’t allow them to leave the room. Some mornings we found them on the floor or in each other’s beds, same bed etc. but it got them sleeping in their room. Then we bought them specific sheets for their bed that they picked out Disney characters. And after that there was no problem.

When did u move ur baby from bassinet to crib? I feel like she’s uncomfortable in the bassinet but I know the recommendation here in the US is 6 months in the bassinet shared sleep space so I feel nervous making the switch....not sure what to do 🤨

  • Stacie
    Friday

    I wish I could cassi- it’s too big

  • Cassi
    Friday

    Maybe you could try setting them down for naps in their crib and see how comfortable you are with that first. I would recommend having the baby monitor right next to the crib and leave the door cracked. Make sure there’s nothing in the crib with your love

My son is 6mo in two weeks. We had started Cry It Out this week and have been pretty traumatic but been gradually getting better. My concern is tho he doesn't nap well during the day. He's one of these erratic crap napper (30m each) and I've been trying to get him sleep in his crib too instead of in my arm since that helps him to sleep at night as well from what I researched. He cries and cries and cries all day long to fight to nap in his crib.. I'd love to enjoy this baby faze as ppl tell me he's getting to more fun age but I'm just so burned up.i feel I failed many tasks each day/nap I end up having him in my arm napping and not getting any work done. Any good tip or encouragement is much much appreciated..

  • Anonymous
    Dec 07

    2 things: - my baby was also a serial cat napper and finally switched to longer naps when she started crawling at 6 mo. Keep faith that happens! - routine is the key when you ‘want them to nap in the crib. Try for at least a week to do at least one nap in the crib and do the exact same routine Good luck! You got this

  • Rie
    Dec 07

    Thank you for that advice! I'm crossing my fingers, toes, and eyes!! 😝

My husbands daughter is from a previous relationship. She is 4 years old and still sleeps with her mom whom she’s with half the time and we are trying to have her sleep on her own but having a hard time. She has the bottom bunk in hers and my sons (her step brother’s) bedroom but only will sleep on the couch and will wake up numerous times all night crying for daddy. She says that she’s scared of monsters then says she can’t breathe if we try to let her cry it out. Any suggestions would help.

  • Desiree Baird, Sleep Coach
    Dec 07

    Try monster spray. Google the idea and maybe you can tell her when she gets scared she can use her monster spray. Amie already mentioned this and I always recommend to my clients.

Any tricks to get my newborn to nap in her bassinet/ rock and play for more than 30 minutes? Her eyes pop open almost 30 mins on the dot just about every time! I try once or twice a day and then I have her in the carrier on me for her other naps bc I know she’ll sleep 1-2.5 hours on me. I dont want her to get overtired! Will she be able to fall back asleep on her own with age or is there something I should be doing?

  • Stacie
    Dec 05

    My girl started sleeping in her bassinet when I stopped swaddling and she found her thumb...it took a few days but she just suddenly found it and that was it - she was about the same age as ur daughter

  • Desiree Baird, Sleep Coach
    Dec 05

    Just enjoy her in these early days. After 4 months then they are smart enough to start bad habits. But not right now. She needs love and comfort. :)

I have taken off work for the past 6 months to stay at home with my baby. I am getting ready to return to work in January. My baby still has trouble napping and sleeping when I'm not around or next to him. Has anyone else ever had this issue? What do you do? I really want him to have a smooth transition to daycare, not sure what to do?

  • Amber
    Dec 05

    My daughter never napped longer than an hour in the morning at daycare. Instead she fell asleep early (7:30 pm ) and slept through the night... all in all they let you know what they need. And daycare accommodates them at that age anyway. She didn’t have structured naps until she turned a year old.

  • Cecelia
    Dec 06

    I recommend getting the book "Solve your child's sleep problems" by MD Richard Ferber. It's evidence-based practice that worked for me and a few girlfriends and helps for trouble shooting all sorts of issues. I used this vs people's anecdotal evidence and it was great.

Anonymous

Have you dealt with an overtired newborn? How did you overcome? My little is 4 weeks old and sleeps during the day but seems overtired at night she won’t sleep and is super alert and fussy. We can’t put her down without her crying. And recommended things to try? Schedules on how to sleep during the day for a better night?

  • Anonymous
    Dec 05

    @desiree if she wakes up a lot during the night what are your suggestions? She sometimes seems hungry and then denies the bottle.

  • Desiree Baird, Sleep Coach
    Dec 05

    I think you should try to limit her day time sleep to 6 hours max and see if that improves nighttime sleep. I have a newborn package or we can do a phone consult if you have further questions. I can’t give all my secrets away since this is my business too :) The benefits of working with a sleep coach are priceless. You don’t have to read books and get conflicting information and you can get support and ask questions as much as needed. You also get a personalized plan. However sleep training shouldn’t start any sooner than 4/5 months of age.

Anonymous

My 5 month old just started sleeping in his crib (pediatrician recommended for safety issues). When we first put him down he's fine and will sleep 3-4 hours before waking up to nurse but after that we can't put him down again. As soon as he realizes he's not in my arms he wakes up screaming and won't go back down so I end up having to holding him if I want him to get any sleep/stop crying. Any advice on how to get him back down would be appreciated! I should mention, as soon as I put him down on his back he flips onto his belly and that sometimes wakes him up but he will not stay on his back! I don't keep anything in the crib except his pacifier. Please help this exhausted mom and dad!! Thanks in advance.

  • Anonymous
    Dec 05

    What do you mean quick checks as a form of sleep training?

  • Desiree Baird, Sleep Coach
    Dec 05

    I would be consistent. Do bedtime or nap time routine, say goodnight, leave the room for a set amount of time and do a quick check so he sees you are not abandoning him and that he is ok. Then you leave and do another check at a set amount of time. Basically Ferber method. If at any point you would like a sleep coach I would be honored to help. I love helping. Families. That’s why I got certified as a sleep consultant. :)

Anonymous

On average how many hours do your infants sleep in a 24 hr period? My almost 4 month old sleeps between 8-12 hours every 24 hours. It’s usually around 10 hours. We’ve tried various methods consistently for his daytime naps, but at most he sleeps for 30-45 minutes maybe 2-3 times a day. We try laying him down for naps 5 times a day. At night he sleeps for longer stretches of time, so the bulk of his sleep happens at night. But still, after his one long stretch of sleep, he wakes up every 45 - 90 minutes. He is developing incredibly fast it seems (sitting and standing on his own), he’s happy and very alert, but he does look tired throughout the day. He does not have ear infections or health complications. Wondering if anyone has similar experiences and if there is any cause to be concerned?

  • Desiree Baird, Sleep Coach
    Dec 05

    Sounds to me he will need some sleep training and the nursing to sleep will have to be eliminated b/c if not he could end up waking up more at night to be nursed to sleep. But right now just know short naps are very common at this age. You can try to nap extend. I had to do this with my youngest to get one good nap in a day. It’s hard for me to help completely without getting more info and putting together a personalized plan. If you have any interest at any point I would love to work with you. The benefit of working with a sleep coach is that you get personalized attention and non conflicting info like the books and getting advice from multiple sources. Feel free to check out my website or FB if at any point you need help. www.pediatricsleepcoach.com

  • Ashley
    Tuesday

    Short daytime naps are very common at four months. What you’re describing sounds very normal and I wouldn’t be concerned! I always say it’s up to you to offer your kids naps and up to them to take them if they’re tired. Between 6 and 12 months naps will lengthen and baby may have more of a schedule.

Anonymous

FTM here. My 1 month old is very alert and has been since she was born. She has her days and nights all figured out which is great, but she refuses to take naps during the daytime. I mean this crazy child will be awake for 5-6 hours before we can get her to sleep. Of course, this means she gets overtired and extremely cranky. We swaddle her, we turn the lights off in the room, we try to feed her to mellow her out, we rock her, etc. etc. and she always rouses herself after 10 minutes or so (with a few exceptions) and starts screaming. Help! How do I get this baby to take daytime naps?!

  • Tusaji
    Dec 01

    Try a bath in the middle of the day... to relax her , and then give her a full feeding . That should get her sleepy to where she’ll take a well worthy nap. I wouldn’t do it every day, but maybe every other to get into a routine of her taking a nap.

  • Desiree Baird, Sleep Coach
    Dec 05

    Have you tried baby wearing or a swing?

I am having terrible mommy insomnia. I was having it when my baby was just born for the first three months. I rarely slept! Then it got better but now that I’m back to work, it’s back! My baby sleeps through the night but I can’t call asleep😭 I have tried everything - yoga, tea, wine, breathing techniques. I’m exhausted! Looking for any out of the box ideas to help!

  • Teddy
    Nov 29

    While going through the same thing (and breastfeeding) my ONGYN prescribed a half a pill of ambien. She said melatonin wasn't safe because there was more passed to the milk in higher quantities because it was natural. Talk to your OBGYN before taking anything, even OTC. But I do recommend doing it asap, cause sleep is so important!

  • Yulia
    Nov 30

    Try excercising in the morning/ during the day. Surprisingly running in the morning for a half an hour helped my coworker.

My son is 2.5 and has always slept in bed with me & hubby. We don’t go to sleep until he falls asleep (I know). We have his crib beside our bed but I tried it before, put him to sleep then laid him in it. He wakes up later and freaks out pretty badly. We will be moving in a month or two where he will have his own room and I’m hoping to have him in it. He is the last of three kids so I admit I keep him closer An give in more. But we would love to get him sleeping in his own bed, and I’ll b honest I can’t handle walking out and letting him cry it out. Any suggestions?

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