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Anonymous posted in Marriage & Partnership Yesterday

Too far with the ultimatum?

With holiday season and the year coming to an end DH has been getting invited to social events (he tells me about them but doesn’t ask me to join, which I’m a little hurt but it’s whatever since I’m pregnant). However, he’s been getting drunk and end up staying at a friends. We have a 9 month old and 5 weeks left till EDD. I told him if he’s out drinking when I go into labor I won’t be contacti... More

  • Elena
    Yesterday

    Omg pregnant and had to get the uber to hospital. Uhhhmm no not far at all he should be by your side he has no business being out and stay at friends houses when you are pregnant with an infant he should know better 😥 I'm sorry for being mean I dont know you guys but Its sound like he doesn't get the seriousness of the situation. I would let him know how you feel and how disrespectful i... More

  • Andrea
    Yesterday

    I don’t think you went to far. Ppl will treat us how we allow them to. I think it’s good to set boundaries and to communicate how we expect to be treated. Plus, you let him know in advance. Good luck!!!

Anonymous posted in Marriage & Partnership Sunday

What would you do if you were me?

I have two kids I love so much that I would do anything for them including keeping the marriage. I think my husband has sth going on but I can't find the proof because he is very sneaky. He doesn't sleep till morning every night. Everytime he uses bathroom would be an hour with door locked. He is really paranoid. We r in the same house but we pretty much communicate with text and it'... More

  • Breigh
    Sunday

    Yes I’ve had a similar experience I hate to be a downer but your relationship is already over. Trust is hard to rebuild. Your kids deserve to see you happy. They can see more than you think. I think you have your answer. It’ll be hard but liberating. You’ll change for the better

  • Elle
    Sunday

    Ditto Breigh's comment. If you can do marriage counseling, work through a priest or pastor or other third party, give that a try. If not, something has to change. Your kids are watching and learning. The dybamics you described should not be their model for a healthy, happy, fulfilling relationship.

Increased hunger on Depo

Ever since my second dose of the Depo shot, I have been hungry pretty much all the time. I try to not eat right away when I'm hungry if I have just eaten a meal, but sometimes I can't help it and feel like I need to eat something. Even after I've had a big meal, I seem to be hungry within about an hour after eating. Anyone else experience this?? This is my second time being on the s... More

  • Corra
    Sunday

    I had the same hunger issues when I was on it. I gained 50-60 pounds on it after my son. I was always hungry, struggling with my weight and hormones were all messed up. So I got off it after a yr of being on it. I’ve been on a different BC for 2yrs and I have finally lost all the steroid weight. And I’m in love with the BC I’m on.

  • Amelia
    1h ago

    I’m on the pill and experiencing the same symptoms. If I wasn’t so terrified of getting pregnant again, I wouldn’t be taking any BC at all. It really has done a number on my body.

We like our privacy - I feel guilty?

Husband and I are the only ones in the family that own a home, so our house is the central meeting place for family/holidays. In addition, both grandmas babysit my baby in my house each week. It was awkward and still is, because I told them they can ONLY stay for dinner 1x/week per grandma. So that’s 2x/week where we come home and have people around. Sometimes, our brothers/brother-in-law c... More

  • cocomac
    Friday

    I’m just so glad I’m not alone!! Yeah, I think the guilt thing is some sort of piety thing, I have to get over. I am an adult now. I will keep reminding myself that boundaries are important bc these moments never come back - soon baby will ask me to drop her off a block away so she can walk to school on her own 😭 Thank you!

  • Christa
    Friday

    Nope, you’re totally not alone. Families like that are crazy- mine is just plain NUTS! I love them all but they are all crazy at times! I just remind myself that to me what’s more important- the boundaries of getting the family to understand that you need space as a family or that your daughter and you and hubby need time as a unit? Large families honestly from my own experience have absolute... More

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Wednesday

How to approach the subject with your partner about having another baby?

Hello. My husband & I have a 4 year old son. Initially, I wanted to have 2 kids close in age. No more than 3 years apart. Well, our son is now 4 years old and I’d really would like to start trying to have another baby at the beginning of next year. My husband, however, would like to wait until we start building our house which would be in another 3 years (we’re working on our land in some... More

  • Valerie
    Wednesday

    If you’re both working on building your home, you being out of commission for the duration of a pregnancy will put a lot of pressure on him. Also with a newborn to care for, you will be unable to help him and he will be unable to help you with the baby if he’s busy on the house. Resentment in both directions is a possible outcome. My husband built a tiny house to use as an office during my preg... More

  • Hope Brown
    Friday

    Have your FSH tested if you're concerned with lowered fertility. My siblings and I are far apart in age and we have a close relationship. I don't think that has anything to do with age spacing but how much you're willing to work on the relationship. If you're trying to help build a house it's not a great idea to be pregnant and postpartum. FYI the rate of developmental compl... More

“It’s getting hard to be someone but it all works out.”

Hi all! So I realize my daughter is only 15 months old and I have time to work on this but it’s been on my mind so here goes. How do parents of older children do it!?! I think about my years in junior high and high school and I don’t want that for my daughter. The angst of not being in the popular group. The angst of not being a perfect size 2. The crushing feeling of being turned down the ... More

  • Julie
    Wednesday

    Michaela, thank you for responding! My mom and dad were both very nurturing and kind and always talked to me and wanted me to talk to them and I mostly did until I reached JR high and high school. I think something happened to shake my confidence in myself and for whatever reason I stopped wanting to talk to them and confide in them....I’m so worried something similar will happen with my own d... More

  • Lily
    Wednesday

    All that stuff is part becoming your own person, and the teenager years suck! But I think a really important thing is that your kid feel like they talk to you about things. My parents were pretty good until I got a boyfriend at 17 that they didn’t like. Whole long story.....but they kicked me out at 18. And I haven’t talked to them since. I tried to reconnect when I got pregnant, but they wante... More

What age is a good age to bring another baby in the picture?

My son just turned 2 in November, & my husband and I are wanting to try to get pregnant after the first of the year, but every time we bring our son around our friends with babies, he gets too jealous and sometimes angry because we’re holding another baby. So is it a good time to bring another baby in the picture?

  • Lindsay
    Thursday

    My son will turn 3 in February and my daughter will be born in April/May. I am also worried about this because we have such a fantastic relationship. We try to include him in my pregnancy as much as possible. He picked out a cute Christmas outfit for her, he helped choose what books we should keep for her, we put her clothes in her dresser, etc. I think it’s helping! I also put him in preschool... More

  • Candace
    Thursday

    I have a 2 year old and 1 month old. I can say it can be really challenging dealing with two little ones that needs your attention ( let alone dealing with postpartum depression). But introducing my son to his little brother was easy because every time me and my 2 year old bonded we would talk to my belly and let him know a baby is on the way. I kept on reminding him everyday until my second so... More

Anonymous posted in Family Life Dec 04

Nervous about vacationing away from baby

I'm considering surprising my partner with a cruise for Christmas since he's never been on one and we desperately need a quick vacation. However, my LO will only be 7 months by cruise date and I am terrified of being away from him. Is there any way to feel comfortable about being away? Or should I consider a different gift?

  • Anonymous
    Dec 04

    You hit the nail on the head, Caroline. The point is for us to have a getaway because I have been total focused on my LO.

  • Caroline
    Dec 04

    Yes!!! I recently am a stay at home mom for a little and as much as I love her.. I needed some time away and I love my husband to and your relationship with your husband has to be healthy.(not saying yours isn’t) lol just you have to take care of yourself and your relationship with your SO. It’s healthy for everyone! :)

Anonymous posted in Marriage & Partnership Dec 03

Good communication between wife and husband

I really think I’m like minor depressed. It’s just to a point that I don’t want to do nothing. And my husband makes it worst without realizing it. Well now he finally confides to me that he’s depressed and holding in his feelings, from work. His job is a very stressful job (he’s in the military). So I finally got him to talk bout it and pretty much he feels like he’s not doing as good as he wan... More

  • Anonymous
    Thursday

    I think we are getting there. We are slowly talking about our feelings. I definitely saw a change yesterday as in helping me because he changed the baby a bunch without me even asking him. And even when I ask him to play or hold him while I get baby food or make dinner or take a shower/potty. He didn’t hesitate to do so. So after a long talk I think we're getting better. Just want to know i... More

  • Christy
    Thursday

    But it's ok for you both to be down in the dumps as long as you are both open about it. And praise the Lord, girl - I know what you mean! It took my husband a while to do things without asking too, and it was like a load off my shoulders! It all takes time, but it seems like you both are going in the right direction. If it helps, try to just rent a movie together to have some time when kid... More

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Dec 03

Best time to start trying for a baby?

In your experience, what is the best age to start? My husband and I are 24 and thinking about trying soon. But of course, we’re scared! Feel free to add details about your experience!

  • Polli
    Dec 04

    The only thing I can add to the advice you’ve already gotten, is make sure your mental health is taken care of before trying and think about how many you want. Every couple knows their right time, I’m 28 and my boy is turning 4 months this week. We only wanted one child and last year turned out to be the right time for us to try and I wasn’t afraid of being too old for my child down the line. ... More

  • Carissa
    Dec 04

    Everyone is right when they say there is no right time. You will never be stable enough or have enough money or be completely ready for a baby BUT you can at least have a plan. Do you have insurance? Because medical bills will be expensive! What about daycare? Will one of you be staying home or do you have family near by? Daycare is crazy expensive so you’ll need to make sure you can afford it.... More

Work through it or get Divorced

How to determine if you should work through it or get divorced. I take my vows seriously so I don’t just want to up and leave when it get rough. My husband and I have been together for almost 13 yrs and married for almost 10yrs. We have 7 children, it is a his,mine, and ours. Which the kids don’t know that and we don’t use the word step. My husband has adopted mine I plan on to adopt his when ... More

  • Maria
    Dec 04

    I think money is one of the biggest issues in any relationship, especially when there is a lack of it to cover basic needs and expenses. None of us know the details here, but so far, it sounds like things can work out for the better, in time. No relationship is perfect, no man is perfect nor any woman out there. But when we choose someone to share our lives with, I feel we need to step up and b... More

  • Amanda
    Dec 04

    Thx for the kind words. It helps a lot just reading what your saying. I think it can be worked on and somewhat resolved. It will be hard and take time to figure it out but I’m hoping we can.

Anonymous posted in Family Life Dec 02

How much time Is too much?

My son has been going to his grandma's house since he was 6 months old when I was working briefly. Then I became a stay at home mom. He started spending one weekend a month since he turned one. Now he is almost 2. I think he spend too much time with her especially since she is now influencing his behavior too much. Not in a bad way but more than I am comfortable with. She does small thin... More

  • Christa
    Dec 02

    I would suggest not really saying much. My mother in law also just recently passed away- in August, anyway, I just kinda let her do her thing, and then if my son acted up later when we got home trying to get away with the same things that he was able to get away with with Grandma, I just explain to him in a very calm tone- “I understand that it’s okay to act that way at Grandmas, and she’s okay... More

  • Brittany
    Dec 03

    I agree with Christa. I am running into this with my mom actually. She definitely wants to be the "fun grandma" and not let my daughter be upset. Ever. I get it, to an extent, she's done her job as Mom and now she just wants the fun parts lol. I think that kids are smarter than we sometimes give them credit for, they can definitely adapt to the "time and a place" th... More

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Dec 02

Only Child?

For parents who have opted to be "one and done" - what influenced your decision not to pursue conceiving another child?

  • Cherish
    Dec 04

    I was an only child so honestly I have a difficult time with the squabbling/blaming/lying siblings engage in. I did have a second child but my son was born 22 years after my daughter so it like I have two only children.

Anonymous posted in Family Life Dec 02

Drinking habits

Warning.. a long post. My husband works in law enforcement. The first couple of years he would refuse to have one drink even at dinner during his work week. When we were dating this was his rule as well as after we got married - so marriage didn’t change a thing. This was just his rule and I respected his choice (even though I think the occasional drink with your significant other at dinner i... More

  • Kieli
    Dec 02

    My husband drinks about that much too in the work week. More on his days off. He chews a whole can of tobacco a day, and smokes cigarettes/cigars. I’ve tried talking to him because he’s already not in the best of health at age 21. But he does it still anyways, and his family encourages the drinking. I’ve come to a place where I know I can’t change him, the more I talk to him about it the more w... More

  • Christa
    Dec 02

    So here are my thoughts. This is coming from a momma, a wife, and a friend. My husband was in the emergency medical services and worked as a paramedic for 15 years. For as long as he and I have been friends, dated and married. So I’ve been through it all, and he started out drinking really mildly then it got much like your husband is now, then it surpassed what I ever thought he needed to be... More

Wenonah posted in Behavior Dec 02

Stranger danger

My daughter won’t let anyone hold except me, my boyfriend and my mother. How do I gently get her like other people then us. I have so many people who will watch her whenever we need a break but she cries if she doesn’t see us. How did you handle this situation?

  • Destinee
    Dec 02

    Totally normal. My daughter is just getting over this now and will let most people hold her. I just didn’t force it. She started going to others on her own time. She used to burst into tears anytime her grandpa even looked at her, but yesterday she spent the whole afternoon wanting to be held by him. It will get better

  • Christa
    Dec 02

    At 7 months they start picking favorites and start developing separation anxiety. This will change, just assure her that she’s fine, and that you’re still around close by! Sometimes just let them hold her as long as she’s completely comfortable and as soon as she starts showing lack of comfort, take her back. Give her something that smells like you while they hold her. We never really had tha... More

Meeting mommy friends?

I've always been someone with a plenty of friends & people to hang out with & as soon as I became pregnant all my friends disappeared. I always knew moms who talked about losing friends when they became a mom but I didn't realize I was gonna have to meet all new friends. & Meeting mommy friends is a lot harder than I thought. Did any other mommys struggle with making new m... More

  • Danielle
    Dec 02

    Yeah I want to join something like that as well

  • Misty
    Dec 04

    I’m struggling too! I’m new to area and everyone I know is 5.5t hours away! It’s tough!

Anonymous posted in Blended Families Dec 01

Pictures with Santa

My mother in law told me she wanted to go take a picture with her Santa my daughter and step son. Is that weird? Should I?

  • Anonymous
    Dec 03

    They are included in a lot of stuff. They have sleepovers every week if not twice some weeks. She’s over almost every other morning and we do Sunday dinners quiet often

  • Tyerra
    Dec 04

    Well if y’all do all that then it sounds like y’all are close so why not especially if she is paying lol

I’m trying to make mommy friends

I’m just trying to make some new mommy friends 😊 it’ll be nice since I’m a new mom

Ali posted in Family Life Nov 30

Holidays got me down

My husband always works on the holidays as does his sister and her husband. His family lives about an hour and a half away from us. We always try to see his side of the family for Christmas. My in-laws won’t plan something if his sister can’t be there, but his sister has the attitude of "if I work, I work, if I don’t I don’t." Do other people have this issue? To make matters w... More

  • Jennifer
    Dec 04

    I am in a very similar situation. I have 2 children, my biological brother has 2 children, my two step-siblings have three children between them. My parents (biological father and step-mother) do not go 48 hours without seeing or speaking with the three boys and they all spend the night multiple times a month. However, my biological brother’s children only see them on occasions such as birth... More

  • Ali
    Dec 04

    Luckily my mom loves all her grandkids equally and puts family as #1. Not saying she is perfect but she is great in this regard. Unfortunately my in laws remind me of my grandma who definitely had favorites and uneven treatment was common. Maybe this is why my mom is so great with this issue and I am sensitive about it. I don’t want my kids to feel how my siblings and I did growing up. I... More

Anonymous posted in Family Life Nov 28

Venting

I am the mother of a six and a half month old daughter. I just visited my home in Texas where my best friend told me that I am losing myself and that I am not just my daughters Mom. Also, that my only conversation topic is my child... I mean is that bad?!? I get what she is saying, but what is wrong with just being a Mom? I started working from home a month before giving birth, so I don’t inter... More

  • Anonymous
    Nov 29

    It sounds like your friend may be right. And it sounds like what upsets you is really that you fear she might be right. - Having no friends is not a defining hallmark of an introvert. Introverts make the best friends. - Having no friends is not a sign of a succesful adult life. It sounds like you lost track of balance and your own self, your own interests, hobbies, and needs somewhere alin... More

  • Erin
    Dec 01

    I have to disagree with your friend, there is nothing wrong with losing yourself in your kids a bit, especially when they are so little, because as you said, it does go by very fast. That's actually kind of a dumb thing to say anyway. You "lose yourself?" Where do you go? You are always still you!! I am 33 with two kids and despite my best efforts all my friends without kids have ... More

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