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Anonymous posted in Making Friends Wednesday

Are there any reasons that make it okay to drop out as a bridesmaid a week before the wedding?

  • Emily
    Yesterday

    Depends on why. If you just aren’t feeling it anymore than no that’s not okay. But as said above if there’s major issues then yeah of course. I was a bridesmaid for food poisoning I stayed for the ceremony and pictures and went home apologized up and down but I stayed for the important things

  • JJ
    Yesterday

    There’s lots of reasons to drop out. Could be a family emergency, heath issues, work related problems, travel concerns, or the engaged couple did something unforgivable or made unreasonable expectations.

My Daughter Wants More Friends

So my daughter told me she wants more friends but I don't know how to go about this? She's 2 as well so not many of my mom friends have kids her age. What do I do? Plus all I do is work so its hard to get out sometimes.

  • Birdie
    Yesterday

    Of course she doesn’t fully understand now but they understand a lot more than you realize.

  • Katherine
    59m ago

    My son is way more social than me. So, if I take him to an event geared for toddlers, he seems happy.

Anonymous posted in Family Life Tuesday

Talks About Baby #2

How did you know you were ready? What advice would you give for someone planning to expand their family from one kid to two?

  • Elle
    Wednesday

    1. Make sure your mental, emotional, and physical health is in a good place. 2. Make sure your marriage is in a good place. 3. Think about the common issues, struggles, and other things to happen with your kid in the next 5 years: do you have the bandwidth, and then some, to adequately handle them? 4. Make sure you're financially ready. If the answer to all 4 of those question is a '... More

  • Christina
    Yesterday

    Don’t make big purchases right before. We bought a house in August and a car in October. Found out in December that we were having twins. So we had to buy another car to fit 5 people (overlapping seatbelts, too narrow for 3 across) and hubby wishes we got a house with 4 bedrooms. Think about how old your first will be and how dependent they will be-diapers, play, ability to self feed, self dr... More

How can I make my wife feel more involved?

My wife has gone back to work, I’m full time stay at home dad with 2 month old. I know my wife is missed and would like more time with the baby, I’ve got everything on handled, but I get the feeling she feels left out. I try to give her as much time with the baby as possible. In the morning, I pack her lunch, make her breakfast, cook dinner, and keep the house clean, and try to save some activi... More

  • Cathy
    Tuesday

    I agree with Anne!

  • Sara
    Yesterday

    Agree that you are doing an incredible job! It sounds like you are doing way way more than enough. My husband is also a full-time stay at home dad to our 2 kids and I definitely feel left out sometimes when I'm at work but that's the tradeoff I make and I'm OK with it. One idea based on what we do -- my husband setup the Google Photos app (it's free) to automatically share an... More

Anonymous posted in DIY Tuesday

Small wedding ideas?

Really frugal way to throw a very small intimate wedding. No outdoors I live in Louisiana :p we’ve already had 2 of the 4 seasons just this morning haha. The only reason I’m anon is because it hasn’t been announced yet :p

  • Christina
    Tuesday

    We had family out to first cousins. Dinner and reception in a restaurant in their private banquet area. Ceremony we did outside, but I know you said you can’t do that. With an open bar and photography we spent about 5k. We skipped flowers which was a big cost saver.

  • Joey
    Tuesday

    Don't do wedding favors. They're a waste of money and usually get thrown away afterward. Silk flowers are usually much cheaper than real. You could do grocery store bunches for the bouquets and just baby's breath for the centerpieces (really cute in mason jars). DIY doesn't always mean cheaper! A lot of wholesale websites can offer up cheap alternatives.

Anonymous posted in Marriage & Partnership Monday

How long did you HONESTLY wait to have sexual intercourse after having your baby?

My sister is 3 weeks postpartum and she wants to have sexual intercourse and doesn’t want to wait anymore. I told her she already waited this long and if she can wait a few more weeks it’ll be worth it because she NEEDS to heal. She won’t listen to me though and I’m pretty sure she’s going to do it anyways. So have any of you had sexual intercourse before the 6 week mark??

  • Courtney
    Yesterday

    A week 😬

  • Anonymous
    Yesterday

    @courtney how painful was that? I imagine it being a pretty painful time 😐😩

Anonymous posted in Marriage & Partnership Monday

Off topic...

How did you afford your wedding? Did you pay for all of it? How old were you? What was the ballpark cost total? Did you have any $$$ left at the end? How do people do it? Rings, dresses, venues, food/drink, music... How can you afford to live and have a family/house when it’s all said and done? It’s making me nauseous.

  • Anonymous
    Tuesday

    Ours was expensive (~55k). We were mid 30s, have very large families that we wanted to be there as well as good friends. We paid for it ourselves, except my dress was paid for as a gift and a family member made our cake. Regardless of how much you have to spend, the key is making a budget together before buying anything. We created a spreadsheet with the maximum we would spend on any one thing ... More

  • Joanna
    Tuesday

    My husband and I were together for 12 years before we got married in our 30s and we were able to save and pay for the wedding and home we purchased that year. We both worked in consulting and travelled extensively so we had points and miles for the honeymoon. Our wedding was at a downtown hotel and in total cost 25k and had 120 guests. I only had my sister as a bridesmaid and we both picked dre... More

Anonymous posted in Family Life Monday

Marriage related- sleeping in separate rooms

Ever since my daughter was about 6 months old, my SO sleeps on the couch. She didn’t start sleeping through the night til she was almost 18 months old, and he works a very stressful job with long hours so he had just gotten used to sleeping down there. Now she is almost 22 months old and he still won’t sleep in our room, and whenever I ask why it’s bc he says he needs to watch tv to fall asleep... More

  • Alix
    Tuesday

    My husband & I just started sleeping in the same bed together after almost 2 years. Can you wear an eye mask if its the light? Or ear plugs if its the noise. My BFF cannot have any noise or light & her hubby snores so she uses both & is still able to hear the kids on the monitor thats on the side table. I have just recently started sleeping with the tv off, some days I turn down t... More

  • Anonymous
    Tuesday

    Amanda didn't suggest a compromise. She suggested a method that slowly disregards his wants.

Anonymous posted in Family Life Monday

Hubby wants his mom in the delivery room

We’re about to have our second child, and the hubs wants his mom to be in the room when the baby is born. For the first time my mom and him were in the room. I told firstly only two people are allowed in the room and I want my mom to be there which he said she was there the first time and we should let his mom be there this time. But a girl just needs/wants her mom there. So he said then he’ll ... More

  • Julie
    Wednesday

    Muriel, I never remember any conversation about taking the whole package when I married my man. I actually think the conversation was more along the lines of, “I’m marrying you.” This has absolutely nothing to with love or acceptance or bonding with mil. This is about mil wanting to be inserted into the delivery of her grandchild regardless of what her sons wife wants. And on top of it, she’s... More

  • Amy
    Yesterday

    I agree w/Sara...it’s your body and u doing the work so...just say no!! Good luck!

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Monday

Positive ?

Does this look positive or am I just seeing stuff

  • Emily
    Monday

    I see a line! That’s what mine looked like with my daughters till I was 8 weeks

  • Jelissa
    Tuesday

    Very faint

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Monday

Ovulation

I need help. 3rd month on femara First month progesterone level on CD 22 was 25.3 - BFN Third month prog. Level today on CD 23 is 9.4 Why is it lower ? Do i still have a chance of being pregnant if i am a week away from AF ? Anyone had near this level of 9.4 and get a BFP?

Play dates

How do I ask someone to go on a play date ?

  • Pablo Alarcon
    Tuesday

    Awesome advise I will try that I need friends with kids lol it gets boring

  • Star
    Tuesday

    I know the feeling. Good luck I’m sure you will find play dates and make more friends.

Mirena & breastfeeding

Hello! I was just wondering if any of you guys are on mirena AND breastfeeding and if so do you get a period? My daughter is 19 months old and i haven't had a period since the one right before i got pregnant with her (may 2016). I used to breastfeed a lot but now that she is getting older i only breastfeed every other night so i don't know if that even makes a difference anymore. I jus... More

  • Amanda
    Monday

    U may not have one. I got it after my 3rd child and never had a period until I had it out for about a yr.

Anonymous posted in Family Life Sunday

Husband doesn't want a second one

Me and my husband have been together for 3 happy years. We have an almost 2 year old daughter. She wasn't planned but we were still excited. I'm ready to try for baby number 2 but he says he doesn't want anymore kids. When I ask why he says that he doesn't want to deal with infant stage again. (Our daughter was born with health conditions which have passed but made infant stage ... More

  • Asia
    Tuesday

    This, as many important life events, should have been discussed prior to marriage. Let life happen as it happens. If you have more, fine. If not, it won't make life any less difficult.

  • Amiloo
    Tuesday

    I wish I had an answer or advice for you. I don’t, but I wanted to let you know you aren’t alone. My wife and I have four children, and we’ve always talked about having more. She had a miscarriage in Jan of this year, and now we are at a stand still. She doesn’t want to go through that again, and I certainly can’t blame her. But it definitely feels like she is taking full control of our collect... More

Advice

My bf of ten years has become more and more violent over the past few months. It started small little annoyances would set him off but recently he has been especially horrible. Last night on our second child's 1st birthday party he got extremely intoxicated. He was talking down to me and said some real hurtful things. I did throw my shoe at him after suggesting he go to sleep because he was... More

Susan posted in Behavior Saturday

Bullying at school at 2.5 years?

Had anyone else dealt with this at such a young age? My daughter is not yet 2.5 and I think she is being bullied by a 3 year old who used to be in the same class with her. They were friends before and I think my daughter has a hard time understanding the age difference and that since this girl moved up she has new friends, but this girl says some mean things to my daughter and I’m pretty sure s... More

  • Vicki
    Saturday

    Definitely talk to the teachers first and see what is going on at school. My daughter had a similar issue around the same age... almost everyday she would come home and say this boy pushed or hit her or was just generally mean. She never had any marks though and other kids just said he was mean... my daughter seemed targeted with the hitting. The teachers were aware and kept them apart for the ... More

  • Birdie
    Saturday

    Talk with the mom. Don’t label it as bullying b/c she will immediately jump into defensive mode. Voice you concern that you feel their relationship has changed but you’re not sure how or what exactly is going on. You’ve noticed your daughter acting a certain & if she has noticed any changes in her daughter. Ask her to just keep an eye out on things so you both can get a better idea of what... More

Anonymous posted in Divorce & Separation Saturday

Couples Counseling

My husband and I just decided to go to couples counseling. We’ve always had ups and down, but since the baby came it feels like we struggle to communicate and bicker a lot. I know a lot of that is typical, as we are tired and busy and adjusting. Anyway, I’m terrified the result will be divorce. Anyone have success stories with counseling? Maybe if I keep ignoring it it would get better, but b... More

  • Jenn
    Saturday

    My husband and I went to counseling for about a year while we were engaged. I won't go into details but there were some pretty terrible things going on at the time (on my end). It was immensely helpful for both of us. If we hadn't begun going, I probably would've kept lying/ hiding and likely wouldn't have gotten married. I can't imagine where I'd have wound up. Ignorin... More

  • Kris
    Monday

    Relationships/ marriages are hard to begin with but when you add little ones it’s a vast change to your union. Me and my husband went through it when we had our baby boy and it was incredibly rough in the beginning to adapt to the new roles and responsibilities but with time and ALOT of open and honest communication with one another we got through it. We considered counseling but tried being co... More

Doesn’t Like Mommy

My daughter looooves her daddy and says regularly to me, “I don’t like you”, and also says, “I don’t like Mommy” to her Dad. When we ask why, she says, “Mommy is not nice.” As I am actually very nice to my daughter but yes, I do set boundaries with her, this is a little confusing. We both practice positive discipline, no hitting, etc. I have definitely been a bit more stressed lately because I ... More

  • Anna
    Sunday

    I’d say it’s because of the baby, but this was happening before the baby came.

  • April
    Sunday

    I’m a SAHM of 1 with one due in November. The second daddy comes home from work, I’m instantly invisible or the bad guy.

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Saturday

Breaking up after first baby b/c husband changed his mind on the second

We had to go through IVF to have our first baby, who is the light of our life. Our baby is a year old now. After three failed IVF cycles the fourth was the charm. We ended up with two viable embryos and chose to transfer one and preserve the second to try for number two. Shortly after baby was born my husband told me this was enough for him, he didn’t want anymore. Everyone told me to give it ... More

  • Rachel
    Monday

    If my husband told me he was ready for a divorce and I really wanted another kid, I’d get a divorce and have another baby. Option 2 - Wait a year. Parenting gets easier and maybe in another year he will change his mind. Option 3 - Donate the embryo so it isn’t destroyed.

  • Anonymous
    Monday

    Thanks everyone. Original poster here. I appreciate the feedback. I am in therapy, I always believe in the power of talking things out with a trained impartial observer. At the anonymous poster who says they’d feel like crap if they were told this, I’m sorry you feel that way. I feel like crap that we always planned to try for the second and now he has changed his mind and is essentially holdin... More

Anonymous posted in Behavior Saturday

Our kid is great, but...

Our 3.5yo boy is well behaved most of the time, but can have typical toddler moments too. My boss/friend has two sons 3 & 5 who behave terribly (hit, scream, whine, and manipulate to get what they want etc). When we have gotten together my son starts to act out like them and continues to do so afterwards. It requires so much “relearning” of good behaviors that it isn’t worth it to us to get... More

  • Alyssa
    Saturday

    No personal experience in this, but maybe try telling her that time away from the kids might be nice. That you and her can do lunch, and that you’d just love the parent free time! I know she doesn’t have a large support system and that it’s supposed to be a family thing, but that’s the only way I can see changing the situation.

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