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7 bfn tests

Hi, I am a mom of 3 and I feel very pregnant. We were supposed to be done after my last (2 year old) but I feel very pregnant. Idk what to think, at this point I am kind if obsessing I think. My last period was 3 days early and lasted for 1 day, basically just spotting. I never even used a tampon. I am normally pretty regular and last anywhere from 3 to 5 days with a heavy day or two in the mid... More

Anonymous posted in Family Life Saturday

Early bird gets the worm.

I need some advice. I am a stay at home mom that occassionally works as an independent contractor. I get up pretty early to take my kids to school, and get a start on my day. Although, my husband doesn't. He goes to work whenever he wants [also, an independent contractor] so he doesn't have a super weird schedule where I would have to be mindful of noise level. BUT, everyday when I com... More

  • Laura
    1h ago

    Sounds like a visit to a couples therapist would be helpful.

  • anonymous mom
    1h ago

    That’s crazy. I love and miss my sleep but I cannot imagine starting my day at 11am. Buy him a noise maker and tell him that’s the most you’ll be doing to “compromise.” That’s so out of line!!!

Allergic to my mil

I mean, it’s either that or a pure coincidence that upon her arrival for the long weekend I began sneezing incessantly, eyes were watering, and I finally had to pop some Benadryl. 😂😱

  • anonymous mom
    Saturday

    It was mostly a joke, but she is a walking perfume advertisement 😆🤦‍♀️

  • cocomac
    Sunday

    My mil also loves strong perfume. I smell her for a couple days at my house after she leaves. I considered asking her not to wear such strong perfumes as it could hurt the baby 😂 but I now also immediately wash my baby if she smells like mil... I don’t need an olfactory memory of her whenever I hold my baby!!!

Hello everyone! Evap line or faint positive?

My cycles work like a clock they always are 28 days. Last period was 8/7/19 , spotting lasted for three days 8/29-8/31. No period since then, I took a PT and I got this? Evap line or faint positive? I don’t know what to think or do! Feels like I’m going crazy

  • Bethany
    Wednesday

    I would take another in two days and see what it says or you can always go to urgent care and do the blood test

Anonymous posted in In-Laws Oct 08

I am so disappointed with my husband

We have a 2yo daughter, and we’re also expecting our 2nd. We currently live with his father. His sister lives in the same neighborhood. Recently our daughter has become super picky and selective with her meals. She’ll easily skip lunch, snacks and dinner. As you can imagine I’m super stressed and have been considering taking her to see her pediatrician. I’ve noticed that my husband’s family is ... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 08

    I think it's a man thing. they just really easily seem to glaze over details.... like pants and shoes! It doesn't end here unless you take time to have a serious discussion with your husband and let him know how stressed and worried you are and that you need to be able to rely on him. Make her the doctors appointment and tell the in-laws some of the "healthy eating habits" you... More

Anonymous posted in In-Laws Oct 08

Can’t sleep. MIL pissed me off again!

My MIL watches my child 2x a week (my mom the other 3x). I was telling my best friend that the last week, I haven’t hated waking up to seeing my MIL in my house!!! I even made conversation, kind of. Applause all around!!! Then, she goes and pissed me off again. We are out for lunch with BIL/gf/MIL, and I have child next to me cornered on one side of the table. MIL is across from child. “Fin... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 08

    Does anyone feel like I’m being too over protective/FTM/influenced by the obvious overbearing MIL issues? There may be a generational and cultural difference too.. just wondering how you would feel! Thanks’

  • Luis
    Oct 08

    Yes... maybe... does it matter? You have the right to your feelings, they are yours, it’s just a question of how you deal with it. When it comes to protecting your kid, go with your gut and always err on the side of precaution. If you feel it ain’t right, it ain’t right. Remember, when it comes to to our kids, you only owe explanations to the other parent, it’s no one else’s business.

Yo posted in Cute Oct 07

A cute idea ?

Good day all, What would be a cute idea/surprise for somebody to receive their significant other at the airport other than the traditional flowers and balloons ??? I can’t honestly think of anything else lol

  • Kieli
    Oct 07

    As long as your getting there right when they arrive lol

  • PK
    Oct 07

    A funny or flashy sign to embarrass them?

Anonymous posted in Marriage & Partnership Oct 04

Married and crushing

I met someone at work and was asked out. I declined but I was attracted to this guy although it is not someone I would ever date because... 1.). I am married 2.) he is a “bad boy” 3.) I am married I didn’t tell my husband and won’t see this guy again. Despite all of this I have been completely fixated on the guy/situation. It makes me feel like a bad wife or like something is really ... More

  • Anonymous
    Wednesday

    Op here. Thanks for your input! You are completely right, I need to redirect the energy. It is hard b/c my husband is not putting in much effort either (we do two or three date nights a year usually related to his work). I more often feel like the maid/cook/finance handler/nanny to my husband rather than his partner/friend/lover. It was nice to have someone see me as a whole person r... More

  • Anonymous
    Wednesday

    Oh yes, you definitely need more date nights, 1 per month at least and not related to his work. It would be so worth it to outsource any chore/task you can to make time for each other. Keeping up all the cleaning and laundry was starting to be a real stress on me and the relationship and I always felt really lazy or even ashamed to consider a house cleaner, also we are not extremely rich or... More

Anonymous posted in Grade Schoolers Oct 03

Best age for 1st Sleepover

What age did your child attend/host 1st sleepover? Daughter is turning 8 years old and she would really like one. I'm wracking my brain and nerves trying to plan/prepare/make definitive decision on yes or no. I don't feel our house is big enough. Her room is upstairs. Mine is downstairs...do I sleep upstairs???? Go up and down15 times checking on girls? Does my hubby and 2 year old st... More

  • Cathy
    Oct 05

    Yes. I would rather have the sleepover at my own house then send my kid to someone else’s. There’s so many things to worry about and you never know if people have guns, drugs, etc.

  • Serrina F.
    Wednesday

    I have a 9 year old son and he has had several sleepovers and gone to a couple. We haven't had more than 3 boys at a time though but they were fine in his room, if we past 3 I would make them set up in the livingroom. All they did was snack, play video games and be on the laptop. I had to force them to watch a movie and eat dinner. They were up pretty late playing them dang video games but... More

Anonymous posted in For Dads Oct 03

Dad doesn’t understand how toddlers work

Husband does a lot around the house (minus kitchen), and I do most of the parenting and anything related to the kitchen. During an argument I realized he doesn’t understand how a 15mo old thinks. He says she only wants what she wants and he thinks it’s wrong/he can’t always Give her what she wants. She should want what dad wants. So, She is whining for me but I’m cleaning tub because we had s... More

  • Morgan
    Oct 04

    I second sarah

  • Anonymous
    Oct 04

    You all are amazing!!!!! Thank you!!! And you’re all so right. Men just know we will take care of it but that’s not how co-parenting works. It’s a struggle-bus over here, and don’t know when I get off this bus but I’m working toward it! ❤️❤️❤️

Anonymous posted in Flying Oct 03

Trip without mom

When was the first time your kiddo took a trip without you? My MIL has been insisting she take our 2 year old to California (1.5 hour flight) to visit my brother in law for a weekend..... I don’t know how I feel about it?? Part of me knows of course he’d have fun at the beach all day, but then that distance is kinda far without momma in a strange place.

  • Aya
    Thursday

    I agree, I think it depends on your son's relationship with the MIL. If your MIL is used to being with him, taking care of him, I say go for it. The first time I left my child with my parents (not MIL) was in Tokyo, when he was 4. He stayed with them for a week. We dropped him off and then we picked him up (he did not miss us much - ha). The first time he flew solo with my parents was... More

  • Angel
    3h ago

    My dad keeps trying to take my daughter an hour drive away and my answer is still NOOOOOO

Day 4 No period/ negative Aht

I’m never late in my cycle unless I’m pregnant. Well at least it’s worked that way with my 3 LO so far. I should’ve started my cycle Sept 28 , today is oct 2. I’ve used 3 diff brand test several times going mad because I can’t figure out why the tests are all still saying negative. I’m not having many symptoms other than cramping as if my cycle will stay at any min. I also have slight tendernes... More

  • Quay
    Oct 05

    7 days late, cycle finally came. I hate this. I wish there was a baby. I can’t stop crying

  • Anonymous
    Oct 08

    Are you actively trying for a baby? Sorry to hear this. Try to relax and not stress your body too much. You can try again next month. Go treat yourself and avoid stress as much as you can <3

How do I deal with a husband who does not consider me family?

I have been married 7 years and have a toddler with my husband. As my post aptly says I am disrespected. My husband is always saying " You dont behave/talk that way with my family " or I am not interested in anything involved with "your" family. I never almost hear the word "us" or "our".My mother in law is video calling my husband twice everyday and gett... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 02

    Have you asked him about his choice of words? My husband does something similar to yours as far as distinguishing between my family and his family. I remind him that my brothers are his brothers now and that his sister is my sister. He will take a step back and acknowledge that but he still continues to use those words. I guess I’m also a little confused with your post as far as what he’s doi... More

  • Anonymous
    Thursday

    I'd personally be running towards divorce but I have no tolerance for being even slightly disrespected. However, if he is willing to go to counseling, it may be helpful. If he's willing to go it shows he at least has some respect for you. If not, he's not going to wake up randomly one day and become a nicer person. You're not protecting your kid by not making a move... all you&#... More

Anonymous posted in Marriage & Partnership Oct 01

What should I do?

Hi everyone, I recently had a disagreement with my husband. He yelled at me for spending to much money on groceries and complaining that I’m not working. He made it sound like I’m not working so I should not spend money. He works then he can spend it. I feel hurts really hurt. I’m at home with a 2 months old, 2 years old, and a 5 years old. I am tired very tired, he doesn’t help me with chores ... More

  • Jade
    Oct 02

    I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I can imagine how lonely and exhausting it would be having to take care of home life all on your own. It sounds like your husband is quite controlling and exhibiting some really unhealthy behaviors. This isn’t normal and you don’t have to put up with it. I would encourage you to reach out and give this number a call. They can help you figure out next s... More

  • Morgan
    Oct 03

    I would consider counseling

3 days late, negative test?

Hello guys, I’m 3 days late for my cycle. I’ve taken 2 pregnancy tests (dollar store brand) and they both say negative. What should I do?

  • Anonymous
    Oct 01

    Give it some more time and test again. I think drs won’t see you until you’re 2 weeks late and still getting negative tests

  • Quay
    Oct 02

    Thanks so much. I’ll wait to test again Saturday. That’ll make a week late.

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Oct 01

TMI...but should I be concerned

So my cycle starts today but this morning I had some spotting but it been nothing else after that should I be concerned because I also had unprotected sex like 2 weeks ago and I don’t know if I’m ready for a third baby .

Late period with mirena Iud

I have had a iud for 2 years now. Last month i heard a pop. It didnt hurt or anything but to be safe me and my guy used condoms. Well im on day 34 of my cycle with no period. I have always had a 28 day cycle. Soon to be 35. With no signs of a period. Already took two test. Clear blue. Both negative I have appointments thursday. But anything helps to at least get a idea. *just recently move( ma... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 01

    I think stress and season/weather change could cause a late period. doesn't hurt to get the IUD checked anyway.

Anonymous posted in Family Life Sep 30

HELP!

My husband and I just found out we are pregnant with baby no. 2! BUT I’m in a dilemma. I want this pregnancy to be as peaceful as possible and with that I want limited people knowing for as long as I can. I know eventually family will come around and see my bump, but until then I don’t know how to not let people know. The thing is, we have parties and holidays coming up where alcohol will be ar... More

  • Christine
    Oct 03

    I would hold a glass of wine during parties and take the occasional teeny sip and have my husband drink it when no one was looking. I basically would hold the same drink all night and no one caught on. Also I’d do club soda and a lime which looked like a vodka soda.

  • Vonda
    Oct 03

    You can say you took cold medicine and don’t want to mix it with alcohol in your system. I drank root beer from a bottle and almost no one noticed the label. Or do the husband drinking trick. And fake sip. Or I’d just say I’m the one driving tonight. So no one questions it. I just wouldn’t bring it up much with your step-daughter. If she says something about your tummy etc. just say it’s your... More

Late period but negative tests

I am 12 days late from my period. I took 2 pregnancy tests on day 3 and day 7 but they where both negative. Any ideas?

  • Lisa
    Oct 01

    And were you pregnant or just late on your period coming @Katrina

  • Katrina
    Oct 01

    I was just late

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