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Working Mothers

https://www.forbes.com/sites/kateashford/2015/06/30/working-mother/

  • Jade
    Feb 05

    Wow, Anne! What an amazing Mom! 🙌🏼

  • Anonymous
    Feb 08

    I’m very proud of my single working mom, and always glad she had more to occupy her than my settling down and having babies- most of my friends’ moms seemed to pressure their kids, and I felt it was because they were bored housewives- and I decided to put my career on the side, and take up odd freelance work, because I still felt the deep yearning to simply be with my mother. She was always so ... More

Just a thought

I’m sitting here on our bed while my husband is putting out hysterically crying baby. He’s so patient, she keeps getting up and crying and he just softly tells her it’s okay that he’s there and wow. Extremely thankful for him ❤️💛

  • Elle
    Jan 24

    My husband is the same way. Its good to be thankful for each other, esp when one partner can step in to help other the other!

Anonymous posted in Family Life Jan 22

Raising a baby without family near

Husband and I live in Kansas, my family lives in Canada and his in California. It’s way more affordable to buy a house here so we want to raise a family here so we can provide more. Anyway, calling out all moms and dads raising babies without family near. Just want to hear your experiences with working, nannies, and not having that support nearby. Cause a strain on your relationship? Should... More

  • Anonymous
    Jan 25

    Thank you so much to everyone who’s responded! It’s given us a lot of insight. I think we’re leaning more towards moving to California, in the sun & closer to in laws & future baby’s cousins. We feel family is super important and we definitely would be lonely in difficult times, and are not sure how we feel about having a babysitter/nanny yet D: We just need to adjust to a smaller budg... More

  • Mandy
    Jan 25

    It is not a strain on our marriage, however we can’t afford a nanny (and I don’t trust people with my child). It is hard, I miss alone time with my husband. But we have a solid family unit, and our son is awesome when we go out places. I guess in my experience if your relationship is strong you can make anything work. Sure it’s hard and I would love to be able to leave our son with a grandparen... More

What is your go to place for parenting advice or answers to questions?

Do you ask your mom, MIL, facebook mommy groups, Winnie, google, a specified book, etc? Picture for attention!

  • Michaela
    Jan 21

    My mother in law... and my mom depending on what it is (she can get very naggy, so I filter for her)

  • Morgan
    Jan 24

    Winnie

Anonymous posted in Behavior Jan 16

kindergarten violence?

I need some advice from fellow parents. My daughter is in kindergarten. She got punched by another classmate in the face and end up with a very bloody nose. According to the teachers, there was quite a lot of blood spilled on her clothes and floor. We met with the principal but there doesn’t seem to be any clear preventive measures put in place to avoid future incidents. I was told there were... More

  • Yo
    Jan 21

    I would try talking to the principal to have him/her talk to the other child parents. If no progress is made and you still dont feel comfortable, I would just look for another school. When my son was smaller he used to come home with very big words for gis little mouth that we did not use at home. When I found out the source was a girl in the class I addressed the matter with the principal and... More

  • Morgan
    Jan 24

    I would put your daughter in a self defense class and i would file a complaint against the school and the teacher and the principal and i would press charges

Anonymous posted in Parenting Culture Jan 08

Have you been in this situation? What happened? What did you do?

My son just turned 2, so he doesn’t speak much yet. The other day we were at the aquarium and we had to leave for lunch and nap. Naturally, my son wasn’t ready to leave so I wrestled a screaming toddler into the stroller. Next thing I knew, he was screaming “help me” repeatedly to the family next to us. I calmly got him in the stroller and left. First, I’m super proud that he’s now saying two w... More

  • Anonymous
    Jan 11

    So that’s one of the scenarios I ran through my head... police ask me to prove that my son is my son, so I show them pictures on my phone. Then they say that it’s not enough because it could just mean that I kidnapped the child several months prior and started taking pictures then. 😱 I have my photos cleared out and saved elsewhere every couple of months. My son is a mixed kid and more people... More

  • Catherine
    Jan 24

    My middle son once yelled out ”Dont hurt me no more Daddy!!!” to my husband. First off my husband and I were in shock trying to think of one time he had punished him considering my husband was never around much because of his job and secondly we were trying to rationalize why would he say that? Now that my son is 17 we have asked him why he said that then.. He said that he had a way of imagini... More

Anonymous posted in Behavior Jan 04

Dad is his favorite... and it’s clear why

I’m a SAHM to a 2 year old. For the past month he’s been acting like this: When dad is home, he acts like he’s deathly afraid of me. Prefers dad to change his diaper, hold him or cuddle with him. Dad has to persuade him to let me do stuff for him (change his diaper, bath, etc). When dad isn’t home, it’s normal. Since I’m home with him all day and even when dad is home - I do all the childcar... More

  • Anonymous
    Jan 05

    My 19 month old does this. I am also a SAHM, my husband kind of makes guest appearances in her life; because in the mornings we go to mommy and me classes, and many times my husband gets home past her bed time. When she sees him it’s like a celebrity walked in the room and she totally forgets about me, won’t even let me carry her; (but I will admit this is kind of my fault, when she was younger... More

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Jan 06

    I really think it’s a phase. Honestly kids need and respond to routine and limits, and it probably has nothing to do with your differences in parenting. Hang in there. Try to just keep being the parent you want to be for him and let dad figure out his own path. It’s going to be slower because he spends less time with him. You are awesome, Mom!

“The talk”

So, my oldest is turning 15 this year, she is having a quinceañera party which, in Latino culture, signifies her transitioning into a woman. Now, she is not a woman and will never be a woman in my eyes, still my baby girl. But I do understand she is getting older and the fact that she doesn’t live with me, due to a divorce from my first wife, makes things a bit more challenging. I want to have ... More

  • Michelle
    Jan 27

    You may want to have the talk with her, but make sure she wants to have the talk with you first. The best thing you can do for your relationship and her self-esteem is respect her boundaries. I’m sure she’s watching tv shows with mature themes. Find out what she’s watching, then watch them on your own, and start a conversation with her about the characters. You can pass along your wisdom to ... More

  • Elle
    Jan 28

    Want to upvote Michelle's comment about 100 times. Best comment thus far.

Parent playground etiquette

While at the mall today I let my little girl who is 20 months play on the playground there. There were other kids some of which were a little older (7-9 yrs old). Eventually the older ones started playing tag, causing them to run, jump off the equipment, & so forth to avoid being "it". Several times they caused my daughter to stumble. One child (who looked to be the oldest of the ... More

  • Elle
    Jan 01

    Ooh I personally struggle with this dynamic. I always hope Ill be strong and courageous, diplomatic and savvy... (bc who else do our little ones have? They depend on us! And also, they watch and emulate how we deal with different social dynamics).... I guess two things can help: 1) having some preprepared responses and 2) being OK with potentially accidentally seeming ruder than your ideal rep... More

  • Hunter
    Jan 26

    I ALWAYS speak up. Safety matters more to me than potential conflict or societal norms. I use phrases like “Let’s all be careful with little ones around.” “Hi friends! Do you mind watching out for her (pointing to toddler) she’s not quite ready to balance like the big kids!” Usually I get across with a cheerful tone & simple phrases... other times, I say “excuse me, you just pushed my daugh... More

Anonymous posted in Behavior Dec 30

Can’t discipline my toddler

I grew up with a very strict single parent, who was also very loving, playful and kind, so I knew my boundaries from a young age, knew I was loved and very much imagined I’d pass this down to my own kids. My partner’s experience of both his parents was very different: inconsistent, angry and irrationally strict without clear boundaries, affection or (IMO) love. Until today, I really like my i... More

  • Kieli
    Dec 30

    I know you have said that you and your husband struggle at communicating, but raising a child is difficult. Especially when you have different views/tactics. But it’s so important to figure something out to get into his head that you are both trying to raise respectful, mindful kids. And if one person does it one way and the other does it another way, it will just confuse the kids. My suggestio... More

  • Anonymous
    Jan 01

    I’d throw the biscuit at my husband if he tried that crap. I will deal with a lot my husband undermining me in front of our kids is a big no! That just teaches them that they don’t need to listen to you and will get their way. To fix one issues your husband and you need to fix your own communication. My husband and I don’t always agree and we get into arguments about our kids. Parenting is hard... More

Multiple kiddos all under 5

So does anyone have some tips on how to manage discipline when there r multiples (a set of twins) along w three other kiddos? All at different stages and I need help managing the constant need for attention from all seems qhen I need to discuss discipline w one is exactly qhen the others want to act up oj know it's all normal but any tips would be greatly appreciated! I take the one out of ... More

  • Susan
    Dec 23

    I second Jessica above, you are my hero, I’m struggling keeping my sanity with a 2.5 & 1 yo... bravo, lady! I wish I had better insight to give, but when my toddler starts to mirror the baby’s behavior when I am disciplining her I just ignore it and she stops quick... I’m sure it’s a bit more challenging in your case though... good luck!

  • MommyDear
    Dec 24

    Oh lord! And I thought handling a 2yr and a 5mo was challenging... you my dear seem to have things under control for the most part which remember that if we don’t go insane and do a few mess-ups from time to time then we’re not doing parenting right 😂 The kiddos are pretty young and still developing, therefore, there’s only so much they’ll understand at this age but I would say patience, persev... More

Anonymous posted in Bathing Dec 13

first Haircuts?

When did you get your little man first hair cut? I know his hair is short but it’s more like I want to trim up the hair that don’t stay down and stick up. Especially the top back of his hair. That part always feel rough like there food and not soft. Makes him look like a duck lol. I mean I know I’m going to probably wait till he’s 2 but just curious if anybody cleaned up their kids hair? Put so... More

  • Anonymous
    Dec 14

    Ok see everybody tells me to wait but I just want it clean up but idk if he will stay still. It gets all tangle in the back and feels matted and I feel like he will look cute with a cute clean boy cut.

  • Tiffanie
    Jan 01

    I cut my 22mo son's hair myself. I don't trust anyone with scissors around his head, he never sits still. I do it after his bath when he's calm and sleepy. It's worked great so far.

Anonymous posted in Family Life Dec 11

First time away?

How old was your baby the first time you left them over night/for the weekend?

  • Sarah
    Dec 11

    Mine was 8mo when I left him with my husband for a long weekend and 10mo when we both left him with aunt/uncle/grandparents for a long weekend

  • Brianne
    Dec 12

    My son spent his first night away at grandma’s (5 minutes from us) at 5 weeks old and does this about once a month. She loves taking care of him and we are thankful for the restful nights. We left him overnight with a friend at almost 4 months. We are now planning a 4 night trip where he will stay with my sister-in-law at 7 months old. I think it depends on your trust in who will be caring for... More

Anonymous posted in Parenting Culture Dec 06

Phrases to tell your child to listen and not hit or kick.

Hi Everyone! So at school today my 3 year old told her teachers no when re-directing her. At home and school she sometimes hits and/or kicks when she's feeling angry or frustrated. I've used the phrases like "use your listening ears" "hands are not for hitting".."we dont kick people". "I don't like it when you (name action) please don't do that... More

  • T
    Dec 07

    Hands are for loving is what I say.

  • Rachel
    Dec 07

    Daniel Tiger has a song take a deep breath and ask for help. I try to address the emotion that causes the behavior that way you are being proactive. With that said it doesn’t always work but my 3 year old tells my almost 2 year old to take a deep breath when he starts getting angry

Anonymous posted in Holidays Dec 05

Gifts under the Christmas tree

How do you handle that? If Santa only delivers the gifts on Christmas Eve, then do you leave the tree bare until then? I have friends and family buying gifts and wondering if I should let them put the gifts under the tree now. And if so, how do we explain that to kids?

  • Austin
    Dec 07

    growing up, i had three siblings so we put our gifts to each other and our parents under the tree as soon as they were ready to go, which made for a decent amount of gifts. we were one of those families that opened one each on christmas eve. then christmas morning all the gifts from our parents and santa were set out, which made for a big exciting moment. as a father now, i still don't know... More

  • Jessica
    Dec 07

    I make a big emphasis of wrapping gifts we buy for others and setting them under our tree. Then, as I have time, I’ll wrap gifts for my kid and sneak them under the tree. Sometimes she notices and sometimes she doesn’t (she’s 6). By Christmas Eve, all but Santa’s gifts are under the tree. It’s fun to look at a tree full of gifts, but I know my daughter isn’t going too rip them open.

At what age did you put a blanket on your baby at night?

  • Anonymous
    Dec 04

    Around 11 months

  • Makayla
    Dec 04

    I gave my son a blankie at about 9-10 months by then he was able to kick it off him if he didn't want it

Day care drop offs?

I’m just starting to take my son (20 months) to a daycare center twice a week to get him socialized. Any tips on when I drop him off? I’ve been having my husband do it... but my son will cry for 45 minutes before he settles down.

  • Anonymous
    Dec 05

    I find that the faster I leave the better. A hug and kiss and mommy will be back soon and I’m gone. Teachers are ready with a distraction. She usually stops crying as soon as I’m out of sight. And now that she’s used to it the crying has stopped.

  • Lindsay
    Dec 08

    Be quick but don’t just vanish. Give a hug and kiss and tell him you love him and you’ll see him soon. He may get upset but keep your smile so he knows everything is ok. And you may have to turn and leave while he’s sad but it’ll be ok, just stay strong in front of him. Or he may be like my son and forget to give you a kiss when you’re leaving hahaha.

Piercing for toddlers

Disclaimer piercing a toddlers ears . Please no mean comments its just a question. How to boy moms feel about piercing one ear? In the 90's when I was in elementary school ther where boys with one ear pierced. Do boys still pierce ears and if my child askes what should I do?

  • Elena
    Dec 04

    As a tattooed and pierced family I'm ok with him making his own decision as long as he knows that anything he does has its consequences like tattoos it's something that stays on so. But thank you all for your opinions and for the opend mind it's a defecalt somgect when the age is young

  • Anonymous
    Dec 04

    AdamAnt, that’s not really true anymore.

What age did you give your son/daughter their first haircut & what should a 1st time parent expect?

  • Brittany
    Dec 04

    My daughter is almost 16 months and she has had her bangs cut 4 times and hair trimmed once. I just set her on my lap and she does fine. She was born with lots of hair.

  • Valerie
    Jan 10

    I do it in the bathtub. I just lift his hair straight up and cut 1 inch or so off. He was super fluffy when he was born, so we needed to start hair cuts around 4 months.

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