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Nakedness in front of young children

How old is too old to be seen naked by your child. I have no problem getting out of the shower or changing in front of my son. He doesn't seem to notice, he's probably so use to it. I feel if there's no awkwardness, it isn't an issue, but would like some thoughts.

  • Vee
    54m ago

    Kids dont really have the same thoughts as adults naturally. It's just our bodies to them. They know we wear clothes when we're out and can do what we want at home. They don't know how to make it weird, and no one should have to tell them it is.

  • George
    49m ago

    At the risk of allowing this to live on the internet forever. Changing clothes in front of a small child creates a good habit of putting dirty clothes away rather than throwing them in the ground for you to pick up later. Nix bad teenage habits early.

Anonymous posted in Making Friends Monday

First time moms?

First time moms with newborns: how do you deal with loneliness? I’ve been out with my baby and belong to a couple of Mom groups but some days feel pretty lonely. How do you cope?

  • Megan

    I got some wireless headphones and netflixed on my phone.

  • Desiree

    My son is 18 months old now, but when he was born it was the middle of winter and too cold to go anywhere, so we were stuck in the house. I took advantage of having a hobby during those times. I love to crochet (relaxes me like you wouldn’t believe) so I made sure to add that in to my days. Do you have any hobbies that you enjoy? Also, getting out of the house and just being out around people m... More

Anonymous posted in Parenting Culture Monday

Spending amount on birthday presents

Birthday party season seems to be upon us. Every weekend there’s one we’re invited to (kids are turning 3-5). What does everyone spend on bday gifts??

  • Tracy
    21m ago

    Have y'all heard of this web site: Birthday guests can donate to a charity & then your child gets 1/2 of that. So, say I want to support The United Way, I create my invite, send to guests, they donate and Kids Can Give Too sends my child a pre-paid card to spend however she wants. This way the charity gets support, and my child can choose a gift that she ... More

  • Catharine
    19m ago

    I have no kid's but have two nieces. When I get gifts I shop at sales and while on vacation and stockpile gifts for them. The gift stockpile has worked well for the past 10 years. I sort through it around Christmas and if I find stuff that is immature for them I give it to Toys for tots. On average I spend around $10-$20. As they get older I plan to get them gift cards opposed to actual mat... More

Home Remedy Traditions

Anyone else still use old timey home remedies and old wives tales for kiddos ailments even though you know it doesn’t really do anything, you just did it because your Gram or someone else did it you? Because I do.

  • Luci

    Sarah, I say “sana sana colita de rana...” every time my LO gets hurt. So much so that the other day, he dropped something on my foot and when he saw it hurt, he ran over, patted my foot and said “sana sana.” So cute!

  • Kaitlyn

    My home remedy I swear on was google searched lol but it totally works. When my son's diaper rash just makes him scream in pain and he wont put his tush in a bath, I steep old fashioned oats in the water to really make the water murky. Then I add apple cider vinegar to kill the bacteria, and lavender essential oil for calming. It works very well and he likes the bath then. I notice it clear... More

Women Won't Achieve Equality In The Professional World Until Dads Achieve Equality As Parents

I wrote an op-ed about my family’s experience with my husband taking on the primary caretaker role. Happy (early) Father’s Day to all the awesome dads out there.

  • K

    Sara, THANK YOU !!!!! SAHF do need to be included in play groups and not frowned upon at the park. My husband complains about this as he is our child's primary care giver and does a full on fantastic job!

  • Lucy Kent

    I like this article and I don't. While it's wonderful to see the roles reversed to create a happy family, I have to agree with Tara in that women and men celebrate these sahd providing excellent support to their family, while they expect the same sahm with very little recognition. In the article, she talks about, after her husband stepping into the more domestic role, suddenly feeling ... More

Dads today are more emotionally available and involved

Fascinating data from a recent BYU study indicating that most fathers today are actively involved in their kids' lives, perhaps due to shifting norms about masculinity. Great news! 🙌🏼 “Fathers continue to navigate changing social expectations,” said Lee Essig, another co-author of the study and BYU graduate student. “As current social trends are pushing for men’s increased familial involve... More

Anonymous posted in Family Life Jun 12

Do you swear in front of your kids?

I'm not personally offended by swearing and sometimes swear in front of (but never at!) my kids. They know which words are bad words and not to repeat what they've heard. But my MIL is APPALLED by the fact that I do this. She's not personally offended by the words, but thinks kids should never ever hear swearing. Do you swear in front of your kids? Is this really as bad as she's making it seem?

  • Rachel
    Jun 12

    We do not swear in front of our children. My husband had kids from his 1st marriage, and when we met I had to hold my tongue sometimes, and now it’s just natural. Very rarely do we cuss now, and if we do-we don’t in front of the kids. I think it’s a personal choice for sure. But at the same time, I don’t enjoy hearing people saying MFer or GD. And I would never ever want to here my kids say it,... More

  • Lucas
    Jun 13

    No it’s not okay, unless you want them using that language at school, church, and in public interactions.

On raising emotionally healthy boys

A thought-provoking read from The Atlantic on why boys need more freedom of expression and more encouragement to be who they are. "It’s a societal loss that so many men grow up believing that showing aggression and stifling emotion are the ways to signal manhood. And it’s a personal loss to countless little boys who, at best, develop mechanisms for compartmentalizing certain aspects of wh... More

Anonymous posted in Parenting Culture Jun 11

Life before/after baby

As much as I love my little Munchkin, I am still thinking sometimes about our old life with no baby, freedom, flexibility... especially on vacation. Am I the only one?

  • Ashley
    Jun 12

    You're totally not alone in that! I think about that all the time. Having kids is a big change and some things were simply easier pre-baby. It's totally normal to miss those things.

  • Rachel
    Jun 12

    No, a baby is a huge change and I think it’s pretty common to compare your life now to your life before the baby. Having a baby changes everything, where you go, who you spend time with , your schedule, even some of your hobbies have to change. I noticed as my baby gets older, I find myself missing the freedom and such less and less. I don’t know if it’s because as babies get older they become ... More

On “Freddish”, Mr. Rogers’ thoughtful language for small children

“Once, Rogers provided new lyrics for the “Tomorrow” song that ended each show to ensure that children watching on Friday wouldn’t expect a show on Saturday, when the show didn’t air.”

  • Bill
    Jun 11

    Please go and see “Won’t You Be My Neighbor” in limited release now but opens in wide release June 22. Saw it last week... you will miss him even more!

  • Anne
    Jun 11

    @Bill I want to see that but I am afraid I will spend the entire movie openly weeping!

Anonymous posted in Parenting Culture Jun 06

How do you guys feel about other people posting pictures of your kid on social media?

  • Morganne
    Jun 08

    Honestly. I'm pretty annoyed by it. I wouldn't mind if they asked, I hate scrolling through my news feed and seeing pictures of MY baby on someone else's wall without my consent.

Etiquette for “baby sprinkle” for second boy

I’m trying to figure out whether or not we should have a baby “sprinkle” for our second boy. I was told by my sister that it is poor etiquette to do so, which I didn’t think was the case for a sprinkle (which is just a small shower because you have another baby). Our boys will be two years and a few months apart, which means we do in fact have a lot of the things we need already... and we could... More

  • Trisha
    Jun 14

    I think it's fine as a mother and a second child why do we have to make everything second hand clothing yes understood but what about memories to be passed on cradle first holiday outfit. I did all my children as separate how do we create separate individuals if we only give them the likes of the bigger child?

  • Ilansnice
    Jun 14

    I had a sprinkle- every baby deserves to be celebrated. I was concerned about etiquette also. I had a friend plan it- I gave her the guest list of about 8 people and pretended it was a surprise:) I didn’t do a registry bc frankly people know you need diapers, wipes, and money/gift cards to your fav kid consignment store. You could do one but I would make it very small with nothing over $50 on it.

Laura posted in Behavior Jun 06

“We face a crisis of self-regulation”

  • Ashley
    Jun 06

    This is so interesting to me and a really good reminder, especially this: "We can let our kids struggle a little bit. We can let them fail. In fact, that is the process of childhood when children misbehave. It's not a sign of our failure as parents. It's normal." I have a hard time remembering that sometimes.

  • Anne
    Jun 06

    This is so insightful! "We want them to be straight-A students and athletic superstars, gifted musicians and artists — which are all wonderful goals, but they are long-term and pretty narcissistic." Thanks for sharing.

Equality for dads

I love my daughter and I love being a stay at home dad, but I have had enough of this country's lack of support for men as parents. I'm angry and frustrated because there seems to be no accommodations for fathers in America, whether it's with parental leave after birth, society's stigma for stay at home dads, or even something as basic as having a changing table in men's re... More

  • Nicole

    Still dont even have them in all womens restrooms, but signed.

  • Kymberly

    I’m with you and they still aren’t always in woman’s restrooms it’s super frustrating

Sara posted in Behavior Jun 02

Finally the Marshmallow Test is debunked

“Ultimately, the new study finds limited support for the idea that being able to delay gratification leads to better outcomes. Instead, it suggests that the capacity to hold out for a second marshmallow is shaped in large part by a child’s social and economic background—and, in turn, that that background, not the ability to delay gratification, is what’s behind kids’ long-term success.” https:/... More

  • Angel
    Jun 02

    Very good article

  • Tara
    Jun 09

    Very interesting and very sad. Thank you for sharing

Anonymous posted in Parenting Culture May 31

First name regrets

Is anyone regretting the first name of baby? Since we’ve met we had picked a original baby girl name. However we changed it last minute for a common name because we were afraid of the pronunciation in English. She is now 1 and I keep regretting the name and feel bad

  • Blair
    Jun 07

    I regret it... I've always loved the name Lilly and I didn't realize how common it was until AFTER she was born. There's an insane amount of girls still being named Lily/Lilly/Lillie

  • Sarah
    Jun 10

    My name quest for my daughter was easy. I wanted a "real" name, but a unique one. So I went with vintage. "Adelaide" was popular in the mid 1800s. I have never met a single person with the name. No regrets! I call her "addy" since she's a little girl and most people assume it's "addison" or "adeline" nope... I love her name <3

Preference for one parent over the other?

I'm curious how common it is for kids to have a strong preference for one parent over the other, and when that usually develops. My 18 month old currently seems to like us both equally, but a friend's 2 year old had a strong Mommy preference. Looking for more data points.

  • Abby
    May 31

    We are two working parents and my almost-2 yo daughter has already started preferring her father to me for the "cool" stuff but comes to me for cuddling, soothing, food, etc. :)

  • Gina
    Jun 05

    It was actually the opposite for me in the beginning since my fiance was home with her during the day mostly she was more connected to him up until she was almost 2 and since she didn't see me often I was kind of chopped liver. Now that she is 2 years old and although my hours haven't changed she is starting to have more of a stronger preference for me since usually I'm the one that... More

Can you talk some sense into me?

My twins turn 4 tomorrow and I’m sad. I’m feeling nostalgic and mildly weepy and very “put on some Celine Dion and let me cry by the window.” I don’t know if it’s because kids grow so fast and I’m missing my babies. My older kids are 15,13 and 10. So maybe it’s because I know how it is when your kids no longer need you and they become they’re own people. I can’t pinpoint it. But I just hav... More

  • Wayne
    May 28

    I have 3 year old and a 18 month old. I feel like that constantly. My 3 year old likes to say "I don't need you daddy, I can do it my own self" ... He does not know the he is stabbing a dagger in my side every time he says that!

  • Tara
    Jun 01

    When when my eldest was 5m, I felt broody after seeing pics of her as a newborn,then BOOM! I got pregnant again! Now with my second 6m old, I’m totally soaking him up... not as strict about sleeping on the boob, waking at night for cuddles etc... they do grow up super fast. And I half envy yous with older ones and potentially more time on your hands 😁 I’d sit in the sadness. No need for sen... More

Juan posted in Holidays May 25

Dealing with the question “Is Santa real?”

Today our almost 7-year-old sat us down and said “Guys, tell me the truth, is Santa real?” Because a kid at the park told her. So we had a very successful chat! And she was so happy. Here’s the “technique” for when it is your turn AND your kid is the right age. Read it, remember it and share it!

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