Grade Schoolers

Guidance and ideas for raising 5 to 10 year olds.

Anonymous posted in Child's Health Nov 16

Bed wetting with 7 year old

My daughter has recently turned 7 and has been up and down with bed wetting issues for several years. She’s currently in a pattern where she’s wetting the bed most nights to some extent. She’s had a history for her entire life with constipation and we’ve gone through treatments over the past few years and her doctor has stated that this can contribute to bed wetting. I’ve read the same. We make... More

  • Morgan
    Nov 19

    I would schedule a appointment with a urologist

Anonymous posted in Child Care Oct 23

With the upcoming holidays & school breaks, how are parents handling childcare coverage?

I'd like to keep my daughter active (not just hanging around the house with a sitter) - there's got to be a better way than a Google search for what's available when school's out? Ideas? Thanks!

Anonymous posted in Grade Schoolers Oct 03

Best age for 1st Sleepover

What age did your child attend/host 1st sleepover? Daughter is turning 8 years old and she would really like one. I'm wracking my brain and nerves trying to plan/prepare/make definitive decision on yes or no. I don't feel our house is big enough. Her room is upstairs. Mine is downstairs...do I sleep upstairs???? Go up and down15 times checking on girls? Does my hubby and 2 year old st... More

  • Cathy
    Oct 05

    Yes. I would rather have the sleepover at my own house then send my kid to someone else’s. There’s so many things to worry about and you never know if people have guns, drugs, etc.

  • Serrina F.
    Oct 09

    I have a 9 year old son and he has had several sleepovers and gone to a couple. We haven't had more than 3 boys at a time though but they were fine in his room, if we past 3 I would make them set up in the livingroom. All they did was snack, play video games and be on the laptop. I had to force them to watch a movie and eat dinner. They were up pretty late playing them dang video games but... More

Anonymous posted in Big Kids Oct 02

Money for conference night dinner

Hello ladies, i have a question. My 1st grader came home today saying her teacher is asking kids to bring money to school for her conference day dinner. I am new to the USA, and that sounds a little bit weird to me, please explain if this is a normal thing? And how much should we give? Thank you so much for answering.

  • Stevie
    Oct 03

    I feel like that is weird. I’ve been asked to donate for things that include my daughter. Never just a teachers dinner!

  • Jennifer
    Oct 10

    I have never heard of such thing as teacher dinner????

Is it a good idea to let my kids play outdoors just before bedtime?

I am wondering if it will help them get tired out to sleep better or if it is going to make it harder to calm down to go to sleep?

  • Anne
    Oct 14

    Yes! This is actually really common in other countries. Families often take a “constitutional” walk around the block/neighborhood after dinner but before bed. It helps aid digestion, calm anxiety and get excess energy out of your system. I’d give it a try!

liliya posted in Behavior Sep 25

Daughter having issues focusing.

Hi, my daughter just started kindergarten a month ago and turned 5 this last Monday the 23. She talks and mostly goes off topic, which makes her loose her focus and takes her away from whatever she’s doing. Sometimes even when she is not talking she doesn’t focus as well for example, everyday when she gets to school, her principal would be by the door saying hi to all kindergarteners, by giving... More

  • Mike Stemle
    Sep 29

    I don’t think that this is the right place for attention. It sounds like you may want a pediatric psychiatrist to help here. This could be ASD, it could be ADD, it could be social or general anxiety, and it could just be a personality quirk. You really need a good healthcare provider for this.

Anonymous posted in Behavior Sep 08

Tips on getting my almost 7 yr old to listen!

My daughter will be 7 towards the end of the year! She is such a intelligent little human! She is so well behaved at school, with grandparents, wherever she may be! But she doesn’t listen at home! Am I alone here? Lol I have recently introduced a chore chart that she gets to check off daily as she goes! Any other helpful tips or advice for getting her to listen to what she is told without me ha... More

  • Jess
    Sep 10

    My son is the same age and recently just started doing the same. I’ve noticed that punishment or repeating myself doesn’t work, but if I go up to him and take his hand or put my hand on his shoulder and ask him to listen, and then talk to him, he will respond and usually listen. This seems to be the age they tune us out!

  • Jenni
    Sep 19

    What I’ve found works with my super talkative yet selective listening daughter is using simple incentives and rewards for good listening (Gets to read extra story, iPad time, bigger incentive for longer time of good behavior like special outing to her place of choice). If she doesn’t listen, incentives are withheld. It seems to work as reward system for us.

Jess posted in Education Sep 05

At Home Kindergarten Programs

My daughter is 4 years old and has been in a day care program for the past two years. She loves to learn and has the tendency to pick things up quickly. I do not want to send her to public school. I was raised in the public school system (my mom is a teacher) and I want to work with a system that has more control over the curriculum and the teachers are able to adjust their teaching to the chil... More

  • Sara
    Sep 12

    Have you considered private school? Also there may be public school options in your area that take a more tailored approach, like charter schools.

  • Jess
    Oct 08

    I can't afford the luxury of private schools in this area. And they are mostly religious based which is not something I agree with. That's why I'm looking for the other options when you can't afford private schools but can't agree with the public education system. It's a never winning battle.

Anays posted in Education Aug 28

4th grade math help

Any apps that can help 4th graders better their math skills?

Anays posted in Education Aug 23

4th grade math help!!

My son has recently started 4th grade and is getting daily hw. Math, writing, reading, and spelling. I am noticing he is struggling with math. Not sure if its cus he has not been practicing over summer or if he really is struggling. Any tips on how to help him. Tutor? Abc mouse? Math sheets?

  • Erica
    Aug 26

    Math is difficult in helping my family with their homework I’ve noticed it could be how he’s taught he’s not understanding it that way maybe he just needs the problems explained differently

  • Shekhar
    Aug 29

    This site is very good, I have been using for my kids for last 2 years https://www.ixl.com/

How to wake up a child in the early morning for school?

My son is in pre-k and it’s so hard to wake him up even when he goes to sleep relatively early.

  • Momof1
    Aug 22

    With my son we put him to bed early enough so that he wakes up on his own without us waking him up. We just kept putting him to bed 15 mins earlier until he woke up on his own at the time we want. Now I don’t wake him up. He wakes me up in the morning for daycare.

  • Anonymous
    Aug 22

    Agreed with bed earlier then!

7yo Water bottle recommendations plz!

My daughter is going to be in 2nd grade and we and I both share in the terrible stomach issues so we stoped drinking dairy milk (which has helped a lot) and a bunch of other stuff. Point is I normally get her a water bottle for school but last year she went threw them so quick and would destroy them 🤦🏽‍♀️ i normally get them from Walmart or target but I end up spending a bunch of money since sh... More

  • Jackie
    Aug 13

    I have 2 Mira stainless steel vacuum sealed insulated bottles. They are great at keeping water cold or warm all day! Yetis are nice but super expensive and this is a great alternative. They offer many different sizes and lid types. Go onto amazon and just search Mira water bottle.

  • Jennifer
    Aug 15

    I got the Swell water bottle and the water stays cold and the bottle takes some good beating and lasts for the whole school year.

My 5 y/o keeps asking me for play dates with his classmates.

I’ve never approached parents before on this topic. I run anxiety thinking I’m bothering parents if I ever suggest this. The problem with this thought process is that I’ve become socially awkward. To overcome this, what are some opening lines you have used to suggest a play date? To a parent you haven’t really talked to but your kids play with their kids at school and are bffs. Thanks! Hugs!

  • anonymous mom
    Aug 09

    I start by saying something like, “my daughter was asking if they could get together with your child sometime. If you’re willing, do you want to trade numbers? That way, if we’re at the park or something sometime we can try to coordinate a play date.” But I have to say, I rarely actually chat it up with the parents. I’m pretty hands on, and not here to make friends with other parents, but i... More

  • Jennifer
    Aug 09

    You know, it really comes down to one of the moms making the initiative. My daughter has been to her daycare since 2yr old. But during May before she turned 5yr old, the school decided to move their location. Usually when I pick up my kids, I see the other parents and just briefly say hi to them but I know all my daughter's friends, as I'm the type of mom that likes to get to know th... More

Anonymous posted in Grade Schoolers Aug 07

How can I reassure my anxious child that she is safe?

My very sensitive 7 year old saw some of the recent news coverage of the mass shootings while watching TV with my husband. She ran out of the room crying and later told me about it when I got back from swimming with her little sister. The next day at summer camp, some kids were playing cops and bad guys and that evening she ended up sobbing uncontrollably and unable to sleep. She told me she is... More

  • Momof2
    Aug 12

    I’m so sad this is the world we are raising our kids in! I think it’s most important to validate her feelings of fear around it. It is super scary as an adult (and even more so as a child I’m sure) to think about somebody coming into school (or any place really) and shooting people. I might avoid telling her things like you live in a safe neighborhood. I’m sure most of the people who sent thei... More

  • Rhiannon
    Aug 21

    Hi! I came across another book post and thought of y'all. It's about anxiety in general. As a worrier from a young age, I understand how crippling anxiety can be. As an adult, therapy and mindfulness have helped me. At her age, I hope something like this book about worrying could provide some of that helpful framework. https://happilyeverelephants.com/home/popular-kids-books/I'm-wor... More

Daughter is rough with our senior kitty

My 9-year old daughter who has always been an animal lover is now suddenly being very rough with our 13-year old cat, Kiki. This has started in the last 6 weeks - basically, the start of summer break. My husband works from home, but since he is working, he probably isn't giving her as much attention as she would like. I think she's bored, but since I'm at work M-F for about 10 h... More

Emily posted in Education Jul 01

Kindergarten or first grade?

My daughter has a May birthday and this past year we sent her to Kindergarten but ended up pulling her because it seemed to be too much for her (socially/emotionally) at the time. I homeschooled her this year instead. While she’s been very interested in science, social studies, reading (I should say, being read TO), she still struggles with writing and reading on her own. Now I’m faced with t... More

  • Rachel
    Jul 05

    I would put her in Kindergarten, but not because she doesn't know her sight words or any other academic concerns. But rather because Kindergarten is when things like learning basic classroom behaviors happen: sitting in a circle, raising your hand, taking turns, standing in line, etc. If you put her in 1st grade and she struggles, you will worry you made the wrong decision, but I think it&#... More

  • Jennifer
    Aug 15

    I totally agree with Rachel. I would suggest putting your kid in kindergarten so she can get use the school environment and know how to adjust social behaviors.

Sandra posted in DIY May 22

To let them paint or not let them paint

We’re getting ready to move and the new house we will be moving to is allowing us to paint the walls. We picked out paint and they provided :D (low voc).. anyway. The kids really got excited and want to help paint their room. Normally we have my fiancé do it but he’s out of town for work and so we will need to get going with the preparations and painting needs to be happening, just wanting some... More

  • Emily
    May 22

    Perhaps you paint 3 walls and leave 1 ‘kids’ wall? Or while you paint, hang a really big piece of paper or contact paper and let them paint on that. Then rotate the paper onto the other walls as you move around the room (or start new one). Then the walls look good but you could hang the ‘paintings’ the kids did.

  • Anonymous
    May 23

    Painting walls really isn't difficult. My mother let me help as a young child and she was super anal about the edging in being perfect. Everything went fine. Just go for it.

Anonymous posted in Adoption May 13

HELP! 8-yr-old stealing habits

Hi! My 8-year-old adopted son (adopted a year ago) have recently been stealing: money from home, random small things from grocery stores, small items from his classmates. I have no idea how long this has been going on and only started randomly finding out and catching. We tried talking, explaining that it's illegal, punishing.. nothing is working. It is certainly not kleptomania either beca... More

  • Anonymous
    May 17

    ^^Ashleys idea is great!!!! In high school, when I turned 15 I announced to my parents that in one year I’d get my license and couldn’t wait to drive my car around!!! My parents reply? “Oh you have a car!? Cool! Where is it??” Lolol. They maybe were t the sweetest about it but they made it clear to me that just because my older friends parents gave them whatever they wanted and just becau... More

  • Kara
    May 18

    Maybe someone has mentioned it but, have you considered the possibility that he is testing you? Pushing your limits to see if you will give up on him? He's eight so he knows stealing is wrong but he probably doesn't grasp the full scope of what will happen if he keeps doing it. Persistent bad behavior from an adopted kid though, it might be time to seek a therapist and try to head off s... More

Morning everyone! This is my first post, really hoping I get helpful feedback 🙏🏼

So my 9 year old has been sleep walking since he was probably 6 or so, but just recently he’s been sleep walking but acting scared and trembles a bit as if he was scared of something around him. Last night he did it and i just hugged him and said I loved him as I prayed with him as well. I tried talking to him this morning to try and find out if he was stressing about something or to see if so... More

  • Stacey
    May 09

    Definitely should get a sleep study done and maybe see a psychologist who uses hypnosis. They can help get to the root of the terrors.

  • Morgan
    May 10

    You should ask his pediatrician about doing a sleep study

Depression?

My son is nine and doesn’t want to leave the house. Not only that but he doesn’t want to play with toys, hang out with friends and is a lot more withdrawn than usual. This is a very new thing going on with him but he also suffers from anxiety. I feel like he’s depressed, what do you think? Should I bring him to a doctor? Therapist?

  • Rebecca
    Apr 07

    Hi. I am a LCSW. Definitely would check with your pediatrician first. When these are signs of depression, it usually presents a bit different in children with more behavior and irritability. Lots of possibilities could be considered. I would try just talking with him seeing what he may say about the difference in his behavior and also would definitely check with dr and maybe also set up a th... More

  • Rachel
    Apr 11

    I’m a clinical psychologist and an expert in child and adolescent depression. These are certainly signs of depression, and I would recommend making an appointment with a child psychologist to have him evaluated. I do not recommend play therapy as there is no empirical evidence of its effectiveness. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a better option for a 9-year-old. There are a ton of great resour... More

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