Grade Schoolers

Guidance and ideas for raising 5 to 10 year olds.

Anonymous posted in Behavior Today


We have a 1st grader and there is this boy in her class that keeps bothering her. He kicked her legs several times, took away her stuff, called her names, made fun of her name. So we send an email to the teacher. The teacher promised us that won't happen again, but the other day during dismissal the boy kicked her leg again. My husband called the principle. Since she wasn't there, he l... More

  • Anonymous

    Thank you for your response. She is actually in martial arts, but too shy to do smth. If that boy hits her again (she told me he bothered other kids too), we will definitely go to school and have a serious talk with the principle.

  • Mrs. HHH
    2h ago

    IMO it Sounds like the boy has a crush on your daughter. This is how immature boys act around girls they like. But I’m sorry your principal is totally useless and that your daughter feels bothered; that’s not cool.

Flossing ¡need to know!

Hi there! I have a 6 year that just recently started asking me about "the germs hiding in between her teeth?" Which made me wonder, what is the right age to teach flossing? And what are some tips to follow

  • Genesis

    Thank you! This has all been so helpful! 🙂 I went to the store and bought the floss picks and she was excited to start flossing. P.s. From the age of 4, she has been using mouthwash but she still had a cavity 😢

  • Jess

    We were told to floss at our first pediatric dentist appointment around 1.5 yrs old but only needs to worry about the teeth that had no gap between (top and bottom 4)

Samm posted in Behavior Jan 22


My children absolutely don't respect their things, no matter how cheap or expensive. My 11 year old sons tablet has an absolutely smashed screen and I have told him that if he wants nicer things to take care of and cherish them. But to no avail he still destroys his things along with his 8 year old brother. And it's rubbing off to their 4 year old sister. None of them care for their things.

  • Anonymous
    Jan 24

    I agree. Or what might be even more impactful is if they have any money saved or little jobs, to show them how much work it is to pay off the fix. Make as real world as possible. The reason we care for our high cost items is because we know how much work we have to do to pay for them. So recreate that for them. Don’t sugarcoat it

Anonymous posted in Grade Schoolers Dec 20

Need advice for any formal methods to allow our 5 year-old to hang out with older kids?

Every hobby/activity seem to group her with kids her own age or younger. But, honestly I found that she behaves better and learns better habits when she is around older, more mature kids.

Anonymous posted in Child's Health Nov 16, 2019

Bed wetting with 7 year old

My daughter has recently turned 7 and has been up and down with bed wetting issues for several years. She’s currently in a pattern where she’s wetting the bed most nights to some extent. She’s had a history for her entire life with constipation and we’ve gone through treatments over the past few years and her doctor has stated that this can contribute to bed wetting. I’ve read the same. We make... More

  • Anonymous
    Jan 13

    My 7 year old had day time potty problems and then nighttime bed wetting issues from 2-6ish and also has reoccurring UTIs which the doctor is saying is constipation related. While I don’t necessarily have a solution for you (or my own daughter), just know you’re not alone with older kid potty issues! I think you’re taking the best approach you can, which is to be supportive and not make a big d... More

  • Anonymous
    Jan 27

    Thanks for the thoughts and advice. We have gone to a gastro previously and she's been on a strict miralax/exlax regimen per the doctor, for what was encopresis. That issue is now in the past, after several years of vigilance. But it doesn't take much for her to fall back into constipation, with the end side effect being bedwetting. It's as easy as me working late for a few nights d... More

Anonymous posted in Child Care Oct 23, 2019

With the upcoming holidays & school breaks, how are parents handling childcare coverage?

I'd like to keep my daughter active (not just hanging around the house with a sitter) - there's got to be a better way than a Google search for what's available when school's out? Ideas? Thanks!

Anonymous posted in Grade Schoolers Oct 03, 2019

Best age for 1st Sleepover

What age did your child attend/host 1st sleepover? Daughter is turning 8 years old and she would really like one. I'm wracking my brain and nerves trying to plan/prepare/make definitive decision on yes or no. I don't feel our house is big enough. Her room is upstairs. Mine is I sleep upstairs???? Go up and down15 times checking on girls? Does my hubby and 2 year old st... More

  • Cathy
    Oct 05, 2019

    Yes. I would rather have the sleepover at my own house then send my kid to someone else’s. There’s so many things to worry about and you never know if people have guns, drugs, etc.

  • Serrina F.
    Oct 09, 2019

    I have a 9 year old son and he has had several sleepovers and gone to a couple. We haven't had more than 3 boys at a time though but they were fine in his room, if we past 3 I would make them set up in the livingroom. All they did was snack, play video games and be on the laptop. I had to force them to watch a movie and eat dinner. They were up pretty late playing them dang video games but... More

Anonymous posted in Big Kids Oct 02, 2019

Money for conference night dinner

Hello ladies, i have a question. My 1st grader came home today saying her teacher is asking kids to bring money to school for her conference day dinner. I am new to the USA, and that sounds a little bit weird to me, please explain if this is a normal thing? And how much should we give? Thank you so much for answering.

  • Stevie
    Oct 03, 2019

    I feel like that is weird. I’ve been asked to donate for things that include my daughter. Never just a teachers dinner!

  • Jennifer
    Oct 10, 2019

    I have never heard of such thing as teacher dinner????

Is it a good idea to let my kids play outdoors just before bedtime?

I am wondering if it will help them get tired out to sleep better or if it is going to make it harder to calm down to go to sleep?

  • Anne
    Oct 14, 2019

    Yes! This is actually really common in other countries. Families often take a “constitutional” walk around the block/neighborhood after dinner but before bed. It helps aid digestion, calm anxiety and get excess energy out of your system. I’d give it a try!

Daughter having issues focusing.

Hi, my daughter just started kindergarten a month ago and turned 5 this last Monday the 23. She talks and mostly goes off topic, which makes her loose her focus and takes her away from whatever she’s doing. Sometimes even when she is not talking she doesn’t focus as well for example, everyday when she gets to school, her principal would be by the door saying hi to all kindergarteners, by giving... More

  • Mike Stemle
    Sep 29, 2019

    I don’t think that this is the right place for attention. It sounds like you may want a pediatric psychiatrist to help here. This could be ASD, it could be ADD, it could be social or general anxiety, and it could just be a personality quirk. You really need a good healthcare provider for this.

Anonymous posted in Behavior Sep 08, 2019

Tips on getting my almost 7 yr old to listen!

My daughter will be 7 towards the end of the year! She is such a intelligent little human! She is so well behaved at school, with grandparents, wherever she may be! But she doesn’t listen at home! Am I alone here? Lol I have recently introduced a chore chart that she gets to check off daily as she goes! Any other helpful tips or advice for getting her to listen to what she is told without me ha... More

  • Jenni
    Sep 19, 2019

    What I’ve found works with my super talkative yet selective listening daughter is using simple incentives and rewards for good listening (Gets to read extra story, iPad time, bigger incentive for longer time of good behavior like special outing to her place of choice). If she doesn’t listen, incentives are withheld. It seems to work as reward system for us.

  • Jamie
    Dec 16

    I’ve heard great things about ClassDojo. A lot of teachers use it at school but there is now a home version that encourages kids to help with chores, share with siblings, etc with a positive reward system built in. It’s all about positive affirmation. Might be worth checking out?

At Home Kindergarten Programs

My daughter is 4 years old and has been in a day care program for the past two years. She loves to learn and has the tendency to pick things up quickly. I do not want to send her to public school. I was raised in the public school system (my mom is a teacher) and I want to work with a system that has more control over the curriculum and the teachers are able to adjust their teaching to the chil... More

  • Sara
    Sep 12, 2019

    Have you considered private school? Also there may be public school options in your area that take a more tailored approach, like charter schools.

  • Jess
    Oct 08, 2019

    I can't afford the luxury of private schools in this area. And they are mostly religious based which is not something I agree with. That's why I'm looking for the other options when you can't afford private schools but can't agree with the public education system. It's a never winning battle.

4th grade math help

Any apps that can help 4th graders better their math skills?

4th grade math help!!

My son has recently started 4th grade and is getting daily hw. Math, writing, reading, and spelling. I am noticing he is struggling with math. Not sure if its cus he has not been practicing over summer or if he really is struggling. Any tips on how to help him. Tutor? Abc mouse? Math sheets?

  • Erica
    Aug 26, 2019

    Math is difficult in helping my family with their homework I’ve noticed it could be how he’s taught he’s not understanding it that way maybe he just needs the problems explained differently

  • Shekhar
    Aug 29, 2019

    This site is very good, I have been using for my kids for last 2 years

How to wake up a child in the early morning for school?

My son is in pre-k and it’s so hard to wake him up even when he goes to sleep relatively early.

  • Momof1
    Aug 22, 2019

    With my son we put him to bed early enough so that he wakes up on his own without us waking him up. We just kept putting him to bed 15 mins earlier until he woke up on his own at the time we want. Now I don’t wake him up. He wakes me up in the morning for daycare.

  • Anonymous
    Aug 22, 2019

    Agreed with bed earlier then!

7yo Water bottle recommendations plz!

My daughter is going to be in 2nd grade and we and I both share in the terrible stomach issues so we stoped drinking dairy milk (which has helped a lot) and a bunch of other stuff. Point is I normally get her a water bottle for school but last year she went threw them so quick and would destroy them 🤦🏽‍♀️ i normally get them from Walmart or target but I end up spending a bunch of money since sh... More

  • Jackie
    Aug 13, 2019

    I have 2 Mira stainless steel vacuum sealed insulated bottles. They are great at keeping water cold or warm all day! Yetis are nice but super expensive and this is a great alternative. They offer many different sizes and lid types. Go onto amazon and just search Mira water bottle.

  • Jennifer
    Aug 15, 2019

    I got the Swell water bottle and the water stays cold and the bottle takes some good beating and lasts for the whole school year.

My 5 y/o keeps asking me for play dates with his classmates.

I’ve never approached parents before on this topic. I run anxiety thinking I’m bothering parents if I ever suggest this. The problem with this thought process is that I’ve become socially awkward. To overcome this, what are some opening lines you have used to suggest a play date? To a parent you haven’t really talked to but your kids play with their kids at school and are bffs. Thanks! Hugs!

  • anonymous mom
    Aug 09, 2019

    I start by saying something like, “my daughter was asking if they could get together with your child sometime. If you’re willing, do you want to trade numbers? That way, if we’re at the park or something sometime we can try to coordinate a play date.” But I have to say, I rarely actually chat it up with the parents. I’m pretty hands on, and not here to make friends with other parents, but i... More

  • Jennifer
    Aug 09, 2019

    You know, it really comes down to one of the moms making the initiative. My daughter has been to her daycare since 2yr old. But during May before she turned 5yr old, the school decided to move their location. Usually when I pick up my kids, I see the other parents and just briefly say hi to them but I know all my daughter's friends, as I'm the type of mom that likes to get to know th... More

Anonymous posted in Grade Schoolers Aug 07, 2019

How can I reassure my anxious child that she is safe?

My very sensitive 7 year old saw some of the recent news coverage of the mass shootings while watching TV with my husband. She ran out of the room crying and later told me about it when I got back from swimming with her little sister. The next day at summer camp, some kids were playing cops and bad guys and that evening she ended up sobbing uncontrollably and unable to sleep. She told me she is... More

  • Momof2
    Aug 12, 2019

    I’m so sad this is the world we are raising our kids in! I think it’s most important to validate her feelings of fear around it. It is super scary as an adult (and even more so as a child I’m sure) to think about somebody coming into school (or any place really) and shooting people. I might avoid telling her things like you live in a safe neighborhood. I’m sure most of the people who sent thei... More

  • Rhiannon
    Aug 21, 2019

    Hi! I came across another book post and thought of y'all. It's about anxiety in general. As a worrier from a young age, I understand how crippling anxiety can be. As an adult, therapy and mindfulness have helped me. At her age, I hope something like this book about worrying could provide some of that helpful framework.'m-wor... More

Daughter is rough with our senior kitty

My 9-year old daughter who has always been an animal lover is now suddenly being very rough with our 13-year old cat, Kiki. This has started in the last 6 weeks - basically, the start of summer break. My husband works from home, but since he is working, he probably isn't giving her as much attention as she would like. I think she's bored, but since I'm at work M-F for about 10 h... More

Kindergarten or first grade?

My daughter has a May birthday and this past year we sent her to Kindergarten but ended up pulling her because it seemed to be too much for her (socially/emotionally) at the time. I homeschooled her this year instead. While she’s been very interested in science, social studies, reading (I should say, being read TO), she still struggles with writing and reading on her own. Now I’m faced with t... More

  • Rachel
    Jul 05, 2019

    I would put her in Kindergarten, but not because she doesn't know her sight words or any other academic concerns. But rather because Kindergarten is when things like learning basic classroom behaviors happen: sitting in a circle, raising your hand, taking turns, standing in line, etc. If you put her in 1st grade and she struggles, you will worry you made the wrong decision, but I think it&#... More

  • Jennifer
    Aug 15, 2019

    I totally agree with Rachel. I would suggest putting your kid in kindergarten so she can get use the school environment and know how to adjust social behaviors.

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