Twins & Multiples

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Hyperactive during night feeding

Anyone experience their baby acting hyper active during or after an early (1 am-5am) feeding? My partner & I just had twins (3 months old) and the only way to calm one of them is breast feeding her after her feed. SN: I do offer extra breast milk in her bottle but she doesn’t take and cries for her moms teet (milk boob). Since I am back at work, Early mornings is my only shift to help my p... More

  • Anonymous
    Tuesday

    Agree with pacifier! If she doesn’t like the one she has, try a different type!

  • Xris
    Tuesday

    Yes we have 4 different kinds and they don’t care for any.

What do you buy 18 month old twins for Christmas 👀🧐???? HELP!!!

  • Linda
    Nov 10

    I would buy educational toys

  • Christine
    Monday

    I have twin boys that are 8 years old now. My advice? Whatever you get... get two! They’re too young at that age to understand sharing. They just want what the other has. If they’re good walkers, I would recommend play shopping carts with some play food.

Twin moms

Hey! So here’s my situation first off, first time mom of 7 month old twins. I feel stressed all the time! Husband was deployed the first four months, girls were in the nicu only 9 days but had problems eating the first 3-4 months. I was a huge ball of stress those first four months and thought when my husband got home it would go away but here we are at 7 months and I still feel stressed all th... More

  • Katy
    Nov 07

    Thankyou everyone for the advice! ❤️

  • Yobana
    Tuesday

    I can understand your situation i have 20 months old twins still struggling in the feeding area plus the normal sicknesses due to the season

Anonymous posted in Developmental Disorders Nov 03

Having a disabled child

I have a set of twins and one of them is severally disabled . She has a rare brain malformation called lissencephaly, she has epilepsy, she’s blind, and her corpus callosum is non existent and has a g tube . She’s never gonna be able to walk or talk and most children with this malformation don’t live past the age of ten. I feel sooo alone with this she’s 17 month now . And the beginning of her ... More

  • Mimaa
    Sunday

    Look for any help you can. Dosent matter what it is you'll get threw this! Xoxo

  • Yobana
    Tuesday

    Be strong ❤️ I admire you

Anonymous posted in Food & Cooking Oct 27

Any ideas for meals for 13 months olds? Realistic ones! We both work.

My twins are 13 months old. I still find myself cutting up thejr food very tiny and often times I see kids their same age taking bites out of food. Maybe I need some variety for them? Any ideas for meals for 13 months olds? Realistic ones! We both work. I am tired of giving them finger foods but don’t know where to begin! Thanks!

  • Joanne
    Oct 29

    My 9 month old eats dinner with us. What ever we are having just cut small.

  • Joanne
    Oct 29

    Porogies are easy, meatballs, frozen veggies usually come fairly small

Anonymous posted in Behavior Oct 26

Obsession

I have 2 year old twins. I am a special needs teacher as well. Recently, I was hospitalized for dehydration and exhaustion after passing out at work. Lately, I’ve been dealing with my son being overly obsessed with me. He cries when I’m not in the room. He holds on to me. He constantly needs to be near me. If I’m sitting, he’s on top of me. If I’m standing up he’s hanging on my legs and begging... More

  • Michele
    Oct 27

    My 21 month old is the same way and I emphasize with you so much!!! Exactly as you said, if I walk away or gets so much worse. I have started to put her in her room for “quiet time” when she gets out of hand... I hate doing it, it makes me feel like the worst mom ever, but it seems to be working. I calmly tell her she needs to calm down and leave her there... she throws a fit, bit in ten minute... More

  • Yobana
    Tuesday

    Im with you that is my situation just no yet in the point to passing out

Booster Chairs

Best inexpensive Booster seats for 2.5 yr olds? We have the Graaco space saver high chairs, we we have just been pulling up to the table. But, I think our kids are ready for something less bulky and maybe less tempting to climb on.

  • Rebecca
    Oct 26

    I purchased a Prince Lionheart Booster seat off Amazon, it attaches to the chair and my daughter loves it. I was tired of the highchair and so was she!

  • Erik
    Oct 30

    We just bought one from Walmart for about $15

April posted in Behavior Oct 24

Boy in Toddler Class

I have 2.5 year old twins, who I just signed up for a Mommy and me class at the rec center. My girl adores the class, follows direction etc. My boy on the other hand is a whiny maniac ... Is this just a boy thing? Or should I be worried. All the other kids in the class are pretty well behaved but he is the only boy.

  • April
    Oct 25

    Anonymous- I feel like it’s so hard sometimes because my twins are just totally different. And they never want to do the same things. Unfortunately, the majority the time there is only 1 adult with them. Which is hard. My girl actually tends to be the whiny one usually but she is definitely more focused and my boys just wants to run around. Also, seems like unpopular opinion but I do thing ... More

  • Lily
    Oct 25

    I used to teach little ones classes, some kids just have a harder time with it. He might just not be ready for it yet. Ask him if he wants to go, if he says he doesn’t, let him just watch. He will probably want to join in in a couple weeks!

Potty Training

Any tricks up the sleeve for little boys? I've tried food coloring game. Cheerios game. Candy rewards. Stickers. NOTHING is working 😭

  • Natalie
    Oct 24

    No diapers or pull ups once you make the decision. My son felt comfortable in underwear too and would go in them as if they were diapers. So, I would take off his bottoms for a little bit at a time and keep his potty in sight. Make it a comfortable place for them to “sit”. Put it near him, close to where he plays. Most importantly, patience! It’s a difficult process, but once they get it, it’s ... More

  • Krista
    Oct 25

    I’ve found that my child’s personality and drive had LOADS to do with it. And a method that worked for 1 child may or may not work for the next. Which makes it doubly frustrating! I have 3 boys. 2 of them are pretty motivated externally. My oldest by charts and treats. My 3rd by praise. My 2nd child, though, his motivation is nearly fully internal. He does things when he wants - and he’s a pe... More

Brushing teeth

When should I start brushing my twins teeth? They are 11 months old and eating finger foods.

  • Alexis
    Oct 22

    Now. We use a finger brush with our 8 month old who has two teeth. We don't use toothpaste yet though. Our 22 month old uses Toms toddler toothpaste which is fluoride free and a regular toddler extra soft toothbrush.

  • Debbie
    Oct 24

    Our 16 mth old twin granddaughters love to brush their teeth they have small brushes n we keep routines am and before bed

Anonymous posted in Behavior Oct 20

14 mo old terrors!

My 14 mo old twins have been an absolute handful lately. I’m talking, tantruming, refusing to nap, not sleeping through the night, unable to sit in a stroller or a shopping cart successfully for more than 10 minutes. It’s like I can’t do anything with them successfully anymore. Changing diapers and their clothes have become a constant fight. Please tell me this is a stage?! Any advice on how to... More

  • Misa
    Oct 21

    Same here with my 15 month year old. I changed to a Montessori approach. Instead of having her sit in a high chair I taught her to use a step stool and stand at the table and grab fruits or snacks she wants to eat. Its a transition in the works but she enjoys the freedom of express herself. When she doesnt want to be in the shopping cart I let her out and we walk together hand in hand. Giving h... More

  • Cathy
    Oct 21

    It’s all normal. Frustrating, but normal. Hang in there Mama and buy lots of wine.

Kimbra posted in Behavior Oct 11

My 14 month old is hitting and tantrums.....

My 14 month old girl twin hits or swats at her twin brother if he reaches for something she has....and sometimes she hits or swats at him for no apparent reason. Also, she’ll snatch an interesting toy from him if she wants it and he’ll cry then move on to something else. He may try to grab it back but she’s stronger and more aggressive so he’s unsuccessful. She’s weighs two pounds more than he ... More

  • Kimbra
    Oct 12

    Thank you so much!

  • Ernesto
    Oct 12

    We have a 2 year old(almost three) and a 11 month old. Both boys. The older one hits and bites the little one. It’s starting to get out of control. We are looking for alternatives to just giving him a time out. I read this and I though, wow it’s pretty similar.

Joe posted in Holidays Oct 03

We have 5 month old twin girls Ava & Zoë, anyone have any good halloween costume ideas?

  • Layla
    Oct 03

    Whatever you choose please post pics 😁 they’ll be soooo adorable!

  • T
    Oct 05

    Salt & pepper Mustard & ketchup

Moms of multiples

Really struggling to go out with my three girls. They are a handful to say the least. My oldest is almost four, middle is three and a half, and baby is five months. The older two are just awful when it’s time to leave the park, which makes it that much harder to even want to take them. How do you do it? I can’t be the only one struggling

  • Britteny
    Oct 02

    Today went better. We didn’t go yesterday because of how awful the oldest was last wed/thurs. We talked about the bad days and how we can’t be like that because we have to be safe first. I told her and her sister 15 minutes ahead of needing to leave and no one had an epic melt down. Even got them to hold hands on the way home. I have to get my double stroller soon though because 16+ pounds of b... More

  • Sadie
    Oct 02

    We like Daniel Tiger’s parents phrase “It’s almost time to stop so pick one more thing to do!”. Before we go I hype them up with some activity we can do when we’re done with the park or grocery store or wherever we’re going. When it’s time to go I give my boys a 5 minute warning and I say “pick one more thing to do”. They feel like they have some say/control in what’s going on and they are all ... More

Anonymous posted in In-Laws Oct 02

Newborn twins + 2 year old but overwhelmed with MIL

I’m going crazy!! Had my twins on Sept. 16th and my MIL took care of my 2 year old when we were in the hospital and has stayed with us ever since to help out. While she is a lot of help, she’s also really overwhelming me. I’m an introvert and she’s a total extravert and is always talking, often repeating phrases three times for no reason and very loud. While I really appreciate her help, especi... More

  • Sarah
    Oct 14

    What i did was buy a dog bed because it usually has walls around it and is soft enough for baby. I would sit it anywhere(couch, etc) wherever i needed my son to be so i was always nearby. It worked like a charm!

  • Lauren
    Oct 27

    I can relate! I would recommend having her go home a few nights a week. It helped my sanity.

The best convertible car seat for reasonable price for 13 month old twins....

My husband is buying us a huge SUV so size of car seat is no longer an issue. What is your recommendation for a great convertible car seat?

  • Kelly
    Sep 20

    We have the Graco Extend2Fit and really like it. Just remember all car seats pass the exact same safety standards.....so it’s really just a matter of preference for things like extra features, ease of use, level of cushioning/softness of fabric. etc. One thing to look at is each brands maximum heights/weights for both rear and forward facing, as those do vary.

  • Rose
    Sep 20

    I did a lot of research & it was down to Britax, Nuna & Clek, we went with Clek. We love it, our little dude loves it. Best purchase yet. Best features that really make you feel at ease.

Anonymous posted in Twins & Multiples Sep 20

Getting out with 4 toddlers without a car.

Any advice on how to get out with my 4 toddlers using public transportation? My boys are bored out of their skulls once they get out of school and I haven’t a clue on how to safely manage all them solo using public transportation. I have terrible social anxiety especially when I go out with my kids. Seems like all eyes are on me and I dare not make a mistake with anything while out with my boys... More

  • Laura
    Sep 20

    If you live in a place with good bike facilities, I've seen 3 kids on the back of a cargo bike, and you could put a 4th on a kid seat up at the handlebars. Electric assist makes carrying that load doable.

  • antigrav_kids
    Sep 21

    I only take public transit with the gang here since San Francisco has such a nice system. We've been riding since the youngest, (No. 3, now 3 years-old) was five months old. When she was smaller I put No. 3 in a wrap. The other two climbed on by themselves. As soon as 3 could climb onto a kneeling bus, she started getting on and off herself also. It took the kids a couple of weeks, (da... More

Streamlined sleek car seats for twins in small SUV..........

Please help!!!! We have 13 month old twins and it is time to convert them from the infant car seat to one that can be rear and forward facing. Our SUV is not huge. Are there great car seats that are sleeker and more streamlined? Also, can these car seats be installed without the base but with the seatbelt? Thank you so much!!!!!

Anonymous posted in Siblings Sep 06

2 Year Olds Can’t put Themselves to Sleep

Ok, so I admit we have completely failed at getting our twins do the “self soothe” thing. At almost 2.5 years bedtime still involves rocking, cuddling and reading 100 books. In reality, because of my work and our daycare situation it’s always been difficult to keep routine consistent. Anyway, I’m over it taking hours to put them down ... has anyone dealt with this with toddlers??? Any advice? P... More

  • Melissa
    Sep 12

    So i used the book “The Sleepeasy Solution: the exhausted parents guide to getting your child to sleep from birth to age five” and it’s great. Granted I used it for a baby not a toddler but the book has entire chapters on toddlers and older kids and how to do the method.

  • Jenessa
    Oct 04

    My girls are 2.5. My girls used to out themselves to sleep but now my husband and i tag team and lay with them till they fall asleep. We try not to interact much but most the time we end up rubbing their back or something. They will learn to self sooth one day. Ive just excepted it and decided to try and take in the extra time spent. Sorry. I know thats no help to you but your not alone in the ... More

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