Twins & Multiples

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Twin 3 year olds transitioning from staying at home to preschool/daycare

Please share all of your tips for transitioning from staying at home with mama (or caregivers they know) to full day care outside of the home. Tips for mama and kids welcomed. I believe one twin will transition smoothly and one will have a REALLY rough time.

  • Chelsea
    Friday

    That's normally how it goes. If they have classrooms, I recommend letting them stay together the first year. Come second year you would want them to be separated. They will learn independency from one another. My twins are 6 and headed to 1st grade, 3rd year in different classes.

  • Heidi
    Saturday

    Thanks Chelsea! Do you have any tips for the initial transition?

I’m 18 weeks pregnant w twins and I’ve been struggling with extreme morning sickness

I’m prescribed Diclegis but it’s kinda pricey and I have to take it religiously in order to keep the nausea away. I’m just hoping that it goes away soon.. Does anybody know when this should go away??

  • K
    Thursday

    I have 17 mth old twin girls ❤️❤️ and the beginning of my pregnancy with them kicked my ass!!! I barely got sick with my son, 1st born. But, I was extremely nauseous and had killer migraines during their first trimester. It cleared up about a week or two into the second trimester. I’m a big fan of Preggy Pops. Make sure you are resting as much as possible and eat as much as you can stand. Ther... More

  • Chelsea
    Friday

    My twins gave me bad morning sickness. A piece of dark chocolate before I even got out of bed and fresh ginger root to chew helped me out

Parent guilt over growing twins

My Littles are 6 months on Thursday and they’re rolling over, crawling, teething, pulling up on the rails of their cribs and my Twin A is sitting up unassisted. How? They were just 4 & 5 pound little balls of human just the other day?! I feel so sad that I’m not feeling as present as I would like to be in this whole Twin Life thing. I’m never NOT busy though, and I’ve blinked and suddenly... More

  • Anonymous
    Wednesday

    Welcome to parenthood! A lifetime of parental guilt 🙂. It’s completely normal - just remember to focus on quality time over quantity.

  • Brigitte
    Wednesday

    You know, this is why I feel frustrated when people always look at me sagely and say, “enjoy it! Take it all in! It goes so fast!” I know they have the best intentions when they say that; but I’ve really come to feel that instead of encouraging me it just makes me feel guilty. Parenthood, ESPECIALLY in the first year, is so hard and emotionally challenging. One minute you’re wildly in love and ... More

Anonymous posted in Flying Mar 14

Going to be traveling with 1.5 year old twins on a short flight. Any tips!?!

We will be take a trip with our 1.5 old twins on a short flight. We are planning on taking our double umbrellas stroller and renting full size cribs/high chairs when we get down there. Anyyy tips are appreciated!!!

  • Melany
    Thursday

    My family and I travel overseas a lot. Shortest flight over 17 hours. They do great with minor adjustments based on age. Have new cheap toys for them to open (matchbox or hot wheels cars, figurines non choking size for your age group, duplos or legos for older age). Be sure to bring a snack or granola bar they like and can eat. Let them be free in seats, even play on floor in your row, without ... More

How on earth do you survive the 4 month sleep regression?!

  • Jenn
    Feb 27

    Stay strong and stick to your sleep training. My LO didn't sleep as late starting at 4 months, but I would leave her in her crib for a bit after she woke so she got used to being in there awake and entertaining herself.

  • Luis
    Mar 18

    Pump and have your husband or someone feed and change the diapers every other time. It almost works :) it’s not perfect but it will give some 4 hours straight of sleeping time.

Any twin mommas here?

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Feb 12

SAHM of 3 under 3, introvert, needs a break

I’m a SAHM with 5 month old twins and an almost 3 year old. I’m an introvert and need time alone to rejuvenate. I haven’t had time alone for so long yet I feel so alone in life. I used to have a career I worked really hard for, including 2 graduate degrees, and had an office where I worked on paperwork alone much of the day. I remember I used to feel lonely but now I miss that so much. I don’t ... More

  • Anonymous
    Feb 12

    Could you hire a sitter to take the kids somewhere out of the house so you could just blah around the house alone? Or have the sitter stay home and you go to a movie? I used to check my toddler into church kids bible club just so I could sit in a pew and not even listen to the pastor! I just wanted to be alone and zone out lol I’m not even pious... Sending strength and support your way... this ... More

  • Elle
    Mar 01

    Could you guys swing an au pair if you resumed a career? (Doesn't have to be thr same one as before) Another option is a nanny/babysitter part of the day, foe a few hours here and there.

Sandra posted in Behavior Jan 23

Separation anxiety help!

I recently got a gym membership with a kids club. I got the gym membership with the daycare so I wouldn’t have to worry about childcare when I work out but every time I take my twins to the daycare they cry and make themselves throw up and I can’t work out because I have to go home because they threw up is there a way that I can fix this or should I just leave them with a family member. I have ... More

  • Sandra
    Jan 23

    Yeah no I go to LA fitness and they don’t allow snacks which suck because I’m pretty sure if they had snack they would be just fine. .. I will keep trying to drop them off and set them up with there fav toys

  • Anonymous
    Jan 30

    We had an LA fitness membership before kids that we had to quit bc the daycare experience was absolutely awful. We tried the ymca bc most of our friends with kids go there and it’s a much more family friendly gym. I think bc they have so many kid programs their staff is just much better equipped to handle the meltdowns.

Anonymous posted in Twins & Multiples Jan 11

Just found out I’m having twins...

Anyone having or have twins before? I have a 16 month old and just found out I’m expecting twins for his birthday. I’m kind of terrified I won’t be able to handle it. Children are a blessing and I’m happy but scared. Any advice or anyone else in the same boat?

  • Anonymous
    Jan 17

    I will have to be home with the babies since the twins will make three under school age for us and we can’t afford to spend 4500 a month on daycare. I’m afraid I’ll lose it. I babysat my nephew while I was on maternity leave with my son and they are a few weeks apart. It was a nightmare and he went home at the end of the day. I’m definitely sad about knowing I won’t be able to give any of the k... More

  • Nicole
    Jan 18

    Anonymous I had a lot of the same concerns you do. I'm a stay at home mom as well, partially due to daycare being so expensive. I feel bad that I don't spend as much time with my older son but he does love to help around the house and has grown to love his brothers. I'm sure once they can play with him he'll be even more excited. Our house has two bedrooms up and two down. My ol... More

Hey. My twin baby girls are loosing their hair.

Is just shedding all over the place. Especially on there beds while sleeping. Any suggestions?

  • Christina
    Dec 28

    I would just wait it out but if you do put anything on it I would only do natural things, like coconut or olive oil to moisturize their scalps.

  • Elle
    Dec 28

    Ask your pediatrician and show them how much is falling out (bring some hair with u) if you are concerned

Multiple kiddos all under 5

So does anyone have some tips on how to manage discipline when there r multiples (a set of twins) along w three other kiddos? All at different stages and I need help managing the constant need for attention from all seems qhen I need to discuss discipline w one is exactly qhen the others want to act up oj know it's all normal but any tips would be greatly appreciated! I take the one out of ... More

  • Susan
    Dec 23, 2018

    I second Jessica above, you are my hero, I’m struggling keeping my sanity with a 2.5 & 1 yo... bravo, lady! I wish I had better insight to give, but when my toddler starts to mirror the baby’s behavior when I am disciplining her I just ignore it and she stops quick... I’m sure it’s a bit more challenging in your case though... good luck!

  • MommyDear
    Dec 24, 2018

    Oh lord! And I thought handling a 2yr and a 5mo was challenging... you my dear seem to have things under control for the most part which remember that if we don’t go insane and do a few mess-ups from time to time then we’re not doing parenting right 😂 The kiddos are pretty young and still developing, therefore, there’s only so much they’ll understand at this age but I would say patience, persev... More

What is the best nursing advice for twin girls???

So this is my first baby. Well I actually should say babieS. I am a new mother with identical twin girls. They are almost 5 months and the feedings are becoming a little more complicated than it already was, especially considering how much more milk they are requiring to have a full night’s sleep. My older twin seems to not mind taking both formula and breast milk, which is fantastic. But my yo... More

Anonymous posted in Child Care Dec 04, 2018

Seeking advice to avoid babies get sick at Daycare

Hi everyone: My twins are about to start daycare and I am looking advice to help them to build their inmune system. I have tried 2 times already but they ended up getting sick after 2 days in day care now they have 1 year and I believe they have better defenses. Thanks in advance,

  • T
    Dec 07, 2018

    Elderberry syrup Lots of hand washing

  • Lindsay
    Dec 08, 2018

    They build immunity by getting sick occasionally. It stinks and I try to avoid it too but it’ll be good for the twins when they get to kindergarten and isn’t sick every other day. But we do the vitamins and load up on fruits and veggies to keep my son healthy. He has a great defense so far but he still gets sick.

Unbearable Spitting!

How do I curb my girls urge to spit and raspberry during meal times? I’m doing so much laundry at this point because I’m wearing more food than they’re eating!

  • Birdie
    Nov 20, 2018

    Give them the spoon and let them get messy. The only way they learn is if they practice. Then when they get messy you can show them how to clean themselves. My daughter is 2 now, her father hated it when I let her get messy. Now when her face & hands are dirty she asks for a napkin to clean herself. If you out then give her the spoon but guide their hand.

  • Adrian
    Nov 24, 2018

    I use these for my twins and it has helped so much. Bumkins Sleeved Bib / Baby Bib / Toddler Bib / Smock, Waterproof, Washable, Stain and Odor Resistant, 6-24 Months - Gray Chevron https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00NEHWTM8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_s7J-BbSW6537H

Lunches?

I always feel like I'm slacking on giving my kids good lunches. I always think I don't have enough or it's just not healthy enough (which most of the time is probably not healthy at all 🤦‍♀️) my 3 year old is extremely picky which makes it so hard and my twins who are 19 months are usually good eaters but can love something one day and then hate it for a week. Does anyone have easy ... More

  • Amy
    Nov 25, 2018

    My daughter is 20 months old and I'll pack her a lunch for school that consists of at least one kind of fruit and vegetable each, one "main" dish like tuna sandwich, ham and cheese roll ups, hot dogs, soup, mac and cheese, cheese and crackers, sometimes even dinner from the night before. And then i will add a thing of yogurt, apple sauce, or one of those food pouches and a snack.... More

  • JoJo
    Nov 27, 2018

    Smoothies and omelettes help me with my toddler a lot!! Also burritos, you can add a bunch of things in there mixed in with beans and cheese, they love it!

Hyperactive during night feeding

Anyone experience their baby acting hyper active during or after an early (1 am-5am) feeding? My partner & I just had twins (3 months old) and the only way to calm one of them is breast feeding her after her feed. SN: I do offer extra breast milk in her bottle but she doesn’t take and cries for her moms teet (milk boob). Since I am back at work, Early mornings is my only shift to help my p... More

  • Anonymous
    Nov 13, 2018

    Agree with pacifier! If she doesn’t like the one she has, try a different type!

  • Xris
    Nov 13, 2018

    Yes we have 4 different kinds and they don’t care for any.

What do you buy 18 month old twins for Christmas 👀🧐???? HELP!!!

  • Linda
    Nov 10, 2018

    I would buy educational toys

  • Christine
    Nov 12, 2018

    I have twin boys that are 8 years old now. My advice? Whatever you get... get two! They’re too young at that age to understand sharing. They just want what the other has. If they’re good walkers, I would recommend play shopping carts with some play food.

Twin moms

Hey! So here’s my situation first off, first time mom of 7 month old twins. I feel stressed all the time! Husband was deployed the first four months, girls were in the nicu only 9 days but had problems eating the first 3-4 months. I was a huge ball of stress those first four months and thought when my husband got home it would go away but here we are at 7 months and I still feel stressed all th... More

  • Katy
    Nov 07, 2018

    Thankyou everyone for the advice! ❤️

  • Yobana
    Nov 13, 2018

    I can understand your situation i have 20 months old twins still struggling in the feeding area plus the normal sicknesses due to the season

Having a disabled child

I have a set of twins and one of them is severally disabled . She has a rare brain malformation called lissencephaly, she has epilepsy, she’s blind, and her corpus callosum is non existent and has a g tube . She’s never gonna be able to walk or talk and most children with this malformation don’t live past the age of ten. I feel sooo alone with this she’s 17 month now . And the beginning of her ... More

  • Melanie
    Nov 17, 2018

    Wow. That is so much for you. You must be so strong. Sending you love. Her life has meaning. I’ll pray that you find it.

  • Jaime Santos-Prowse
    Nov 19, 2018

    You made a decision that a mother shouldn't have to make, and you are doing the best you can. I know you are because of how much you hurt seeing your daughter suffer. And I'm so sorry for your pain, for her pain, and for the fact that this probably makes it difficult for you to be present with your other daughter. You've already reached out, which is the first step. You can do this,... More

Anonymous posted in Food & Cooking Oct 27, 2018

Any ideas for meals for 13 months olds? Realistic ones! We both work.

My twins are 13 months old. I still find myself cutting up thejr food very tiny and often times I see kids their same age taking bites out of food. Maybe I need some variety for them? Any ideas for meals for 13 months olds? Realistic ones! We both work. I am tired of giving them finger foods but don’t know where to begin! Thanks!

  • Joanne
    Oct 29, 2018

    My 9 month old eats dinner with us. What ever we are having just cut small.

  • Joanne
    Oct 29, 2018

    Porogies are easy, meatballs, frozen veggies usually come fairly small

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