Special Needs Children

Every child is unique and exceptional in their own way — and some need exceptional care and nurturing to thrive.

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Potty training Oh Crap Method

My child has sensory processing disorder and developmental delay so has a fear of sitting on the toilet especially at school. I read in the oh crap method book that it will take him about two months to be trained but it doesn’t give details on how to do that. Help!!!

  • Jess

    I have no advice, but I am in the exact same boat. My daughter is 3, also has spd and wants nothing to do with potty training! I was thinking of doing the 3 day no clothes method, staying home and keeping potty close by, but we have attempted 3 times 1 day each and nothing so we always give up.

  • Momof1

    Actually we were going to go down the same boat you were doing. Just do it in short spurts and see if he picks up on it. I think the biggest hurdle for us is that we don’t think he knows what peeing is. I’ve also considered hiring a consultant. They have some listed on the oh crap website

My three year old with anxiety

My step daughter has been through more in her three years than I have my entire life, she is going through a really hard time at daycare, I work there and I witness everything. She is such a happy and fun loving girl at home and I am really struggling watching her turn into an anxiety ridden girl who throws major meltdowns, where all she does is scream and cry for at least 10 minutes. She is on... More

  • Anonymous

    sorry to hear she is having a hard time at school. I agree with other's here, the school/teachers should be more accommodating for her special needs, if they are unable to do so it's worth looking at other nearby schools in the area if they have better care for her needs. Her anxiety and meltdowns at school is likely due to their inability to properly teach and communicate with others a... More

  • Sara

    I'd suggest looking for another daycare, maybe a smaller one. A good daycare will make accommodations for different children within reason and a special box of things sounds like a very reasonable accommodation.

Strange white raised bumps?

My son keeps getting these raised white bumps all over his body. It usually happens after we take his clothes off and he runs around. These happened after he got out of bed. We can’t seem to pin point what’s wrong, they don’t hurt him because we’ve poked and prodded and he’s fine.

  • Madilyn
    Dec 05

    See we thought it was bites but I’ve had fleas before when we had cats as a teen. We don’t have animals and we aren’t around them and none of us have gotten bitten. So I don’t think it’s bugs.

  • PK
    Dec 06

    Do they disappear within a few min or hours? My son gets these “hives” whenever there’s heat. So whenever someone holds him, certain folds in his area, where he sweats, or if he just runs around. It sounds like maybe he was laying on his arm in bed for enough time for those hives to pop up. We talked about it with our pediatrician and she said something about chronic hives. Recommended baby B... More

It all started with a speech delay and now we’re being referred to a neurologist...feeling down!

So my 2.5 year old has a speech delay. Unfortunately my insurance won’t cover him because he’s not severe enough - that was very frustrating to hear. The SLP even threw around selective mutism- wth?! So we were referred to our regional center and they ruled out selective mutism but now is seeing he has other delays so we got him reassessed. His fine motor skills however were reported as excelle... More

  • Amanda
    Nov 22, 2019

    My journey with my son started near exactly the same way and I was not prepared for everything that was to be thrown at me as time went on but it has made me who I am it has made me HIS MOTHER. I know you are probably picturing all sorts of scenarios and ideas in your head I remember I couldn’t look at my son without crying (not gonna lie he sometimes still will get me) because IT IS SAD! You h... More

  • Rossy
    Dec 16

    Hello Dear! I'm interested in your case because I'm having the same scenario as you. How is you child now? Did you did the test? please let me know.

Anonymous posted in Allergies & Asthma Nov 17, 2019

Sensitive skin or something else?

My 1yr old recently has had very sensitive skin, when being held, picked up etc the area that is touched turns red. He isn’t in any pain. Any other parents have this with their kid? Could it be anything worse than just sensitive skin?

  • Anonymous
    Nov 17, 2019

    How long is it red for? My son has sensitive skin like that. Some times he gets hives where there was contact 🤷🏻‍♀️ he’s 3 years old now and no issues with that. We are dealing with a fungal issue right now though - tinea versicolor

Hi how can you tell if your 2 1/2 year old son has asthma?

We noticed after he’s been running around or dancing etc. he seams to start coughing a lot and sound a bit funny with his breathing my husband has asthma only activated by similar exercises and activity’s my husband was diagnosed as a kid but now we think our son may have it also! But has not been tested yet we would like to know how to know if he has asthma. Thank you in advance for any tips ... More

Oppositional defiant disorder

Hi guys! I have a 19 month old who is just something else lol, ever since he was a baby he wouldn’t smile at people like other babies do, I have to say he is really smart he says a lot of words, and comprehends most of the stuff that a kid his age should, but he’s mad most of the time, he gets aggressive, if I try to help him he doesn’t like it he gets annoyed pretty fast by everything, when he... More

  • Miss Maple
    Nov 13, 2019

    There are so many things to consider first... I suggest you see 1) a child psychologist or developmental specialist to see how much of this is typical 2)an occupational therapist for a sensory profile and evaluation. It is highly unlikely your child has the emotional and cognitive ability to even consider the types of processes involved in being "oppositional" and "defiant."... More

Birthday Party Ideas

Hi so I have a set of twins turning 4 in January. My son is autistic but my daughter isn’t. This is the first year I want to throw them a party but I don’t want to be so concerned about not overwhelming my son that my daughter doesn’t have fun. Any suggestions?

  • Mandy
    Oct 28, 2019

    What is your son sensitive to usually? If he is sensitive to sound, you could do noise cancelling headphones. My cousin's child is autistic and is Sensitive to sounds and lights. He would wear sunglasses and noise cancelling headphones in certain situations

From formula to milk

My son is about to be a year old in a couple weeks and I’m freaking out about the transition from formula to cows milk. I’ve already tried introducing him to some dairy products like cheese,yogurt and other foods that might have dairy in it. He hasn’t had a problem until recently I gave him American cheese, he pooped 5 times in one day causing him a diaper rash. Is he possibly allergic to cows ... More

  • Marilyn
    Oct 06, 2019

    I would make my boys baby cereal with regular cows milk before introducing just straight cows milk.

Does anyone have a dog but has a toddler with minimal allergies

  • Jenn
    Sep 04, 2019

    Yup. I also have allergies. Lots of grooming, vacuuming and swiftering. And allergy pills of your choice on hand. Also, washing hands after playing w/the dog and not touching/rubbing their eyes.

  • Vonda
    Sep 06, 2019

    Yes. We just vacuum, dust, and lots of grooming. Have two Aussies so brushing is a must. Washing hands is also a good idea after playing with the dogs.

Would CBD oil help my son?

I have a 10 1/2 year old son with Down Syndrome and atypical autism. What is the proper dosage of CBD oil? I have given it to him before. It calmed him down and he slept calmly through the night. The morning dosage caused drowsiness. I have also tried NEUROPROTEK. It was expensive and made him more focused, but nothing more. I would like to speak with a parent who has a child as my own, who ha... More

Prepping for fetal surgery and long term care

I found out August 6th my 3rd son is due December 20th but my recent ultrasound that day I was told that there were abnormalities of the heart,cleft feet,and Spinal Bifida and I'm now 6 months pregnant. Therefore I had a procedure performed where a sample of my amniotic fluid was taken for testing.......I am waiting for the test results in the next 7 days so schedules can be made for Pas... More

  • E
    Aug 15, 2019

    The birth to 3 program that is prior to early intervention or school age support should be able to start right away. The hospital/ clinic social worker could help you get in touch. You also can do the self referral. Each state calls their programs something slightly different. The local public schools should also be able to give you their information. It’s free. Typically with birth to three th... More

  • Anne
    Sep 19, 2019

    My son has a congenital heart defect, we currently have therapists that come to the house, some insurances can provide nursing services as well, typically the children’s hospital or wherever your child is being treated will give you information about services that are available. My son is 6 months old and has had two open heart surgeries so far. I chose to stay at home with him but I feel like ... More

Occupational Therapy

Has anyone put their child in occupational therapy for sensory disorder? What types of things do they teach there?

  • E
    Aug 15, 2019

    Often it’s things to help the child better understand the sensory information from their environment. Most therapist work with the family to help improve the child’s everyday function in the home/ community. The types of interventions will differ on what the child’s needs are. It is almost always play based and works on integration of the sensory system to increase performance of everyday tasks... More

  • Momof1
    Aug 16, 2019

    Thank you!!

What to do when you know your son has SPD and texture aversions (food related).

I know my son has food aversions and doesn’t like certain textures in relation to food. We are pretty confident that he has some SPD issues but his pediatrician and early intervention doesn’t seem to be worried. He is 15 months and won’t eat much or consistent solids. He will eat anything purées style but won’t eat much more solid. We barely got to the point where he will sometimes eat a chip o... More

  • Teresa
    Jul 31, 2019

    Check out Your Kids Table website https://yourkidstable.com. Fantastic information on from an OT on eating and sensory issues. Fantastic information! I used this website for meal ideas and snacks when we went through a rough patch with eating.

  • anonymous mom
    Aug 09, 2019

    Trust your gut, mama. If your insurance requires it, ask for a referral to an OT, otherwise make the appointment yourself!!! Early intervention is sooo important!!!

Advice for parents who have a child with speech delay?

My daughter is 28 months (2 years old) and can only say a handful of words and can’t put together sentences either. We recently had an appointment with her pediatrician and have mentioned or concerns of her being non verbal as well as her lack of interaction with other children. The next steps will be a hearing test, autism assessment as well as getting her in the head start program (if they fe... More

  • Aria
    Aug 26, 2019

    My son has autism and cant really speak; can only say Mama but only when upset and mostly babbles. I dont think yours have autism since she is able to say a few words.She is probably just a little delayed. Get her to copy you more, if she knows how to copy in movements or activities, she should be able to copy in speaking as well. Start with easy words and find something she is interested in an... More

  • Gabbs
    Oct 21, 2019

    My son is 30 months and we had some of the same concerns and after meeting with our pediatrician we were referred to an SLP. Unfortunately my sons delay isn’t severe enough to be medically covered so I was referred to my county’s regional office - i believe this is different from head start as i believe that starts once they are 3- I am waiting to hear back from them but this might be a good r... More

Getting doctors to take seriously my concerns of 3 yo daughter having ASD, ADHD, OCD, something.

I don't want to bore everyone with my daughter's life story but she has been very different from my two older kids since the day she was born. Even the pregnancy was much different/harder. I also have struggled with chronic pain and had horrible PPD for a couple years after her birth. And her father is a workaholic and this was his first child so It. Was. A. Struggle! Anyway, my daughte... More

  • Rita
    Jul 05, 2019

    My oldest son was the exact same way when he was 3 years old. Now he is 26. I thought at first he was just being a toddler going through the terrible 2's until he started breaking dishes cause his shoes were not in the right place. I took him to the doctor and insisted that tests be done to find the problem. I had a 2 year old daughter with downsyndrome and had to protect her as well. Evalu... More

  • Vanessa
    Jul 08, 2019

    Oh I know she's not trying to run the house but others who are outside looking in do lol. Their opinions and concerns are what get to me. I know my daughter is bright and amazing and has her own little ways of processing information and I try everything I can think of to try and figure that out with her. I just need to find a doctor who will get on the same page and stop telling me that the... More

Anonymous posted in Special Needs Children Jun 27, 2019

Child care for special needs child

Hi, I am looking for child care for a child with Spina Bifida but I have no idea where to begin my search

  • Kelly
    Jul 12, 2019

    Hi I know this was posted a while back but thought I would still reach out if you are still in need of assistance with this. I’m not sure where you are located but here in VA you could receive some services to assist with this including having someone even watch your child in your own home. Have you looked into anything like that?

Childcare struggles

I have a new job and am going to be working outside the home now which brings the struggle of finding daycare. My stepson is 5, autistic and not potty trained. I am having issues finding a childcare facility that can take him because he is in diapers at 5. What alternatives or solutions has anyone else found for this issue? We have tried potty training and it stresses him out because he doesn&#... More

  • Aria
    Aug 23, 2019

    Aba centers can accommodate till 6pm. Aba stands for applied behavioral analysts. Form what I hear, your child can attend preschool, and get a school bus to drive him/her to their aba center. Contact yoru school district about the bus.

Potty training

My son likes to flush the toilet and that is it. He only sat on the toilet once. He didn’t pull his pants down. He just sat and went in the diaper. I was told I should put regular underwear on and he will get the idea. I should also give him a treat when he does use the bathroom. It’s been really hard more so because he is autistic. Any tips?

  • Anonymous
    Jun 12, 2019

    He’s not going to magically know how to pull his pants down and go. He’s gone in a diaper his whole life. I recommend a weekend at home (like literally not leaving) in underwear where you have him sit on the toilet every 30 min and when he goes lots of praise (or one m&m) and talking about how he peed on the pot

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Jun 13, 2019

    When I train I do nothing or just underwear, and I help them with running over to the potty and show them how to pull it down, and I usually spend 3-7 days at home all day so we can catch every opportunity and have lots of repetition.

Anonymous posted in Allergies & Asthma Jun 05, 2019

Birthday cake

My soon-to-be 5 yr old is allergic to colors on the icing cream. His Birthday is just round the corner. I would like him to choose his cake but I want to make sure I give him options that would suit his health. Looking for recommendations for alternate Birthday cakes. TIA.

  • Anonymous
    Jun 06, 2019

    That's a great idea. Do you know any Bakery that does it?

  • Lynn
    Jun 06, 2019

    I’m sure you can make a special request

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