Special Needs Children

Every child is unique and exceptional in their own way — and some need exceptional care and nurturing to thrive.

Ask questions and share support with parents raising children who have special needs, including autism, developmental delays, physical limitations and more.

When can you give your kid peanut butter?

  • Elle

    Whenever you want. Sooner = better

  • Sarah
    5h ago

    Babies should not consume any foods, until at least 6 months (their guts are literally not ready to handle foods until 6 mos), after that they can eat whatever you eat. Check out Baby Led Weaning, the best thing ever!!

2 year old allergic to dairy

My almost 2 year old has a milk protein allergy. We have been giving him a hypoallergenic formula since I stopped breastfeeding when he turned 1. We want to switch him to another milk. We tried hemp milk but he wouldn’t drink it. He can’t do any nut milk since he’s allergic to nuts. He’s also slightly allergic to peas so i don’t want to do Ripple. What do you think the healthiest Milk alternati... More

  • B
    Feb 11

    Oops. Sorry. My allergist gives us advice on what do give. Can you do soy? Or...why do a milk substitute at all?

  • Amanda

    My son has a soy intolerance and a tree nut allergy and my husband has a milk protein allergy. We use oat milk a lot in our house. Both hubby and tot prefer Oatly original brand to silk. I mostly use it to make dishes like stroganoff and Alfredo that typically have a dairy factor or when they want cereal. I'm not sure it's 100% best alternative but it works for my family.

Brynne posted in Behavior Jan 31

I have an 8 year old daughter. Who doesn’t listen well.

My daughter who is 8 has A.D.D. She is not listening to me when I need her to do something. (Like clean her room, or she can’t sleep in her sisters bed etc...) she sometimes also has outbursts when she doesn’t get her way and tends to do what she wants while being upset. I would like to have some tips and tricks for listening. Also if you have tips and tricks to calm her down. Would be greatly ... More

  • Looloo
    Feb 08

    Well from what I read it’s normal for children to not listen during that age. I went through it too. Now that my daughter is 10 she is a lot better at completing tasks. You have to first make sure they know how to do the task. Do it with them . And then also need to discipline. If they don’t want to do the chore take away their favorite thing and don’t feel bad and next time she will know you a... More

  • Elizabeth
    Feb 10

    What I do with my step son is make eye contact with him and say it slowly and calmly. As well as getting him in the kitchen with me and giving him easy praise tasks and when his hands are moving and youre calmly telling him what to do, and slipping in questions about his day, are much simpler than anything else I’ve tried.


My son has been having hives for 4 days now. I can’t seem to figure out why he’s getting them. Has never had an allergic reaction before. They come and go in different areas of the body. I feel like I just look at him and he gets them. He’s being really sensitive, any tips to help treat them?? He is taking Benadryl.

  • Stacey
    Feb 01

    Does he have eczema? The cold, dry air really effects my daughter’s skin and she’ll get random hives that are very itchy, especially at night. The itchiness usually starts first then the hives come. Zyrtec is what we give her (dr recommended) and it usually gives relief within 20 minutes.

  • Jessica
    Feb 01

    Thank you everyone I will look into Zyrtec .... yesterday he was really bad , I just don’t understand what is causing it and why they don’t go away

Toddler has ezcema on her cheeks, anybody else? How do u treat it?

She also gets mrsa recurrent infections in summer especially but cold weather seems to make ezcema worse too. How do you deal with that? Dr didnt seem concerned about the ezcema part but i now can see it is all related. We do bleach baths twice a week and take probiotics. Her infections have stopped since then but ezcema flare ups on her cheeks are ln the rise now.

  • Courtney
    Jan 30

    My 15 month old has eczema and we were using a cream we got prescribed. It was doing the trick until the cold reeeeally set in in New England. Doc suggested Vaseline so we’ll see 🤷🏼‍♀️ good luck!

  • Alexza
    Jan 31

    My daughter who is now 5 years old has severe eczema every since she was a baby. The daughter would prescribe an ointment whenever she has a “flare up”. But once it goes away, or its winter here in the north we put Vaseline and lotion. I use Vermont Original Bag Balm and Cerave Baby Moisturizing lotion. Her dermatologist recommend Cerave baby and as for the Vaseline I did some research and s... More

Early steps

Hi! My son just got referred to early steps for a speech evaluation. He is 18 months now. I am just wondering what is involved with this program? Does anyone have any recommendations for a late talker before I get to my first apt in April?

  • Momof1
    Jan 30

    Gabriela, how did your apt go?

  • Gabriela
    Feb 01

    Well they said he was fine in everything else except for the talking/communication part and they are gonna sent someone to our house to teach him and help him develop his vocabulary more

Anonymous posted in Developmental Disorders Jan 25

I need reassurance and you tell me what you think??

So my in laws have been watching my LO for a couple of days and they seem to think my son has autism/some type of eating disorder. He doesn’t like eating solids, and he’s really picky with what he eats but he does love sweets 🤦‍♀️ because of his dad. (We still encourage him at home to eat solids/healthy food etc.) he loves those pouches that are like purée foods (apple sauce pouches) etc. so he... More

  • Kait
    Jan 26

    It’s horrible of them to say that to you. Your kid is still very little and sometimes kids are picky. Always trust your momma intuition over people who don’t know your baby like you.

  • T
    Jan 26

    From 15 months until 3 years old my daughter went through a Costco size jar of mixed nuts every week. She ate a variety of other food, but she lived off mixed nuts. Her pediatrician said it was fine. She met and exceeded all milestones. Wasn’t lethargic. Etc.

Eunice posted in Babies Jan 21

HIE in babies

Hi mamas & dads, has anyone’s baby been diagnosed with HIE. I have a 5 month old with this and know there are so many different levels. She just started Physical Theraphy, I’ve been told she’s delayed, but with her being my first child it’s difficult for me to know what’s normal (what she’s supposed to be doing at this age) I know all kids go at their own rate so I’m hoping it’s nothing maj... More

Asthma in a baby

Does anyone have any experience getting their baby diagnosed with asthma? They will only say he has asthmatic tendencies. He barely sleeps and has a really hard time breathing. His inhaler doesn't really work anymore. I don't know what else to do to help him.

  • Dena
    Jan 18

    Im calling around to different pediatricians now. I'm gonna try to find a new one

  • Anonymous
    Feb 02

    Also think about whether you want to see a pediatric pulmonologist

Potty training an autistic boy

My son is 4 and I am going to try potty training again. We have tried sitting him on the potty when he wakes up dry but he just cries and holds it and asked for the diaper. Would it be better to get him one of those kid Potts? What has everyone else found that is successful?

  • Ivy
    Jan 16

    My son is HFA and was potty trained a year ago (before we had him diagnosed). After doing great, he really began regressing and would refuse to pee first thing in the morning and would wet himself while eating breakfast or wherever. Soooo frustrating because I knew he was holding it in!!! Eventually I had to do bribery with a sticker chart and treats. A month later, he got off the reward syste... More

  • Ivy
    Jan 16

    We also have a baby doll and we “change” it’s diaper. I tell him diapers are for the little babies and he’s a big boy now, so he needs to use the toilet. That helped him ditch the diaper idea

Sensitive face

Any advice on how to deal with red splotches on babes face?

  • Olimpia
    Jan 13

    You guys rock! Thank you so much. I still have Lanolin. And I’ll remember the rest just in case that doesn’t work. I keep forgetting the dry winter winds/air are going to be tough on her.

  • A
    Jan 13

    Have you tried coconut oil? I use to use it for everything as a lotion and in my own hair. I’ve used it on my niece she gets chapped around her face sometimes and it seems to help


What are some signs you first noticed in your kids who have adhd? How old were they when they were diagnosed and how have you handled the situation since then?

  • Lacey
    Jan 09

    Unable to retain information, trouble comprehending, very unorganized, anxiety over school and forgetting things, grades were declining even with tutoring. She was 8 when she was diagnosed.

  • Lacey
    Jan 09

    We did start her on medication and it has really helped her. Medication isn’t always the answer for everyone. Just kinda trial and error to see what’s works.

Any tools/tricks to help tube-fed baby increase liquid volume by mouth or move to purées?

Hi All! My 7-month little girl (4-months corrected) has been tune-fed since birth. In the past she has taken up to 50% of her feeds by bottle but after bouts of reflux and Head/chest colds she now rejects taking the bottle/boob or any flow of liquid (breastmilk/neosure formula) by mouth. For months I’ve been to doctors and therapists but none have established ongoing therapy yet. So, I’m gettin... More

  • Anonymous
    Jan 09

    In addition ^ Try dr Browns bottles with new born flow . Worked wonders while my baby waited for therapy

  • tony touch
    Jan 30

    Protecting her airway #1 concern. Getting rid of a g-tube is a process. Focus on good nutrition and mouth therapy ( massage mouth area) each meal time. We started with puffs and make it a playtime. Our feeding therapist got us thickener. We mix will low sugar juices and take small amounts

Anonymous posted in Developmental Disorders Dec 28

Therapy and ?beyond

My 3.5 year old daughter is autistic. We have been getting her ABA therapy ~20-30 hours a week in home for the last year. The ABA providers are very reputable and the therapists seem very invested in her. However, she is still essentially non verbal. She does mand for things but inconsistently. She has no negative behaviors, thankfully but even basic communication is very hard. We have evaluate... More

  • Anonymous
    Jan 11

    ABA is not the gold standard. It simply teaches kids who can’t do certain things how to fake it. If eye contact is difficult for your daughter ABA will make it manageable, but it’s never going to be something that she will want to do. Teaching the script of, “I am fine, how are you?” Doesn’t actually make her interested in the answer. It’s a script and it serves no purpose. I suggest you try ... More

  • Venisa
    Jan 24

    We changed my daughter's diet, give heavy metal detox baths, acupuncture and massage therapy. In the year since diagnosis, she is at her age range of 3.6yo for talking and 4-5yo for cognitive function. I also work with her constantly. We don't have ABA but we have speech twice a week, OT 2-3x a month, and music therapy every week. Look for Autism webinars as those are insightful as well.

Two year old not talking

My two year old son has been in ST and OT since he was about 15-16 months old. He’ll say (and sign) “more”, and “mama” (I don’t feel he associates it with me, he just says it) and “du” for done. He points to what he wants. He’ll even get something out of the pantry if he wants it and brings it to me. He attempts to wave hi and bye. Makes great eye contact. Does good in social situations. Doesn’... More

  • Ashley
    Dec 28

    My son is three and he’s talking more now but not where he should be. I contacted s.a.m.s they are in reading. They deal with speech and much more. They also get you in contact with bciu and will diagnose your child. Like if he has adhd or autism. Then they will come to your house and give him the help he needs. My son dose the same thing and he is in speech and occupational therapy and it’s he... More

  • Jenn
    Dec 28

    Thank you all so much for your input. I know I’m doing all I can with him, just anxious for answers. Thank you again!

Anonymous posted in Allergies & Asthma Dec 27

Experience with Budesonide?

My 2 year old has just started Budesonide via a nebulizer. Backstory (long sorry): last year in November he was hospitalized with just a really bad cold. He ended up being intubated for about 3 weeks. It was terrible. He was fine over the summer but I noticed in Late September he had a pretty consistently runny nose and light cough. He didn’t seem to have a cold though. Went to an asthma... More

  • Rachel
    Dec 27

    I totally and utterly feel your pain. And for that, I am so sorry that you have to go through this. I have experienced this with both of my boys - ages 10 and 3. My eldest was the worst of the experiences. Primarily, due to the fact that I was a new mother, caring for a baby (babies) diagnosed with RSV, and I had absolutely no clue what I was in for - nor could I recognize it; which was half... More

  • Jenn
    Dec 27

    We went through this with our daughter starting at age 1. She would have bad colds and they would all result in wheezing episodes. After a scary ER visit her doctor finally started her on a daily regimen of arbuterol and budesonide along with daily doses of Children’s Zyrtec. They diagnosed her with reactive airways. We had to do this regimen for almost 2 years. Then they had us cut down to jus... More

Anonymous posted in Developmental Disorders Dec 24

Does every child learn different

Hello I’m a first-time mom to a two-year-old little boy. My question is this does every child two years old have a certain timeframe to learn certain things. The reason behind this is because yesterday I came home from a hard days work for his grandparents to Yell at me and say that my son is slow.My son is currently in daycare and he is one of their best children there. He knows how to count s... More

  • Birdie
    Dec 26

    Tell them that if they feel he should be in a better daycare, if they fully pay for it then you’ll switch. They haven’t had a child in daycare in a while so I’m guessing they don’t know how expensive a “state of the art” daycare costs. Every child develops in they’re own time. As long as he understands & responds accordingly he’ll talk more when he’s ready. I’ve run into those parents who’... More

  • Elissa
    Dec 26

    Your son sounds fine to me! As everyone else is saying, sometimes bilingual/trilingual children are a little slower to actually speak. But most understand the languages even if they aren’t speaking. And also, a lot of time boys are just slower to speak. Ask your in laws if they understand three languages like he does lol

Anonymous posted in Marriage & Partnership Dec 23

My son needs a male figure—- his dad sucks!!!

So my son is 3.5 and he has some disabilities causing him to be hyper, not listen, is aggressive at times, and has sensitivity issues too. Basically he’s not actually on the Autistic spectrum but he’s right there. So his dad is away at work M-F and when he is here on weekends he also works most of the day (mostly so he doesn’t have to DEAL). We have a 1 year old daughter too and we haven’t be... More

  • Anonymous
    Dec 26

    I can relate my two oldest both have special needs but have never been diagnosed on the spectrum. My 10 year old frustrates my husband he can’t handle him. He’s non verbal, behavior problems and other things. We had a third kid who is more on the right schedule with everything. My husband always talks about how he’s going to be when she’s older. When I ask why he’s not that way with the boys hi... More

  • Anonymous
    Dec 27

    OmG you just explained my LIFE to a tee! I kind of understand that it’s hard and maybe they are used to or were expecting something different with their kids but at the same time they are your f-ing kids. I get so mad bc our boy truly has trouble with control his behavior and it’s NOT HIS FAULT! Yes he can do it at times but that doesn’t mean he’s going to do it daily. Some days are way worse s... More

Shaking head “no”

My 9m old shakes her head “no” anytime you ask her any type of question. At first I thought it was her way of showing excitement but now I’ve noticed she does it pretty much the entire time she eats in her high chair. Has anyone else experienced this? Should I be worried if there is something neurologically wrong?

Anonymous posted in Behavior Dec 19

Hitting and Saying No!!

Help!! My 3 year old says No and attempts to hit her teachers and also the table when they try to redirect her? How can I get her to stop before her behavior gets worse? She's developmentally and speech delay so I'm not sure if she knows the concept of time out or taking things away. It's beginning to feel frustrating.

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