Special Needs Children

Every child is unique and exceptional in their own way — and some need exceptional care and nurturing to thrive.

Ask questions and share support with parents raising children who have special needs, including autism, developmental delays, physical limitations and more.

Childcare struggles

I have a new job and am going to be working outside the home now which brings the struggle of finding daycare. My stepson is 5, autistic and not potty trained. I am having issues finding a childcare facility that can take him because he is in diapers at 5. What alternatives or solutions has anyone else found for this issue? We have tried potty training and it stresses him out because he doesn&#... More

  • Lisa

    See if you can get him ABA, they help a lot and most of them have their own centers, where you bring you child as to day care- they work full time. They use medical insurance to cover the expenses. This is the best for autistic child

  • Scarlett

    What's ABA?

Potty training

My son likes to flush the toilet and that is it. He only sat on the toilet once. He didn’t pull his pants down. He just sat and went in the diaper. I was told I should put regular underwear on and he will get the idea. I should also give him a treat when he does use the bathroom. It’s been really hard more so because he is autistic. Any tips?

  • Anonymous
    Jun 12

    He’s not going to magically know how to pull his pants down and go. He’s gone in a diaper his whole life. I recommend a weekend at home (like literally not leaving) in underwear where you have him sit on the toilet every 30 min and when he goes lots of praise (or one m&m) and talking about how he peed on the pot

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Jun 13

    When I train I do nothing or just underwear, and I help them with running over to the potty and show them how to pull it down, and I usually spend 3-7 days at home all day so we can catch every opportunity and have lots of repetition.

Anonymous posted in Allergies & Asthma Jun 05

Birthday cake

My soon-to-be 5 yr old is allergic to colors on the icing cream. His Birthday is just round the corner. I would like him to choose his cake but I want to make sure I give him options that would suit his health. Looking for recommendations for alternate Birthday cakes. TIA.

  • Anonymous
    Jun 06

    That's a great idea. Do you know any Bakery that does it?

  • Lynn
    Jun 06

    I’m sure you can make a special request

Autism sleeping tricks

My stepson is about to be 5 and is autistic. Usually he sleeps good but lately he has been getting up super early and is wide awake. He was up before daylight today and we got woken up by him running around the house. I've tried laying him back down but he doesn't ever go back to sleep. He already gets melatonin at night. What tricks have you guys found that help autistic kids sleep bet... More

  • Angie
    May 26

    Definitely weighted blanket and melatonin. No tv an hour before bed. Potty before bed. He def needs a certain bedtime routine with books and quiet talk and touch if he will allow think soothing....Sound machine or soothing noise that he likes.....

  • Angie
    May 26

    Wide awake by 7 is great! Thats 10 solid hours for a five year old with autism. Many parents would love that much sleep for their kid even if typical. 👍

Anonymous posted in Allergies & Asthma May 14

Tummy rash, food related?

Started my baby on foods (BLW) about a month ago at just over 6 months. Since we started, he’s had a rash on his stomach that comes and goes, can’t really find a pattern or specific food that is the cause. He doesn’t seem to itch or be bothered and the pediatrician said it was just sensitive skin. I put aquaphor on it daily. I’m worried this is just the beginning of some sort of allergy (like I... More

  • Sofy
    May 15

    When my son had something like that it was related to weather, my first thought was food to be the cause but I realized it got worse when we were outside on a very hot (Texas summer) day. I used aveeno bath and cream and it was gone the next morning

  • CheerioMama
    May 23

    Looks a lot like Eczema. Aquafore consistently should get rid of it

options for why my son has a runny and itchy nose

Hi all, my son is going to turn 1 in a week and for the past 2 months he has had a runny and itchy nose. We just moved, and i guess thats the only new thing in his life. We have a cat at home but we have her since he was born. Not a cold and not every day Any thoughts? Thanks

Peanut Butter

My daughter is 18 months old. When can I start giving her peanut and jelly sandwiches?

  • Kieli
    May 03

    As long as she didn’t have any kind of reaction to it, go ahead and try it out!

  • Anonymous
    May 03

    I did it from a year on. Why are you worried?

Anonymous posted in Allergies & Asthma May 02

Toddler with eczema. Any tips?

Can he play in the grass or water and live a normal life? Im worried since he already have had recurrent staph infections including mrsa. Anybody else with eczema kids and whag do you do in summer to prevemt flare ups? Thnk you in advance!

V posted in Big Kids Apr 26

7yo STILL drinks formula milk??

Hi all, I’m a SDC (special day class) teacher and i have a 2nd grader in my class who brought a baby bottle to school... when I was putting some paperwork in his backpack for his parents to sign I found the bottle. However, when I picked it up and looked at it you can instantly tell that it was formula milk. ** He is the only child in the family** Is this something I should discuss with pa... More

  • Laura
    Apr 26

    What do you mean you can instantly tell? Was it a bottle with the formula label on it? Is there a school nurse you could talk to?

  • Alexis
    Apr 27

    I think I'd be more concerned about the fact that it was in a bottle than whether or not it was formula. If it was toddler formula, theres not necessarily anything wrong with that since it does have good nutritional value (unless that's the only thing the child was getting...). But a 7 yo still using a bottle is not developmentally appropriate and can cause dental issues.

So I’m wondering what y’all think these bumps are.

My daughter has drool rash and I might have gone a bit overboard with the Aquaphor. I’m thinking they are just clogged pores.

  • Sara
    Apr 21

    It doesn’t look too bad in the pic! I would just wash with soap and water then leave exposed to air and see if it improves.

Does anyone have special needs kids

  • Heather
    Apr 05

    I do! My amazing 12 year old son, Gavin, was born with developmental delays (fine & gross motor)/speech delays. He has intellectual disabilities, ADHD, a mild form of autism and an anxiety disorder. His developmental age averages to the equivalent of a 6 yr old, although some skills like self care and self control are more like that of age 2 or 3. It is believed that his disabilities we... More

  • Kaitlyn
    Apr 13

    Yes! But she’s super small at the moment (9 wks 5 adjusted). Baby G has two rare conditions called Fibular Hemimelia and Congenital Short Femur. Basically her bones never developed properly so her thigh is 2 cm short and part of her shinbone is too short to connect to her ankle. We’re thinking if not corrected it’ll be an 8 inch different when she hits puberty. Right now she’s so small to wal... More

Brianna posted in Behavior Mar 25

Waking up angry...

Looking for some helpful tips on how I can help my son sleep better. He is two years old and has always woke up every 45-60 minutes during the night. Most of the time he wakes up screaming, punching, crying, and kicking. I have tried black out curtains, sound machines, night lights, humidifiers, dehumidifiers, music, changing the temperature, heavy blankets, no blankets, no nap during the day, ... More

  • Alena
    Mar 28

    Agree with Andrea, I would rule out seizures first. My ASD kid sleeps 9-10 hours without a single peep, he is 7 now, he slept fairly well when he was 9yo too. Also try melatonin and letting him sleep with you

  • Tiffany
    Apr 15

    I know the feeling. This is 10 years of the same with my daughter and we’ve tried everything . Finally getting a sleep study done. GET ONE DONE. Rule out everything. Anxiety is big with kids on the spectrum as well. My child when she was younger had a lot of anxiety. Sounds too. I have a very quiet room.

Anonymous posted in Developmental Disorders Mar 24

ADHD/ADD or just paranoia

So I have a 3 year old who is turning 4 next month. She's been in daycare since she was 2. Her dad has ADHD and I have ADD. I have noticed that when we sit down to do "homework", she still doesn't seem to know her letters struggles to remember the last letter she said. Should I get her checked.

  • Morgan
    Mar 26

    Thats good that u made an appointment with the pediatrician

  • Anonymous
    Mar 26

    Thank you Morgan

Speech and Developmental Delay at 20 months

Hi! My son was just diagnosed with a speech and developmental delay. He is 20 months and only says a few words. He also has a little bit of a developmental delay because he can’t feed himself with a spoon yet, drink from a straw, or drink from an open cup. Does anyone have any experience with this type of delay? How long does it take to catch up? Did they seem to be at the same level as the oth... More

  • Joanna
    Mar 24

    Pediatricians should be giving screenings like the Denver or Ages and Stages Questionnaire. And that's where it seems as simple as, does he have 6 words. When you meet with the speech therapist, physical therapist and/or occupational therapist, they will give an exam and recommend treatment. They look for a lot more than 6 words. Tongue movement, sound formation, pointing, nonverbal communi... More

  • Karla
    Mar 28

    Every child develops differently. You might see a catch up by age 3, if you don’t see any improvements talk to his doctor about getting help. My son had a language and speech delay, and is doing better.

Elissa posted in Big Kids Mar 20

How to help autistic gender exploring tween?

So 8 months ago my 10 year old high functioning Aspergers kid, female by birth, confessed to me that they hate being a girl, dread puberty and want medical intervention to prevent it, and identify as neither male nor female. I am having a hard time understanding them, respecting their non binary wish to be called they and child. They cut their hair boy short, dress like a boy and have expressed... More

  • Maxine
    Apr 14

    I’d be asking where this came from. It’s a trajectory that’s hard to come back from. I have a friend that said he thought he could be gay when he was a kid because of the way another man treated him. He said that he thought maybe the guy saw something “gay” in him that made him doubt his sexuality. I believe the first step is to try and find out if this is the result of something specific. Al... More

Potential ADHD in 3.8 yr old girl

So I’m worried after my preschooler’s parent teacher conference. They said she resists fine motor and greatly struggles with writing her name. They said she often needs redirection in class, has physical boundary issues with met classmates, putting a foot on a kid gently in circle time and tuning out completely when not interested. Then in roof play she follows along initially with play but whe... More

4 year old autistic son and the potty!

I have a 4 year old autistic son and we've tried potty training before and he just played in the toilet! So we had to shut it down and lock all bathrooms for a while! Now I'm trying to start again and he has zero interest in sitting on the potty or his training toilet. He just gets up and runs away. He is also non-verbal so it's even more difficult with him! Anyone with suggestions?... More

  • Khmommiex3
    Mar 16

    Thank you all for the great suggestions! I’m going to try them all. Especially like the one about turning them around and letting them draw or color! Great ideas, going to start today! These are much appreciated!

  • Alena
    Mar 28

    My kid’s favorite thing is his iPad. So we just moved into the bathroom for a while and said he could have only when he was sitting on the toilet, and if he had the job done he could take iPad outside. It was a tremendous help.

Peanut butter

I have not introduced peanut butter to my 14 month old because he’s allergic to eggs and dairy and has really bad dry skin/eczema and I’ve been so worried about trying it. I on the other hand feel horrible because his pediatrician keeps telling me at every appointment to do it. Has anyone else introduced it late and no allergy or am I setting him up for a peanut allergy? Side note, he is breast... More

  • Lara
    Mar 12

    I did the same thing as Julie when my son was 9mos. It definitely put my mind at ease to know I was right there at the pediatrician’s office in case he had a reaction.

  • April
    Mar 14

    I have a baby who started food allergies at 5 months from formula in his rice cereal, I hear your concern. He is anaphylactic to tree nuts, eggs, dairy and has over 5 other sensitives too other food. You can try a spot test where you put the peanut butter on the baby’s skin and cover it and if he gets bumps or angry skin you your know he could have problems. My baby 23 months now if he touches ... More

Anonymous posted in Child's Health Mar 07

ADHD pre-teen

Well, this is my first post to Winnie. Not sure what to expect but here it goes. I have a 12-yr old daughter who will be entering 7th grade next year. I am utterly terrified. She is bright, funny, sassy and well...she’s all kinds of wonderful but unfortunately she has lots of challenges too. She is severely ADHD and hyperactive beyond belief. This has impacted her grades for years and she rarel... More

  • Diane
    Mar 08

    Trust your gut. From what you posted, I agree that your daughter would benefit from medication and possibly counseling. I don't know about medications specifically and I am not a medical professional but she is old enough to communicate how the meds are affecting her so that should help in finding the correct dosage and type. Find a doctor that has expertise in this field and get her help a... More

  • Keri
    Apr 10

    I kinda giggled at this post because your not alone! My daughter is the same way in some aspects and my mother would say “look in the mirror”!! 😓😓 my daughter has grown up with adults most of her life and only kid time is at school. The kids don’t get her personality and her sense of humor. She is to smart for her own good and talks to others as she was an adult. It’s so frustrating sometimes b... More

Cows milk allergy and sleeplessness?

I found a study that was done in the UK that linked a cows milk allergy to unexplained sleeplessness in babies. I am trying it with my 17 month old to see if it helps because she currently wakes up anywhere from 5-13 times a night. Has anyone had success with this? Any tips on other foods or drinks to use for substitute or to stay away from? Thank you!

  • Kelly
    Feb 25

    Agree with the above. Doctors can test for food allergies. I wouldn’t eliminate milk w/o some additional testing or a consult with the pediatrician. That is a lot of wake ups for a child that age. Has she always had this issue or is it new? Has anything changed in her sleep environment (new room/new bed/ or has she experienced a significant life change (sibling/school/etc), that could be the ro... More

  • Rhonna
    May 27

    my daughter has a milk allergy! we give her ripple pea milk or oat milk. almond milk didn’t have enough nutrients/calories in my opinion for her. we noticed that she seemed sick (runny nose, cough, etc) and it had to do with her allergy. i would definitely get her tested just to be sure!

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