Toddlers

Whether your child is just starting to walk or deep into the terrible twos, parents of toddlers can all agree that parenting just got a lot more interesting — and fun.

Discuss and share advice on all things toddler like potty training, language development, and dealing with all kinds of new behaviors.

Encouraging solo play

Has anyone had an success with encouraging solo play in your toddler(s)? My 15 m/o is very loving, cuddly, comforted my closeness and reassurance, which is adorable most of the time, but challenging as I work from home and sometimes need two hands for things. What have you liked for helping your little ones entertain themselves?

  • Jenn
    Yesterday

    My LO is 13 months and I try to have her play by herself while I'm in the same room. She likes to wander around our first floor, so I let her do that when I'm home too. I can't get work done by any means though because as soon as my computer comes out, she is all over me to play with it haha. I'd suggest doing the room or giving him/her toys to play with while you are in the roo... More

  • Anonymous
    Yesterday

    At 15 months kids aren’t able to play alone for very long. You can start with small stretches and give her practice

Anonymous posted in Child Care Yesterday

Potty training and day care

I’ve been thinking about starting potty training and I know day cares always support and try to help! But I’m worried that if I take a 3/4 day weekend to really try and nail it in, will it all go down hill when he gets to daycare? They have 10 other kids to worry about, not just my sons pee schedule. What was your experience? They have those little (but real) potties in his classroom, should I... More

  • Anonymous
    Yesterday

    Talk to them about their procedures. How often do they take him? Will they be on board with not using pull ups? Do they reward? Try and train him with those things in mind, if they will only take him once an hour, then try to train him to go once an hour at home. And I highly recommend after the 1st day or 2 to take him on short trips and get him used to regular toilets. Or u can probably get t... More

  • Caroline
    Yesterday

    Following. I have the same question! My plan is to follow oh crap and potty train her over a long weekend but also not sure about going back to daycare

Belly sleepers

Hi all! So my 8 month old LO is constantly flipping onto his belly while in the crib. He sleeps with his arm and legs tucked under him. We have learned to just let him be as that is how he wants to sleep, but the constant wetness in the morning is killing me. What we think is happening is he fills his diaper but the weight of his body is squishing the pee and leaking out the top of his diaper.... More

Anonymous posted in Behavior Yesterday

My 2yo Throws herself back

Whenever my daughter gets upset she throws herself back. I’ve told her not to do it, and explained to her she will get hurt; but as soon as she gets upset, she does it. She’s hurt herself in MANY occasions and will not stop. I have tried ignoring her, but honestly she’ll do it anywhere like on a concrete floor, or the edge of the couch or bed, so most of the time I find myself catching her befo... More

Anonymous posted in Potty Training Monday

Potty training a toddler

How long did it take for you to potty train your toddler during day time? What method did you use?

  • Sanna
    Yesterday

    Im still in the process but what i do is leaving my LO diaper free at home and use pull ups outside (she refuses any unfamiliar bathrooms). Before you start I suggest reading oh crap potty training.. good luck

  • Laura
    Yesterday

    Emily Oster's new book Cribsheet has a great chart showing the average amount of time it takes to potty train, depending on when you start. At earlier ages, potty training takes longer to stick. But you don't want to wait too long to start. We started at 28 months and 2 months in she's pretty much trained during the day (with lots of reminders, and we're still working on getting... More

Childcare struggles

I have a new job and am going to be working outside the home now which brings the struggle of finding daycare. My stepson is 5, autistic and not potty trained. I am having issues finding a childcare facility that can take him because he is in diapers at 5. What alternatives or solutions has anyone else found for this issue? We have tried potty training and it stresses him out because he doesn&#... More

  • Scarlett
    Monday

    He is starting this fall. We have had him evaluated and he is already in OT and Speech therapy

  • Julie
    Yesterday

    The other possibility could be a nanny for the summer, someone he could bond with who can devote the time to help him.

Stacie posted in Behavior Sunday

Toddler ripping books

Anyone have any advice for toddler ripping books? My daughter is 21 months and has a favorite paper book but lately she’s been ripping it! She loves to read it but then she’ll randomly rip it. We’ve told her the book has to go to time out and will put it away but now she’ll rip it and say “ut oh book time out.” 🙈 So clearly that isn’t working. Any advice?

  • Liza M.
    Monday

    My daughter is 19 mos and went through this, and sometimes still does. We dealt with it by taking the book away and having her sit on her bed for a minute (she would burst into tears immediately and not stay on the bed-it was more of a symbolic gesture rather than a punishment). Now she responds to prompts to things like "what happens when we rip books?" by saying "crib" or ... More

  • Amy
    Monday

    Have you thought maybe coloring books? There are some cheap ones at dollar stores that I've picked up for my son. I essentially use that as a means to teach him not to rip books meanwhile preserving the other books for story time or when he's older. He still gets the chance to learn how to touch and turn pages. Otherwise I do have several board books (several from Chickfila lol) and clo... More

Stacie posted in Behavior Sunday

Toddler screaming

Any advice on random screaming!? My 21 month old has also been randomly screaming. She’s not screaming at anyone but will just randomly scream in the house or sometimes will do it to get our attention if we don’t immediately answer her 🙈

  • Julie
    Sunday

    I’m so interested to see the answers. My daughter does this and then she says, “mommy?” As in, she wants me to scream back. Lolol. I do it sometimes if it’s not totally inappropriate (like when it’s 5am or when we are eating dinner). After I make the noise back she then asks my husband to do it too. Im guessing this isn’t the “right” way to handle it. I’m glad we don’t have neighbors who live c... More

  • Holly Garnett-Pedreira
    Monday

    @Julie you arent wrong for what you're doing.. she is making a game out of it as a way to have a special bond with you and your husband. My advice is try asking her why she is making that noise? Make sure you tell her that noise is called screaming. If you dont want her to do it all try then maybe try making up a story.. Tell her oh no... look outside you scared the birds! The animals have ... More

Sinai posted in Sleep Sunday

sleep transitioning

My son is 14 months going on 15 now and i want to try and get him to sleep in his own bed. We co-slept since he was a newborn. With my emergency c-section and then my son was EBF so it stuck. Any tips and tricks to get him to sleep on his own. He does have a set schedule and we stick to it.

  • Mary
    Monday

    Be patient through the process. We wait till our little one is getting pretty sleepy and then we lay her down. She wiggles a bit, may cry, but she then goes to sleep. The process is hard especially with your Birth story. Again. Give yourself and your son grace and time. It will come!

Potty training woes

I was pretty sure my son was giving me the signal that he was ready to be potty trained, but I can’t seem to get him on the potty in time after he goes in the morning. Plus, he won’t poop in the thing at all. He’s 23 month btw.

Anonymous posted in Potty Training Saturday

How to deal with potty in the car...in motion.

When you potty trained your kid and you had to travel (say short trips to the mall etc 45 min-1 hr), what did you do when the child said they want to pee and the car is still in motion and the child is not in diapers because you don’t want it to regress? I will be buying a travel potty but the first trip after potty training will be my dread. I’ll also make him go potty before the trip. Any oth... More

  • H
    Monday

    Other than trying to go beforehand, we just hoped he was clear of any potty to prevent that situation, but that being said, it’s inevitable to get the “I have to go potty!” while driving and you just hope to get to a bathroom before an accident happens. We would talk about how we’ll get there soon and to try to hold it to not have an accident, and kept praising him for holding it all the while ... More

  • Anonymous
    Monday

    Thank you for your replies 😊

Anonymous posted in Milestones & Development Saturday

Just beind two or something else?

My 2.5 year old has been acting differently for about a month. He is constantly jumping/fidgety. He stands to eat if we're in a restaurant. He doesn't really stop moving unless he is watching TV, even then he moves positions a lot. He will even stand. At bed time he tosses and turn or kicks the wall for 30mins before he falls asleep. Lastly he is behind in speech but is pretty much cons... More

  • Ivy
    Yesterday

    Were there other quirks before this?

Katie posted in Behavior Saturday

Time Out Help

We recently started using timeout with our LO who is 19 months old. It’s not working, he thinks it’s fun. HELP!

  • Cathy
    Saturday

    Keep putting him back in the spot. Over and over and over again. “Sit here,” “Not being nice,” “gentle hands,” whatever language you use keep it simple and direct. Hang in there.

  • Mrs. HHH
    Yesterday

    I took a behavioral class for parents and the instructor kept saying TOs don’t work on kids under 2. You should try taking away privileges bc they don’t understand the concept of a TO

When to start potty training?

Our LO is 13 months and has turned into what I can only describe as a tiny demon lately when we change her diaper. She used to sit quietly and not mind anything at all. As she got bigger we *might* need to sing a song or hand her a toy, but generally she never even attempt to roll over. FF to now? She is literally trying to climb us to avoid putting on the fresh diaper. She hasn’t had any ... More

  • Jennifer
    Sunday

    Thanks everyone! I’ll be talking to her daycare soon, too, since the toddler rooms have the first potty (there are two levels of toddler for potty trained vs not). She can’t walk on her own yet, so I don’t think they can move her to the first room. She definitely seems ready—if you catch her grunting or squatting and ask if she is making a poopoo she will nod yes or no (and is correct like 9... More

  • Julie
    Sunday

    Sorry, just realized I thought you said you had a son, not a daughter!! Haha. Anyway, if she shows she’s ready then give it a shot!!! My daughter is in daycare as well. She’s 21 months and her room has two toddler toilets. She is really good at staying dry at school even though they make her wear a diaper. She always tells her teachers she has to go. Ask your centers teachers if there’s a... More

Brushing teeth

We struggle to brush my 2 year olds teeth. He doesn’t want to let us brush and can’t do it yet on his own. Any suggestions for getting a good brushing ?

  • Anonymous
    Friday

    I agree with the light up tooth brushes! Those have helped as well! I think the brand is firefly

  • Cathy
    Saturday

    We brush in the tub. We have a tubby every night. At the end he’s already laying down so I brush them for him. He doesn’t get to play until his teeth have been brushed.

Traveling potty chair!?

Hi everyone, so my daughter is 21 months and is fully potty trained while at home during awake hours. When she’s at school she’s doing well but is required to wear a diaper so she has more accidents. My plan is to start now with trying to get her trained when we’re not at home or at school. She will almost always tell me she has to use the bathroom but the one time I took her to a public bathr... More

  • Ivana
    Friday

    The oxo travel potty 1,000%. My husband and I have it in our cars and pop it in the stroller when we go to the park or beach

  • Geena
    Saturday

    Julie i opened this app today for this same reason. Following!

How can I control my temper tantrums?

My 3 yo son is very hyper. The most hyper child I have ever known. Just yesterday alone he climbed and got biofreeze giving it to his sister, he wouldn't listen to ANYTHING I say. He does the opposite, he threw food on the floor, he spit in my face. There's more but I dont quite remember everything. He is just bad. But what is worse is that I lose my anger. I snap. And not just a little... More

  • Sam
    Friday

    My daughter is doing this as well. And it is frustrating but I just tell her when you are ready and calm down I’ll hold you and she throws a fit and things but I ignore her and eventually she stops. At this age they are testing you and they don’t like authority figures (they love you but you being an authority figure makes him upset) because they want control. The hyper thing maybe he needs to ... More

  • Mrs. HHH
    Friday

    I 💯 relate to you Klarissa!! I had anger issues big time toward my toddler too. After one particularly bad episode of me screaming and seeing his terrified face I decided no more! I told my doc everything and she gave me some medication to help ease my anxiety which was manifesting as anger. I was not interested in medication let me tell you but it was a last resort. It helps a lot because th... More

Potty training

My 29 month old girl is potty trained but doesn’t say, just uses actions and it works. What I want is for her to learn to climb potty using a tool and bring her pants down herself and possibly wipe herself. Become independent at least at home. I’m not sure if it’s all possible at this age?! I don’t want to mess up her progress

  • Erum
    Friday

    Mine had been going to potty for about two months now. I can avoid accident if I take her every hour and hour and a half depends really. I never used any training undies. I showed her “big girl” undies and she was psyched. I only problem because she’s not verbal which is same with your daughter, it’s hard to move on to the next steps. I pray our daughters become independent soon 😊

  • Anonymous
    Saturday

    My very very small almost-2-year-old can climb on the potty and sit by herself so that one is possible! I would be cautious about completely giving up the reins on wiping until 5ish. Kids have a tendency to not wipe so well by themselves. Certainly teaching her how to do it is great but offering help is important, especially when there's poop involved.

Elvie posted in Behavior Thursday

Tips on getting your toddler to listen?

My son barely listens to me or his dad. When we tell him something it’s like he is ignoring us on purpose. When I tell him something he wants his dad. I’m so frustrated.

  • Sanna
    Thursday

    I don’t have anything to help just want to let you know that you’re not alone. My daughter does the same thing she’s 30 months old and doesn’t listen to anyone or follow instructions. She’s actually worse in public than home. It’s very upsetting but I hope she will grow and be better

  • Elena
    Friday

    Same here I really wish I could give you advice but my 2yd is the same way and so far nothing worked no praise no time out nothing he just get worse at time out like he dont understand the concept yet

Looking for a good game app for toddlers

Sometimes when I need to do something I give my 3yo YouTube kids videos on my phone or iPad. I’d like to get him into something more interactive like a game app. Any recommendations for something fun and also semi-educational?

  • Veronique
    Friday

    My kid loves Toca Boca and feeding the monsters!

  • June
    Yesterday

    We love toca boca apps too :) there is a turtle one that is cute fun or the hairstyling one is fun for that age too. Checkout Endless Alphabet too :) good educational and fun We did YouTube kids, just be suggestion, just be with him when watching. My girls watched something extremely disturbing that didn't get filtered out while watching at age 3 and one of them had to do therapy for y... More

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