Preschoolers

The years before kindergarten your preschooler will grow leaps and bounds, mentally, emotionally and physically.

Parents share resources and advice about raising 3 to 5 year olds, including potty training, early education, behavioral struggles and more.

Potty training

Look for some tips on potty training my daughter who’s almost two. She tells you she did pee pee but hasn’t gotten it down for the potty yet

  • Lisa
    Yesterday

    Yep, I agree, pay attention to the queues she is giving you. If you really watch her I bet you notice a pee pee dance of sorts she does when she is peeing, then the next time you see her start to pee wisk her off to the potty, or at least every 2 hours set an alarm

  • Giovanna
    Yesterday

    Sit her on the potty and turn on the water bath or sink every time before a shower or bath. The 1st time I tried it she peed on the potty nd has been doing it every time before taking a bath nd shower she is 15 months so I think that's a good start

Cara posted in Adoption Friday

my 4 year old niece

So i am currently fostering my 4 year old neice (actually shes my boyfriends sisters little girl) i am having such a hard time with it. I love her so much but i also have a bio son and i feel how the connection is different. Her mom has severe paranoid schizophrenia and substance abuse problems cause her to loose this beautiful girl. She has been living with us for 8 months and with out her mom... More

  • Cara
    Yesterday

    Thank you Amy!

  • Amy
    Yesterday

    You’re welcome cara. Good luck!

Anybody else starting school today?

My little man did! Who else?

How old should I start potty train my son? He's only 12 months 4 days old

  • Ilansnice
    Friday

    3 was magic for my son with pee. Truthfully he just mastered poop at 4. And I need to wake him up at night to pee bc he sleeps like the dead. Read Oh crap potty training.

  • Bro
    Yesterday

    My son been telling me right before he poops and then five mins later poops and he isn’t even potty trained yet should I start him with it now because he will try me right before or he will do and come and tell me

Anonymous posted in Behavior Thursday

Separation anxiety at day care for 3yo

My boy started the 3yo class at day care and has cried for the first three days. Any tips of helping him though this? He seemed to calm down 2-3 minutes after we leave and has a good day in class but he is anxious at home about it. “My new class is not my favorite”. The interesting part is that he knows 80% if the kids as they had graduated to that class over the last few months.

  • Cristin
    Friday

    I totally agree that it just takes time! Granted we only did part time so just two days a week, but it took just over a month until my little one was actually ok (still crazy shy & quiet) when I dropped her off. That first month was horrible leaving her crying every time and she’d cry in the car on the way there when she realized where we were going. It’s tough but it definitely gets better... More

  • Michelle
    Friday

    My son went through the same thing so the teacher suggested her meeting us at the car and him walking in with her. This way it's them leaving you and not you leaving them. It worked wonders and helped the transition.

Anonymous posted in Behavior Thursday

Daycare

My 2 year old daughter has been in daycare for over 6 months and still cries when i drop her off. She doesn't go to the teachers either but when I leave and I check the cameras she isn't crying anymore. I see her playing normally with other kids. Any suggestions on what I can do to make it easier on her and me when she is being dropped off? Thank you!

  • Anonymous
    Friday

    I feel like I do try to do that, she holds me leg if I put her down. I kneel down and tell her it's ok I'll be back soon, I love you and hug her. When I get up and try to leave she grabs my leg again. So it takes about 5 mins for me to leave .

  • Marie
    Friday

    I tried to make the drop-off as quick as possible. Telling her I love her, giving her a kiss and saying i’ll come back tonight. Being ferm not letting her see how guilty I felt. She get used to it after a couple of days. It got even better when she changes classroom, she run out of the car in excitement! made me think that she might found the other 2 yo boring... compare to preschooler...idk

Anonymous posted in Behavior Thursday

Emotions

My son is 4 and is really emotional and empathetic and I’m the opposite of emotional in the sense that I always hide them. I’m having so much trouble dealing with his exploration of emotions when he is upset and angry. I used to just send him to his room but I know that’s not ok now. Any tips on fixing my emotional problems and not shutting down his would be amazing! I don’t want him to develop... More

  • Brigitte
    Thursday

    We practice taking deep breaths (in through your nose, out through your mouth) together. After we’ve taken 5-10 deep breaths and has calmed down we say, “wow, taking those deep breaths really helped calm us down, didn’t it? Now that we’re calm we can talk about what’s bothering us....” And we do this every single time he cries or gets angry. We are constantly reinforcing that it’s ok to be upse... More

  • Anonymous
    Thursday

    This is great! Thanks!!

Anonymous posted in Education Wednesday

When is it ideal to start preschool

So my kid is 2yrs old and will turn 3 this Sept. Starting preschool this year would mean he goes to the 2's class. So I'm stuck between sending him this year or the next. (He goes to a homedaycare /play group ). With kids who are fall born, what's ideal to do? Do you get them in school as they are almost 3, or do you wait as strting now would mean 3 yrs of preschool before Kindergarten.

  • Jennifer
    Thursday

    I’m starting my October baby in a 2 year old class. He is ready to be around other kids in a more structured way. I think that the harder decision will be when he is kindergarten ready: will 3 years of preschool be too much? Will we change preschools because after 2 years he needs something different? find a transitional kindergarten class? Early kindergarten? I think it is really based on the... More

  • Lenora
    Thursday

    My son is two but his birthday is September 3rd. I enrolled him in preschool. They said they won't be able to do anything until he turns 3 but when he does he could start. But school doesn't start until the end of August here anyway. He loves being around kids and is very social. He was in daycare before. So if you think your child is ready for something like that go for it

Potty training 20 month old boy

I want to start potty training my son, he’s been sitting on the toilet and he’s not afraid but he doesn’t go in the toilet. I sometimes leave him in underwear but he will keep having accidents or he will tell me he is going too late. What else can I do? Any tips for those who have potty trained early? How can I stay consistent?

  • CTmomx2
    Friday

    Yeah, he’s pretty young. Maybe he’s just not ready yet?

  • Hippity
    Yesterday

    What worked perfect for my very stubborn boy was to leave him with anything as soon as he felt he needed to go he will let me know like he knew that there’s was nothing to hold his pee so that work really fat after a week he was off diapers

Potty training!

Hey there everyone! Ok so my 2.5 year old boy is basically potty trained at home. I feel stuck now. How do I transfer this to outside of the house? Should I just not put anymore diapers on him and deal with the accidents in the car seat and constant changing of pants or do I leave a diaper on only when we leave the house? Why does this part seem so overwhelming?

  • Kelly
    Thursday

    Potty pads (the puppy kind) work great at protecting a car seat. We also have a travel potty and always make him try to pee before we leave the house and before we leave where ever we are. We never used diapers once we started the process of potty training, outside of 1 at night in the early days. Good luck!

  • Lisa
    Thursday

    I got the adult pee pass they sell in the in continuance isle, cut them in half or 1/4 depending on what size I got and put them under his butt and a bit up the back of the seat, worked like a charm?

Dentist?

At what age should your child start going to the dentist ?

  • Amanda
    Wednesday

    We were told to start at a year and that’s what we did. They looked in his mouth and did a fluoride treatment. I wanted to take him young so he’d get used to it and it would be easier as he aged.

  • Brittany
    Thursday

    My son's dentist wouldn’t take him until he was 3 for some reason.

Potty training

My daughter is 3.5 years old & refuses to use the potty! She is definitely ready to be potty trained because she’s always telling me to change her right after she goes. She will literally just hold it until you put a diaper on her & then she’ll go. Any suggestions on how to get her to go in her potty?

  • Stephanie
    Tuesday

    I agree that it’s time to get rid of the diapers. It sounds like the diaper has definitely become a crutch for her, and she clearly is smart enough to know that it will be given to her if she just waits it out. It will be hard at first because she is SO used to having the diaper, but she will learn with your help! Good luck!

  • Kelly
    Thursday

    Ditch the diapers completely!

Preschool Meltdown

My 4.5 year old started preschool last Thursday he was excited at first but today he had a serious meltdown!! I could not get him to calm down as we walked to school. He has not shown any negative emotions towards School before, I don’t know if he was just cranky... I’m extremely heartbroken. He was upset that I took his iPad away right before we left... could it have been just a temper tantrum... More

  • Jennifer
    Yesterday

    My coworker had a friend that her 2yr old daughter goes to a preschool in Arcadia. This kid has been going to that school for awhile. During pickup the kid seems happy and fine. However recently at night the kid would scream and cry in the middle of night. The parent was concerned and asked the teacher but they denied anything happened. The parent had asked to see the school licensing but ... More

  • Solmary
    Yesterday

    Wow thank you for this insight Jennifer... I appreciate it so much.. I’m all over it! Will keep you guys posted..

Anonymous posted in Potty Training Monday

Potty training

My 3.5 year old is potty trained... sort of. He is 100% with poop. With pee- the only way he stays dry is if we remind/beg him to go to the bathroom every hour. If we don’t, he pees a little in his underwear and then runs to the bathroom. It’s not a huge puddle or anything but he’s still wet and wants to change his underwear. We have tried sticker charts, potty dances, and treats... what else ... More

  • Christina
    Tuesday

    And good for him to not want diapers.

  • Kelly
    Thursday

    If he’s got the process down at preschool you just need to match the similar level of prompting at home. Have you heard of a potty watch? One might be helpful for his age. Available on amazon and other retailers.

How young is too young?

My daughter is starting kinder this year, is it to soon to get her a cell phone? I got my first daughter a cell phone when she was in 2nd grade and she did good but my 4 yr old is so advanced that I think is okay but I still have worries. My husband says its okay but being in the criminal justice field my head is split. Please help? Thank you

  • Xamira
    Yesterday

    Wouldn’t do it, simply cause it limits interactions with others, with nature and situations of the daily life that mean a deep learning for their understanding of how the world works. Also it’s a very tiny age that passes so fast! At this age, if you give them attention, they will love it... that won’t happen in their teens and then you’ll dream about having them around you and being playful wi... More

  • Perry
    5h ago

    Why wait until 4? Baby selfie right out of the womb!

Anonymous posted in Toys & Gifts Aug 12

4+ toys

Any tips for 4+ toys

  • Andy
    Tuesday

    Agree with Jazzbird. Building toys including couch cushions are the favorite toys. He also loves his bike.

  • Sarah
    Tuesday

    Both son and daughter have loved blocks (both interlocking and wooden) and small figures (like Playmobil and Lego).

Sara posted in Education Aug 11

PSA: Avoid these toxic school supplies

I was pretty shocked to find some crayons in this list of school supplies that have toxic chemicals in them. “This box set, purchased at Dollar Tree, has traces of asbestos, the report found. The chemical can appear in the talc that is used in crayon manufacturing, according to the report.” https://www.cnn.com/2018/08/08/health/dangerous-chemicals-school-supplies-trnd/index.html

  • a
    Aug 11

    Wow! Shocking

Kristen posted in Sleep Aug 10

Poll about co-sleeping

What would you rather have... A. Your LO wake up in the middle of the night and come sleep in your bed. But they sleep until 8am B. Sleeps in their own bed through out night but wake up 6am.

  • Teresa
    Tuesday

    I like your post, we are kind of in a different boat. If she sleeps through the night, then she is up with the sun. If she wakes up in the middle of the night for milk and a diaper change, then she is up at 7:30-8. But she sleeps in her own crib and has been since the day she came home from the hospital. So your not the only one with an early bird, some mornings.

  • Darice
    Wednesday

    B, but A inevitably happens

Anonymous posted in Grade Schoolers Aug 10

Thoughts on backpacks

Do you buy or allow your child to pick out a new backpack/bookbag every school year? That’s what we did when I was growing up, but then I see how expensive the better brands like LL Bean and PB are, and I am hesitant! My son is going into Kindergarten next month😁

  • Rebosarl
    Tuesday

    Skip Hop also has really cute and good quality backpacks.

  • MaryAnn
    Wednesday

    I think kids build self confidence when choosing their own backpack it's actually important for them to be confident with fitting in and that helps build a bridge for learning! Take him to 5 below and let him pick it out a cheap lightweight bag. Time to break him in on carrying his own backpack don't get into the habit of carrying it for him. Great opportunity to learn independence!

Any ideas on how to start potty training with my daughter?

  • Ian
    Aug 11

    We’re in the middle of this now. We got a bunch of cheap toys from The Dollar Store as rewards. It took about 7 days for her to start getting it, but when she did she really started to excel. Hard work paid off. You totally got this!

  • Diana
    Monday

    I just put the potty in the living room, was constantly explaining to her what it’s for, sometimes suggesting to use it and let her run around without diapers (this is necessary), so she learns to feel her muscles. And just one day when she was 22 m.o. we were watching tv, she just got up and went to pee on her potty. And have been using it since then. And of course child needs to see parents u... More

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