Child Care

Advice and discussions about all types of child care including daycare, nannies, babysitters, au pairs, share care, and parenting co-ops.

Anonymous posted in Child Care Thursday

Is it better to use a day care center or in home daycare provider?

Any parents have done research on both and have experience with both and have recommendations? I am in the San Francisco Bay Area in California (South Bay) but welcome suggestions from parents in other areas too.

  • Tiana

    It really depends! So many factors to consider. Depends on the age of the child, the offering that the center has, the ratio, the additional extracurriculars, languages spoken. Etc Many home daycares are homely but with no field trips or additional activities. But many speak other languages besides English. Larger centers may have webcams and a more “professional” feel, but more turnover an... More

Tipping the Sitter

Hi All! I am scheduled to babysit for a family tonight, and one of the parents just let me know that they will pay my base rate plus a tip at the end of the night. I've had other families give a tip, but most of the families for whom I babysit don't offer tips in addition to my hourly rate. I'm curious to know if tipping the babysitter is a relatively common practice? I'm also c... More

  • Anonymous

    I babysat from the time I was in my early teens. My first "clients" paid me a flat $5/hr for their grandson, guaranteeing me at least $20 per job. They picked me up and took me home; I was welcome to eat whatever I wanted. I got nice birthday and Christmas gifts from them, too. Since I worked in a summer program and lived in a neighborhood full of kids, I was booked up every weekend. ... More

CP posted in Child Care Jan 09

What is too much?

My in-home daycare is on the more expensive side ($375/week, 8-5, no meals). They charge for all holidays, and take 4 weeks of personal time (unpaid) that amounts to over 6 weeks off a year. They use to give us 2 weeks a year worth of "sick time" where you don't have to pay if you aren't there. (This at least offset some of the incredibly high price) They just announced that t... More

  • Christine

    I am a Large Family Child Care Provider in the SF Bay Area. You get what you pay for and the fit is the most important after love and safety. We are opened almost all year except for legal holidays and a few days at Christmas. Serve 2 meals and 3 snacks. I have 5 employees + myself & a Papa. I like an above average ratio so eyes are on the kids in our large indoor and outdoor spaces. Minimu... More

  • Our Loving Village H.
    check_circleChild Care Provider Friday

    As a quality child care provider, I want chime in with the fact that parents need be mindful of their work-family-life balance as well as ours. Regardless of price, I am privileged that I am available to care for children most of their waking hours, day in and day out. I get it, parents have to work! I am a first time mom of boy-girl twins. 14 months old now. I have ran my home daycare since... More

Dan posted in Child Care Dec 23

Holiday gift for daycare?

Our infant has one main teacher and 4 other teachers that help out with him. There are also 2 support staff that see him and help out it seems often. How much should we gift in gift cards given it’s quite a lot of people.

  • Anonymous
    Dec 23

    I brought a dozen doughnuts and those gallon things of coffee from Dunkin and they were so grateful ☺️ it covered everyone and who doesn’t need coffee as a teacher lol

  • Jess
    Dec 23

    We got 2 dozen pastries for our daycare.... same situation. 2 main teachers but lots others that help or that have been her teacher this year. They liked it.

Daycare lunch ideas

Hey everyone! I’m looking for some new ideas on what to pack my 2 year old for lunch for daycare. He is somewhat of a picky eater so I feel like I’m always packing the same things every week and I’m sure he’s probably sick of the usual chicken nuggets, pasta, rice, pizza rolls, etc. Also, I can’t pack anything with peanuts/peanut butter or egg as some of his classmates are allergic. If anyon... More

  • Fidan
    Dec 12

    My little boy is a little picky, and he likes fruits and veggies better. So I put cucumbers, peppers, baby carrots, berries, grapes, and other fruits. Stick cheese, chocolate milk, graham cracker, little sandwiches with cream cheese or Nutella. Basically those are the main food for his lunch. He always has breakfast (egg, milk, bread and some veggies) so I am fine with the lunch.

  • Shannon
    Dec 13

    Thanks everyone! I do always include a side of fruit or veggies as a snack, I just struggle with the main dish lol But I’ll definitely be trying all of these helpful recommendations, thanks so much!

My son hates preschool! Help

He started preschool right after his third birthday(6wks ago). The first day he went right in and didn't even say bye to me. Then he started fighting me, not to go. I didn't think anything about it because he hates leaving the house to go anywhere and he always came home happy. He kept show a little more and more that he didn't want to go to school. This last week he started sobbing... More

  • Ariel
    Dec 12

    Vonda that is because you let him to have a good transition from home to school. That is very important for children

  • Mrs. welsh
    Dec 23

    Your child just turned three. Is there a reason you felt he should attend preschool now instead of waiting until Sept 2020? If you are a stay at home mom, and it is causing him distress you may want to reconsider waiting a few more months. The little guy might not be ready for it just yet. You will be surprised how much he will change in nine months. ❤️❤️

Kate posted in Child Care Dec 06

What is a good present for daycare teachers? I would like something practical that they can use. The teachers are all pretty young. (I’m thinking gift cards?) Any other ideas??

  • Christine
    Jan 02

    Up until 5 or so years ago as the owner of the Family Child Care I received Christmas bonuses from clients that were equal to 1 week of day care. I was the one who gave Christmas bonuses to the employees which I continue to do. Clients sometime brought in goodies for the staff to share. It was a different time, the economy was different. Now gift cards are well liked. Most of my staff received ... More

Anonymous posted in Child Care Dec 03

Daycare pickup while pregnant again?

I feel a little silly asking this, but how did you handle daycare pickup during your third trimester & after birth of your [second, third, etc] child? I’m 32 weeks along and have an 18 month old who goes to daycare. Due to our work schedules I do drop off and pickup, but it’s harder every day to literally PICK UP the toddler to put them in/out of the car seat, let alone maneuvering their ... More

Anonymous posted in Child Care Nov 22

Family caregivers that want to continue caregiving but we don’t want it.

Right now my toddler is at home with grandmas (yes we pay them). When she turns 18 months she will go to a montessori 3x a week. And each grandma will do the other 2x a week. This has been a long awaited change in our life because my husband and I dont particularly enjoy having our moms in our homes 5x a week and coming home after a long day at work to our moms... I know others may feel differ... More

  • Anonymous
    Dec 09

    just think of all the benefits your child will have being in the montessori, socializing with other kids, and starting their education early. that should be enough to overcome the guilt! plus it's whats best for the child vs. whats best for grandma. Grams will understand. and im sure the relief of coming home to an empty house will help get over some of that guilt in no time (lol)

Daycare anxiety

Good hello everyone! My LO is currently 10 weeks old and will be starting daycare in 2 weeks. While I think my husband and I picked one of the best daycares in the area, I am having a lot of anxiety about him going. He just feels so little and knowing he won’t get 1:1 attention is hard for me to deal with. Any reassuring thoughts or suggestions for getting through this separation and making ... More

Trin posted in Child Care Nov 16

I don’t trust my boyfriend’s family to help with my son when he’s born.

I am currently 18 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend told me that his family will watch and care for our son while I work. I always wanted to have my own money and take care of myself, but I’m ready to throw all of that away to protect my son. I do not trust his family. In short, they’ve shown me time and time again that they are incapable of taking care of themselves, I’ve been around while they... More

  • May DeLosh
    check_circleChild Care Provider Nov 24

    I run a daycare/preschool for more than 12 years. Researches have found that most accidents happen at home. It is so true! From the 12 years of my professional career, 2 children broke their arm bones and one boy's face got burned by a light bulb when he climbed onto a table and somehow was able to grab the hot light bulb and placed it on his face. Those accidents all happened at the... More

  • CheerioMama
    Dec 01

    Keep that baby as far away from those people as possible. Get rid of your man if you have to.

Anonymous posted in Child Care Nov 15

Getting underpaid by your employer: How to go about a money conversation.

I’m a Nanny for a wonderful family. I usually never keep track of my hours because I have a lot on my plate and my Nanny family is usually keeping track. I recently started tracking my hours as to better budget myself before my paycheck arrives. Today I received my paycheck to find several hours worth of pay missing, I went back to my written hours and recounted them and the math was correct, s... More

  • Ashley
    Nov 17

    There’s An app for tracking your hours look it up and you should definitely bring it up... u should get paid for all the hours and if they’re not paying you for your time then they r taking advantage of you best luck to you!

  • carrie isaacson
    Nov 17

    Or lo-fi also works. Print out a few paper timesheets, start keeping a binder at their house. Fill it in *as you arrive* and *when you leave*, clock in / clock out style. Take a pic at least on Fridays for your records. The suggestion above to send texts also works. Do you have a contract with your employer? Strongly recommended so everyone is on the same page.

Ideas for Christmas present to babysitter/daycare worker ??

  • Kieli
    Nov 15

    I just started babysitting a family friends son a few weeks back. Something I would personally like, would be a nail salon gift card. Doesn’t have to be much, $10-$15 would mean so much to me

  • Kate
    Nov 26

    Amazon or Visa Gift Cards are always safe bets.

C posted in Behavior Nov 07

Sudden attachment/abandonment issues?

My son has been in daycare since he was 9 months old. He never needed to adjust to his daycare. In fact, he likes it at daycare so much that when I pick him up there, he’s so into whatever toy he’s playing with that he doesn’t notice me. The staff there love that he’s the mellowest, easiest baby to look after. Now he’s 14 months old, and for the past 2-3 weeks he cries when I drop him off at ... More

  • Anonymous
    Nov 08

    Normal! Just keep your routine and everything the exact same, like all things baby, this will pass

  • Miss Maple
    Nov 13

    Your son may be giving you evidence of a cognitive leap - he loves you and does not like to see you go... and now he can remember that when you leave it is for a while, not just a moment. He will learn to manage those feelings AND the awareness that you will be gone for a while soon. As he grows he is likely to have other leaps of awareness that make separation difficult or (this can be worse f... More

2hr/day care?

Does there exist some sort of daycare that's about 2hrs per day? I'm at home with our almost 13 month old daughter and looking for something where she can get more consistent interaction with other kids (and adults too). I already have a mommy and me group, but that's only once/twice a week. Most of the daycare options are for half/full days and I'm not looking to drop her off for that much time.

  • MartCela
    Nov 09

    Hi, what city are you in?

  • Jenn
    Dec 05

    You mentioned your gym has childcare. Take two weeks and focus on that. Drop her off quickly (dragging it out will only make separation worse) and wait until they need you. The goal is to extend the amount of time she's there before you go get her. It'll be boring for you but once she gets comfortable, she'll get the social interaction you're wanting and you'll get to work o... More

Jess posted in Child Care Oct 30

Daycare drop off tips

Hey guys! My 19 month old son is just starting day care this week. He is having a pretty tough time at drop offs as he is now figuring out that I am going to leave. It's his first time in a child care setting so I know it's really tough for him to adjust. Any tips for a smooth transition? TIA!

  • Stacey
    Nov 01

    It's hard. Sometimes he is fine and just walks away and might say bye bye. Other times I get water works and nobody and nothing helps but they say he stops right after I'm gone. Our routine is I drop his diaper bag off, give him a kiss and hug and say bye bye and leave no matter his mood.

  • Jess
    Nov 04

    I agree with quick drop off. We also handed off our girl to the same teacher every time in the beginning and that helped as they bonded faster. If I leave as soon as hand off, she does fine but if I stay even 30 seconds, there are tears. My daughter is 18 months and started at 12 months. Took probably 6 weeks until no tears. Some days in those were better than others.

Anonymous posted in Child Care Oct 23

With the upcoming holidays & school breaks, how are parents handling childcare coverage?

I'd like to keep my daughter active (not just hanging around the house with a sitter) - there's got to be a better way than a Google search for what's available when school's out? Ideas? Thanks!

Marie posted in Child Care Oct 23

How much should you expect your nanny to play with your 6 mo old?

My nanny gives my son only about 30 min to 1 hr a day of real one on one play time, and 30 min to an hour of play but with a phone or tv on (very distracted). The rest of the time is solo play, feeding (with no interaction like singing, reading, or talking) typically with the tv on, changing diapers, going for a walk or he's sleeping. We don't ask her to do anything else throughout her... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 31

    The going rate for a nanny to sit all day is $30 an hour. If she has goid experience and education. $19 is really not much for that job. Honestly, if you want to get more outta her, you have to pay more. However there are people out there that will do more just because they love the work. When searching look for heart of the person. It doesn't hurt to have the tv going for infants/toddlers.... More

  • Mayra
    Nov 02

    30hr for a nanny wow 😯 I’m in the wrong profession. I am a license vocational nurse and I make less. $19 hr sounds like a lot for taking care of a child. There’s Christian schools that are cheaper and your child will get to interact with kids his or her age group.

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Oct 19, 2019

Daycare worries

So I’m currently pregnant with my rainbow baby (after losing two this will be my first). Since I have had a stillbirth I am extra nervous about this one. Both me and my fiancé will have to work ASAP but I know I will be terrified to leave the baby alone with even people I know. I have heard so many horror stories and it just freaks me out to think about losing another baby especially worrying t... More

  • Vicki
    Oct 21, 2019

    If you are having someone watching baby in your home, they can start coming over while you’re still home and you can watch them with the baby and get comfortable with them and letting them know how you prefer things done. You can have cameras set up as well so you can check in when you are feeling anxious. If it’s going to be care outside the home, do a lot of research, have several meetings... More

  • Momof2
    Oct 23

    I’m sorry you’ve had to go through all that!!!Not sure what state you live in but if you’re in California the disability laws are great. Even if you live somewhere that doesn’t allow for extended baby bonding time I would shop around for an OB/GYN who would be willing to work with you after your baby is born. I know a mom who had severe anxiety about leaving her baby for multiple reasons so her... More

Anonymous posted in Child Care Oct 18, 2019

Should I Stick With Daycare?

Hi Everyone. My daughter who is 7 months started daycare 1 week ago. Understandably, my husband and I are having a tough time adjusting. When we drop her off in the mornings, she seems fine but by the time we pick her up she looks like a deer in headlights-it's like she looks right through me! She is crawling and super alert/observant, so we are wondering if daycare at this age is too overs... More

  • Lizo
    Oct 17, 2019

    Go with your gut. I hated putting my daughter in daycare as an infant, but ultimately felt I needed to bear it in order to make ends meet. Our daughter was sick a lot her first year in daycare (so were we!) but the second year she didn’t catch every little thing.

  • Brittany
    Oct 18, 2019

    I just put my daughter in, she’s 18 months and last week was her first week alone, she is only part time 9AM-1PM 3 days a week but she’s extremely clingy. I don’t know how lenient/rules etc. of your daycare or your career but for the first 2 weeks the women who owns the daycare allowed me to bring her in for free, and also allowed me to stay, the entire time the first 2-3 days then each day aft... More

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