Child Care

Advice and discussions about all types of child care including daycare, nannies, babysitters, au pairs, share care, and parenting co-ops.

Anonymous posted in Child Care 3h ago

Family caregivers that want to continue caregiving but we don’t want it.

Right now my toddler is at home with grandmas (yes we pay them). When she turns 18 months she will go to a montessori 3x a week. And each grandma will do the other 2x a week. This has been a long awaited change in our life because my husband and I dont particularly enjoy having our moms in our homes 5x a week and coming home after a long day at work to our moms... I know others may feel differ... More

Daycare anxiety

Good hello everyone! My LO is currently 10 weeks old and will be starting daycare in 2 weeks. While I think my husband and I picked one of the best daycares in the area, I am having a lot of anxiety about him going. He just feels so little and knowing he won’t get 1:1 attention is hard for me to deal with. Any reassuring thoughts or suggestions for getting through this separation and making ... More

  • Ossanak M.
    check_circleChild Care Provider Yesterday

    Hi, according to my experience choosing a Home daycare works better than center for infants.

  • anonymous mom
    1h ago

    Hi Bianca, I hope you’re doing okay! Going back to work is sooo hard. I just wanted to let you know that I also put my daughter into an amazing daycare on her 12 week birthday. It was sooo hard!! But not because of be teachers. The teachers were amazing...what was hard was leaving her every day after growing her and then caring for her 24/7 for basically a year before that. In my experienc... More

I don’t trust my boyfriend’s family to help with my son when he’s born.

I am currently 18 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend told me that his family will watch and care for our son while I work. I always wanted to have my own money and take care of myself, but I’m ready to throw all of that away to protect my son. I do not trust his family. In short, they’ve shown me time and time again that they are incapable of taking care of themselves, I’ve been around while they... More

  • B
    Sunday

    Oh hell no. Usually I think people are being over protective. But not a chance I’d leave my kid unsupervised there. Ever.

  • anonymous mom
    Thursday

    No way. NO WAY. Your instincts are valid, your feelings are valid. Your boyfriend needs to wake up and stop worrying about offending his parents! Priorities!!

Anonymous posted in Child Care Nov 15

Getting underpaid by your employer: How to go about a money conversation.

I’m a Nanny for a wonderful family. I usually never keep track of my hours because I have a lot on my plate and my Nanny family is usually keeping track. I recently started tracking my hours as to better budget myself before my paycheck arrives. Today I received my paycheck to find several hours worth of pay missing, I went back to my written hours and recounted them and the math was correct, s... More

  • Ashley
    Sunday

    There’s An app for tracking your hours look it up and you should definitely bring it up... u should get paid for all the hours and if they’re not paying you for your time then they r taking advantage of you best luck to you!

  • carrie isaacson
    Sunday

    Or lo-fi also works. Print out a few paper timesheets, start keeping a binder at their house. Fill it in *as you arrive* and *when you leave*, clock in / clock out style. Take a pic at least on Fridays for your records. The suggestion above to send texts also works. Do you have a contract with your employer? Strongly recommended so everyone is on the same page.

Ideas for Christmas present to babysitter/daycare worker ??

  • Kieli
    Nov 15

    I just started babysitting a family friends son a few weeks back. Something I would personally like, would be a nail salon gift card. Doesn’t have to be much, $10-$15 would mean so much to me

C posted in Behavior Nov 07

Sudden attachment/abandonment issues?

My son has been in daycare since he was 9 months old. He never needed to adjust to his daycare. In fact, he likes it at daycare so much that when I pick him up there, he’s so into whatever toy he’s playing with that he doesn’t notice me. The staff there love that he’s the mellowest, easiest baby to look after. Now he’s 14 months old, and for the past 2-3 weeks he cries when I drop him off at ... More

  • Anonymous
    Nov 08

    Normal! Just keep your routine and everything the exact same, like all things baby, this will pass

  • Miss Maple
    Nov 13

    Your son may be giving you evidence of a cognitive leap - he loves you and does not like to see you go... and now he can remember that when you leave it is for a while, not just a moment. He will learn to manage those feelings AND the awareness that you will be gone for a while soon. As he grows he is likely to have other leaps of awareness that make separation difficult or (this can be worse f... More

2hr/day care?

Does there exist some sort of daycare that's about 2hrs per day? I'm at home with our almost 13 month old daughter and looking for something where she can get more consistent interaction with other kids (and adults too). I already have a mommy and me group, but that's only once/twice a week. Most of the daycare options are for half/full days and I'm not looking to drop her off for that much time.

  • B
    Nov 02

    She’s def going to cry when dropped at any daycare until she bonds with the teacher, etc. If it were me, I would think about a daycare for half days like two days a week, or increase the classes you take (music, gymnastics, etc). But that can get expensive fast.

  • MartCela
    Nov 09

    Hi, what city are you in?

Jess posted in Child Care Oct 30

Daycare drop off tips

Hey guys! My 19 month old son is just starting day care this week. He is having a pretty tough time at drop offs as he is now figuring out that I am going to leave. It's his first time in a child care setting so I know it's really tough for him to adjust. Any tips for a smooth transition? TIA!

  • Stacey
    Nov 01

    It's hard. Sometimes he is fine and just walks away and might say bye bye. Other times I get water works and nobody and nothing helps but they say he stops right after I'm gone. Our routine is I drop his diaper bag off, give him a kiss and hug and say bye bye and leave no matter his mood.

  • Jess
    Nov 04

    I agree with quick drop off. We also handed off our girl to the same teacher every time in the beginning and that helped as they bonded faster. If I leave as soon as hand off, she does fine but if I stay even 30 seconds, there are tears. My daughter is 18 months and started at 12 months. Took probably 6 weeks until no tears. Some days in those were better than others.

Anonymous posted in Child Care Oct 23

With the upcoming holidays & school breaks, how are parents handling childcare coverage?

I'd like to keep my daughter active (not just hanging around the house with a sitter) - there's got to be a better way than a Google search for what's available when school's out? Ideas? Thanks!

  • Masha
    Oct 24

    We have field trips offered through our after school program

Marie posted in Child Care Oct 23

How much should you expect your nanny to play with your 6 mo old?

My nanny gives my son only about 30 min to 1 hr a day of real one on one play time, and 30 min to an hour of play but with a phone or tv on (very distracted). The rest of the time is solo play, feeding (with no interaction like singing, reading, or talking) typically with the tv on, changing diapers, going for a walk or he's sleeping. We don't ask her to do anything else throughout her... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 31

    The going rate for a nanny to sit all day is $30 an hour. If she has goid experience and education. $19 is really not much for that job. Honestly, if you want to get more outta her, you have to pay more. However there are people out there that will do more just because they love the work. When searching look for heart of the person. It doesn't hurt to have the tv going for infants/toddlers.... More

  • Mayra
    Nov 02

    30hr for a nanny wow 😯 I’m in the wrong profession. I am a license vocational nurse and I make less. $19 hr sounds like a lot for taking care of a child. There’s Christian schools that are cheaper and your child will get to interact with kids his or her age group.

Anonymous posted in Child & Pregnancy Loss Oct 19

Daycare worries

So I’m currently pregnant with my rainbow baby (after losing two this will be my first). Since I have had a stillbirth I am extra nervous about this one. Both me and my fiancé will have to work ASAP but I know I will be terrified to leave the baby alone with even people I know. I have heard so many horror stories and it just freaks me out to think about losing another baby especially worrying t... More

  • Vicki
    Oct 21

    If you are having someone watching baby in your home, they can start coming over while you’re still home and you can watch them with the baby and get comfortable with them and letting them know how you prefer things done. You can have cameras set up as well so you can check in when you are feeling anxious. If it’s going to be care outside the home, do a lot of research, have several meetings... More

  • Momof2
    Oct 23

    I’m sorry you’ve had to go through all that!!!Not sure what state you live in but if you’re in California the disability laws are great. Even if you live somewhere that doesn’t allow for extended baby bonding time I would shop around for an OB/GYN who would be willing to work with you after your baby is born. I know a mom who had severe anxiety about leaving her baby for multiple reasons so her... More

Anonymous posted in Child Care Oct 18

Should I Stick With Daycare?

Hi Everyone. My daughter who is 7 months started daycare 1 week ago. Understandably, my husband and I are having a tough time adjusting. When we drop her off in the mornings, she seems fine but by the time we pick her up she looks like a deer in headlights-it's like she looks right through me! She is crawling and super alert/observant, so we are wondering if daycare at this age is too overs... More

  • Lizo
    Oct 17

    Go with your gut. I hated putting my daughter in daycare as an infant, but ultimately felt I needed to bear it in order to make ends meet. Our daughter was sick a lot her first year in daycare (so were we!) but the second year she didn’t catch every little thing.

  • Brittany
    Oct 18

    I just put my daughter in, she’s 18 months and last week was her first week alone, she is only part time 9AM-1PM 3 days a week but she’s extremely clingy. I don’t know how lenient/rules etc. of your daycare or your career but for the first 2 weeks the women who owns the daycare allowed me to bring her in for free, and also allowed me to stay, the entire time the first 2-3 days then each day aft... More

Returning to work!

Hi everyone I have a 2.5 month old and I’m returning back to work the 28th of this month and I’m freaking out! How did you cope with leaving baby? I’m thinking he’s going to have to go part-time to a daycare which is scary for me and the other days, he’ll be with my sister. HELP!

  • Lindsey
    Oct 16

    Feeling scared is absolutely legit. We feel you mama 💜 It will be hard but deep breath! - save 10 minutes of each hour to just look at pictures of your babe. But limit yourself to just that time! - soak up the time you have at home with baby. Put your phone away, engage them in cooking dinner (put them in the kitchen with you), find ways to utilize that time. - let yourself cry when you miss ... More

Anonymous posted in Child Care Sep 26

No one to watch 2yo

Im basically a single mom with no family around, I’ve never let anyone watch my toddler. If I go into labor will the hospital allow my toddler to stay in the delivery room or do hospitals have childcare centers? Will the hospital allow her to stay overnight with me?

  • Monica
    Oct 12

    What area do you live in?

  • Marie
    Oct 17

    Yes what area do you live? I would love to help out if I can. And we have a beautiful group of SAHMs where I'm at that always pitch in to help. Please reach out to me

Babysitter

What do you charge as a Babysitter? What are babysitters charging these days?

  • Anonymous
    Sep 27

    Depends on experience and age of babysitter. If you have a ton of exp, then you can charge 20/hr or more. If you’re a college student, then some would do for $12 or even less.

  • Karla
    Oct 06

    We have a family friend that was watching my son. She asked for $500 per month. She would watch him maybe 3 or 4 times per week at most. We got lucky when she volunteered since she wasn't working. He also got home cooked food from her. But definitely heard $20/hr minimum

Anonymous posted in Child Care Sep 24

Giving Birth and Childcare

Why do I feel 100x more emotional about having to leave my 2 year old for a few days to give birth than the actual process of giving birth?! 😭

  • Jennie
    Sep 26

    Girl I just had my 5th and still feel that way!! I hate leaving my kids. I send my husband home at night because I'd rather be alone than think about then waking up and being sad

  • Anonymous
    Sep 26

    Jennie! Yes that will totally be me!!! I’d rather be at the hospital alone than have my baby be put to bed without us :/

Anonymous posted in Child Care Sep 23

Mother provides child care

My mom has been watching my child since about 3 months old, now going on 2. It's really becoming a strain on our relationship. She doesn't work and is on SSI so I offered to pay her to watch my daughter as opposed to sending her to daycare. We could probably afford daycare, but I'm uncomfortable with the idea. I thought it was a win - win for both of us. I'd help her out with a ... More

  • Jenn
    Sep 27

    I'd look for a daycare/preschool and put her in at least part time. If you don't want hurt feelings, just say you want her to socialize with kids her age and get used to a school type atmosphere early on. We put our daughter in Montessori school at age 2, primarily for socialization and no one thinks twice about it when I explain it that way. Good luck :) hopefully everything will turn out well.

  • Holly
    Nov 02

    I have SO been there. With my MIL. And my ex-husband only made things worse because he refused to address, or even acknowledge, any of these same issues. So at least it sounds like your partner is allied with you!! Jumping forward four years: we’ve had a private nanny, a nanny share, an expensive private preschool, and crappy in-home daycare and let me tell you, they ALL suck in one way or ano... More

How do you/did you find a nanny?

My current nanny (of only 2 months) is unexpectedly moving out of state. I struggled to find her, and here I am again so soon. Are there any agencies that are recommended? Not having best of luck w care.com. Wondering if there are others...

  • Sandrine
    Sep 23

    Your local Meetup. It’s a trove (East Cost). If you have friends with school age children, schools have mailing list. Any clubs/church you belong to. I’ve found mine through a “community” site that I subscribed just for that and find my nanny

  • Jessica
    Nov 15

    You can try the "nextdoor" app. I found my last two jobs on there.

Anonymous posted in Child Care Sep 09

Where did you find your babysitter?

Hi parents! I’m nearing my third trimester of pregnancy #2. I’ve really been struggling with symptoms this round, especially while working full time and being the daycare drop off/pickup person to boot for baby #1 (16 months). I’d like to broach getting a babysitter for one or two afternoons a week, because I really feel I’m at my breaking point both mentally and physically. How did you fin... More

  • PK
    Sep 10

    We used sittercity.com to find our sitter. We paid for one months subscription (which was discounted for first time users at the time.. I think it still might be), posted a job description and got dozens of applicants. In the job description, just make sure you note that the sitter must be pet friendly and be able to handle a big dog if she/he will be around/handling the dog too. We pay our s... More

  • Sandrine
    Sep 23

    Your local Meetup

Anonymous posted in Child Care Sep 03

Potty training daycare help

We potty trained our little one over the last 5 days and she was doing very well. No accidents, going to the toilet, etc. She went back to daycare today and when I picked her up she was wearing a diaper. I got upset and asked the teacher but she told me no one knew that she was potty trained (we told the head teacher this morning). What would you do?? Thanks!!!

  • Momof1
    Sep 06

    I would just let them know your preferences. I think it’s easy to forget which child has which needs especially if some are potty trained and others are not. Would you be able to take home the diapers you left for her if you bring them yourself?

  • Anonymous
    Sep 12

    Thanks everyone. She had two rocky days and is now fully potty trained, teachers thanked me and said she was definitely ready!

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