Child Care

Advice and discussions about all types of child care including daycare, nannies, babysitters, au pairs, share care, and parenting co-ops.

Anonymous posted in Child Care Sep 09

Where did you find your babysitter?

Hi parents! I’m nearing my third trimester of pregnancy #2. I’ve really been struggling with symptoms this round, especially while working full time and being the daycare drop off/pickup person to boot for baby #1 (16 months). I’d like to broach getting a babysitter for one or two afternoons a week, because I really feel I’m at my breaking point both mentally and physically. How did you fin... More

  • PK
    Sep 10

    We used sittercity.com to find our sitter. We paid for one months subscription (which was discounted for first time users at the time.. I think it still might be), posted a job description and got dozens of applicants. In the job description, just make sure you note that the sitter must be pet friendly and be able to handle a big dog if she/he will be around/handling the dog too. We pay our s... More

Anonymous posted in Child Care Sep 03

Potty training daycare help

We potty trained our little one over the last 5 days and she was doing very well. No accidents, going to the toilet, etc. She went back to daycare today and when I picked her up she was wearing a diaper. I got upset and asked the teacher but she told me no one knew that she was potty trained (we told the head teacher this morning). What would you do?? Thanks!!!

  • Momof1
    Sep 06

    I would just let them know your preferences. I think it’s easy to forget which child has which needs especially if some are potty trained and others are not. Would you be able to take home the diapers you left for her if you bring them yourself?

  • Anonymous
    Thursday

    Thanks everyone. She had two rocky days and is now fully potty trained, teachers thanked me and said she was definitely ready!

Kelly posted in Child Care Aug 24

Babysitter payment

So I have never hired a paid babysitter before, but now i need someone on a reoccurring basis one afternoon a week for after school care. It will be approximately the same amount of hours every week, but will vary a bit depending upon how long it takes my husband to get home from work. Should i offer to pay a flat daily rate, or on an hourly basis? And if hourly, do you pay by the half hour/15 ... More

  • Anonymous
    Aug 24

    Pay hourly. Anywhere from 12-15 an hour.

Bree posted in Behavior Aug 22

Crying fits at day care

So my step son just started a day care/preschool setting this week. Every morning at drop off and every afternoon at pick up, he has these crying fits that range from controllable to uncontrollable. He will either just cry and say no or he will drop himself on the floor and flail his arms and legs (side note: he only does that fit when his mom drops him off). I’m asking for suggestions on ho... More

  • Nana
    Aug 29

    Be confident yourself (if you believe in the environment and staff) and the hardest thing is don’t linger. Talk ahead of expectations and the fun things he might do. At the end of the day ask him questions like “what was the best/ hardest thing about today. How did you show kindness. How did you show kindness.” Reward when drop off and pick up are positive. Tell him at pick up that (favorite t... More

  • May-Ling
    Aug 29

    our preschool suggested we pick up this book to read with our kids to get them used to some kind of dropoff ritual for consistency: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/18419.The_Kissing_Hand

Anonymous posted in Child Care Aug 20

Refusing naps at daycare

My 2-year old son just started daycare after being home with a nanny. He's refusing to nap there (they do one afternoon nap that aligns with his naptime at home). He's a good napper at home and sleeps a solid 11 hours each night. The napping situation is different of course at school - a cot instead of a crib. Any tips for how to help him adjust to his new napping situation? The prescho... More

  • Sandi
    Aug 22

    It is not unusual for a child not to nap when they first start preschool. Give it a little time. Some children need to feel safe and comfortable before they will sleep at school. Once he bonds with the teachers and knows he can trust him, he will probably nap at school.

  • Pepper Crawford
    Aug 29

    Hello, from my experience nap time can be challenging for children coming from home. It could be that he was rocked to sleep, comforted with a pillow, suffed animal or blanket. However, in Child Development Centers the SIDS law does not allow us to put any extras in the crib. Also not being in his or her comfortable environment. We as adults are most comfortable sleeping in our own bed, and may... More

Suggestion on finding a baby-sitter?

Hi Parents, any suggestions on reliable ways to find a baby-sitter? We have a two-year old and will occasionally need a babysitter beyond the regular day-care time. What is a good way to do this? Any suggestions appreciated!

  • PK
    Aug 19

    We used sittercity.com. I would’ve felt more comfortable finding a sitter that one of our friends or family knew... but we were in the situation that everybody we knew that has kids didn’t have a sitter. We just paid for a month subscription, interviewed a few people and found one person we really liked. And then found a “backup” sitter. We let her know that she was our backup that we were go... More

  • aurora
    Aug 21

    Thanks so much, PK! how is the website compared with the care.com, which is also subscription based?

ILAN posted in Child Care Aug 08

First time leaving son in daycare

Hi guys My son is 15months and now i am going to work leaving him in daycare ..I am worried that he is always around my legs wherever i go..never left my sight and always wanting me near him..But he loves to grab attention from strangers n says hi n gives hi5 and socialize so well...And people tell he is a very baby always with smile...my concern is will he manage being in daycare without me t... More

  • Anonymous
    Aug 08

    I’d defintely start with a couple half days, maybe a few mornings and then a few afternoons so he can see the routine for each. Maybe come for lunch the first couple of full days. It will defintely be an adjustment but he’s at the besssssst age (in my opinion) for day care! Sooooo much play play play, he’ll have a blast 😁 try not to worry, he may do better than you think!

  • anonymous mom
    Aug 09

    It will be okay!!! My daughter has been in daycare since 12 weeks of age and even so, she is still just like your son with me at home. She’s either wrapped around my legs, in my arms, or up on the counter “helping” me cook at least 80% of the time. Even so, she has thrived at daycare. She loves it. The age you’re starting your LO at is about as perfect as you can get, in my opinion. It was s... More

Katie posted in Child Care Aug 06

In home daycare

Are most in home daycares licensed? Or is it mostly just the bigger places that are? I.e. kinder care, Montessori, etc.?

  • B
    Aug 06

    Many aren’t where I am. Some are. You can find a list online

  • Jess
    Aug 06

    In FL they have a state website listing all licensed home daycares as well as the inspections/violations. Maybe your state has something?

Anonymous posted in Child Care Aug 03

Bite marks

I picked my LO from her daycare center on Friday and I noticed she had a bite mark on her face so I asked her teacher if she knew what happened and this seems like a bite mark, I was told by her teacher that she had no idea what happened and it doesn't seem like a bite mark it seems like she might have bumped her head. I then went and talked to the administrator and I was told by her that i... More

  • Anonymous
    Aug 04

    I would remove my little one after finding a suitable daycare replacement. You might want to also inform the other parents as well, your local investigative news person or BBB. This way all the other parents are made aware of how the daycare is handling a parent (which could one day be them).

  • Mika
    Aug 09

    This happened to my son at the daycare. Another baby bit him quite badly, the bitemark actually stayed for 2 weeks. However, I was immediately informed by the caregiver that my son was bitten by other kid (without mentioning the other kids name, and its a policy we agreed on). But then we bumped into a parent the next day and she immediately apologized for what happened, and that’s how we figu... More

Anonymous posted in Child Care Aug 02

Toddler Injuries at Daycare

How often is your toddler injured at daycare? I don't mean major injuries. But it seems that it's a pretty regular occurrence that I get a phone call telling me another kid bit my son, or hit him on the head with a toy and he has a bump, etc. So, I'm just wondering how often is typical for a toddler to have "incidences" like that to warrant a phone call because there's a mark?

  • Stacey
    Aug 10

    My kid likes to run faster then the rest of him can keep up with. He gets a lot of little bumps and bruises. Day care is good at letting us know he still likes going so I'm sure it's normal kid bumps. Does your kid still like going to daycare? If not you might try probing a little more on what's going on.

  • Kristen
    Aug 15

    The state ratio of toddlers aged 12 months to 2 years, is 6 children per 1 adult. I don’t know about you, but I have a hard time just keeping my 1 from getting hurt. Let’s try to remember that at this age they can’t verbally express their feelings, so unfortunately, the only way is to hit, bite, push, etc. Children at this age are also learning their environment and what the expectations are. S... More

Sara posted in Child Care Jul 26

Do you like having an au pair?

I’m moving into a house with an extra bedroom and bathroom and am considering the possibility of getting an au pair. They’re much less expensive than a nanny but the downside is they are living with you 24/7. If you’ve had one, what are the pros and cons? I’m concerned that the au pair might be looking to me to provide them with a social life and frankly I’m pretty boring and don’t get out much... More

  • Katie
    Aug 01

    What are the costs for an aupair? Is the salary in addition to room and board and food. I’ve considered it numerous times but can’t wrap my head around the true cost.

  • Jenny
    Aug 01

    It cost about $20,000 for the first year. You need to pay the agency around $8,000 You pay the au pair $200/week ($10,400/yr) You cover up to $500 of educational costs This is not required but it's assumed you will want your au pair to have a cell phone so you need to pay for that. You need to pay to put her on your car insurance if she'll need to drive. Basically the only thing you d... More

Anonymous posted in Child Care Jul 26

Husband refuses to put our toddler in daycare

We have a 17 month and 6 month old. Currently my husband works and goes to school and I go to school part time. I’d like to start nursing school and get a job but it is so hard with little ones. Either my mom or mother in law watch our kids if one of us can’t. MIL gets busy with her own work and other grandkids and traveling and my mom is starting a business so we don’t have a guaranteed baby s... More

  • Anonymous
    Jul 27

    Then he can stay home with the kids while you work and go to school. It's not fair for him to ask that of you.

  • Brianne
    Jul 31

    He 👏🏼 is 👏🏼 not 👏🏼 your 👏🏼 boss 👏🏼 he 👏🏼 is 👏🏼 your 👏🏼 partner. If kids don’t stop his dreams they don’t get to stop yours!

Ideal age to start daycare?

Our son is 22 months old and we are deciding to start him at a daycare when he turns 2. We are very lucky to find a spot at a wonderful daycare :) Still, I’m wondering what’s the ideal age for that? He is very curious, yet very calm. He likes to play by himself, but likes to have people around him. And it is a bit of a bittersweet news to me as he has always been home with a nanny, and even... More

Anonymous posted in Child Care Jul 01

Transitioning FROM daycare (SAHM)

We are planning for our second child and realized, even if both of us are working, daycare costs will be out of reach. I’m nervous on two fronts and would appreciate any advice or stories regarding two transitions: 1 - from being a full time worker to full time SAHM (I admittedly was VERY ready to return to work at the end of my first maternity leave) 2 - how to transition baby #1 OUT of day... More

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Jul 04

    When I had my first, I was ecstatic to return to work. Everyone told me I was going to be devastated and cry, and I loved it. I felt like I had it all. As my second child came close to being due (17 months apart), I asked to go part time to make life balance easier (I loved my job, and my husband and I honestly could afford to put both in daycare based on our pay and work from home flexibility)... More

Why do I feel so helpless..

SO, I'm not sure if I'm just venting or if I'm seeking advice... Husband and I both work retail... he is a store manager and his job is so demanding. I work FT and I am always struggling with child care, I dont leave my 2 daughters 5, and 1 with just anybody, and Daycare is so pricey and closed on weekends... I feel so much anxiety from this o cant even sleep, I feel like I'm always worrying...

  • fehk
    Jul 10

    I feel very similarly. I don't make enough to afford most of these places, but I make to much to get my son enrolled in a lot of the programs. I was on a waiting list for 1.5 months only for them to have me come in to finish the enrollment, then to be told I make too much money to qualify for the school. Now I'm stuck scrambling to find the right program, on more waiting lists and tryin... More

Carolyn posted in Babies Jun 30

Nanny contract advice

Hi there - about to hire our first nanny for our four month old daughter and just putting together the contract. Is there anything you wish you had included/discussed up front? Any other advice on how to start this relationship off on the right foot? Thanks in advance!

  • Natasha
    Jul 01

    Also leave yourself a “probationary” period to make sure she is a good fit for your family and that she understand’s during this time either party can walk away if they realize it’s not a good fit for your daughter.

Daycare vs nanny

Hi! My babygirl just turned One a few days ago, all this time she has been taken care of at home by me, dad, and grandmothers. She started daycare this week and we are really struggling. She doesnt sleep or drink anything while at daycare and she is having a hard time sleeping through the night. How can we make it easier for her? I am considering finding a baby sitter that can come to our ho... More

  • Rachel
    Jul 01

    Yes, I majored in Early Childhood Education, taught as an infant-toddler Head Start Teacher and Home Visitor, and now that I have my own precious baby, the thought of sending her to daycare at 1 yo, is very emotional for me, and I am, to say the least very hesitant to do this...I wish there was a different type of support system for working mothers. My work has been extremely generous by allowi... More

No issues in daycare, but acts out at home

my 22 month old son just started day care beginning of June. We slowly did it , sort of transition time where we placed him longer each day. The following week was good, then he got sick the next, and this week, he always wanted to be carried, and when you do he tries to push you away then you put him down and he wants to be carried again. This goes on for 3 hours! Im at my wits end, because he... More

  • Anonymous
    Aug 02

    This is very normal - the sign of a well adjusted toddler is that they behave well outside of the home and act up at home. They feel safe enough to do so in front of you and your family. Home is the safe zone and I can tell you from experience, my son is still the exact same. He is an angel at school and my little terror at home 😂 it could also take some time for your son to transition - mon... More

Anonymous posted in Child Care Jun 26

English is my second language, what is the right way to ask a babysitter how much they charge?

  • B
    Jun 26

    Just ask like that. Ask how much they charge per hour

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