Child Care

Advice and discussions about all types of child care including daycare, nannies, babysitters, au pairs, share care, and parenting co-ops.

J posted in Child Care Yesterday

We survived the first sickness!

Just wanted to share how much I had been dreading the first sickness since baby started daycare — and we just survived fever, congestion, and no sleep summer flu. We all got it and man, was that hard! But we are finally on the mend... phew!

Anonymous posted in Child Care Thursday

Does a 2 year old need preschool?

Does my 2 year old need preschool? We love our nanny and the hours work better with my work hours but I feel like not sending her could put her behind? I can’t afford to do both

  • Anonymous
    Yesterday

    I never went to preschool and was above average all throughout school (and have my master's degree). My brother started preschool at age 3 and barely graduated high school. It really depends on the person.

  • Diana
    Yesterday

    No. Kids don’t need preschool till about age of 3. It’s better for proper emotional development and mental health for child to have one caregiver till about that age, any qualified psychiatrist would say the same

Drop off/ pick up daycare

Hi! I know you guys are a good resource and figured I would ask you. My toddler is starting daycare next week and is having a very difficult time every time I leave the room. She is fine if she is leaving the room/apt with someone else like my mom but always cries if I am the one living the apt. How do you deal with that? My husband thinks it is better to sneak out and I think it’s better to ... More

  • Jennifer
    Wednesday

    My 4yr old daughter cries from time to time still when I drop her off to daycare. She is very very attach to me. But never sneak out on your kid. I would just say the same thing like other moms that "mommy has work and I will pick you up after when I'm done. You have fun at school playing with your friends, see you later, love you!" she will cry for me not to leave but the te... More

  • Erin
    Wednesday

    We've had good luck with a "goodbye ritual." It started off as two high fives and a hug, but has grown a bit since then. My kids know what it means, but it helps end on a positive note. And on a really rough day, they refuse to do it, which helps me know they need a few extra minutes, more time to engage with the classroom, or an extra cuddle before I leave.

Erin posted in Child Care Aug 10

Starting to look at daycares, does anyone have a preference of home vs daycare center?

  • Teresa
    Tuesday

    I would say day care center, unless you got a strong recommendation from someone you trusted. You may pay lower weekly fees, but family day care centers tend to have more scheduled time off (ie summer vacations, thanksgiving/Christmas break). If there’s a family emergency or sickness, then the day care home will be closed. So unless you have back up care available or a flexible work schedule, I... More

  • Julie
    Wednesday

    Hi Cassie, I am going to try to be as tactful as possible but I will likely fail. I’m just wondering where you got the statistic that “lower income kids statistically have more behavior issues?” I’ve never heard that and take issue with it. You’re opening yourself up to a lot of criticism saying things like that. For example, you left your 3 year old daughter at a daycare for 10 hours just 2 ... More

Anonymous posted in Child Care Aug 09

Good daycare bad neighborhood

We’ve been looking at day cares for our 3 year old and finally found one we like. The owners seem great, have a good philosophy around learning and play, yet aren’t too dogmatic like some that we visited. Our little one liked it too. She seemed very relaxed and at home. Only thing is that the daycare is in a sketchy neighborhood. While I didn’t feel in danger driving up to the daycare, I woul... More

  • Anonymous
    Aug 10

    That's kind of tough, because it's hard finding a good daycare you trust that your child is comfortable with. Do you have time to keep looking? Idk if I'd feel comfortable with the neighborhood myself. I'm not sure where you live but I'd be worried for pick ups and drop offs when it's dark in the morning and night during the winter. On the other hand, if you didn't... More

  • Anonymous
    Aug 10

    Thanks for the reply. It helps to hear how someone else thinks about this. I’m not sure what we’re gonna do. I’d like to keep looking, but the choices are so limited. Most places have wait lists way into next year. If we don’t take this, we may not get something for a while. I’d rather have a safe place on the inside too, but if there’s even a remote chance there would be gunshots outside, ... More

Anonymous posted in Child Care Aug 07

What should I do with my career? I have worked in medical for 15 years and love it.

I have work in the medical field for 15 years and love my job a career. I would not trade it for the world but I just had my first Baby and my husband works at night and I work all day. It is hard to find a good trusting baby sitter for the days when I work and he needs sleep. What do other parents do in the situation? I would like some suggestions if anyone else has been in this same place e... More

  • Anne
    Aug 09

    It’s tough but it can be done. Look up in-home daycares in your area. Some of them will do “nonstandard” hours. You can also get a nanny as a way to make it work. Does your employer offer any childcare support? If you have an EAP sometimes they can help you find a provider that fits your schedule.

  • Anonymous
    Aug 09

    Those are all great ideas. Thanks for your input in helping me try to decide if I should stick with working my job and find a care taker or go find something a little different in the work schedule but doing what I love in the medical field.

Is it ok to expect a run down of your child’s day from Daycare? I get a: ‘she is doing great’, ‘she ate a lot and now sleeping’. End of day ‘she did really good, played with some toys, in the doll house, likes the swing. Very good.’ Hmm? Am I being overprotective?

  • Carolina
    Aug 11

    It is crazy. Especially when they are babies.

Anonymous posted in Child Care Aug 07

Home care or day care?

FTM and scared to go back to work! Thinking about where to bring him is just overwhelming.... it would only be part time (thank god) which is why I thought maybe home care would be easier? However, a day care I wouldn’t have to worry about baby sitter needing time off/being sick/leaving me hanging..... help :(

  • Adriana
    Aug 08

    My son who is almost 2 have done both a daycare and a at home day care, and we LOVE his daycare!! They have rules and regulations that are in place to keep the children safe! It's a little more expensive but he gets a lot more structure and a better learning environment!

Anonymous posted in Activities & Enrichment Aug 06

Summer camp overload?

I am not originally from this area, but I feel like the only parent who doesn’t send their kid to multiple day camps throughout the summer. It was not a “thing” where I’m from nor when I grew up. I’m hoping my kids won’t feel left out, but I can’t afford or even want to send them for several weeks out of the summer. It seems a little crazy to me. Every time I speak to someone their kid has camp... More

  • Kathie
    Aug 10

    Im 28 now, but when I was a child my parents sent me to overnight summer camps. Only one every year. Those were some of the best years of my life, and I think my parents were able to send me on some sort of scholarship, because you’re right, they are super expensive, and i highly doubt someone in their field of work could’ve afforded it. I plan to send my son when he gets older. He will no doub... More

  • Maryna
    Aug 10

    I’m just finishing to read “Simplicity Parenting” book and it makes me feel no worries, I love its idea of not adding many scheduled activities to kids’ life (whenever possible).

Alex posted in Child Care Aug 06

First Day of School at Daycare??

My son is starting Kindergarten this Fall. He goes to Daycare (before and after services), so I was planning on dropping him off at Daycare just like I normally do for the first day of kindergarten. But do you guys stay at Daycare until the daycare bus leaves for school, and send off your kids? If lots of parents do that I think I should too...I don't want my son to be alone when he gets o... More

  • Alex
    Aug 08

    Thank you for your reply!

  • Mia
    Aug 08

    For my oldest’s first day of kinder most all parents dropped off directly to school. Her class allowed the parents to stay the first 20’mins or so to get a feel for the classroom and teacher and help the kids get adjusted. (There were lots of nerves from most of the kids).

Anonymous posted in Child Care Aug 03

Starting Daycare - Allergy Q

I’m about to return to work and our daycare has a strict policy about nuts in their info packet...but PB&J are still a house staple for my husband and I to make in batches (so we can use as backup snacks or grab-n-go lunches when we are running late). What do you do to make sure you don’t accidentally “contaminate” baby before drop off? Or, moms of kids with allergies—what can I do to hel... More

  • Anonymous
    Aug 03

    Wash hands and brush teeth. My cousin had a severe peanut allergy so those were the "if you've been eating peanuts" instructions.

Anonymous posted in Babies Aug 02

Bath time probs

My son is almost 9 mo and bath has been trouble! He’s pulling up and crawling like mad so I’m the bath you can imagine how many times he slips and slides and bangs his head, bangs his chin, bangs his forehead..... I try to keep him sitting but that only lasts a whole 30 seconds until he’s back to exploring. we do have a mat on the floor of the tub to help... I know this is a phase and will pass... More

  • Dominique
    Aug 03

    I used an inflatable tub for my boys at that age. It took up most of the space in the tub so they couldn’t exactly climb out but it’s not slippery like the bottom of the tub so they don’t fall easily.

  • Anonymous
    Aug 03

    Good idea!!!!!!!

Anonymous posted in Child Care Aug 02

Is it too early to leave my 3.5 year old in full time daycare/preschool (8.30am-4.30pm)? I also have a newborn and I'm overwhelmed.

Anonymous posted in Child Care Aug 02

My husband and I work full time. Our 55 year old nanny has cared for our son for a year and half now. She off late seems overwhelmed. My son was 2 years old when our nanny started caring for him. Overall we have been happy with her. Our son plays with her but is not extremely fond of her as in he does not run to her when she walks in the door or ask for her after she leaves. He is a high energy... More

  • Anonymous
    Aug 02

    Confront her, but only with a view to gather a bit of context around what your son said. She must go. You are very fortunate that your son is old enough and therefore capable of articulating what happened to him. The above posted @Chelsie, my heart breaks for your little boy. Horrible. Definitely report her to relevant agencies and the police. You don’t want her working with young babies, like ... More

  • Nicole
    Aug 03

    Let her go ASAP!

Anonymous posted in Child Care Jul 31

Family babysitting

In a few short weeks I will be going back to work. Both my mom and mother in law will be taking care of my little one. I’m more concerned about my mother in law and it gives me anxiety to leave her alone with the baby. She can be inattentive, does not support baby’s head, does not wash her hands, and is more concerned with how much time she gets with her grandchild than actually taking the time... More

  • Katia
    Aug 05

    How are things now after the talk? Hoping you have peace of mind about your baby’s safety.

  • Anonymous
    Aug 05

    She still feels the need to compare my daughter to others and she definitely does not know how to hold her. I fear she’s going to drop her but my husband thinks we should have her over a few more times to have her get used to her. He says it’s been over thirty years since she’s handled an infant. I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt on that one but if I’m uncomfortable my mother is more than ... More

Elle posted in Child Care Jul 30

What are folks favorite ways to show appreciation for daycare workers?

We love our daycare - they adore our little one, she adores them, and she is learning and developing and socializing so, so well. What are people's favorite ways to show appreciation? There are several ladies who care for our little one (with two main ladies).

  • B
    Jul 30

    Lunch, if that’s in the budget. Breakfast treats are always nice too.

  • Julie
    Aug 06

    For Christmas I gave my daughters main teachers both an amazon card. They seemed pleased.

Paula posted in Child Care Jul 28

Child care

I am a first time mom. I retired from the military and trying to go back to work. My LO is 6 months old. My husband is a firefighter. We are looking at possible part time childcare but not opposed to full time care. What are some things that we should be looking out for when researching child care options? What are some things that I can do to make it a smoother transition for my LO? W... More

  • Anonymous
    Jul 29

    Keep in mind many daycares have long wait lists. You should start looking ASAP. You can also consider a nanny (or nanny share) or an in-hike daycare. You need to decide your budget, what’s available, and what type of environment you want.

  • Breanna
    Aug 08

    Im a stay at home mom, i also have an (almost) 6 month old and would love to help. Please feel free to contact me

Anonymous posted in Child Care Jul 28

Bonus for nanny?

When do you do it and how much? We’re getting ready to go on vacation (separately) and id love to give her something so she knows she’s appreciated and to help her out on the trip.

  • Teresa
    Jul 29

    I would suggest giving her cash or a check in a thank you card or note with a personal message to show your appreciation. I would think a one day pays would be good bonus for a vacation. Happy Vaca!

  • Aundie
    Jul 30

    Maybe half a weeks pay would suffice. Christmas bonus would be one week.

Alice posted in Child Care Jul 27

Today I caught my nanny drinking on the job...what should I do?

I have cameras in my house and the nanny knows it. However, I think I’ve become too comfortable with her and I really like her but now I’m starting to question her actions. I caught her washing out an empty beer bottle and put it into her purse. I really wanted this nanny to work out but now I’m concerned that she’s doing other stuff that I don’t see and that my child’s safety could be at risk.... More

  • Patricia
    Aug 02

    Fire her A.S.A.P.

  • Deb
    Aug 06

    Did you see her drinking, or did you just see her washing out the beer bottle? What did you see when you reviewed the footage?

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